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[[caption-width-right:222:''I didn't KickTheDog, so [[DudeWheresMyRespect where's my cookie?]]'']]

-->'''Buffy:''' ''What are you doing?''\\
'''Spike:''' ''Making this woman more comfortable. I'm not sampling, I'll have you know. Just look at all these lovely blood-covered people. I could, but not a taste for Spike, not a lick. I knew you wouldn't like it.''\\
'''Buffy:''' ''You want credit for not feeding on bleeding disaster victims?''\\
'''Spike:''' ''Well, yeah.''\\
-- '''''Series/BuffyTheVampireSlayer'''''

Bob just [[HobbesWasRight isn't good by default.]] Where some people cleave to good behavior more or less naturally, Bob does not. He needs to be pushed and prodded -- by himself and others -- into being a decent person, and because this process is a struggle for him and because his good behavior is above and beyond how he might be acting otherwise, he believes he deserves exceptional acknowledgement for his efforts.

This is WantsAPrizeForBasicDecency. A character expects extra kudos for behaving in a situation like a decent human being instead of a {{Jerkass}}, even though basic humanity is expected of others by default.

Can inspire ThenLetMeBeEvil if the character is treated around as negatively as actual villains [[NoGoodDeedGoesUnpunished despite their good nature]].

Compare ItsAllAboutMe, EntitledToHaveYou, DoggedNiceGuy, and CondescendingCompassion. Contrast DudeWheresMyRespect, in which a character actually ''does'' heroic things but gets no positive acknowledgement for it, and ThinkNothingOfIt, in which a character avoids being praised after doing heroic things. Also contrast strong cases of CrapsackWorld, where having a shred of humanity actually ''is'' to exceed any reasonable expectations.
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!!Examples:

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[[folder: Anime And Manga ]]

* Coupled with DeliberateValuesDissonance in ''AnatoliaStory''. Ramses abducts Yuri, and then tells her off for screaming and trying to escape. He tell her she isn't very grateful for how "nice" he's being, whereupon Yuri asks why the hell she should appreciate his kidnapping her as "nice". His response? He wasn't ''raping'' her while kidnapping her, was he?

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[[folder: Comic Books ]]

* The Kingpin in ''Comicbook/UltimateSpiderman'' explains to Peter that this is why normal people [[TallPoppySyndrome resent superheroes like Peter]]. Normal people, according to the Kingpin, are sheep who just want to do the bare minimum of what is expected of them and want someone like the Kingpin to give them a big cookie for it at the end of the day. Seeing heroes like Peter going above and beyond makes them realize that they don't really deserve that cookie.

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[[folder: Fan Works ]]

* In the ''Manga/DeathNote'' fic ''[[http://archiveofourown.org/works/616971/chapters/1112940 To Feel Alive]]'' Ryuk is quite put out when Light doesn't seem too thrilled when Ryuk makes the promise that [[KillYouLast his death would be quick and painless]]:
-->''Shouldn't he be grateful that he wasn't planning on giving him a painful, lingering death?''
* In ''FanFic/WishCarefully'', Lucius Malfoy thinks the women of the Cabal, who kidnapped from their homes to be breeding concubines, should be grateful to him because he gives them whatever they want in reward for them birthing and "took them from poverty". And he lets them see their own children.

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[[folder: Film ]]

* In ''La cintura di castita'', a hermit enlightens Boccadoro that though Delioso has been trying to abduct and even rape her, he didn't kill her though he could. And why? Because he '''loves''' you, my child!
* A downplayed example appears in ''Film/InTheLoop''. Toby, an aide of British cabinet minister Simon, is in Washington D.C for a meeting with a senior American government official. The night before, he goes out clubbing with an old university friend, hooks up with her and oversleeps, resulting in him missing the first half of the meeting. After Simon "reads him some extracts from the Riot Act" in response, Toby protests on the grounds that "it's not like I threw up in there, is it?" Unfortunately for him Simon's not impressed with this line of defence:
-->'''Simon:''' [[SarcasmMode No. You're right.]] I'm being unfair. I should be ''thanking'' you for ''not'' throwing up. ''Well done''. You're a ''star''. And you didn't wet yourself, did you? You're in the right city. You didn't say anything overtly racist. You didn't pull your ''dick'' out and start [[ADateWithRosiePalms plucking it]] shouting "Willy Banjo!" No, I'm being really unfair! You got ''so much'' right... without actually ''being there'' for the beginning of one of the most important moments of my career. ''Thanks''. You're a ''legend''.

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[[folder: Literature ]]

* Invoked in ''Literature/ThePictureOfDorianGray'', when Dorian realizes that his painting is reflecting all the hedonism he's committed, and thinks that not picking up this country girl he comes across will improve it. The painting promptly develops a smug grin of hypocrisy.
* One DaveBarry column has this insight into the male mindset: being little more than toilet-trained cavemen, they will occasionally perform an act of great heroism like doing the laundry without being asked or making spaghetti without setting the house on fire, only to be confused when other people (read: women) don't consider this an accomplishment worthy of a Nobel Prize.
* ''Literature/HarryPotter'': In ''[[Literature/HarryPotterAndTheDeathlyHallows Deathly Hallows]]'', Aberforth Dumbledore says this of his late brother Albus, more of an intellectual than a guardian figure.
-->''"Bit of a comedown for Mr. Brilliant, there's no prizes for looking after your half-mad sister, stopping her blowing up the house every other day. But he did all right for a few weeks ... 'til he[[note]][[ANaziByAnyOtherName Grindelwald]], a dedicated [[FantasticRacism wizard supremacist]][[/note]] came."''
* Edward Cullen from ''{{Twilight}}'' ''embodies'' this mindset. "I'm not killing every random human in my path, I deserve a cookie!", even though he's never lifted a finger to stop anyone ''else'' from eating people, or tried to save anyone in danger of getting eaten, unless they're a member of his little familial unit. He claims to have eaten only bad people in the past to justify his actions but we can only take him at his word (his telepathy also only works on surface thoughts, so he really can't tell the difference between someone genuinely plotting a murder and a person who might just be angry at another and ''fantasizing'' about murder).
** Jacob's the same way--he forcibly kisses Bella against her will, not letting go until she punches him so hard she breaks her hand, and his only defense is pretty much, "Well, at least I didn't rape her."
* In the final ''IncarnationsOfImmortality'' book, two female characters learn that AllMenArePerverts, and gain a newfound appreciation for the amount of restraint the average man shows in not raping them. Yeesh...
* In ''Literature/HushHush'', Patch wants Nora to love and trust him... because he didn't kill her. And not that he was planning on killing her because he was lied to or brainwashed or anything. He wanted to kill her because it would make him human and thus let him feel things. [[SarcasmMode Truly, it was so wonderful of him to drag her to a motel room, isolate her from her friends and family, scare her out of her mind, and then assure her that he had no intention of going through with murdering her.]]
* Vern the dragon from Karina Fabian's "[=DragonEye=], P.I." series thinks he's learned more patience and long-suffering than a dragon was ever meant to know now that he resists incinerating or eating anyone who happens to annoy him.

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[[folder: Live Action TV ]]

* In ''Series/BuffyTheVampireSlayer'', Spike the erstwhile evil vampire tries to impress Buffy by helping people injured in a roof collapse, and especially wants credit for not drinking their blood.
* In the ''Series/DoctorWho'' episode "Boom Town", Blon Slitheen has a nice chat with a young pregnant woman about family instead of eating her. The Doctor doesn't fall for it.
-->'''Blon:''' I spared her life.\\
'''Doctor:''' You let one of them go, but that's nothing new. Every now and then, a little victim's spared... because she smiled, cos he's got freckles, cos they begged. And that's how you live with yourself, that's how you slaughter millions, because once in a while, on a whim, if the wind's in the right direction, you happen to be kind.
** It's also worth mentioning that said villain's scheme would have ended up destroying the world, making her arguments even more hollow.
* Played with on an episode of ''Series/TheXFiles''. Agent Mulder says something along the lines of "If I had a peg leg, everyone would applaud me just for being alive, but because I'm normal, I'm expected to exceed."
* Gul Dukat of ''Series/StarTrekDeepSpaceNine'' shows continual annoyance that the Bajorans didn't give him any admiration or love for being a more merciful prefect during the military occupation of their world, and later even rants to Captain Sisko about how just he was in ordering proportional executions of alleged suspects in response to Cardassian deaths from a terrorist attack.
* Schmidt on ''Series/NewGirl'' harangues his friends to say he's a good person for saving a man from choking on gum (after crashing his bike and breaking both legs, for which Schmidt didn't even bother to call 9-1-1). This after he had just cheated on [=CeCe=] with Elizabeth and vice-versa, and tried to break up Jess and Nick [[NeverMyFault because he thinks they were to blame for the former.]]
* Happens with Meadow on TheSopranos. She throws a party at her grandmother's abandoned house, which gets completely trashed. When her parents later take her to task for it, she complains that they aren't giving her any credit for not trying Ecstasy at the party, which she totally could've done.

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[[folder: Newspaper Comics ]]

* One ''ComicStrip/BabyBlues'' strip featured Zoe excitedly telling her mom that she just saw her brother Hammie bend over in front of her, and ''didn't'' kick him! The last panel has her complaining about how hard it is to get brownie points.
* At one point in the Early Years of the comic strip ''ComicStrip/ForBetterOrForWorse'', John [[BerserkButton flew into a blind rage]] and spanked Michael for not agreeing that he, as the child, owed his parents for feeding, clothing and housing him. Elly's objection was not that Michael didn't owe his parents every single cent spent on him with interest rates that would make a Mafia loanshark sick but that he lost his temper.

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[[folder: Stand Up Comedy ]]

* A gem from Creator/ChrisRock that would make an excellent page quote if not for the, ahem... [[NWordPrivileges controversial]] language;
-->''Everything white people don't like about black people, black people really don't like about black people, and there's two sides, there's black people [[StopBeingStereotypical and there's niggas]]. [...] You know the worst thing about niggas? Niggas always want credit for some shit they supposed to do. A nigga will brag about some shit a normal man just does. A nigga will say some shit like, "I take care of my kids." You're '''supposed''' to, you dumb motherfucker! What kind of ignorant shit is that? "I ain't never been to jail!" What do you want, a cookie?! You're not supposed to go to jail, you [[BuffySpeak low-expectation-having]] motherfucker!''

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[[folder: Video Games ]]

* Inverted in ''VideoGame/MassEffect1'' by [[JerkAss Renegade Shepard]]:
-->'''Shepard:''' Saving my boots from burning lava is part of your job, Joker. We don't give medals to soldiers for doing their jobs.
** Paragons comment that Joker'd have to sit through an award ceremony, to which he will reply that he would probably have to shave his BadassBeard too, and [[CrowningMomentOfFunny no medal's worth that.]]
** Joker dislikes Nihlus for giving him a compliment instead of high praise. He elaborates that "Remembering to zip up your jumpsuit on the way out of the bathroom? That's good."
* Subverted in ''VideoGame/TheElderScrollsVSkyrim'', Paarthurnax invites the Dragonborn to ponder one question, one that has actually made many players hesitate to kill him: "What is better - to be born good, or to overcome your evil nature through great effort?"

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[[folder: Webcomics ]]

* There's a ''SurvivingTheWorld'' [[http://survivingtheworld.net/Lesson1538.html strip]] with an...[[CrossingTheLineTwice interesting]] take on this.
* There was a ''Zogonia'' strip that went something like:
-->'''Kev''': I can't believe you don't trust me! All those times when I was on guard duty, I could have slit your throat while you slept and taken all the treasure, but I ''didn't''! And this is the thanks I get?
-->'''Domato''': I was never really asleep.
-->'''Kev''': Yeah, I know.
* Belkar in ''Webcomic/TheOrderOfTheStick'' prequel, ''On The Origin Of [=PCs=]''. He thinks he deserves a reward for the restraint he showed by not killing ''all'' the barmaids in a tavern brawl, and suggests that if humans don't want him to murder people, they should put up a sign saying "Thank you for not killing more than five of us".
-->'''Prison Guard''': We don't want you to kill ANY of us!
-->'''Belkar''': Now you're just being unreasonable!
* Cronus from ''Webcomic/{{Homestuck}}'' believes that the other characters should be totally impressed that he doesn't ''nearly'' lord his [[FantasticCasteSystem highblood status]] above them all as much as he could.
* Slick in ''Webcomic/{{Sinfest}}'' has become this, expecting cookies and angel glitter for treating women with minimal decency.
* ''Webcomic/{{Katamari}}'' has Ace, whose desire for personal recognition makes him a completely self-absorbed {{Jerkass}}. Upon learning that his {{Snowlem}} cousin Sherman has mostly melted and needs help building up a body, Ace refuses to help until the other brings up a potential reward.

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* Deconstructed in [[http://www.cracked.com/blog/6-harsh-truths-that-will-make-you-better-person/ this article]] on Website/{{Cracked}}.
* Youtuber [=the1janitor=], also deconstructs how a lot of guys claiming to be in the "Friend Zone" are really [[EntitledToHaveYou entitled]] {{Extreme Doormat}}s that [[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5rZu-tBi7DM really aren't as nice as they claim to be]].
--> "Look dude, the world doesn't owe you shit for being nice, and girls don't either. You're supposed to be nice to people. You don't get a cookie for doing what people are supposed to be doing anyway."

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[[folder: Western Animation ]]

* This beauty from ''WesternAnimation/AvatarTheLastAirbender'', while the group was talking about Zuko's sudden FaceHeelTurn, and citing setting Appa free instead of leaving him to rot as one good thing he's done.
-->'''Sokka:''' (''Sarcastically'') Oh, hurray! After a lifetime of evil, at least he didn't add animal cruelty to the list!\\
'''Toph:''' I'm just saying that considering his messed up family and how he was raised, he could have turned out a lot worse.\\
'''Katara:''' You're right, Toph. [[SarcasmMode Let's go find him and give him a medal]]. The "[[BuffySpeak Not-As-Much-Of-A-Jerk-As-You-Could-Have-Been]] Award"!
* In ''XMenEvolution'', after [[{{Antivillain}} Lance]] saves an elderly lady (out of genuine decency) from a train wreck Wanda caused and the lady richly rewards the Brotherhood, the Brotherhood begins to do "good deeds" -- but only for the reward, occasionally engineering the situations in the first place. When their reputation collapses and the rewards vanish, they go back to their typical IneffectualSympatheticVillain routine.
* ''WesternAnimation/TheSimpsons'' had a plot similar to that, where Homer and some of his friends become firefighters and get so many thank-you gifts that they come to expect it. They steal from [[CorruptCorporateExecutive Mr. Burns]] when he refuses to reward them, then just start robbing places as a matter of course.
** Homer once saved Mr Burns' life by allowing Bart to be a donor during a blood transfusion, solely on the basis that he expected some kind of reward from Mr Burns. When the only reward he got was a thank-you note addressed to Bart, he sent him an abusive letter in return.
* On ''WesternAnimation/SouthPark,'' [[TokenEvilTeammate Cartman]] is freaking out around Christmastime about whether or not he's been "nice" enough to merit Santa's favor. He suggests that brushing his teeth counts as a "nice" action, only for his "naughty and nice accountant" to note that that doesn't really count.

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[[folder: Real Life ]]

* [[http://geekfeminism.wikia.com/wiki/Feminist_cookie Feminist cookies.]]: Feminist term for the reward occasionally sought for saying or doing something "feminist", when said behavior would actually fall under basic human decency (i.e. not taking advantage of an inebriated person, not relying on or propagating offensive gender stereotypes in everyday life, not treating random people as sex objects etc.), as in the phrase "So? Do you want a cookie for it?". Can backfire, as there are very few situations where people do ''not'' want a cookie.
* President [[BarackObama Obama]] paraphrased the Chris Rock rant to make this point in a speech.
* Birthdays. Anyone who manages to both avert ZeroPercentApprovalRating and not die for a year gets a present.
* The government of Turkey's attempts to woo the European Union into letting them join included renovating a few ruined Greek and Armenian churches which had fallen into disrepair after the people who used to use them were either massacred or deported during WorldWarOne. Though wanting to appear more racially tolerant through small acts of kindness like this, the government [[WouldbeRudeToSayGenocide still denies there was a genocide]], even though several European leaders have stated that admitting it would help their chances of joining the EU.
* This is a widespread interpretation of the psychological underpinning of the faux "nice guy" phenomena. Some of the guys who label themselves as "nice guys" think that, just for showing basic decency they're [[EntitledToHaveYou entitled to the girl]] he's being nice to as a reward. (Notice how often the "nice guys" of the world who complain about not getting dates because they're too nice always seem solely focused on that niceness and never seem to talk about being intelligent, or funny, or interesting, or emotionally open/stable, or...) And if a girl doesn't reward him with sex for this basic niceness, it's because AllGirlsWantBadBoys and being nice is useless, because nice guys finish last. Which can either be a handy psychological excuse for feeling self-righteous, unfairly persecuted, [[JerkJustifications and not having to bother observing basic human decency next time]], because history has proven it useless. Of course, it should be mentioned that not everyone who claims to a be a wronged nice guy is doing this, and not everyone who claims such should be treated as if they were acting maliciously, but it's often not too hard to tell the two apart: real nice guys shrug, move on, learn from their mistakes if they're making any, and continue being kind and considerate to others. Faux nice guys who fall under this trope do things like whine endlessly about girls online, with new complaints added every time they, say, lend a female acquaintance or friend of a friend a few dollars and then gets "friend zoned" when she doesn't want to date him right afterward. (Exaggerated slightly to get the point across.)
** An even quicker way to tell the two apart: check who un-ironically refer to themselves as nice guys.
* In {{Prussia}} this was of course linked to the concept of duty in an anecdote about FrederickTheGreat: When an official asked for a bonus for his part in hiring the famous ballerina La Barberina for the Berlin opera, the king refused on the grounds that the man "''hat nur seine verdammte Schuldigkeit getan''" ("only did his damned obligation"). This became a popular phrase in German, usually amended to "''[[BeamMeUpScotty verdammte Pflicht und Schuldigkeit]]''" ("damned duty and obligation").
* A common attitude among cynics and misanthropes. If most HumansAreBastards, then basic decency means you're already ahead of the curve and there's no incentive to be any better than that.
* StephenieMeyer boasted that she didn't pout when there were publishers that didn't wish to publish ''Twilight''.
-->'''Meyer''': "I will state, for the record, that my queries truly sucked, and I don't blame anyone who sent me a rejection (I did get seven or eight of those. I still have them all, too). The only rejection that really hurt was from a small agent who actually read the first chapter before she dropped the axe on me. The meanest rejection I got came after Little, Brown had picked me up for a three-book deal, so it didn't bother me at all. I'll admit that I considered sending back a copy of that rejection stapled to the write-up my deal got in Publisher's Weekly, but I took the higher road."
** [[FridgeBrilliance Which is probably where]] [[SelfInsertFic her characters get it from.]]
* A video made the rounds of {{Facebook}} that featured a college-age man who did not take sexual advantage of his drunk girlfriend, and did in fact take steps to make her comfortable and make sure she couldn't suffocate if she vomited in her sleep. While the video itself isn't an example to this trope, the reactions on {{Facebook}} certainly were. Comments ranged from "This is so special" to "[[AllMenArePerverts all men need to see this so they can learn how to act]]." As if a man treating a woman with basic decency and respect was beyond expectation.
* This trope is closely related to the philosophical concept of [[http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Supererogatory supererogation]]. In philosophy, there are two types of morally good actions, the first being supererogatory actions, actions which one will receive praise for carrying out, but will not be blamed for choosing not to carry out (for example, someone who donates all of their life savings to charity). The other kind is actions such as these, in which one will receive no especial praise for carrying them out, but ''will'' be blamed if one chooses not to carry them out (for example, refraining from driving while drunk).
* Inverted in the case of retail work. During busy times (major holidays, bad storms on the way), far too many customers can and do get highly impatient to the point of behaving horribly and even criminally, to the point that some workers find the decent customers few and far between, and will sometimes give on the spot discount to customers who treat them kindly. Food service workers will sometimes reward them with free food.
* Between 2006 and 2009, the [[YanksWithTanks United States Air Force]] discontinued awarding the Good Conduct Medal, reasoning that doing one's job well and not getting into disciplinary trouble was the expected standard for airmen and not an exceptional occurrence worthy of special recognition.
* Michael Medved argued in a [[http://townhall.com/columnists/michaelmedved/2007/09/26/six_inconvenient_truths_about_the_us_and_slavery/page/full controversial piece]] that "while America deserves no unique blame for the existence of slavery, the United States merits special credit for it's rapid abolition". In fact the US was the [[http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Abolition_of_slavery_timeline#1850.E2.80.931899 last Western country]] to abolish slavery (and got beat by countries like Russia, Peru and Moldavia) and the only place where half the country went to war to keep it.
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