->''"You're like a sponge! You take, take, take, and drain others of their love and emotion!"''
-->-- '''Columbia''', ''Film/TheRockyHorrorPictureShow''

In order for a relationship to work, each party must put effort into the relationship, and they must appreciate the results. Sometimes, one party has to put more effort in than the other, while in other situations, it's evenly spread. Of course, it can also become a very sick relationship when it's All Take And No Give. This trope comes in two flavors with a middle ground.

In the first variant, the Taker knows the Giver is insecure and [[LoveHungry wants to feel needed and wanted]], so they {{manipulat|iveBastard}}e and extort the Giver into [[LivingEmotionalCrutch giving them what they want]] in exchange for morsels of affection. These relationships are typically led by a domineering BrattyHalfPint, a more sinister FantasyForbiddingFather or ClingyJealousGirl over an ExtremeDoormat.

The other variant is a bit more disturbing. Rather than the Taker being in charge, it's the Giver who is in control. It's not that they're [[ChronicHeroSyndrome pathologically compelled]] to [[GoodSamaritan generosity]], but a deep desire to {{control|Freak}} and even ''own'' the Taker... so they work to make them completely psychologically and physically dependent, and may in fact cripple their ability to do some (or all) things. This is the hallmark of MyBelovedSmother, who may impair or delay their child's growth to keep them [[MommasBoy dependent.]] If romantic, the Giver may be a StalkerWithACrush or a {{Yandere}} who has managed to start a relationship with their target and then proceeded to demolish their self esteem in the guise of "helping" them. Expect them to say "I did it all for you", and justify alienating the Taker from past friends because "TheyWereHoldingYouBack." If the Taker should realize this and work up the resolve to break the cycle, the Giver [[AxCrazy will not be pleased]].

The middle ground is akin to TheMasochismTango, both the Giver and the Taker are in a deeply co-dependent relationship they can't break out of. Maybe they're a SugarDaddy and a [[GoldDigger shop-happy floozy]], a parent who can't stand to say "no" and an emotionally needy SpoiledBrat, or an indulgent monarch raising a RoyalBrat. In all variations, both participants will be unwilling or unable to leave, change or even identify the relationship.

Expect the Giver to say a variation of "I give and I give, and you take and you take" with one of two possible inflections, feigned suffering meant to guilt trip the Taker, or resigned exasperation as they once again give in.

Compare TakingAdvantageOfGenerosity (although that doesn't require a couple). Contrast IgnoredEnamoredUnderling and UnrequitedLoveTropes in general, which are akin to "All Give And No Take".



[[folder:Anime & Manga]]
* ''[[Manga/{{Monster}} Another Monster]]'' delves deeper into Tenma and Eva's relationship, when Eva realizes that, despite her being the taker, Tenma was always the stronger one that she depended on for a sense of worth and confidence.
* In ''Anime/SpiritedAway'', we have a case of the second variant with No Face as the Giver and Chihiro as the Taker. In the beginning, No Face helped Chihiro out and Chihiro gratefully accepted his help. But once Chihiro refused to accept one of his gifts after seeing how the other bath patrons were greedily accepting his gifts of gold without question, No Face [[AxCrazy went a little crazy]], [[ImAHumanitarian ate some people]] and demanded that Chihiro be brought to him so she could accept his gifts.
** Then there's Yubaba and her gigantic baby Boh. She coddles him incessantly and he's spoiled rotten. It takes a BalefulPolymorph into a tiny animal for him to learn manners and "grow up". He gets better.
* ''Manga/{{Pretear}}'': Takako, when she first started out as the Pretear, was the Taker, with Hayate as the Giver. However, when she realized that he didn't return her affections, [[LoveMakesYouEvil she became the Princess of Disaster.]]
* Kagetora and Naoe's relationship in ''LightNovel/MirageOfBlaze''.
* ''Anime/CodeGeass'' has Lelouch masterfully manipulating Rolo into being a Giver. Poor Rolo thought someone actually liked him. Of course, being both a [[ReplacementGoldfish fake replacement sibling]] ''and'' an assassin ordered to kill Lelouch if he was shown to have his memories regained did not endear him. Also, Rolo had become the manipulative type of Giver, to the point he wanted Lelouch as his brother to the point where he would forget Nunnally. And once [[spoiler:Rolo killed Shirley in cold blood]], Lelouch pretty much tried to get rid of him as payback. Until, ironically enough, [[spoiler:Rolo saved his life [[RedemptionEqualsDeath at the cost of his own]]]].
* ''Manga/YuGiOh'' plays with this. Yugi solves the Millennium Puzzle and gains a spirit for an alter ego. The spirit then protects Yugi from bullies and wins games of all kinds on his behalf, including tournaments, whilst letting Yugi take credit. Initially Yugi refuses to entertain the idea of the helping the spirit get his freedom, but he later admits his dependency and resolves to become stronger. Zigzagged in that most of the reason the pair entered tournaments in the first place was people targeting the Puzzle and Yugi's loved ones, rather than Yugi using the spirit intentionally for personal glory.
* Unsui and Agon of ''Anime/{{Eyeshield 21}}'' have this undertone to their relationship. Unsui tends to act like a surrogate parent to his brother (it's implied their real parents spoil him), puts his brother's needs before his own, and constantly apologizes for his brother's actions. This is due to Unsui's need to have a purpose after the painful realization that he'll always be a mediocre person without his brother.
* Ui and Yui of ''Manga/KOn'' play this for laughs. Despite being older, Yui has a child-like dependence on her little sister who acts like a doting mother to her immature sister.
* This is what BigBad [[spoiler:Ajimu]] of ''Manga/MedakaBox'' says is the true nature of [[spoiler:Medaka and Zenkichi]]'s relationship. [[spoiler:Even after Zenkichi's unfailing devotion to her, all out of his love for her, she takes it for granted. Ajimu bluntly states he was not born to serve Medaka]]. This ultimately proves to have some truth to it when [[spoiler:Medaka berates and attacks Zenkichi for not being able to pass the first part of her test given to her possible successors. When Zenkichi confronts her to prove his point, she beats the tar out of him and berates him further to solidify him becoming her enemy just so she wasn't wrong in her assumptions can continue to see value in him]].
** This also makes her seem even more of a JerkAss since when [[spoiler:Akune decides to join Zenkichi against Medaka she praises him instead of giving him the same treatment]].
* Partway through ''Anime/WelcomeToTheNHK'', Satou begins to fear/hallucinate that Misaki may be trying to trick him into a relationship. [[spoiler:She is.]]
* A relationship becomes motive for murder in ''Manga/DetectiveConan''. The "Taker" discovered that the "Giver" was ruining her life so she'd stay dependent forever, and thus murdered the "Giver".
* At the beginning of ''Anime/PrincessTutu'', [[{{Ojou}} Rue]] and [[EmotionlessBoy Mytho]] have a strange relationship where they're both content, but they both "give" things that the other person finds meaningless and "take" something else that's unimportant to the other; Rue might be considered the Taker just because she gets ''something'' out of Mytho that he intentionally gives, even if it's not what she really wants. Mytho follows Rue's every whim, but only because [[ExtremeDoormat he likes being ordered around]] and "nobody else tells [him] what to do". Rue keeps him around because [[BrokenBird she wants to be loved]], but he's completely incapable of reciprocating, so she just makes him tell her "I love you" and pretends that it's real.
* In ''Manga/DeathNote'', MagnificentBastard {{Light|IsNotGood}} [[SerialKiller Yagami]] and his girlfriend/co-conspirator [[MadLove Misa]] are like this; Light is a manipulative ConsummateLiar who takes advantage of Misa's mental instability and desperation for support to make her both his most dangerous pawn and his lover - in his defense, though, it wasn't as if she [[{{Yandere}} gave him much of a choice]]. This results in a relationship where Light plays with her life, like everyone else's, while she is gradually consumed by her obsession with him, despite his total lack of affection toward her. It culminates in [[spoiler:[[DrivenToSuicide her death]]]].
** A stranger example happens in the Yostuba arc, where Light's MemoryGambit has him working on his own murder investigation under [[SympatheticInspectorAntagonist L]]. During this period, Light is genuinely trying to help, and L gladly accepts his generosity - while trying to get him convicted for murder.
* The relationship between siblings Umaru and Taihei in ''Manga/HimoutoUmaruChan''. Umaru is a LazyBum who expects Taihei to wait on her hand and foot while Taihei, for all his attempts to get his sister to straighten up, mostly does exactly that.

* [[ComicBook/DisneyDucksComicUniverse Donald Duck]] is [[DependingOnTheWriter often]] the Giver in his relationships with both his girlfriend Daisy and his uncle/employer Scrooge. Even Creator/DonRosa, not generally into {{flanderization}}, portrays this pointedly in his "The Magnificent Seven (Minus Four) Caballeros" to contrast it with his relationship with his old friends Panchito Pistoles and José Carioca.
* Harley Quinn is like this to her beloved, ComicBook/TheJoker. She helps him with all his plans, breaks him out of Arkham over and over again, and always comes back to him. DependingOnTheWriter, The Joker may give her nothing more in return than tolerance, or a bullet to the heart.
* Comicbook/{{Daredevil}} descended into this at the end of his relationship with Heather Glenn. Still stricken by the death of his ex-lover Comicbook/{{Elektra}}, he deliberately let the company Heather had inherited be destroyed to make sure that she would have nothing in her life but him, and thus couldn't leave him.

* ''Fanfic/ACrownOfStars'': After the events of the prior fic Asuka and Shinji were so burned-out that they were afraid of having a real relationship. Asuka had proposed to Shinji an agreement where he would give her everything and she would not have to give anything back. She did not expect him taking him, but Shinji did, muttering it was better than nothing. In the first chapter they meet their future selves -who have underwent so many changes they are considerably happier, more balanced, and have a real, healthy, balanced relationship- and the older Asuka -and several more characters later- denounces that "agreement" was a hollow shell of a relationship.
* ''Franchise/AceAttorney'' fanfic ''Fanfic/DirtySympathy'' has Kristoph and Apollo in a variant two relationship. Kristoph is an abusive Giver, controlling every aspect of Apollo's life by providing him with employment, transportation and shelter which Apollo as the Taker can't afford to refuse.
* ''Fanfic/TheOneILoveIs'': One of the reasons that [[spoiler:Shinji chose Asuka and not Rei]] was he knew their relationship would become this: she would make him the only goal of her existence, she would make anything for him without asking for anything in return and he would take everything. And it would not be fair to [[spoiler:Rei]].
* ''Fanfic/TheVerySecretDiary'': Tom and Ginny's relationship is this, portrayed in the most disturbing manner in possible. Tom is the Taker, taking all of Ginny's life force and draining her of any free will and almost all sense of self, and Ginny, desperate for a friend, gives and gives and ''gives'', not realizing Tom's true nature until it's too late. Tom, however, paints himself as the selfless Giver who patiently listens to all of Ginny's problems and is always there for her, making Ginny feel like the selfish, abusive Taker who takes advantage of his kindness, further manipulating her.
* In ''Fanfic/NukumeDori'', surprisingly, [[AllLovingHero Subaru]] becomes a taker. After establishing their relationship, Subaru demands that Seishirou show sincere affection and attention to him, but Subaru is either too embarrassed, scared or absorbed into other people's problems to do the same in return. He gets better.
* ''FanFic/HerInnerDemons'': Sadly this was Sci-Twilight's relationship with Crystal Prep in a nutshell. She was the Giver, using her smarts to help Crystal Prep win countless academic contests, but the student body played the taker, and gave her nothing but ridicule and scorn, instead of praise and recognition she never got at her old school. Abacus Cinch initially averted this by giving Sci-Twilight some privileges, but then played it straight by blackmailing her star student into joining the Friendship Games. During the Friendship Games, she still got no recognition from her fellow Shadowbolts. So it is a small wonder she grew angry and resentful enough to [[spoiler: become Midnight Sparkle once she unleashed the magic]].
--> '''Sci-Twilight''':I won one city academic contest after another, Crystal Prep became more prestigious than ever, and not a single smile or a slap on the back or even a "Good job, Twilight" followed.
* In the ''WebAnimation/{{RWBY}}'' fanfiction [[https://www.fanfiction.net/s/12295056/1/Recovery Recovery]], this is how Weiss feels about the relationship between Yang and Blake, with Yang as the "Giver" and Blake the "Taker". She understands that Yang loves Blake and the feeling may indeed be mutual, but her problem lies with how despite Yang giving Blake so much affection and care, in the end Blake still threw it away to run off after Beacon's fall. [[spoiler:The fact she [[GreenEyedMonster has her own feelings for Yang]] [[IWantMyBelovedToBeHappy that she tried to bury for their sakes]] does play a bit into it, but Yang herself comes to realize it after a bit of soul-searching and also decides that while she still loves Blake, she would rather be with [[SecondLove Weiss]], the person who's been trying to help her all this time]].
-->'''Weiss''': When has she ''ever'' been here, Yang?! Where does she always go when you need her? Iíve watched it happen time and again. She choose Sun over you, she didnít believe you about Mercury, and she left you after you risked your life for her at Beacon. Do you honestly think so little of me that you believe I would stand in the way if you two were actually good for each other? [[spoiler:You might not believe me when I say how I feel about you, but how on Remnant could I let someone I love keep getting hurt and say nothing. I know that you canít buy someone's love Yang, just as much as I know that loving someone who keeps wounding you isnít healthy.]]

[[folder:Films -- Animated]]
* ''WesternAnimation/{{Coraline}}'' had the Other Mother as a giver, and the previous ghost children (and Coraline, for a bit) as takers. But then again, the relationship could switch around with the Other Mother as the taker, needing love and the souls from the children, who would give it to her unwillingly or unknowingly.
* ''Disney/{{Tangled}}'': Gothel does this to Rapunzel, both the Taker for the hair, and the Giver to keep her helpless and secure.

[[folder:Films -- Live-Action]]
* ''Film/CharlieAndTheChocolateFactory'' has Veruca Salt and her father in this relationship.
* ''Film/MirrorMask'' has the dark counterparts to Helena and her mom, the Princess and Queen of Shadows. The princess was all take, a needy and rebellious girl who ran away, stole [[CosmicKeystone the mirror mask]] and started destroying the paper world. The Queen was all give, controlling, smothering, and at one point even brainwashing Helena into acting like a [[strike:[[ExtremeDoormat doll]]]] daughter. Creator/NeilGaiman may have a thing for this trope.
* In ''Film/RepoTheGeneticOpera'', Rotti says this to Amber when she asks him for more surgery. He refuses at first, but one look at her botched face job has him change his mind.
* Columbia to Frank in ''Series/TheRockyHorrorPictureShow''. In the end, though, [[spoiler: she does finally call him out on his behavior and ultimately refuses to cooperate with him in the film's [[StealthPun climax]]]].
* {{Lifetime Movie|OfTheWeek}}s often portray marriage that way with a selfish, abusive and ungrateful husband and a loving, faithful, ever-suffering wife who just endures the selfishness and {{Jerkass}}ery of her spouse.
* In ''Film/DonJon'', both leads are guilty of this in varying degrees. Jon gets better about it; Barbara doesn't.
* In the ''Film/FantasticBeastsAndWhereToFindThem'' film, Queenie Goldstein discovers Newt Scamander's relationship with Leta Lestrange by reading his mind, and how it didn't work out.
-->'''Queenie''': She was a taker. You need a giver.

* ''Literature/TheSecretHistory'' provides a perfect example of the first variant, with Charles as the Taker and Francis as the Giver.
* This is basically ''Literature/TheGivingTree'' in a nutshell, plus some {{Glurge}}.
* In Creator/StephenKing's ''Literature/TheStand'', his own mother calls Larry Underwood a "taker", which comes back to haunt him many times.
** To put it in the words of his friend Wayne Stukey, there's "something in [Larry] that's like biting on tinfoil."
** Nadine Cross in contrast is a Giver who, in her own words, needs to be needed. She has a breakdown when the nearly feral boy "Joe" she has been protecting suddenly regains his old identity "Leo Rockway" after meeting Mother Abigail. After Larry rejects Nadine in favor of his current love interest Lucy, Nadine does a FaceHeelTurn and goes to the one person she thinks still needs her: Randall Flagg. She realizes far too late that this is a ''huge'' mistake.
* And another Creator/StephenKing example: In ''Literature/{{It}}'', Eddie and his mother (in the past) and Eddie and his wife (in the book's present) both come off as the second variety, with the woman as the domineering Giver, and Eddie as the Taker who is being controlled.
* In ''Literature/AtlasShrugged'', Hank Rearden's idle family live off his success and insult him for it at the same time. An even more explicit version of the second type is railroad executive James Taggart's marriage to Cherryl Brooks; his lifting her out of her life as a dime-store worker left her as a FishOutOfWater unable to cope in her husband's social circle and dependent on him for everything -- and that's just what he wanted. Cherryl [[GoMadFromTheRevelation Goes Mad From The Revelation]] when she realizes this; James does the same when he can't hide from his motivation any longer.
* In one lesser-known story by German author Creator/{{Janosch}} about a donkey falling in love with an owl. (With the donkey being the giver, and the owl being the taker.) Does he want to suggest that men in love should act like that?! Now that's a FamilyUnfriendlyAesop.
* In ''Literature/SongOfSolomon'', both Hagar and Ruth would do anything for Milkman, needing him to keep on living. Milkman never cared for them apart from what they could give him. Also, Macon Jr. provided the family's income, keeping the family in luxury and completely dependent on him.
* ''Literature/HarryPotter''
** In ''Literature/HarryPotterAndTheChamberOfSecrets'', there's the implication that [[spoiler:Ginny's relationship with Tom Riddle was the second variant, obviously with Riddle as the manipulative Giver of his companionship and Ginny as the controlled Taker]]. Of course, it goes the other way as well. [[spoiler:As Ginny eagerly poured out her heart and soul to Tom Riddle, he fed off of it to the point where he had sucked nearly all of the life out of her.]]
** In ''Literature/HarryPotterAndTheOrderOfThePhoenix'' a grieving Cho forces her friend Marietta to accompany her to the Hog's Head and later to D.A. meetings where she is obviously uncomfortable and is hinted to not completely believe Harry since she is concerned by things her Ministry working mother says and ultimately does not take a resistance movement organized to prepare them to fight ''Voldemort'' as seriously as her discomfort with breaking the rules.
* Creator/CSLewis used this trope a lot.
** In ''Literature/TheFourLoves'', he cites Mrs. Fidget, whose endless housework on behalf of her family left them miserable, and how some women live their lives up to the verge of old age in endless service to a maternal vampire.
** In ''Literature/TheGreatDivorce'', one damned soul is a woman who wants to give everything to her son as long as he's under her control, and another damned soul is not happy as long as his wife could be happy without him.
** In ''Literature/TheScrewtapeLetters'', the last letter, after Wormwood's failure, is addressed in the most affectionate terms, looking forward to devouring him.
** In ''Literature/TillWeHaveFaces'', Orual wants Psyche to be happy -- as long as Orual and only Orual is the one to make her happy. Otherwise, she must be made miserable.
** ''Literature/TheLastBattle'' has Shift and Puzzle. The narrator sums it up at the very beginning of the book: "At least they both said they were friends, but from the way things went on you might have thought Puzzle was more like Shift's servant than his friend."
* In Alma Katsu's ''The Taker'', Lanny is the Giver and Jonathan is the Taker. A sort of mix between the two types: Lanny will do anything for Jonathan, no matter the cost or risk to herself - including [[PoisonousFriend a few things he would not have wanted her to do for him, had she bothered to ask him.]]
* Most of Julias relationships in ''Literature/TheMarkOfTheLion'' trilogy tend towards this, as Julia morphs from a sweet girl into a disillusioned, LoveHungry RichBitch.
* The ''Franchise/StarWarsExpandedUniverse'' reveals this to be the case for the H'nemthe species, as covered in passing in ''Literature/TalesFromTheMosEisleyCantina''. Due to the fact that there are 20 males for every female of the species, males literally give their females everything. Up to and including ''their lives'': H'nemthe females have elongated, razor-sharp tongues that they use to eviscerate the males after sex, whereupon they devour the corpse. Virgin females are vegetarians up until they lose their virginity -- whereupon they also lose their "vegetarian virginity" as well.
* Creator/JaneAusten loved this so much, one imagines she knew a person or two who plagued her in real life...
** Lydia Bennet of ''Literature/PrideAndPrejudice'' demands attention all the time, appropriates her sister Kitty's clothing at will, and never thinks that she should do anything for anyone else. Really, the scene where she tells Jane and Elizabeth "We're treating you to lunch, [[ComicallyMissingThePoint but you have to lend us the money because we've already spent ours]]" says it all.
** Tom Bertram in ''Literature/MansfieldPark'' uses up so much of his dad's money that his dad is forced to give the church living he'd intended for his younger son to a different man so as to clear the debt. Tom is extremely annoyed at all the fuss being made over it. (He smartens up after a particularly wild night sends him into a nearly fatal illness for weeks, and all of his hundred or more "particular friends" ditch him.)
** Mr. Elliot of ''Literature/{{Persuasion}}'' is quite a sinister version. He married his first wife for money, and though she loved him, he was callous and cold to her after the wedding and she died a very unhappy woman. Later, he was as close as family to his good friends the Smiths--encouraging them to spend far past their means to keep him in style, and then abandoning them when they went broke. He doesn't so much as twitch a finger to help Mrs. Smith get an inheritance she's legally entitled to, not because he's claiming it but because he can't be ''bothered.''
* A major point in ''Literature/TheRobotsOfDawn''. Gladia has been raised on Solaria, a SexIsEvil planet. She never had an orgasm, because there was no Giver and no Taker. Later, she emigrated to Aurora, a FreeLoveFuture planet, but the problem persisted, because with the free attitude, there was once again neither Giver nor Taker. Then, she was given a {{Ridiculously Human Robot|s}}, and did manage to have an orgasm, but she was only a Taker, because a robot cannot Take. And then, she had sex with Baley when he was near-unconscious with exhaustion, to experience the role of a Giver. Considering she then married an Auroran and lived with him for over a century, it can be assumed all this gave her the proper perspective.
* The poem ''Bitten by the Snake'' implies this sort of relationship, where the titular snake is the taker and the mouse was the giver, the latter realizing this fully upon being bitten. She's implied to turn out better for it.

[[folder:Live-Action TV]]
* ''Series/{{Smallville}}''
** Despite being best friends, Lana and Chloe's relationship is very one-sided. For eight years, Chloe has always been the giver and the best Lana did is to blame her when something goes wrong and/or break her heart with her relationship with Clark.
** In season eight, Chloe and [[spoiler:Davis Bloome]], more or less, but this time it is Chloe who insists on giving.
* In the second season of ''Series/TrueBlood'', the maenad Maryann functions as the giver to the alcoholic, emotionally fragile Tara. She invites Tara to live in her mansion where she's pampered around the clock, under the guise of trying to help the girl turn her life around. [[spoiler:In reality, Maryann is trying to drive a wedge between Tara and her abusive mother so that she can control Tara's life herself, [[EmotionEater feeding off her anguish and rage]].]]
* ''Series/{{Seinfeld}}''
** In one episode, Jerry refers to himself as a Taker and another character as a Giver, and argues that a relationship between a Giver and Taker is the ideal.
** Kramer and George are both all take and no give in most episodes.
* Al Bundy's family is like this on ''Series/MarriedWithChildren'', doing very little to contribute to the household and whining whenever they don't get their way. Peggy is the worst one. Whereas the kids eventually get jobs and start paying their own way, what she contributes to the relationship is questionable, given that she refuses to get a job, cook or clean the house, and constantly spends Al's money on useless junk and Bon Bons. Peg justifies this by claiming that she does serve a function: boosting Al's ego as the sole breadwinner. How much Peg is right is up to debate, but an early episode did have Peg get a job. Al became almost as miserable as Peg was because he actually liked having her around and he ''enjoyed'' complaining about her freeloading.
* Series/{{House}} and Wilson are a little unusual, since their relationship, while strange and disturbing, actually seems to ''work'' for both of them -- House's selfishness has prevented him from having any other friends, and while Wilson keeps embracing vulnerable people and nursing them towards mental health and self-confidence, he invariably loses all interest in them once they no longer need him to take care of them. The only person who could put up with the ultimate Giver in the long run is the ultimate Taker, and vice versa.
* ''Series/BuffyTheVampireSlayer'' -- Spike and Buffy's "relationship" in season 6, with Buffy as Taker and Spike as Giver. They seem caught between the two types - he puts up with truly ''ridiculous'' amounts of abuse from her due to obsessive love, yet is constantly trying to drag her into the darkness. This may be LaserGuidedKarma for Spike's earlier relationship with Harmony, whose final speech to him is roughly "[[LoveMartyr I thought if I gave and gave and gave you'd come around.]] Maybe be a little nicer, instead of treating me like your dog. But then I realized you're the dog."
* On ''Series/TheSarahSilvermanProgram'' Sarah is The "Taker" to her Sister, Laura. Sarah refuses to work. All her money and her apartment is provided to her by her sister, for which Laura receives zero gratitude.
* Fans of ''Literature/GossipGirl'' often complain about how Nate and Chuck's friendship is like this, ironically with [[ChronicHeroSyndrome Nate]] being the taker and [[JerkAss Chuck]] the giver. Chuck will always bend over backwards to help Nate while Nate had to be forced by Blair to help get Chuck off the barstool and attend his father's funeral. And that's still one of Nate's best displays of friendship. Nate is also the Taker to Blair's Giver when they're together.
* On ''Series/VeronicaMars'', the title character often slips into this, particularly with respect to her friend Wallace. Veronica falls into this, as the "Taker", with Wallace being the "Giver." It gets to the point where [[WhatTheHellHero she gets rightfully called out on it.]]
* Pretty much the relationship between the Winchesters and Castiel, from ''Series/{{Supernatural}}'', with the latter being the Giver. While Cas has done an endless list of things for Sam and Dean (usually at the cost of his own well being), he has not asked something from the Winchesters in return more than twice. However, although he doesn't usually gets as much as a "thanks" in return, what has really been irking some fans is that, on the one time Cas actually needed the Winchesters to support him, they failed to do so. [[spoiler:It's arguable that the whole Leviathan business could have been avoided if only Sam and Dean had listened to Cas, instead of turning on him for making a deal with a demon... something the Winchesters themselves do on a daily basis.]]
* The title character from ''Series/{{Sherlock}}'' and John in the initial stages of their friendship. John is extremely tolerant of Sherlock, who makes no effort to be either easy to live with or particularly accommodating, despite John being willing to kill criminals and put his life on the line for Sherlock's sake. Ultimately averted, however, when [[spoiler:Sherlock allows the world to believe he is "a fake genius" and [[UndyingLoyalty stages his own suicide to safeguard John's and their other friends' lives]]]]. John himself doesn't seem to believe this of their relationship, as stated by him during his [[spoiler:graveyard spiel following Sherlock's supposed death]]: "I was so alone, and I owe you so much." Understandable, as the very first episode hints that John sorely misses the thrill and danger of war, and that helping Sherlock with his cases gives him a sense of purpose and allows him to experience the excitement he craves.
* ''Series/HouseOfAnubis''
** Many fans have accused Nina and Fabian's relationship to be like this, with Fabian putting in much more of the effort AND doing many dangerous things for Nina and sometimes not even getting so much of a thank you in return. Eventually averted, however, with [[spoiler:Nina putting on the mask of Anubis, willing to go to the Egyptian afterlife to spare her friends and her Grandmother from being cursed any longer]].
** Amber and Alfie's relationship in the beginning of season 2 was also like this.
* ''Series/TheBigBangTheory'':
** Sheldon Cooper is a Taker with his all his friends being the Givers, expecting others to succumb to his every whim, from what they eat each day to driving him around no matter how it might inconvenience others, and only does things for others when he literally has no other choice. On the other hand, he does have his PetTheDog moments. [[note]] Such as loaning Penny money on ''very'' generous terms knowing he'll likely never get it back; hiring Raj as an assistant so he could remain in the country when his research grant (and his visa) were cancelled; and saving Leonard's life from the rocket fuel accident that destroyed the elevator (and protecting Leonard's reputation by lying to the landlord, police, and Homeland Security about the exact circumstances). He also recommended Leonard for the North Sea research trip when it was in no way to his benefit (either professionally or personally) to do so.[[/note]]
** Because Leonard is a [[ExtremeDoormat chronic enabler]], he is the Giver in this sort of relationship with several characters, be it [[SmallNameBigEgo Sheldon]], [[PrettyFreeloader Penny]] or even his own mother [[AbusiveParents Beverly]].
* Although we never meet Rick's parents (who are explicitly stated to be upper-class conservatives) on ''Series/TheYoungOnes'', he is strongly implied to have this kind of relationship with them. At one point, Vyvyan describes Rick as "the classic example of an only child".
* The Barone family are a seemingly dysfunctional example of this dynamic in ''Series/EverybodyLovesRaymond''. [[JewishMother Matriarch]] Marie Barone controls her adult family by seemingly eternal giving - of food, comforts, domestic help - which serves to keep her husband and sons as dependent man-children who are forever bound to her in a web of obligation. She also uses her giving streak to minimise and diminish her two daughters-in-law. But neither her husband nor her sons can resist taking.
* In ''Series/CoronationStreet'', Mavis Riley and Derek Wilton's on-and-off relationship is like this, where Derek is the taker and Mavis is the giver. It seems to be a middle ground, where Derek is obliviously taking Mavis for granted and Mavis feels compelled to help him because she keeps fooling herself into thinking he'll change.

* Burt Bacharach's theme ''Film/{{Alfie}}'' from the film(s) of the same name has the lines "What's it all about, when you sort it out, Alfie? Are we meant to take more than we give?" Depending on how it is performed, the song can be from the perspective of a character who is a Giver to Alfie's Taker, or, if sung from a narrative perspective instead of a character perspective, can be a comment on Alfie's Taker personality in general.
* The narrator of "[[http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hnzHtm1jhL4 They're Coming To Take Me Away]]" claims to be a sympathetic Giver.
* The narrator of "Let Me Be Your Armor" by Assemblage 23 is a very possessive Giver.
* "Grenade" by Music/BrunoMars specifically mentions this trope:
-->Easy come, easy go - that's just how you live
-->Oh, take, take, take it all but you never give.
* "Manchild" by Music/{{Eels}} is an interesting example: the Taker in question is clearly depressed about her life, and there's nothing the Giver can do to completely help her despite all attempts to do so - therefore, she's is the one who thinks about the Giver as a Taker.
-->And every time you crave for me, I'm here.\\
And anything you hunger for, I'll share.\\
And I will be quietly standing by, while slowly I am dying inside.\\
Hold me in your arms,\\
And let me be the one who can feel,\\
Like I am a child in love.
* "Let Me Live" by Music/{{Queen}}"
-->All you do is take all I do is give\\
Baby, why don't you give me a chance to live
* "Everything She Wants" by Music/{{Wham}}. The whole song really, but especially:
-->They told me marriage was a give and take\\
Well you've shown me you can take, you've got some giving to do'
* Music/RobThomas has ''You take and take and take and take and'' in "Give Me The Meltdown."
** Matchbox Twenty has "I don't wanna be the ''crutch''" about being an living emotional crutch and "Feel", which has a "I make YOU so tired" semi sarcastically.
* Music/DollyParton describes working '9 to 5' as this.
* "Why Don't You Get a Job?" by Music/TheOffspring depicts this kind of relationship between a man and his GoldDigger girlfriend. The last verse reverses the genders.
* "In The Year 2525" by Zager and Evans paints man's relationship with the Earth this way (an opinion that's not entirely unfounded):
-->He's taken everything this old Earth can give
-->And he ain't put back nothing, whoa-ohhhhh...
* Main character Pink, of RockOpera ''Music/TheWall'', is like this to just about ''everybody'' he comes into contact with, in part because his [[MyBelovedSmother Beloved Smother]] was like this to him.
--> '''Mother''': OF COURSE Momma's gonna help you build [[GoMadFromTheIsolation a wall]]!
--> '''Pink''': Mother, does it have to be so... high?
* Defied in the Music/OingoBoingo song "Not My Slave". The narrator tries to talk the girl he loves out of her submissive tendencies, insisting she's not his property and that he just wants her to be happy...and that just because she's free doesn't mean he's abandoning her.

[[folder:Newspaper Comics]]
* Elly Patterson of ''ComicStrip/ForBetterOrForWorse'' is an interesting example. She considers herself to be the victim of the first variant, ''slaving'' away for an unappreciative family who never offer any help or support whatsoever to their poor, put-upon mother. However, it's [[AlternativeCharacterInterpretation just as easy]] to view her as a self-absorbed shrew with a martyr complex who wants to 'own the horses' by manipulating her children and raising them to remain [[MyBelovedSmother hopelessly reliant on her]] or an Elly-approved spouse.
** It doesn't help the writer's reboot makes the husband an over-the-top horrible man (who was based on her RealLife husband before that relationship went sour).
* Carol, the secretary to ComicStrip/{{Dilbert}}'s PointyHairedBoss, concocted a strategy of doing every little thing for him, thus training him to be (even more) incapable of doing anything for himself.
* Roxanne of ''ComicStrip/{{Candorville}}'' expects Lemont to bend entirely to her will, with no sense of compromise. There are indications that this is how she handles any relationship, sexual or otherwise.
* The titular fat cat in ''ComicStrip/{{Garfield}}'', believes that his lot in life is to not be disturbed while he sleeps for as long as he pleases, and eat as much as he can stuff into his stomach, while Jon's place in the world to keep him fed and not complain about the humongous grocery bills, or the mean spirited pranks Garfield plays on him or Odie.

[[folder:Video Games]]
* In the ''VideoGame/DotHackGU'' trilogy, [[spoiler:Sakaki]] is revealed to be the "controlling giver" type towards [[spoiler:Atoli]] when he crosses the MoralEventHorizon. He even delivers the classic line of accusing his victim of being "all take" and twists the knife in her low self-worth to convince her to only rely on him for emotional support. To put this in perspective, he got his hooks into the poor girl [[spoiler:when he met her on a suicide website]]! What a creep!
* In ''VideoGame/SilentHill2'', Mary, James' wife, was quite demanding and her mood swings only made her even more demanding. [[spoiler: Mary dying from a terminal illness understandably made her become all take and no give towards James, which also took a toll on his emotional being. In her final moments, Mary writes a letter to James and confesses that she had been incredibly selfish and wished she had been more supportive of him during her final days.]]
* Mr Eaten in ''VideoGame/FallenLondon'' is not generous. Seeking the Name will take everything from you, and there isn't a whole lot Mr Eaten will give back.

[[folder:Visual Novels]]
* Howard and Angelica's relationship functions as an all give and no take relationship in ''VisualNovel/ShikkokuNoSharnoth''. Angelica asks for things on a whim, and Howard goes to great lengths to fulfill them. They truly love each other, but all gestures of affection seem to flow in one direction.
* Sekai and Setsuna of ''VisualNovel/SchoolDays'' have this type of relationship, with Setsuna as the Giver and Sekai as the Taker. It isn't bad-intentioned on Sekai's part and she truly does see Setsuna as her best friend, but she also completely fails to consider Setsuna's feelings regarding her actions (like [[spoiler: taking the guy she had a crush on]]). It's largely Setsuna's fault as well, though; her only concern in life seems to be Sekai's happiness, and she is willing to steamroll over anyone and anything she has to in order to achieve this. The best examples of this are the lengths she goes to to keep Kotonoha away from Makoto even after learning that Sekai had lied to her about them previously breaking up, and when [[spoiler: she offers Makoto the chance to have sex with her if he promises to stay faithful to Sekai afterwards]].

* ''Webcomic/SomethingPositive'' [[http://www.somethingpositive.net/sp09052011.shtml attributes this to pet cats.]]
* In ''Webcomic/{{Sinfest}}'', [[http://www.sinfest.net/view.php?date=2009-05-29 Fuchsia tries to convince herself that she's really trying for the Giver mode, not falling in love.]]
* In ''Webcomic/MenageA3'', this is what Gary and Yuki's relationship degenerated to: She demanded oral sex from Gary [[MakingLoveInAllTheWrongPlaces anytime and anywhere]] the mood strikes her. Reciprocation - not even a kiss - did not even occur to her; partly because she can't even think of Gary's penis without having a psychotic break, partly because Yuki is [[ItsAllAboutMe stunningly selfish.]] The one-sidedness of the situation does get [[http://www.ma3comic.com/strips-ma3/that_was_tight spelled out for her]] eventually and [[HeelRealization she decides to break things off]].
* Fuzzy from ''WebComic/SamAndFuzzy'' is this on a platonic level, being incredibly demanding of everyone and practically only capable of giving back when a gun's held to his head. Sam is about the only person who can tolerate him for long and their HeterosexualLifePartners outfit has been strained to the breaking point several times, often due to Fuzzy being unwilling to compromise.

[[folder:Web Original]]
* WebVideo/TheNostalgiaChick and Nella. Not even the latter dying and turning evil is enough to make the Chick learn her lesson about treating her better. Subverted in that The Chick actually pays Nella to put up with her.
* WebVideo/AskThatGuyWithTheGlasses and his narrator. The narrator puts up with all of Ask That Guy's batshittery and evil with little complaint, and can't even get him to look him in the eyes during sex in return.
* Lampshaded in ''WebAnimation/{{RWBY}}''. One of the reasons Jaune refuses to ask for help from Pyrrha is because he feels that he can't repay her in any way. He fears becoming a 'Taker'- not without reason, as the power difference between them make it difficult to establish a healthy relationship.

[[folder:Western Animation]]
* In ''WesternAnimation/SouthPark'', this is the relationship Eric Cartman and his mother have. And it works both ways, according to "Tsst!" - Cartman gets spoiled rotten, while his mother has a ready-made companion to do stuff she enjoys. A fact that [[JerkAss Cartman]] twists to his advantage at every opportunity.
** This is also the case with Cartman's romantic relationship with Heidi Turner in Season 21. Heidi's desire for an honest, open, and equal relationship is hardly unreasonable, but Cartman believes she's demanding too much of him because he's such a [[ItsAllAboutMe selfish]] [[TheSociopath sociopath]] - he wants to be cared for without caring back in return. After dithering on it some as well as briefly [[TookALevelInJerkass becoming exactly like him]], Heidi finally wises up at the end of the season and permanently breaks up with Cartman.
* Bloo in ''WesternAnimation/FostersHomeForImaginaryFriends'' is not above taking extreme advantage of Wilt's generosity, to the point where Bloo makes him sleep on the floor and let Bloo sleep in his bed.
* One line from a song in ''WesternAnimation/DonkeyKongCountry'' pretty much says it all.
-->'''King K.Rool''': It's great to be a king. I seem to have a knack for taking everything I want and giving nothing back!
* Mr. Burns is like this to Smithers on ''WesternAnimation/TheSimpsons'', much of the time. On the other hand, Smithers doesn't seem to mind, [[HappinessInSlavery since he has an almost pathological need to serve Burns.]] When his boss fired him, he quickly became a drunken wreck, spending his days drinking cheap Scotch and watching Creator/ComedyCentral. When Homer accidentally crippled Burns by pushing him out of a third-story window, forcing him to be waited on hand and foot by Smithers, Smithers sent the Simpsons a very large basket of fruit as thanks.
* This is the main [[AnAesop Aesop]] of the ''WesternAnimation/MyLittlePonyFriendshipIsMagic'' episode [[Recap/MyLittlePonyFriendshipIsMagicS2E5SisterhoovesSocial "Sisterhooves Social"]].
* Dodie Bishop is this in ''WesternAnimation/AsToldByGinger''. She's meant to be Ginger's best friend, but she constantly demonstrates she will stomp all over Ginger's feelings in her quest for popularity, a boy she likes, or getting to go to a party. Yet when Ginger's plans don't suit her, she throws an [[EtTuBrute overdramatic fit]] and complains about what a [[ItsAllAboutMe bad friend]] she is.
* Patrick from ''WesternAnimation/SpongeBobSquarePants'' does this concerning stealing [=SpongeBob=]'s money and the toy he paid for. When [=SpongeBob=] tries to protest, Patrick just says meanly "Have you learning nothing from sharing?" His remark meant that he believed sharing meant that [=SpongeBob=] pays for everything and Patrick takes everything.
* ''WesternAnimation/BatmanTheAnimatedSeries'': Any relationship with Harley Quinn, where she will be The Giver. She invokes this trope being the lover of ComicBook/TheJoker and ComicBook/PoisonIvy's friend. Justified because those two are {{The Sociopath}}s and can only be The Takers. The truly ''disturbing'' thing about Harley is that she looks for this type of relationship (The Joker and Poison Ivy maybe could ''like'' Harley, but as {{The Sociopath}}s, they cannot ''truly care'' about her. In ''WesternAnimation/BatmanBeyondReturnOfTheJoker'' we see that Harley has this type of relationship with her granddaughters.
* ''WesternAnimation/JusticeLeague'': Simon Stagg is The Giver to his daughter, Sapphire. When she falls in love with someone and plans to move to Chicago, Stagg uses her lover in an experiment that leaves him horribly disfigured so she'll have only her daddy to turn to.
* In ''WesternAnimation/GravityFalls'', Bill manages to talk Dipper into a [[DealWithTheDevil deal]] by pointing out that he constantly sacrifices for Mabel and she never extends the same courtesy to him. Indeed, even after Bill [[spoiler: steals Dipper's body]], Mabel's still more concerned about putting on her puppet show then helping him. Fortunately, [[EvilCannotComprehendGood Bill wasn't expecting]] Mabel to move past this. And she [[spoiler:still hasn't, as she suffered from a AesopAmnesia almost immediately afterwards, something that is actually beginning to be deconstructed in and of itself]].
* This is discussed in ''WesternAnimation/KingOfTheHill'' when Bill joins a chorus group. When Bill tries to argue that they are his friends and need them, Hank brings up how they have only been asking to give (to the point where they made him use up his sick and vacation days at work) and talks about how friendship is a two-way street.
* In ''WesternAnimation/AmericanDad'' despite Stan being a {{Jerkass}} he is very much The Giver to Francine who obsessively spoils their kids while placing all the responsibility of disciplining them on him. The only time she sees anything wrong with this is when Stan tries to spend time for himself forcing her to deal with the consequences of her actions. She has also shown many instances of MoralMyopia sheís unwilling to spend time with his mother yet expects him to be okay with her parents, she can look at other men but he canít look at other woman. Even there sex life is this as its fundamentally him meticulously mastering everything she told him she enjoys and her being disappointed that he doesnít do things that she didnít tell him she wanted him to do. Finally Stan has repeatedly given up things for Francine his time, money, even his life, and most recently his immortal soul.