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->''"It's Bill's birthday."\\
"Yeah, I hate that guy."\\
"There's cake in the conference room."\\
"Well, I should say hello."''
-->-- '''Creator/JimGaffigan'''

Two characters who come from very different places meet for the first time. They don't speak the same language? They have totally different backgrounds? No matter how different their culture and origins, they will always become friends if they go through an almost ritual exchange of food the first time they meet -- doubly so if the food is chocolate based.

TruthInTelevision: it's considered good manners in many cultures to offer food to people when you meet them, and sharing bread or salt created a real bond between people in the olden days. Several languages even have words for "friend" based around the concept of sharing bread. There's actually scientific evidence to back this cultural practice up, as the part of the brain that responds to food is the same part that responds to social interaction.

The trope generally occurs when the hero is in a FishOutOfWater situation, and very often when they meet a character whose language they can't understand. After sharing food, the character helps them become familiar with their surroundings.

* There's a tendency for the hero to give chocolate, probably because chocolate is awesome.
** This works twice as effectively on children, who almost invariably become {{sidekick}}s, be they neighborhood hooligans or DisasterScavengers.
* The hero can also [[FriendToAllLivingThings make friends]] [[AndroclesLion with animals]] that way. (But use something other than chocolate. It's poisonous to many animals, especially dogs).
* When food is given to the heroes, it will look absolutely horrible. Two possible outcomes:
** It turns out to [[AlienLunch actually be quite good.]]
** It turns out to [[TastesLikeFeet taste incredibly bad,]] but the person eating it wants to be polite, so they pretend it's good anyway.

When a [[NoMrBondIExpectYouToDine villain tries to invoke this]], he may inspire ImNotHungry.

Part of SacredHospitality.

Compare ThroughHisStomach, which typically goes for more than just friendship, and FoodAsBribe, which tends to be more practically oriented toward getting someone on your side. Contrast EnemyEatsYourLunch, for when someone proves their hostility by taking your food. For the romantic side, see ChocolateOfRomance.


* Meat & Livestock Australia released a [[https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/video/2017/jan/12/australia-day-lamb-ad-tackles-indigenous-land-rights-and-immigration-video?CMP=share_btn_fb politically charged advert]] asking the question, "[[UsefulNotes/ThoseWhoveComeAcrossTheSeas aren't we all boat people]]?" A group of Aboriginal Australians are setting up a barbecue on a beach, when successive waves of 'boat people' arrive and bring their various foods and drinks with them.
* An oft-mocked [[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hRVVI2dRG58 Pepsi ad]] features Kendall Jenner at an ambiguous protest offering Pepsi to police officers.

[[folder:Anime and Manga]]
* In ''Manga/SchoolRumble'', Harima first got to know Karasuma at the school's watering area because neither of them ever bring lunch. Harima offers Karasuma friendship in the form of treating his fellow curry-fan to lunch at his next paycheck. Needless to say, seeing as this never happened, the two never became friends; Harima saw Karasuma eating with the girl he loves (Tenma) at the end of the chapter.
* ''Manga/DragonBall'' has an inversion. Goku and Krillin's first (one-sided) meal together involved Krillin preventing Goku from eating (He cheated at a contest in which the winner got dinner). Turns out Launch [[LaserGuidedKarma cooked untreated puffer fish that night]].
* In ''[[Manga/MahouSenseiNegima Negima]]'', Kotaro is first greeted by Chizuru and Natsumi with a homecooked meal (after an appetizer of MarshmallowHell); his constant complimenting of Chizuru's cooking seals it.
* ''Anime/{{Pokemon}}''
** Subverted in an episode of ''Diamond and Pearl'', when Jessie fails to lure Maylene's Lucario to her by offering chocolate. The offer itself is a reference to ''Anime/PokemonLucarioAndTheMysteryOfMew'', where Max succeeded in making friends with Aaron's Lucario -- who was untrusting of humans -- this way (so the movie is a straight example).
** Played straight with James, who caught three of his Pokemon by offering them food. Though Inkay's sandwich-assisted capture was technically a trick, a croissant later snaps Inkay out of mind control by reminding it of their friendship. In an early episode, James also got a kidnapped Donphan to work for them when he fed it a huge pile of hay.
* Not as great a cultural barrier as in other examples, but when Shima from ''Anime/StellviaOfTheUniverse'' goes to study into space, she takes a can of confections with her, which play an integral part in her making-friends process. Given the [[RousseauWasRight tone of the show]] (and despite [[ShrinkingViolet her own nature]]), Shima's can is empty before the series reaches its mid-point ([[spoiler:and is then refilled]]).
* The scenes showing [[MoralityPet Hayate's]] attempts to connect with [[RidiculouslyHumanRobots the Wolkenritter]] in ''Anime/MagicalGirlLyricalNanohaAs'' included one where [[TeamChef Hayate cooks]] their first meal together, with [[BodyguardCrush Vita]] hesitantly tasting her share, finding it delicious, then asking for seconds in a {{Tsundere}}-like way.
* ''Manga/OnePiece'':
** Even after Nami betrays Luffy and lets him get captured by Buggy early on, the audience knows she's gonna stick with the crew when she feeds Luffy while he's tied up and caged. Apparently, you can do anything to Luffy and he'll still wind up liking you if you give him some food and nice treatment.
** Much later, in the Dressrosa arc, he was quick to befriend Rebecca after she gave him food, and likewise shrugged off her feeble attempt to kill him for that reason (Well, that and the fact that she didn't even have any killing intent anyway, only doing it reluctantly (Long story)).
** Also happens between Hiriluk and Chopper; this being the first time anyone's been compassionate and kind to him, the poor little reindeer boy ''cries tears of joy on the bread he's eating.''
* In ''Manga/HeavensLostProperty'', Tomoki does this twice. First with Nymph and a candied apple then later with Astraea and a full dinner at his house, along with a offer to feed her whenever she was hungry. Both instances of kindness eventually influenced their decisions to betray Synapse. Nymph also developed a SweetTooth.
* In ''Anime/{{Monster}}'', Tenma makes a traditional Japanese meal for his shooting instructor and his adopted daughter, whom he dragged home from Myanmar after killing her mother in self-defense. The girl shows nothing but icy hatred for him until his piss-poor skill with chopsticks makes her smile. The last we saw of them, she was happy as they walked hand in hand.
** This trope goes in the other direction quite often, as well- Tenma ForgetsToEat, so a number of the good guys wind up feeding him (Maurer, Reichwein, and Grimmer, just off the top of my head).
* ''Anime/SDGundamForce'' episode "Tears of Cobramaru" ends Cobramaru- once-again thrashed by the good guys, and abandoned by his once-allies- all but losing his will to live. BrattyHalfPint Genkimaru tries to cheer him up with some riceballs, and the last scene is Cobramaru- tearfully- eating as the sun sets. This pays off as Cobramaru shows up as an ally.
-->"I've come to pay you back...for the riceballs you gave me."
* In ''Anime/PrincessTutu'', one of our first indications that [[spoiler:Fakir]] is not the {{Jerkass}} he seems is that he feeds, and is just generally kind to, a duck he found in his locker. The main character gets the same hint, since [[{{Animorphism}} she's the duck]].
* ''Anime/DigimonFrontier'': Junpei/JP invokes this trope. He offers chocolate to people in order for them to be around him. While it worked for that purpose, it did not help him make ''real'', meaningful, friendships, and so he experienced loneliness.
* According to ''[[LightNovel/{{Baccano}} Another Junk Railroad]]'', the moment Ennis realized that Firo (who, in consuming Szilard, [[YouKillItYouBoughtIt technically inherited her as his]] [[OurHomunculiAreDifferent homunculus servant]]) had no intention of being her new "master" was when he brought her home and cooked ''her'' dinner.
* In ''Anime/GargantiaOnTheVerdurousPlanet'', this is how the Gargantians open negotiations with Ledo: Amy shares a dried fish with him. He's reluctant at first because he's never eaten "animal corpses" before, but when he realizes it's a diplomatic gesture of goodwill he accepts it. Tensions with the Gargantians do not drop immediately, but they are eased a bit by the exchange.
* In ''Anime/PuellaMagiMadokaMagica'', [[CoolBigSis Mami's]] favourite method of making friends is by serving cake and tea. Kyouko also offers food to the people she likes - which is a big deal to her.
* In ''Anime/TweenyWitches'', Arusu won Eva over with a chestnut. These are not native to the world of the witches and so Eva had never eaten anything so sweet before.
* ''Manga/GourmetGirlGraffiti'' is about the social experience of food, so there're a few examples such that after FoodPorn and OrgasmicallyDelicious, this is the most important trope of the series. The straightest ones include:
** In Episode 10, the ice breaker between Ryou, Kirin and [[ShrinkingViolet Yuki]] is in fact Yuki's pizza that was delivered mid-conversation.
** In Volume 3's coloured specials, it turned out Ryou and Shiina's friendship started by sharing lunches.
* ''Anime/{{Doraemon}}'': One of Doraemon's few useful gadgets is the Momotaro Dango (a reference to a Japanese folklore), which can instantly befriend any creature it is fed to.
* In ''Anime/{{Arrietty}}'', Sho tries to give a sugar cube to Arriety as a gesture of friendship. She returns it because Humans and Borrowers can't be friends. [[spoiler: The gesture is repeated at the very end of the movie when Arriety is leaving and she accepts the sugar cube.]]
* A flashback near the end of ''Anime/VividStrike'' revealed that Rinne and Fuka became friends when Rinne gave Fuka a treat she had been saving.

* ''ComicBook/{{Hellboy}}'': sort of. One of the shorter stories is about Hellboy being given pancakes by someone from the army. He doesn't want to eat them, then tries... and it's good! Meanwhile, in Hell, demons scream that he now is lost to them forever.
** In ''{{ComicBook/BPRD}}: Killing Ground'', Liz Sherman offers the mummy queen Panya a fruit smoothie to make her feel welcome. They hit it off pretty quickly afterwards.
* ComicBook/GreenLantern Sodam Yat found an alien who crash landed in the woods near his house, and helped him as he recovered from his wounds. They shared meals together, learned from each other (even though they couldn't understand the other's language), and became friends. Unfortunately, Sodam lived on Daxam, a notoriously xenophobic planet, whose inhabitants proceeded to kill and stuff the alien and try to MindRape Sodam into fearing everything concerning space. It didn't take and pissed Sodam off so much, he had to be convinced his people were worth saving when Mongul conquered Daxam years later.
* ''ComicBook/TheCartoonHistoryOfTheUniverse'' posits that offering scraps was how the first proto-humans befriended the first proto-dogs.
* In one of the ''Wild Hunt'' arcs of ''ComicBook/ElfQuest'', Ember tries to convince a human to work with the elves rather than against them, which involves offering him food, pointing out "We don't share meat with enemies".
* When they first meet her, ComicBook/{{Runaways}} Karolina Dean and Molly Hayes take Klara Prast out for lunch, which helps them earn her trust and leads to her seriously considering leaving her abusive husband. In a later arc, Molly offers pizza to a captured Majesdanian who attacked the team, though it doesn't endear her to him. And then, during the final arc, Chase is seen bringing Klara a sandwich and a soda as a way of making amends for the way he treated her earlier in the arc.
* After Loki moved, well, their apartment by magic, to the building where Verity lives in ''Comicbook/LokiAgentOfAsgard'' they invited her over for a self-made dinner. Let's that sink in: ''the God of Mischief can cook''. Also Verity had to ask if there was an [[FoodAsBribe ulterior motive]] to this. It's Loki. Of course there was! But [[OnlyFriend friendship]] was a factor too.

[[folder:Fan Works]]
* Subverted in ''Fanfic/TiberiumWars''; Corporal Goodman actually gives a captive Sandra Telfair some food, and along with it he treats her quite nicely, even trying to apologize for [[spoiler: the rape attempt on her]] in the previous chapter. The subversion comes a few minutes later, when [[spoiler: Sandra cuts his throat with a ripped-up aluminum soda can.]] You know what they say, WarIsHell....
* ''Roleplay/DeptHeavenApocrypha'': If you feed Vienya, she will love you forever and ever--food is SeriousBusiness for her.
* In the ''FanFic/{{Horseshoes and Hand Grenades}}'' story ''Month of Sundays'', Jun gives a lollipop to Quetzie as an act of kindness. Said act also [[spoiler: helps reconnect Quetzie to his grandfather, Damballa.]]

[[folder:Film -- Animation]]
* In ''WesternAnimation/HowToTrainYourDragon'', Hiccup makes friends with Toothless by giving him a fish. Toothless responds in kind, by [[{{Squick}} regurgitating half of the fish for Hiccup to eat]].
** Continued in the series: WesternAnimation/DragonsRidersOfBerk. There [[spoiler: Heather]] befriends Storm Fly by giving her chicken.
* John Smith befriends Disney/{{Pocahontas}}'s raccoon Meeko by offering him a biscuit.
* In ''WesternAnimation/{{Up}},'' Russel wins over Kevin the "snipe" with a chocolate bar.
* TheStinger of ''WesternAnimation/KungFuPanda'' has only Po and Master Shifu sharing a bowl of dumplings. As well as a CallBack to their epic dumpling fight, it shows how the often harsh and grumpy OldMaster has lightened up and accepted Po not only as the Dragon Warrior but as a friend.

[[folder:Film -- Live-Action]]
* ''Film/{{Stargate}}'': Daniel gives Shau'ri's dad a chocolate bar. He later is offered roasted dinosaur, which turns out to [[TastesLikeChicken taste like chicken]]. Daniel also tries to share a candy bar with the yak type creature at the beginning- he likes trying that one out.
* ''Film/IndianaJonesAndTheTempleOfDoom'': Indy and Willie are given food in the village. He makes her eat it even though it tastes awful because he knows the villagers gave them all they had.
* ''Film/CharlieAndTheChocolateFactory'': in the Creator/TimBurton movie, Willy Wonka gives the chief a cacao bean and is then offered a plate of mashed worms, which he pretends to like so the tribe will come work for him.
* ''Film/LawrenceOfArabia'': Lawrence gives his gun to his guide who answers by giving him some of his food. Lawrence tries to not let his horror show when he tastes it (but fails completely).
* ''Franchise/StarWars'':
** Leia befriends the Ewoks this way.
** Yoda plays the reverse of this when he first meets Luke, deliberately swiping Luke's ration bar.
--> '''Luke''' "Hey! That was going to be my dinner!"
* ''Film/KingKong2005'': Subverted with a horrible aftermath involving cannibal natives.
* ''Film/ETTheExtraTerrestrial'': Elliot makes friends with the alien by offering it [[ProductPlacement Reese's Pieces]]. Interestingly enough, this led to Reese's Pieces sales [[TheRedStapler rising as much as 65% in 1982]].
* ''Film/TheGoonies'': Chunk befriends Sloth with a Baby Ruth.
* In ''WesternAnimation/SurfsUp'', a tribe of native (cannibal?) penguins try to eat Chicken Joe, until Joe offers them roasted squid on a stick. Finding that it "tastes like chicken", they make him their leader instead.
* Éowyn offers Aragorn stew during the journey to Helm's Deep in the extended edition of ''[[TheLordOfTheRings The Two Towers]]''. Though it's clearly awful, he tells her he likes it, and when she turns away, he goes to pour it out - but she turns back with a question, and he spills a bit on his hand, visibly attempting to prevent a grimace of pain at the presumably hot stew.
* TheFilmOfTheSeries ''Film/LostInSpace'' Don offers The Blarp a "Banana Beef" bar (what?) The little guy gobbles it up wrapper and all and sticks around for the rest of the movie.
* ''Film/WhatDreamsMayCome'' has the main character and his future wife share sandwiches the day they meet in the beginning [[spoiler:and when they're reincarnated at the end.]]
* Subverted in ''Film/EmpireOfTheSun''.
** "Hey, Jim, do you want a Hershey bar?" - "Yes please." - "So would I kid, ya got one?"
** "He gave me a mango!" - "I'll give you a whole d____ fruit salad. There are Frigidaire's falling from the sky. Kingdom come." - "He was my friend!" - "He was a J__."
* {{Subverted}} in ''Film/EnemyAtTheGates'', where the German ColdSniper was paying a child spy in Chocolate bars (to be fair to the kid, it was ''German'' Chocolate.) [[spoiler: The kid was actually a DoubleAgent, working with the Soviets to feed false information to the German sniper to try and put him in TheHero's scope. [[TearJerker It ends badly for him.]]]]
* In ''Film/{{Hellboy}}'', young HB is won over by ProductPlacement--I mean, Baby Ruth bars. Much later, when the new guy shows up with some in his possession, Hellboy knows that "Dad" has dropped by to visit him.
* In ''Film/{{Aliens}}'', Ripley gets Newt to start talking again by giving her a cup of hot chocolate.
* In ''Film/DancesWithWolves'', the main character befriends a wolf named Two Socks after giving him some meat, gaining his nickname.
* In ''Film/TheGodOfCookery'', Turkey befriends Stephen and breaks through his jerkass facade after she cooks him a bowl of barbecue pork on rice.
* ''Film/TheTransporter''. After reluctantly rescuing a BoundAndGagged Lai, Frank unties her, leaves her a microwave meal of noodles, then goes to sleep, making it clear she's free to leave. He's surprised when she's still there to cook breakfast for him the next day, and later accuses of her [[GuileHeroine deliberately invoking this trope to get him on her side]].
* ''Film/TheMonumentsMen''. Confronted at gunpoint by a lone German soldier who can't speak English, Campbell breaks the ice by offering him cigarettes so they can sit down and have a smoke. This serves as a deliberate contrast to a later hostile interrogation where the German refuses a cigarette from the American soldier.
* ''Film/{{Outlander}}'': After Kainan's failed escape attempt, he's chained to a well in the middle of the village. A local boy offers him some of his bread, and the two hit it off.
* Averted in ''Film/TheDuellists''. After they fight off some Cossacks together d'Hubert offers Feraud a QuickNip, but Feraud just walks off, making it clear he intends to continue their pointless feud.
* Subverted in ''Film/BatmanVSupermanDawnOfJustice'' when Lex Luthor gives a politician a candy to seal an under-the-table deal they've just made. However as Lex insists on hand-feeding it to the politician, it only creeps him out.
* Exploited by civets in ''Film/TheJungleBook2016'', where Mowgli offers a fig to a little civet. But it turns out to be a trick, because several more civets steal the figs he collects and run off.

* In ''Literature/ABrothersPrice'', one of the first things Jerin does after meeting Cullen (who sneaked into his room to get away from his sisters) is to order tea (the kind that goes with sandwiches) and share with Cullen. They become best friends. [[spoiler: And brothers in law]]
* ''Literature/HarryPotter'':
** Harry and Ron in their first year on the train to Hogwarts. Though the fact Harry bought every single kind of candy that was for sale on the cart certainty didn't mitigate anything.
** Another Harry Potter example would be in the [[Literature/HarryPotterAndThePrisonerOfAzkaban third book]] where Lupin gives Harry chocolate after the Dementors attack. Though in this case, the chocolate does more than just introduce the two. Chocolate in the Potterverse is apparently an actual remedy for the effects a Dementor has on people.
** When Hagrid first arrives, he gives Harry a birthday cake.
** Hagrid feeds Ron when they are being introduced as well.
* In the Creator/ElizabethMoon novel ''Literature/TheLegacyOfGird'', a fellow from the Evil Wizard Class tries to make friends with Gird by offering him food, only to be rebuffed because in Gird's culture providing for someone establishes your superiority to them. They realize that their two cultures have been misunderstanding each other literally from first contact, as the EWC had always thought of Gird's people as natural servants because they were so eager to provide for the new impressive strangers.
* In ''Franchise/TheDarkTower'' novels, when Jake befriends Oy (an intelligent, capable-of-talking creature like a long, thin dog), he does so by feeding him some of Jake's food. Oy then gradually becomes a vital member of the group, saving several member's lives over the course of the books.
* Averted, subverted and played semi-straight in ''Literature/{{Nation}}''. Daphne first sees Mau when he's dragging the bodies of all the Nation's people into the sea; recognising his numb grief, she leaves him mangoes when he finally goes to sleep. When she wants to make a proper introduction, she decides that tea and scones will surely overcome the communication barrier; unfortunately, she's trying to have a civilised English tea party in a grounded and listing shipwreck, and her terrible (first-time) attempts to make scones taste like rotten lobster, as the rather odd captain kept one in the flour barrel to eat the weevils; Mau comes away from the whole experience bemused and horrified by the foul taste, but recognising that the poor, strange Ghost Girl is making an effort. The third time, Mau makes a fish stew on the beach, which is much better; though they still can't talk to each other, their nervousness (and ridiculous attempts at table-manners given the circumstances) makes them crack up laughing, and they become proper friends.
* In William King's TabletopGame/{{Warhammer 40000}} Literature/SpaceWolf novel ''Grey Hunters'', after a tense FriendOrFoe meeting, Trainor offers Ragnor a flask. They both drink.
* In Gav Thorpe's TabletopGame/{{Warhammer 40000}} Last Chancers novel, ''Kill Team'', the kroot offer Kage a human brain to eat and he forces himself to do so. Afterwards, the kroot admits it was a test.
* In one Series/DoctorWho TelevisionTieInNovel, it's mentioned that the Doctor's companion Fitz Kreiner, who had a really crappy childhood due to being [[ButNotTooForeign half-German]] during UsefulNotes/WorldWarII, doesn't think too badly of military-type people because his most prominent memory of them was meeting some American [=GIs=] when he was about nine, who played with him and gave him a candy bar. He doubts they'd have been as nice if they'd known his surname, though.
* ''Literature/StrangerInAStrangeLand'' by Creator/RobertAHeinlein. The entire Martian society is based on the ritual sharing of water (a rarity on Mars). "Water brother" is the equivalent to the human "blood brother".
** Also, the greatest compliment you can pay the dead is to consume them.
* Subverted in ''Brotherhood of the Rose'' by David Morrell. CIA chief Elliot befriends the protagonists as [[ConvenientlyAnOrphan orphaned children]] by offering them candy bars. Later, when they're adult hitmen working for the CIA, Elliot continues to give them candy bars when briefing them on a mission, which they naturally assume is done out of sentimentality. It turns out that Elliot has been manipulating them from the beginning -- the candy bars are only to subconsciously remind the protagonists of their love for their surrogate father figure.
* Subverted in ''Discworld/{{Jingo}}''; Carrot warns Vimes that not to accept food from the D'regs would be seen as a terrible insult. But in fact, Vimes and the D'reg leader bond when Vimes becomes the first visitor not to fall for the old sheep's eyeball gag.
* Subverted in the Literature/{{Goosebumps}} book ''Deep Trouble,'' in which the main character tries to befriend a captured mermaid by dropping a chocolate chip cookie into her tank. She is not impressed.
* Discussed several times in ''Literature/TheElenium'' when the knights encounter the [[ProudWarriorRace Peloi]], and their tradition of "Taking salt and talking of affairs".
* ''Literature/ASongOfIceAndFire''
** [[SacredHospitality Guest right]] is traditionally invoked with an offering of bread and salt.
** In a subtle version of this trope, Sandor Clegane is always sharing his food with his hostage [[PrincessInRags Arya Stark]] in scenes where they threaten and insult each other. Although they never become friends, they do form an unconscious bond via ASharedSuffering.
* In [[Literature/ThePowerOfFive Evil Star]], when Pedro and Matt first meet; granted, Pedro tried to steal Matt's watch, so...
* Early in ''Literature/DrFranklinsIsland'', Miranda's finding of a source of fresh water and young coconuts, soon after the planewreck, do a lot to put her companions in a better mood and stops Arnie from being argumentative and contrary, briefly -- though Arnie being Arnie, it doesn't last.
* In the ''Literature/HonorHarrington'' backstory, it is mentioned that Sphinxian Treecats go absolutely nuts for celery, being more than happy to utterly debase themselves to convince a human to hand over any stalks in his possession. It is mentioned that when she was at [[MilitaryAcademy Saganami Island]], Honor's [[DrillSergeantNasty instructors]] would bring some to give to [[BondCreatures Nimitz]] even while they were chewing her out over something.
** This backstory is fleshed out more in the ''Literature/StephanieHarrington'' spinoffs, where it is explained in ''A Beautiful Friendship'' that the breed of celery raised on Sphinx has high concentrations of a chemical which boosts Treecats' telepathic abilities. In fact, celery is to blame for the FirstContact between the two races, when a treecat got caught raiding a greenhouse.
** Later, in ''The Treecat Wars'', several of the characters discover a clan of Treecats suffering from famine, and arrange for a discreet food drop to help them and earn their trust.
** Honor herself regularly hosts dinners as a major part of her technique for forming a BandOfBrothers out of her subordinates.
* In ''Literature/TheStand'', the first thing Glen Bateman does when he finds Stu Redman, the first fellow survivor he's met in weeks, is to invite him to lunch. Mother Abigail does something similar when she greets the first group of survivors to find her with a small feast of fried chicken, corn-on-the-cob, and strawberry-rhubarb pie. Even the villains get in on this: Flagg gains Lloyd's loyalty by rescuing him from starvation. When Trashcan Man reaches Vegas, Lloyd's first act is to offer him some Kool-aid and a burger dinner.
* Averted in ''[[Literature/ZonesOfThought A Deepness in the Sky]]''. The Emergents put on a FancyDinner for the Qeng Ho traders, but it's actually a means of exposing them to a virus that will kill or mind control them.
* Though it doesn't happen right away, [[TheHero Firestar]] from ''Literature/WarriorCats'' decides to hunt a rabbit for [[NeverMessWithGranny Yellowfang]], even though he ends up breaking one of the rules in the warrior code.

[[folder:Live-Action TV]]
* Daniel offers Betty half of a bagel as a peace offering in ''Series/UglyBetty'', but when Betty says she had already forgiven him, he takes the bagel back.
* ''Series/StargateSG1'': Daniel exchanges food with an Unas who captured him. Daniel goes from being an intended sacrifice to a valued friend. He even hangs a lampshade on this with a ContinuityNod, mentioning he met his [[Film/{{Stargate}} father-in-law]] the same way.
** Which would make Daniel's third use of the trope, and that's just the ones noted so far on this page. He'd already used it several times on earlier [=SG1=] episodes. You might as well call it "The Daniel Jackson Method".
* Subverted in ''Series/StargateUniverse'' - Scott gives one of the Ursini a piece of fruit. It seems as if they might be able to bond... but the alien then spits the fruit out in disgust.
* ''Series/StargateAtlantis'' episode "Childhood's End" has Ford offering chocolate to a few "guards" (they're young children.) He gets excited when he discovers that this will be their first chocolate experience.
* Subversion: In ''Series/DesperateHousewives'', Susan welcomes her new next-door neighbours with cookies that she buys and pretends to have made herself. One of them turns out to have nut allergies, so she has to confess to her deception and just drives them further away.
* In ''Series/SabrinaTheTeenageWitch'', Sabrina uses a spell to make Friendship Bread to get Harvey and Josh to stop fighting over her. It works a little too well.
* Early on in the pilot episode for ''Series/TerminatorTheSarahConnorChronicles'', John offers [[RobotGirl Cameron]] a bag of chips, before remembering that she's not human. To his surprise, Cameron then accepts his offer and eats some chips anyway.
* Dane Cook had a bit were he offered a candy bar to a co-worker and in an AndroclesLion moment repays Dane by not killing him during his later homicidal rage.
--> ''"...and as he's going from stall to stall, '' '', he's gonna reach me and go '''' "..Thanks for the candy."''
* In ''Series/{{Bones}}'', when Booth shoots an ice cream truck and is pulled out for psychiatric evaluation, his temporary replacement Sully offers numerous delicious sandwiches to Brennan in the spirit of this trope. (It...doesn't help that much)
* ''Series/DoctorWho'':
** "Would you like a jelly baby?"
** In Matt Smith's [[Recap/DoctorWhoS31E1TheEleventhHour first episode]], he meets a little girl who feeds him. She grows up to be his Companion.
* The philosophy of Andrew Zimmerman of BizarreFoods is that sharing food is the greatest way to break down barriers between different cultures.
* ''Series/{{NCIS}}''. In "Kill Ari, Part II" Tony [=DiNozzo=] is tailing Mossad officer Ziva David. As he stands under an awning outside her hotel trying to keep out of the rain, she brings him coffee, and Tony gives her a slice of his pizza in return. The exchange lampshades their future partnership -- though as they haven't reached that level of trust yet, Tony makes sure to take her coffee [[PoisonedChaliceSwitcheroo rather than the one she's offering him]].
* In ''Series/BandOfBrothers'', during operation Market Garden, a couple of soldiers from Easy Company come across a Dutch farmer and his son and share some of their chocolate with them. The father then reveals to the soldiers that this is the very first time that his son tasted chocolate.
* ''Series/BuffyTheVampireSlayer''
** Subverted in the seventh season when Giles picks up one of the [[TheChosenMany Potentials]], and since they share no common language, he takes her out for ice cream as a way to show friendship. Unfortunately, like most Asians, she's lactose intolerant.
** In "Killed By Death", Xander and Cordelia are on stakeout and [[BelligerentSexualTension start arguing as usual]]. Cordelia storms off, but [[TheyReallyDoLoveEachOther returns later with coffee and donuts for Xander.]]
* The minor character Zack from ''Series/TheBigBangTheory'' is very upset when the science guys makes fun of him for his lack of scientific knowledge, but he quickly forgives them after Sheldon offers him Milk Duds as an apology.
* ''Series/{{Hannibal}}'' finds a way to make this trope creepy. [[DefectiveDetective Will Graham]] is fairly cold to Hannibal Lecter in their first meeting, but Hannibal later wins him over by bringing him a delicious breakfast of scrambled eggs and sausages. But this is [[ImAHumanitarian Hannibal]] [[AffablyEvil Lecter]], so unbeknownst to Will, the sausages are almost certainly made of people. In later episodes, Lecter is shown cooking delicious meals for all his friends. Those meals are ''definitely'' made of people.
* ''Series/StarTrekVoyager''. In "Gravity" Tuvok is stranded on a desert planet and rescues an alien female from attackers. It's a ScavengerWorld with other stranded aliens fighting for resources, so to gain her trust Tuvok offers her a ration bar, no small gift given that she has to hunt her own food, and that consists mostly of [[AlienLunch large spider-like creatures]].
* In the ''Series/OnceUponATime'' episode "Good Form", Regina tries to win one of the Lost Boys over by offering him chocolate. [[spoiler: Subverted in that, while he seems to accept it cautiously, he instead throws it as far into the woods as he can and laughs. So she seizes his heart and uses it to mind-control him instead. She only tried doing it the other way because she was working with the heroes.]]
* Averted in ''Series/AgentCarter''. In a flashback to her childhood in the Black Widow program, the Soviet female assassin shares some bread with a fellow inmate in their OrphanageOfFear, only to NeckSnap her without hesitation [[DeadlyGraduation during training]].
* Subverted in the final episode of ''Series/BlakesSeven''. Roj Blake is cooking an animal he's killed, and offers some to a wary ActionGirl who's creeping up on him. This seems like the fundamentally decent Blake we all know, but it turns out he's now a BountyHunter and he takes her prisoner after they share a meal and fight off some other bounty hunters. [[spoiler:Blake does turn out to be still one of the good guys, but the ActionGirl turns out to be a Federation spy sent to capture Blake, so the trope is subverted again.]]

[[folder:Mythology and Folklore]]
* Grimm's Tales are full of stories where TheFairFolk (or other supernatural creatures) respond to acts of hospitality with random boons (often, the Ugly Stepsibling then tries to replicate the event, but their stinginess gets them cursed instead).
* In the tale of Momotaro, he gains animal companions by offering them his rice balls.
* The Main/{{Kappa}} will normally murder people and eat their intestines. If a person offers the kappa a cucumber, the one thing it loves eating more than human guts, it will be so overjoyed that it will spare them. In some cases, the kappa may even offer a gift in return and become a lifelong friend.

* In the ''VideoGame/DragonQuestMonsters'' series of games, you make monsters your friends by feeding them. If you give them enough food (or good enough food), they'll gladly become your friends.
* In the roguelike game ''VideoGame/NetHack'', tossing food at some monsters will make them friendly towards you, or even make them your pet. With the right foods, [[spoiler:you can even train pets to ''steal'' things for you.]]
* ''Franchise/{{Pokemon}}'':
** Several Pokémon in the Safari Zone can only be caught if you leave food out for them.
** Additionally, in ''VideoGame/PokemonSuperMysteryDungeon'', sometimes, you'll find a travelling Pokemon fainted from hunger. If you give them an apple, they'll join your team.
* In ''VideoGame/SonicUnleashed'', Chip often tries to offer a bar of chocolate to any character he meets.
* In ''VideoGame/BlazBlue'', Ragna sharing food with [[CatGirl Taokaka]] in both his and her story paths prompts Taokaka to call him "Good Guy". Of course in his story path he makes her pay for the meal.
* Gaius, a thief character in ''VideoGame/FireEmblemAwakening'', has a hell of a SweetTooth. When Chrom recruits him ([[DefectorFromDecadence from the opposing army, no less]]), it's because he offers him a bag of candy.
* In ''VideoGame/DeusEx,'' giving a candy bar to a kid early in the game will prompt him to give you some valuable information about how to get into the terrorist's hideout.
* Played with in ''VideoGame/DragonAgeOrigins''. If you attempt to have your dog [[spoiler:be your champion against Loghain at the Landsmeet]]. Arl Eamon will have a NoJustNoReaction based on this trope.
-->'''Arl Eamon:''' Ah, Warden... No. I'm afraid we can't leave the fate of all Ferelden up to your dog. Anyone with a leftover ham bone could buy his allegiance.
* In ''VideoGame/LittleNemoTheDreamMaster'', you can ride on (or in) animals by feeding them candy.
* In ''VideoGame/FinalFantasyVI'', you befriend Gau by offering him some dried meat.
* In ''VideoGame/FinalFantasyIX'', should you choose to recruit Quina on the first disc, you can do so by giving Quina its favorite food: frog.
* In the UsefulNotes/SuperFamicom ''VideoGame/MiracleGirls'' game, throwing candy is the girls' main defense against enemies.
* In ''VideoGame/SuperSmashBros Brawl''[='=]s "VideoGame/TheSubspaceEmissary" mode, Fox and Sheik were about to fight each other because of a misunderstanding (Fox attacked the Halberd while Peach was standing on it, making Sheik believe that he was attacking them) but Peach intervened and suggested a MidBattleTeaBreak. Confused at first, Fox then realised that they were on the same side, and later helped them to fight Duon.
* In ''VideoGame/YandereSimulator'', joining the Cooking Club allows you to make snacks that you can give out to people, giving you a ''huge'' reputation boost.
* In ''VideoGame/MassEffect2'', on Tuchanka you can buy a piece of pyjack meat which you can then feed to Urz, a nearby varren, who will then gleefully follow you around the camp.
* In ''VideoGame/{{Minecraft}}'', feeding ocelots and wolves respectively fishes and bones will turn them into pets who will follow you around (unless you command them to sit).

* ''Webcomic/TheAdventuresOfDrMcNinja'' subverts the "eats the awful food given anyway", when Gordito is forced to visit the [=McNinjas=]. The pickled beets turns out to be horrible, but he chokes them down and then spits them out. It turns out to be a SecretTestOfCharacter - they were poisoned.
* ''Webcomic/{{Homestuck}}'': You warm yourselves in the glow of this human emotion called friendship.
* ''Webcomic/BobAndGeorge'': [[http://www.bobandgeorge.com/archives/011018c The offer]] presages the HeelFaceTurn.
* In ''Webcomic/{{Freefall}}'', Sam realizes that feeding her would help cement his relationship with Florence.
** They later earn acceptance from security guards by offering [[DonutMessWithACop doughnuts]].
* In ''Webcomic/RedsPlanet'', Red offers Tawee some food.
* In ''Webcomic/{{Sinfest}}'', [[http://www.sinfest.net/archive_page.php?comicID=4694 Seymour brings food as a conciliatory gesture after previous hostility to Lil' E.]]
* ''Webcomic/{{Noblesse}}'' Shinwoo buys Rai a bowl of ramyeon/ramen on his first day since Rai came to the school carrying nothing; Shinwoo also buys lunch for Ikhan because he forgot his wallet. This is especially significant because this is the first meal Rai has had since waking up in Korea after [[RipVanWinkle 820 years of sleep]] and has been friends with [[{{Protectorate}} Shinwoo and his friends]] ever since.

[[folder:Western Animation]]
* In the animated ''Franchise/{{Transformers}}'' movie, The Universal Greeting (Bah Wheep Granna Wheep Ni Ni Bong) is supposed to be accompanied by the offering of Energon (Which transformers uses as food/fuel). It works with the Junkions, but earlier the Allicons only ate all their snacks, then got mad when they ran out.
* Parodied in one episode of ''WesternAnimation/TheSimpsons'', when Marge decides to take care of Nelson because her children don't want her to take care of them. The first thing she does is offer him a sandwich and he approaches it like a frightened squirrel.
* Both Applejack with a pile of apple products, and Pinkie Pie with all manner of sweets in her party try this with Twilight Sparkle when she first comes to Ponyville in ''WesternAnimation/MyLittlePonyFriendshipIsMagic''. Then it's subverted, in that she considers it a waste of her time; it isn't until they [[FireForgedFriends trek through the Everfree Forest]] to stop Nightmare Moon that she warms up to them.
** In "The Lost Treasure of Griffonstone," Gilda befriends her first non-pony friend by offering a freshly-baked scone.
* [[LittleMissBadass Toph]] bonds with [[CoolOldGuy Iroh]] over a cup of tea in ''WesternAnimation/AvatarTheLastAirbender''.
* In ''WesternAnimation/DinoTrux'', Ty the T. Trux and Revvit the Reptool meet when the latter can't break off enough ore to eat. So Ty helps him out by smashing some of it into smaller pieces, and Revvit rewards him by fixing his broken tread for him.

[[folder:Real Life]]
* OlderThanFeudalism: Sharing of "bread and salt" is recorded in the ancient Eastern Mediterranean as a sign that the [[SacredHospitality sacred bond between host and guest]] has been established. The custom survives today in cultures of that region and those heavily influenced by them, including:
** In the Arab world saying that two people "shared bread and salt" signifies a bond between them; eating bread and salt still ritually creates the bond of SacredHospitality.
** In Slavic countries, who are historically strongly influenced by the Eastern Roman/Byzantine/Greek culture (even in the Catholic Slavic countries, Byzantine influence is felt, although it's obviously much stronger among the Orthodox Slavs), it is traditional to welcome guests (nowadays, mostly important guests like foreign heads of state) with (what else but) [[http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bread_and_salt bread and salt]].
* A common team-building exercise in the workplace. Potlucks, pizza days, and food brought into the office are a way to unite people who might not otherwise interact.
* Providing someone with food affects them on a very basic level. It's a good way to get animals to like you, and of course, people are animals. [[SacredHospitality Hospitality]] and providing someone with a meal is a tradition in all human cultures to gain their respect and friendship.
* Prehistoric humans probably first managed to win over the proto-dogs by letting them eat scraps from their campsites. This would have served both groups -- the dogs would learn that if they left humans alone, they'd get free food, and the humans would get a waste-disposal system and early warning of any more hostile animals approaching. Later, cats began to hang around humans for scraps too.
* During UsefulNotes/WorldWarII, American soldiers came over to the UK with chocolate, unobtainable in Britain due to rationing. Let's just say the women were very grateful.
** After the war (and after relaxation of their non-fraternization policies), they did this in occupied UsefulNotes/WestGermany too. This situation did also lead to many German kids of that era being introduced for the first time to American PopCulture. (Even stronger examples may be the [[http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/CARE_Package CARE-packages]] and the [[http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Berlin_Blockade#The_start_of_the_Berlin_Airlift Berlin Airlift]], or the [[http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marshall_plan Marshall Plan]], which helped kick-starting the West German ''[[http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wirtschaftswunder Wirtschaftswunder]]''.)
*** And an example-within-an-example: The Candy Bombers, starting with [[http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gail_Halvorsen Gail Halvorson]], who would drop sweets from their planes with little parachutes while flying into Berlin. Halvorsen would signal that a candy drop was imminent by waggling his wings, leading to his nickname: Onkel Wackelflügel, or Uncle Wagglywings. This gained the attention of Halvorsen's commanding officer, then the press, and supporters back home, and eventually snowballed into "Operation Little Vittles", with the dropping of 23 tons of sweets over Berlin by the time the Airlift had ended.
** After WWII during the reconstruction of Japan and through the end of the Korean war American troops often shared chocolate and other goodies sent to them with the Japanese people and showed them how to make other western foods like hamburgers and hot dogs (the latter would become a staple of many Bento lunchboxes) while the Japanese introduced the Americans to sushi in all its different forms (many of which would become very popular back home). This had the dual effect of re-introducing the Japanese to western concepts and ideas as well as forging a lasting partnership between the two nations that persists to this day..
** This is standard operating procedure for the US military. Giving out chocolates was done during the Vietnam War, both Gulf Wars, and remains ongoing in Afghanistan. Chocolate is cheap, it's a common item in combat rations, children are easily bribed to reveal info with it, and most adults see the gesture as benign.
* The word "companion" may come from "cum pane" which in Latin means "with bread," making a companion someone you share bread with.
* In many places in the world, showing hospitality to a stranger is still commonplace, and it's very bad manners to refuse anything offered to you, even if you're only [[ValuesDissonance doing it out of a desire not to impose.]]
** This can cut both ways: in Mongolia (and some other countries), it's traditional to leave a small amount of food on your plate to show you've finished. In British & American society, it's generally considered rude not to finish everything you're given. [[ValuesDissonance Whoops...]]
** If that's not complicated enough for you, in Tibet your cup/bowl/plate will be refilled as soon as you're done eating. Every time. The only way to be polite is to eat most of the food, and finish eating/drinking precisely upon leaving.
* A good way to win over a domestic animal is to offer it some food. Offer really good food, and you've got yourself a friend for life. It's also an easy way to hand-tame pet animals that aren't technically domesticated, such as budgies or cockatiels.
* This is a ''bad'' idea when it comes to dealing with wild animals. "Do Not Feed the Bears" signs exist for a reason.
* In parts of Asia jewel merchants close a business deal with a toast. In some places they use tea which of course has a great tradition. In other places, for some inscrutably prosaic reason, they use Pepsi.
* In Lapland it's tradition to leave the three basic necessities in the cabins that are used by hikers and hunters alike: Firewood, matches and salt. Not leaving enough for people who might drop by later (for example, taking shelter from a storm) is considered rude to the point of taboo (since you endanger someone's life if you don't).
* To "break bread" with someone is a commonly used phrase to signify a friendship. Or at least tolerance.
* Want to win a horse's loyalty for good? Feed it.
* UsefulNotes/TeaAndTeaCulture points at several ways in which the serving and sharing of tea serves this role around the world.
* In the Philippines most social interaction involves sharing food (or the offering of such) with others.
* According to double-blind tests, this reaction has a scent component. "Spiking" a piece of food with your scent causes the recipient's instincts to register you as a food provider. One medieval version uses this method to tame unmanageable dogs with a piece of bread that's been held under the arm for a time. (This was before commercial deodorants.)
* In some communities, certain animals (Like migratory birds or deer) keep hanging around civilization because people keep feeding them.
* Wanna know why the cat keeps leaving dead animals on your stoop? Kitty thinks you're a bad hunter and doesn't want you to starve.
* The [[https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Drinking_culture "Drinking Culture"]] page on Wiki/TheOtherWiki gives several instances on how buying drinks for others serves this purpose.
* There's a reason why so many first dates revolve around a meal.
* Tea parties and dinner parties.
* Many workplace social dealings are centered around lunch. Also, ever hear of a "coffee break"?
* Many grade-schoolers bond over sharing or trading choice tidbits from their lunches. While many schools have rules against this (which isn't completely misguided when you consider food allergies, intolerances, and other restrictions that impulsive kids would be less inclined to follow), such rules are difficult to enforce unless you have several staff hovering over every kid at lunchtime.
* Attempted but Averted when the Viking settlers in North America traded milk with the natives. According to the sagas the Native Americans went on the warpath shortly afterwards, and it's been suggested they were made sick by the milk (due to lactose intolerance) and assumed the Vikings had tried to poison them.