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[[caption-width-right:350:[[{{Tearjerker}} Neither did the players.]]]]

->''"So of course as a young boy, I'm sitting there thinking 'I'm tough. It's just a cartoon. It ain't gonna leave an impact on me. ''(Grumpy starts to cry)'' Oh no, not Grumpy. Not Grumpy, no he was the tough one! Not Grumpy, not Gr--oh there's no hope for humanity!'"''
-->-- Creator/DougWalker on [[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0efdDh-4uH4&t=5m50s the funeral scene]] in ''Disney/SnowWhiteAndTheSevenDwarfs''

Basically, it's trying to hold back any crying in a situation. The simple fact is that tears are often seen as a sign of weakness. Therefore characters hold them back to try to be strong, either to [[TheParagon appear so as an example to others]] or because it's expected of certain people.

Now often people will fail at this, because the grief is too strong for them to hold back, or because they reach a breaking point. Other times the grief may manifest in other ways if it's held in too long. Sometimes the grief can eventually be let out through ManlyTears.

One of the most common forms is if someone says "I promised myself I wouldn't cry".

Compare SandInMyEyes, MenDontCry, StiffUpperLip, RageBreakingPoint, HeWillNotCrySoICryForHim, RunningAwayToCry. Contrast OcularGushers, UnableToCry.

[[folder: Anime and Manga]]
* The reason why Yoshiko Fujisawa from ''Manga/CaptainTsubasa'' [[spoiler: didn't want to face Matsuyama and her team after their loss to Nankatsu]] was basically her fear to cry in front of them. [[spoiler: Considering that she was about to be [[PutOnABus put on a plane]], that would be the last time she'd see them.]]
** Also, this is why Kumi Sugimoto ran away from Tsubasa [[spoiler: after he gently but firmly rejects her affections]]
* [[TheCaptain Lafiel]] from the ''LightNovel/CrestOfTheStars'' series is heir to the [[HegemonicEmpire Jade Throne]] and therefore not supposed to cry. This is explained that crying for any one person in the Empire is a sign of favoritism, and the Emperor/Empress is supposed to be an impartial ruler, so they must either cry for ''everyone'' or no one. [[spoiler: She refuses to cry when she is forced to order the Basroil's crew to leave Jinto behind during their mission in Lobnas II. After sucessfully evacuating the female prisoners, however, she returns to the planet and organizes a search party to look for him. When they find him malnourished but alive, she finally sheds a few tears]].
* ''Anime/MaiOtome'': When Arika Yumemiya finally meets her [[spoiler: long-dead]] [[MissingMom mother]] [[spoiler: (revived to participate in [[MagnificentBastard Grand Duke Nagi's]] [[EvilPlan plan to bring down the Otome]])]], she thinks she'd have a lot to say, but after introducing herself ([[SugarWiki/HeartwarmingMoments "Look, mom! I'm an Otome! Doesn't it suit me?"]]), she finds she can't bring herself to say the rest. Queen Mashiro looks on and, knowing that [[spoiler: they must destroy Lena to free the Otome]], admonishes herself that she promised she wouldn't cry anymore. Of course, she [[{{Tearjerker}} and the audience]] have trouble keeping that promise. Showing Arika [[spoiler: finally embracing her mother for one first and last moment]] doesn't help that promise, either...
* Chillingly deconstructed in (what else?) ''Anime/NeonGenesisEvangelion''. After the nightmarish circumstances surrounding her mother's demise, Asuka swore to herself that she will never cry or depend on someone else ever again. When she breaks this during her MindRape (sobbing and calling out for Kaji), she gets a ''very'' nasty mental breakdown that eventually [[HeroicBSOD drives her comatose]].
* In ''Anime/{{Pokemon}}'', there are moments throughout the series where Ash will lower his head so the brim of his hat hides his eyes. This is a sure sign that he is trying to avoiding letting others see him cry. A common time for this is when releasing Pokémon.
* In ''Franchise/SailorMoon'', just before Mamoru gets [[PutOnABus put on a plane]] Usagi comes to say good-bye to him at the airport. She starts crying and says "Oh no! I wanted to see you off with a smile!"
* In ''Manga/TheWorldGodOnlyKnows'', this occurred on the very same chapter / episode of the ''Goddesses Arc'': [[Tearjerker/TheWorldGodOnlyKnows FLAG 189 / Episode 12]]. [[spoiler:[[TheGenericGirl Chihiro]], despite having made a cheerful proclamation at the beginning of her band's performance, completely breaks down to tears at the end of the concert, after having sung a song that was completely about Keima.]]
* Tsukimi in ''Manga/PrincessJellyfish'' promises her mother wouldn't cry as she lay dying but Shuu holds her later and tells her its okay and that she can cry.
* ''[[Anime/ProjectAko Project A-ko]]'': Seen when B-ko finally reaches [[RageBreakingPoint her emotional breaking point]] with A-ko, when the latter complains about B-ko making her late for class again. Despite trying to hold back her tears, her voice breaks and she ends up crying anyway.
-->'''B-ko:''' ''(angrily, with tears)'' "Is THAT the only thing you care about?? Being a "good girl"?? Charming the teachers?! Well! Obviously it's never occurred to you that some children just are born with the same CHARM!! But what do ''you'' care?? You get to be the heroine, while I'm [[RichBitch the one everyone says is spoiled!]] Okay -- If they say I'm the bad girl, then that's what I'm GONNA BE!!"

[[folder: Comic Books]]
* In ''ComicBook/{{Preacher}}'', Jessie Custer as a child swore never to cry again after Jodie called him a "fucking little crybaby" when Jodie shot his father right in front of Jessie. At the very end of the series, Jessie cries as he begs Tulip to give their relationship one more chance as she is about to leave him. The tears more than anything convince Tulip that he means it.
* In the last volume of Neil Gaiman's ''ComicBook/TheSandman'' [[spoiler: during Morpheus' funeral]], the witch Thessaly reminisces on her past relationship with the king of Dreams and mentions that she swore never to cry for him, with tears streaming down her cheeks.

[[folder: Fanfiction]]
* In ''Fanfic/ATeachersGlory'', when he's ordered to "put on a good showing" in his match with Gaara while simultaneously being prohibited from seriously injuring or killing him, Shikamaru's first thought is that he wishes he was still young enough to break down crying.

[[folder: Film -- Animated]]
* Subverted in ''WesternAnimation/IceAge3DawnOfTheDinosaurs'' after [[spoiler: Peaches is born]].
-->'''Crash''' (choked up): I promised myself I wouldn't cry! (And he keeps his emotions under control)
-->'''Eddie''': I didn't! (and starts crying)
* Puss in Boots in ''WesternAnimation/{{Shrek 2}}'', watching Fiona and Shrek choose to remain ogres together instead of being beautiful.
--> "Whatever happens, I must not cry. You cannot make...me...cry..." (gives up)
%%* ''Disney/TreasurePlanet''
* ''Disney/SnowWhiteAndTheSevenDwarves'': The scene mentioned in the page quote, when Grumpy tries --and fails-- to keep from breaking down in tears over Snow White's casket.
* ''WesternAnimation/{{Storks}}'': Junior, after [[spoiler: delivering Diamond Destiny to her family]]. Tulip tells him it's okay if he does, but he shoots this suggestion down.
-->'''Tulip''': Junior, it's okay to let your feelings out.
-->'''Junior''': I'm not feeling.
-->'''Tulip''': It's healthy!
-->'''Junior''': I have no feeling!

[[folder: Film -- Live Action]]
* Parodied in ''Film/WaynesWorld2'', right down to Wayne saying "I promised myself I wouldn't cry!"
* ''Film/StarTrekIntoDarkness'':
** Spock reveals that he felt nothing on a mission when he thought he was going to die, because he didn't want to think about how much it would hurt Uhura.
** [[spoiler:When Kirk is dying of radiation, Spock cannot hold back his grief any longer]].
* ''Film/XMenApocalypse'': [[Characters/XMenFilmSeriesProfessorCharlesXavier Xavier]] holds back tears when he's around Alex ("It didn't really matter what was best for me") and Raven ("You sound just like him, you sound just like Erik").
* In ''9 To 5'', one of Judy Bernley's co-workers is fired for privately discussing wage differences with another co-worker in the bathroom while Frank Hart's assistant is snooping on them. As she is busy packing up her things from her desk, she tells Judy, "I promised myself that I wouldn't cry!"
* ''Film/TheFlintstonesInVivaRockVegas'': When Fred and Barney start to cry over over their loss of Wilma and Betty, Gazoo claims that his alien race had gone for a long time without emotions as he tries to console them. [[EverybodyCries He ends up crying along with them.]]
-->'''Gazoo:''' Please don't! Not emotions! My race has prospered for eons without the slightest trace of personal emotions and we couldn't be happier! Well, of course, we don't actually get happy because we don't have emotions, but... (''starts to cry'') Oh, this is so sad. Somebody hold me!
* MarvelCinematicUniverse
** ''Film/ThorTheDarkWorld'': When Loki denies that Frigga is his mother, she knows that he doesn't mean it, but his words still sting, and her eyes become wet and redden slightly. She then tries to brush off his hurtful comment with a fake smile and a dismissive, "Hmpf."
** ''Film/ThorRagnarok'': Loki visibly struggles to contain his emotions when Odin reclaims him as a son after being disowned in ''Film/ThorTheDarkWorld''.

* ''Literature/LittleWomen'': Jo promises herself (and Laurie) she won't cry at Meg's wedding.
* Played straight in ''[[Literature/NorthAndSouthUS North & South]]'' by Clarissa Main as her son and nephew go off to war.
* Happens a lot in Elinor M Brent-Dyer's ''Literature/ChaletSchool'' books, due to the StiffUpperLip attitude that was common at the time. Of course, it isn't always successful, especially considering [[IllGirl what]] [[DisappearedDad some]] [[MissingMom of]] [[UsefulNotes/WorldWarI the]] [[UsefulNotes/WorldWarII girls]] [[PromotionToParent go]] [[BreakTheCutie through]]. Ruey Richardson, for instance, tries her hardest not to cry about her MadScientist father going missing in space, but eventually it gets too much and she has to be comforted by Joey.
* Laura from ''Literature/LittleHouseOnThePrairie'' was raised with the notion that only babies cry. Even at six years old she tried her best not to cry. When characters do cry in the series, oftentimes they try to avoid it.
* In ''Literature/TheGirlFromTheMiraclesDistrict'', upon being confronted with Robin's selfless kindness, Nikita struggles to hold back tears, as she doesn't want to appear weak in front of her partner. She fails utterly.
* ''Literature/TheSorcererOfTheWildeeps'': Upon [[spoiler:Cumalo's, on of his best friends, death]], Demane desperately wants to mourn, but since MenDontCry in the northern lands, he avoids that by stowing his grief away entirely.

[[folder: Live Action Television]]
* ''Series/FamilyTies'': The 1985 episode "Heartstrings," which centered on Steven coming to terms with his father's death. After Alex is told that his grandfather/Steven's father had just died, Alex pauses to compose his thoughts, then explains about well-off his grandmother will be because of his grandfather's earnings and so on ... doing so being the only way to stop himself from crying. Steven tells him it's OK and the two embrace, sobbing in each other's arms. Played straight; the two were the only ones home and watching the final game of the World Series, and there was no scene where the women came into the room, saw Alex and Steven crying, and mistakenly conclude the Dertroit Tigers (Alex and Steven's favorite team) had lost.
* ''Series/SesameStreet'': "I'll Miss You, Mr. Hooper," where with several of the adults it's all they can do to keep from breaking down into tears as they explain to Big Bird why their beloved friend is not coming back ... ever. In fact, Bob (Bob [=McGrath=]) is visibly emotional as he explains that while Mr. Hooper has died, they have memories and much more positive to reflect on.
* In ''Series/{{Smallville}}'', Allison Mack is the only one who pulls it off believably with Chloe Sullivan, many times. It makes the few times when she breaks down and sobs uncontrollably all the more tear jerking.
* Parodied on ''Series/TheDailyShow'' on March 19, 2010, when Jon Stewart [[http://www.thedailyshow.com/watch/thu-march-18-2010/conservative-libertarian viciously sent up Glenn Beck.]] "I promised myself I would cry..."
* Hilariously invoked in the ''Series/BuffyTheVampireSlayer'' episode "Homecoming."
* Parodied in an episode of ''Series/OffCentre''.
* The ''Series/DoctorWho'' episode "A Good Man Goes to War", when Rory [[spoiler:meets his baby daughter]]. "I was gonna be cool..."
* Parodied in ''Series/MalcolmInTheMiddle'', when the family discovers that evil Grandma Ida has been drugging a rich Chinese man and plans to marry him, she uses all her pills to drug everyone with a buffet. They're all left in a state of blissful naivete, calmly and happily commenting on what a monster Ida is. The Chinese man, however, snaps out of it before the marriage is official and runs off, leaving Ida on the floor sobbing. Hal, drugged and beginning to cry, mentions "I promised I wasn't going to do this" as he watches Ida wallow in her misery.
* Parodied in ''Series/TheKingOfQueens'', when Carrie joins a model family advertising a house, and gets a little too attached to her pretend children.
-->'''Carrie''': We have to spend time as a family! Before you know it, you guys are gonna be out of the house and... ''(chokes back tears)'' Stopstopstopstopstop...
* Played for laughs with Gus in ''Series/{{Psych}}''. He's a sympathetic crier.
* ''Series/PunkyBrewster'': Punky tries not to cry when she says goodbye to Allen in "Divorce, Anderson Style." When Allen leaves, Punky loses it.
* An episode of ''Series/SmallWonder'' had Vicki falling for a computer that had to be deactivated due to a faulty program. When asked if she's okay, Vicki says that she isn't programmed to cry, but the final shot is a close of her face with a tear running down her cheek.
* In the ''Series/{{Supernatural}}'' episode [[Recap/SupernaturalS02E20WhatIsAndWhatShouldNeverBe "What Is And What Should Never Be" (S02, Ep20)]], Dean almost loses it when he hugs his mother.
* In an episode of ''Series/StarTrekEnterprise'' Malcolm Reed is trying really hard not to cry after a verbal beating from Archer [[spoiler: who believed him to be spying for Section 31]]

[[folder:Professional Wrestling]]
* Nanae Takahashi in Pro Wrestling SUN after Toshie Uematsu betrays The Dream Catchers for [[CardCarryingVillain REM]]. Uematsu and Wrestling/AmazingKong's mockery pushes her over.[[/folder]]

[[folder: Video Games]]
* In ''VideoGame/DevilMayCry 3'', after [[spoiler:killing her father, Arkham]], Lady says this as she starts crying.
* In ''VideoGame/LufiaIIRiseOfTheSinistrals'', Maxim's childhood friend Tia was once a girl who burst into tears easily, until one day, she decided to stop crying. [[spoiler: In the ending, she finally starts crying again when she senses [[BittersweetEnding Maxim's death]].]]
* In ''VisualNovel/TokimekiMemorial 2'', Played very straight in [[spoiler: [[http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kC_u6HACZ5c the Happy Ending of the]] [[HelloInsertNameHere Protagonist]]'s VictoriousChildhoodFriend [[GenkiGirl Hikari Hinomoto]]]] :
-->'''[[spoiler: Hikari]]''': That time... when you moved away... I cried a lot. Every single day... I cried continuously. But then, I realized that I should stop crying, because when we meet again one day, if I am still a cry baby, you would hate this. So I thought I'd do my best not be to be a cry baby... That's why... on that school entrance day, when I met you again, I did not cry in front of you, as I promised myself. But, today, with the graduation just around the corner, I...
-->'''Protagonist''': [[spoiler: Hikari]]...
-->'''[[spoiler: Hikari]]''': I kept remembering about that time, that time when you moved away... I find it hard to breathe, and drown with sadness. {''[[spoiler: Hikari]]'s eyes start to well up with tears''} When I think that you will disappear in front of me, the tears... come out... {''the welling up gets bigger''} [[SugarWiki/HeartwarmingMoments I don't want it, to be like this, to be like this...]] [[AnguishedDeclarationOfLove because I LOVE YOU !]]
* When Sue has to leave and go home in ''VideoGame/{{Grandia}}'', she tries to hold back the tears, but burst into sobs as she insists she doesn't want to cry.
* Near the end of ''VisualNovel/LittleBusters'', Kyousuke tells Riki that he needs to be strong and not cry anymore. Moments later [[spoiler:when they finally part and Riki awakens at the site of the bus crash to drag him and Rin away from it, leaving the rest of their friends for the dead to save their own lives,]] all Riki can think is to apologise to Kyousuke that he couldn't stop himself.
* ''VideoGame/SonicTheHedgehog2006'' has Princess Elise, a young girl who was told by her father since childhood to never cry since doing so (unbeknownst to her of course) would release the fiery god, Iblis, from her body and destroy the world. You can see several times throughout the game where Elise ''almost'' cries, but quickly gets reassured by Sonic that things will be ok and she just has to smile. [[spoiler: However, when Sonic gets killed by Mephiles, Elise can't contain her emotions any longer and wails over Sonic's death, which releases Iblis and merges with Mephiles to reform the sun god and devourer of time, Solaris.]]
* ''VideoGame/AceAttorneyInvestigationsMilesEdgeworth'' has a particularly heart-rending example in the fourth case, when a young [[spoiler: Kay Faraday]] has to face the death of [[spoiler: her father.]] She explains that she'd made a promise to him never to cry, even as tears start appearing in the corners of her eyes. She is quickly reduced to a sobbing wail afterwards.
* After Satoko of ''VisualNovel/HigurashiWhenTheyCry'' lost her parents, she cried easily and became overly reliant on her big brother Satoshi. After he disappeared under mysterious circumstances, Satoko convinced herself that he had run away because she was too much of a burden for him, and she resolved never to cry or depend on others in the hope that Satoshi might return one day. This is the reason she gives for refusing to cry even when [[spoiler:she's being tortured to death by the maddened Shion, who actually calls her out on her crybaby past while torturing her]]. For the record, Satoko is still just a prepubescent girl when this happens.

[[folder: Web Original]]
* Said by Sarge when he leaves Lopez in Episode 9 of ''[[Machinima/RedVsBlueTheRecollection Red vs. Blue: Reconstruction]]''.
* When ''WebVideo/BennettTheSage'' discusses the end of ''WesternAnimation/TheIronGiant'', he says that he keeps telling himself he's not gonna cry, but still ends up doing so.
* In ''WebVideo/BradJonesDemoReel'', Braddie, the director, wants to do a remake of ''E.T. The Porno'', with Gretchen dressed as ET. As Gretchen tries to talk herself into accepting her role in the film, she's visibly on the verge of tears. Yet when Braddie crosses a line, she's more disgusted than sad, and leaves the project.

* ''Webcomic/SomethingPositive'': [[http://www.somethingpositive.net/sp07182010.shtml My baby's first nerd tears]]...I Promised Myself I Wouldn't Cry."

[[folder: Western Animation]]
* In the ''WesternAnimation/BatmanTheBraveAndTheBold'' episode ''Requiem for a Scarlet Speedster'', the Weather Wizard invokes this trope when the Rogues see [[spoiler: Franchise/TheFlash, whom they thought was dead, return at the end of the episode.]]
* Xandir in ''WesternAnimation/DrawnTogether'', in the episode where he came out of the closet.
* From ''WesternAnimation/TheSimpsons'' when Bart and Lisa were about to head off to Kamp Krusty:
-->'''Marge:''' It's our last family dinner for six weeks, but I promised myself I wouldn't cry.\\
(The rest of the family starts loudly chowing down on their food)\\
'''Marge:''' (starts sobbing) Oh, I'm going to miss this!
* In ''[[WesternAnimation/TotalDrama Total Drama World Tour]],'' [[AscendedFangirl Sierra]] says "I promised myself I wouldn't cry" word-for-word, because she [[WeWillNotUsePhotoshopInTheFuture believed]] her LoveInterest Cody was sleeping with [[LovableAlphaBitch Heather]].
* Bubbles of ''WesternAnimation/ThePowerpuffGirls'' invokes this and makes good on it in the episode "Bubblevicious." Having gone "hardcore," she is captured by Mojo Jojo and subjected to a painful ray which Bubbles takes up to level 11 before she breaks free and kicks Mojo's ass.
-->'''Bubbles:''' I'm...not...gonna...cry...you...big...[[GoshDangItToHeck DOO-DOO BRAIN!!!]]
** Later in the series in the episode "All Chalked Up," Bubbles looks as if she wants to lay an unholy smackdown on Buttercup for destroying her colored chalk. But just as she and Buttercup face each other in a tense moment, Bubbles flies off into the woods, [[InelegantBlubbering wailing inelegantly.]]
** "Little Miss Interprets" had the girls believing that the Professor was going to replace them with new girls. In their bedroom, Blossom and Bubbles are crying; Buttercup sits with crossed arms and furrowed brow. She turns her head to the right and a lets out a SingleTear.
* ''WesternAnimation/TheGrimAdventuresOfBillyAndMandy'' episode "Heartburn" has Mandy [[OOCIsSeriousBusiness trying to stave off tears (unsuccessfully)]] when she starts to come to the realization that [[StalkerWithACrush Irwin]] may be her true love.
** When the Kraken presumably eats Billy in ''[[TheMovie Billy & Mandy's Big Boogey Adventure]]'' and Irwin points out to a Mandy adamant that [[BornLucky Billy]] is fine that it's been several hours, she glances into the water and we see her eyes glisten with tears. She looks like she's on the verge of crying... before Billy finally returns seconds later, proving Mandy's point and [[AngerBornOfWorry making her visibly annoyed that she was worried for even a second]].
* In the [[GrandFinale final episode]] of ''WesternAnimation/CodenameKidsNextDoor'', "I.N.T.E.R.V.I.E.W.S", Numbuh 4 tries to act tough [[spoiler: while he says goodbye to Numbuh 1 before the latter leaves for the Galactic Kids Next Door]], but he ends up breaking into tears like the rest of his teammates.

[[folder: Real Life]]
* We've all done this at least once in our lives, whether it's during an argument, after receiving tragic news or when overjoyed, almost always because our heavy emotions get in the way of saying what we want.
* Wayne Gretzky during the press conference to announce he was being traded from the Edmonton Oilers, with whom he had won 4 Stanley Cups and played his entire career, to the Los Angeles Kings, famously broke down in tears while speaking about it and said "I promised Mess (teammate Mark Messier) I wouldn't do this."
* Creator/DavidTennant on his last day on the set of ''Series/DoctorWho''.
* This often happens at [[UsefulNotes/{{Tennis}} tennis Grand Slam]] finals, as the runners up have to make speeches just minutes after going through the emotionally crushing ordeal of falling at the final hurdle. Players fight the tears both so that they can speak, but also because crying can detract from the winner's victory. Notable examples include:
** {{UsefulNotes/Wimbledon}} 2012: Andy Murray was denied his first Slam for a fourth time, in front of a home crowd. He stumbled through an emotional speech, having to break off frequently when his voice failed and [[{{Tearjerker}} in the end]] he was pretty much the only one in the stadium ''not'' crying.
** Australian Open 2009: Rafael Nadal prevented good friend and rival Roger Federer from winning a record equalling 15th Slam. Federer, known for having NervesOfSteel and always being a GracefulLoser, [[InelegantBlubbering broke down sobbing]]. He managed to fight the tears for the trophy presentation, but lost it again and aborted his speech, obviously angry with himself for tarnishing Nadal's moment of glory. [[Heartwarming.RealLifeSports Nadal pulled him into a hug and Federer got himself together, finishing the speech by talking about what a great champion Nadal was.]]
** Not a Grand Slam final, but it still counts: In the quarterfinals of the 2012 French Open, 5th seed Jo-Wilfried Tsonga had an extremely tough opponent in the form of then-World No. 1 Novak Djokovic. Amazingly, he actually came within one point of defeating the World No. 1 and pulling off a miracle upset in front of his countrymen...only for Djokovic to kill every one of his ''four'' match points and steamroll over him in the final set, which left Tsonga so shattered that he hid his face in a towel for several minutes after the match.
* Common for winners of prestigious awards, such as the Oscars or the Grammys.