"Well, Seymour, it's clear you've been falsely accused, because no one, anywhere, ever, would pretend to be a 44-year-old virgin."
— Superintendant Chalmers, The Simpsons, "Grade School Confidential."
While teenagers Can't Get Away with Nuthin' , and characters in slasher films often suffer Death by Sex, it is understood that the leading male must be sexually active. A guy who has never Done It, or even just does not Do It often, is simply Not Man Enough to save the day, solve the mystery or whatever. It doesn't matter whether sexual experience is in any way relevant to the skills needed in the plot, he just has to be Man Enough so he has to have Done It and preferably Do It Regularly. That's How It Is. Don't Argue.
Establishing the character's sexual competence varies from seeing a beautiful blonde, who has nothing to do with the plot and no lines to speak, crossing or leaving his bedroom early on in the film, to references to his ex-wife or old flames. Generally, however, the more macho Action Heroes don't have wives or steady girlfriends when the adventure starts, because that would stop them from hooking up with the female lead. We just have to be made aware that she is far from being the first beautiful woman he's had (Direct-to-DVD movies often get much lazier about this and combine it with the requisite sex scene, and will often have the male protagonist have sex with a few girls on screen while he's in the process of falling for the female protagonist).
It also, of course, serves to make the audience absolutely and totally sure that their hero is ardently heterosexual. After all, while homosexual or bisexual characters are becoming more and more common, the number of them that are leading characters can probably be counted on one hand. Establishing the male lead's heterosexuality assures the majority of the audience that it is thusly safe for women to want him and men to want to be him.
Note that the term "virgin" originally meant "a female who has not had sex with a man", and thus literally no male was ever a virgin — which sort of underscores the trope. The definition became more vague as language evolved.
This trope is NOT simply for examples where a male is expected to have sex and/or teased until he does so. This trope is for when a male is portrayed in-universe as feeble, pathetic, and poorly adjusted, with his virginity as an implicit or explicit cause.
In the opening scene of the OAV, when Bean is acting as a getaway driver for a group of bank robbers, a naked female hostage is tossed from his car before it drives away. But since the video was made in the 1980s, when on-screen female nudity and/or a sex scene between the male and female leads were pretty much a prerequisite, especially in action flicks (and as stated above, Kenichi Sonada was rather fond of portraying his nubile young females in varying states of undress), there's very little reason to believe that there's any sexual significance to this. Misty Brown finds herself filling a similar role at one point during the Gunmith Cats manga.
Cyborg 009 may be among the first anime/manga examples of this trope. There is a definite romantic relationship between 003 (Françoise Arnoul) and 009 (Joe Shimamura) and it has been strongly implied, at least, that this relationship is sexual (and thus, at the time, extremely controversial) in nature.
It actually depends on which 009 media we're talking about. The most blatant sexual allegory comes in the manga, and it's hinted that it was all a dream.
Cyborg 002 (Jet Link), however, plays this straight and gets caught in the act◊, true to form, with a blonde woman who had not appeared in the story before and has not appeared since.
Hot Gimmick: Ryoki, who is extremely ashamed that he still is.
Averted in Gundam00 with Setsuna F. Seiei. He starts as a Chaste Hero who can't even understand why a girl would get scared when he gets in her room at night and then rejects another girl when she steals his first kiss, then becomes a Celibate Hero who thinks of the same first girl more as a sisterly/motherly figure and says it out loud. All around, however, he simply doesn't seem to be interested.
There was controversy over this scene, based on the fact that at the time Kira was 16 and Flay was in the year below him at school, which makes her 15.
Double for the novelization for Mobile Suit Gundam, Amuro had sex with Sayla whom Pillow Talk was rather dark as she wants her brother dead. And lets not get started in the Novelization of Char's Counterattack, where the first couple of pages details Amuro having one last bit of sex with Beltochika before his final battle against Char.
Though the first novelization also mocks the trope a bit; Amuro thinks that having had sex makes him "more mature" and the narration points out that only an immature person would think that.
Averted in GUN×SWORD: A recurring gag is that Van, Celibate Hero that he is, usually tries to keep women from getting too close by telling them "I'm a virgin". As he appears to not have had any interest in women before meeting his (soon-to-be-late) bride, he's probably telling the truth.
Further explored with Michael; after he has sex with Fasalina, the narrator intones, "While no one was looking, a boy became a man"... but the narrator continues to call Michael "boy" afterwards, while he refers to Van as "man" throughout. One sex act doth not a man make.
Averted by Vash of Trigun. He has a Badass Longcoat, Cool Shades, not one but twobadass nicknames ("the Stampede, the Humanoid Typhoon,"), a 60 billion-double-dollar bounty on his head, and a very large gun. About the only thing he didn't have going for him was a giant robot. Vash is OFFERED sex by two women following his saving the town by defeating the Nebraskas and allowing them to claim the reward. He acts drunk, and like he's passed out and they leave disappointed, while we are treated to a shot of an open eyed and completely sober Vash looking regretful but determined.
Several manga Omakes might suggest that Nicholas D. Wolfwood is only active with his grotesque blow-up doll - which makes some sense since he's actually in his late teens, much younger than in the anime, has been busy surviving with debilitating traumas and a spectacular lack of social skills, and is more than awkward with women (including Millie). The anime suggests he has more experience and acts as a foil to Vash's obvious frustration. And he gets killed off right after having off-screen sex with Millie, anyway.
And Legato, though he gets explicitly noticed for his good looks, is much too obsessive a follower of Knives and his plans to have had any intimate encounters. Mostly he meets people and they die.
Of course, in the manga he appears to have been the kept catamite of someone very ugly before Knives destroyed the whole town except for him. If his psychic powers had just awakened a little earlier... This tends to put people off sex.
Averted in Code Geass. Despite a surprisingly attractive Unwanted Harem all making advances toward Lelouch in one form or another, he remains a virgin (as far as we know) for the entire series. Word of God even states that Lelouch was too busy with his Magnificent Bastardry to have time for women.
Subverted in R2 when a depressed and Heroic BSODing Lelouch orders Kallen to "comfort him". She slaps him instead, because she couldn't refuse anything to Zero, but doesn't want to be a sex toy for the pathetic thing Lelouch was at this point.
Gene Starwind in Outlaw Star. It is made quite clear that he has slept with many women before the heroine even shows up. Almost part-and-parcel of the roguish space pilot image. Though it's something of a Zig Zagged Trope, as his skirt-chasing ways are played as a sign of his immaturity.
Even Suguru Misato form Mahoromatic, who is usually considered as the dorky harem male lead. To be fair, it was after the time skip.
Averted by implication in Hellsing of all things - since true vampires can only be turned from virgins (if they're not virgins they become mindless ghouls), Alucard, Seras Victoria, Integra Hellsing, and the priest-vampire who appears at the beginning obviously managed to avoid sex far beyond the supposed norm. The priest-vampire doesn't even bother considering the possibility that Seras is a virgin, saying that he'll go ahead and rape her before turning her into a ghoul.
Joked about in The Abridged Series, Jan Valentine claims Millennium found a way to turn non-virgins into vampires, "You don't think I'm that much of a loser, do you?"
Note that, even though that last bit may have been a joke, it is explicitly stated that Millennium had found a way to turn virgins into ghouls, so it is perfectly possible that they found a way to turn non-virgins into vampires.
Probably played straight with Alucard, who was Vlad Tepes in life and was married at least twice. The fact that he became a vampire by drinking blood from the battlefield instead of sired by another vampire means that he most likely didn't have to be a virgin.
Massively averted in Katekyo Hitman Reborn!, where 99% of the male characters are very obviously virgins. Of course, the target audience seems to be women, so...
And the BABY is the only one who is definitely not a virgin. Of course, he is a regular adult turned into a immortal baby, so it isn't that creepy.
Just name any Harem Anime or Shounen Romantic Comedy as it averts the trope in general, guy often remains a virgin to the very end of the series.
Notable exception with Ai Yori Aoshi. Kaoru and Aoi are very specifically given a chance to consumate their relationship, even with approval by the series' Harem Nanny. The anime does a Sexy Discretion Shot while turning out the lights and then moving to the next scene. The manga is a little less discrete: showing Aoi disrobe and standing naked before Kaoru and then climbing into bed with him.
Averted in Full Metal Panic! with Sousuke. Despite being through many horrible wars, being a military man, and being at the age where he should be going through puberty, Sousuke has as much understanding about sex as a 5 year old. It's pretty safe to assume he's a virgin when he thinks that condoms are for storing water, "kissing" is a synonym for CPR, and "flirting" is trapping girls in cages and holding them captive at gunpoint. Seriously, you don't get chaster than him. As a matter of fact, Kurz even mocks him for it, insulting him by calling him a "gutless virgin."
In Tenjou Tenge and Air Gear, most of the male protagonist's friends have had sex, the guy however is still a virgin.
Lupin III steals two things: valuable goods and the virginity of women.
This is joked about in Fruits Basket, when Tohru's class puts on a performance of Cinderella. Kyo plays the prince and is extremely mopey and uninterested in the ball being held. During the performance, Arisa (who is playing his "best friend") tells him to cheer up and "it's no wonder you're still a virgin". Kyo freaks out at this and yells at her not to say stuff like that.
School Days has Itou Mokoto tuned up his jerkass Level potential of the original game Up To Maximum. The guy has sex with EVERY teenaged girls that are story-related and leaves the two main heroines in sympathic Yandere statements. Poor Kotonoha. Basically, Makoto is your average Unlucky Everydude in the beginning. The moment he gives in and has sex with Sekai, however, is the very moment things go badly wrong.
Averted by about half the cast of Baccano!!, though not for lack of trying by some. Justifications range from crippling anxiety (yes, he's still badass) to waiting for a certain girl to massive social ineptitude.
Hinted and then Confirmed in Macross Frontier, during Sheryl's stay with Alto in episode 22, both of them finally spent the night together which was proven in a Macross Magazine and later in the light novels.
Considering the huge kerfuffles about false interviews and other sources, link please?
A G-rated version occurs in Pokémon. While Ash doesn't seem to show much interest in ladies (and has been shown to be completely oblivious on more than one occasion), his friend and traveling partner Brock has made a habit of sidling up to women he just met and flirting with them.
The same thing can be found in InuYasha; it's never stated outright in the anime that Miroku is sexually active (he may in fact be a virgin), but he manages to at least flirt with (read: propose marriage to, sometimes with a little bit of innocent fondling thrown into the mix) virtually every woman that he encounters.
In Kanokon, in the the final volume of the manga, Kouta does it with Chizuru before she was captured. Since this was their first time, it was awkward for both of them.
In Mad Bull 34, weak-willed rookie cop Eddie Daizaburo is pretty embarrassed about the fact that he's a virgin - especially considering the fact that his partner, "Sleepy" John Estes, is a Dirty Cop running a prostitution racket and a well known lothario. Sleepy tries to get a bunch of his girls to show Eddie a good time, but he's not having it because it's just not what he's looking for. Thereafter, Sleepy occasionally broaches the subject to annoy Eddie.
In Holyland Izawa is constantly switching girlfriends, this is however justified since it's a manga about teenagers street-fighting and we all know women just love bad guys, right?
Somewhat averted in Space Battleship Yamato; the show gave a little background on the resident Smart Guy Shiro Sanada (Sandor). All we know is that he knew Alex Wildstar (Mamoru Kodai) from the space academy. And that Sandor lost his limbs during a childhood accident. We know little about his personal life. And unlike the other key characters, he wasn't given a love interest. They even gave Homer (Aihara) one. For all we know, the only reason the issue doesn't come up is because while Sandor isn't exactly "old", he is a few years older than the majority of the other crewmen/women aboard Yamato and it was probably decided that he works best in a Big Brother Mentor role. That of course, doesn't rule out off-screen romances. Better than the American Star Blazers comic which ridiculously suggests that he lost more than his limbs in that childhood accident.
Averted in Sun Ken Rock. The protagonist Ken lead a very powerful(but small) mafia through shear force of personality, and has beaten up nearly every male in the series. Ken, even with many (beautiful) women literally throwing themselves at him, maintains his virginity as part of his devotion to Yumin, even though they have yet to do anything either.
The Weiß Kreuz drama CD Fight Fire With Fire goes out of its way to reveal that Aya lost his virginity at the age of sixteen, two years before his traumatic backstory kicked in. This stands out because Aya otherwise shows no interest in sex or romance at any point throughout the series, in contrast to the other main characters.
Discussed in one chapter of the shoujo manga Men's Highschool, practically lampshading this trope in this page.
Averted with Issei Hyodou in High School D×D although he really wants to lose his virginity already but somehow can't. It's then revealed that the reason why he can't just lose his virginity to his harem who are totally willing for Issei is because of trauma when he was killed by Reynalle all the way back when the plot starts.
Idiot Hero Son Goku from Dragon Ball has two sons with an age gap of around ten years between them. His best friend Krillin as well as his rival Vegeta also have children; Vegeta's children have even a wider age gap than Goku's sons. And Son Gohan gets eventually a daughter himself, while Son Goten has at least one girlfriend (in the non-canon series Dragon Ball GT Goten switches his girlfriends).
Piccolo subverts this trope, since Namekians are an asexual race and are able reproduce in an asexually way, meaning that Piccolo is neither a virgin nor a non-virgin.
In Magi - Labyrinth of Magic, Koumei started teasing Alibaba about this before realizing he's right, Alibaba never touched a woman, let alone have a girlfriend. Kouen found this hilarious.
Averted in Sin City, in which it is implied that Marv — the big, tough, near-invincible badass — was having "the night of his life" with Goldie, and lost his virginity to her. Marv specifically says that not even any of the city's numerous prostitutes would come near him due to his enormous stature, tough looks, and violent reputation, the implication being that certainly no non-prostitute would come within a mile of him.
Also averted in Watchmen with Rorschach. He's either asexual or is very repressed. Either way, with sexual issues ranging back to his childhood, his fear of women and his trouble mingling with people in general, it's pretty obvious that Rorschach is a virgin.
Nite Owl II has similar issues, although he's probably not a virgin, and has difficulty his first time having sex with Silk Spectre II. But not the second time.
Batman has a habit of being irresistibly sexy to women, both in and out of costume. Seeing as his alter ego (or day-job) is that of a playboy billionaire, it's safe to say he's done a fair bit of boning on a regular basis, though whether he enjoys it or not depends on the writer.
According to the Knightfall novel, he's "sowed his wild oats" while traveling around the world, and currently has a son by Talia al Ghul.
Spike Witwicky in IDW's Transformers comics. First appearing in All Hail Megatron, we get a rapid-fire dose of this trope in his appearances in AHM #16 (in a full-body cast being attended by three hospital hotties) and the second issue of the ongoing (leaving a house with a half-dressed woman in the doorway).
Originally averted with Spider-man, who was fifteen at the time of his creation. Although he had several major girlfriends, his relationship with them was clearly not sexual (his first on-screen kiss was when he was in college!◊)
He recently had a one-night stand with his roommate, which serves no purpose other than to have Peter get some (and complicate his life even more).
The Punisher MAX story arc "Valley Forge, Valley Forge," contains excerpts from a fictitious book written by the younger brother of a Vietnam soldier who died in combat. The writer reveres his brother's memory, describing him as "Clark Kent played by Jimmy Stewart," and in one passage the writer notes how glad he is that his brother lost his virginity before enlisting:
"I'm also reliably informed he didn't go to Vietnam a virgin... I was relieved to hear it. In light of what eventually befell him, learning otherwise would have killed me just a little bit more."
Scott Pilgrim had slept with several girls (Kim being his first) before getting to date Ramona, with whom he almost had sex in the first issue but went on to have drunken sex with in the fifth issue.
Due to the memory damage by Gideon it may be that Ramona or Envy may have been his firsts or that Ramona may have even been his first in volume 5.
Possibly averted in Irredeemable. The Plutonian can't have sex with anyone due to "Man of Steel, Woman Of Kleenex" concerns, but is still a strong-willed and upright manly man with the adoration of millions. When he uses a magic candle to briefly remove his powers, he has very passionate, very rough sex with one of his team mates. On the other hand, this was noted as the first time he was "unchained" and left his partner deeply shaken afterward. It's implied this taste of freedom may or may not have had something to do with him turning evil, or have been a glimpse at the fact that he was really a sociopath.
Said partner and the Plutonian were implied to have a sexual affair involving BDSM, pet play and other "taboo" sex practices via the photos in his secret lair. The insane thing... she is totally one hundred percent into it and he breaks up with her over it.
Subverted in the original X-Force, with eventual lovers Rictor and Shatterstar. After being groped in a club, Shatterstar flees in terror and later admits that he has no experience whatsoever. Attempting to comfort him, Rictor states that it's nothing to be ashamed of and admits that he's still a virgin — his Ladies' Man attitude is all an act.
Averted with Katar Hol in the Hawkworld continuity. When two women want to show their gratitude for saving their lives, he admits that he's a virgin and wants his first time to be special. That just makes them more interested in him.
Played with in the "Shout at The Devil" story line of Hack/Slash. Hulking and deformed slasher-slayer Vlad has unsurprisingly never "made the sex" with a woman, but can't rescue his partner-in-slayage Cassie until he does. The villain has a mind-control spell that only works on virgins. Hilarity ensues.
With the odd notable exception, Horndog protagonist Bob has pretty much had sex with every woman in the comic, or at least tried to.
Averted in Judge Dredd. Hinted at since the beginning and confirmed in recent years, Judges (of both sexes) are trained from the outset to be celibate. The "Wally Squad", i.e. the undercover division, are allowed to get it on but only when "in character" and even then they're not supposed to enjoy it. The penalty for infraction is usually dismissal; if they haven't yet infracted they are expected to resign. Many dismissed in this way, for example GalenDeMarco, become private investigators.
In V for Vendetta, Adam Susan is a virgin, though his feelings about this are debatable; his internal monologues mention that he has "never known the peace that lies between a woman's thighs", the choice of words implying that he is neither disgusted by nor indifferent to the idea of sex, and he seems to regard his lack of experience as a necessary result of (as he sees it,) his constant struggle to maintain order. Later it is shown that he is in love with Fate, the supercomputer that runs the country (which is never implied to be anything other than a very advanced, but non-sentient, machine) and is heavily implied to masturbate in front of it on one occasion, so apparently he does have a sex drive and is just rather peculiar in the direction it takes him.
Prince Charming of Fables is this trope Up to Eleven. He's shown in and around War and Pieces to be a brave soldier, skilled tactician, and elegant strategist who inspires those around him -but from his very first appearance there's barely a scene where he's not in or trying to get in a lady's pants. At one point, Beauty threatens to sic her husband on Charming if he doesn't watch it. Yes, that Beauty. And the curse isn't entirely gone.
Averted in A Pleasant Surprise. Midnight is explicity stated to be a virgin. The story is about him losing his virginity.
Kalash93 actualy averts this trope in two others stories of his.
This is brought up again in the sorta sequel, Relax. Heartwarming ensures.
Sunny Breeze of Racer and the Geek is also a virgin. It all makes very good sense in the story. He is uncomfortable with physical touch, awkward around mares, refuses to entertain the idea tha anybody could even want to be with him, and has no clue how to handle intimacy.
Yet another subversion happen in Blissful Dream. It's outright stated that Nikolai was a virgin until marriage. Of course, Fluttershy was also stated to have been one prior to their massiage.
Aversion in thisLOTR fanfic, where all of the members of the fellowship are virgins, except Pippin.
Averted with Minato in The Girl From Whirlpool. Because of this, some of his friends tried to get him to go to a brothel, where an assassin disguised as a prostitute from the Hidden Mist tried to kill him.
The adult Takeru Takaishi in the Tamers Forever Series is a Subversion of this trope. Despite being one of the biggest Bad Asses in the series, he is specifically stated to be a virgin and while this does cause a brief awkward moment, it's not seen as important. In fact it actually ends up being part oh his appeal with Rumiko calling men like him a "dying breed".
Fill the Moon plays with this. Xaldin is twenty-nine and has never had sex (up to chapter 50, anyway). He is still as canonically Badass as he is in the game, but the others occasionally tease him for it.
While not directly called to attention, this is implied to be ironically subverted in Fallout: Equestria. Calamity lived alone in a shack for years, acting as the lone defender of New Appleloosa but never actually living there. He remarks that, because none of the mares back in the Enclave shared his ideals, he saw no reason to pursue them romantically. Yet he loves meat, fixes things, and nopony would deny that he's a grade A badass at the start of the story and only becomes more so throughout! All things considered, chapter 32 with Velvet Remedy may very well be his fist time! Calamity, never very good with words, nonetheless assure both Velvet and Little pip that it wasn't just out of convenience and he intends to take the relationship seriously.
Zigzagged but ultimately averted in A Different Lesson with Tai Lung. He is indeed initially mocked (by Mantis and Monkey) for being a virgin, but this does not lesson his Badass nature one bit. Eventually he does lose his virginity...but this has no bearing on his fighting ability, since he in fact loses a major battle right after doing so. And when he does finally defeat the Big Bad later, it's as part of a team, and again his virginity or lack thereof isn't brought up nor does it have anything to do with his victory. So even when he ultimately does have sex, the attitude behind this trope still gets subverted.
Averted in Sephirothslave's Shinra High SOLDIER. Sephiroth is a virgin up until the age of 23, and he loses his virginity only because Jenova took control of his body and forced him to rape his fiancee Julia.
Averted in Empath: The Luckiest Smurf; even though the male Smurfs have all experienced "the Smurfette dream", they are willing to wait until Smurfette chooses which of them she wants to marry. The fact that there is only one adult female Smurf helps. Of course, Empath is the male Smurf that Smurfette had her first lip-lock kiss with, which the male Smurfs treat as if they had both gone all the way with each other.
In Iron Fist: The Movie , it is revealed that since Danny lived in K'un L'un from the time he was a boy until adulthood, he had never had a girlfriend with the implication that he did not have certain other experiences, either. He is still capable of kicking ass.
Averted in A Charmed Life with Light. Up until the events of the story he just wasn't interested in sex and was too busy studying and killing people.
Averted in "That Summer" by Garth Brooks.
Implied aversion in "I Wonder What the King Is Doing Tonight" from "Camelot", in which King Arthur sings about how he is frightened of his wedding night, despite being quite brave and manly otherwise. "You mean that a king who fought a dragon, hacked him in two and fixed his wagon, goes to be wed in terror and distress? Yes! A warrior who's so calm in battle, even his armor doesn't rattle, faces a woman petrified with fright? Right!"
Parodied in The Lonely Island'sI Just Had Sex. It doesn't matter if it lasted all of thirty seconds, if she was bored, if she made you wear a bag over your head - "Still counts!"
Aversion: In the 1987 movie version of Dragnet, Connie Swail is a virgin (we know because she's a virgin sacrifice) and it's implied Friday is too:
Pep Streebeck:Oh Joe, you never had these feelings before, have you? Joe Friday:Almost. I had a kitten once. Pep Streebeck:Yeah, it's going to be a little different. Connie is not going to be sleeping in a box, or meowing all night, or clawing up your drapes. Or maybe she will. I mean, you're both kind of starting from scratch with this.
Of course, this changes by the end of the film:
Streebeck:Hey, partner. I tried to call you up till midnight. I thought the Christian Science reading rooms closed at ten. Friday:Not that it's any of your business Mr. National Enquirer, but I had the pleasure of spending a quiet evening in the company of Connie Swail. Streebeck:Wait a minute! Connie Swail? Don't you mean "the virgin Connie Swail?!" Friday:>:)
In The Graduate, it's pretty clear that Ben, the protagonist, is a virgin before he sleeps with Mrs. Robinson. He acts so horribly awkward she outright asks him, and he unsuccessfully tries to deny it, so she basically dares him to prove himself. "Just because you happen to be inadequate in one way..." To his...credit?...Dustin Hoffman, 30 years old at the time, does a great job of playing a nervous, shy virgin.
Averted in Pleasantville, in which the title town is based on a 50s TV show, and thus no one ever has sex, until the protagonists show up...
Averted in Twilight. Edward has been a virgin for all his 114 years, and refuses to sleep with Bella before marriage, though she's dying to. Also Jacob is probably a virgin (nothing indicates otherwise) but then he's only 17.
Adam from Blast from the Past would certainly count, although his maladjusted demeanor probably has a lot more to do with the fact that he's spent his entire life in a bomb shelter with no one but his family.
Averted (one hopes) in all movies in which a young boy magically instantly grows up, the most famous being Big.
Then again the point is he's not a real man, he's a boy.
In Porky's, the main character's mission is to have sex — even by hiring a prostitute. The film derives its humor by frustrating every attempt until the end.
All the guys are desperate to lose their virginity in American Pie, but Jim is the only one who explicitly meets the "pathetic and maladjusted" definition of the trope.
The trope was averted in The Wicker Man (1973), where the hero's religiously inspired chastity is a major part of the plot. Of course, seeing as this gets him a Virgin Sacrifice at the end of the film, this could go either way.
The 2006 remake entirely omits the hero's religion and chastity. Apparently Neil La Bute couldn't believe Nicolas Cage as a virgin.
Averted in The Name of the Rose. Sean Connery plays a very Sherlock Holmes-like monk who, after learning that his young Watson-like protégé recently had sex for the first time, casually mentions that he can't offer much advice on that subject since it's beyond his experience.
Averted in the Star Wars films. Though it's never explicitly stated, Luke's general demeanor and the massive dearth of women on Tatooine imply that he's still a virgin, and remains so throughout the movies. Furthermore, Anakin, a thoroughly non-virginal Jedi, sends the whole Republic down the crapper and ushers in a new era of darkness.
The 40-Year-Old Virgin was all about the hero's attempts to lose his virginity. In a minor inversion, however, his male friends — who had all had sex and were eagerly egging him on — were in many ways much bigger losers than he was, and were certainly far more infantile and immature about sex, compared to the affable and handsome hero. One critic pointed that even his "unmanly" preference for bike riding rather than using a car or a motorcycle works to the hero's favor since it helps keep him in great shape and attractive to women.
Lampshaded in the conversation with the cop on the motorcycle. "I'll get it tattooed on my forehead, all right!?"
All of this joking and other general obsession about Max's lack of a sex life is made just a mite squicky, since he's only fifteen, at the very oldest!
The Nostalgia Chick: "After all, what are you doing if you're still in high school and still a virgin?"
It's implied, though never outright stated, that Billy was a virgin in One Flew Over The Cuckoo's Nest until he slept with Candy. However, in the novel though not the film, McMurphy claims to have lost his at the age of TEN. Though that may be macho bragging.
Totally subverted in Born on the Fourth of July where the protagonist (played by Tom Cruise) is a wrestling star in high school who loses his final match, much to the disappointment of his parents, goes off to Vietnam to prove his manhood, and gets his legs blown off. He then loses his high school sweetheart, who he had been saving himself for (who remains his friend and gets him involved in the anti-war movement). In a fit of despair, he moves to a whorehouse in Mexico frequented by boozy, PTSD'd Vietnam War paraplegics and attempts to lose his virginity (more or less) to an attractive girl there. He doesn't enjoy it much.
Alex O'Connell in The Mummy: Tomb of the Dragon Emperor tells his mother that he has had numerous romantic affairs right before he proceeds to botch a conversation with his love interest.
Averted in Weekend At Bernies II. One of the characters will die from a poison unless a voodoo potion with "the blood of a virgin" is made as an antidote. The poisoned character laments that he's going to die, but his friend gets up and begrudgingly holds out his finger, saying "take my blood". The potion is made from his blood and works, leading the now cured character in the final scene to razz his buddy by saying "thanks for keeping yourself a virgin for me."
Subverted in Revenge of the Nerds, pains are taken to show that the Nerds are not asexual or sexually inept, but rather simply misunderstood sexual experts, and that the beautiful girls don't know what they're missing by dating jocks.
Columbus in Zombieland. Aside from poorly adjusted in general, he's a Bad Liar when he discusses his supposed sex life when first meeting Tallahassee, and he gets really excited at the prospect of so much as stroking a girl's hair. He's an obvious virgin.
Averted in the first two Back to the Future movies. Marty McFly has a girlfriend, but he doesn't even get to kiss Jennifer Parker properly until the third movie because he's so busy fixing the timeline. Although Future Marty is married to her and they have kids. And there's no implication that he's slept with her or anyone else before. Of course these are family-friendly movies, but they wouldn't be the first to get crap past the radar. As for Doc Brown, he gets a love interest in the third movie, but in the first two he's bordering on Chaste Hero.
In the first film, Marty was planning a secret camping trip with Jennifer. The obvious implication was that this was when they were going to do it. With the rest of the movie series taking place over the course of a weekend in 1985 (for Marty it was about two weeks of time-travel), it just ends up never happening - although it COULD be assumed that they eventually rescheduled the camping trip after the trilogy's events.
Interestingly averted in The Matrix. We don't know anything about Neo's supposed love life, but it doesn't matter because he was actually in the Matrix and his body was lying in a tube the whole time. When he gets freed, he only kisses Trinity (at least in the first movie). This may have to do with the "Neo is the Messiah" interpretation.
Played with in The Monster Squad, where the elderly mentor-figure insists that only a virgin can recite the spell that'll banish the monsters. When the big sister admits she doesn't qualify, she asks why the mentor can't do it, and is told by the Squad boys that he's not qualified either. Irate, she questions whether the boys had actually asked him. They wind up having a five-year-old girl recite the words.
Averted in The Terminator: Badass future soldier Kyle Reese is a virgin. While he loses his virginity in the course of the film, it's also pretty clear that if Sarah hadn't initiated it, nothing would have happened.
Averted in Mystery Team. Duncan and Charlie haven't kissed a girl by the end of the story, and Jason's first kiss occurs at the end.
Julius: Very much so. They're strange and sensitive. They have compassion. I have the highest respect for women."
Vincent: You're a virgin!"
Julius: That's private.
Vincent: A 230-pound virgin.
It is heavily implied that Billy from Buffalo 66 is a virgin since he claims to have never had a girlfriend. He's not very manly, although he tries to act like it.
In Police Academy 2, Tackleberry (after unsuccessfully attempting to get the point across subtly) ends up shouting in a crowded restaurant, "Mahoney, I'm a virgin!" However, he eventually sleeps with Kirkland and later marries her.
In the first Iron Man 1 film starring Robert Downey, Jr., Tony Stark encounters a blonde reporter who wants to interview him. He hits on her, and in the next scene, we see them kissing in bed before rolling off.
In Iron Man 2, Tony Stark hits on the woman we eventually know as Black Widow. Bear in mind that this is after Stark and Pepper Potts gained a (somewhat) romantic understanding by the end of the previous film. Clearly Stark is used to hitting on various women. For bonus points, the first time he hit on Black Widow, Pepper was sitting a few feet away.
Averted with Captain America in Captain America: The First Avenger. He's quite intimidated by women, even after taking the Super Soldier Serum which made ladies throw themselves at him, and is noted by Bucky to not have much luck with them. Peggy Carter may as well been the closest he's ever had to a real first girlfriend. Same in Captain America: The Winter Soldier where the Black Widow asks if their Fake-Out Make-Out was Cap's first kiss since 1945. He denies it ("I'm 95, I'm not dead."), but also claims that it's not something you need to practice, which leaves it somewhat ambiguous. He goes on to say that it's hard for him to find someone with shared life experience.
Valentin Bulgakov from The Last Station gets teased for being a virgin, even though the ideology he has dedicated his life to commands a celibate life-style.
Averted with Minami in Gozu, who - though well-provided - is still a virgin. Particularly embarrassing for him as he is a member of the Yakuza.
In We're the Millers everybody naturally assumes that the stereotypically dorky Kenny is a virgin...and they're correct.
They are surprised he had never kissed a girl, though.
Discussed in Chronicle. Steve hears that Matt has gone a long time without sex and Andrew is a virgin. His response? "Then how are you guys so cool?"
Absolutely averted in the anthology series Tales of the Five Hundred Kingdoms by one Mercedes Lackey. Male virgins exist... but they are extremely difficult to find. Prince Sasha of Fortune's Fool and Siegfried of The Sleeping Beauty are both indisputably unicorn bait until they get together with their respective One True Loves. Additionally, while Sebastian of Beauty and the Werewolf is not explicitly stated to be a virgin, there is a strong implication that he is: his backstory didn't really suggest he'd had the opportunity or the inclination.
Dr. Watson mentioned at several times that Sherlock Holmes has no interest in women. However, in the tradition of a sexually active sidekick, Watson boasts that he has had experience of the women of three continents! He marries the heroine at the end of The Sign of Four, marries again some time before The Lion's Mane, and shows interest in ladies at various other points. As Holmes puts it, "Watson, the fair sex is your department."
Partly played straight and partly averted in the 2009 film. While there's much flirtation and some hint of a sexual history between Holmes and Irene Adler, their de rigueur sex scene in the original script (complete with literal Slap-Slap-Kiss foreplay) was mercifully cut from the finished film. Except for a kiss forced on him while drugged, Holmes never sees any action during the movie. Neither does Watson, though he does have a fiancée.
Actually, this trope is frequently subverted or entirely averted in detective fiction in general, probably because of Sherlock Holmes. The Dresden Files's romantically hopeless title character is a good example of this, as is Nicholson's character from Chinatown.
In The Dresden Files book White Night, the young and talented Carlos Ramirez, self-styled Casanova, is actually a virgin. Harry spends the entire climactic fight scene teasing him about it.
Averted notably in the person of Michael Szczgielniak in Elizabeth Bear's Promethean Age books: not only is he a virgin (for most of the first two in which he appears, anyway) he's virgin powered.
In Robert Sheckly's short story Feeding Time (1953), a male bookworm nerd happens upon a strange book in a strange antique book shop: 'Care and Feeding of the Gryphon'. The book explains that the gryphon's sole food are virgins. Despite his extensive collection of pornographic literature, the protagonist is intrigued by the, hm, implications. Although he briefly wonders where you get enough "innocent" young women from. He decides to become a gryphon keeper and follows the instructions given in the book... one spell later, he wakes up in a green field. And looking up, he sees the gryphon majestically swooping down on him, claws extended. He cries out in protest that the sole food of the gryphon should be virgins... then realizes the irony of the situation, instants before he is eaten.
In Tamora Pierce's The Immortals quartet, many hints are dropped about the teacher mage Numair Salmalin's numerous sexual peccadilloes - in the fourth book, Realms Of The Gods, he tells his student and love interest Daine that "You of all people should know that I have been involved with ladies of the court!". And in another scene his temptation after drinking the water of a magical lake is said by Daine to be... "a blue skinned, naked female with a large chest — exactly the type of woman [he] would go for".
Numair first "bedded Varice Kingsford" when Daine was four. He was "canoodling" before she was born, meaning he could have been as young as fourteen when he lost his virginity.
Speaking of Pierce's work, Briar (as of Will of the Empress, since he was just a kid in the previous books). He's sleeping around is due to his PTSD issues, though.
Subverted in A Prayer for Owen Meany by John Irving, where despite recounting his teenage efforts, an adult John Wheelwright admits he's still "just another Joseph."
Which might seem surprising—given that the narrator John is a fairly ordinary-looking young man—while Owen is so short he requires hand controls to drive and has an almost indescribable voice, one which could peel paint. But John is passive; Owen is brilliant, arrogant and—at least apparently—fearless. Perhaps "insolent" would better describe his attitude (a quality which can be sexy, and is perhaps more striking in one so physically aberrant). In school—and in other realms of life—John would fall apart, without Owen's help. BTW it's not only because of the Christmas pageant that metaphors tangentially related to virgin birth are...well, apt (even if only because Owen's parents are quietly yet extravagantly insane).
Subverted in William Faulkner's The Sound and the Fury with Quentin, who remains a virgin until he commits suicide. At one point his sister asks him if he's ever had sex but knows that he's lying when he says yes. He even tries to tell his father that he has had sex with his sister - to save her - and his father doesn't believe him.
Averted in The Obsidian Trilogy: the hero is not only a virgin but is expected to remain so for a year and a day in order to repay a unicorn who saves his life.
Averted in Kushiel's Legacy, which describes Imriel losing his virginity in great detail. Imriel had previously been a sex abuse survivor, so it was a big deal for him to overcome his old fears.
Averted in Mary Stewart's trilogy about the life of [Merlin; the feared and powerful enchanter is a virgin until he hands over his powers, and his virginity, to his successor. In fact, the one time he tries to have sex with a woman, he fails. He states that he had to choose between his powers and sexual prowess.
The Princess Bride: Westley. Possibly. The man who spends all his life, all his time doing nothing but singlemindedly laboring to be able to be with Buttercup, whom he loves in a mysteriously perfect way for whatever reason. In "Buttercup's Baby," the fragment continuing the story of The Princess Bride a little bit, it's implied that he's not a virgin when they have their first time. Well, if it were someone else, it would be pretty clear, but knowing him and thereby that it makes no sense, room is left for doubt. Referring to his knowing there's more they could do than kissing, the narrator casually mentions that "he had been the King of the Sea for several years, and, well, things happened." She, of course, doesn't even know whether they should be standing up or lying down to do it.
Averted on Edward Cullen from Twilight. He is a 114-year-old vampire virgin that never had a sexual urge before meeting the leading lady and insists on getting married before giving it up.
Inverted in Blue Moon Rising, where the prince who rides forth to battle a dragon is able to do so on a unicorn, having been forced to live chastely so he won't father a child who might one day contest his older brother's throne. The princess he brings back with him, conversely, can't ride the unicorn.
In Darkly Dreaming Dexter, the titular Serial-Killer Killer has avoided sex until that point, mostly because he finds the very idea of intercourse to be undignified. Only when his girlfriend presses the issue does he lose his virginity, and even then, his sociopathic mindset initially goes through with it merely to preserve his facade as a regular guy.
The Star Wars Expanded Universe has Luke's son, Ben, who averts this when Tahiri Veila offers him sex in exchange for details about the Rebel Jedi base. He refuses, but not before she sticks his hands in his shorts. Whether or not it "counts" is left to the reader's imagination.
Parodied in one of Esther Friesner's Majyk books: the groom has to produce a certificate guaranteeing "knowledge of the carnal arts" before he can get married. The bride has to provide evidence of her Incorruptible Pure Pureness. You can guess what The Reveal is.
Averted with Prince Siegfried from The Sleeping Beauty. However, given that the Tradition is trying to force him into a Ring Cycle retelling, you can't blame the guy for steering clear.
...every single female I met was my aunt! My aunt, Leopold! Even at twelve, I knew better than that!
Prince Leopold from the same book plays it straight, as do many of the other Princes in the series.
Averted in The Lord of the Rings. Frodo Baggins remains a bachelor his whole life, as does his uncle (and adoptive father) Bilbo. The total lack of interest that he shows in romance hasn't stopped the fans from shipping him with every character imaginable, of course.
It helps that the author was definitely a fan of monogamy and the Happily Married trope, so his characters weren't likely to sleep around at all, meaning any single character is likely to have averted this trope.
In the web-novel Domina, Derek and Adam are specifically noted to be virgins (well, we only find out about this after Adam sleeps with Lily). Derek doesn't seem to find it important, but Adam is embarrassed.
Deconstructed in Youth in Sexual Ecstasy: The protagonist, at first, justifies this trope and his lifestyle by saying that men should acquire experience and dexterity in order to satisfy their future partners and that only a fool would want to arrive as a virgin to marriage, then he gets rebutted by the sex therapist of the story who says that most of his male patients who suffer from sex problems during their marriage had very active sex lives in their youth, and as consequence the experiences accumulated and they de-sensitiviced and mechanized the act, when, according to him, sex is not about technique and experience it's about feeling.
Initially averted and later played straight with Ambrosio in The Monk when he breaks his vow of chastity with Matilda.
In Richard Wright's famous autobiography Black Boy, he recalls a co-worker who had a bad case of gonorrhea, and actually acts proud of it because it's proof he's had sex, and is therefore a real man. Richard doubts he's as proud of it as he acts, however, when he sees him urinate one day, with his teeth clenched, tears streaming out of his eyes and with a hand on the beam above him to keep from falling over in agony.
Averted in Tales of Kolmar. The king of the dragons is virginal, because sex is painful and the desire to mate rarely happens for his kind, and anyway he wants to find someone he can have deep mutual love with. Several human characters just plain aren't interested later, though to be fair Will could have had sex and never mentioned it, he just was supremely uninterested in anyone except Aral.
Averted in the Jon Shannow books by David Gemmell. It is heavily implied that Jon was a virgin until Wolf in Shadow, and the women he does sleep with note his inexperience.
In A Brother's Price, thanks to a broad subversion of STD Immunity virginity is highly valued for anyone out of marriage. Institutions called "cribs" exist, where women can visit to try to get pregnant via an uncomfortable night with a Sex Slave, but if a noblewoman does this she's rejected in her marriage suits; one such woman says people don't want her sitting on their chairs. Men are rare and kept secluded and if unmarried subject to Virgin Tension. Jerin becomes a Technical Virgin early in the book, and is uncomfortable not because there's still that virgin element, but because his "purity" is gone.
Trapped on Draconica: Justified here. According to Leondian law, no one can take part in combat unless they have at least one child. Being a virgin means being a non-combatant which means being deadweight. In short, being a virgin is festering spearhead in Kalak's self-confidence. He gets over shortly after meeting Daniar.
The Deverry Cycle has Rhodry, a mighty warrior. Subverted in that, while he has several women through the books, including a dragon he tends to stay in one-on-one relationships when he can. On the other hand, his half-brother, the bard Salamander, just loves the ladies -although he begins to grow up some toward the end of the series.
In Redeeming Love, this trope is both played straight and averted: the heroine is a prostitute whose wide experience with men is generally very focused on sex (not a lot of virgins in the soiled dove trade). However, the hero (despite being 26 years old in the American Old West) is a virgin when they meet, and he remains so for some time into the novel. This is due to his firmly held belief that primarily Happily MarriedGood People Have Good Sex.
In The Legend of Sun Knight. Almost half of the holy knights are at least implied not to have ever made it with a woman. Whether this is because of the way they are required to act in public or because of their true, secret personalities varies. The big exception is Earth Knight, who uses his public image as a shy, honest person to coax as many women as he can into his bed.
The Mirrorworld Series: Jacob. Oh, Jacob. Kami'en also counts. (He plans on bringing his mistress to his wedding.) The usual unfortunate implications of this trope are lampshaded when Kami'en points out that his cultural custom of taking multiple wives gives his mistress the right to take other husbands. (She doesn't take to the idea.)
Live Action TV
In Cheers Cliff Clavin was occasionally implied to be a virgin, before he slept with Sam's fiancee.
iCarly: "iKiss" is basically a toned down for kids version of this.
Teen Wolf: Averted with Stiles. Possibly played straight with many of the other teenage male characters so far.
The Young Ones, episode "Time," includes a long fight occasioned by Vyvyan mocking Rick's virginity. Another episode of the same show, "Nasty", shows the whole cast reluctant to confess virginity in the face of a vampire who drinks virgin blood.
Rick: What, me? Rick? A virgin? Ha, ha, ha! Just try telling that to some of the foxy chicks who owe me favours!
Neil: Well if Rick's not a virgin, then I'm not either!
Knight Rider (2008 Pilot Movie): the first time we see Mike Traceur, he's in bed with a random woman. Then another scantily clad woman returns to the bed to drive the point home. They do almost the same in the first scene of FBI agent Rivai, with another mostly naked blond woman. The twist: agent Rivai is a lesbian.
Averted (or subverted?) in the Firefly episode "Jaynestown". A local magistrate hires Inara to sleep with his 26-year-old-virgin son, supposedly in order to "make him a man." After they have sex, the son is disappointed that he doesn't feel fundamentally different. He asks, "Aren't I supposed to be a man now?" She answers, "A man is just a boy who is old enough to ask that question. Our time together is a symbol; it means something to your father. But it doesn't make you a man. You do that yourself." The event that makes the son become a man in his own eyes is when he defies his father by helping the crew of the Serenity escape.
Jayne is also rather eager to help out the prostitute clients in "Heart of Gold". He has a high libido, and likely believes in this trope himself.
While Sam has his Cartwright Curse (although it doesn't stop him from having hot werewolf sex), Dean sleeps with anything that has a pulse (or doesn't, considering his necrophilia comments). However, it's been implied that this might not be such a good thing, with Sam finding it hard to believe that he could even manage a long-term relationship and thinking he's a slut with no standards - see Tall Tales - Dean thinking the same thing, as suggested by his ouch-worthy "Yeah, that sounds like me" in "What Is And Should Never Be" when Alt!Sam confronts him on having slept with his girlfriend on prom night, one of the seven sins calling him a "walking billboard of lust and gluttony", fans calling him pretty much a whore (not always nicely, either) and his actor teasing that he might have to be a hooker to pay their bills.
Subverted and invoked, when, after his return from Hell Dean says he's been "re-hymenated" and talks about wanting to "pop his cherry" as soon as possible. Sam's response? Yeah, not even an angel could do that.
When Dean first learns that Castiel is a virgin, he decided that apocalypse could wait until Cas has that particular problem fixed. Of course, put an angel in a brothel, Hilarity Ensues.
The resident Ethical Slut Cat starts hitting on him from the very first episode. Apparently, the producers decided that she was too risque and removed the character. Meanwhile, Lois and Clark end up together and, supposedly, subvert this trope. By the end of the show, they are revealed to be trying for a baby.
In The Dresden Files TV show, the first scene we see of grown-up Harry starts with him waking up in bed with a nameless blonde who we never hear from again. It's especially striking considering his character in the books.
Averted in The Prisoner where Number 6 is deliberately never shown to possess any kind of sexual desire, in deliberate contrast to the James Bond-inspired spy image of the time. This was likely at Patrick McGoohan's behest. He is thought to have turned down the role of James Bond on moral grounds, with the reasoning that real spies don't have extensive dealings with guns and girls. After he made a similar case to the producers of Danger Man, his contract specified that McGoohan would not be called on to do even a kissing scene, supposedly because of his Roman Catholic faith. At least two scripts submitted for the series - Chimes of Big Ben and A Change of Mind - originally contained romance subplots for No. 6. McGoohan vetoed the subplot in A Change of Mind completely, while in Chimes the relationship with No. 8 actually became more romantic in nature as it was rewritten to be more flirtatious. Despite McGoohan's efforts, however, not all romance was eliminated from the series. Aside from the body-changing episode which introduces his fiancee, "The Schizoid Man" has No. 6 being very friendly with a female prisoner (to the extent of even spending time with her in his home, nudge-nudge) and in "Dance of the Dead" it is made explicit that his observer has fallen in love with him. The continuation novel Think Tank by Roger Langley — unlicensed but published by the officially sanctions Prisoner Appreciation Society — is the only professionally published Prisoner story to outright affirm the trope by having No. 6 go to bed with a woman.
Captain Kirk. In a specific example, the episode "Bread and Circuses" has the bad guys give Kirk a hot female slave for the night who must do whatever he commands. It is implied that they have sex, of course, and the next morning the Big Bad tells Kirk that he decided to let him "be a man" before executing him.
The episode 'Wink of an Eye' has a scene in Kirk's cabin where he's pulling on his boot while the alien girl of the week is brushing her hair. When you add in that the aliens are looking for men to propgate their species, the implications are clear.
TNG made a bit of a deal out of Geordi La Forge not being able to get a date with a woman (even though he did, on several occasions, even if one of them was a hologram). And lets not forget Commander Riker, who's sexploits rival or exceed those of Kirk's (who might as well be the Trope Namer) Riker also functions as something of a sexual sidekick to the more restrained Captain Picard (especially in the first season). Of course, Picard gets his fair share of action over the run of TNG.
Actually a slight subversion in there: While Riker got around a bit, the reigning champion of the series with regards to women is... Wesley Crusher.
On the other end of the spectrum, Captain Picard ranks only slightly above Geordi in romantic encounters (and only one known sexual encounter implied during a flashback in Tapestry depicting a much less mature point in Picard's life), despite topping everyone else on the ship in the Manliness scale.
Averted in Marcus Cole in Babylon 5, who was a self-professed virgin and quite comfortable that way because he felt he hadn't met the right woman. He did eventually meet her, but died before they could consummate. She is shown lamenting that later.
Played to amusing effect in Fighting Spiders. The three main characters are out in the nighttime, in a cemetery no less, and the legend of the 'orang minyak' is brought up: a man covered in oil who goes around (ahem) disturbing virgins. The youngest says that since they are boys they won't be disturbed, but the one who best knows his English points out that virgins can apply to boys too...
In Monk, the titular character is not explicitly stated to be a virgin, but all of the evidence points in that direction. In one episode he's disgusted by the presence of a nude man, and when Sharona says he must have seen himself nude before, he replies, "Only once. And that was enough." Also, in an episode where he stays over at the home of an attractive woman who's not put off by his severe OCD, he seems to lock up at the very thought of even kissing her. It's likely he and his wife Trudy had a loving, but chaste, marriage.
In another episode, he is buried alive and is suffering from CO2 poisoning and oxygen deprivation (he's burning a candle to avoid being in the dark) and imagines being with Trudy again. He tells her that he regrets that they never had children.
In talking to a woman who learns that Monk has a dead wife, Monk specifically tells her, "We went all the way."
The only point of the scene with Peter in bed with a blonde in Warehouse13's pilot.
The Buffy episode "Teacher's Pet": A shape shifting preying mantis only preys on virgin boys, and captures Xander and another boy who we had previously seen boasting about his sexual exploits. Neither he, nor Xander, is pleased when they learn that they were chosen for their virginity, and the guy threatens to sue, if they tell anyone. Xander spent two and a half seasons proving his Badass Normal credentials while hanging onto his virginity (his relationship with Cordelia was unconsumated). When he helps out Faith in season 3, she thanks him (& burns off extra agression) by seducing him. Xander has sex, but it's not the most remarkable or manly thing he does even that night, making it a bit of a subversion of this trope. The trope is completely Played Straight when it comes to Liam/Angel, Giles, Spike, and Oz, though.
Comes heavily into play in the TV series Bones, where tough guy FBI agent Seeley Booth is "interrupted" while with his lawyer girlfriend, who has no real relevance to the series' plot, aside from helping along some of the UST between Booth and Brennan. He also has an illegitimate son, from an old girlfriend. This is all made more surprising by the fact that Booth is frequently depicted as a very serious Catholic; while it's certainly not uncommon for Catholics to fall short of or ignore the Church's prohibition on sex outside of marriage, it never seems to even occur to Booth that there might be a problem, probably because the writers couldn't conceive of a "tough guy" character actually having a problem with sex... hence the trope. Zack Addy, Brennan's awkward graduate student, is surprised when everyone thinks he's a virgin.
Not only is Booth frequently shown sleeping with women, he's also sleeping with the mother of child... despite the fact that she has a boyfriend, whom Booth approves of. They only break it off when Bones intervenes and tells the ex that this can only end with Booth proposing, given his faith. Later, when Booth is in a healthy sexual relationship with a reporter, Bones ends up ruining that for him too by first confessing her love for him and then convincing him to propose. The reporter ends up refusing on the grounds that she's not "the marrying kind", and Booth promptly dumps her.
Referenced, and somewhat lampshaded, in the first episode of the first series of Skins.
Tony: It's embarrassing.
Sid: It's common and quite normal for someone of sixteen—
Tony: —No. It's embarrassing, Sid.
In The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air Will reveals to Carlton that he is a virgin in "Mama's Baby, Carlton's Maybe" when Carlton has been left at the altar. Turns out, not surprisingly, Carlton is a virgin too. He eventually does lose his virginity, and when he does they make a huge show of it. Nothing is shown on scene, but after the woman leads him into her room with a look of sheerest joy on his face, we hear a chorus singing Hallelujah, scenes of erupting geysers, airplanes taking off, bees pollinating flowers and the like. Surely there's some kind of backwards cosmic vengeance to letting Carlton be considered "a real man" before Will. The joyous occasion becomes short lived, however, once Carlton realizes the woman he slept with was married a few days later. Despite slight regret for deceiving him, she treated the incident as a one night stand. For Carlton, he thought he found his one true love (which was why he was willing to have sex with the woman), and it made him feel lower than dirt for participating. Later on, Will admits to Carlton that, despite Carlton's bad luck, waiting for the special someone isn't such a bad thing, since he ruined a few too many relationships rushing towards sex instead of getting to know his girlfriends better.
Deconstructed in an episode of Family Matters in which Steve reveals Eddie's virginity to an entire men's locker room, inadvertently causing all the guys to make fun of Eddie. Later on in the episode, Eddie stands up to them with a speech about how real men value women as human beings and not as conquests.
In Red Dwarf, even Arnold Rimmer — who is uptight, utterly inept socially, and completely clueless with the opposite sex — had sex once during his lifetime (at age 31 with the ship's female boxing champion Yvonne McGruder, who had a concussion at the time and apparently thought he was someone called "Norman"). Possibly a subversion in that it would be more consistent with Rimmer's character for him to be a virgin (when Cat finds out that Rimmer has had sex one time only, he exclaims "That many?!") and his experience with McGruder is treated by everyone, including him, as a freak occurrence.
Later in the series, Rimmer as a hologram has an afternoon of sex with holoship crew member Nirvanah Crane. And later still, the resurrected human Rimmer goes through "the first 23 pages of the Kama Sutra" with McGruder after deliberately contracting the Sexual Magnetism Virus, as well as almost all the women at the Captain's Supper or so he thinks — it turns out to be an artificial reality simulation.
Averted with Cat, who is a virgin simply because he is the Last of His Kind on a ship where there are no women (or, later on in the series, no women who are interested in him). An episode where Cat would have finally lost his virginity was written for Series VII but never produced.
Averted by Glee, which portrays high school students' sex lives very accurately—or at least, more accurately than most shows. Kurt and Artie (unpopular) are both virgins at their introductions, as are Finn and Blaine (popular). Over the course of three seasons all four of them lose their virginity, as do most of the virginal female characters. Special mention goes to Kurt, who explicitly states on two separate occasions that either he isn't ready for sex (to the point of literally sticking his fingers in his ears and going "la la la" in order to avoid talking about it), or that he wants his first time to be meaningful. On a smaller scale, however, played straight in "The Power of Madonna", when Finn is the only one who sleeps with his intended (in his case, Santana) during the "Like a Virgin" number (Emma and Rachel do not). It becomes Sex as Rite-of-Passage, and he "doesn't feel any different." In fact, he later heavily regrets it because it didn't mean anything and it wasn't with Rachel, the girl he loves.
In an early episode of The O.C., Seth suggests to Ryan that they "hire some hookers and lose our virginity", and Ryan gives a look that suggests he most likely isn't a virgin. This is probably to highlight the difference between sheltered, nerdy Seth and Troubled, but Cute Ryan.
Subverted in Smallville. For the first several seasons Clark was the epitome of the innocent male virgin, to the point that it'd become somewhat of an in-joke amongst fans, who coined the term "Supervirgin." In one episode, a witch who needs the hair of two virgins for a spell successfully uses Clark's, just in case there was any doubt.
Constantly used for humor on Married... with Children. Al Bundy was the Big Man on Campus in high school not only because he was a football hero, but because he made it with every hot girl in his class...at least before he got married and his life went down the crapper. His son Bud has the opposite problem, constantly trying (and failing) to score with women, something for which the rest of his family teases him mercilessly.
Atia on Rome is very determined her son becomes a man. Which she emphasises with this comment:
Atia: You will penetrate someone today or I shall burn your wretched books in the yard.
Somewhat Truth in Television and less about sex for sex's sake than ticking off the boxes for things a Proper Roman Male needs to be known to do to BE a man—Octavian was at/approaching legal age, he needed to demonstrate it. (Also, note that the point is less sexual intercourse than penetration—man or woman, so long as Octavian is on top, it would "count". For Romans, male sexuality was not about the gender of the partner/target but very much about who was on top.)
Played straight in The Sarah Connor Chronicles. Cameron actually pops John Connor's cherry (sort of) in a scene that's an extremely thinly-veiled metaphor for awkward, nervous first-time sex. Immediately after this begins a series of events that culminate in John leaving his mother behind, travelling to the future and going off to war...
Averted in 3rd Rock from the Sun, which concerns aliens who take on human form. It's not clear what forms they had as aliens, but one assumes they don't have sex like humans do. When their leader Dick loses his virginity (at least, human virginity) he declares "Oh, Dr. Albright! That was the greatest thirty seconds of my life!"
On one episode, Frank Burns tells the other doctors a story about how a girl from the debate team hit on him in high school, but he turned her down because he was saving himself for marriage. Our heroes react with disbelief, and even the usually fair-minded Col. Potter dubs Frank a "creep" as a result. Granted, they're all prone to dislike Frank due to him being a Holier Than ThouJerk Ass, but this particular instance seems to reveal more about the era's mores regarding masculinity than the characters.
Averted with the innocent version of Radar. While he worries about it a fair bit, anytime he does someone (usually Hawkeye) will tell him that a girl he wants to bring home to his mother is worth waiting for.
In the episode "Springtime", when Klinger gets married, after a date with a nurse, Radar walks into the room where the ceremony is held, all crumbled up saying "I think I've just been slaked".
Radar's character was changed to be more innocent as the show went on; there was mention of him losing his virginity, but later on in the show he was still a virgin. In the later show "After MASH" he gets married and there's mention of him being a virgin on his wedding night.
On a further note, the much more promiscuous (at least in the first few seasons) Hawkeye and Trapper are shown to be much more competent than the relatively chaste Frank, who is shown to only "discuss that new exploratory" with Hot Lips Houlihan (ignoring the fact he's cheating on his wife). Even Henry Blake is shown to womanize and at least hold his own in the operating room.
Inverted with Father Mulcahy. Over the course of the 11 seasons, he's stated a few times he has no experience in such matters.
Of course, he is a priest. Nobody would expect him to have that kind of experience.
Inverted in the same episode mentioned above ("Springtime"), Klinger gets married over the radio. He wears a white wedding gown. Frank and Margareth walk in, and Margareth says White?. Klinger replies with I'm entitled to. Jealous?. Klinger has been seen going out with nurses, before, during, and after his marriage, but unlike Hawkeye, Trapper or Henry, it's never suggested he has ever sex with one of them.
In the slasher movie-themed episode of Boy Meets World, Genre Savvy Shawn points out that only virgins survive slasher movies. Eric and Jack proudly accept they're going to die. Eric & Shawn then realize that Feeny had just been killed, so they start dancing in his memory.
Averted in Sherlock. Sherlock Holmes claims in the very first episode that neither girlfriends nor boyfriends are his area and he considers himself married to his work. In Season 2, it's explicitly stated that he is a virgin. But in response to speculation about Sherlock's asexuality, creator Steven Moffat has noted that he is, in fact, heterosexual, but has a "monk-like devotion to celibacy," while hinting that said devotion may change as the series progresses.
In keeping with the tradition of the "Sexually Active Sidekick" for celibate/virgin protagonists, Sherlock Holmes' best friend and partner in crime-solving, John Watson, is a notorious flirt and is shown in the first episode of season 2 to have run through several girlfriends, to the point where he's starting to get them mixed up.
Invoked in Bomb Girls by James to Gladys to justify his infidelity. She loses no time in pointing out the double standard.
In The Amazing Race 4, Millie & Chuck had dated for 12 years but said they never consummated. This was apparently notable enough that where most teams are labled "Dating", "Married", "Best Friends" or the like, the show labeled these two "The Virgins".
Deputy Enos Strate on The Dukes of Hazzard was identified as "the oldest virgin in Hazzard County". In one of the later episodes, Enos told Daisy he was saving himself for marriage.
Unlike Sherlock Holmes in the original novels and the BBC series, Sherlock in Elementary is quite sexually active. In the pilot, when Watson first meets him, she sees a girl (possibly a prostitute) leaving his house. Sherlock is not yet fully dressed, and there are handcuffs on a nearby ladder. He does tell Watson that he finds the act of intercourse repulsive and only does it to "scratch an itch", so that the base needs don't interfere with his work. However, Watson quickly figures out that this is bullshit. Interestingly, despite the fact that Watson is female in this version, Sherlock never shows an interest in her as a woman (rather than a companion and protege) and, instead, prefers to have random, one-off encounters, at one point indulging in a Twin Threesome Fantasy.
In another episode, he tells the villain of the week that, personally, he sees sex as a commodity that can be bought and sold and, thus, there is nothing wrong with prostituion. He is, however, fully aware that most people don't feel that way (then again, he's fully aware that most people are his intellectual inferiors).
Inverted to a degree in The Golden Girls. In one flashback episode Blanche recalled a New Year's Eve she had spent with a man who had just left the priesthood and was in fact a virgin. Blanche was completely ecstatic at the thought of having sex with a virgin because it would bring out "the artist" in her since she was about to work with what was essentially a blank slate.
Subverted with Cody in Step by Step, whom everyone assumes not to be a virgin because he's old enough and, while a bit of a Cloudcuckoolander, not portrayed as a loser in any way. He is, however, a virgin, sees nothing wrong with being a virgin, and is never ashamed to admit it on the few occasions when the subject comes up.
In the Doctor Who episodes "The Impossible Planet" and "The Satan Pit", the character who is identified as a virgin is a sniveling do-nothing who sits fetal in a corner while the other characters work to survive, winding up possessed by Satan and eventually blown out a window into a Black Hole.
The objective of Leisure Suit Larry in the Land of the Lounge Lizards is for the title character to lose his virginity. If he can't do it by next morning, he'll kill himself. And hey, to emphasize the challenge, prostitutes don't count.
John R. Blade, the hyper-macho protagonist of Si N possibly averts this. In the game's ending he is distracted by Elexis Sinclair, and becomes nervous, even stuttering, as she spreads her legs and moves her hand down between them. She says something to the effect of "I'll bet you've never seen anything... like THIS!". She then proceeds to press the Big Red Teleporting Button, gets split into four on an atomic level, is put into four separate rockets, and escapes to god knows where.
Fenris in Dragon Age II also admits to being probably a virgin (before Hawke or Isabela), as he has no memory of his life before receiving the lyrium markings, and knows he hasn't done it since. While there was some implication of sexual abuse while a slave, Fenris doesn't seem to count that.
Averted in Star Control II. During the Talana/Captain sex scene, it's obvious that the captain is a virgin.
Averted in Agarest Senki. The game revolves that you need multiple generations to fight the same kind of evil and serves as a Gameplay and Story Integration where, in a Dating Sim style, the protagonist of that generation must choose his soulmate and, well, mate with her so he has an offspring to continue the fight.
The sequel takes it to another level where you literally strap her to a soul pillar naked before you have sex with her if your relationship level is low enough
Assassin's Creed III, meanwhile, averts this. The protagonist who is a virgin throughout the game. Again, given the context of the game, he eventually does have sex. Flavour dialogue indicates this may be with one of his Assassin recruits.
The game plays with it. Early in the game, Connor saves a huntress and finds her unwilingness to stick to the traditional colonial female role to be refreshing. She's also the only other non-native person on the Frontier who can run across tree branches and feels at home in the woods. Many players may have thought this can only result in the two of them hooking up. Nope, she ends up marrying a French Canadian miner, and Connor is the one who helps the two of them get together and convinces her not to be a Runaway Bride (he actually gives her away). Thus far, it's not clear who will end up with Connor, and since Desmond is dead, we may never know.
Assassin's Creed IV: Black Flag wastes no time in establishing that Edward Kenway is not a virgin by having him bed two women, then kill a man and steal his ladyfriend. All in the first trailer.
Averted in Ben Jordan case three. The witch coven reveals that they chose Ben because they needed to sacrifice a virgin. When Ben denies it, the coven leader says that they "can tell these things". He later spends the night with his girlfriend, but the story doesn't make a big deal out of it.
Very averted with Sasha Nein of Psychonauts. Despite being an international psychic secret agent superhero, he is almost certainly a virgin. Seeing a mental picture of his mother having sex from his father's perspective probably gave him a few intimacy issues. Of course, he sometimes acts Camp Straight ("So... tacky... can't... look... directly... at... it...") but still.
However, some memories belonging to Milla (another agent who works with Sasha a lot,) suggest that there is some level of romantic/sexual tension between them. However, since these are her memories, it is entirely possible that this is just wishful thinking on her part.
Averted in Final Fantasy II. The infamous scene where Firion is seduced by a lamia queen masquerading as the rebel princess practically cements it, given Firion's hilarious reactions during. Even more interestingly, fandom has embraced this (unusual, considering what most fans are most interested in), Firion's Fan Nickname in Japanese is, quite literally, "virgin." note It's doutei, and was probably also chosen because it rhymes with koutei, a Japanese word for "emperor" and the title of the game's BishōnenBig Bad.
In Final Fantasy VII, a deleted scene had a female prostitute ask Cloud if "this is his first time", to which he can only answer "Yeah" or "I don't remember" (which triggers the flash that indicates he's recalling one of Zack's memories). This rather implied Cloud is a virgin (and Zack wasn't). Doesn't count as an aversion, though, because the scene was deleted, and also because Cloud's status as a man pretending to be a "real man" as an affectation is a key point of his character.
Luka in Monster Girl Quest is a Technical Virgin until the end of the second game. The game also features one of the ridiculously rare gender-flipped aversions: Alice, as the Monster Lord in a world where the monster girls rape human males on a regular basis (long story, blame the human goddess), was assumed to be very emphatically not a virgin. Turns out, she was.
Played straight in Xenogears. A naive Fei-Fong Wong is teased about sex by a the village prostitute at the beginning of the game. By the climax of the game Fei-Fong Wong and Elly begin a sexual relationship.
An early puzzle in McPixel is a volcano demanding a virgin sacrifice. You have twenty seconds to decide between a Dumb Blonde or a cow. The answer is to Take a Third Option and have McPixel throw himself into the volcano.
Averted with Yuri Lowell. He is the most popular character in the series(according to official polls going on three years now), and has about a dozen badass tropes to his name. He is also the only protagonist to not have a love interest for a supporting heroine, nor does he ever bring up any past flames in the game. Interestingly, he is also the oldest (and presumably most mature) lead in the series.
In Team Fortress 2, one of the Spy's domination lines to the Scout is an insult to his possible manliness.
Spy: Here lies Scout. He ran fast and died a virgin.
In Loserz, where two protagonists are virgins and are portrayed as, well, "Loserz." At least, until Eric gets laid, but Ben has no such luck.
In Pandect, Noah is told his true love will be a male "mature lizard Ace who is also a virgin." Since Aces are animals with human souls and bodies, a virgin Ace has never had sex as an animal or a human, and a mature Ace is at least 100 years old, it genuinely shocks Noah when he finally meets one.
Inverted in Misfile, where the originally male protagonist was not only a virgin but hadn't even had a girlfriend, only to discover post-misfile that she had already surrendered her virginity to his best friend and mentor, permanently ruining that relationship.
In Girl Genius, Gilgamesh Wulfenbach becomes embarrassed if not outright enraged by the idea that anything has happened between himself and Agatha. Other characters don't understand his anger in the least.
Amused by his outrage, his father exclaims "Great fire, boy, didn't you date in Paris?" However we find out later, at least according to the possibly biased Tarvek Sturmhalten, that Gil did quite a bit more than dating in Paris.
Apparently something of a retcon, since when they went back to colorize the early pages, the line becomes "red fire boy, what kind of women did you associate with at school", which fits in better with how Travek said gil acted in paris.
Averted in Dominic Deegan. Gregory, despite being a virgin for the first several hundred strips, is a very powerful white mage, as noted by his brother when his magic first shows as white fire.
He was crippled by the blight, which would also explain why no girl wanted him. Ironically, his virginity is not only unrelated to being a white mage, he actually gets some after truly "becoming" one, once the blight is removed.
Billy/Dr. Horrible - it's not mentioned whether he's a virgin or not, but he ruminates uncomfortably on Penny and Captain Hammer's relationship. "They're probably going to ...French kiss...or something." This could be virginity or simple deep denial. (The wide-eyed, Beavis-like reaction he has to accidentally picking up one of Penny's underthings in his prequel comic might suggest the former is most likely, though.)
Billy's evil moisture buddy Moist has a double date in Act I, and a hot date in Act III.
Captain Hammer himself has a line in Act III about how he just might sleep with the same girl twice, and then goes on to announce how he "totally had sex" with Penny.
A seriously rare gender inversion comes from The Nostalgia Chick. She lies through her teeth that she got a lot of booty in college and needed to have loads and loads of condoms.
A new meme brewing in the *chans inverts this: if a man reaches age thirty without having known the touch of a woman, he becomes a wizard.
Johnny Bravo. Once a group of Amazons tried to sacrifice him to a volcano god, calling him a "virgin sacrifice." Johnny raises his eyebrow curiously. He says "Virgin? Excuse me lady but I'm not...", but gets cut off with a whack to the head.
The fact that the Volcano promptly spit him out and destroyed the entire island in disgust is telling.
Reverend Putty of Moral Orel was a virgin, despite having a daughter. The girl's mother used semen from tissues in his trash can to get pregnant. That's right, the man's trash can got more action than he did.
He eventurally gets better though, and it goes hand in hand with the softening of his character later on
The Simpsons: Skinner's argument that he didn't have sex with Mrs. Krabappel because he hasn't had sex with anyone is considered undeniable. The citizens of Springfield think that no man would admit to being a 45-year old virgin if he didn't have to, let alone pretend to be one if he wasn't.
Also the Comic Book Guy was a virgin until his forties when he slept with Agnes Skinner.
According to the South Park episode "Butters' Bottom Bitch", A Boy Has Never Not Kissed a Girl. When it's discovered that one of the girls is offering to kiss boys for a small fee, it leads Butters from the top of the tetherball pole hanging from his underwear to becoming the most successful pimp in South Park.