->'''[[MuggleFosterParents Beru]]:''' Owen, he can't stay here forever; most of his friends have gone. It means so much to him.\\
'''[[DoomedHometown Owen]]:''' I'll make it up to him next year; I promise.\\
'''[[ParentalSubstitute Beru]]:''' [[SecretLegacy Luke's just not a farmer,]] Owen. [[LineageComesFromTheFather He has too much of his father in him.]]\\
'''[[GenreSavvy Owen]]:''' (''heavily'') [[{{Foreshadowing}} That's what I'm afraid of.]]
-->-- ''Franchise/StarWars'': ''Film/ANewHope''

Widow Jane has gotten herself a nice home, and is raising [[SomeoneToRememberHimBy her son Jack]] there, happy except for the loss of his father -- but it has been years, and she has her son. Except one day, Jack comes running home burbling about someone telling him that his father killed the dragon and [[TellMeAboutMyFather demands to know more]].

And Widow Jane feels like she's been stabbed to the heart, envisioning her son lying before her, pale and bleeding, like his dying father had.

A character has charge of a child (usually her son) and is desperate to [[PursuingParentalPerils keep this child from imitating another relative]] ([[LineageComesFromTheFather usually his father]]). This is a fear of history's repeating itself for his fate, which may be turning evil and usually ends with being ''dead''.

[[ShroudedInMyth Making]] [[SecretLegacy this relative]] [[LockedOutOfTheLoop a secret]] is one technique; which usually makes the forbidden relative ForbiddenFruit. Another, as popular, is [[ThePromise extracting a promise]], which the child will usually [[IGaveMyWord try to keep]] until the pressure gets too high.

[[InTheBlood Trying to keep him from evil]] has [[UpbringingMakesTheHero a fairly good success rate]]. Trying to keep him from his father's profession has a considerably poorer one, particularly when the reaction to the father's [[InHarmsWay violent life]] is to try to make an ActualPacifist; though the child may turn out less violent, there is usually something he ''must'' defend against. When the mother's motive is to keep him from being killed by the precise character who killed the father, generally a prequel to YouKilledMyFather.

Keeping the AncestralWeapon out of the child's hand is often an element of it, and when he finally gets it, a sign that the struggle is over, and the child will be like his father -- TakeUpMySword metaphorically as well as literally.

When the hero wants the child away from him, it's GiveHimANormalLife. When the villain wants to raise the kid to act differently, it's EvilParentsWantGoodKids. When the character hates his "condition" and doesn't want to pass it on, it's WhatIfTheBabyIsLikeMe.

See also InTheBlood, GenerationXerox, FollowInMyFootsteps. Contrast LoserSonOfLoserDad, RaiseHimRightThisTime.

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[[folder:Anime/Manga]]
* Gon of HunterXHunter was left in the care of his aunt when his father decided following his dreams as a Hunter were more important than raising Gon. It is constantly pointed out how like Ging Gon is and at Gon later in life sets out to follow in his father's footsteps and become a Hunter and find out just why it is worth abandoning your only child for.
* ''Manga/ACruelGodReigns'''s Ian fears this when he begins to fall in love with Jeremy, but cannot always make sense of it, especially when he loses his temper at Jeremy's [[spoiler: failed drug and prostitution rehabilitations.]]
* ''Manga/KazeToKiNoUta'': Arguably, Gilbert and Auguste could both fall under this trope. Gilbert, because [[spoiler: Auguste molested, raped, and emotionally abused him as a young child]] and Auguste because [[spoiler: he was raped by his step-brother.]] Especially true when it is revealed that [[spoiler: {{Luke I Am Your Father}}]]
* In Part II of ''Manga/JoJosBizarreAdventure'', Erina is very worried about her grandson Joseph getting wrapped up in the stone mask business, as that's what killed her his grandfather ([[spoiler:and, as revealed later, her son]]), and men in the Joestar family have a history of dying rather young in general. Unfortunately, [[TheCallKnowsWhereYouLive the call knew Joseph was vacationing in New York]]. [[spoiler:A bit ironically, Joseph ends up being the only [=JoJo=] to die of old age.]]
* In {{One Piece}}, [[spoiler: Monkey D. Garp]] tries so very hard to make his grandson, Luffy, a Marine [[spoiler:like himself]]. However, he fails and Luffy becomes a highly-wanted pirate, much like his own father, [[spoiler:whom is the leader of a revolutionary army (plus the most wanted man in the world. Ironically, in the Water Seven Arc, Luffy and his crew proclaimed war against the world government, much like his father did. This is ultimately averted, however, in that Garp loves both his son and his grandson and is in fact quite proud of them. He just didn't want Luffy to be a pirate because it meant, as a Marine, he'd have to oppose his own grandson.]]
* In ''Anime/{{Free}}'', Rin Matsuoka swims competitively because he wants to live out his father's missed-out dream of being an Olympic swimmer when he quit to raise him, and [[spoiler:he died in a typhoon while he was working as a fisherman.]]
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[[folder:ComicBooks]]
* Franchise/{{Batman}} villain [[EverythingIsBetterWithPenguins The Penguin]] uses umbrellas because his father died of pneumonia, and his mother feared the same for him.
** Also, Batman often voices - in his head via narration, as he would almost never voice such a thing out loud - how proud he is that the various Robins generally didn't end up like him, as his obsessive, miserable life is one he would wish on nobody, least of all his "sons." He particularly voices this in regards to Nightwing, whom he is extremely proud of due to Dick finding his own identity as a hero and a man - no matter how rocky the split was.
* Jackie Estacado aka ''ComicBook/TheDarkness'' is a hitman like his father, but unlike his father, he's not an out of control psycho. This is because the [[AncientConspiracy Brotherhood of Darkness]] arranged for him to be adopted by mafia boss Frankie Franchetti, who, knowing how messed up Jackie's father had been, could be counted on to raise him on the right side of the line between viciously ruthless badassery and self-destructive [[AxCrazy Ax Craziness]].
* ''Comicbook/{{Wanted}}'' reveals that Wesley's mother raised him to be a pacifistic loser because she realized that he had the potential to be like his father was. [[FromNobodyToNightmare It doesn't help]].
* GreenLantern Hal Jordan's father died on the job as a fighter pilot (in front of Hal's eyes). His mother made him swear to never join the Air Force, but he did so anyway.
* ''ComicBook/FunHome'' is based around Alison Bechdel, a lesbian, looking back at her childhood with a new perspective after she finds out her dad was gay, and wondering about similarities between the two of them.
* Matt Murdock a.k.a. ComicBook/{{Daredevil}} was raised not to become a fighter like his Dad because his Dad wanted something better for him. This backfires spectacularly when his secret identity is outed: Matt goes into incredible painful sacrifices to maintain his identity as a lawyer, just because that was his fatherís dream for him.
* ComicBook/{{Wolverine}} is trying very hard to ''avert'' this trope for his OppositeSexClone/daughter, ComicBook/{{X 23}}. Unfortunately, [[ComicBook/XForce events]] keep [[ComicBook/AvengersArena conspiring]] against him, and while Laura herself doesn't ''want'' to be a killer, she's also not one to sit back and let others fight in her place.
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[[folder:Film]]
* ''StarWars'' is probably the best-known example, and the [[JediTruth efforts]] to keep Luke from being like his father (who, [[ItWasHisSled as we all know]], [[FaceHeelTurn went]] [[TheDarkSide evil]]) occupy three separate characters: Owen, Ben Kenobi, and Yoda.
** In ''Return of the Jedi'', Luke realizes that he's dangerously close to invoking this trope after he cuts off Vader's cybernetic right hand and looks down at his own cybernetic right hand. This prompts him to deactivate and discard his lightsaber so that he won't be tempted any further.
* ''Film/BackToTheFuture''. Mr. Strickland, an administrator at Marty's school, has already written Marty off as a slacker like his father.
* In ''{{Scanners}}'', both the hero and [[CainAndAbel his brother the villain]] develop a shared disdain for their father, and wish to avoid becoming like him.
* In ''TheWaterboy'', Mama Boucher has kept Bobby sheltered and at home well into his thirties, because she fears him abandoning her, just like her husband did.
* ''TheHeavenlyKid'': A greaser is killed when his car goes over a cliff in a game of "Chicken". He comes back to Earth years later to become guardian angel to his nerdy teenage son. Neither of them know that they are father and son. The son starts acting like the greaser and says his catchphrase "I got it covered." This freaks out his mom, who is afraid he's going to die just like his father.
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[[folder:Literature]]
* In some KingArthur tales, Percival was raised in TheLostWoods by his mother to keep him from hearing of knights. His first glimpse of a KnightInShiningArmor makes him long to be one.
* In Creator/TerryPratchett's ''Discworld/UnseenAcademicals'', Trev [[IGaveMyWord promised]] his mother not to play football, like his father did.
** In ''Discworld/MakingMoney'', in [[spoiler:Mr Bent]]'s BackStory, his mother disapproved of clowning and raised him very soberly, though it appears as much a dislike of clowning in general than a specific desire to keep it from it.
* In Creator/PatriciaCWrede and Creator/CarolineStevermer's ''Literature/SorceryAndCecelia'', Cecelia's great-aunt lost her fiancť to his magical studies, and is horrified at the thought of Cecelia learning from the same wizard. (Fortunately, it was a misunderstanding. Though she is not entirely pleased about any form of study, she accepts it.)
* Achebe's ''Literature/ThingsFallApart'' features the character Okonkwo who dedicates his life to proving that he is not his lazy father. [[spoiler:It ends up being his fatal flaw.]]
* The Dursleys do not want Literature/HarryPotter to turn out like his mother. [[ScreeningTheCall So they don't tell him about her, or his father, and do their best to keep him from Hogwarts]]. [[AvertedTrope This notably isn't because his parents were evil or even because the Dursleys care about him]]; [[FantasticRacism they just don't like magic and hate the idea of there being a wizard in their normal Muggle family]].
* In the YA book, ''Banner In The Sky'' by James Ramsey Ullman, the widow of a famed mountain guide tries to keep her son from following in his his father's footsteps as a guide.
* The ''StarWarsExpandedUniverse'' expands on the similarities between Luke and his father at his age. In DarkEmpire Palpatine, BackFromTheDead via CloningGambit, corrupted Luke, dressed him in Vaderesque clothes, gave him the same kind of [[ArtificialArm mechno-hand]], and lost him to the Light Side when Leia came to save him. Luke is a pilot, a very good one, but not quite as reckless or as skilled as Anakin. He is fairly resourceful with machinery, doing things like [[TheThrawnTrilogy opening up his artificial hand to use its battery]] for something and [[HandOfThrawn rewiring some power packs to make them explode]], but he doesn't have anything like Anakin's ridiculous skill with machines.
** It's underlined by both of them and their fascination with Jedi Master Jorus/Joruus C'baoth. True, the [[OutboundFlight Jorus C'baoth]] Anakin knew was not yet insane (but he would be soon), while [[TheThrawnTrilogy his clone Joruus]] really was; and Anakin was fourteen while Luke was in his late twenties. But Anakin liked C'baoth's philosophy that the non-Jedi were sheep at best and should be handled without asking, while Luke, despite being on a quest to find surviving Jedi and thus presumably more interested, instantly felt uneasy about these teachings even though he thought they made sense.
** Leia's got a little of her father too, though this is usually ''much'' more understated, particularly by [[DependingOnTheWriter writers]] who put her in the damsel-in-distress role. Mostly it manifests through her temper, her very strong will - Luke's determined, but Leia has more passion and staying power - and her sense of self-importance. She's not as arrogant as Anakin, but she's less quiet about her confidence and accomplishment than her brother is, and the impression she leaves on people has much more authority. Luke is an idealist, and a bit of a mystic. Leia takes charge. A politician who knows her heritage once insinuates that it means she'll betray them all. In TheThrawnTrilogy, the Noghri call Luke "Firstson of the Lord Vader". They call ''Leia'' the Mal'ary'ush, the heir to Vader's authority and powers, and address her as "Lady Vader". It's pointed out in the HandOfThrawn duology that she's worried about putting her need to keep her spouse safe over her duty to the rest of the galaxy and second-guesses some of her decisions as a result.
---> [[TheNewRebellion She was magnificent]], her style so different from her brother's. She was hard-edged where he made his demands with a deceptive softness. There was nothing soft in the President's [Leia's] manner. Cole would never had argued with her as he had argued with her brother.
** With the direction the FateOfTheJedi book series is going, many fans predict a relationship between Ben Skywalker and Vestara Khai, mirroring the one between Luke and Mara. [[spoiler: Vestara asks to be a Jedi, but things are still uncertain before the series' finale.]] Though Ben is consistently trying to do just what Luke did, and [[WellDoneSonGuy get his father to accept it.]]
* Drina's grandparents in the ''Drina'' books by Jean Estoril don't want her to become a ballerina, because her secret famous ballerina mother died because of it.
* Averted in ''Literature/PrinceRoger'' series, albeit in a convoluted way. Roger resembles his to him unknown father, [[spoiler: whom everyone else knows is a condemned and unrepentant traitor]], which makes him The Unfavourite. He responds by becoming a RoyalBrat because it ticks his mother off, not knowing it makes him resemble his father even more, and makes his mother think he is emulating his father on purpose. After Roger learns what was really going on... well, the first time he meets his father he [[spoiler: decides to behead him for torturing, raping and mind-raping his mother. Would have done it, if not for a timely intervention of Nimashet Despreaux.]]
* In ''Literature/WarriorCats'', Firestar is awkward around Bramblepaw because he looks exactly like his father, Firestar's [[BigBad nemesis]] Tigerstar. Later on, when Bramblepaw (renamed Brambleclaw) starts receiving training from Tigerstar, he and his halfbrother Hawkfrost are pushed towards being just as ambitious as their father was. While Brambleclaw does manage to stop himself, Hawkfrost cannot, and does end up like Tigerstar.
* In ''JaneOfLanternHill'' by LMMontgomery, Jane's grandmother disapproves of her chin because it comes from her DisappearedDad, and Jane herself wishes it away.
* In the Popol Vuh of the Kiche Maya, the mother and grandmother of Hunter and Jaguar Deer hide their father's ball gear from them, as well as the truth that their father was a ball player. A rat reveals the truth and helps the two to find said ball gear.
* In Creator/SeananMcGuire's ''OctoberDaye'' novel ''Ashes of Honor'', despite her mother's frantic efforts to protect her, Chelsea in the end concludes that she is like her father.
* GenderInverted in HarryTurtledove's {{Timeline-191}} books. When Canadian bomber Arthur [=MacGregor=] dies after [[spoiler: losing at GrenadeHotPotato with George Custer]], his wife Maude tries in vain to keep their younger daughter Mary from taking up his deadly work.
* In ''Literature/{{Overenskommelser}}'' by Creator/SimonaAhrnstedt, it rather is "turn out like her grandmother". Beatrice reminds her uncle Wilhelm too much of his mother, who had left her family to study abroad. [[EvilUncle His treatment of his niece goes downhill from there.]]
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[[folder:Live Action TV]]
* Bobby Singer in ''Series/{{Supernatural}}'' had a whole series of flashbacks in the episode where [[spoiler: he died]] where it eventually was revealed that he'd never been willing to have kids because he was sure he'd turn out just like [[AbusiveParents his father]]. [[spoiler: Whom he shot. In the same place in the head where Dick Roman tagged Bobby. According to the Reaper, "you have the only genetic case of bullet-to-the-brain I've ever seen."]]
* Turned UpToEleven in an episode of ''CriminalMinds'', where the father is a SerialKiller and rapist. His wife found out and [[MakeItLookLikeAnAccident made sure]] he wouldn't hurt anyone ever again... Unfortunately, the son eventually discovers his parentage by himself and is fascinated by it, becoming his father's JackTheRipOff. In an interesting twist, the father's original victim escaped and also had his child. He also finds out, but keeps it to himself out of respect for his mother and does not appear to display any homicidal tendencies.
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[[folder:Music]]
* "Coward of the County" -- where Tommy's father (who's dying in prison) is the one telling him not to be like his old man.
-->''Promise me son not to do the things I've done''
-->''Walk away from trouble if you can.''
** And then subverted at the end, when Tommy beats the crap out of three men who assaulted his girlfriend.
-->''Now please don't think I'm weak,''
-->''I couldn't turn the other cheek''
-->''And papa I sure hope you understand''
-->''Sometimes you have to fight when you're a man''
* Cat Stevens has this in "Father and Son".
--> ''I was once like you are now, and I know that it's not easy.''
* This is the twist of "Cat's in the Cradle" by Harry Chapin. In the first verses, the father is too busy for his son (who still loves him and swears "I'm gonna be like you, dad!" In the last verse, the son is too busy for his aged father, and the father observes that the son did turn out like him.
* "Seein' My Father In Me" by Paul Overstreet. ExactlyWhatItSaysOnTheTin.
* The Flemish/Dutch singer Stef Bos had the song "Papa" ("Dad") which is about a man reminiscing how much he looks and acts like his father.
* {{Drake}} has mentioned similarities between he and his father several times in his music. Although in his song "Look What You've Done" he mentioned that his mother, who got divorced from his father when he was five, sometimes makes negative comparisons between Drake and his father when she's upset with him.
-->"And you tell me Iím just like my father -- my one button, you push it"
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[[folder:Videogames]]
* Gorion in ''BaldursGate'' must have had this worry, though it's never quite stated outright. Being the LawfulGood foster father of the protagonist, whose real father was [[spoiler: Bhaal, a GodOfEvil]], he can't have wanted them to follow in his footsteps in any sense, even though [[spoiler: the prophecies made it likely they'd either do that or just die.]]
* Played with in ''KnightsOfTheOldRepublic'', where the Jedi Council is trying to stop [[spoiler:Revan from going down the same path he took last time around]]. It isn't the character's father, but the scene is played in the exact same manner down to the Council's reluctance to [[spoiler:tell the player about Revan]].
* Dante in ''VideoGame/DantesInferno'' was raised almost entirely by his father [[spoiler: since his mother committed suicide to escape his father's cruelty]] and, in his backstory before his HeelRealization [[spoiler: when the freaking ''GrimReaper'' told him his sins were ''not'' forgiven and that he was damned]], it shows. When he confronts his monstrously deformed father in Hell Dante admits that, rather than being a better man than his father, he has turned out to be far too much like him.
* Something along the lines of this probably happened with Percival Tachyon in ''RatchetAndClank'', though it substitutes "father" for "''entire race''". Of course, it didn't succeed.
* In ''VideoGame/FireEmblemJugdral'', Alvis has twin children, Julius and Julia. One of which has full [[DarkisEvil Lopotuso]] Blood (from both parents) and the other has full [[LightIsGood Narga]] blood (from their mother, [[MysteriousWaif Deirdre]]). So guess who [[GenreSavvy Manfroy tries to remove to keep from emulating their other ancestor]]. That's right... Julia.
** Averted by Soren and (possibly) Ike in ''VideoGame/FireEmblemTellius''. [[spoiler: Soren and Ashnard both believed that Tellius was a CrapsackWorld, but Soren's loyalty to Ike made him more of a KnightInSourArmor than an OmnicidalManiac. And while Ike and Gawain were both exceptional swordsmen, it is implied that Gawain taught the Black Knight to be a {{Jerkass}}.]]
* ''Positive'' examples of this trope show up in ''VideoGame/KingsQuest''. Alexander and Rosella turn out to be just as capable as their father when it comes to adventuring. Alexander is a case of playing it straight, or even an exaggeration, as Mannanan went as far as to call Alex a different name and raise him in a faraway land. (Justified because Mannanan was a wicked wizard and the last thing he needed was a pissed-off Graham showing up) Rosella is an inversion - with her brother gone, she was raised to follow in Graham's footsteps, though she's a bit ''too'' much like her father for Valanice's comfort sometimes.
* The ''{{Tekken}}'' series has this in spades with the Mishima clan.
* In ''VideoGame/RedDeadRedemption'', [[spoiler: after John Marston is killed by Ross, his son Jack becomes a wandering outlaw seeking revenge; exactly the opposite of the idealistic young man he was before his father died and precisely what John hoped he ''wouldn't'' become]].
* ''VideoGame/FinalFantasyX'': Wakka and Lulu tried to convince Yuna to not become a Summoner like her father, [[spoiler:because she would die whether she defeated Sin or not.]] Auron plays this straight with Tidus and Yuna; [[spoiler:he doesn't want them to become their fathers - he wants them to ''surpass'' them and break the cycle.]]
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[[folder:Web Originals]]
* The third film in ''The Laser Collection'' series features a police detective, Randall, growing metal limbs upon discovering that his father is Dr. Octogonapus.
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[[folder:Real Life]]
* Let's face it, every divorced woman raising a son -- and every divorced man raising a daughter -- probably feels like this every once in a while.
* Ada Lovelace was taught mathematics to suppress the "fanciful poetic instinct" of her father, Creator/LordByron. It didn't quite work. She still had enough imagination to come up with what was likely the first computer programming language (for Babbage's mechanical computer).
* Averted and then played straight with the early Christian theologian Origen. His father was martyred, and the teenage Origen wanted to follow him to glorious death, but his clever mother hid all his clothing. When Origen eventually died, it was late in life from broken health after a long period of imprisonment and torture.
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