Film: He's Just Not That Into You
He's Just Not That Into You
is a 2009 Romantic Comedy Based on an Advice Book
. It stars Ben Affleck
, Jennifer Aniston
, Drew Barrymore
, Jennifer Connelly
, Kevin Connolly, Bradley Cooper, Ginnifer Goodwin, Scarlett Johansson
and Justin Long (among others). The movie is different from your typical romantic comedy in that it features not one, but four storylines going on at the same time, with snippets of people on the streets giving relationship advice on various topics.The film is set in Baltimore and consists of these four story-lines:
- Gigi is a hyperactive girl who's desperately seeking a boyfriend. After trying and failing with numerous guys, she meets Alex, who knows the ins and outs of relationships, and helps Gigi see through the charades of the various men she meets. Little does he realize that he's falling for her in the process.
- Janine and Ben are married after a rather long relationship. Janine is thrilled, but Ben feels that he is trapped and longs for the freedom he felt before marriage. One night he meets Anna at a grocery store, and what begins as a work relationship ends up becoming an affair.
- Connor is a real estate agent with a crush on Anna. They are implied to have a former 'Friends with Benefits' relationship. The problem is that Anna doesn't want to be with him, so she sees Ben as a way out. Meanwhile, Anna's friend Mary works in ad sales for a newspaper, and helps Connor get advertisements for his company put into the paper. Mary is also seeking a boyfriend, and she feels that Connor could be the one.
- Ben's best friend Neil has been living with his girlfriend Beth for nine years, and she wants him to pop the question. The problem is that Neil is afraid of marriage, and he feels that he's loyal enough, and their relationship is serious enough that he doesn't need to be married. In frustration, Beth leaves for her sister's wedding, where she sees that married life isn't all it's cracked up to be.
This film contains examples of:
- Absence Makes the Heart Go Yonder: Inverted as Neil didn't want to marry Beth but after she was gone he was there for her
- Also inverted with Alex who wasn't himself after Gigi left him.
- All Gays Are Promiscuous: Two gay men explain the art of hooking up in the homosexual world. If you can hold their stare for 3 seconds, it's on.
- Alternative Foreign Theme Song: "Girlfriend" by Crystal Kay, featuring Boa, is the theme song for the Japanese dub.
- Anguished Declaration of Love: Alex.
- Based on an Advice Book
- Berserk Button: Smoking is this for Janine, because she lost her dad to lung cancer. Ben assures her he doesn't smoke, but when she finds a pack of what Harlan Ellison called "cancersticks" in his jacket...
- Betty and Veronica: Ben (Archie), Anna (Veronica) and Janine (Betty).
- Conor (Archie), Mary (Betty) and Anna (Veronica).
- Bittersweet Ending: Gigi and Alex start dating. Mary and Conor meet and instantly hit off. Neil does propose to Beth and they get married. But Janine divorces Ben and they move on in their lives. Anna also dumps Ben and ends things with Conor, but she too, moves on with her life.
- Broken Aesop: Beth wants Neil to marry her but he doesn't believe in marriage, and she breaks up with him as a result. Beth soon realizes what she's lost and asks Neil to take her back. It appears the aesop is that that marriage doesn't automatically make you happy or more committed than a devoted couple. And in the end a woman can find happiness without it. However, Neil then asks Beth to marry him anyways. Apparently, a woman can't be complete without marriage after all and that men will always marry a woman if they love her.
- Or that the guy has to bend over backwards to keep a girl who doesn't share the same aspirations as him. Very rarely does this actually work.
- Or the general idea they both sacrifice their dreams for their significant other. For better or worse. Though some would find that romantic.
- Or that if a relationship is healthy, there is neither a reason to insist on marriage, nor to fear and reject it. Maybe both people adopt a balanced view of relationships, with Beth realizing the ring is not the important thing, and Neil realizing that he wants to make his commitment official after all. A good example of this is John Cheese's article about marriage on Cracked, item #1.
- Arguably the entire premise of the movie. The first half sets firm ground rules that if a guy acts like he's not that into you, it's because ''he's just not that into you.'' Then it proceeds to break almost every rule. Alex constantly tells Gigi she needs to stop trying to find deep love in every scrap of casual friendliness from men and waste her time with men that string her along. Which is exactly what both Gigi and Alex do to each other... only for it to turn out they really are in love, and really are the exception. Same with Beth and Neil regarding marriage. "He's not that into you if he's not willing to get married even just to make you happy" becomes "Just because he doesn't want marriage doesn't mean he doesn't love or commit to you" becomes "Never mind. If he loves you enough, he'll pop the question."
- Cringe Comedy
- Last Minute Hookup: Mary and Conor could fit in this category.
- Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places: We're talking to you, Gigi. And let's not forget Anna... hooking up with a married man.
- Love Dodecahedron: Janine, Ben, Anna, Conner, and Mary are all connected romantically.
- Married at Sea: Beth and Neil.
- Mars and Venus Gender Contrast: All over the place.
- Monochrome Casting: The movie is set in Baltimore, and nary a black person in sight.
- Ms. Fanservice: Scarlett Johansson as Anna. Can you say "throwing a bone to guys taken to this by their girlfriends"?
- Savvy Guy, Energetic Girl: In the end, Alex and Gigi.
- Not a Date: Gigi fully ignored the signs that Alex is not into her, and acts as a co-host at his party. But it does work out in the end for her, considering that she was supposed to be "The Rule".
- "Shut Up" Kiss: Alex does this to Gigi.
- Your Cheating Heart: Ben.