History Main / DoubleStandardAbuseFemaleOnMale

* In episode 70 of the ''Potterless'' podcast, which focuses on Ron's return in chapter 19 of ''Literature/HarryPotterAndTheDeathlyHallows'', Hermione's violent reaction towards Ron is not condemned in the slightest; the guest of the week even cheers Hermione on and says that she should beat on Ron more. The description of the episode includes the phrase "we mostly talk about how Hermione deserves much better sidekicks than Harry and Ron."

* {{Averted}} when WebVideo/MatthewSantoro [[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VZ27W2K12fk openly declared that he was abused by his girlfriend]] ''Nicole Arbour''. Not only did many viewers take his experience seriously, but some (like [[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CeWVHKeFFkk boogie2988]]) came forward as being abused as well.

Sadly, there are factors that contribute to this belief being TruthInTelevision and abusive women being punished less severely by the law than men in RealLife - indeed, along with its [[DoubleStandardRapeFemaleOnMale sexual assault subtype]], this double standard has been, and still is, one of the hardest to discredit due to society's opinion of it. First, the average man is indeed physically stronger than the average woman, so male-on-female violence is generally more harmful. Second, the majority of ([[SurvivorshipBias reported]]) cases of physical abuse are male-on-female, making it more difficult to disassociate fictional male-on-female violence from real life. The problem is that there are exceptions to both factors; physically strong women and physically weak men do exist, and some of the former do take advantage of their strength to abuse the latter (regardless of the lack of physical strength, being hit by a weaker person still hurts more often than not), and there's also the chance that some women may even the odds by using a weapon. Another thing to note is that abuse is much more than just being physically stronger than the other person: abusers also take advantage of the fact that their victims can be intimidated or scared of them, may not defend themselves for various reasons, or would be unlikely to speak up. For example, women may take advantage of a man's unwillingness to hurt women or unwillingness to speak up to avoid being viewed as "weak", or even to avoid [[WoundedGazelleGambit having the accusation of abuse turned against him]], on the grounds that, as the trope itself shows, she is likely to draw more sympathy and credibility in the same situation.

* ''Website/SCPFoundation'': Averted big time in [[http://www.scp-wiki.net/scp-4231 SCP-4231.]] The abuse suffered by Francis at the hand of Lilith (implied to be sexual, emotional and physical) is portrayed as terrifying and nauseating, and Francis is traumatized by it. The skip pulls no punches in portraying Lilith as a vile abusive monster, in addition to being a cultist of the [[EldritchAbomination Scarlet]] [[GreaterScopeVillain King]]. The only reason Francis got out of it was because he killed her to protect their daughter, and he was still traumatized and incredibly fucked up for the rest of his life. He currently works for the Foundation under the name [[spoiler: Alto Clef]].

* ''WesternAnimation/WreckItRalph'' plays with this -- Sgt. Calhoun [[GetAHoldOfYourselfMan slaps Felix to stop him from freaking]] out when the two are stuck in [[QuicksandSucks NesquikSand,]] causing the sentient vines of Laffy Taffy to giggle and slowly make their way down towards them. Despite her reluctance to do so, Felix, who can instantly heal himself with his magic hammer, demands Calhoun [[AmusingInjuries continue injuring him]] until the vines are close enough for them to pull themselves out. Out of context, it's easy to imagine a gender-swapped version being rejected en masse, but the context in which all of this happens is so...[[ItMakesSenseInContext let's just say "specific"]] that it'd take a lot of second-thinking to come off as abuse. It helps that Calhoun clearly doesn't want to continue slapping him but she has no choice since this is the only way to get out of a deadly situation, and is visibly uncomfortable throughout the whole thing.
* In ''WesternAnimation/{{Tangled}}'', the female Rapunzel knocks the male Flynn unconscious twice in self-defense, since he is an intruder in her home at the time. However, she then ties him up and unnecessarily strikes him a ''third'' time while restrained. Later, after they have become friends and traveled together for some time, Flynn tries to argue with her to abandon their mission. She answers, "''I will use this''" holding up the pan that she had knocked him unconscious with three times, menacingly to his face. The whole thing is PlayedForLaughs in a way which would be ''much'' darker if a male character made a credible threat of bodily harm against a female character to win an argument.

* ''Podcast/BlackJackJustice'': Many of the series' most serious episodes feature a woman in some form of abusive relationship. For example, "Justice Delayed" reveals that the murderer the detectives are trying to find is the man's own wife, who killed him in self-defense, while "Stormy Weather" is about Jack and Trixie laying a beatdown on a cheating husband who won't let one of his mistresses, of which there are at least two, leave him with threats of blackmail and death should she try. On the other hand, Trixie's tendency to chase away lovers who get too close with thrown beer bottles, gunplay, and insults tends to get played for laughs, such as how her chat with hotel detective Alf [=McKinney=] in "Auld Lang Syne" is played for laughs as Alf agrees to a rendezvous with Trixie while she asks him for information. The double-standard is notably dropped in "The One That Got Away", in which Button-Down Theo, a longtime admirer of Trixie's who was chased away in much the same fashion, took it seriously and found himself another woman he was set to marry. He outlines exactly why he stopped pursuing Trixie and suggests his reasons for why she does what she does. Trixie ends the episode giving Theo a congratulations and good luck.

** Played depressingly straight with Loona and Blitzo. "Seeing Stars" features Loona beating the absolute hell out of Blitzo on two occasions: First for the crime of telling her that she needs to nicer to clients, and again at the end of the episode for running over to hug her. From the reaction of all the other characters present, it's abundantly clear that these are meant to be a comedic scene.

** ''WebVideo/TheNostalgiaCritic'':
** Despite efforts to avoid this, such as his ''WesternAnimation/FerngullyTheLastRainforest'' review with he and WebVideo/TheNostalgiaChick taking their fair shots at one another, The Critic has fallen victim to this a number of times. His ''Film/Catwoman2004'' review is based around the plot of all of the actresses who played the character stalking, harassing and even attempting to kill the Critic, who eventually ends up smacking himself when he realizes that several gorgeous women are throwing themselves at him, even if their intentions are not so sympathetic. If the roles were swapped, this would ''not'' be okay.
** His review of the ''[[Film/AChristmasStory Christmas Story]]'' sequel has this combined with UsefulNotes/VictimBlaming when Hyper Fan Girl finally goes too far while trying to force the Critic to watch the original with her. After giving her far too many chances, the Critic gives her [[TheReasonYouSuckSpeech a furious tongue-lashing]] and she runs off in tears. As it turns out, this was the wrong thing to do because all of the stalking, harassment and unwanted come-ons were her way of trying to share the holiday spirit with him, practically spitting in the face of the "no means no" mentality. Doug said later at Midwest Media Expo that Critic was in the right, which makes the swerve in-video even weirder.

Sadly, there are factors that contribute to this belief being TruthInTelevision and abusive women being punished less severely by the law than men in RealLife - indeed, along with its [[DoubleStandardRapeFemaleOnMale sexual assault subtype]], this double standard has been, and still is, one of the hardest to discredit due to society's opinion of it. First, the average man is indeed physically stronger than the average woman, so male-on-female violence is generally more harmful. Second, the majority of (reported) cases of physical abuse are male-on-female, making it more difficult to disassociate fictional male-on-female violence from real life. The problem is that there are exceptions to both factors; physically strong women and physically weak men do exist, and some of the former do take advantage of their strength to abuse the latter. Regardless of the lack of physical strength, being hit by a weaker person still hurts more often than not, and there's a chance that some women may even the odds by using a weapon. Another thing to note is that abuse is more than just being stronger than the other person: abusers also take advantage of the fact that their victims can be intimidated or scared of them, may not defend themselves for various reasons, or would be unlikely to speak up. For example, women may take advantage of a man's unwillingness to hurt women or unwillingness to speak up to avoid being viewed as "weak", or even to avoid [[WoundedGazelleGambit having the accusation of abuse turned against him]], on the grounds that, as the trope itself shows, she is likely to draw more sympathy and credibility in the same situation.

* Heavily subverted amongst the reviewers of Website/ThatGuyWithTheGlasses, where the men and women beat each other up indiscriminately, are all shown as a bunch of miserable jerks for it, and it's PlayedForLaughs both ways. However, there ''is'' the occasional slip-up, not to mention the MisaimedFandom who play is straight.

Sadly, there are factors that contribute to this belief being TruthInTelevision and abusive women being punished less severely by the law than men in RealLife - indeed, along with its [[DoubleStandardRapeFemaleOnMale sexual assault subtype]], this double standard has been, and still is, one of the hardest to discredit due to society's opinion of it. First, the average man is indeed physically stronger than the average woman, so male-on-female violence is generally more harmful. Second, the majority of (reported) cases of physical abuse are male-on-female, making it more difficult to disassociate fictional male-on-female violence from real life. The problem is that there are exceptions to both factors; physically strong women and physically weak men do exist, and some of the former do take advantage of their strength to abuse the latter. Regardless of the lack of physical strength, being hit by a weaker person still hurts more often than not, and there's a chance that some women may even the odds by using a weapon. Another thing to note is that abuse is more than just being stronger than the other person: abusers also take advantage of the fact that their victims can be intimidated or scared of them, may not defend themselves for various reasons, or would be unlikely to speak up. For example, women may take advantage of a man's unwillingness to hurt women or unwillingness to speak up to avoid being viewed as "weak", or even to avoid [[WoundedGazelleGambit having the accusation of abuse turned against him]], on the grounds that, as the trope itself shows, she is likely to draw more simpathy and credibility in the same situation.

Sadly, there are factors that contribute to this belief being TruthInTelevision and abusive women being punished less severely by the law than men in RealLife. First, the average man is indeed physically stronger than the average woman, so male-on-female violence is generally more harmful. Second, the majority of (reported) cases of physical abuse are male-on-female, making it more difficult to disassociate fictional male-on-female violence from real life. The problem is that there are exceptions to both factors; physically strong women and physically weak men do exist, and some of the former do take advantage of their strength to abuse the latter. Regardless of the lack of physical strength, being hit by a weaker person still hurts more often than not, and there's a chance that some women may even the odds by using a weapon. Another thing to note is that abuse is more than just being stronger than the other person: abusers also take advantage of the fact that their victims can be intimidated or scared of them, may not defend themselves for various reasons, or would be unlikely to speak up. For example, women may take advantage of a man's unwillingness to hurt women or unwillingness to speak up to avoid being viewed as "weak", or even to avoid [[WoundedGazelleGambit having the accusation of abuse turned against him]], on the grounds that, as the trope itself shows, she is likely to draw more simpathy and credibility in the same situation.

Sadly, there are factors that contribute to this belief being TruthInTelevision and abusive women being punished less severely by the law than men in RealLife. First, the average man is indeed physically stronger than the average woman, so male-on-female violence is generally more harmful. Second, the majority of (reported) cases of physical abuse are male-on-female, making it more difficult to disassociate fictional male-on-female violence from real life. The problem is that there are exceptions to both factors; physically strong women and physically weak men do exist, and some of the former do take advantage of their strength to abuse the latter. Regardless of the lack of physical strength, being hit by a weaker person still hurts more often than not, and there's a chance that some women may even the odds by using a weapon. Another thing to note is that abuse is more than just being stronger than the other person. Abusers also take advantage of the fact that their victim: is intimidated/scared of them, may not defend themselves for various reasons or would be unlikely to speak up. For example some women may take advantage of a man's unwillingness to hurt women or unwillingness to speak up to avoid being viewed as "weak".

** Played depressingly straight with Loona and Blitzo. "Seeing Stars" features Loona beating the absolute hell out of Blitzo on two occasions: First for the crime of telling her that she needs to nicer to clients, and again at the end of the episode for running over to hug her. From the reaction of all the other characters presents, it's abundantly clear that this is meant to be a comedic scene.

* ''WebAnimation/HelluvaBoss'': {{Averted}}. Stolas is in an ArrangedMarriage with Stella in order to birth a "precautionary heir" to the Goetia bloodline. Stella is both physically and emotionally abusive towards Stolas, and enjoys saying demeaning things about him to others [[ImStandingRightHere when he's in earshot]]. Stolas only put up with it to ensure his daughter had a normal life growing up. When Stolas eventually cheats on her with Blitzo, Stella is so infuriated over her wounded pride that [[spoiler:she orders an assassination attempt on him]], and when Stolas announces his commitment to divorcing her, she attempts to beat him. In a show that otherwise relishes in its BlackComedy, ''nothing'' about Stella's abuse toward Stolas is PlayedForLaughs.