"I will not attempt to pick our son's wife based on whether or not she can feel a pea through a stack of mattresses. Any woman dainty enough to feel a single dried pea through one mattress much less dozens of them, is far too dainty to ever give me grandchildren."So, you've grown up and flown the nest. When you look in the mirror, you see a confident, sassy young woman (usually) with a great career, and everything to be proud of. Well. Not quite. See, your parents know that the only way you'll truly make them proud is to pop out a few kids of your own, allowing them to live their dream of being grandparents. The reasons for this can differ from parent to parent. Maybe they really do think the only way for their child to be happy is to have children. Maybe they think the only reason you exist is to give them what they want. Maybe they just want some cute kids to dandle on their knee and show photos of them to strangers. Maybe they need someone to carry on the family name. Maybe they want all the joy of children with none of the responsibility of raising them, or maybe they just want to watch you endure all the torture you gave them. If you want to go by evolutionary psychology on this, the entire point of life (as much as life can be said to have a point) is to produce healthy—and fertile—grandkids, as it means that your genes have passed the test of natural selection. Either way, you can bet they'll be taking every opportunity to remind their children that their biological clock is ticking, and they should hop to it and make some kids. If the children resist, they can expect to be treated to Not Wanting Kids Is Weird. Expect things to be awkward if these parents get introduced to a new love interest, or even an opposite sex friend. You can also expect the occasional mention of how the parents spent the child's entire teen years telling them sex is bad, only to turn a complete 180 at some point and suddenly start telling them to get on with it. If the child is bereaved, this may be one reason why they urge them to seek out a new partner, telling them You Have Waited Long Enough. This can be Truth in Television, but it's so common that there's no need for Real Life examples. Note that, despite the above description, this trope is not Always Female. Both male and female examples are straight uses. Contrast Siblings Wanted, where it's the characters' own children who demand from them to get busy (again) rather than their parents.
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- In an ad for DirecTV, a young man hooks up his mother's cable connection, and the latter promptly asks "When are you gonna hook me up with some grandkids?"
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- In Bitter Virgin, Daisuke's mother states early on that she'd like her son to get a local girl pregnant. This is not because she wants a continuation of the family line, though; it's because a baby will help tie him down so he can't escape her plans for his future.
- Present in Kage Kara Mamoru!. Since the line of Kagemori ninja needs to continue, Mamoru's parents are very pushy when it comes to these matters. For example, when he was possibly going on a date with Hotaru, he comes home to find that his parents have already named his and Hotaru's child.
- Maison Ikkoku:
- One reason why Grandma Godai uses her funeral savings to pay for Godai and Kyoko's wedding is that she wants to see her great-grandkids.
- Kyoko's mother is constantly pushing Kyoko to remarry, and uses this trope as an excuse at one point.
- Used along with a subversion of Virgin Power in Devil Hunter Yohko: Yohko's grandmother impresses on her that a Devil Hunter must be a virgin to take on the power — but once they've acquired their powers, they can go ahead and have sex! In fact, guess who wants great-grandkids...
- Similarly, her Mother wanted her to go out and get laid as soon as possible, presumably to avoid the whole Virgin Power thing.
- Kei's mother in the manga Houou Gakuen Misoragumi is so worried about the possibility that her daughter won't end up giving her grandchildren that she tricked her into going to an All Boys School; while this would be a secret fantasy for most girls, it's a nightmare for Kei due to a number of reasons. First, the Principal has threatened to erase her if she tries to expose herself as a girl (thus ruining the school's reputation); second, she is allergic to guys which makes her throw up a lot; and lastly, she is a lesbian (it is this fact that the mother is trying to cure).
- The grandmother in Otome no Iroha came back to life due her concerns that her two grandchildren, Iroha, a masculine girl, and Hifumi, a feminine boy, won't be able to get married and continue the family line due to their gender dissonance. Her solution: magically Gender Bend them.
- In the Mai-Otome Arashi manga, Lena Sayers hopes for this.
- Japan, Inc.: Ueda's mom comments that Miss Amamiya (his boss!) has the right shape to get many children, hint hint. When the latter can hear it.
- Lady Ramia expresses this desire in the Vampire Game epilogue.
"Vord! Baby! Now!"
- Mentioned in a Naruto flashback, when the Konoha children and teenagers are banned from joining the adults in fighting the Kyuubi on the loose. The one leading the operation is Kurenai's father, who tells the trope almost word by word to not just his daughter but to the boys he's taking to safety as well.
- Notable in that this was more a case of More Expendable Than You than pressuring his child to have children. He's in no rush to be a grandfather; he just wants his kid to live long enough to have kids.
- In Rosario + Vampire, both Mizore and Kurumu's mothers tell them that they expect Tsukune to pop out some kids with them, much to his chagrin. Highly justified in Mizore's case, as her people hit menopause in their mid twenties, leaving them a very narrow window in which to produce the next generation.
- In Haiyore! Nyarko-san, Nyarko starts telling their friends that she's pregnant with Mahiro's baby...and to his annoyance, they believe it. He asks his mother to be the voice of sanity, but she's too busy blushing and muttering "My first grandchild..." blissfully to herself.
- In High School D×D, Issei's parents are happy when they see him genuinely interacting with girls. They expressed a fear that they would never have grandchildren because Issei is a perverted idiot who spends most of his time ogling girls or his Porn Stash instead of actually talking to them.
- In If Her Flag Breaks, the "Elder" praises Akane and encourages her and Souta to hurry and give her some grandchildren. It doesn't seem to matter to the Elder that neither of them are actually her children, or her relatives for that matter.
- Hajime's mother in I Can't Understand What My Husband is Saying has a desire for grandchildren. A desire she expresses with shark teeth and demonic reverb. In the end of episode 13 it is revealed that her wishes had been fulfilled, with Kaoru expecting at least one child.
- In Gou-dere Bishoujo Nagihara Sora, Tenka's parents want grandchildren so badly that they don't mind Shouta's Unwanted Harem and even try to give him relationship and sex advice so he will sleep with Tenka sooner. Needless to say, Shouta and Tenka are embarrassed beyond belief.
- In I'll Bring You Mille-Feuille! Midori's mother jokingly says she brought her into the world to give her grandchildren. She complains that Midori isn't married yet, not realizing her daughter is gay.
- Downplayed for the most point, in Tokyo Ghoul. Mirumo's diary mentions how eager he is to see Shuu have children of his own, but the father and son haven't been shown discussing the issue of marriage or children. Instead, he seems content to support his son's pursuits and wants him to find an epic romance before grandkids come into the picture. In comparison, when Kuroiwa is visited and the topic of his son's upcoming marriage is discussed, it becomes clear that Takeomi is expected to start having children immediately.
- In Horimiya, Hori's father tells Miyamura that he expects them to give him a grandchild (preferably a girl) as soon as possible, and even tries to come up with baby names. Keep in mind that at this point Hori and Miyamura are still in high school and have only been dating for about a week.
- Israeli comedienne Hadar Levi once joked about her mother taking this attitude Up to 11:
Hadar: Mum, I’m going to the grocery shop, what should I get you?
Mother: A grandchild.
- In Circles, Marty's grandmother wants grandkids, even after she finds out her grandson is gay.
- Even Wonder Woman gets this from her mother, Queen Hippolyta, when she introduces new love interest Tom Tresser. Is no one safe? Granted, this was during a time when Diana and Hippolyta were the only two Amazons left which strongly influenced how they were thinking. And of course, Hippolyta was so desperate for a daughter that she moved the gods into miraculously creating Diana. She just really seems to like kids. She's not alone either: one Amazon led the others into revolt mostly out of envy that Hippolyta got to be a mother and she didn't.
- In Sin City, Senator Roark has his son undergo unorthodox (putting it mildly) methods to regrow his shot-off genitalia, which have unfortunate side-effects, so Senator Roark can have a grandchild to carry on his legacy.
- This might be one of the reasons Galactus stops his estranged daughter Galacta's attempt to destroy the "Tapeworm Cosmic" (actually the larval form of Power Cosmic entities like Galactus and Galacta) near the end of her one-shot. He doesn't want her or his unborn grandkid to be destroyed.
- Ninjette's parents from Empowered had this plan for her, but it's even worse than most examples and not played for laughs: They plan on cutting off her limbs and basically turning her into a Baby Factory. Another ninja basically let herself be sterilized to avoid this same fate.
- Vandal Savage wants his daughter Scandal now formerly of the Secret Six to have kids. This is not going to happen with Scandal's consent for a few reasons: 1) Scandal hates her father, 2) she is a lesbian with absolutely no interest in the opposite sex, and 3) she is convinced (with good reason) that the only reason Vandal wants grandchildren is so that he can harvest them for organs to sustain his immortality. Ironically, in the reboot version of the series it's implied he might get his way after all, when Scandal calls up Catman and tells him that after a lot of discussion she and her two wives have decided to start a family, and they want him to be their sperm donor. Who's going to carry the child is left ambiguous.
- A hilariously pragmatical example can be found in chapter ten of Don Rosa's The Life and Times of Scrooge McDuck, where Beagle Boys conclude that four of them against Scrooge is not enough anymore, so Blackheart Beagle tells his sons that "You boys need to start raising families. We need more Beagle Boys", which prompts one of them to make an Aside Glance.
- In Empire State, the protagonist's mom sets him up on a blind date, and explains:
Mom: I'm fifty-five already. I just want to see the face of my grandson before I die.
Jimmy: Geez, Ma.
- A short Hellboy story has Kate Corrigan dealing with this. From her mother's ghost.
- The Phantom: The Phantom has 20 generations of dead Phantoms looking over his shoulder for an heir to the mantle.
- In one MAD parody of Cathy, the title character's mother decides to prevent her from getting an abortion by burning down the local abortion clinics and having two pro-lifers move in with her, even though she was date-raped. Even though she justifies it by saying that she doesn't want Cathy to violate God's laws, she admits after hanging up that "The need to be a grandmother overrides all else."
- Not that Mad Magazine was exaggerating much; it shows up a lot in Cathy. Her mother constantly nags Cathy to marry so she can give her grandkids, to the point that she sent cards to Cathy's ex-boyfriends. The nagging only increases when Cathy does get married, to the point when Cathy and Irving even suggest the idea of kids at their age, she comes storming in with material to help them out. When Cathy announces she is pregnant in the final strip, her mother fell to her knees in jubilation. It's to show the differences between the attitudes and aspirations of Cathy and her mother; Cathy wants to further her career; marriage and children were not high on her priority list. Meanwhile, her mother was raised with the idea that a woman's purpose in life is to get married and produce Babies Ever After.
- Since Garfield's owner Jon is regularly dating Liz the veterinarian, his mother comes right out and says she wants to see grandchildren before she dies.
Garfield: Moms are not masters of subtlety.
- In another strip, when Jon's parents are introduced, one of the first things we hear Jon's mother say (besides "Eat, eat, eat!") is "You meet some nice girl. Settle down. Start a family." She never touched on the issue again... that is until Jon and Liz started dating.
- Since Garfield's owner Jon is regularly dating Liz the veterinarian, his mother comes right out and says she wants to see grandchildren before she dies.
- In Baby Blues Wanda's sister has a rather strained relationship with their mother due to constant badgering for grandkids. Wanda already has kids so she doesn't get ragged on as badly.
- In Safe Havens, Jeanine apparently started texting Shondra once a day every day after Shondra turned thirty reminding her that she still wants grandchildren. It doesn't get much better for Samantha, either, once she marries Dave (and it doesn't help that basically everyone else wants her to have children too). Everyone finally gets their wish when Samantha gets pregnant...during the mission to Mars.
All the other parents: One of us...one of us...
- Seems to be the case with Ms. Buxley's mom on Beetle Bailey, seeing the methods she uses to watch her and Beetle.
- Ranma ½ Fanon traditionally has this as a major motivation for Ranma's mother, Nodoka. This probably arose as a way to justify her concern with Ranma's "manliness" with the opposite sex, especially since he spent most of his life away from her during his training trip. Canonically, both of the fathers want Ranma to "carry on the School of Anything-Goes martial arts", which would involve grandchildren.
- This pops in so many Dragon Ball Z fanfics, it's not even funny anymore. Chichi is the usual culprit, despite the fact that she's usually nagging her sixteen-year-old son while she still has a seven-year-old at home.
- In the Oneiroi Series, the only reason Redcloak's mother is willing to give Vaarsuvius, an elf, a chance with her son is because of this trope. That, and they already have a kid with each other and a second on the way.
- Nobody Dies: Lilith, progenitor of humanity. Simply being in her presence compels humans (of opposite gender) to think of one thing and one thing only. Babies.
- Kyoko invokes the trope by name after Shinji and Asuka's first time.
- This carries over into ND's sister fic, Walking in the Shadow of Dreams, as Rei is more or less fixated on the BABIESBABIESBABIES drive.
- Child of the Storm has Frigga, though she's more laidback than most examples. Her lifespan means that she's perfectly happy to wait-when you still have a couple thousand years left in the tank, a few decades won't matter too much. Also, considering that she's already got a grandson to spoil (and is the mother of Loki), it could very well be that she's just doing it to wind up Thor.
- Eakin's Hard Reset: Twilight's mother feels this way. The fact that Twilight's a lesbian only means she expects both her and her future girlfriend to churn 'em out.
- Nyx's Family: Twilight Sparkle's mother has been standoffish and fearful ever since Twilight adopted Nyx, the filly version of Nightmare Moon... till the moment she sets eyes on the filly.
That instant, she realized that nagging fearful voice had a competitor. The moment she clapped eyes on the tiny, wide eyed little black filly, a second voice had come roaring up behind the first, chased it down a back alley of her mind, and gleefully stomped it into the mud: "I'm a Grandmama!"
- The Mixed-Up Life of Brad: Celestia playfully asks this of Cadence (who is her protege and thus the closest thing she has to a daughter.) Cadence responds by revealing to her "auntie" that she is, indeed, pregnant.
- A justified example in Empath: The Luckiest Smurf, in that since there's only one adult female Smurf among them who's about the same age physically if not chronologically as her fellow adult male Smurfs, Papa Smurf is hoping that one of his little Smurfs would marry her and have children so that their people would not die off. The only problem with that idea was that Papa Smurf was also in love with Smurfette, and in an alternate timeline even marries her.
- MGLN Crisis:
- Amy suspects that Lindy went a bit further than most aspiring grandmothers would in Red Jewel Diaries by swapping her birth control with sugar pills.
- Nanoha's parents indirectly implied this in a letter in Through a Mirror, Darkly. Sure, they already had Vivio to dote on, but they wanted somebody to carry on the family bloodline. And if your wondering why they didn't pester her older brother and sister instead, Kyouya and Shinobu couldn't have kids (since Shinobu is a vampire) and Miyuki didn't have anybody. Nanoha was married to Yuuno (and Fate) and shouldn't have any problems having a kid.
- In The Vow, Lord Chang of the Shēnghuó Province is determined to have his only child Lianne married off so that she would give him a grandson who'd continue the legacy he has built for his family to the point of obsession. While he complies with his wife's refusal to put Lianne into an Arranged Marriage, he foists numerous suitors on her. After she humiliates one of the more lewd suitors and calls her father off, he sends her to Gongmen City to be courted by Lord Shen, thus starting the plot. When thirty years later Lianne becomes expectant with Shen's child, the gravely ill Chang is happy enough for her to care anymore about the child's gender or the fact that the father is the peacock he hates and allows himself to die contently after giving blessings for his daughter and grandchild.
- Lucina Reacts: Sumia wants Lucina and Robin to, ahem, "make Morgan" already. She also spoils the future version of Morgan quite a bit.
- In Integration, Flash comments that part of the reason his mother is okay with him dating Princess Twilight is that she already has two kids of her own (namely Spike and filly Starlight).
- In the Discworld of A.A. Pessimal, licenced Assassin Johanna Smith-Rhodes is pretty much an emancipated career woman with no fears or worries. Much. But one thing that irks her is the continual stream of letters from her mother back home in Howondaland which lament the ongoing absence of husband, and always end on the dire warning that it will get worse after you turn thirty. Her mother is completely clear on her wish to see grand-children before she gets too old and senile to appreciate them and is unrelenting in her prompts. By the time of Hyperemesis Gravidarum, Johanna is at least married to a man her mother approves of and adores. Now the emphasis is on children. Johanna eventually obliges. The same story also deals with the universal concept of the Jewish Mother, or its Discworld analogue, seen through the eyes of a young Cenotian student at the Assassins' Guild School. Her mother appreciates that Rivka ben-Divorah is at least training for a profession, but is insistent that Rivka attends Temple every Saturday, keeps a kosher diet, and marries a good Cenotian boy in a profession at the earliest opportunity, so as to get down to the really important business of having children. In a continuation tale, the emphasis shifts to Johanna's unmarried brother and sister with the same end goal - marriage and grandchildren - in mind. Danie and Mariella respond as you might expect.
- Dead or Alive 4: The Devil Factor: Normally, Bass Armstrong is overprotective and doesn't want his daughter Tina dating anybody. However, when Tina remarks on what fine children she would have if she and Dante were married, Bass becomes excited and imagines himself playing with grandchildren.
- Black Sky: Daniela Vongola is quite disgruntled by her grandsons for failing to marry when they already are forty-and-more years old and giving her babies to spoil. She outright dotes on her granddauther Erica - for being a mother of two - and her grandson Xanxus - because she raised him and he's still young enough for a good wedding. When she learns Xanxus discreetly married and fathered three children, she's ecstatic and declares he's her favourite.
- The Differentverse: Twilight Velvet immediately became attached to Spike after Twilight hatched him, telling him to "Come to Grandmare" after Princess Celestia asked if Twilight could take care of him.
- Twilight Velvet again in Changeling Courtship Rituals is overjoyed to realize that technically the entire changeling race are now her grandkids, crowing how she'll rub that in her neighbor's face.
Twilight Velvet: Your grandkids have all been in the top 5% at the university? Mine conquered Equestria!
- A variation occurs in Six Paths of Rebellion where Nunally is quite insistent on Lelouch getting a girlfriend and giving her lots of nieces and nephews to spoil.
- In How the Light Gets In, Laurel's grandparents were really the only members of her family to support her relationship with Dean. Her grandmother (Beatrice) eventually threw (literally) her engagement ring at Dean, in an attempt to get him to propose citing this reason, among others.
Beatrice: Do not mess this up. We want our girl to be happy. You make her happier than she's ever been. And also, I want great grandbabies. Preferably before I die.
Films — Animation
- Disney Animated Canon:
- The King from Cinderella has this bad, to the point where he takes the prince's comment about how he'd marry the girl Cinderella's slipper belongs to (not knowing her name) literally, and tries to find any girl that will fit the slipper, regardless of if it's the same one. Justified, since producing heirs (and having his heirs produce heirs) is the only way a royal dynasty can survive. This, however, averts Heir Club for Men when the King actually dreams about doing 'grandfatherly' things like playing horsey with a grandson and granddaughter.
- On top of uniting their kingdoms, both King Stefan and King Hubert from Sleeping Beauty have expressed this as another reason for arranging for their children to be married. Hubert is the more enthusiastic at first, but Stefan quickly warms to the idea.
- This is apparently one of the reasons Eudora wants her daughter Tiana to settle down a little in The Princess and the Frog.
- Queen Juliana in Fire and Ice is the Evil Matriarch to Nekron and very adamant that he produces an heir, going as far as kidnapping Princess Teegra to provide her son with a consort/concubine. Nekron on the other hand is repulsed with the idea and throws Teegra in the dungeon instead.
- Strange Magic: The Bog King's mother keeps trying to pair him off with various women. She even tries putting him together with a woman who just tried to kill him moments ago!
- Present in Toy Story 3 in sentiment though not literally (in light of the toys-as-parents metaphor) when Woody mentions, "Someday, if we're lucky, Andy may have kids of his own."
Films — Live-Action
- Apocalypto: Poor Blunted is apparently impotent. His hunting buddies find ways to tease him about this when on a hunt, and he returns to find his mother-in-law completely uninterested in the meat he's caught, but hollering out this trope to no end. Mother in law grabs her daughter and all but pitches the two of them into the tent with orders to get busy. Poor, poor Blunted. This is the day the old huntmaster also chose to pull a practical joke on him regarding his ineffectual genitals. Think, son, why would Gramps be carrying Jungle Viagra on him during a hunt? No good reason. But Jungle Heat Rub?
- In Bride and Prejudice, the Bollywood version of Pride and Prejudice, this is a great concern of the Mrs. Bennett equivalent. The original Mrs. Bennett was more concerned about impending homelessness.
- In Don Jon, Jon's mother constantly pesters him about finding the right girl and settling down because she feels old enough to be a grandmother already.
- Give 'Em Hell, Malone: Malone's mother is not very subtle about her want for grandchildren.
Gloria: Esther's granddaughter was here. She looks fertile, Malone.
Malone: Wow. You got a hell of a way of selling a gal.
- Imagine Me & You: One of the reasons why Tessa tries to talk her daughter Rachel out of the whole "being gay"-thing.
Tessa And what about my grandchildren? Who will provide me with them?
Ned: Well, kids these days have many amazing new methods at their disposal.
- The last line of the adorable Chinese film Saving Face involves Wilhelmina's mother asking when she can expect grandkids from Wil and her girlfriend. This prompts a Spit Take. What makes it funnier is that Wil's mother has just had a kid with her boyfriend, so it's not like she needs a baby right then.
- Kevin Flynn's smile at his son Sam and Quorra's growing interest in each other in TRON: Legacy suggests this.
- On The Truman Show, Truman's "mother" is pushing Truman to have children on this excuse; what she really wants is to fulfill the wishes of Christof, who is still holding out for the first on-air conception.
- In A Brother's Price, Queen Elder explicitly tells the protagonists that her family's numbers are reduced, and she wants grandchildren. Justified in that she is one of the Queens, and there need to be heirs of the throne. She doesn't pester her daughters about this, though - they know what is expected of them.
- In Poppy Z. Brite's Liquor, Rickey's mother Brenda asks him when he's going to meet a nice girl and give her some grandbabies... despite knowing that he's gay.
- In Jasper Fforde's The Eyre Affair, Thursday's father asks about the possibility of grandchildren.
- Jehana to her son Kelson before he leaves for Torenth in King Kelson's Bride: "All apart from Gwynedd's need for an heir, I would have grandchildren to dandle on my knee."
- Honor Harrington's mother is obsessed with getting her daughter knocked up and drops hints about bring vials when she meets her boyfriend. Since they can raise the babies in tubes, it's not even a problem that she's an active duty navy officer. In some ways not having grandchildren actually creates huge problems when Honor is believed dead due to inheritance laws being complicated.
- In Agatha H. and the Clockwork Princess, one Jager is a nuisance to his great-great-grandson owing to his wanting great-great-great-grandchildren. It is noted that many Jagers have hobbies trying to reconnect with the humanity they left behind him, and preoccupation with his family is his, and has nearly wiped out his descendants.
- In The Decline of the West, Oswald Spengler gives the justification for this trope: "He does not entirely die who lives on in sons and nephews."
- In Seanan McGuire's October Daye novel Rosemary and Rue, Toby suggests that the message Luna is trying to send Connor is that she wants him, and her daughter, to give her grandchildren. Connor points out what would Luna do with a grandchild?
- Journey to Chaos: BloodDrinker is a sword containing the souls of Basilard's ancestors and it convinced Basilard to accept Zettai as his daughter because otherwise the guy will never give them grandchildren.
- Maryse and Robert Lightwood in the Tales From The Shadowhunter Academy story "Born To Endless Night", despite agreeing on very little else. To the extent that even with their history of Fantastic Racism, they are positively ecstatic when Alec and Magnus adopt an abandoned warlock baby. The head of the New York Institute and the Inquisitor of the Clave — both former members of Valentine's Circle! That they approve of the adoption the instant they find out about it, and proceed to drown Alec and Magnus in parenting advice, while imposing time limits on which of them gets to hold the baby for how long, makes it clear that they consider a warlock grandchild better than no grandchild.
- In the Sidney Sheldon novel Master Of The Game, Kate Blackwell is positively obsessed with this, to the point where she urges her daughter-in-law to ignore her doctors warnings about getting pregnant. The result? The woman dies in childbirth, her widower is so grief-stricken that he goes mad and tries to kill his mother, and of the twin granddaughters, one is so evil that she repeatedly tries to kill her sister, starting from when they're five.
- The fact that Aya's mother in the Tantei Team KZ Jiken Note frachise indicates Darwinist Desire as one of the main considerations for Aya's marriage choices implied this trope.
- In Warrior Cats, Bramblestar tells Lionblaze and Cinderheart this - though, in a somewhat darker twist, the reason he wants them to hurry up and have some is because the Clan doesn't have any. On a more lighthearted note, when they actually do, he realizes that this makes him feel old.
- Arrow has a particularly twisted example with Ra's Al Ghul. He forces his daughter to marry Oliver in order to create his own dynasty.
- Black Books: When Manny's parents believe he's dating Fran:
Manny's mother: People are leaving it too late these days, and I don't think that's wise.
Fran: Leaving what late?
Manny's mother: Babies.
- Something of an after-the-fact variant in the Buffy the Vampire Slayer episode "Amends" where the First Evil appears to Angel in the form of Jenny Calendar, who he killed earlier that year:
Angel: What do you want?
First/Jenny: To die in bed surrounded by fat grandkids, but I guess that's off the menu.
- In an early episode of The Cosby Show, Claire's mother explains the trope:
Claire's Mother: You know, when you and Cliff got married, what did I say?
Claire: You wanted me to have a child.
Claire's Mother: You know why?
Claire's Mother: If you want the joy of a child without the bother, there's a perfectly simple answer.
Claire's Mother: They're perfect. If you don't like them, you go home.
- Discussed in an episode of Designing Women. Mary Jo tells the story of the first time she visited her parents after being married. They told her they weren't comfortable with her and her husband having sex under their roof, then spent the entire trip pestering them for grandchildren.
- Marie in Everybody Loves Raymond, to the point of making a "love nest" for her son Robert and his wife in their house complete with Barry White CDs. Robert moans "I can't breed in captivity!". What makes this an interesting case is that she already has three grandchildren but because they are no longer excited to see her when she comes over (due to both growing out of it and, as Debora pointed out, simply by virtue of her spending more time at their house than her own) and simply wants new ones so she can "be grandma" again. Marie is generally considered one of, if not THE, most selfish, self centered characters on the show because of actions like these.
- Variation occurs in the "Look at the Princess" trilogy of Farscape. A Sebacean princess can only become Empress if she marries a man who can provide her with viable offspring and thanks to DNA poisoning by her brother, only John can "put the sword IN the stone" as he puts it. For good measure, on their first meeting, the current Empress tells John, "I expect sturdy grandchildren from you."
- In Frasier, Daphne has a dream in which her mother shows up to do just this. And when Gertrude moves to Seattle, that dream becomes a constant reality.
- Both Ross and Emily's parents in Friends seem to be keen on the idea, since Ross threatens them with "No grandkids!" when they are squabbling at his wedding. Ross' parents already have a grandson prior to that event, but they frequently forget about Ben; of course, they also frequently forget about their own daughter Monica.
- Full House. Despite having three granddaughters, throughout the second season Jesse's parents pestered him to marry Becky so they could have more grandkids.
- Game of Thrones:
- Lord Walder Frey constantly expresses this. Although for him, it's less about the grandkids and more he wants his many, many children to finally get married and move out of his house.
- Tywin Lannister...as long as they're male grandkids from his eldest son. Ironically, he already has two of these but they're less than ideal, being officially Baratheons rather than Lannisters, and rather more importantly bastards born of incest between his son and daughter.
- In the CBC adaptation of Douglas Coupland's jPod, Carol is continually pressuring Ethan for grandchildren.
- Living Single has Laverne Hunter who finds a way to work in the need for her daughter Regine to 'settle down and put some beans in that oven'.
- In The Nanny, Fran's mother was very obsessed with having grandchildren from Fran, despite the fact that her other daughter has several children. It's stated several times that Yetta (Fran's grandmother) nagged Sylvia about giving her grandchildren years ago. Specifically, when Fran was giving Sylvia grief, Sylvia turned and blamed Yetta for pressuring her for grandchildren. Yetta simply responded, "That's right, Cookie, it's payback time."
- Don and Charlie's father in NUMB3RS isn't too pushy about it, but he does give his sons the occasional nudge.
- A particularly obnoxious (and, thanks to the Imagine Spot inserts that were a motif of the programme, hilarious) incarnation of this kind of parent was added to the BBC's 2009 sitcom Reggie Perrin. This was a new addition for the remake - in the original, The Fall and Rise of Reginald Perrin, Reg hated his mother-in-law and had two independent adult(ish) children. Possibly it was felt that, as the actors were very slightly younger and middle-class people like the Perrins now have children rather later, they would be unlikely to have children that old, and the dynamic would be different if their children were still young.
- In 30 Rock, this is a major source of tension in Liz Lemon's otherwise ideal relationship with her parents.
- "All the Good Ones Are Gone" by Pam Tillis is mainly about a woman who feels frustrated about her inability to find a man, but the chorus shows that one factor is her mom invoking this trope:
And her mama called this morning
Said, "I'm worried 'bout my baby
I wish you had a family of your own"
She said, "Mom, it's not that easy
You make it sound so simple
But you can't take the first man that comes along"
Myths & Religion
- The Bible has this in Genesis, as the first thing God tells his living creations is to "Go forth and multiply". By extension, He also expects this from the animals. To drive the point home, after Adam and Eve sin and become mortal, God promises to multiply Eve's "conceptions," though this is possibly so there would be saints to replace the souls who would be damned.
- In the story of Apollo and Daphne in Ovid's Metamorphoses (making this trope Older Than Feudalism): "Saepe pater dixit 'Generum mihi, filia, debes.' Saepe pater dixit 'Debes mihi, nata, nepotes'". "Often [Daphne's] father said, 'You must [give] me a son-in law, daughter.' Often her father said, 'You must [give] me grandchildren, daughter'".
- Also in Greek Mythology, King Thespius promised his daughter to Heracles if the hero would hunt a lion that was plaguing Thespiae. Thing is, he has fifty daughters, but still kept his promise, giving Heracles one of them a night. Some versions of the story say the reason for this was because he wanted strong grandchildren, and thought Heracles was an ideal sire. He certainly got grandkids; all fifty of his daughters became pregnant as a result.
- In the first scene of Abie's Irish Rose, Solomon Levy explains why he's anxious to have his son Abie get married: "I want grandchildren—dozens of them."
- In Animal Crossing your parents will send you a letter asking if you've met anyone special. They claim they want grandchildren... even though you live in a village full of animals.
- Eli Vance in Half-Life doesn't take it to extremes, but he does tease his daughter Alyx about her affection for the hero because, "can you blame an old man for wanting grandkids?". This comment was particularly significant because it was made shortly after the destruction of a device that the occupying alien force had set up the to make human reproduction impossible.
- In Ar tonelico: Melody of Elemia, Lyner's father encourages him to get married soon because he wants grandchildren. Lyner responds that he doesn't have anyone in mind, eliciting the groans of the three potential love interests.
- In Plumbers Don't Wear Ties, both John's mother and Jane's father are pressuring them to have children.
- If you marry Nera in Dragon Quest V, Nera's mother will pressure Nera to have grandchildren right after you're married. She eventually does, giving you twin children, a son and a daughter. Strangely, she doesn't say this to Debora, her other daughter. Though she gets the two grandkids either way.
- If you spared Teryn Loghain and married Anora (only possible as a male Human Noble) in Dragon Age: Origins, Loghain will reappear in Awakening and remind you that you have a duty to produce an heir. Ostensibly it's because the Ferelden throne needs a clear line of succession, but this trope is probably in play as well. However, the game implies that having children can be difficult for Grey Wardens.
- Whether male or female, the Human Noble origin includes the Warden's mother, Eleanor, lamenting that she's had difficulty setting up an Arranged Marriage for them. She has one grandson, but wants more.
- The opening of King's Quest VII: The Princeless Bride opens with Valanice attempting to marry Rosella off and listing who she thinks are suitable candidates. Rosella is less than thrilled with the idea. Yes, it's justified by the fact that Alex took up ruling the Green Isles, leaving her as Daventry's only heir. Still, she's no more eager to be "up for auction" than her dad was in King's Quest II: Romancing The Throne.
- Older Family-oriented parents in The Sims 2 will often have a want to get grandchildren as soon as their oldest child progresses to adulthood.
- "Have 6 Grandchildren" is a lifetime want your Sim can roll upon choosing the Family aspiration as a teenager.
- This returns in The Sims 3, where Sims will often roll the "Become a Grandparent" wish as soon as their grown child gets married. (If said wish is fulfilled, the new grandparents may then wish for five grandkids altogether.)
- If you get Fayt's ending with Adray in Star Ocean: Till the End of Time, Adray makes it clear that he intends for Fayt and his daughter Clair to get together for this purpose. Clair is not quite as supportive of this (she calls her father into the other room, then beats the crap out of him). It's a bit more subtle in his solo ending where he has Clair's subordinates in a push-up competition for the right to marry her.
- Tales of Graces: Lady Kerri Lhant makes it abundantly clear that she wants Asbel to settle down and have a child. Much to Asbel's chagrin, she already has marriage proposals ready.
- King of Fighters 2000: During the Kyoukugen Team's ending, Takuma saves King from being annihilated by a direct blast from the Zero Canon. Just as she starts to thank him, he invokes the trope as his reason for doing it.
- The plot of True Love Junai Monogatari is tied to this, in a way. The PC's father is desperate to see his son married with kids, so he forces the PC to live on his own in a family-owned apartment so he will look more independent anf attractive to any prospect girlfriend...
- Joyce's mother in It's Walky! Big time. When she's shot during Joyce and Walky's wedding she flat out blackmails Joyce into agreeing to give her grandchildren by making Joyce think it was her dying wish (she actually got shot in the butt). She's also disappointed to meet Joyce and Walky's Kid from the Future Bobby, as she wants a grandbaby.
Head Alien: Man, and I thought I was manipulative!
- Blue's grandmother (father's side) in College Roomies from Hell!!!.
- The Order of the Stick
- When Roy leaves the Heavenly Mountain, his mother Sara instructs him to marry his girlfriend and get her pregnant. Celia isn't the same species or even from the same plane of existence as Roy, although the strip takes place in a RPG-Mechanics Verse where Half-Human Hybrids of every sort are possible.
- Apparently, Roy's mother would get along well with Celia's.
- And in the prequel Start of Darkness, Redcloak's mom shows some of this.
- Girl Genius:
- Oggie, despite not being human anymore, is very concerned about the continuation of his family line. His great-great-grandson is currently in hiding to avoid being pestered about when he'll settle down and father some great-great-great grandchildren. Oggie's great-great-grandson also made the mistake of telling his ancestor he'd "get married when you find a Heterodyne!" As he shortly discovers, that's not as far-fetched as he'd thought. Oggie's response? "Iz going to be great-great-GREAT grandpapa!"
- Castle Heterodyne has a bit of this, what with pestering Agatha to get busy making the next generation of Heterodynes and pointing out that she has two healthy available young men around.
- Fa'lina of Dan and Mab's Furry Adventures : "Hey, hey! Get back here! Do not run in fear from me when I'm plotting my grandbabies' futures!". Becomes kind of sad when you look into the backstory here. Fa'lina adopted Pyroduck after Pyro was taken as a hostage in the Dragon-Cubi war, during which Fa'lina's entire clan (which she founded) was killed. Cyra (Dan's grandmother) does this to Dan as well.
- Schlock Mercenary:
- Kaff Tagon's father berates him about his life in general, and not producing grandchildren. Eventually he steps it up a notch.
Kathryn: So instead of nagging your son about producing grandchildren, you nag women who may or may not be remotely interested in him?
General Tagon: This is a new tactic. I guess I do both.
Kathryn: For as stupid as your selfish DNA is, I'm surprised you were able to reproduce at all.
General Tagon: The boy's mother used to say the same thing.
- General Tagon once pointed out that since they have Kaff's DNA on file, technically he doesn't need him around to get grandchildren. He hasn't gotten quite that desperate yet, though.
- Kaff Tagon's father berates him about his life in general, and not producing grandchildren. Eventually he steps it up a notch.
- Crest's mother in Flipside indicates this in this strip.
- Yuko's mom in the slice-of-life webcomic Johnny Wander.
- Drowtales contains one of the most horrific instances of his trope in fiction with the relationship between Quain'tana and her daughter Mel'arnach. Basically, she couldn't have children anymore but needed an heir, so she wanted to get one from her daughter — by force. And to rub salt in the wound once the child (Ariel, who was actually born from a consensual relationship with another elf turned giant spider) was born, she was taken away from her real mother and raised without knowing her true lineage or even seeing her real mother for 10 years, did not know their real relationship for over 30 chapters. Minus a single, non-canon and very spoilerific chibi page (which indulge in Black Comedy anyway) this is not played for laughs at all, and many fans consider it a Moral Event Horizon crossing for Quain'tana. After a 10 year timeskip it's also shown that in exchange for not killing Mel after she came back after running away (again) Quain has gotten her wish and Mel already had two more children with a third on the way, and though her circumstances are better Mel still lives in a Gilded Cage and the two young children are being raised elsewhere.
- In Kevin & Kell, Desdemona Fuscus is seen asking Kell which of them should be the first to bring the topic of grandchildren up to the recently married Fenton and Lindesfarne. Desdemona isn't as bad as Lindesfarne and Fenton's house (a sentient tree named Tree), who keeps pestering them. Lindesfarne is very ambivalent about the idea though especially since, as a former human, her children are likely to become human themselves. On the one hand, society already doesn't handle her cousin, Token Human Francis Fennec, as well as they could. On the other hand, her having a human daughter might be the only way Francis can have a mate he can breed with. (And before anyone asks, they're cousins by adoption, so the Not Blood Siblings trope comes into play if that happens.) On August 2017, she gave birth to a daughter who's half hedgehog, half bat (shown as a bat with hedgehog quills). However, it should be noted that Francis was born animal too, and later spontaneously turned human, so time will tell.
- Taken to terrifying extremes in this Saturday Morning Breakfast Cereal. When Mom said she wanted grandkids, that was not a request.
- In Route 148 this trope is used to hint at one of the protagonists' homosexuality when Frank, on the same page he is introduced, jabs at Linton about probably never producing any great-grandkids.
- Faye once became depressed that Davan didn't seem like he would ever settle down and Dahlia was on the record that she didn't want kids. She briefly considered finding a way to trick Davan and his girlfriend Branwen into getting pregnant (to Fred's surprise, since she's usually the sane one in the family).
- Chirag is gay. His parents know he's gay, but they don't know that he knows that. His brother and sister are also gay, and once they came out of the closet, their parents immediately started bugging them about settling down and having kids. To avoid this, he still pretends to be in the closet when they visit him, begging his female friends to play The Beard.
- Takeru Oyama in Ménage à 3 demonstrates the trope within seconds of meeting his daughter Yuki's new boyfriend Gary. Faintly creepy, or at least Freudian, in that his relationship with Yuki has previously been difficult, and that's largely because childhood exposure to the tentacle-porn Hentai which he created damaged her psychologically.
- In Evil, Inc. Lightning Lady's mother starts off discussing her daughter's scandalous wardrobe (LL dresses like a typical comic book supervillainess), but when her daughter protests she mentions grandchildren. Lightning Lady goes back to the conversation about her costume .
- In Fans!, when Rikk and his wife Aly formed a polyamorous union with Rumy, Rikk's conservative mother did not take it well and nearly stopped speaking to her son. Later, at dinner with Rikk's parents, Rumy accidentally let it slip that she was preparing to act as a surrogate mother for Rikk and Aly (Aly wanted a baby but due to a disease that nearly killed her before, she did not have viable ovaries, and Rumy was too active as a member of AEGIS to carry a baby to term, so Rumy conceived the child with Rikk, and then doctors used alien-tech to transplant the fetus into Aly's still-functioning womb). Rikk's mom then approached Rumy, hugged her fiercely and declared, "You're my new favorite daughter-in-law!" Her desire to be an active part of her grandchild's life won out over any objections to her son's unconventional lifestyle.
- In Freefall, as the creator of Bowman's wolves, and at his age, Dr. Bowman feels entitled to bug Florence about grandchildren.
- In The Non-Adventures of Wonderella, a guest comic suggests that Ginormous's mother is like this. Later, Titania literally hires Wonderella's villains to try to convince her to have a baby.
- Mnemosyne to Thalia and the rest of the Muses in Thalia's Musings.
- Tobuscus does a spoof of a deodorant commercial in which his mom tells him 'Now go make me some grandchildren!' He later jokes that she wasn't acting when she said that.
- This not always related. One nosy mother bluntly asks her child about "sex with ex".
- From Cinnamon Bunzuh!, an Animorphs Review Blog.
Ifi: Hi Mrs. Cassie's MomIfi: I'm gonna look up your nameAdam: Her name is "Cassie's Mom"Adam: Her parents were very presumptuous about grandkids.
- The Lizzie Bennet Diaries: Mrs. Bennet's only goal in life is to have her three daughters married. According to Lizzie, she once cried hysterically: "It's your fault if I die without graaandbabiiieees!"
- Not Always Right has this story, where an older woman freaks out about her age and mentions trying to pressure her 30-year-old daughter into dating for this purpose.
- On Dan Vs., Elise is horrified when her parents are planning to move into town to be closer to her. Her husband Chris doesn't think it's so bad... until Elise reminds him about this trope. Now he's scared.
- On Daria, the title character writes about a story about her family's ideal future. Quinn already has five kids, but Helen still prods Daria and her unseen husband to start a family of their own.
- Used in The Fairly Oddparents, of all places, where, when the writer of the Crimson Chin comic book gets kidnapped by one of his fictional villains, his mother (who he lives with) doesn't notice, and simply shouts "Don't come back unless you bring me grandchildren!" at him as he's being dragged out.
- Amy Wong's parents in Futurama are an extreme example. They are so obsessed with getting Amy to have grandchildren, it almost seems like they care more about that than they care about Amy herself. To the point that when the latter got deaged to her preteen years, they were too busy complaining about how they were never going to have grandchildren at this rate (and in Leo's case, cruelly tease Amy) to actually worry about their daughter's condition.
- In King of the Hill when Bobby has joined a cult of geeks — after he got sent to the Principal's office for what they think is witchcraft — when Hank and Peggy are called over; Bobby does this dance to provide a positive vibe. Peggy says:
"I may be a mother, but I am also a woman, and I know a girl repellent when I see it. I. Want. Grandchildren, will you fix this!?"
- In the Pinky and the Brain episode "The Visit", a lack of grandchildren is one of the things Brain's mother complains about after he makes his parents capable of human speech.
- On Scooby-Doo! Mystery Incorporated, Mayor Jones and the Sheriff are having lunch when they spot Fred completely fumbling his date with Daphne. The Mayor groans and says that at the rate Fred is going, he's never going to have grandchildren.
- The Simpsons:
- The episode "The Burns and the Bees": When Marge is asked what her greatest fear is, she instantly replies, "Never being a grandmother."
- Another episode has Marge, who believes she is about to be executed, despairing that she wouldn't see her children grow up and start their own families, etc.
- In The Super Hero Squad Show, the episode "Mother of Doom" at one point has Doctor Doom's mother remark that her son has neglected to give her grandchildren.
- In the Toxic Crusaders episode "Toxie Ties the Knot", Toxie helps his mother up and asks if she is alright. Toxie's mother replies that she'd feel better if she had grandchildren.