Experimented in College
aka: Lesbian Until Graduation
Ramona: Oh, calm down, Scott, it was just a phase.
Scott: You had a sexy phase!?!Maybe it's because young people are living independent of their parents, maybe it's abundance of booze and parties, or the existence of sororities and fraternities that commonly only allow one gender to join, but it's assumed that when a young adult goes to college, they likely experimented sexually with the same gender. While it's usually played for titillation purposes when done with women, this trope can also apply to guys as well. For those who are gay or bi, it might be the first time they ever acted on their same-sex attraction, leading to other gay plotlines. For those that are straight it's either accepted as having been a brief phase, or rarely spoken of and only in the vaguest terms, a sort of sexual Noodle Incident. Also known as being a "lesbian until graduation", or a LUG. Compare Schoolgirl Lesbians, Situational Sexuality.
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- Strangers in Paradise: Casey experimented in college and is more than open to a relationship in the present.
- In Scott Pilgrim, Ramona experimented with her roommate Roxanne, who became the fourth Evil Ex when she ended it.
Ramona: I was just a little bi-curious.
Roxanne: Well, honey, I'm a little BI-FURIOUS!
- XXXenophile: In "Now Museum, Now You Don't" we get this exchange:
Trixie: Sometimes all a girl needs is a change. To clear the palate as it were.Sydney: But I'm not... I've never even thought of...Xynotreen: Oh? What about Cindy, in college?Sydney: How did you?Trixie: Minor deities, yes. Incompetent deities, no.
- In the "Green Inferno" storyline in The Authority, the renegade (and bluntly homophobic) ex-Doctor disdainfully challenges the team with the phrase "Poofs first." It's presumably aimed at the canonically-gay Apollo and The Midnighter, but the Engineer steps forward with a cool:
Engineer: Does a lesbian fling in college count, Doctor?
- In Marvel Comics, Noh-Varr, who has been on the Dark Avengers, The Avengers and Young Avengers is a Kree from an Alternate Universe. He has indicated that he served as a cadet on an "exploratory ship", and that sexuality was one of the things they explored.
Noh-Varr: Exploratory does have multiple meanings. The Kree are efficient like that.
- Going by the mental 'snapshots' of her former partners, Suzie of Sex Criminals has had at least one lesbian relationship.
- Dr. Allison Mann of Y: The Last Man is a lesbian, but her college girlfriend Mercedes was one of these. In fact, Mercedes seemed to think that lesbians don't really exist, and that the only reason a girl would ever want to date another girl is to piss off her dad. She broke up with Allison shortly before graduation, saying that it was time to grow up and start acting like adults, and that if Allison still wanted to piss off her dad, she should find a more mature way of going about it... like dating a black guy.
- There's an awkward conversation in Four Weddings and a Funeral that ends with this:
Fiona: I was a lesbian once at school, but only for about 15 minutes.
- Discussed in PCU where the Pit's leader tells the prospective freshmen that college in the 1990s is different from the old days where they "swill sherry and screw goats for fun."
- Within Definitely, Maybe, the diary Emily gives Will to return to Summer shows that they had an experimental relationship in school.
- This is intimated in Four Christmases after Kate's sister tells Brad about the bullying Kate went through during their childhood.
"My husband and I tell each other all our embarrassing secrets. He knows I slept with the entire water polo team in college, just like I know he experimented with men."
- Reverend Frank alludes to this in License To Wed.
- Most characters in Another Country seem to agree that a little homosexual hanky-panky in college is entirely natural. They even fault the master (instructor) for walking in on Martineau and his friend masturbating, because if he were an old boy (i.e. a former pupil) he would supposedly have known from personal experience what goes on in the gym changing rooms.
- The Robert A. Heinlein novel The Number of the Beast has Jake (the elder of the male protagonists) mention he did this in college.
- In the novel The Last Theorem, the protagonist briefly experiments with his roommate, but it doesn't get very far before a friend of the family finds out and tells his father. (His father is quite explicit that he doesn't mind experimentation, but he objects strenuously to the person his son was experimenting with.)
- Charles Ryder from Brideshead Revisited is possibly this, though since we only ever see him with one male lover it might also be a case of If It's You, It's Okay.
- In Inda the all-male class of teenagers in the military school enthusiastically experiment with one another until they are given leave to visit the pleasure houses in the city, from which point on all but two seem to be pretty much exclusively interested in women. Of the two for whom this is not true, one is gay and the other is bisexual.
- Melissa And Joey: Implied that Mel may have experimented with bisexuality in college when Lennox pretends to be a lesbian.
- Holly Holiday from Glee tells the kids she had some "experiences" as a student while at an all-girls boarding school.
- Quinn does this in the fourth season with her BFF Santana during Mr. Schuester's botched wedding.
- From Will and Grace, when Will hires a maid to clean up after Grace...
Will: Grace, this is gonna cheer you up.Grace: A short brunette woman? Come on, Will, I tried that in college, remember? It really wasn't my thing.
Karen: Grace, I've told you before, I only did this once in college, and it just so I could borrow her Halston skirt.
- In another episode, Grace is trying to hide from her boyfriend and ends up ducking behind Karen. In doing so, she knocks Karen off balance, and Karen ends up bent over a table. From Karen:
- Karen frequently makes jokes about this, implying this so often it eventually stops being Experimented in College and becomes her just simply being bisexual. In another episode, when being a magician's assistant for Jack, when he tells her to climb in the magic box, she quips, "I haven't done this since my senior year at Sarah Lawrence."
- In one episode, Rachel claims that she kissed one of her sorority sisters, only no one believes her
- Inverted in another episode. Phoebe's Citizenship Marriage husband is an ice dancer who everyone (including himself) thought was gay. It turns out he's really straight.
Duncan: Well, I've never told you this but, there were one or two times, back in college, when I'd get really drunk, go to a straight bar and wake up with a woman next to me. But I, I, I told myself it was the liquor and everyone experiments in college.
- Invoked in an episode of Game of Thrones, Tywin Lannister discusses a proposed marriage between Cersei and the extremely gay Loras Tyrell with Loras' grandmother. When Tywin refers to Loras' homosexuality as an "affliction", Lady Tyrell calmly asks him if he and another boy ever "[had] a go at each other under the sheets" when he was young, and is genuinely surprised when Tywin flat out denies it.
- In an exchange on Happy Endings, Penny blurts that Jane "hooked up with a bunch of girls in college and called it a phase." Jane calmly says, "It was a phase," while husband Brad sits speechless.
- It turns into Bi The Way}} later on when Jane reveals that one of her exes, [[GenderBlenderName Ryan, was someone she was in love with... and that she had several more ex-girlfriends.
- Buffy the Vampire Slayer. In their first domestic squabble, Willow accuses Tara of assuming she's doing this.
Tara: "I trust you. I just ... (looks down) I don't know where I'm gonna fit in ... in your life when..."
Willow: "When ... I change back? Yeah, this is a college thing, just a, a little experimentation before I get over the thrill and head back to boys' town. (pause) You think that?"
Tara: "Should I?"
Willow: "I'm really sorry that I didn't establish my lesbo street cred before I got into this relationship. You're the only woman I've ever fallen in love with, so ... how on Earth could you ever take me seriously?"
- In Being Erica, Erica revisits an episode from her university days where she explores her relationship with a lesbian classmate.
- This is how Angela's relationship with Roxie started out on Bones. Then she went back to mostly guys, then to Roxie for a while after the wedding fiasco, then back to Hodgins.
- Subverted on Dharma and Greg, when Dharma "comes in" to her mother, admitting she's never had a lesbian experience.
- Inverted in Spin City:
Stuart: You're gay, right?Carter: Except for one time in college when I was drunk.
- Eric tried to invoke this in an episode of Boy Meets World, flirting with a pretty college student while dressed as a woman. "Oh, come on, everyone experiments in college!"
- On Mad About You, Paul's sister comes out of the closet. When Jamie asks her if she's always known that she was gay, she admits to this trope, word for word, but still didn't realize her true sexuality until recently.
- A Saturday Night Live skit in which everyone at The Daily Planet is aware of Clark Kent's true identity has Lois, Jimmy and Perry tormenting the clueless man by making comments about Superman, including speculating that he's gay. Kent furiously defends himself, insisting, "Superman isn't gay! I mean, sure he experimented a little back in Smallville. . .", shocking the other three, who were just making things up.
- On Fresh Meat, J.P. and his public school fellows apparently got up to all sorts of stuff that seriously stretches the concept of Gay Bravado. He talks about it with Giles, who to J.P.'s horror later turns out to actually be gay.
Giles: Come on, all the "power showers"... when you think about it, it was pretty gay.
JP: What's gay about it?
Giles: What, two men wanking each other off?
JP: Don't call it that!
- On House of Cards (US), Frank is revealed to have had a relationship in college with a male classmate. This is taken past experimentation in a season 2 episode where Frank, his wife Claire and their male bodyguard have a threesome. It's implied that Frank has always been gay and hides his sexuality for political reasons, and while Frank sincerely loves Claire, it's not a romantic love and the marriage was born of convenience and advantage (Claire's family is wealthy and politically influential).
- Inverted for laughs on How I Met Your Mother, where Barney refers to his gay brother, James, as having had an embarrassing "hetero college phase" that he decided not to mention in his best man's speech. In some of Barney's flashbacks to his own early 20s, the audience gets to see James during his overcompensating phase. He wears nothing buts sports jerseys and gives his brother sex advice about how everybody finds (hetero) sex gross, but you just do it, because its what is expected of you as a man.
- In Last Week Tonight with John Oliver, John finishes his segment on student loans by imploring his college-age viewers to enjoy their time at college, including having some gay experiences.
John: It doesn't count!
- On the season two finale of Veronica Mars, Veronica has a dream of what her graduation from high school would have been like if Lilly hadn't been murdered. Lilly, who is a year older, tells Veronica her relationship with her college boyfriend went south after a "disagreement about fooling around with his ex." Veronica assumes it was the boyfriend doing the fooling around, but Lilly corrects her:
Lilly: Oh, no no, it was um, it was me. I kinda fooled around with his ex. I mean, you'd think that guys would dig that, right? ...What? It's college, it's expected. You'll see.
- Dar devotes a strip to the concept, and to the author's feelings about fitting it - by accident, as she was an exclusive lesbian who bewildered herself by falling in love with a man.
- Dinosaur Comics: T-Rex and Utahraptor.◊
- In this El Goonish Shive Q&A comic, Chika reveals that she experimented a bit because apparently she liked to be scientifically rigorous in everything.
- Ménage à 3: Late-introduced character Peggy invokes the trope here. She subsequently says that she concluded that she just prefers men, but she clearly doesn't regret the experiment, and the presence of sex goddess DiDi makes her quite happy to revert for an evening.
- In the BDSM webcomic Sunstone, it's revealed that Ally and Alan learned the ropes (so to speak) of BDSM by experimenting with each other back in their college days before realizing that two dominant partners make for a rather poor match. In addition, Lisa and Anne both mention having some same-sex experiences back in their college days before meeting Ally.
- Parodied in this XKCD.
- In Fans!, Shanna mentions that she and Kathryn were Lesbians-Until-Graduation and were even a couple at one point. After having conflicting feelings at the sight of Kathryn with Will, Shanna wonders if she might still be attracted to her... until she realizes it's Will she's jealous over.
- Family Guy: In "Partial Terms of Endearment", it's revealed that Lois once experimented with her college roommate, Naomi.
- One Cutaway Gag on The Cleveland Show showed a graduation ceremony at an all-girl college, with every girl there immediately breaking up with the girl next to them the second they graduated.
- In an episode of The Simpsons, Homer reacts with surprise that Sideshow Bob has not only given up trying to kill Bart, but settled down with a woman. (Homer apparently thought Bob was gay.) Bob admits he experimented a little in college.
- Judging from the Photo Montage in "Holidays of Future Passed", it's implied that Lisa also experimented in her college days.
- According to this Cracked article, the trope may not be as common as everyone believes. Only 10% of female college graduates claimed to have a lesbian experience, compared to the 15% who did not attend college, implying that its association is due to a Vocal Minority.
- The stereotype seems to be stronger with women who go to all-female colleges, which may make it more of a case of Situational Sexuality.
- The phenomenon may be underreported, due to those experimenting in college keeping it a secret because they want to project an image of being heterosexual.