"Don't you EVER scare me like that again!"Alice is in love with Bob. Bob goes and does something crazy heroic, risking himself. Once the crisis is over, Alice rips into Bob with utmost anger. Eventually, she comes out and admits she was worried about him. This frequently occur in the context of the After-Action Patch-Up. It can also happen in cases where the person has disappeared without communicating at all for a while, in which case it may be accompanied by, "You could have called!" Of course, this trope can apply to either gender on both the giving and receiving end; it's the caring that brings it about that makes the trope. It is also particularly common for parents to show this trope when their children return from whatever world saving adventure they've been on. Related to How Dare You Die on Me!, except it's milder, as in, "how dare you put yourself in so much danger." May also involve a Slap-Slap-Kiss. Contrast Tearful Smile, which occurs when Alice is still distraught even when she's happy. Good odds for a Punchy Love-type to be this if he/she is far enough on the "punchy" side. Compare I Have Just One Thing to Say and Arson Murder And Life Saving.
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- Not shown directly, but certainly implied, in this Volkswagen commercial.
Anime and Manga
Since this trope is a requirement for all Tsunderes, expect a lot of the character archtype in the examples below...
- This is what happens in the end of Full Metal Panic!: The Second Raid, although Tsundere Kaname Chidori was afraid not only for Sousuke (who disappeared without a word in the middle of the series) but also for herself (since villains are constantly after her and Sousuke was supposed to protect her). The progression of fear to relief to anger causes her to deliver an epic Get a Hold of Yourself, Man! beatdown to Sousuke - himself in the throes of a massive Heroic B.S.O.D. - when they're finally reunited.
- Neon Genesis Evangelion played with this one in the Leliel/Sea of Dirac episode. Asuka is clearly aiming for the trope, but she keeps having to take a number as first Misato and then Rei "butt in", after Shinji reappears. She's left at a low simmer, but Shinji sees her the second time and seems to understand.
- In Ouran High School Host Club, Tamaki yells at Haruhi for trying to take on a group of bullies by herself and nearly getting killed in the process. The rest of the episode has Haruhi and Tamaki giving each other the silent treatment until they make up near the end.
- Naruto goes to town with this. With only a few exceptions, Sakura always worries about Naruto's safety in a combat situation. This persists despite him proving his skills over and over, and her claims that she doesn't feel "that" way about him.
- Possibly the best example is from Chapter 450 when Naruto returns after defeating Pain, Sakura punches him for being so reckless, then embraces him, thanking him.
- Rin also seems to have felt this for Obito, as he would always try to act tough and hide his wounds from her, which greatly annoyed her.
- In Princess Tutu, Fakir constantly treats Mytho harshly and orders him around. When Mytho begins to finally grow a backbone and stand up for himself, Fakir starts getting so distressed that his harsh demeanor escalates until he finally snaps and slaps Mytho. At first it's played to show him as a control freak, but it's soon revealed that he's really a Jerk with a Heart of Gold and he's terrified of Mytho getting hurt because of past experiences. (He just has a very, very poor way of expressing himself when he's upset.)
Kagome: I'm not crying because I'm sad! I'M CRYING BECAUSE I FEEL HUMILIATED!
- Kagome breaks down into tears when she thinks Inuyasha's dead, calling him "Idiot!" When Inuyasha shows up alive and well, she yells at him, causing him to think that she's mad at him at first before she says that she's just so relieved that he's alive.
- In the anime, a similar scene has Kagome yelling some more at him because she's embarrassed at having broken down in tears.
- And another after the defeat of the Thunder Brothers. When Inuyasha sees Shippo and Kagome surrounded in foxfire, and thinks they're ghosts.
- Ranma ½:
- Akane is wracked with worry over Ranma going to fight their first bonafide lethal opponent, who had locked him as a woman permanently. When he finally comes back, manhood restored (well, unlocked, anyway) he sneaks into the bathroom before greeting her. When she sees him, she's very obviously relieved to the point of tears, even as she's angry at him that he didn't go see her first.
- Shortly afterwards, Akane is the one who faces a legendary eight-headed dragon to repay a life debt, without asking for Ranma's help. After she's nearly killed, and Ranma rescues her, he berates her (albeit gently) for making him worry.
- After Shampoo and Akane have their first physical fight in the series, Ranma finds Akane unconscious on the grass. Thinking she might be dead, he urges her to wake up. When she does, he looks relieved, right before he promptly calls her an idiot and reprimands her for fighting Shampoo.
- In the Magical Girl Lyrical Nanoha Sound Stage X, Nove has this reaction when a severely wounded Subaru◊ meets up with her after fighting her way out of some ruins.
- Chisame from Mahou Sensei Negima! delivers one to Negi after he risks his life trying to study Evangeline's Black Magic. For all the chaos he has (unintentionally) brought upon her, she still cares about him more than she's willing to admit.
- Asuna does this to him quite often too.
- Miaka goes through a mild version of this in Fushigi Yuugi the first time Tamahome really risks his life saving her. When the tables are turned and she ends up risking her own life for her Seishi, Tamahome gives a Meaningful Echo.
- 7 Seeds: This is basically the meaning behind Semimaru's yelling. Since he made himself to be a tough guy, admitting that he was really worried in a heartfelt way would be too embarrassing, he opts to yell at people who made him worry. Particularly Arashi or towards Natsu.
- Happens in one episode of G Gundam involving Rain and Domon.
- Anemone from Eureka Seven, who has only just realized she is in love with Dominic when he leaves around the same time, goes to save him when she accidentally attacks him with her mech while he's falling from the sky, clinging to a ref board to try and save her. She admonishes him for doing something so reckless, even though they're both in a freefall at this point. Now she's normally been pretty harsh on poor Dominic until now, but fortunately for him, she lets it slide. Cue Big Damn Kiss.
- In the Mai-HiME side novel "Natsuki no Prelude," after Natsuki returns to school after her first battle with an Orphan, covered in wounds, Shizuru is quite shocked to see her hurt, and (not being a Hime at the time) tells her that if falling off her motorcycle caused it, she will keep her away from it even if she has to hit her. Natsuki insists that she's all right, but is touched that Shizuru cares about her.
- In Kamisama Kiss Tomoe has a Bodyguard Crush towards the heorine Nanami who she keeps pulling stunts that send his blood pressure sky-rocketing and causing him to rip her a new one verbally. It doesn't help that Tomoe is a definite Jerk with a Heart of Gold.
- This is a possible explanation for Maka's reaction in the Soul Eater manga when her partner, Soul, is possessed by the Black Blood and starts attacking her and their teammates. She was clearly worried about him, but when he snaps out of it her response is to hit him on the head and then start kicking him. When asked, she claims it's payback for pulling her pigtails.
- In Code Geass, Shirley, who has a crush on Lelouch, gets frustrated over his delinquent tendencies, and worries that he doesn't apply himself.
- Tengen Toppa Gurren Lagann: Kamina and Yoko had a moment like this in episode seven, after facing particularly overwhelming odds in a fight and almost being killed in the process. A sad/bittersweet scene in hindsight as Yoko's worst fears come true one episode later when Kamina dies in battle, mere hours after they had kissed for the first time and revealed their feelings for each other.
Yoko: There's always been a method to your madness. I could always just tell myself, "if anybody can pull something off, Kamina can." But this afternoon was different. That wasn't reckless or even crazy; that was plain stupid! You rushed in there without thinking it through, and if Simon hadn't been there, you might very well have been killed!... I guess... that frightened me...
- In Black Lagoon, at the end of the "Goat, Jihad and Rock and Roll" arc, Revy, having managed to rescue Rock from kidnappers with a mixture of her characteristic ultraviolence and uncharacteristic guile, rips strips off him for being dumb enough to be kidnapped: "This isn't some feel-good movie! The cost of this is coming out of your paycheck! The next time this happens, the only help you'll get is from the Almighty!" And then they go off together.
- Later, in the Japan arc, after Balalaika comes very close to killing Rock, forcing Revy into a face-off with Balalaika and Boris, Revy punches Rock a good one for being so foolhardy: "Over here, I'm your gun! I could keep you alive through Tarawa or the Alamo! But I can't protect someone who's that anxious to die! ...If you weren't you, I'd have shot you myself for being so stupid!"
- Ian from A Cruel God Reigns has several instances of this after bringing Jeremy back to England to help Jeremy get his life back together. They usually occur after Jeremy has done drugs or prostituted himself, although sometimes they are in reaction to Jeremy's flippant behavior toward both and his original problems.
Ian: "You were beat until you passed out! Don't act as if it happened to someone else!"
- It's never specifically said, but this was no doubt the reaction of Mr. Koiwai after finding out Yotsuba had gone to Fuuka's school, by herself, without telling him where she was going. Absolutely justified, since there were at least two points on her adventure where she was very lucky she wasn't seriously hurt.
- There's a manga chapter in Doraemon where Nobita received this from his parents after coming home so late after playing outside. Unfortunately, Nobita being Nobita, it's too much for him and made him believe that his parents despise him. So he decided to leave his house. To made his action become much less sympathetic, he also stole some of Doraemon's tools and gadgets (including Bamboocopter) because he believe they will help him survive while living far away from his family. Predictably, it becomes much worse when he lost his bamboocopter and this caused him being trapped in a stranded island for next ten years until Doraemon finds him, when Nobita already becomes a Manchild and grows Beard of Sorrow. From Bad to Worse indeed.
- Puella Magi Madoka Magica: Downplayed example in Episode 3. When Mami and Madoka reach Sayaka and Kyubey, who had willingly let themselves be absorbed by a Witch's Barrier to prevent the Witch's escape, Mami berates Sayaka's rashness, but concedes that she's just relieved that they're both alright.
- Mekakucity Actors: Episode 10. After a very peaceful opening showing the scenery of Japan several centuries in the past, we cut straight to Azami - arms crossed and brow furrowed - yelling "He's late!" at her daughter Shion. After some reassurance from Shion, Azami admits that she is worried for Tsukihiko (her husband)'s safety, since he left for the (extremely xenophobic) village over three days ago. As it turns out, she was right to worry; as she'd feared, the villagers had captured Tsukihiko, tortured him for her whereabouts, and despite him not saying anything, found the trail he'd left himself to return home - and promptly come knocking to murder her and her daughter.
- In Aruosumente, Legna is known for getting angry whenever he catches His Majesty outside his duties, e.g. while trying out a new invention. However, that's because he's responsible for His Majesty's safety, and they're childhood friends besides.
- Waratte! Sotomura-san: Haruno reacts like this when Sotomura shows up at school in spite of having a fever.
- In Archie's Sonic The Hedgehog, this was Princess Sally's reason for dumping Sonic. He had just returned from a lengthy absence, during which he had been presumed dead, and yet he now continued risking his life at the drop of a hat. The fear of potentially having to mourn him a second time was more than she could stand.
- During Secret Invasion, the Comic Book/Runaways got stranded in New York City at the very moment that the Skrulls were gathering for their final push against Earth's superheroes, and Xavin, being an apostate, and thus a very high-value target for the fanatical Skrulls, tried to abandon the team, including their fiancee Karolina, in the hopes that the Skrulls would rather chase after an apostate than waste a bunch of Earthlings. After the team caught up to Xavin, Karolina gave them an earful.
- Causes a massive relationship crisis between Rainbow Dash and Brownie in the later chapters of Rainbow in the Dark.
- A Crown of Stars: Asuka and Shinji argue several times the time where he disappeared inside Unit 01 for one month. During those talks Shinji apologizes for getting her worried and she angrily tells him if he ever makes so stupid again there will be... consequences.
- In chapter 26:
Asuka’s grip on his left hand tightened and she growled, “You leave me hanging like that again, Ikari, and I get to rip your head and arms off.” Her grip relaxed again. “And don’t you dare ever vanish for a month like what happened after that, either. You made me worry, Third. And you’re sworn to watch my back from now on, until I let you go, got it?”
- In chapter 28:
Shinji:“And as for time apart... yeah, after the last three and a half years... I’m sorry I disappeared that month. I’d have come back sooner if I’d been able to. I didn’t know I made you worry so much.”
Asuka:''“You start in on that philosophy crap and I’ll make you disappear again. Yes, you worried me! [...] Don’t you get killed on me, Third. You still owe me a life, and until you pay me back you’re under orders not to die. Not after you say something like you said this morning. Got it?”
- In chapter 26:
- The Child of Love: In chapter 7 Shinji gets struck during a battle and knocked out. In reaction Asuka completely loses her temper.
- Cry For Eternity. Twilight undergoes a procedure to become an Alicorn on Celestia's posthumous wishes. The procedure knocks Twilight unconscious for a whole week, and once she wakes up, the first thing her mother, Velvet, does upon seeing her is to make it clear how very displeased she is that Twilight took such a risk. Likewise, Applejack also flat out says how mad she is, and Spike yells at her to never scare him like that again. Fluttershy of course is too nice to be anything but concerned, so Angel Bunny takes care of the anger part for her.
- HERZ: In chapter 10, Shinji got kidnapped. Asuka was so worried she was about to explode, but she tried to keep her emotions under control.
Asuka was obviously upset but was trying admirably to keep her turbulent emotions under control. Her first impulse was to run off and thrash wildly in an effort to find her husband. She didn't notice the blood beginning to drip through the patch covering her left eye. She took a deep breath.
- Higher Learning: Asuka towards Shinji after his nervous breakdown. Gets so bad that Misato has to pull one rather forceful Sorkin Relationship Moment.
- Last Child of Krypton: When Shinji reveals Asuka he is Superman she is furious because he has risked his life and he has been about to die several times to save her:
Asuka:"Why? You flew into that thing, what, to come after me? You could have died. Why would you do that? How could you be so stupid?"
- Scar Tissue: In chapter 8 Asuka gets angry with Shinji because he has reopened his wounds after yelling at their friends when they ganged up on her.
Terror, she was paralyzed in fear, her worn out brain darkened in utter fear; fear of herself, of what she was capable of. In her state of restless hysteria, the abused subconscious of the redhead activated it's most primitive defense mechanism. She attacked.
Ritsuko seemed to shut up with that. As a matter of fact, the entire room had gone deadly quiet when exposed to her rage, even Shinji, who seemed to have been dying to seconds before, straightened up and gulped.
"What the hell were you thinking, huh?! Do you realize how injured you are?!! And who told you I need to be protected? I could've handled those three asses myself!! Even if…! Even if it was… nice of...you…"
- The Second Try: Asuka to Shinji a good number of times:
- In the post-Impact chapters every time he was missing for hours (in episodes 4 and 6).
- In the post-time travel chapters, Shinji gets slapped by Asuka twice as he's waking up in the hospital for having her worried. The first time after the fight with the 12th, the second after his month-long stay in Unit-01. Each time is immediately followed by a kiss.
- Right before the JSSDF attack Shinji broke curfew to go back to their apartment, not telling Asuka was he was going to do or where he was going, and he left her worrying for hours. When he returned he got a well-deserved slap.
- Superwomen of Eva 2: Lone Heir of Krypton: Shinji is on the brunt end of this from Asuka after instinctively running to try and save a little girl from a collapsing building, only to be saved by Supergirl.
- In White Devil of the Moon, after Nanoha, who has recently been injured, collapses from using Divine Buster against Jadeite, Fate yells at her for using high-level magic despite her being warned about the strain on her Linker Core, before breaking down crying and telling her how worried she is about her.
- In Christian Humber Reloaded, Season-Bringer punches Blade for making him think that he'd died in the explosion that destroyed Chaos near the end of Part 2.
- In the Star Trek: The Original Series fanfic Insontis, kid!Kirk berates Spock for using a faulty transporter (which left injuries that nearly killed him) to go after him.
- In Kyon: Big Damn Hero Haruhi reacts this way to Kyon being injured after fighting some Yakuza with all his supernatural tools disabled.
- Earth and Sky: In the first chapter, Pinkie's relief that her daughter Tootsie is safe is immediately replaced by anger that Tootsie left the house without telling anyone.
- In Broken Facades, Light gets angry when he learns that Misa made the eye deal.
- Hit and Hug. Based on the episode "Putting Your Hoof Down", Rainbow Dash is really upset when she found out Fluttershy has Took a Level in Jerkass that she hits her in the head for it. She catches her before she falls from the ground and hugs her for being back to her old Shrinking Violet self.
- A Growing Affection: Tsunade and Sakura to Naruto in chapter 12. He nearly killed himself in the previous chapter by helping Sakura with a series of medical jutsus that essentially brought back Hinata from the brink of death, and both scold him quite thoroughly for it.
- Downplayed in Heroes: When Kirk is gone hunting for weapons material for a long time, Spock scolds him.
- If Thems The Rules, Harry doesn't speak to Tom for a week after Tom passed out after attempting a floating charm without a wand.
- In the Soul Eater fic Alive, Maka's reaction to Crona finally returning to Death City after running away and going back to Medusa is to hug him tight, make sure he's okay, and then Maka-Chop him.
Crona: (holding his head) Ow, why did you do that?Maka: That's for making me worry about you!
- In A Snowflake In Spring, Anna undergoes an Angst Coma of sorts after her brother Hans loses his visitation rights. She crashes at Kristoff's house, losing contact with the world for three days. Her new friend Megara, who has no idea what's going on, sends her a series of texts that progress from annoyed to concerned to nearly hysterical. When Anna finally recovers and calls her, Meg practically explodes at her over the phone.
- NCIS fanfic Shards To a Whole does this three times:
- Shortly after Tim McGee and Abby Scuito move in together and begin planning a life together, Tim, Gibbs, Tony and Ziva nearly die of hypothermia after being locked in a walk-in freezer full of Sarin gas canisters by a group of terrorists. Once they are rescued, and after everyone has more or less makes a full recovery, Abby, after a few days of nursing Tim back to health, lays into him big-time, shouting, "You do not get to dangle this perfect fantasy life in front of me: married, house, kids, grow old together and then take it away by dying on me! You don't get to make me want that, need it, and then take it away!" Realizing how much his nearly dying upset Abby helps Tim decide to apply for the position of Head of Cybercrime, which he believed would be mostly a desk job.
- While trapped in the basement of CGIS headquarters, which is being stormed by the FBI, Gibbs takes a bullet for Abigail "Abbi" Borin, his Love Interest. She is none too happy about this and pretty much flays him open for it — particularly given that she is still a serving federal agent and he most decidedly isn't (having retired several chapters earlier) — but he can't wipe the goofy smile off his face, because if she's yelling at him, it means she's alive.
- Breena lays into Tim in a later chapter note after Tim had Abby, Jimmy and Breena take the kids and evacuate to Montreal while he remained in DC where he, Vance and others publically revealed a decades-long conspiracy between both the RNC and the DNC to control and manipulate Presidential and Congressional elections. This led to massive riots and looting, along with the wholesale resignation of the President and most of Congress. Tim, Gibbs, Vance and many others wound up trapped in a Naval base with dwindling food and potable water supplies, dealing with looters and rioters while the Coast Guard attempted to keep the peace. Finally Gibbs managed to get Tim out of DC to a safe haven in Virginia, from where he was able to drive up to Montreal to meet with his family. When he arrived he was emaciated and in the midst of a massive Heroic B.S.O.D., but that didn't stop Breena from laying into him once he had some food in him.
- In Curses!, Lili finds Raz in the tree house and slaps him across the face as soon as he comes out of Fannie's mind. When she heard the wolves, she tried to call him, and he never answered.
Raz: I did what I had to to, y'know, not die!Lili: Well how the heck was I supposed to know that you weren't dead?!
- Tsume and Hanabi exhibit this at different points to different people in Kitsune no Ken: Fist of the Fox. After Kiba risks his life rescuing Naruto from Mizuki's gang and Akatsuki's Monjin, Tsume slaps him and snaps at him for being so reckless...and then tightly embraces him moments later. A couple of chapters afterward, when a hospitalized Kabuto cheerfully greets the Hyuga family, Hanabi chastises him for being so flippant about his injuries, even while she's holding back her own tears.
- In chapter 12 of the Alex Rider fanfic Hell is Other People, we get this line, which essentially sums up the trope:
When Wolf arrived at the infirmary, he was worried, and consequentially, he was angry.
- In the The Familiar of Zero fanfiction,The Steep Path Ahead, Louise really gets angry with Saito when he's done something that could severely hurt him without her, most evident after he went on to deal with a Zombie Apocalypse while she was unconscious and came back covered in blood.
Louise: "He could have died. Do you know what it means? When you're dead, you're in Founder Brimir's arms forever. There's no coming back. You can't just turn back time. A dead person is dead forever, so I am angry. I am angry and I am hurt that he could not wait for me to wake up, and I don't care if he succeeded now, because if tomorrow he does the same and he fails, then I'll be the one left to pick up the pieces of his scattered corpse to sew them back together, and then I'll have to present it to his family saying that he died bravely, but they would rather have their son back."
- In Thousand Shinji, when Asuka nearly blows herself up to take down Sandalphon, Shinji got incredibly mad at her.
Shinji: (angrily) What the fuck were you thinking?
Asuka: (dazedly) I… I did what I had to do, just like how you blew yourself up to take out Shamshel.
Shinji: It’s called the ‘Shinji Suicide Special’ for a reason.
Asuka: (grinning) Well they can call it the ‘Soryu Suicide Special’ now.
- In Once More with Feeling, Ritsuko notes that Misato is angry at her charges after the quad bike race because she was terrified of them getting hurt.
- Code Geass: The Prepared Rebellion:
- Milly yells at Lelouch when she finds out he commanded the rebels during the battle in the Shinjuku Ghetto, terrified at the thought of losing her childhood friend.
- Later on, Lelouch gives Milly and Nina a tongue-lashing for their actions during the Lake Kawaguchi incident.
- With This Ring: Zatara isn't too impressed by Paul's association with John Constantine, mainly because he knows what happens to people who work with John or owe him favors. When he learns that Paul had John give him magical tattoos that will help him develop a soul he freaks out and rushes to the cave to make sure that Paul isn't about to suffer some horrible fate in the near future.
- In Monsters, Inc., when Sulley and Mike find Boo after she ran away in the office building and they presumed she got killed in a garbage masher, Sulley reveals his parental instinct toward her by sternly saying "Don't you EVER run away from me again, young lady!" Then he hugs her and adds "But I'm so glad you're safe...!"
- In How to Train Your Dragon, after Hiccup recovers from the final battle with the Green Death, Astrid punches him, saying, "That's for scaring me!" She then kisses him, clearly grateful that he was alive and well.
- Big Hero 6:
- The first thing Tadashi does when he rescues Hiro from some thugs is to ask if he is all right before chewing him out for getting in trouble.
Tadashi: Are you okay?
Hiro: Yeah, I'm fine.
Tadashi: *hits Hiro in the shoulder* Then what were you thinking?!
- After having to bail Hiro and Tadashi out of prison in the beginning, Aunt Cass swings between ranting at them about how worried she was and eating comfort food from her café.
- The first thing Tadashi does when he rescues Hiro from some thugs is to ask if he is all right before chewing him out for getting in trouble.
- The Little Mermaid: King Triton's driving force behind destroying all of his daughter's human-related items, leading to horrible results.
- Kenai from Brother Bear 2 chews out Koda for running off to a dangerous mountain. Koda replies that he was just scared that Kenai would abandon him for Nita, calming Kenai down as he reassures him.
Films — Live-Action
- In The Dark Knight, Jim Gordon pretends to be dead in order to capture the Joker and doesn't inform his family of this plan. Upon seeing her "dead" husband on the front porch, his wife immediately slaps him across the face, then starts sobbing and hugs him.
- In Thor, Odin gets furious at Thor when he foolishly goes to Jotunheim to pick a fight with the Frost Giants which nearly gets him, his brother, and his friends killed. This leads to Thor getting stripped of his powers and banished from Asgard to teach him some humility and wisdom on Midgard.
- Now and Then: Chrissy when Roberta had thought it would be a good prank to pretend she'd been killed jumping into a river. Touching as Chrissy only gets the punch in because she's bending over Roberta as the only one of the three girls who was prepared to give rescue breaths.
- In The Hobbit, Thorin furiously yells at Bilbo after the latter had put himself in danger to protect Thorin from Azog and his mooks. After listing all his potential failings and reasons why Bilbo doesn't belong with the company, Thorin then pulls Bilbo into a hug and declares "I've never been so wrong in all my life."
- After Aragorn was believed to be dead in Lord of the Rings and made it safely to Helms Deep, Gimli pushed past the crowd of Rohan people, all the while furiously exclaiming that he was going to kill Aragorn. But the second he saw Aragorn, his anger simply melts into relief and he happily proclaims he's glad to see that Aragorn was all right before grabbing him in a Man Hug.
- Katniss yells at Peeta in The Hunger Games after hearing a cannon and thinking he's been killed. Played up for maximum ship teasing.
- Likely the case with the un-named mother in the "Niagara Falls" sequence in Superman II. After Supes rescues the little boy from the falls, he's returned to his mom who angrily reads the riot act to the kid as they walk off.
- In stark contrast to his usual serene temperament, Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire has Dumbledore roughly grab Harry and demand the truth after his name appears in the Goblet of Fire.
- Camille from Super Powereds gets this way when Vince comes dangerously close to getting himself killed just to put in a good showing on a test. She even goes so far as to say that if he gets that badly injured again, she won't rescue him, just stabilize his wounds and leave him to suffer.
- C. S. Lewis's Voyage of the Dawn Treader: Reepicheep goes overboard, and the first mate bursts into exclamations that he's more trouble than the rest of the crew and ought to be thrown into irons. The narrator Lampshades this by pointing out that the mate is so angry because he likes Reepicheep very much — just like your mother will be much angrier with you for running into the street than a stranger.
- Belgariad: Polgara and Durnik, after the fight with the mud creatures.
- In the third Kate Daniels book by Ilona Andrews, we get this exchange.
Kate: What the fuck is wrong with you? He was silver! I had it under control. What was going through your head? Here's a toxic silver golem; I think I'll jump on his back! That's a damn good idea!Curran: Were you worried about me?Kate: No, I'm ranting for fun, because I'm a disagreeable bitch!
- Twisted inside-out and upside-down by Darken Rahl in Wizard's First Rule. While brainwashing a young child whom he intends to sacrifice, he asks about the boy's dog. The boy tells him that his dog once ran away, but was greeted lovingly when he was found. But one time the boy ran off without telling anyone and was punished with a belt when he returned. Darken Rahl asks him if his parents really love him, if they're willing to beat him and Pet the Dog for the same offense. While the boy's parents undoubtedly abided by this trope, Rahl managed to convince him that it was inverted just for him, causing the boy's love for them to be shaken.
- In Patricia A. McKillip's The Book of Atrix Wolfe, when Tanis was unhorsed and injured, and then had to kill a boar, his brother descended on him, dragging him away, and pounded him — only when Tanis recovered from his shock did he realize he was saying that he thought Tanis had been killed.
- In The Battle Of The Labyrinth, the fourth book of Percy Jackson and the Olympians, Annabeth has this reaction when Percy returns from Calypso's island, having been thought dead after an explosion in Hephaestus's workshop.
- And again in The Heroes of Olympus when Annabeth is reunited with Percy at Camp Jupiter.
- In John Connolly's Charlie Parker series, side characters Angel and Louis are lovers, gay, comic relief, snarky, kind of sort of insane, and just happen to be incredibly badass. Near the end of their own book where they act as main characters rather than supporting cast, there is a moment where Louis pretends to be dead to fake out the antagonist. Angel, wounded, weaponless, is pretty convinced Louis is dead, too, and has to fight to put aside emotion and focus. When it's revealed, then, that Louis was a big fat lying liar who was barely wounded, rather than being pleased, Angel kicks him, repeatedly, and without being gentle about it. It's made rather obvious this reaction is born of fear and adrenaline, and Louis takes it all in semi-amused stride.
Louis: I got shot!Angel: Not shot enough!
- In Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets, Mrs. Weasley's reaction to her children and Harry arriving at the Burrow is "Beds empty! No note! Car gone—could have crashed—out of my mind with worry—did you care?"
- In Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows, Ron finds Harry and Hermione in the woods after leaving them several weeks prior. He saves Harry's life and destroys a horcrux before actually returning to the camp. Hermione greets him with nearly hysterical anger.
- In Seanan McGuire's October Daye novel Rosemary and Rue, Toby comments on how Luna is generally angry only when she's worried.
- Katniss throws an angry fit at Peeta in The Hunger Games after she heard the cannon and thought he had been killed.
- Partially because he wasn't returning the mockingjay signal, which is what happened with Rue right before she was killed. This was also one of the first times that shows that she's really starting to care about him, not just playing it up for the cameras.
- In The Realms of the Gods, this exchange between Daine and Numair:
"Don't you ever—ever—frighten me that way again!" He shook her for punctuation, then wrapped his arms around her so tightly that she thought she might just pop. "Ever," he added, and kissed her thoroughly before releasing her."I don't know," she said impishly, smiling up at him. "I like this particular kind of tantrum."
- At one point in Uninvited by Sophie Jordan, Sean chews out Davy for going to his house to check on him despite how dangerous that was. She thinks he's just annoyed because he doesn't care about her, when he's obviously scared and worried for her because he cares more than he's letting on.
- In the Judge Dee novel Murder in Canton Tao Gan explodes in fury when he hears the blind girl he just met is missing, ranting to Chiao Tai about her naivete and how she belongs in jail where she'd be protected. Chiao Tai raises an eyebrow. He is experienced enough to know what this means.
- In Cold Days, Harry commits suicide-by-proxy and, much to his surprise, is resurrected several months later. His brother Thomas, who knew nothing about this except that Harry had been assassinated practically tears into him when Harry has finally gotten around to telling him the truth.
- In The Goblin Emperor, the one time Csevet yells at Edrehasivar VII (alias Maia, the protagonist and eponymous emperor) is after Maia did something very reckless that he did not consider dangerous, but which landed him in a position wherein he could easily have been assassinated. Since yelling at the emperor is just not done, Csevet prostrates himself on the garden path immediately after this outburst. Maia generously forgives him.
- In Komarr when she and Miles are rescued by Captain Toumonen mother Ekaterin Vorsoisson instantly recognizes the Impsec man's furious 'Thank God you're safe/I'm going to strangle you with my bare hands' reaction as this trope.
- Inara does this to Mal in Firefly. She even gave his unconscious-but-alive body a kiss; however, it was also played with when her relief turns to anger when she realizes that the knockout agent Saffron used was on his lips, and she passes out moments later while halfway through insulting Mal's parentage.
- At the end of the episode, just as she is about to admit that she kissed him, Mal assumes she instead kissed Saffron. Inara doesn't deny this, because she would rather not face the consequences of kissing Mal.
- On White Collar, this is Peter's reaction every time Neal does something heedless...so it happens every episode.
- Ziva and Tony on NCIS have a tendency to yell at each other and get really annoyed when they were worried about the other person. They'll both deny it's worry, though.
- Also, Diane, ex-wife to both Gibbs and Fornell. After he third (and current) husband is rescued, she goes off on him for being reckless. Knowing that this trope was in effect, he calms her down by telling her he's okay. She immediately breaks down and embraces him, to the shocked looks of Gibbs and Fornell, who have never seen that side of her.
- Brennan on Bones punches Booth when it turns out he wasn't really dead. She claimed it was because he didn't tell her. According to him, he requested that she be told, but his superiors decided not to. The audience can probably figure out why.
- Star Trek: The Original Series: Kirk and Spock are all over this one. In the episode "The Apple", Spock takes a poisoned dart for Kirk. Upon Spock's waking up, Kirk berates him for putting himself in danger, then afterwards adds "but thanks." This would be a Crowning Moment Of Ho Yay for any other couple, but for Kirk and Spock, for whom the original Slash Fic was written, this sort of Ho Yay is just par for the course.
- In Kamen Rider Den-O, the events of the first movie has three out of four of Ryotaro's partner Imagin disappear from the timeline. When they reappeared just fine later the fourth Imagin, Momotaros (a possible male Tsundere), shows us how much he missed them.
- In the Doctor Who episode "The Impossible Astronaut", River Song greets the Doctor with a slap after she's just seen his future self die.
- Sarah Jane Smith had a lot of this when she traveled with the Fourth Doctor. A classic example is "Pyramids of Mars"—she thinks he's dead and starts weeping over him, only to be flustered when he says, "You're soaking my shirt." When she meets up with the Doctor in the New Series, after her initial joy her reaction is: "I thought you died! I waited for you and you didn't come back and I thought you must have died!"
- The Eleventh Doctor is rather prone to this—he can be quite harsh with Amy and Rory when he's exceptionally frightened for their safety.
- In Misfits, once the team has learned that Nathan is still alive and actually immortal after getting impaled on a fence post and being buried in the local cemetery for the past few weeks, Kelly immediately flies into a rage and starts hitting him.
- Dean Winchester of Supernatural is the poster boy for this trope. His brother, his father figure, his best friend—if they put themselves in danger, they can expect to get snarled and yelled at.
- Jules in Flashpoint gave Team Dad Parker a What the Hell, Hero? after he had put himself in danger to protect a girl from one of his previous cases and almost died because of it. Half of the lecture was about Parker placing himself in that situation without calling for backup. The other half was causing the team to go frantic with worry.
- Nina gets like this a lot during House of Anubis in season 2. She had a tendency to get mad at her friends for trying to help save her life, because it was putting themselves in danger, too.
- Happens a lot in The Vampire Diaries between Bonnie and Jeremy.
- Helix: Downplayed between CDC coworkers Alan and Julia. For the first two days of their mission at research base Arctic Biosystems, Alan needlessly bickers with ex-wife Julia while pulling rank as mission lead and dictating where Julia focuses her efforts at containing an outbreak of Synthetic Plague. He later apologizes and reveals that he's snappish because he feels he can't protect her from The Virus if he doesn't know her whereabouts. She chides him mildly, but its made clear that, in their brief time together, he's reignited his old torch.
- In "FZZT", an episode of Agents of S.H.I.E.L.D., Simmons gets infected with a Chitauri virus that's already killed others, and all the anti-serums she and Fitz come up with have failed. Knowing she's putting the plane at risks if she stays, she jumps out without a parachute, right as Fitz discovers one of the anti-serums actually works. Fortunately, Ward is able to jump out of the plane, inject her and save her, but that doesn't make Coulson any less pissed when they return.
- In the first episode of season 3 of Sherlock, the titular character reveals himself to be alive after a 2-year absence. John proceeds to punch, strangle, and headbutt him after each attempt at an explanation. The creators of the show agreed that this is a far more natural reaction than that of Watson in the book (he faints).
- In Gotham, when Alfred finds out Bruce was burning himself intentionally to "test his own strength", his first reaction is to hit the boy and call him a "stupid boy" before immediately hugging him tightly and trying to reassure him.
- The Flash (2014): When Barry angrily confronts his childhood-bully-turned-metahuman before the team has worked out how to beat him and gets badly injured as a result, Dr Wells yells at him for it. When Barry tries to justify his recklessness with his Healing Factor, Wells angrily tells him that he can't heal when he's dead. With the reveal of Wells' true reasons for training the Flash, scenes like this have the added dimension of him needing Barry alive for his own purposes, rather than being purely concerned for his safety.
- The Cosby Show: Possibly the greatest example in fiction comes from the episode "Off To See The Wretched". To provide context, Vanessa and her friends went to Baltimore for a concert, but didn't tell their parents. Clair learned that Vanessa's friend's apartment caught fire, so she spent much of time thinking Vanessa was dead. When Clair learned that Vanessa instead went to Baltimore, she was less than amused, and loudly berated her for lying and making her worry:
Clair: You bring yourself into this house right now! And, if you think that 30-minute ride home was something, believe me, honey, we've only just begun! Here we think you're lying in the floor of some burning building dying of asphyxia and you're down in Baltimore, having BIG FUN! Weren't you, Vanessa? Isn't that where you were? Didn't you go down there to Baltimore to have big fun, Vanessa? Tell me, didn't you go for big fun?Vanessa: Mom...Clair: SHUT UP! Don't you DARE open your mouth when I'm asking you a question!
- In Terrahawks, the episode "Mind Monster" ends with Tiger trapping the eponymous monster by allowing it to invade his brain and then having it wiped out, risking permanent brain damage in the process. Mary has a few choice words for him on the subject:
Mary: Tiger...what you did was a marvelous, brave, foolhardy, pigheaded, stupid thing to do!
- In Dynasty Warriors 5, if you're fighting on the side of Wei and your character takes a beating, Cao Cao will berate you, all the while sounding concerned for your well being.
Cao Cao: Are you trying to kill yourself!? Fall back!
- In Super Robot Wars Original Generation, Arado covered Seolla from fire and almost died for it. Seolla then angrily chews out Arado.
Seolla: Do you know much I am worried!?Arado: ...As big as your breasts, maybe?
- Cue to a slap and more chewing from Seolla. But shortly after she expresses that she is thankful for the cover.
- In the end to Star Ocean: The Last Hope, the party is forced to leave Edge behind in the collapsing dungeon because he was slowed down trying to help Faize. When Edge walks back into the ship after escaping by other means, Reimi immediately slaps him (again), then falls into his arms crying in relief.
- In Mega Man Zero 3, Ciel pulls something similar. After Zero leaps onto a launching missile in an attempt to stop it from destroying innocent lives (he fails to stop the missile, though), she tells him to promise that he'll never do anything like that again. His response? "I'll think about it." Considering what happens to him in the next game, he never learns. Also consider that, technically, Ciel is Zero's superior, and that both times he's acted against her orders...
- In Baldur's Gate II, one event that shows up if you try to romance Jaheira is for the party to be ambushed by bandits who take her hostage to rob you. If the protagonist tries to exchange himself with her as a hostage, you'll get arrowed for half your current hit points, Jaheira fights free, and this trope will get evoked once the bandits are dead.
- Final Fantasy IX: Zidane has opted to stay behind and rescue his brother Kuja, and, after a year, was presumed dead. Cue this absolutely touching ending.
- In Grandia, Justin must go through one of two magical portals. The right one will let him put an end to the deadly, acidic rain that's harming the locals, while the wrong one will kill him outright. When he doesn't immediately come back out, Feena (who chose the portal) begins to panic. He only shows up again as they're leaving the collapsing dungeon, and Feena responds as expected.
- In the True Ending for BlazBlue: Calamity Trigger, Noel Vermillion manages to save Ragna the Bloodedge from a long fall into the Cauldron and a horrible fate as the Black Beast. As soon as she manages to haul him out of the Cauldron, she begins screaming at Ragna about how scared she was that he was going to die, repeatedly calling him stupid and punching his chest. It actually manages to get through the stoic attitude he tries to wear fairly quickly.
- Noel does it again in the True Ending of Continuum Shift after Ragna frees her from Terumi's brainwashing and loses his arm in the process.
- In Solatorobo, after Red takes on Nero and Blanck for the first time, he barely escapes with his life. Once he wakes up and everyone is sure he's okay, Elh socks him a few times for being such an idiot. Then they comment on how it's good to see each other again after several months.
- Yang's ending in Street Fighter III Third Strike has his childhood friend Shaomei mentioning the trope to him when him and Yun come back home and her older sister Houmei gets pissed at them.
Shaomei: My sister can be so clumsy... She has been worried. She just has a hard time showing her relief. You know, she didn't eat a thing while you were gone.
- In the Mass Effect 3 DLC "Leviathan", if you brought Shepard's love interest along as a squadmate to 2181 Desponia, they will chide Shepard with this after he/she surfaces after meeting the titular Leviathan and is barely conscious.
- Elara Dorne, the Republic Trooper's Combat Medic companion in Star Wars: The Old Republic, will often angrily berate you for not standing still while she is trying to heal you—especially if you are in a relationship with her.
- Similarly, soldiers equipped with medpacks in XCOM: Enemy Unknown will angrily scoff at lower-ranked teammates while restoring their health.
- Resonance of Fate: After saving Zephyr from being killed by Lagerfeld, Leanne slaps him upside the head and angrily berates him for his death wish... only to collapse and tearfully beg him to at least "die with courage."
- In Sands of Destruction, after the Front travels to the Temple of Light to visit the Crimson Sun and ask him to bring Kyrie back from death, Morte is at first overjoyed to see Kyrie, but soon switches to screaming at him. She even punches him, much to the amusement of their teammates.
Morte: Did I ask you to die for me!?
- Early on in Persona 4, the protagonist and Yosuke get stuck inside a dungeon, leaving Chie panicked and wondering what happened to the two. When they return several hours later, she's holding back tears and angrily ranting about how much they suck before storming off.
- Later on in the game, after Naoto allows herself to be kidnapped in order to set a trap for the culprit, Kanji's the angriest with her, pointing out how reckless it was. The fact that he has an apparent crush on Naoto may influence this.
- In Kanji's third Social Link event, he invites the protagonist to his house, only to learn that his mother went to the hospital. Once the two of the two of you get there, Kanji learns that his mother actually took a young boy who was injured, and is infuriated at the misunderstanding, but is embarrassed about how he overreacted once he calms down.
- In Naoto's eighth Social Link event, the two of you encounter a man with what looks like a knife, and you can choose whether to protect Naoto, flee together or fight the man. Naoto knows that the "knife" isn't real, but says that if it was, you might have been in danger if you'd offered yourself as a shield.
- In Persona3, if you're playing as a female protagonist, later on in Yukari's Social Link, you can protect her from getting hit by a car, at which point she'll become quite angry about you risking yourself for her. She later calms down and admits that she's starting to realize why it was so hard for her mother to lose someone important to her.
- Fire Emblem Fates: The A-ranked support conversation between Midori and Kiragi has the latter retrieving a rare flower for the former (a possible call back to Fire Emblem Awakening which had Morgan do the same for Nah). Said flower only grows over dormant volcanoes, which are nevertheless covered with poisonous gas. Naturally, Midori tears into Kiragi for risking his life for her.
- Saber from Fate/stay night has this reaction whenever Shirou puts himself in danger. Makes a lot of sense, since she is essentially his bodyguard and he's less than cooperative with her efforts to protect him.
- Rin goes so far as to attack Shirou, out anger that he could be so thoughtless about the dangers of the Grail War that his ability to survive it worries her, which feeds back into anger about her worry about him. Though many of her attacks are lethal, the one that gets him actually protects his life by removing his Servant and his memory about the War.
- In his route of In Your Arms Tonight, Ginnosuke Oguri warns the protagonist to be wary of Ai Yashima. When her failure to follow his advice gets her drugged and almost raped, Ginnosuke quickly comes to her rescue - and once she's safe, he slaps her across the face and berates her for not paying attention to his warnings.
- Tyrna spends a lot of Sword Daughter in various forms of danger, and Gavin spends a lot of his time yelling at her about it, contributing significantly to their general dynamic of Belligerent Sexual Tension.
- If the player makes Wildfire choose her man over her best friend in War: 13th Day, she will berate Chase for not defending himself against Brooks's attack.4
- In Zero Time Dilemma, Akane constantly implores Junpei to be more compassionate (as he will unhesitatingly murder others to preserve their own lives). Then Junpei makes a Heroic Sacrifice that involves his body dying and his consciousness shifting over to another timeline. Akane tearfully explains to him that that was not what she meant.
Akane: Being the sole survivor does not make me happy!
- From Homestuck, Karkat Vantas' fussy anger and caustic snark is a near-perpetual state of being. This is partially due to his ego and anti-social attitude, but in the main because he's constantly worried that his friends (be they Alternian Troll or human) won't get out of Sburb alive, and fears that he's the reason for it. He's not entirely wrong, either.
- Sar'nel of Drowtales is Post Time Skip the officer of a squad with Ariel, Faen, Kau and Shala. He is at almost all times annoyed by Shala, who keeps making mistakes and general screw ups. Faen points out his constant state of annoyance is because he cares about her and the girl just keeps on screwing up.
- El Goonish Shive: The first panel of this strip, in which Mr. Verres expresses his feelings after the kids get back from defeating Damien.
- In Wapsi Square Amanda yelled at Monica for making her worry due to a little basement debacle. Monica in turn was smart enough to realize that this showed how much Amanda cared about her.
- The Inexplicable Adventures of Bob!—This is how Princess Voluptua let slip to Hibachi that she has feelings for him.
- This Girl Genius strip involves the Baron calling out his son for a foolish and risky move, mostly out of concern for his safety.
- In Faux Pas, Penny returns after they feared she'd been eaten to a hug and a scolding.
- In Archipelago Paolin does care lots about Credenza. The symptoms of this are yelling, Sand In My Eyes, refusal of a Cooldown Hug (denied) and
Paolin: That's it! You're grounded! Everyone's grounded!
- Jake of Magical Border Patrol is often guilty of this, fretting over the safety of his far more rash and far less experienced team mates, Pepper and Sarah.
- Worm: Brian is prone to this. As an example, in Snare 13.10, he yells at Taylor for having risked her life to rescue him from Bonesaw.
- In RWBY, Yang Xiao Long angrily begged Blake Belladonna to stop obsessing over Roman Torchwick, because it was causing her to lose sleep, which in turn was causing Blake to break down physically and emotionally. Yang explained that she had been there, and would've died along with Ruby if it weren't for her uncle. When Blake refused with equal vehemence, Yang resorted to shoving her. To prove Yang's point, Blake was too weak to fight back.
Yang: I told you, I'm not telling you to stop! I haven't! To this day, I still wanna know what happened to my mother, and why she left me. But I will never let that search control me. We're going to find the answers we're looking for, Blake, but if we destroy ourselves in the process, then what good are we?Blake: You don't understand! I'm the only one who can do this!Blake: I'd fight him!Yang: *shoves Blake* You'd lose!Blake: *ineffectually shoves Yang* I can stop him!Yang: You can't even stop me! *Yang shoves her so hard she causes Blake to fall over the table behind her. Blake and Yang glare at each other, then Yang slowly walks up and takes her into a hug* I'm not asking you to stop... Just please... Get some rest. Not just for you, but for the people you care about.
- In Carmilla, this is Danny's reaction to a lot of what Laura does, particularly when she learns Laura's untied Carmilla. This is also what leads to their unofficial breakup, since Laura doesn't want anyone worrying about her.
- Justice League Unlimited (2004):
[after Flash narrowly survives a death-defying fall]Hawkgirl: [shouting] Don't you ever scare me like that again! [stalks off]The Flash: [to Fire] She loves me. Seriously, she's like the big sister I never had. Only, you know, shorter.
- Another example:
Big Barda: "Scott! I thought you were dead! ... You insufferable showboat! I thought you were dead!"
- In that same episode, we have this exchange between Barda and Scott's assistant Oberon:
Barda: Always were more trouble than you were worth, little man.
Oberon: All legs and no heart.
Barda(smiling warmly): You're just too far away to hear it. (kneels down and hugs Oberon)
- Another example:
- The Secret Saturdays:
Drew: [angrily] Do you have any idea how DANGEROUS that was?!Zak: [a little bewildered] Mom...you taught me that move!Drew: [calming to look sheepish] I know...I'm...just so proud you nailed it.
- The Spectacular Spider-Man: Peter has to sneak off to fight the Sinister Six as Spider-Man, and Gwen thinks he has been crushed by the giant tree in Times Square. When he shows himself again, complete with lame excuse, she throws her arms around him and exclaims "PETE!" Then she starts with the "Where have you been, I thought you were dead!"
- Then there's Sally Avril, who, despite strongly disliking Peter, is genuinely horrified when she thinks he's been killed in the episode "Probable Cause". She does hug him when he reappears—then demands, "Wait! How come you're still alive?!", and then punches him, saying, "Do you know what you put me through?" Peter, taken aback, says that he didn't know she cared. Sally says that she doesn't, but she didn't want him blown to bits either—she's not a monster. Then she tells him that if he told anyone that she'd hugged him, he'd wish that he'd died.
- In the SWAT Kats episode "Mutation City", when it's revealed T-Bone can't swim (and the city happens to be flooded), Razor has to rescue him from the rising water-levels. His reaction;
Razor: If you drown, I'm gonna kill ya!!
- Spongebob Squarepants: Mr. Krabs does this during the episode "Hooky", when he believes Patrick and Spongebob were caught on hooks and fished.
Mr. Krabs: Oh, if I could just hold 'em in me arms one last time... (Spongebob and Patrick float safely back down) I'D THROTTLE 'EM!
- In the Courage the Cowardly Dog episode "The Lady in the Puddle", after Courage saves Eustace from being seduced and eaten by the eponymous Lady, Muriel goes from distraught to relieved, then to clocking Eustace with a rolling pin and angrily asking "Where have you been?!"
- In DuckTales, "Hero for Hire", Scrooge's joy that Launchpad was only Faking the Dead soon becomes rage.
Scrooge: Launchpad, you're alive! I'm going to kill you!
- An example of this occurred with a British teenager travelling in Australia. He went out for a trek alone without a mobile phone or supplies and got lost. He survived two weeks in the wild. His dad, on hearing the news, said he felt partly, "Yay! My son is alive and well!" and partly, "OMG! What a fucking idiot! I am going to kick his arse!".
- In fact, a common reaction by parents whose children have done something silly like wandering off in a shop or park and getting lost is—upon retrieving the child—to tear them off a strip about it. Similarly happens with teachers of small children who may have wandered off or maybe simply gotten lost during a field trip. The same can be said of parents that punish their kids for being out past curfew, especially if the children never called to say they'd run late.
- This kind of thing can have tragic results, (see Well-Intentioned Extremist below) such as when a highly Christian parent is furious over their child coming out to them, for fear that their offspring will suffer in the afterlife if they are not stopped now. Same with a parent becoming a harsh and demanding Education Mama (or Papa) due to fear their child will end up starving on the street if they are not pushed to work/study hard.
- In a more serious version, is why relationships between "normal healthy" people and those who are disadvantaged/disabled in some way (from a physical illness, to a mental illness, to an addiction or whatever, or who simply are on the extreme other side of the class divide, et cetera) and relationships that are between the disadvantaged/disabled but where one partner is more capable of functioning/appearing normal take a lot more effort to maintain than relationships between people who are roughly at the same point. For example, a normal healthy person may feel this way over his/her depressed partner's suicidal feelings—and make them worse accidentally by the depressed partner taking the anger as being personal hatred toward them and/or another reason why they're better off dead.
- This can also be said for parents of disabled children. In some cases, the feeling of being helpless to a child's condition or odd/destructive behaviors due to mental/medical issues can cause a lot of stress on said caregiver who is constantly worried about their charge's ability to survive in the world with their illness, leading to Why Couldn't You Be Different? and taking their stress out on the child unintentionally.
- It's common for a Well-Intentioned Extremist to involve this, such a person with a certain political or religious view trying to force their opinion on others, getting increasingly frustrated by said other party constantly turning their views down in favor of their own, even though the Extremist believes the opposer is setting themself up for disaster and really needs to change for their own good or safety.
- Lets face it, those of you who are parents have almost certainly done this at some point, and those of you who might become parents in the future almost certainly will. Being scared out of your wits when your child goes missing and being angry at all the wasted stress when they turn up happy as Larry and it turned out they were just messing around on their own and totally forgot about you are both probably the most natural human reactions there are.