I use it because I find it funny, even if I'm bisexual. I haven't had a chance to use "no hetero" yet, but I totally would if it came up.
What is it with girls who, in public, go around hugging and jumping on each other and flirting ridiculously - with other girls, I might add - act all offended when you hit on them/let them know you're interested? How the hell was I supposed to know!?
Ah ha hah, oh wow, I didn't think lesbians actually thought acting like that was gay too. Maybe you should publicize some kind of secret handshake to advertise your actual homosexual status?
You're getting pretty close to the homophobia line there, bucko...
Maybe Faux Yay artists should publicize some kind of secret handshake to advertise their actual heterosexual status.
Girls like attention. Trust me on this.
Speak for yourself.
This is why I have a big button on my purse that says "LESBIAN." It was an act of will and charity not to add the word "actual."
Well, as I glance at me and my girl friends, we hug each other, hold hands, rest our heads on each others shoulders and laps when sitting, shout that we love each other from across the room, and, as far as I know, are all heterosexual. Its not about attention, its about...well, I don't really know. We kind of just do that. Teenage thing? Actually, sometimes I'm surprised we haven't been Mistaken for Gay yet.
My best friend (also a girl) and I are constantly Mistaken for Gay, and we're both not. We do the same sorts of stuff as the above troper described, just because it's what we do. And here's the kicker - so do the girls who give us weird looks when we allude to the fact that we're just friends, and ask "wait... so you're not together? ohhh...." Pisses me off.
I think it's because girls are allowed to be more affectionate with their female friends than males are with their friends. This for two reasons: 1) Due to stereotypes about women being more emotional (whether justified or not) and gay men being effeminate, females can get really close to their friends and get all touchy-feely "I love you", doing things that if a man were do to his pals and are less likely to be seen as gay for it. 2) Because a lot of people think Girl on Girl Is Hot and the opinion of it being hot being accepted by society, even when it is seen as gay, people are less likely to care. And thus straight girls are less likely to get defensive and insecure about where their sexual orientation lies. And thus, they are more willing to hold their friends' hands and tell them they love them. However, that still doesn't mean that women don't get defensive about it which is probably why some of them got offended when girl ask them out.
At least in my group of friends, it has very little to do with looking for attention and more to do with the fact that physical contact with your friends is nice. When it comes to the flirting, I think that it has at least two explanations. One: What outsiders would consider flirting might actually just be the way friends behave toward each other, no actual flirting intended. Two: In my experience, flirting comes naturally to many girls, regardless of if youíre actually interested in the one youíre flirting with or not. But Iím not saying that this is practical, or even very logical, and as a bisexual female I do see your point. It's frustrating as heck.
Yes, some people are just touchy-feely with their close friends. My best friend is like this with me, which pisses off another female friend who is madly in love with her, especially since I'm an Actual Lesbian. I am like this with another friend, but is that excused since it's a secret Incompatible Orientation thing?
I think the question he's asking is not about physical contact, but about why they get offended when you hit on them or let them know you're interested. Which, I think, is a good question. It is kind of weird.
Actually, I think the person asking the question is a she, and into other girls, what with the whole question being why these girls are offended when hit on after delivering massive amount of Faux Yay. It's a very good question from a non-straight's perspective: If you are heterosexual but flirting with your own gender, regularly, how is somebody supposed to know you aren't into your own gender that way? Either accept that it's perfectly reasonable confusion, or try to make it easier to tell it's just Faux Yay.
So here's a scenario: We have a gay guy, and he's always talking about being gay and how gay he is, does this mean that he's actually straight?
He could be Camp Gay... or just frank about his sexuality. Unless he is straight, then that's Gay Bravado.
Or he could be Camp Straight and just uses the word gay to ward of the hordes of women who want to have his children.