->''I am stretched on your grave and will lie there forever''\\
''If your hands were in mine, I'd be sure we'd not sever''\\
''Oh, the priests and the friars approach me in dread''\\
''For I love you still, my wife, and you're dead''
-->-- ''Táim shínte ar do h'uaighh'' (traditional Irish poem)

Bob once loved Alice. How far this relationship went, whether Alice knew how Bob felt, how happy a couple they actually were (if they were a couple) are all unimportant.

Alice dies. (Or gets married to someone else, although this isn't as common a version as it used to be.) The point is that the relationship between Bob and Alice, or the possibility of a relationship between Bob and Alice, is over.

Bob will never get over it, will never find a new girl no matter who shows up. Alice was the one for him, and if anyone says he "loved" Alice, he will waste no time correcting their tenses.

Often used as a CynicismCatalyst. Done poorly, can result in StalkerWithACrush tendencies. This old love may not hold up if a ManicPixieDreamGirl appears.

Often invoked in IWillWaitForYou to confirm that the love really is that steadfast.

Inverse of SecondLove. Contrast YouHaveWaitedLongEnough, AbsenceMakesTheHeartGoYonder. Not to be confused with TheMurderAfter.


[[folder: Anime and Manga]]
* Sesshomaru does this for Kagura in ''[[InuYasha Inuyasha]]'' - while he does not ''cry'', he becomes so infuriated when Moryoumaru insults Kagura that he attacks him viciously and breaks his sword [[EvilWeapon Tokijin]] with the force of the blow, putting his own life in danger in the process. More notably, afterwards [[HealingShiv Tenseiga]] transforms into a fighting weapon because of Sesshomaru's feelings for Kagura. When he receives the finished sword, he thinks of her again and accepts it because "whether her death was in vain or not is for ''me'' to decide".
* Part of the primary concept of the manga ''[[{{Bokura Ga Ita}} We Were There]]'', although the relationship between Yano and his dead girlfriend Nana was more complex than it first appears.
* In ''MaisonIkkoku'', a major problem preventing Godai (and the other suitors) from pursuing Kyoko is that Kyoko feels this way about her first husband.
* A darker version in ''Anime/NeonGenesisEvangelion'', Gendo Ikari is quite willing to commit planetary genocide in order to reunite himself with his dead wife.
** In fact, in ''Manga/NeonGenesisEvangelionCampusApocalypse'', ''all alternate universes'' are in peril thanks to original flavor Gendo.
* In ''TengenToppaGurrenLagann'' [[spoiler: Simon]] vows to never forget his late wife, [[spoiler:Nia]], and in Lagann-hen he spends the rest of his life WalkingTheEarth in order to fulfill her last wish to make the world bloom with flowers.
** [[spoiler:Yoko]] also goes through this with [[spoiler:Kamina]]. With the possible exception of forgiving [[spoiler:Kittan]] for stealing a LastKiss from her and tenderly hugging him goodbye just before his HeroicSacrifice, she neither loved another man after [[spoiler:Kamina]]'s death, nor stopped loving him.
* In one ''RanmaOneHalf'' {{manga}} arc Soun Tendo, in one of the few times that he is allowed to show any depth of character, is revealed to be deeply devoted to his dead wife.
* In ''RumblingHearts'' when a character goes into a coma. They don't show the mourning until after they showed him fully recover, though...
* Neviril from ''{{Simoun}}'' is a victim of this after her lover Amuria dies, which plays a big role in her refusal to pilot a Simoun with Aeru (aside from the fact that Aeru is also quite pushy). In the DistantFinale, it's revealed that this also happened to [[spoiler:Rodoreamon, with regards to Mamiina]].
* In ''TwinSpica'', Asumi's teacher Yuuko is like that after her boyfriend Takano dies aboard the exploding rocket which also caused the death of Asumi's mother. After several years of mourning she decides to go on [[spoiler: and then finds someone else to marry pretty quickly]]. Sadly she never realized that all this time Takano had been roaming the town as a ghost named "Lion-san."
* ''FiveCentimetersPerSecond'' combines this with UnluckyChildhoodFriend, [[TearJerker to heartbreaking effect]].
* Van of ''GunXSword'' is still "head over heels in love" with his murdered fiancee, Elena, three years after her death, and isn't interested in other women. However, [[spoiler: the final episode hints that he may be moving on to SecondLove]].
* Mashiro's Uncle in ''Manga/{{Bakuman}}'' is this for a girl he fell in love with during his school years.
** In his case, while his correspondence with her never got any further than that due to [[CannotSpitItOut their inability to tell each other how they felt]], he believes that he got this far because she served as his inspiration, as he hoped to become a success before telling her how he felt, and he believes (correctly, as it turns out) that she's still watching him.
* ''LightNovel/StrawberryPanic'': How [[OneeSama Shizuma]] lives after Kaori dies.
* Fujitaka in ''Manga/CardcaptorSakura'', who never stops loving his dead wife Nadeshiko.
* This mixed with LoveMakesYouEvil is the driving force behind [[spoiler: Kaname Tousen]]'s motives in Manga/{{Bleach}}.
* After [[spoiler: Rei Asaka]]'s death in ''OniisamaE'', everyone grieves her intensely. In regards to her {{Love Interest}}s, [[spoiler: Nanako]] spends at least two episodes in an HeroicBSOD and her POV is constantly tinted with sadness afterwards, whereas [[spoiler: Fukiko]] decides to never ever fall in love again, half due to this and half due to [[spoiler: her crush Takehiko getting back together with his girlfriend, Rei's best friend Kaoru.]]
* A mild example from ''TigerAndBunny''. Even years after his beloved wife Tomoe's death, Kotetsu still wears his wedding ring and is [[ObliviousToLove completely unaware that one of his female teammates has an enormous crush on him]]. He also keeps a portrait of Tomoe, which he occasionally confides in and visits her grave whenever he can.
* In ''Manga/{{Claudine}}'', [[spoiler:Rosemarie never stopped loving and caring for Claudine after his death and the last few panels of the manga shows her visiting his grave in the snow.]]
* In ''ShiroiHeyaNoFutari'', after [[spoiler: Simone perishes at the hand of her CrazyJealousGuy]], [[spoiler: Resine takes the decision to not fall in love ever for as long as she lives.]]
* Watanuki of ''{{xxxHOLiC}}'' does ''not'' react well to [[spoiler: Yuuko's]] death. It hits him so hard that his personality drastically changes, with him going so far as to incorporate some of her quirks and habits into his own character, and basically just clinging onto whatever he can of her. The last chapter released indicates he's still not willing to let go, [[spoiler: even after 100 years have passed]].
* King Neptune in ''OnePiece'' is apparently this to his late wife Otohime. In a scene, he believes that Robin is hitting on him and refuses her (non-existing) approaches by saying that he will still be loyal to his wife. That scene is mostly played for comedy, but the point still stands.
* In ''Manga/{{Naruto}}'', [[spoiler:Obito's love for [[TheLostLenore his childhood crush Rin]] led him to become '''''[[BigBad Tobi]]''''' and participate in an AssimilationPlot that would put the entire world under an illusion and essentially allow him to see her again, despite the fact that she has already passed on to the afterlife. [[IRejectYourReality He's literally rejecting reality and substituting it with his own just so he can see his dead crush.]]]]

[[folder: Comic Books]]
* Elongated Man's wife dies in ''[[TheDCU Identity Crisis]]'', and he spends the rest of his [[spoiler:rather short]] life mourning her.
* Many superheroes have this as their [[WomenInRefrigerators defining tragedy]]. ThePunisher never gets over the murder of his wife and children (no matter how many criminals he kills). GreenLantern John Stewart claims he'll never fall in love again after the death of his wife Katma Tui. Etc.
* While Scott Summers isn't quite [[SingleTargetSexuality Jeansexual]], he's come close at times. And as ''All New X-Men'' aptly demonstrates, he never got over her, either - though, mercifully, he doesn't try to mack on Teen!Jean, even when she starts subtly hitting on him, gently but firmly telling her that it's not going to happen.

[[folder: Fanfic]]
* In ''Fanfic/{{Snowmaiden}}'', the elvish lover of the titular human maiden mourns her after she dies [[spoiler: of old age]], as is standard for Tolkien's elves, but takes it UpToEleven by refusing to return to his people, instead roaming the places where he was happy with her. [[spoiler: He eventually meets someone else, who may, or may not, be his true love reborn]]
* Unlike most superhero based stories, ''Fanfic/ChildOfTheStorm'' actually averts this. Thor, once he regains his memories, does grieve for Lily, does miss her and quite clearly a large part of him still loves her. That said, he's still in love with Jane and has made peace with the fact that Lily's dead and gone. [[spoiler: This is rather complicated by the persistent hints that she's neither dead, nor gone]].

[[folder: Film]]
* In the UsefulNotes/{{Bollywood}} movie ''Mohabbatein'' the hero's girlfriend [[spoiler: killed herself because they couldn't be together. A decade later, the hero is still in love with her and can "see" her whenever he closes his eyes...]]
* RobinWilliams' character Sean from ''{{Good Will Hunting}}''.
-->'''Sean:''' Maybe ''you're'' perfect right now. Maybe you don't wanna ruin that. I think that's a super philosophy, Will; that way you can go through your entire life without ever having to really know anybody...
-->'''Will:''' ...You ever think about gettin' remarried?
-->'''Sean:''' My wife's dead.
-->'''Will:''' Hence the word: remarried.
-->'''Sean:''' She's dead.
-->'''Will:''' Yeah; well, I think that's a super philosophy, Sean. I mean, that way you could actually go through the rest of your life without ever really knowing anybody.
-->'''Sean:''' Time's up.
* A major character point for Carl in ''WesternAnimation/{{Up}}''.
* [[spoiler:Malcolm's wife]] in ''Film/TheSixthSense'', [[spoiler:though this is MistakenForCheating for much of the movie until we learn that Malcolm was DeadAllAlong.]]
* A major character point for Rocky in ''RockyBalboa''. With characteristic eloquence, Sylvester Stallone says of Adrian:
--> "Yeah my wife's gone. But she ain't, you know, gone."
* In ''WhatAGirlWants'', Daphne tells her father that her mother never dated anyone else after they broke up. Daphne is eighteen years old, and her parents broke up before she was born.
* Alexandre is like this in ''Film/TellNoOne''; eight years after his wife Margot was murdered, he still hasn't moved on. [[spoiler:Except she's still alive]].
* Noriko in ''Film/TokyoStory'' is doing this for her husband, who was killed in UsefulNotes/WorldWarII eight years previously. Although, as she confesses to her father-in-law Shūkichi when he urges her to remarry, it isn't quite that simple. In fact, she feels terrible loneliness, but is racked with guilt about her desires to move on after her husband's death.
* Merecedes in Count of Monte Cristo still has her string engagement ring when she confronts Edmund Dantes later in the story,who was thought to have died but was sent to the {{Hellhole Prison}} of the story.

[[folder: Literature]]
* Tywin Lannister from ''ASongOfIceAndFire'' is hardened by his wife Joanna's death to the extent that he never smiles again, and treats Tyrion (whose birth caused Joanna's death) like absolute shit.
** Also King Robert Baratheon, who never stopped loving Lyanna. Even when he married Tywin's daughter Cersei, he called her "Lyanna" in bed on their wedding night. Unsurprisingly this caused a lot tension between them.
** Ser Loras Tyrell, following [[spoiler: King Renly Baratheon's death]]. "When the sun has set, no candle can replace it." [[CrapsackWorld Tough all over, innit]]?
** All of them are trumped by Petyr "Littlefinger" Baelish whose [[UnluckyChildhoodFriend years-long, unrequited love for Catelyn Stark]] has caused him to take the {{Yandere}} trope UpToEleven.
* In the ChivalricRomance ''Floris and Blanchefleur'', Floris is told that Blanchefleur is dead; it grieves him but does not shake his love.
* ''Literature/SherlockHolmes'': [[spoiler: Invoked by the villain of the "A Case of Identity" story. He disguises himself and dates his stepdaughter so that she would fall in love with him. On their wedding day, the villain has his fake persona disappear so that she would be devastated and never be able to love another man again. Without the chance of her marrying anyone and moving out, he can continue leeching off the stepdaughter's income and inheritance.]]
* Pretty much Dante Alighieri's whole body of work but especially the ''DivineComedy'' is built around one of these. Not {{Truth in Television}} only because he seems to have confined it to his literary side.
* Clive Cussler's ''[[NUMASeries The Mediterranean Caper]]''. Teri von Till feels this way about her long-dead husband, to the point of depression. Dirk Pitt tries to convince her to move on with her life.
* In MercedesLackey's ''HeraldsOfValdemar'' series (and other series set in the same universe), lifebonds are like this.
** In her Literature/ElementalMasters series, Richard Whitestone in ''Unnatural Issue'' does not take his wife's DeathByChildbirth well, refuses to set eyes on his daughter, and turns to necromancy.
* In the Literature/LiadenUniverse series by Sharon Lee and Steve Miller, Liaden lifemate marriages do not provide for divorce nor allow remarriage, even after a spouse's death. And ''true'' [[MindlinkMates lifemating]] can often lead to the nondeceased soon following the deceased party into death.
* In the {{Deryni}} novels, Kelson puts off the thought remarrying for a couple of years or so after Sidana [[spoiler: is slaughtered at the altar by her brother]], and procrastinates a further two or three years after Rothana refuses him [[spoiler: after Conall's execution]]. In this interim, Kelson is [[IWantGrandkids pressured by his mother]] and his courtiers to provide for the succession. Rothana finally picks out another woman to marry him (his cousin Araxie Haldane) and persuades each of them that their marriage would be for the best.
* ''TheTimeTravelersWife''. [[spoiler:Clare never gets over Henry, doesn't remarry, just waits around to see him one last time when she's 80]].
** Henry's father goes to pieces after the death of his mother and drinks himself to infirmity.
* In the Franchise/StarWarsExpandedUniverse, there was the Medstar Duology by Michael Reaves and Steve Perry, a pair of books taking place during the Clone Wars and featuring several just-off-the-battlefield surgeons and a Jedi healer, among others. The Jedi healer made friends with several other mains, and died not more than a few years after those books. Twenty in-universe years later on the Death Star (in a novel called ''Literature/DeathStar''), it turns out that one of those surgeons, having been [[ResignationsNotAccepted coerced into continuous service]] is still around and was very attached to that Jedi. He does state that he doesn't know if it was love or not, but he thinks of her often, particularly when trying to navigate ethical dilemmas.
** This is also how General Grievous gets his name; his [[BattleCouple co-general]] was killed during a battle.
* In ''Literature/{{Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows}}'', it turns out [[spoiler:Severus Snape]] was [[spoiler:Lily Evans]]'s UnluckyChildhoodFriend, and the guilt and grief he felt over her death ([[spoiler: which he partially ''caused'', during his time as a Death Eater]]) motivated him for the rest of his life.
* Craetor/LemonySnicket's ''Literature/ASeriesOfUnfortunateEvents'': Lemony and [[spoiler: the first]] Beatrice.
* Nicolas Spark's ''A Walk to Remember'' IS this trope. [[spoiler:Landon and Jamie fall in love and get married at age 17 because Jamie's dying of incurable leukemia. Decades and decades later, Landon has not considered anybody else, once, and has not taken off his wedding ring.]]
* Though he never treated her all that well when he was alive, Amelia in ''Literature/VanityFair'' mourns her dead husband George for years, ignoring the feelings of another suitor and eventually driving him away. It isn't until Becky tells her that George had been planning to run away with her (Becky, that is) just before he died that Amelia finally gets over him.
* Aegnor and Andreth in Creator/JRRTolkien's Middle-earth mythos. Aegnor, an elf, and Andreth, a mortal woman, fell in love, but Aegnor pretended not to return her affections because he believed love between elf and mortal could not work out. Andreth was bitter over this, until Aegnor's brother Finrod revealed to her that Aegnor had vowed that he would never marry because he could never love anyone else. This continues even in death, as Aegnor refuses to leave the Halls of Mandos (kind of an Elvish purgatory) and be re-embodied in Valinor because he doesn't want to live in a world that doesn't have Andreth in it.
** Another example from ''Literature/TheSilmarillion'' manages to both play this straight ''and'' avert it: In the tale of Beren and Lúthien as a mortal Man and Elf princess, there were already severe complications to their relationship. Eventually, Beren is slain by the great wolf Carcharoth, and Lúthien out of love for him dies from grief. Unfortunately, because the souls of Men aren't allowed to remain in Valinor and are forced to pass beyond the circles of the world, and Elves are forced to remain and can't pass to wherever it is Men go, the lovers are faced with being eternally separated ''again'' in the afterlife, at which point Lúthien out of love sings a lament over their fates, the suffering of Men and Elves at Morgoth's hands, and the prospect of spending an eternity without her love. This gets averted when ''[[CrowningMomentOfAwesome her song moves the unmovable Mandos to pity]]'', and he [[CrowningMomentOfHeartwarming personally pleads their case to Manwë]]. Beren and Lúthien are allowed to return to Middle-earth to live out their lives together as mortals, and when they finally die their second deaths, pass from the world along with the rest of the race of Man.
** Thingol's wife Melian (a Maia spirit) is so heartbroken by his death, that she departs the world never to return after her husband is slain by dwarves over the ''silmaril'', dooming Doriath to eventual conquest. Turgon's wife perishes crossing into Middle-earth from Valinor, and he mourns her the rest of his life. Húrin and Morwen are separated for decades, and Morwen never gives up her torch for Húrin, reuniting only in time for Morwen to pass away. Denethor loses his wife giving birth to Faramir, which [[TheUnfavorite sours their relationship in later life]], and the Steward continues to mourn her until his own death. Théoden never remarries following the death of his wife birthing their son, Théodred. Let's face it, Tolkien's works are ''filled'' with spouses who mourn their lost loves for the rest of their lives. It would probably be easier to list examples in which this ''doesn't'' happen.
* A [[TearJerker really tragic example]] (though without a death) is John Eames and Lily Dale from Anthony Trollope's Barsetshire novels. She falls in love with a cad who abandons her so he can marry a rich girl. She decides to remain perpetually single, and Eames, who loves her, ''also'' remains single for her sake.
* In the novel ''Back to the Moon'', Jack is hesitant in his budding relationship with Penny because he is still mourning his dead wife Kate. In fact, his entire reason for doing ''anything'' in the story is out of loyalty/guilt over what happened to Kate.
* In Creator/CharlesDickens's ''Literature/GreatExpectations'', Miss Havisham became a hermit in her own home after being [[RunawayBride betrayed and jilted by]] [[spoiler:Compeyson]], remaining dressed in her wedding dress with the clocks stopped at the time she was betrayed, and the rotten wedding feast in place.
* Heathcliff for Cathy in ''Literature/WutheringHeights'', to the point where he even digs up her body ''YEARS after the fact''.
* In ''ShadowsOfTheApt'', Tisamon. Even though he thought she betrayed all of them. [[spoiler:Some time after he learns they had a child -- once he calmed down -- he gives her a sword he had intended for her mother and had been carrying around for seventeen years.]]
* In L. Jagi Lamplighter's ''Literature/ProsperosDaughter'', Eramus is still in mourning for his first wife. [[spoiler:So much that when she [[ReincarnationRomance came back]], he kept rejecting her. Cruelly.]]
* In the novels, part of the reason why Literature/JamesBond's GirlOfTheWeek relationships last so briefly is that one woman he truly loved (in ''Literature/CasinoRoyale'') - Vesper Lynd - was a traitor, who proceeded to kill herself. When he opened up to Tracy Vincenzo in ''Literature/OnHerMajestysSecretService'', the CartwrightCurse struck, turning him into a total wreck.
* In ''Literature/WarriorCats'', Fireheart has a crush on Spottedleaf. The two never talked about having a relationship while she was alive, but after she dies, he mourns her for a long time. Whenever he sees her in his dreams, it's mentioned that he always feels the pain of her death as if she's just died. It's only after seasons later, when other cats tell him to open his eyes up to the present - and Spottedleaf herself visits him in his dreams and gives her blessing for him to have another relationship - that he falls in love with Sandstorm.
** This also happens to Graystripe and Silverstream. After she rescues him from drowning, Silverstream and Graystripe start to sneak off to see each other, and fall in love. Silverstream later dies [[DeathByChildbirth giving birth]] to his kits. Graystripe never really gets over this, even when he got a new mate, Millie, he admits that he's still in love with Silverstream, and that he dreams about her frequently; and wishes that he didn't have to wake up from those dreams.
* In ''Literature/TheHungerGames'', Katniss's mother goes into a near-catatonic depression after the death of Katniss's father, leaving Katniss to support the family. Even when the mother becomes functional again, she never really gets over his death.
* In Literature/CloudAtlas, it's implied that Sixsmith lived forty-five more years, but never loved again after Frobisher. Ouch.
* In the Literature/{{Honorverse}}, President Eloise Pritchart essentially goes into emotional shutdown after losing the love of her life, [[spoiler:Admiral Javier Giscard]], in battle. Though she continues to function both as a President and as a human being, she never really recovers; she clings to her NotLoveInterest Thomas Theisman in the wake of losing him -- and that relationship may yet go romantic -- but the narration makes it painfully clear that she will never be the same and that [[spoiler:Javier]] was the one great love of her life. She may yet fall in love again, but she will always love [[spoiler:Javier]] first.

[[folder: Live Action TV]]
* ''Series/HerculesTheLegendaryJourneys''. Hercules felt this way about his wife, who had been murdered by Hera. In one episode he politely turned down the proposition of a band of Amazons, saying he was still in love with his wife.
* In ''NewTricks'', Jack is still very much in love with his wife who died 9 years ago, and when asked about a [[GirlOfTheWeek woman]] who was showing an interest in him, simply replied "I'm married."
* ''{{Monk}}'' is still married. His wife is dead, but he's still married. Absolutely.
** So is Patrick Jane of ''TheMentalist''.
*** Though in Jane's case, it's worth noting that there ''have'' been other women whom he's met after his wife that he's shown to have feelings for. [[spoiler: Sadly, none of these have gone well so far.]]
* This is implied for [[spoiler: William Adama]] after [[spoiler: Laura Roslin]] died in the ''Series/{{Battlestar Galactica|Reimagined}}'' finale.
* The father in the TV version of ''Series/TenThingsIHateAboutYou'' continues to wear his wedding ring after he is widowed, and claims to be married when a woman flirts with him. (Though he does later go on an enjoyable date with this woman.)
* ''Series/BabylonFive'':
** From the series finale: "Every morning for as long as she lived, Delenn got up before dawn and watched the sun come up." Note that she outlived her husband by at least eighty years.
** Susan for Marcus: After he dies to save her life, she leaves Babylon 5, never falls in love again and doesn't mention his name until the series finale...''twenty years'' later. It's especially tragic as she never admitted she loved him while he was alive.
*** It's actually unclear whether this is for Marcus or for Talia, who Susan was previously heavily implied to have slept with, and who she later confessed to love. Of course since Talia was [[spoiler:basically killed by the Psi Corps,]] the end result is the same. In which case, she's regretting rebuffing Marcus because of Talia, making this a double dose of Mourning After. Oh, Ivanova. All love is unrequited.
** Lennier seems to have this reaction to Delenn and Sheridan's marriage. After swearing himself to Delenn's side as her trusted aide, he begins to fall in love with her, believing that his is a "pure, perfect love" but that she is "fated for another". As this admission occurs right as Sheridan and Delenn's relationship is starting to blossom, it is implied that Sheridan is this "other", though he confronts neither Sheridan nor Delenn openly about it. Outwardly, he accepts their relationship, and claims to accept it in his heart, but ultimately his jealousy towards Sheridan grows stronger and leads to Lennier's unfortunate downfall. He separates himself from both of them and seemingly never moves on from the heartbreak.
* On ''Series/{{ER}}'', we never see Elizabeth Corday show a hint of interest in anyone else after Mark Greene dies.
-->'''Elizabeth:''' I'm not afraid of being with him - I'm afraid of being ''without'' him.
* In the ''Series/DoctorWho'' episode "The [[Recap/DoctorWhoS32E1TheImpossibleAstronaut Impossible Astronaut]]", River Song says that her worst fear is having to do this after the Doctor no longer knows her (because of the TimeyWimeyBall their relationship is happening roughly in reverse for each of them, she knows the Doctor more after each visit, but he knows her less because she's meeting him earlier in his timeline). This makes her first(last?) appearance and HeroicSacrifice in "[[http://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Recap/DoctorWhoNSS4E9ForestOfTheDead Forest of the Dead]]" all the more poignant.
* ''ThatMitchellAndWebbLook'' manages to invert this with a man who's constantly brooding on what his second wife is going to be like, much to the distress of his current wife.
** Another has a 'life insurance' policy that offers to replace your dead spouse with a beautiful young immigrant who will behave impeccably sweetly out of gratitude for their nice new life
* ''Series/PersonOfInterest'': Harold still is Grace's fiance, his "death" in 2010 notwithstanding, and she has trouble referring to him in past tense.
* On ''Series/HowIMetYourMother'' [[spoiler: this is the reason that the titular mother waited for Ted, her first love Max died on her 21st birthday and she spent the next eight years morning his death. It wasn't until she met Ted that she really got over it. While she had a boyfriend in between, she still hadn't got over it.]]
* ''{{NCIS}}'': Gibbs has undying feelings for his late wife and daughter. Although he has made several attempts to start anew, his romantic relationships since have always fallen apart, some of them after he married and then divorced the woman.
* In ''Series/BlessMeFather'', Mrs Pring married her husband whom she had two weeks together with. He then went off to fight in World War I in which he was killed. The two weeks were enough to father a daughter with her. Mrs Pring has remained loyal to her husband in the forty years since, never remarrying.

[[folder: Music]]
* A lot of {{Kamelot}} songs are about this trope, for instance the album Epica features a love story which ends with the subject of the singer's love songs early in the album committing suicide, and the singer/main character of the songs goes into a deep mourning, which even spills over into their next album.
** Worth noting that one of their songs is even ''titled'' "The Mourning After."
* {{Ludo}}'s Broken Bride album is all about this.
* Fairly common in folk music, both classical and neo. There's "The Resurrected Lover," "Lover's Last Chance," "The Long Black Veil," "Steer By The Stars," "When I Sing About You"...
* "He Stopped Loving Her Today," possibly the greatest CountryMusic song ever, was about a man pining after his lost love [[spoiler:until he dies]].
* "Baby's In Black" by Music/TheBeatles. [[spoiler:possibly written about pre-fame member, the late Stu Sutcliffe's mourning girlfriend in Germany, Astrid Kircherr.]]
* Project Pitchfork's appropriately named "Lament".
* The Burning Hell's "Grave Situation, Part 2" seems to be about this, from the perspective of the dead guy.
* AbneyPark's "Stretched on Your Grave" is, word for word, the poem that serves as the page quote.
* "Final Breath", a ''VideoGame/{{Touhou}}'' Eurobeat remix by Odyssey:
-->If I told you I loved you, would you still have survived?
-->Every day gone without you is tearing like a knife
-->As a mortal, I dance on the precipice of death
-->Till the day we're united, I draw my final breath

[[folder: Theater]]
* ''Theatre/SweeneyToddTheDemonBarberOfFleetStreet'' has a particularly tragic case of this in that [[spoiler:the lady in question isn't actually dead -- and by the time he finally figures this out, he's already killed her due to having no time before the Judge, who he wants revenge against, comes back into his shop]].
* Creator/{{Euripides}}' ''Theatre/{{Alcestis}}''.
* A case where the love interest doesn't die, but leaves and [[BreakTheCutie irreparably damages]] the character: Kathy in the ''Vanities'' musical, as told in "[[http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yq4PxWB3OfA Cute Boys with Short Haircuts]]", loses her BF after he knocks up another girl and [[ShotgunWedding ends up marrying that one]], thus derailing all her future plans. By the third act she is a BrokenBird [[{{Hikikomori}} holed up]] in an unknown friend's Manhattan apartment.
* It's briefly mentioned in ''Theatre/TwoGentlemenOfVerona'' that Eglamour swore perpetual chastity after the woman he loved died.
* In ''Theatre/TheRoseTattoo'', Serafina treasures the memory of her late husband of twelve years as "the ''first'' best, the ''only'' best." She jealously keeps watch over his ashes (which she keeps in defiance of Catholic doctrine) and is proud to say that he was "never touched by the hand of ''nobody''" except her, which is unfortunately untrue.

[[folder: Video Games]]
* [[spoiler:Aribeth]] in NeverwinterNights is driven insane by this trope and becomes extremely susceptible to mind control.
** [[MoreThanMindControl More 'influenced'.]]
* If you pursue the RomanceSidequest in ''VideoGame/DragonAgeOrigins'' and [[PlotlineDeath die in the end game]], the epilogue reveals that all your potential LoveInterests have an extremely hard time getting over you, but [[LadykillerInLove Zevran]] in particular is said to have never loved anyone again in his life.
** It's even mentioned in ''VideoGame/DragonAgeII'' if you romanced Alistair, made a HeroicSacrifice at the end, and he stayed on as a Grey Warden. When running into [[PlayerCharacter Hawke]] in the second act, [[TearJerker he refers to the Warden as 'the love of his life' even though she's been gone for four years at this point.]]
** The same thing happens in Zevran's cameo, which occurs near the end of the sequel and thus ''seven'' years after the original. As the Warden died soon after another woman he loved, maybe he's given up fighting the CartwrightCurse.
* Subverted as far back as ''VideoGame/FinalFantasyII'': A dying prince ends his WillTheyOrWontThey situation with a princess by coughing a "tell her that I love her" at the party, but then realizes that she would follow this trope and tying her to a dead man would be nothing but selfishness. He forbids the party from saying anything, and they obey, even though the princess is expecting word. It's implied that the princess ends up with his brother.
* In ''VideoGame/FinalFantasyVII'' and ''VideoGame/DirgeOfCerberus'', Vincent is living this way because of Lucrecia, spending long hours in the cave where she had [[DudeShesLikeInAComa sealed herself inside a crystal]] and talking to himself.
* If you romanced Kaidan in ''VideoGame/MassEffect1'', then when Shepard dies at the start of the second game he goes into a two-year depression where he refuses to date anyone else because he loved Shepard too much. It gets better when Shepard is brought back to life and can rekindle their relationship in the third game, but it's implied that the same thing happens to him again if Shepard dies again at the end of the third game.
* Zihark of ''VideoGame/FireEmblemTellius'' outright admits that he probably won't ever fall in love with another woman after he broke up with his [[InterspeciesRomance laguz girlfriend]]. True to his words, he later turns down [[HopelessSuitor Meg]]'s [[AccidentalMarriage marriage proposal]], and pretty much stays single for the entirety of ''Path of Radiance'' and its sequel.
** Also Prince Kurth from ''FireEmblemJugdral'', who refuses to marry despite all the nagging from his people [[spoiler: after he falls for a married woman (Lady Cigyun of Velthomer), makes her his lover, and she disappears after the whole deal blows up in their faces and her husband Viktor is SpurnedIntoSuicide.]]
* James Sunderland of ''VideoGame/SilentHill2'' represents a disturbing variant of this archetype. Not only will he never get over his love for his dead wife Mary, it is implied that his obsession with their relationship and her memory leads him the recreate the world around him in her image, even to the extent of possibly recreating Mary herself. The entire story arc of the game revolves around James coming to terms (or not) with his inability to forget Mary, and the events leading to her death.
* Booker Dewitt from Videogame/BioShockInfinite. [[spoiler: His wife died almost twenty years earlier and there's no indication he's ever remarried. Not the mention he received a double blow with also losing his daughter.]]

[[folder: Visual Novels]]
* [[spoiler:Godot, aka Diego Armando]] of ''VisualNovel/PhoenixWrightAceAttorney: Trials and Tribulations'' is one of these -- the game doesn't actually discuss whether he'd have another girlfriend, but [[spoiler: his attitude about Mia's death, and the lengths he'd go to "avenge" her make him definitely appear to be one of these]]. Interestingly enough, both of them might have fitted this trope [[spoiler:(while she was alive, he went into a coma, not to wake up until she died)]] but she was of the more well-adjusted variety if she fit this trope at all.
* In ''VisualNovel/FateStayNight'' Heaven's Feel Normal End has a depressing example that flashes through [[spoiler:the rest of Sakura's life in Shirou's home after he dies at the end of the Grail War, constantly waiting for him to come home]].
* In ''VisualNovel/{{CLANNAD}}'' there are multiple cases of this depending on the route [[spoiler:but the most famous is when Tomoya's wife, Nagisa, dies in childbirth]].
* In one Bad Ending of ''VisualNovel/SchoolDays'', after Kotonoha [[SpurnedIntoSuicide commits suicide]] in front of them, Makoto and Sekai break up, and Makoto never gets together with anyone else.

* In ''{{Erstwhile}}'', [[http://www.erstwhiletales.com/allfur-02/#.T2--ndm6SuI the king refused to even consider remarriage for a long time, and then reject many prospective brides.]]

[[folder: Real Life]]
* Nobody would try to replace a loved one the day after they died, and this trope is pretty much the same thing. It's just that sometimes those feelings ''never'' go away, no matter how much one rationalises that they need to move on. Love and loss are not subject to the will. Speaking deeper, one wouldn't want to FORGET about their times and deep bond with the departed or relinquish them, they would see this insulting to the memory of their loved one; However, whether they will decide to move on in their romantic path or not depends on the person themselves.
* Joanna the Mad - Queen of Castile - for her husband, Philip the Handsome. She took to carrying his coffin around with her and sleeping with it. Her son, Carlos I of Castile (Charles V Holy Roman Emperor) played this up a little when assuming rule on her behalf. She clearly had a screw loose, in addition to being a woman - two major handicaps for any sixteenth century would-be monarch.
* Later on, Charles III of Spain lost his wife, Maria Amalia of Saxony, in 1760 (after giving him 13 children). He lived on for other 28 years, in which he never remarried, got a mistress or even a (in modern terms) one-night stand. This in an era where political alliances were still held by marriages and every king (Charles III's father included) routinely went through two, three or more marriages in his life.
* [[UsefulNotes/QueenVictoria Queen Victoria]] of Great Britain remained in mourning for Prince Albert for the rest of her (long) life.
-->[[TheWomanWearingTheQueenlyMask "There is no one to call me Victoria now."]]
* There are some people who genuinely consider the death of a spouse to be very different from the dissolution of marriage; most people, however, consider the death of a spouse to be akin to a forced dissolution.
* [[http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nino_Chavchavadze Princess Nino Chavchavadze]], after her husband died ridiculously soon after their marriage.
* [[KnightFever Sir]] Creator/PatrickMoore. His fiancée was killed in [[UsefulNotes/WorldWarII 1943 when a bomb hit]] the ambulance she was driving.
-->"That was it. There was no one else for me. Second best is no good for me. I would have liked a wife and family, but it was not to be."
* UsefulNotes/JamesBuchanan, the only U.S. president to never marry, after his fiancée Ann Caroline Coleman's death. "Marry I could not, for my affections were buried in the grave." He seems to have eventually had romances and even reconsider his position on marriage, but never actually went through with it. Although many historians are pretty sure [[WordOfGay he was gay]].
* [[http://www.metro.co.uk/weird/840005-man-recreates-dead-lover-as-a-sex-doll Man recreates dead lover as a sex doll.]]
* Princess Helene of Wittelsbach aka Nene, older sister of the famous Elisabeth of Wittelsbach aka Sisi, remained unmarried after the death of her husband Maximilian of Thurn-and-Taxis, refusing other possible engagements and focusing on helping manage the Thurn-und-Taxis family business and philantrophy instead.
** After the tragic murder of Sissi, it's said that ''her'' hubby Franz Josef felt similarly, [[LoveHurts despite how unstable their marriage was]]; in her memoirs, his relative Princess Zita from the Habsburg clan wrote that she heard him say "Nobody will ever know how much I loved Sisi".
* Another Lizzie here: Saint Elisabeth of Hungary, said to have gone into a huge HeroicBSOD once she learnt that her husband and VictoriousChildhoodFriend Margrave Ludwig of Thuringia had died in the Crusades, repeating a MadnessMantra by the lines of ''"He is dead. He is dead. It is to me as if the whole world died today!"''. She then went RebelliousPrincess by doing anything in her power to not re-marry, from leaving Thuringia despite her brother-in-law's orders to telling people "either leave me alone and let me become a Franciscan tertiary, [[BeautyIsNeverTarnished or I'll cut off my own nose and disfigure myself so no one will want me!]]" She got her wish and died single at age 24.
* Eliza Emily Donnithorne, the possible inspiration for [[Literature/GreatExpectations Ms. Havisham]], was [[RunawayGroom dumped by her fiance]] on their wedding day, and [[{{Hikikomori}} shut herself]] in her home for the rest of her life, drawing the curtains and leaving everything in its place to rot.
* Joe [=DiMaggio=] married Creator/MarilynMonroe in 1954, but they divorced in the same year. They became close again in 1961, and it was rumored that they might remarry. When she died in 1962, he arranged her funeral and would send half a dozen roses to her grave 3 times a week for the next 20 years. He never remarried or talked publicly about Marilyn or exploited their relationship, unlike others. When he died in 1999, his last words were "I'll finally get to see Marilyn."
* [[https://womenmarines.wordpress.com/2010/06/18/sgt-lena-mae-riggi-basilone/ Sgt Lena Mae Basilone]] never remarried after her husband, [[http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/John_Basilone Gunnery Sgt John Basilone]], was killed in action at Iwo Jima. The two never had any children, and when she passed away in 1999, the obituary pointed out that she still wore the wedding ring from when they were married.
** She would later sponsor the Gearing-class destroyer ''"USS Basilone"'', and was present for the christening.
* Science Fiction/Horror writer Jack Butler lost his wife to cancer, but 20 years later still talks about being married in the present tense. In a magazine interview he once told a story about how his oldest daughter tried to get him to date again, and how he couldn't understand why she didn't get the concept of "married."