->''"The flame of the inn is dim tonight,\\
Too many vacant chairs.\\
The sun has lost too much of its light,\\
Too many songs have taken flight,\\
Too many ghosts on the stairs.\\
Charon, here's to you as man against man,\\
I wish I could pick 'em the way you can!"''
-->-- '''Grantland Rice'''

Two or more characters gather to grieve for a dead comrade, without a formalized structure. They reminiscence about the fallen, how much he will be missed--or has been missed.

An actual wake is possible, as the bereaved can talk and drink without a ceremony to go through. Or they may meet somewhere, and talk. (They may not even intend to grieve, but they end up doing so.) A bar is likely, because the wake often involves alcohol--so often that it generally does not appear only if it is impossible. Expect the dead to be toasted. (DrowningMySorrows may convert into this if the drinker bumps into another friend.) Sometimes the drink is poured on the ground as a LibationForTheDead. Sometimes the absent friends are represented by [[EmptyChairMemorial empty chairs]].

Soldiers on a mission may start to talk, and lead to this, if they are waiting for something and have lost a comrade. (The situation in which alcohol is least likely to feature. But the MilitaryMoonshiner may have some.)

The informal equivalent of a MeaningfulFuneral. Possibly it immediately precedes or follows it, although that is unlikely, because the two scenes concentrate on the same emotions, and so are likely to duplicate. Also compare PersonalEffectsReveal.

May also feature long after the death (or deaths) as characters remember all their dead and [[FamedInStory tell stories of them]]. The toast is often "To absent friends." This can overlap with TellMeAboutMyFather.

Suitable for a BittersweetEnding or a DownerEnding, but can happen anywhere in a story--even as a FramingDevice at the very beginning of a work that StartsWithTheirFuneral. Remembering the sacrifice may inspire characters to fight on, lest it have been a SenselessSacrifice.

Contrast ForgottenFallenFriend, DeadGuyJunior.

'''DeathTrope. Spoilers follow.'''



[[folder:Anime & Manga]]
* In ''Manga/DeathNote'' when [[spoiler:the real L, the HeroAntagonist]] dies, Light laughs on his grave, subverting this trope.
* ''Manga/YuYuHakusho''.
** Raizen's old comrades-in-arms gather at his grave with lots of sake and flowers in
** Yusuke-the-ghost attending his own wake and witnesses this in the [[DeathbyOriginStory very first episode.]]
* In ''Anime/{{Monster}}'', [[spoiler:Grimmer]]'s grave gets a visit.
* [[spoiler: Maes Hughes']] grave in ''Manga/FullmetalAlchemist''.
** There is a scene in [[Anime/FullmetalAlchemist the 2003 anime adaptation]] where his widow comes to visit the grave, only to discover that someone else has already left flowers. Yes, [[spoiler:Roy Mustang]], we're looking at you.
* When [[spoiler:Wolfwood]] dies in the Manga/{{Trigun}} manga, he and Vash share a final drink while he goes in what effectively ''is'' his wake. Then, when Livio wakes up from healing the fight damage, Vash has made a vast quantity of spaghetti, and their spaghetti-eating is several symbolic things, including affirmation of life, signal of Vash's willingness to accept Livio, and meal in honor of [[spoiler:Wolfwood]]. It is the saddest spaghetti ever.
** Vash also pours a bottle of whiskey off an observation platform in the anime version of Inepril. Not even clear just who he's honoring, but it's probably the dead. He has a lot of them.
* The end of ''Anime/GuiltyCrown'' has this for [[spoiler: Hare,]] who died seven episodes earlier. The final episode features the surviving cast sitting together at a table with a cake that says "Happy Birthday [[spoiler: Hare]]" with an empty seat in front of it.
* In the ''Manga/MaidenRose'' ''Wheel of Fortune'' doujinshi Taki and Klaus go out into town to "mourn like soldiers" after the death of four of their comrades, although the focus is concentrated on Taki's personal reaction to the deaths rather than the fallen themselves.
* In the ending credits of ''Manga/{{Hellsing}}'' OVA 5. Sir Irons walks to a grave at night with three cups, and a bottle of alcohol. It isn't quite LibationForTheDead, as he pours the three glasses at the head stone, and reminisces about the past (as a church choir sings), where he Pennington, and Arthur Hellsing were friends, and how they organized the fall of the Vampire oriented Nazi branch. He is alone because [[spoiler: Pennington just died in the episode]]. In the end, the three glasses lie at the head stone, as the candle goes out (the only sound effect in the entire scene), revealing the headstone to be Arthur's.

[[folder:Comic Books]]
* The focus of the first half of volume ten (appropriately titled the Wake) of ''Comicbook/TheSandman''. Also invoked in "Season of Mists".
-->'''Hob Gadling:''' To absent friends, lost loves, old gods, and the season of mists; and may each and every one of us always give the devil his due.
* In ''ComicBook/TheMightyThor'', after Skurge the Executioner [[MoreHeroThanThou settles whether he or Thor]] will say YouShallNotPass (by knocking out Thor), Skurge asks them to remember him at Asgard. Later, when Thor and Skurge meet in Hel, Skurge asks, and Thor is grieved to have to tell him that crises have kept them too busy to do so.
* This trope is the title to Chapter II in ''Comicbook/{{Watchmen}}'', showing the funeral of the Comedian and how his attending colleagues remember him. Many of the flashbacks turn out to be important to the plot and the events surrounding his death. It is specifically a quote of the Music/ElvisCostello song listed below.
* [[ComicBook/TheFlash The Rogues]] do this after one of their own is killed. They then have a [[RoaringRampageOfRevenge "Rogue's Wake."]]
* At the end of ''Nexus: Alien Justice'', Horatio, Sundra, and Judah toast: "To absent friends and those still here. To justice, and home-brewed beer!" Something of a subversion, in that at least two of the friends they're toasting, Dave and GQ, are alive and well, just absent, and then GQ pops right back in just at that moment anyway.
* Played with in ''ComicBook/ScottPilgrim''. Wallace toasts the trope name not because anyone is dead but because Scott's friends stood him up.

* In ''Fanfic/ChroniclesOfTheCrusade'', Sheridan, Garibaldi, Ivanova, Delenn, Vir and Franklin play this trope in the prologue.
* In ''Fanfic/EaglesFall'', the toast is used word for word by the surviving officers of Frank Company as the official surrender takes effect.
* In the ''WesternAnimation/TotalDrama'' story, ''[[Fanfic/LegacyTotalDrama Legacy]]'', the final chapter has this mood after Heather reveals her gesture of remembrance.
* In the ''Fanfic/EmpathTheLuckiestSmurf'' story "Days Of Auld Lang Smurf", Papa Smurf makes a toast to the future on New Year's Eve and to his fellow Smurfs who were briefly "resurrected" for a time (though they were actually hallucinations brought upon them by a spell cast on them by Chlorhydris) until they vanished at the stroke of midnight.
* The ''VideoGame/StarTrekOnline'' [[http://sto-forum.perfectworld.com/showthread.php?t=1239941 Literary Challenge 68]] fanfics "Fanfic/RemembranceOfTheFallen" and "Fanfic/ToAbsentFriends" both deal with the Day of Remembrance, a minor Bajoran holy day dedicated to remembering the dead (it's based on the Latin American Day of the Dead). You leave food offerings of the deceased's favorites at their graveside and share stories about them with your friends and family. The latter fic also has the trope name as a toast offered to the forty-five names on the USS ''Bajor'''s memorial wall.

* ''Franchise/StarTrek'':
** Played straight in ''Film/StarTrekIIITheSearchForSpock''. Kirk drops the trope name in a toast to Spock at the beginning of the scene in his apartment.
** Also played straight in ''Film/StarTrekNemesis'' after [[spoiler:Data]] is killed while destroying the ''Scimitar'' to save the ''Enterprise''.
** Happens twice in ''Film/StarTrekBeyond''. First, the film begins a few days before Kirk's birthday, and [=McCoy=] pours himself and Kirk shots, and a third, representing Kirk's lost father who was killed saving him as he was born. They tap their shot glasses to the extra glass, then to each others'. Then, towards the end, at his surprise birthday party, Kirk offers the toast, "To [[spoiler:the ''Enterprise'']]. And to absent friends."
* Théoden's heartfelt "Hail to the victorious dead!" speech in ''Film/TheLordOfTheRings: The Return of the King'', as the Rohirrim remember their fallen brethren after the Battle of Helm's Deep.
* Subverted in ''Film/TheRockyHorrorPictureShow''. Frank proposes a toast "to absent friends." Unbeknownst to everyone but Frank (and possibly Riff-Raff and Magenta), they're dining on Eddie, whose remains are under the table. The line was later used in the booklet included with the 25th Anniversary DVD edition as a tribute to actor Charles Gray (The Criminologist), the only non-surviving cast member at the time of that release.
* Parodied somewhat in ''Film/AboutSchmidt'', when the emotional ex-husband of Warren Schmidt's daughter's fiance's mother gets up to give a speech at the restaurant table. "If only my parents were with us today... but they are really here... right now... hi, Mom... hiya, pop..." Most of the family watches him give his speech, while Warren's head rolls around in meds-induced ecstasy.
* The quiet reflection in Tia Dalma's hut in ''Film/PiratesOfTheCaribbeanDeadMansChest'', wherein the crew of the Black Pearl contemplate the death of Captain Jack Sparrow and the destruction of his ship due to the Kraken.
* ''Film/DieHardWithAVengeance'': When the bad guys are celebrating the successful theft, they're toasting to several things and then one says along the lines of "auf gefallen kameraden," which translates something like "for fallen comrades." There is a moment of silence and then they all toast in honor of their lost brethren.
* ''Film/FiftyFifty'':
** Subverted hilariously at the end of the movie. At the end of the climactic battle, Jake and Sam are both very badly wounded, but the crowds storming the palace are preventing Sprue from reaching them. The next scene is at an outdoor cafe in Rome, where Sprue, alone, has purchased three glasses of champagne. He lifts one and toasts Jake and Sam, saying "sorry you couldn't make it." Just as he's about to drink, Jake yells from off camera "Sprue, you rummy! You couldn't even wait for us?" He and Sam walk up, bandaged and on crutches, but otherwise fine. It turns out Sprue did wait for them, but they were forty-five minutes late.
** Played straight later in that same scene, of course, when Jake and Sam remember Suleta, who really did die in the war.
* During the V-E Day celebration scene in ''Film/CaptainAmericaTheFirstAvenger'', while most of London is celebrating the end of the war, the Howling Commandos are gathered in a pub. One says, "To the Captain," and they all solemnly drink to their (presumed) fallen comrade.
* [[http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8YVqKiZCkrk A variant]] in the Andrzej Wajda film ''Film/AshesAndDiamonds'': as a woman softly sings ''Czerwone Maki na Monte Cassino'' in the background, the two protagonists commemorate their friends who fell in the Warsaw Uprising by lighting shots of vodka on fire, before downing the last two drinks themselves. There's a lot of RealitySubtext in that scene: the film came out in 1958, when the Polish Communist government banned remembrance of the Uprising and the feats of the Polish Army in the West; the subjects are not outright discussed in the scene, but only alluded to, in order to get it past the censors.
* Inverted at the end of ''Film/MaxManus'' when the title character has an ImagineSpot of his fallen comrades in LaResistance drinking a toast to him. As they're not there, [[DrowningMySorrows he goes on a bender instead]] until his LoveInterest arrives to snap him out of it.

* Nearly universal in any sort of military fiction.
* In Creator/DanAbnett's ''Literature/GauntsGhosts'' novel ''Only in Death'', after Gaunt's [[spoiler:apparent]] death, Larkin barges into Rawne's office, even though Rawne is the commander. They reminesce about their Founding and how few of them are left, whom Gaunt took off Tanith. Larkin proposes toast to "Old Ghosts"; Rawne, to "Staying alive"; and then, in unison, they toast "Ibram Gaunt."
* The [[Literature/TheRiftwarCycle novelisation]] of ''VideoGame/BetrayalAtKrondor'' ends with this [[spoiler:in honour of Gorath, complete with a toast.]]
* Happens in the book ''First To Fight'' by David Sherman and Dan Cragg, it pops up throughout the rest of the series as well. To be expected, in a military series.
* Occurs in Creator/TerryPratchett's ''Literature/{{Discworld}}'' novel ''Discworld/NightWatch'', where the members of the Revolution gather every year on the twenty-fifth of May to remember their comrades who were killed. When young Sam asks why old men would cry to hear the cheerful song "All the Little Angels", the older Vimes privately knows that it's because they remember who they ''aren't'' singing it with.
* ''TabletopGame/{{Warhammer 40000}} Literature/SpaceWolf'' series:
** In William King's novel ''Ragnar's Claw'', after Ragnar is gravely injured and [[spoiler:Lars]] killed, Ragnar is too ill to attend the funeral. When he is well enough to stand, the other young Space Marine gather, and their first words are "To [[spoiler:Lars]]."
** In Lee Lightner's ''Wolf's Honour'', Ragnar and [[spoiler:Torin]] talk of [[spoiler:Haegr]] at their last meeting.
* In Creator/GrahamMcNeill's ''TabletopGame/{{Warhammer 40000}}'' novel ''Storm Of Iron'', [[spoiler:Leonid]] opens [[YouAreInCommandNow his first briefing]] by offering a toast to his predecessor. Later, alone in his office, he pours himself a glass and drinks "To [[spoiler:Princeps Daekin]]." Captain Eshara joins him, and they exchange condolences over the deaths in their respective forces.
* One of Creator/GeorgeMacDonaldFraser's ''Literature/McAuslan'' stories features an impromptu informal party with the narrator (a young officer) and a handful of his men. They use the old four-part toast to lost friends:
-->"Here's tae us."
-->"Wha's like us?"
-->"Damn few."
-->"And they're a' deid."
* ''Franchise/StarWarsLegends'':
** Fairly common amongst New Republic fighter pilots, especially the Rogue and Wraith squadrons of the ''ComicBook/XWingSeries''. Notably, whenever the Wraiths do it, ''somebody'' is obliged to [[MoodWhiplash make a smartass remark]]. For example, the end of ''Iron Fist'', after Face has been released from the medical ward:
--->'''Runt:''' Face cannot drink yet, but we can drink to him.\\
'''Janson:''' And to Ton Phanan and Castin Donn.\\
'''Dia:''' And to scars you can peel off whenever you no longer need them.\\
'''Face:''' And to--\\
'''Dia:''' And to friends who don't try to fool you all the time.\\
'''Face:''' Dia, this is Wraith Squadron. You're ''never'' going to have that.
** In ''Literature/DarkRendezvous'', Yoda loses both of the Jedi Knights traveling with him to an ambush, forcing their Padawans to continue the mission alone with him. As soon as they get a moment of peace, Yoda arranges a meal and a (non-alcoholic) toast in honor of the fallen Knights.
* Creator/JohnRingo and Creator/DavidWeber have this as pretty much the toast whenever characters drink. Often the reason why people drink in the first place. Their joint series, ''Literature/PrinceRoger'', has this in spades.
* Creator/DavidWeber manages a particularly vicious subversion of this in ''[[Literature/HonorHarrington Echoes of Honor]]'', when Honor's mother's pregnancy has been announced and that therefore Honor's sibling will succeed her as Steadholder Harrington. Admiral Yanakov asks to make a toast. One expects this trope to be invoked, and is instead given: [[spoiler:''"Your Grace, My Lords and Ladies, Ladies and Gentlemen all, I give you Steadholder Harrington....''and damnation to the Peeps!''"'']]
* In Creator/JimButcher's ''Literature/TheDresdenFiles'' novel ''Literature/TurnCoat'', [[spoiler:Morgan]] is officially denied a MeaningfulFuneral as part of the coverup. They resort to an impromptu wake instead.
* [[Literature/GentlemanBastard Locke Lamora]] practices the Camorri tradition of "pouring a glass to air," setting out a drink for a friend who's gone--whether that means dead, or simply long absent.
* In Creator/RobertEHoward's "Literature/BeyondTheBlackRiver", Literature/ConanTheBarbarian and the sole survivor of the fort discuss the deaths at the end, particularly Valannus and Balthus.
* The first book of the Invasion cycle in the ''TabletopGame/MagicTheGathering'' books ends with this. The united forces of Dominaria have dealt a mighty defeat to the invading Phyrexians, and there's a massive celebration. But three men sit apart: Urza, [[spoiler:who lost longtime friend Barrin]], Gerrard, [[spoiler: who lost his love Hanna]], and Agnate, [[spoiler:who dealt a MercyKill to his "brother" and comrade Thaddeus]].
* In a few of his ''Literature/CallahansCrosstimeSaloon'' books, Jake and the gang deliver what they call the "All-Purpose Toast"; "Here's to all those who weren't as lucky."
* A toast is drunk to the deceased tenth Earl of Strathcairn in ''[[Literature/AuntDimity Aunt Dimity and the Deep Blue Sea]]''. The villagers have great respect for him, and [[spoiler: the digging of his grave unearthed the treasure that allowed to islanders to not only save their community, but also prosper there]].
* In ''Literature/HarryPotterAndTheDeathlyHallows'', the surviving members of the Order of the Phoenix drink a toast to Mad-Eye Moody when they hear that he was killed while moving Harry from Privet Drive to The Burrow.
* ''Series/NeverWipeTearsWithoutGloves'': Every year at Christmas the main characters toast to absent friends. They even say those exact words in English, even though the story takes place in Sweden.
* ''Franchise/{{Halo}}'':
** ''Literature/HaloGlasslands'' has an early scene where a pair of UNSC Marines travel to Sydney, Australia to have a drink in memory of a friend who died in the Covenant War. They find that the bar they'd planned to meet at took a direct hit during the fighting on Earth, and end up borrowing some booze from the construction workers clearing the debris.
** In ''Literature/HaloNewBlood'', Buck asks Jun to drink with him in memory of [[spoiler:the Rookie]].
* Lieutenant Harsmith, the main character of ''Literature/InvasionOfKzarch'', performs this ritual twice, once in memory of his lost platoon seargent, and another one later for all the men he had lost.
* ''Franchise/StarTrekNovelVerse'': Upon the return of the ''Enterprise'' from her 5-year mission, the crew begins to applaud Kirk. He stops it with the admonition, "Not for me. For those who didn't make it back with us," and leads the crew in a round of solemn applause.
* ''Literature/TheHungerGames'': [[spoiler:The book that Katniss, Peeta and Haymitch create at the end of ''Mockingjay''.]] Also the "We Remember" propo series.

[[folder:Live Action TV]]
* In one episode of ''Series/{{MASH}}'', Colonel Potter acts oddly. At the end, he reveals that he and some comrades had found some cognac in an abandoned French chateau during UsefulNotes/WorldWarI, saved the last bottle, and declared that the last survivor would drink a toast to the rest. Potter is now that last survivor, and invites the MASH staff to hear his story and share the bottle.
** In another episode, Potter believes his pet mare Sophie has run away for good. He pours a drink for Radar and himself, then offers up the trope-naming toast.
* ''Series/BattlestarGalactica2003'':
** This trope, like many others, is perfected to an art form. It's played quite frequently in the Viper rec room, especially. Apollo's retirement toast is an awesome example of the trope, involving five shots of a potent drink--quite possibly [[MilitaryMoonshiner eau de flight deck]].
--->'''Apollo:''' To ''Galactica''! ''[takes a first shot amidst cheers]''\\
To the men and women of ''Galactica''! ''[takes a second shot, amidst more cheers]''\\
To the Admiral... ''[murmurs of approval]'' who commands the men and women of ''Galactica''! ''[takes the third shot, to cheers of approval]''\\
To our sweethearts, husbands, and wives! ''[downs the fourth shot, amidst the cheers of the previous toast. He then waits for the room to settle before delivering the final toast]''\\
''[quietly]'' To absent friends. ''[the room respectfully falls silent]''
** There's a great one in the season two episode "Scar," where Starbuck (at the celebration of the new "top gun" pilot that unseated her) tries to toast all the deceased pilots by name/callsign. This one is especially moving given that she had earlier claimed that she didn't remember any of their names and didn't care to because they were dead and gone so who cares…
--->'''Starbuck:''' To BB, Jo-Jo, Reilly, Beano, Dipper, Flat Top, Chuckles, Jolly, Crashdown, Sheppard, Dash, Flyboy, Stepchild, Puppet, Fireball... ''[stops, crying]''\\
'''Apollo:''' To all of 'em.\\
'''Admiral Adama:''' So say we all.\\
'''Crew:''' So say we all.\\
'''Starbuck:''' So say we all.
* ''Series/NewsRadio'' had one of these episodes for Phil Hartman's character [[TheCharacterDiedWithHim after Phil's real-life death]]. Despite the attempts of the writers to inject some humor into the scene, it fell painfully flat, as the cast was barely holding it together.
* ''Series/SesameStreet''. While explaining Mr. Hooper's death, and what it means, to Big Bird, the adult characters share stories through tears about who he was and what he meant to them.
* ''Series/RescueMe'' does this fairly frequently (particularly the transition from DrowningMySorrows), especially with respect to the firemen lost on 9/11 (a recurring theme, if not the central one of the show).
* At the end of ''Series/{{Torchwood}}'' episode "Captain Jack Harkness", Jack and Tosh have a toast "To Captain Jack" in honor of the war hero whose identity Jack appropriated.
* In the final episode of ''Series/BabylonFive'' Sheridan invites his surviving friends to have [[DoesThisRemindYouOfAnything dinner with him one last time]]. He then invokes the trope by name, and they name absent friends to toast to. Garibaldi names G'Kar, Vir names Londo, Delenn names Lennier, and Dr. Franklin and Ivanova name Marcus.
* ''Series/TheWestWing'' episode "Requiem" combines this with the MeaningfulFuneral to provide a heartfelt (and TearJerker) send-off to Leo [=McGarry=] and, by extension, his actor Creator/JohnSpencer. Combined very effectively with the MeaningfulFuneral at the beginning of the episode; the funeral is presented so as to mourn Leo's death (and Spencer's), whereas the wake is about celebrating his life and how much his friends loved him.
* ''Series/StarTrekTheNextGeneration'': In "Relics", the ''Enterprise'' crew finds Scotty preserved in a transporter beam for over seventy years. As the events of the episode wear down on Scotty, he takes a private moment alone in a holodeck simulation of the original ''Enterprise'', where he toasts to his now-gone comrades.
-->'''Scotty:''' Here's to ye, lads.
** Picard then joins him and they share a toast, this time to absent ''ships''--the original ''Enterprise'' for Scotty, and the ''Stargazer'' (his first assignment as a captain) for Picard.
* ''Series/StarTrekDeepSpaceNine'':
** In the episode "The Sound of Her Voice", the crew of the ''Defiant'' holds a wake for [[spoiler:Lisa Cusak]], which ends with Miles O'Brien making a speech. Made even more moving by the fact that this is [[spoiler:the very end of the episode before Jadzia's death, arguably the first true main cast kill outside of the films.]]
--->'''O'Brien:''' The war changed us... pulled us apart... I want my friends in my life, because someday we're going to wake up and we're going to find that someone is missing from this circle. On that day, we're going to mourn, and we shouldn't have to mourn alone.
** Done more lightheartedly when Julian and O'Brien come off the holodeck dressed as Spitfire pilots, and raise a pint of bitter "To Clive!"
** "Strange Bedfellows" features a sarcastic one after Weyoun 7 is killed: Damar (who always hated him) toasts him when Weyoun 8 shows up, while making jokes about his death.
* The closing scene of "The Breaking Point" in ''Series/BandOfBrothers'' has Sgt. Lipton narrating while he and the rest of Easy Company are resting in a church. He begins listing off the casualties they suffered over the course of the Battle of the Bulge and the corresponding soldiers start fading away until the church looks ''far'' emptier than it did before. [[TearJerker It's a particularly heart-rending scene.]]
* ''Series/ThePacific'' does this as well in episode 3, with Basilone and Morgan ordering about a dozen different drinks and toasting their dead friend [[spoiler:Rodriguez]], and even getting into a fight with another patron who makes a tactless comment.
* ''Series/CSINewYork'' has done this twice, first for Aidan Burn near the end of the second season, and then for Jessica Angell at the end of the fifth season.
* In the finale for ''Series/SpaceAboveAndBeyond'', Wang gives one of these, listing every Wildcard to die during the show's run, as part of the BattleCry that he gives during his LastStand to [[HeroicSacrifice cover the escape of the ship carrying the rescued colonists]].
* The Freddie Frinton sketch ''Theatre/DinnerForOne'', which is shown every New Year's Eve on German, Austrian and Swiss TV.
* In ''Series/{{Angel}}'' season 5, when Cordelia returns, she and Angel watch Doyle's video and talk about him.
* The final scene of ''Series/UnsereMuetterUnsereVaeter'' has the three surviving friends raising a toast to the memories of [[spoiler: Friedhelm and Greta]].
* ''Series/NeverWipeTearsWithoutGloves'': Every year at Christmas the main characters toast to absent friends. They say those exact words in English, though the rest of the dialogue is in Swedish.
* In the TV miniseries version of ''Series/TheStand'' Nadine toasts "To new acquaintances," and Harold replies "And absent friends." It's just after the end of the world, so that description includes a lot of people.
* ''Series/PersonOfInterest''. At the end of "Provenance", Team Machine are sitting round a table having a drink. Reese pours an extra glass for [[spoiler:Joss Carter.]]

* CountryMusic has many tributes to American veterans; "The Eighth of November" describes the life of a SoleSurvivor from a horrific battle in UsefulNotes/TheVietnamWar. The last verse deals with [[ShellShockedVeteran themes of PTSD]] and describes the character's yearly ritual:
-->''He puts on a suit over his Airborne tatoo''
-->''And he ties it on one time a year''
-->''He remembers the fallen as he orders a tall one''
-->''And swallows it down with his tears...''
* Music/ElvisCostello alludes to this trope in his song "The Comedians" (Music/RoyOrbison's version [[CoveredUp might be better known]] for some):
--> ''And I'm up while the dawn is breaking''
--> ''Even though my heart is aching, I''
--> ''Should be drinking a toast to absent friends''
--> ''Instead of these comedians''
* Music/{{Opeth}} has a song titled "For Absent Friends".
* As do Music/{{Genesis}}, on their ''Nursery Cryme'' album. It is Music/PhilCollins' lead vocal debut with Genesis, on the first record he recorded with the band, five years before he became the band's full-time lead singer. The Opeth song is actually named after the Genesis song.
* "[[http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w6kAjM4fGTE Kak zdorovo]]" ("How great it is"; often referred to by its entire refrain--"How great it is that we have all gathered here today") by Oleg Mityaev is probably the most popular campfire song in the former USSR. Its third verse is a dedication to the memory of absent friends, perhaps deliberately invoking the third toast tradition mentioned in the Real Life section below.
* Music/{{Turisas}} – "One More"
* Music/{{Lunasa}} has a song called "Absent Friends," and it invokes the feeling of this trope rather well. It begins slowly and mournfully, as a gathering of friends remembering their fallen would be. Midway through, however, the tempo picks up notably, perhaps as a way of saying "Our absent friends wouldn't want us to mourn forever, so lets knock one back, for them!"
* Saxon, a Heavy Metal band, has a song named "To Absent Friends", written in honour of a deceased friend.
* UsefulNotes/NewZealand alt-rock band The Chills mentions a "vanished friend" in "I Love My Leather Jacket."
* "Sitting Up with the Dead" by Music/RayStevens is about a wake gone humorously awry.
* [[Music/WishYouWereHere "Shine On You Crazy Diamond" and "Wish You Were Here"]] are all about Creator/SydBarrett's absence and departure from Music/PinkFloyd, and how they miss him.

* Garrison Keillor describes one of these on his show, ''Radio/APrairieHomeCompanion''. The old coots go out for the opening day of duck hunting season. There they are in the blind, and they have a toast for fallen comrades. The guy only gets a few names into the list before he breaks down. The unspoken sentiment is that there are now so many names, and it'd be disrespectful to forget any, so maybe it's time to give up on listing them all.

* The meal scene in ''Theatre/JourneysEnd'' after [[spoiler:Osbourne dies]]. Possibly a subversion in that they're trying to forget about it rather than remember him.
* The songs "Drink With Me" and "Empty Chairs at Empty Tables" in ''Theatre/LesMiserables'' fall into this trope. In the first, the students at the barricade are toasting each other's impending fate the night before the penultimate battle; in the second, Marius is reminiscing about those who fell at the barricade.
* In Shakespeare's ''Theatre/{{Macbeth}}'', this trope is subverted as in ''Film/TheRockyHorrorPictureShow''. Macbeth proposes a toast to everyone's "general joy" and "to our dear friend Banquo, whom we miss; Would he were here!" Unbeknownst to the guests, Banquo has been murdered and his ghost has returned to haunt Macbeth.
* Referenced by the revolutionary soldiers in ''Theatre/{{Hamilton}}'': "We're gonna fly a lot of flags half-mast (Raise a glass!)"
** And then the DarkReprise of "The Story of Tonight", "Tomorrow There'll Be More Of Us", is [[spoiler:John Laurens]] doing this to himself as the Hamiltons read the letter containing the news of his death.
** The beginning of the finale, "Who Lives, Who Dies, Who Tells Your Story" is this for [[spoiler:Hamilton]], as Jefferson and Madison list his accomplishments. It quickly expands into the other fallen members of the cast as Eliza tells how she plans to honor Hamilton's legacy: recording the stories of revolutionary soldiers (upon which Laurens and Mulligan reappear), she commissions the Washington monument to honor George Washington (who is also dead by this point), she fights for abolition (carrying on the work of Hamilton and Laurens), and she founds an orphanage for orphans like Hamilton himself.
* The song "Alabanza" for [[spoiler:Abuela Claudia]] in ''Theatre/InTheHeights''. Just after Kevin begins spreading the news that she has passed, Usnavi, still reeling, delivers the coroner's report and an impromptu eulogy to the others in the barrio. They then join in raising her memory to God (because, as Usnavi points out, alabanza, her favorite word, means "to raise this thing to God's face"). It's very much a TearJerker moment.

[[folder:Video Games]]
* At the end of ''[[VideoGame/JakAndDaxter Jak II]]'', Samos toasts to the members of the Underground who died in order to help save the city.
* Both named and unnamed characters will participate in a small but significant battle in ''VideoGame/DragonAgeOrigins''. The cut scene which follows will vary according to which named characters fell in the battle.
* After the quest "All that Remains" [[spoiler:in which Leandra dies]] in ''VideoGame/DragonAgeII'', Aveline will ask how Hawke is feeling in her office. After recounting how her own father died, Aveline will offer a drink to Hawke. Hawke can propose a toast to those they have lost.
* In ''VideoGame/DragonAgeInquisition'', Varric and the Inquisitor will do this after the end of the Grey Warden arc, though it's played the most straight if [[spoiler:Hawke was the one killed, with a devastated Varric recounting an amusing story reflecting that Hawke's personality]]--[[HeartbrokenBadass all while trying to hold himself together]].
* ''Franchise/MassEffect'':
** Commander Shepard can do this in ''VideoGame/MassEffect2'' when drinking with Doctor Chakwas.
** In ''VideoGame/MassEffect3,'' several characters do this as the body count climbs.
** Tali actually gets [[DrowningMySorrows plastered]] while mourning [[spoiler:Miranda]], if the latter doesn't survive [[spoiler:Sanctuary]]. This happens even if she does survive, in which case Tali drowns her sorrows regarding their different sorts of DaddyIssues. (Dialog suggests this is the real reason even if the other is dead; toasting her was just something Tali thought of while highly drunk. They weren't on the best of terms.)
* The ending cinematic for ''VideoGame/LegendOfDragoon'' shows Dart placing a mug next to a picture of Lavitz.
* Some [=NPCs=] in ''VideoGame/{{STALKER}}'' will occasionally be heard toasting fallen comrades.
-->'''NPC:''' Let's drink to him once more, he was a good stalker.
* Used in ''VideoGame/FinalFantasyV''. The music track playing in the following scene after the final battle, regardless of any deaths or who survived, is called "Dear Friends." "To My Dearest Friend" is a fan translation of the song, and what helps it fit. [[spoiler: Subverted at the end, though, as the dead princesses and Bartz all come back to life. Galuf remains dead, though.]]

[[folder:Western Animation]]
* Seen on the ''WesternAnimation/JusticeLeague'' animated series, "Hereafter", when [[spoiler:Superman apparently]] dies. After the MeaningfulFuneral, the League gathers on the Watchtower, laughing and drinking, uh, [[FrothyMugsOfWater orange juice]], while wearing black armbands and sharing stories. [[RandomEventsPlot Then Lobo shows up.]]
* ''WesternAnimation/{{Futurama}}'': "Leela, we may not have much time left, so let's spend all of it reminiscing about Bender. He was like a big computer that ran on magic."
* Snap and Crackle on ''WesternAnimation/FamilyGuy'' toast Pop, who fell in the [[ItMakesSenseInContext Keebler Elves attack.]]
* Used twice in ''WesternAnimation/YoungJustice'' in the wake of [[spoiler: Artemis's]] "death." Many of the male members of the Team find themselves at a tribute for fallen heroes, including the first Blue Beetle, Aquagirl, and the second Robin. Meanwhile, the female members go to a bridal shower, which becomes bitter-sweet due to the empty seat. They even toast "To absent friends!"

[[folder:Real Life]]
* "To Absent Friends" [[http://www.history.navy.mil/library/special/mess_night.htm is a real toast offered at military banquets.]] In particular, it is the traditional toast for Sunday night in Commonwealth navies. At some banquets, it is illustrated literally by [[http://usmilitary.about.com/od/airforce/a/powmiatable.htm having an empty table set aside and specially decorated in memory of POW/MIA's.]]
* At least one Golden Corral restaurant keeps one small table always decorated in the military tradition, with an explanation posted of each symbolic part of the table. It's touching and refreshing, oddly, all at once, to see such a memorial setting put out in the eye of the general public.
* In Russia, the obligatory third toast, as long as the company drinking contains at least a substantial minority of Army or Air Force men, both active and retired. The naval version has this as the second toast; the third one is for those who are at sea, so the toasters don't know whether they are alive or dead.
* In Santa Rosa, at the Charles Schultz Museum [[http://www.schulzmuseum.org]] there is a table still set for him at the adjacent Warm Puppy cafe. People are welcome to sit there, and share his favorite space.
* Almost all Roleplayers start the first session after a player dies (not a character, a player) with the phrase "To absent friends; let the adventure continue."
* There is a set of eighty silver goblets that have been reserved for this purpose. Upon each of them is engraved the name of one of the men who flew on the Doolittle Bombing Raid of 1942. With it is a bottle of 1896 (The year of James Doolittle's birth) brandy. This bottle was intended to be opened by the last two survivors of that mission to toast those that have gone before them. With only four men left, all of whom are in their mid-nineties and in failing health, they decided to open the bottle together in 2013.
* From the seldom-heard bridge of the United States Air Force Song:
-->''Here's a toast to the host\\
Of those who love the vastness of the sky.\\
To a friend we send a message of his brother men who fly.\\
We drink to those who gave their all of old''...

* Subverted in an old joke about an Irishman (or other stereotypical hard drinker) who goes to a bar every week and orders a round of three drinks--one for himself and two for his brothers, who are alive but live far away. Each brother does this as a sort of long-distance show of kinship. One day he shows up and orders only two drinks--the bartender, fearing the worst, offers his sympathies but it turns out one of the brothers had just given up drinking.
** In some versions it was ''him'' who decided to quit drinking.
*** Another version has his wife decide for him that he will quit drinking: but she neglects to tell his brother's to quit drinking as well.