->''"A Roman divorced from his wife, being highly blamed by his friends, who demanded, 'Was she not chaste? Was she not fair? Was she not fruitful?' holding out his shoe, asked them whether it was not new and well made. 'Yet,' added he, 'none of you can tell where it pinches me."''
-->--'''Plutarch''' in the first century AD, making this OlderThanFeudalism

Situation where a marriage is threatened to be broken up over a [[DisproportionateRetribution suspiciously minor]] setback or argument, sometimes venting complaints about [[CompressedVice behavior which just surfaced]]. This can occur even after the spouses have jumped numerous hurdles in the relationship to be together, and usually smells of the [[TrueLoveIsBoring inability of writers to do other plots or as cheap extension]]. From more capable writers, it's more of a RantInducingSlight, the proverbial straw that broke the camel's back and unloaded years worth of pent-up frustration.

The archetypical example, which gives this trope its name, is the cliched argument over leaving the toilet seat up or down.

Slightly more tolerated for teenagers who break up, since you [[{{Wangst}} expect them to be overdramatic]].

In RealLife, before the advent of no-fault divorce laws, it wasn't unknown for a couple who mutually wanted to separate to use these sorts of things so that one or both could claim mental suffering in order to have the legal justification for the divorce.

See also MinorFlawMajorBreakup, RantInducingSlight, DisproportionateRetribution, SexChangesEverything. This trope is not about a divorce threat to somebody who by chance [[IThoughtItMeant happens to be in the john]].
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* In the ''Magazine/{{MAD}}'' parody of ''MrsDoubtfire'', the judge grants the main character's wife a divorce because he left the toilet seat up.

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* Ross and Rachel from ''Series/{{Friends}}''. Since the series depended on them being separated in order to work, their break up was quick and difficult to understand. Ross cheated on Rachel (read cheat as: slept with someone else after Rachel suggested they should take some time), and even after Rachel forgave him, she couldn't be with him because ''"she would know that he cheated on her with that other woman"''. This doesn't stop her from wanting him back, which makes all this pretext more useless.
* Dr. Wilson from ''Series/{{House}}'' had what seems to have been an example of this trope, given how he and his ex get along when they end up back together. The only difference the second time around is that House convinced Wilson to actually speak up instead of let the irritation build up to RantInducingSlight levels.
** Also, [[spoiler: Cameron and Chase's divorce comes off a bit like this, as though the issue that initially caused their separation was fairly major, in their farewell episode it made it seem as if it was really again because of Cameron's inability to commit, an issue which had already been dealt with earlier.]]
* In ''SpinCity'', Mayor Winston and an ex-girlfriend from his college days had apparently been driven apart by an overly competitive tennis match.
* Played with ''HowIMetYourMother'': Ted, Barney and Robin come home to discover telltale signs of a fight between Lilly and Marshall. While Robin makes the correct guess that the fight was over Lilly's terrible spending habits preventing them from getting a decent loan for the couple's new apartment (which Marshall only found out about when they went in to get the loan), Ted and Barney assume it was because Lilly left the lid off of the peanut butter jar. Which makes all the more hilarious when Ted hits redial on the house phone and discovers that the last person called was a divorce attorney. [[spoiler: Subverted in that neither Lilly or Marshall want to get divorced: Lilly only wanted to get divorced legally so that they could put the loan in Marshall's name and get a better rate; neither of them even considered breaking up their relationship. Marshall eventually nixes the plan, saying that even "divorce on paper" is too much for him; he treasures their marriage too much.]]
** This also pops up in season nine. Marshall makes a very big decision without consulting Lilly but it is clearly something that a loving couple can work through. Then we find out that Marshall still has deep resentment and trust issues from seven years previously when Lilly broke off their engagement and left for San Francisco to pursue an art career. They never really addressed it after Lilly came back and they got back together. Over time it has festered with Marshall not trusting Lilly and subconsciously trying to "win" in their marriage to punish Lilly. It's lampshaded that if they do not deal with this properly, it will wreck their marriage sooner or later.

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* PlayedForLaughs Music/WeirdAlYankovic's "Albuquerque": Despite being SickeninglySweethearts to a degree that they share the [[{{Squick}} same piece of mint-flavoured dental floss]], one random night after getting married and having kids his wife says to him, "Sweetie pumpkin, do you want to join the Columbia Record Club?" Not ready for that kind of commitment, they broke up and he never saw her again. But that's just the way things go in Aaaaaaaaaaalbuquerque.

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* A sketch in ''ThatMitchellAndWebbSound'' has a woman and her husband half-heartedly arguing about his having an affair. Turns out she's really just itching to pick a fight because she hasn't gotten over the far worse trauma caused by him leaving the fridge door open a week earlier. She had to throw out almost a whole quiche!
** And don't forget the milk! All that milk!
** The same sketch was later adapted to television for ''Series/ThatMitchellAndWebbLook'' (it doesn't go as far as a divorce -- the man makes a heartfelt apology for leaving the fridge door open, and they make up. Then they joke about what a scamp he is for having an affair with a younger, sexier woman).

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* In ''MaryMary'', Mary makes her ex-husband Bob recall that he started packing his bags one night when he got into bed with her and she said, "Okay, let's get those colored lights going." His excuse for having divorced her over this "very small straw" is that he had been having a bad day.
* The title of ''Theatre/BarefootInThePark'' comes from an argument (which leads to a threatened divorce), ''nominally'' about how Paul didn't want to take a barefoot walk in Central Park.
* In the French play ''Lapin Lapin'', the older daughter of the family leaves her husband. Why? Because he told her during their breakfast "Pass me the salt".

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* In one episode of ''WesternAnimation/TheSimpsons'', Mr. and Mrs. Van Houten have a breakup that's precipitated by one spouse losing a game of {{Pictionary}}, though this incident was really only the RantInducingSlight for long held deep grudges.
* An episode of ''WesternAnimation/{{Arthur}}'' has D.W. and Arthur imagining their parents getting a divorce over literally spilled milk.
* Not a divorce, but Gazpacho in ''{{Chowder}}'' had a falling-out with his mother over proper tooth-brushing technique.

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