''The Object of My Affection'' is the name of a 1987 novel by Stephen [=McCauley=] and its 1998 film adaptation. The film was a RomanticComedy, exploring the concept of IncompatibleOrientation. It was directed by NicholasHytner, previously known for film adaptations of ''Film/TheMadnessOfKingGeorge'' (1994) and ''Film/TheCrucible'' (1996). The main stars were Creator/JenniferAniston and Creator/PaulRudd.

The film starts by introducing its main characters and their respective occupations. George Hanson (Rudd), a first grade teacher at a private school, is making the opening remarks before the class play, whose cast includes the step-niece of Nina Borowski (Aniston). George is openly gay, currently in a relationship with Dr. Robert Joley (Creator/TimDaly), a professor and biographer of Creator/GeorgeBernardShaw. Nina is a social worker, currently employed as a teen counselor at a community center in Brooklyn. She is seen giving advice to teenage girls about their sexual lives, cautioning them against promiscuity by telling them, "If I had sex with a guy, I'd want him to be my friend." She is in a relationship with Vince [=McBride=], a lawyer for the Legal Aid Society (the largest not-for-profit legal services organization of the United States) and a rather overbearing individual.

George and Nina meet after the school play, at a society party hosted by Nina's stepsister Constance Miller (Creator/AllisonJanney) and her husband Sidney (Creator/AlanAlda). Nina has been looking for a roommate. Joley apparently put on a good word for George, explaining that he would soon need a new apartment. George is shocked to only learn that from her. It is his lover's not so subtle way of telling him that he is kicking him out. Joley is leaving him for a younger man, one of his students. George does move in with Nina. They spent much of their free time together, even taking dancing lessons. Also talking about his personal history. In particular, how he used to date a girl in high school and only discovered his orientation when at college. Nina continues sleeping with Vince, and becomes pregnant with his child, but is falling hard for George.

Nina and Vince have an argument and end their relationship, but she decides to continue her pregnancy. Not wanting to raise her child alone, her first thought is to turn to George and ask him to raise a kid together. He is tempted because it might be his only chance to become a father. George and Nina form a strong emotional bond, strong enough that, on one occasion, they kiss, only to be interrupted by a phone call from Joley, who wants to reconcile with George. The two men travel to an academic conference together, with George uncertain as to whether they should resume their relationship. While at the conference, George meets actor Paul James (Amo Gulinello) and falls for him, putting a strain on his relationship with Nina. The two have to sort out the mess before the birth of the baby.

!!This film provides examples of:
* AllGaysArePromiscuous: Averted. George seriously considers settling down with Nina, raising a kid. He rejects the advances of a man with whom he is set up on a blind date, and later spurns his ex-partner Joley, who wants to restart their relationship. It is implied that he and Joley were monogamous during their relationship; when George gets involved with Paul, the implication is that they, too, begin a long-term monogamous relationship.
* AllGaysLoveTheater: George loves theatre and directs school plays. Dr. Robert Joley is a great fan of Creator/GeorgeBernardShaw and the plays. Paul is a theatrical actor. Rodney, a theatrical critic with a passion for Creator/WilliamShakespeare. All four are gay.
* CampGay: Averted. None of the gay characters are particularly effeminate.
* TheCasanova: Dr. Frank Hanson (Steve Zahn) , George's younger brother, is seen with one gorgeous fiancée after another. At one point, he is seen flirting with two women at the same time, just before introducing his newest fiancée. His reaction when he learns that the couple of Vince and Melissa Marx (Kali Rocha) broke up, is to ask whether Melissa is cute and available, while his current fiancée standing right next to him. By the end of the film, he becomes a LadykillerInLove, truly falling hard for one woman, such that he finally gets married.
* CausticCritic: Rodney is a professional theatre critic whose style is overly insulting to various theatrical directors. At one point, Rodney is assaulted by an irate director.
* CureYourGays: Played with. Constance summarizes Nina's efforts as trying to bring George "to his senses".
* FagHag: Nina at first. Then she falls hard for her gay friend.
* FairCop: Louis Crowley. An African-American with model looks.
* TheGhost: Lucy Jane Parnell, George's first love, is frequently mentioned but never seen.
* HospitalHottie: Frank Hanson is a hospital doctor and babe-magnet.
* IncompatibleOrientation: A heterosexual woman falls for a homosexual man.
* {{Jerkass}}: Dr. Robert Joley comes off as extremely arrogant in his every scene. Then he effectively kicks out his lover and "best friend" to move on to a younger guy. When that relationship fails, Robert tries to get back with George, expecting George to drop everything for him. George has to ask: "How did we get back so quickly to the "honey" stage". It comes off as amusing when George drops him like a bad habit.
* LoverAndBeloved: Rodney and Paul. But it is supposed to be Platonic Love only.
* LoveTriangle: At first, Nina sleeps with Vince while actually loving George. With Vince increasingly jealous of his "rival". Then Vince and George have a fight over Nina and who gets to be her partner in parenting. Later, we have George simultaneously involved with Nina and Paul. Paul himself has a Platonic relationship with his aging mentor Rodney Fraser and a sexual one with George. A secondary love triangle forms between George, Nina and Louis Crowley (Kevin Carroll), a cop who falls for her.
* MayDecemberRomance: Nigel Hawthorne who plays Rodney was 69-years-old. His love interest is played by Amo Gulinello, who was in his 20s or early 30s.
* NoBisexuals: George admits to having sex with his girlfriend at the high school prom, is somewhat turned on by Nina (while in bed with her), and almost has sex with her. Somehow the possibility of George having bisexual tendencies is never discussed. Nor the word "bisexual" ever mentioned.
* NobodyOver50IsGay: Averted. Rodney is older and still gay. Though it is never explained if his current celibacy is a personal choice or a physiological problem.
* SettledForGay: While Nina would like to have sex with George, she wants to settle down with him even if sex is not an option. He is the love of her life.
* StraightGay: No particular effeminate mannerisms from the gay characters. Though it doesn't prevent them from discussing their sexuality.
* TrailersAlwaysLie: The TV trailer makes the film look like a run-of-the-mill TastesLikeDiabetes romance between George and Nina.