"Don't worry. Both of you have the true spirits of warriors. I know you will succeed if you follow my pawsteps closely."
Parents often want the best for their children. It's only natural. Unfortunately, some parents take this to the conclusion that "whatever worked for me will
work for my kids — end of discussion
" — so the kid will find themselves being groomed and press-ganged into stepping into their parent's shoes, whether they particularly want to or not. This is particularly the case if the steps in question lead to the Family Business
, and especially if the parent is a Self-Made Man
Thing is, the kid usually has their own ideas about what they want to do with their lives, and following exactly in their parent's footsteps isn't part of the plan. This leads to tension; the kid wants to live their own life, but at the same time family loyalty is an extremely strong thing to overcome and they don't want to disappoint their folks, either. So a choice has to be made; will the kid let themselves be pushed into a life they don't want to lead, or will they attempt to break free and be themselves
, and risk losing their parent's love?
For extra irony points, the kid may have a sibling who wants nothing more than to take over the Family Business
, but because they're younger than the protagonist (or female) they don't have a chance. Unfulfilment all around! In the case of the older (or just male) character being expected to take over the Family Business
he's the Rebel Prince
The result is usually one of two standard outcomes. In the happier ending, the parent — although disappointed — accepts their child's decision; you have to Be Yourself
, after all, and it's ultimately their child's decision what to do with their life. Variably, in these endings the parent may also be astonished that their kid was so torn up about it — they aren't Control Freaks
and it's not that
big a deal to them, and ultimately their child's happiness is what concerns them most. They may even have been working under the assumption that the kid had their heart set on inheriting the business, which was why they were so enthusiastically pushing it on him. Often in this kind of ending when the kid decides to agree to take over, the family comes to an honorable compromise that allows the kid to pursue his own interests to a reasonable degree.
Less happily, if the parent is
a Control Freak
who has to micromanage their child's lives, they aren't going to take it so well. Cue Parental Issues
. And frequently in these cases, you'll be hearing a cry of "I Have No Son
!" before too long.
Owing to traditional family roles, the parent and child in these cases is Usually Male
See also Turn Out Like His Father
Anime and Manga
- Inverted in The World God Only Knows with Sumire. Her father runs a ramen shop that has been in the family for generations, and she badly wants to follow in his footsteps. He, on the other hand, is convinced that she can do much better with her life than running a tiny noodle shop, and so refuses to consider it. They reconcile in the end, and he accepts her wish.
- In a grandparent version of this trope, the anime/manga One Piece's main character, Monkey D. Luffy blatantly refuses throughout his life to become a Marine like his grandfather. Same goes for his big brother, Ace. This has both hilarious and serious outcomes.
- Saotome Alto was born into a Kabuki family and raised to be an actor from a young age. What he really wanted to be was a pilot; he rebels against his family before the start of the series, and heads off on his own path. Whether his father eventually approves of his war hero son or not is never shown.
- Dragon Ball Z: This is how Gohan ended up fighting Perfect Cell. Goku, having seen his son in action a few times, made the (flawed) assumption that Gohan must enjoy combat as much as he did, and chose this moment to put Gohan into his old role as Earth's hero, even going so far as to heal Cell first to make the fight more interesting. Unfortunately it turned out that fighting was not something Gohan enjoyed, just something he happened to be skilled at, and it was ironically left to Gohan's foster father Piccolo to point this out.
- Inverted in Vagabond. Sasaki Kojiro's foster parent Kanemaki Jisai refuses to teach him the way of the sword because his own dedication to the sword had gained him nothing and left him friendless and embittered.
- In one episode of Pokémon, the heroes encounter a father and son. The father runs an academy for fighting-type Pokemon and wants his son to take over so he can retire, but the son just wants to run his noodle restaurant. After having Ash and May proxy battle for them, someone finally realizes that the father's skilled female student is a more obvious choice, and the father can go off to follow his dream - opening a noodle restaurant.
- In PS238, superheroes Ultima and Sovereign Powers really want the best for their son Tyler and insist that he will become a superhero when he grows up. The fact that Tyler has no superpowers whatsoever and is extremely skeptical towards the whole thing does not enter into it; from where they're standing the universe is merely biding its time until it can spontaneously give him superpowers of some sort.
- In the DC Comics Elseworld The Kingdom (a followup to Kingdom Come), Wally West's son Barry has superspeed, and absolutely no interest in using it for anything in particular, much to Wally's despair. His concern with getting Barry to live up to his potential is one of the reasons Barry's sister, Iris "Kid Flash" West, feels unappreciated.
- Wolverine is trying very hard to avert this from happening to his daughter/Opposite-Sex Clone, X-23. Ever since they met he's been doing his best to help her overcome her conditioning and help her be a normal teenage girl, and objected strongly to Cyclops including her on X-Force. Logan knows from his own experience with Weapon X exactly what was done to her by the Facility, and wants her to find a life for herself beyond what those who created her wanted. Unfortunately, the comics being what they are, events continually conspire against him and Laura's body count keeps on rising...
- In Necessary To Win, the Akiyama family averts this. Yukari's parents, both hairdressers, ended up taking on occupations that were different from their parents, and as such, are fairly open minded about whatever Yukari may choose to do.
- In the movie While You Were Sleeping, the male romantic lead is in this situation with his father. Luckily, his father's an understanding sort, so when he finally plucks up the nerve to confess his feelings about the subject his father's biggest annoyance is that he didn't take up a chance to sell the business the previous year because he was under the impression his son had his heart set on taking it over.
- Inversion: In The Godfather, Don Corleone expresses his disappointment that Michael ends up entering (and eventually taking over) the family business; he had hoped that Michael would take the Corleone name legitimate (or into government, at least). Of course, here, the term 'family business' has different connotations.
- He states that he didn't want Michael to arrange for strings to be pulled, but to be the string puller. Senator Corleone or something along those lines. The second movie, a flashback shows the sons discussing Vito's big plans for Michael, so it sounds like he only wanted someone he could trust high up to help the family business, rather than wanting Michael to escape crime.
- Young Frankenstein is something of an example; although Frederick "Fronkensteen"'s grandfather is long dead, there's still some pressure for Frederick to take over his experiments. Frederick, not being a Mad Scientist, is reluctant. At first.
- The musical also has the song "Join the Family Business."
- The goal of the 'dream heist' in Inception is to plant the idea in Fisher's head that his father did not actually want this for him.
- The driving conflict in the movie Hop is that E.B. doesn't want to inherit his father's job. And that job is being the Easter Bunny no less!
- In Almost Angels, Tony's father assumes that Tony will grow up to drive trains just like him. He is initially resistant when Tony wants to join the Vienna Boys Choir and study music, because he thinks a musical education is A Degree in Useless.
- In Sky High, Steve Stronghold a.k.a. the Commander was disappointed that his son Will didn't inherit his Super Strength (or any other superpower for that matter) and therefore wouldn't be able to become a superhero like him. He even entertained the thought of dumping toxic waste on Will. Fortunately Will was just a late bloomer.
- This ends in tragedy in the novel Buddenbrooks by Thomas Mann (which was rumoured to be based partly on Mann's own family). The book is subtitled 'The Decline of a Family'.
- Kate Blackwell wants her son Tony to take over Kruger-Brent, Ltd. in Sidney Sheldon's Master of the Game, but he wants to become a painter. Her constant manipulations to get him on the path she wants him to take, or at least sire him a grandchild who will be more likely to follow it, eventually lead to his wife's Death by Childbirth, and he goes insane and tries to kill Kate. He is subsequently institutionalized and, as he is incapable of being brought back to normal, lobotomized. Of her two granddaughters, Alexandra doesn't want to run the business, and Eve does but proves unworthy. Thus the book ends with Kate planning to groom her great-grandson to take over, probably with similar manipulation.
- In The Chosen Rebbe Saunders wants his son, Danny to be a Rebbe. Danny wants to be a therapist.
- So he dumps the job on his perpetually sick little brother to save himself the trouble. He could do a little work on his Big Brother Instinct.
- Most of the young competitors in The 39 Clues.
- In Vampire Academy, Sydney Sage's father is an Alchemist and raised her to follow in his footsteps. By age 18 she is forced into active service. She would rather be going to college. She is more interested in art and architecture than interactions with the supernatural, but he gave her no choice.
- Shawn and Henry's relationship in Psych is something like this; Henry wanted Shawn to grow up to be a cop and follow in his footsteps. Shawn had other plans, eventually growing up to be a complete slacker. Unfortunately, Henry is a "Well Done, Son!" Guy and didn't take this well, to the extent that their relationship is strained at best (and is implied to have been estranged at some point). Of course, Henry's ambitions weren't helped by the fact that he was a bit of a Control Freak who subjected Shawn to a junior version of the Training from Hell at an early age to ensure his goals, to the point where Shawn's grandfather, also a cop, disapproved.
- "Estranged at some point"? It's spelled out in the pilot episode that Henry had moved back to Santa Barbara and had been there for months without bothering to tell Shawn that he was back in town.
- Despite the hellish training, Shawn was perfectly happy to become a cop and make his dad proud...until his parents split up and he blamed his dad for it.
- In Mad About You, Paul's father averts the trope entirely and gives the family sporting goods business to Ira (Paul's cousin) because Paul is busy being a documentary filmmaker. Paul's father didn't ask Paul because he knew his son had his own life. Paul is nonplussed - he didn't want to go into sporting goods, but he assumed he would be asked, and maybe even guilt-tripped into it.
- Supernatural. Oh, so much Supernatural. John expects both his sons to follow in the family business, and Sam reeeeeeaaaaally doesn't want to. It doesn't end well. Interestingly, it turns out that their mother hated the thought of them following the family business; sucks to be dead and not have a say in it.
- The ''Star Trek: TOS;; episode "Journey to Babel" reveals that Spock and his father Sarek went through this.
- And later in Star Trek: TNG where Data's creator Dr. Soong is a touch disappointed his greatest creation went into Starfleet instead of cybernetics like himself.
- In Star Trek: Deep Space Nine, there are several hints that this is what happened with Garak's upbringing. One of the strongest occurs when Garak tells Bashir that he allowed his father to mould him into a mirror image of his father. Something went wrong, however, and the pair had a major falling out which caused Garak's exile. What is never revealed, leaving the reader to guess where on the scale between Turn Out Like His Father and I Am Not My Father he actually ended up falling.
- Ben Sisko also assumed Jake would want to follow him into Starfleet, forcing Jake to tell him that he actually wanted to become a writer. Ben took it okay, though.
- Averted with Nog - Quark isn't impressed that Nog wants to enter Starfleet, but Rom vetoes Quark's opinion by giving his fatherly support.
- In the first season of Heroes, Hiro's father wants him to take over the family business. Hiro convinces his father to give the job to his sister instead.
- Jack on LOST tells Rose he became a doctor because it was "the family business." Season 6 implies (if you accept that Jack's son in the flash-sideways is a reflection of Jack himself) that Jack would rather have played the piano.
- In Power Rangers Jungle Fury, Finn is disappointed that his son RJ didn't follow family tradition and become a Shark-style kung fu master. He eventually grows to respect the path RJ did take - being a Wolf-style kung fu master.
- Inverted in Power Rangers Ninja Storm as Cam, son of a ninja sensei, wants to become a ninja himself or at least contribute to the fight on the battlefield somehow instead of just from Mission Control. His father admits that Cam could be an excellent ninja, but when his mother passed away she had him promise not to train Cam as a ninja due to the danger. They reach a compromise later after Cam learns some family secrets; he discovered his mother was a samurai, and he'll follow in her footsteps.
- In Power Rangers Wild Force, Alyssa's father was disappointed she didn't want to take over the dojo until he learned she's a Ranger.
- Played with in Flashpoint. Jules' father was a cop but wasn't pleased that Jules became one too, much less SRU.
- Parker's son Dean decided he wanted to be a cop with no prompting from his father. Clark (Ed's son) promptly calls him crazy. Even Parker wants Dean to do something else with his life.
- Both Sam and his father were in the army, Sam as a former special forces operative and his father is a general.
- Kengo of Little Busters! is the son of the owner of a kendo dojo, and as such has been practicing it ever since he was a kid, even though he doesn't particularly care for it and would much rather just be hanging out with his friends. Though in this case, it seems to be self-inflicted - when he first met Kyousuke, he was given a chance to give up on kendo, but kept at it to please his father. Unfortunately we never get to see exactly what his dad thinks about all of this.
- In the webcomic Everyday Heroes, Summer seems to resent being stuck with superpowers, and having no choice as to what her future will be.
- One of the sources of estrangement between Roy Greenhilt and his father Eugene in The Order of the Stick is that Eugene expected Roy to become a wizard like him, but Roy chose to become a fighter like his grandfather Horace and take up the ancestral sword. This is also why Eugene shows Parental Favoritism for Roy's sister Julia; she's also studying magic, so Eugene (According to Roy) doesn't use the phrase "crushing depression" when talking about her.
- This is Quain'tana's strategy with her granddaughter and heir Ariel in Drowtales, with mixed results. Quain'tana was born on the street with nothing to her name and built her way up to one of the most power leaders in the world, and wants Ariel to do the same, starting her at the rank of a grunt. After a 15 timeskip this has been semi-successful, but Quain had previously gone through at least three heirs (one who hates her, one who seemed alright before got possessed and one who was a failure all around) meaning that she's so far only been halfway successful at this strategy, and her other parenting skills or lack thereof put her far into Abusive Parents territory.
- Up until recently in the Whateley Universe, Gizmatic was insistent that his son Jobe follow in his footsteps. This included being a mad scientist and heir to the throne of Karedonia. Until this winter, dad's biggest problem with the son was that Jobe was more into mad biological sciences instead of mad engineering sciences.
- The Goodkinds are the richest family on the planet. CEO Bruce Goodkind groomed his oldest kid Greg for years to step into his shoes, but Greg took off. Bruce then groomed the rest of the family: son Paul (the next oldest) is stepping up, as is youngest son David. Next-to-youngest son Trevor was doing his best, but ended up being thrown out of the family and disinherited when he turned into a mutant.
- In a Real Life aversion one noted Sherpa guide made it his effort to save up money from his climbs to put his children through school, saying "I climb so my children won't have to."
- A similar Real Life aversion by John Adams: "I must study politics and war that my sons may have liberty to study mathematics and philosophy. My sons ought to study mathematics and philosophy, geography, natural history, naval architecture, navigation, commerce, and agriculture, in order to give their children a right to study painting, poetry, music, architecture, statuary, tapestry, and porcelain."
- All of his sons followed him into law, though, and one even became president like him.
- Another Real Life aversion is the case of Jimmy Choo's son, Danny. Instead of inheriting his father's shoe empire, he decided to follow his own pursuits in Japan, with dad's approval. Which also involves dancing as a SOS-Brigade Stormtrooper.