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-> If you remain callous and obdurate, I
-> Shall perish as he did and you will know why
-> Though I probably shall not exclaim as I die
-> "Oh, willow, titwillow, titwillow."
-->-- '''Ko-Ko''', ''Theatre/TheMikado''

"[[IfICantHaveYou If I can't have you]], [[DrivenToSuicide I'd rather die!]]"

Someone (most likely a {{Yandere}}) can't deal with the fact that the person they love wants to leave them, becomes attracted to someone else, or is already in love with somebody else. Instead of killing their [[MurderTheHypotenuse love rival]] or the [[IfICantHaveYou object of their affections]] so they won't ever belong to someone else, they decide/threaten to kill themselves. Might also be used to [[PleaseDontLeaveMe guilt the object of their affections into choosing/staying with them.]] Of course, sometimes they even attempt to take the object of their affections with them in death as well.

When played more sympathetically or for tragedy, the rejected's despair and pain alone can be considered the impetus for suicide. Rather than spending the rest of their days with the intense psychache of unrequited love (because UnrequitedLoveLastsForever), removing themselves from the equation seems to be the easier solution. In lighter or very sarcastic works this trope may overlap with SuicideAsComedy, even when people often say DudeNotFunny in regards to it. See also, NotGoodWithRejection.

Obviously, this is known to happen in RealLife. For anybody that either is feeling this way, or knows someone else who feels like this, click on [[UsefulNotes/{{Suicide}} this suicide prevention page]]. No matter how bad things may feel, you or your acquintance ''will'' be happy again.



!!'''As a DeathTrope, there will be marked AND unmarked spoilers ahead. Beware.'''

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!!Examples:

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[[folder: Anime & Manga]]
* In ''PrincessPrincess'' Sayaka threatens to jump off a cliff when Tooru tells her outright that he only ever thought of her as a sister, saying that "If Tooru-kun doesn't choose me, I'd rather die!" He gets her to come to her senses by slapping her and saying "Don't say you want to die so easily! If you kill yourself we won't be able to see each other anymore!"
* PlayedForLaughs [[SuicideAsComedy in]] ''SlamDunk''. When the HotBlooded protagonist Sakuragi Hanamichi is yelled at by the girl he likes (she thought he'd beaten up the guy she liked), he tried to jump off the roof of the building while crying BerserkerTears. Of course, his friends kept him from jumping [[BigLippedAlligatorMoment and it was never mentioned again.]]
* Happens at least twice in ''Manga/DetectiveConan''. The first time, the guy not only killed himself... but he made it look as if the IdolSinger who rejected him actually murdered him.
** Subverted in a case where it ''seemed'' that a beautiful girl had drowned herself after her DrJerk ex-boyfriend got in an ArrangedMarriage, but she actually was murdered by said DrJerk [[DeathOfTheHypotenuse so she wouldn't get between him and such a convenient union]]. Additionally, the victim's GenreSavvy best friend immediately realised what had happened and it was up to Conan and Kogoro to prove it at the other girl's request.
** Subverted very cruelly when [[spoiler: a half-Japanese/half-American woman hung herself, apparently because she got heartlessly dumped by her fiancè right before their wedding. The real reason was that [[TheWoobie the poor girl]] commited suicide ''after having learned that the guy had been fatally hit by a car''. (She even was one of the persons who identified his corpse.)]]
* Played straight and subverted in ''GunslingerGirl''. [[spoiler:First we have Elsa, who shot her handler Lauro and then put a bullet through her eye (the cyborg girls's only weak point) because Lauro did not return her feelings ''and'' was incredibly neglectful of her anyway.]] Many chapters later, [[spoiler:Henrietta, who as of late had been ignored by Jose, frags him during a rampage against Dante's men brought about by Ski Mask Guy. Jose has her finish the job, but Henrietta puts one more through Jose... and Jose subverts the trope when he uses his last shot to shoot '''her''' [[EyeScream through the eye]], [[MurderSuicide killing her instantly]].]]
* Almost played straight ([[SuicideAsComedy and for lulz]]) by [[spoiler:Ai Ebihara]] in ''{{Anime/Persona 4}}''. [[spoiler: After she overhears that Kou doesn't care for her romantically and likes Chie better, Ai is so distraught that she runs off crying to the roof of the school and prepares to climb over the fence and jump over the edge. Luckily, TheProtagonist Narukami gives chase and manages to talk her out of it.]]
* Akari from ''GirlGotGame'' is a Type 2 {{Yandere}} for poor Kyo. She'd never try to hurt "him", no matter how much "he" refuses, but she is willing to threaten suicide for a date.
* In chapter 11 Rune of ''KarakuridoujiUltimo'' is perfectly willing to kill his best friend because he doesn't love him back and then commit suicide.
* [[spoiler: Yoshino]] from ''SakuraGari'', who after being thrown out of the [[spoiler: Saiki]] household tries to stab his ex-lover [[spoiler: Souma]] in the streets, and then commits suicide.
** Not to forget Souma himself, who tries to kill himself after Masataka got fed up of his RomanticizedAbuse and told him "IWishedYouWereDead", and then [[BastardBoyfriend all the terrible crap that he had done to Masataka]] [[MyGodWhatHaveIDone sinks in]]...
* [[spoiler: [[TheHeroDies The main character]]]] of RiyokoIkeda's ''Manga/{{Claudine}}'', who [[spoiler: shoots himself in the head when his third girlfriend [[SiblingTriangle leaves him for his older brother]].]]
* Played with in Manga/HaouAiren, since [[spoiler: Reilan sets a cruel ThanatosGambit in which she ends up being shot dead by the BastardBoyfriend that abandoned her to hook up with the female lead -- ''specifically'' to both spit on the boyfriend's face and [[BreakTheCutie traumatise her love rival]] into hating the dude forever.]]
* ''{{Berserk}}'' provides a particularly depressing example with Griffith. After enduring a year of torture that left him permanently crippled, seeing all his dreams and ambitions go up in smoke, and finding out that [[DepravedBisexual both his love interests]] hooked up with each other, he tries to kill himself and fails.
* In ''Natsu e no Tobira'', [[spoiler:Claude]] commits suicide after [[spoiler:Marion rejects his confession while he tries to rape Marion while being drugged.]] The next day, [[spoiler:his body is found floating on the river, with his wrists slit.]]
* It's implied that this ''may'' have part of the motive behind Asuka's mother Kyoko's suicide in ''Anime/NeonGenesisEvangelion'', since her husband was already seeing Kyoko's own doctor behind her back [[TheNotSecret and everyone around them knew about it -- Asuka herself included.]]; and with Kyouko already being [[TheOphelia very mentally unstable]] after [[spoiler: having half her soul sucked out into Unit 02]], it's not implausible. It's also implied Asuka's distance with her father may at least be a result of her firmly believing that his actions played a role in her mother's death.
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[[folder: Comic Books]]
* In an unusual instance of BlackComedy for an ''Franchise/ArchieComics story'', Big Ethel, standing on a bridge with Jughead, threatens to climb onto the ledge and jump off if he won't be hers. "Well," she says, "aren't you going to do anything?" Jughead smiles and gets down on his hands and knees, as though to give her a boost.
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[[folder: FanFiction]]
* In [[http://www.fanfiction.net/s/9380246/1/Amidst-the-Debris this]] FireEmblemAwakening badfic, Henry spends almost all his time [[{{wangst}} pining]] [[{{Wimpification}} quietly]] [[UnrequitedTragicMaiden and beautifully]] for [[UnrequitedLove his best friend]] Ricken and, at the end, [[DeathOfThehypotenuse throws himself]] [[DeathByFallingOver off a cliff]] when Ricken marries their common friend Nowi and has a kid with her, more or less around the time the Chrom's Shepherds are disbanded.
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[[folder: Film]]
* The originally planned ending of ''Film/FatalAttraction'' had the trope namer for BunnyBoiler commit suicide at the end... before Test Audiences said no.
** Moreover, Alex almost gets away with framing Dan for her murder.
** Even earlier in the film, she slits her wrists when he prepares to leave after their weekend fling.
* This is prominent plot point in ''TheRulesOfAttraction'' and is also subverted in it (when Sean Batemen repeatedly and ineffectually tries to kill himself after Lauren Hynde rejects him).
* This happens in the first five or so minutes of ''WristcuttersALoveStory''.
* In ''[[DonJuanDemarco Don Juan DeMarco]]'', rejection by the one woman who really mattered is what prompts the title character to attempt suicide, and so set the plot in motion.
* Used rather cleverly in ''HeLovesMeHeLovesMeNot''. [[spoiler:The first half of the movie sets up that a girl named Angélique is the lover of a doctor and nearly commits suicide upon learning that he will not be leaving his wife to marry her]].
* ''Film/PlayMistyForMe'': Dave (Eastwood) is a womanizing DJ who constantly gets calls from a woman asking him to play the song "Misty". He eventually meets the woman, named Evelyn, and has a one-night-stand with her. Evelyn insists on making herself part of Dave's life and, at first, Dave likes the attention. However, his ex-girlfriend, Tobie, moves back to town and Dave decides to patch things up. After he attempts to tell Evelyn that he's not interested, she responds by attempting suicide.
* [[spoiler: Susanna]] from ''Film/LegendsOfTheFall''.
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[[folder: Jokes]]
* There's a Polish joke about a man who comes home early to find his wife in bed with her lover. He pulls out a gun and holds it to his own head. His wife starts laughing, and he responds, "What are you laughing about? You're next!"
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[[folder: Literature]]
* Creator/JohannWolfgangVonGoethe's ''Literature/TheSorrowsOfYoungWerther'': a young {{wangst}}er kills himself because his lover Charlotte is married to his friend.
** In the Chilean novel ''Golondrina de Invierno'', a young would-be poet and {{Expy}} of Werther commits suicide when the female lead's cousin, whom he fancies, is engaged to marry a rich friend of hers.
* ''ATaleOfTwoCities'' and ''Literature/LastOfTheMohicans'' feature similar endings, i.e. the spurned lover sacrifices himself to save the one she chooses; effectively, they are spurned into suicide and take IWantMyBelovedToBeHappy to its biggest extremes.
* ''Les amitiés particulières'' (Special Friendships). Fourteen-year-old George is forced to return his twelve-year-old boyfriend Alexandre's letters, a classic method of breaking up. Alexandre promptly takes poison.
* Borderline example in ''Literature/DaddyLongLegs'' After Judy rejects his marriage proposal, [[spoiler: Jervis Pendleton]] believes she doesn't love him (which she actually ''does'', but [[spoiler: she refuses him [[UptownGirl due to the social class difference]] ]], so he goes hunting in Canada, gets ''seriously'' sick and nearly dies as a result. He wasn't ''deliberately'' trying to kill himself, [[HeroicBSOD but he was so utterly depressed]] that he had a very difficult time recovering. [[spoiler: And he still isn't recovered when Judy visits him, learns that he's her dear DLL, and they reconcile.]]
* Dido in ''Literature/TheAeneid'' kills herself after Aeneas leaves her. She had sacrificed her honor for him and betrayed her late husband, as widows were not supposed to remarry or take a lover. Add this to the fact that her feelings were goddess-induced and rather obsessive, and that [[ArsonMurderAndJaywalking Aeneas was kind of a jerk]]...
* [[spoiler: Sybil Vane]] in ''Literature/ThePictureOfDorianGray'', who [[spoiler: takes a fatal dose of poison right after Dorian cruelly dumps her.]]
* The ending of Francoise Sagan's novel ''Bonjour tristesse'' (''Hello, sadness''). [[spoiler: The protagonist [[FilleFatale Cécile]] [[ShippingTorpedo interfers way too much]] in the relationship of her dad Raymond with a his girlfriend Anne, an old friend of Cécile's MissingMom, since she fears that her and her dad's [[TheHedonist carefree and hedonistic lifestyle]] won't last if he marries Anne. Hoping that Anne will break off her and Raymond's engagement and leave, [[ManipulativeBitch Cécile]] ultimately manipulates her father into visiting his old mistress Elsa, and Anne sees them kissing in a forest; she [[DespairEventhorizon completely cracks]], then drives her car into a cliff. Everyone believes it was just an accident, and Cécile is the only one who knows the truth.]]
* In Peter Moore's ''Caught In The Act'' Ethan tries to tell Lydia (who's {{Yandere}} for him) that he is not dating her. Apparently heartbroken by the news, she attempts to take hers and Ethan's lives.
* This is the ''modus operandi'' of the Deathtalker in the ''Literature/{{Portals}}'' series.
* Part of Shada D'ukal's plan to sneak up on the Solo residence in the StarWars novel ''[[HandOfThrawn Specter of the Past]]'' involves pretending to be this, in order to [[WoundedGazelleGambit distract the house guards]]. She climbs up to the roof and threatens to jump, leading to a strange moment where one of Leia's characteristically [[TheStoic stoic]] Noghri bodyguards is trying to talk her around, before she disables him and rappels down the side of the building. Good thing she's ultimately on their side...
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[[folder: Live Action TV]]
* ''{{Cheers}}'' episode "A Ditch in Time". Sam Malone gets involved with Amanda Boyer (Carol Kane), who becomes obsessed with and possessive of men she goes out with. When he tries to break up with her she implies that she'll commit suicide if he does.
* Parodied in the Chilean telenovela ''Sucupira'', where the local pharmacist Don Segundo constantly tries to commit suicide whenever he doubts about his FemmeFatale wife's fidelity. [[TheChewToy And since that happened very often, well...]] Among other methods, he tried to: I.e: [[http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5Ldh7Iwfv5A hang himself]], [[http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r_ZWkAP2bfw blow his brains out]], [[http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HOWHSH2TOPg throw himself in front of a train]], etc.
** This was ''so'' PlayedForLaughs that the poor guy was featured trying to hang himself ''[[http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7awFUWlXARo in the OP sequence of the series]]''. (around 1:07)
* Sophia in ''{{Skins}}''. Bonus points because this suicide is how we first become aware of her existence, and the reasons for her death and her importance to other characters lives are only discovered later.
* In an episode of ''Series/{{Supernatural}}'', Sam and Dean have to protect a girl from a spirit who kills people who have been involved in other's deaths. The girl's past includes a boyfriend who threatened her with this trope when she tried to break up with him. When she left anyway, he ''did'' go through with it and [[MyGreatestFailure she's felt guilty ever since.]]
* In ''{{Oz}}'' after [[spoiler: Beecher rejects him for the final time Keller ultimately responds by committing suicide.]]
* ''TwoAndAHalfMen'': When his wife left him, Walden tried to drown himself in the ocean. Apparently he didn't realize that the water would be really cold.
* Fran of ''TheNanny'' gets her own stalker in the form of Jeffrey Needleman, an old classmate from middle and high school. He threatens to fling himself out a window if Fran doesn't start a relationship with him.
* In ''DesperateHousewives'' George became very obsessed with Bree after she rejected him and ultimately killed himself by overdosing on sleeping pills.
* On ''{{Soap}}'', Billy Tate is in a relationship with his teacher Leslie Walker. When he ultimately breaks it off, Leslie makes numerous PlayedForLaughs attempts at committing suicide in front of him, which generally fail spectacularly (often due to intentional or incidental interference by other members of the Tate or Campbell families). Billy eventually tries to convince her that it's not worth killing herself over. [[GoneHorriblyRight It works]], and she then decides to kill ''[[IfICantHaveYou him]]'' instead.
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[[folder: Music]]
* "The Letters" by KingCrimson.
* The song "I Can't Stand Losing You" by ThePolice is a darkly humorous example. It's implied that he won't go through with it, though.
* The traditional folk song "The Butcher's Boy" (also known as "The Railroad Boy").
* The Armor For Sleep song "Car Underwater" is about the protagonist of the album sitting in a [[ExactlyWhatItSaysOnTheTin car which he drove into the water]] thinking about the pain of losing his beloved.
-->I didn't care that you left and abandoned me
-->What hurts more, is I would still die for you
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[[folder: Newspaper Comics]]
* A now infamous series of strips in the MickeyMouse newspaper comic had Mickey attempting to commit suicide after being rejected by Minnie.
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[[folder: Theatre]]
* Cio Cio San, the protagonist in Puccini's opera ''MadameButterfly''.
* "Tit Willow" from ''Theatre/TheMikado'' is about a bird who commits suicide due to "blighted affection"; the song is Ko-Ko trying to persuade Katisha that he feels similarly infatuated with her. Earlier in the show, Nanki-Poo is threatening to hang himself or commit {{Seppuku}} if Ko-Ko marries Yum-Yum, which gives Ko-Ko an idea of fulfilling his duties as the Lord High Executioner by executing someone who has already made his mind up to die.
** Also happens in ''Theatre/HMSPinafore'' when Ralph Rackstraw decides to say GoodbyeCruelWorld after being turned down by Josephine. [[spoiler: Fortunately, this moves her to declare that she loves him after all.]]
* Henry Purcell's ''Dido and Aeneas'' ends with Dido committing suicide after Aeneas is tricked into leaving Carthage by a false "Mercury". The story is loosely based on Book IV of Creator/{{Virgil}}'s ''Literature/{{Aeneid}}''.
* The title character in Stanisław Moniuszko's ''{{Halka}}'' is jilted at the beginning of the opera, and kills herself over it at the very end; the plot is basically her spiral into despair.
* In ''Theatre/{{Follies}}'', when Young Ben walks out on Young Sally, she pleads with him not to leave her, saying she'll kill herself. It's implied that Sally attempted suicide at least once since then.
-->'''Ben''': She said she'd kill herself. I didn't think she meant it...
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[[folder: Video Games]]
* In one of the [[BadEnd bad endings]] of ''VisualNovel/SchoolDays'', [[TheOjou Kotonoha]] [[DespairEventHorizon falls into such a despair]] after being rejected by [[TheCasanova Makoto]] in favor of her love rival [[GirlNextDoor Sekai]], that she throws herself off the top of the building Makoto lives in and dies in front of both of them. [[spoiler: We later learn that the trauma drove them to break up a while later, [[TheMourningAfter and Makoto felt so guilty that he decided to never ever fall in love again]].]]
* [[spoiler: Azel and Alvis's father, Lord Viktor of Velthomer]] in ''[[FireEmblemJugdral Fire Emblem Seisen no Keifu]]''.
* If you manage to hook up with [[spoiler: Natsuki Kuga]] in the ''Anime/{{Mai-HiME}}'' DatingSim, [[spoiler: Shizuru Fujino]] will commit suicide out of spite and despair.
* Alexander can fake this in ''VideoGame/KingsQuestVI''.
* In {{Crescendo}}, it's implied that [[spoiler: the ''other'' reason why SchoolNurse Kaori is reluctant to go the HotForTeacher way with Ryo is that she once rejected the affections of a student... and he swore by this trope.]]
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[[folder: Webcomics]]
* ''Webcomic/TheOrderOfTheStick'' has Therkla, although in her case it was more "made a conscious decision [[DeathIsCheap not to come back to life]]" than commit suicide. It also wasn't the only factor in her decision- [[spoiler:she had just been betrayed by her long-term mentor, and was likely to face prison time for her assistance in his crimes, HeelFaceTurn notwithstanding]].
** Note that it is possible to deliberately fail saving throws, such as a fortitude save against secondary poison damage.
* In ''Webcomic/SomethingPositive'', Davan's old friend Scotty committed suicide after his relationship with Donna went sour. Some of their mutual acquaintances blamed Donna for it, but later strips reveal that Scotty had been suffering from clinical depression and generally felt so worthless that he believed the world was better off without him.
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[[folder: Western Animation]]
* In the ''WesternAnimation/TomAndJerry'' cartoon "Blue Cat Blues", a very depressed Tom is sitting on a railroad track, waiting to be run over, after his girlfriend leaves him for another. The cartoon itself is a WholeEpisodeFlashback explaining [[HowWeGotHere how this took place]]. At the end, [[spoiler:Jerry joins him after his own girlfriend does the same.]]
* The Planet Express Ship from ''WesternAnimation/{{Futurama}}''. She tries to kill herself and the rest of the crew after Bender breaks up with her.
* In the ''WesternAnimation/FamilyGuy'' episode "Barely Legal", Meg threatens to kill herself after her date for the dance rejects her and also threatens to kill herself if Brian refuses to go to the dance with her.
** It also happens in "I Take Thee Quagmire". When Quagmire wants to annul the marriage, his wife suddenly holds a knife to her wrist in response.
* In the LooneyTunes short ''For Scent-imental Reasons'', Pepe Le Pew is chasing Penelope Pussycat again and, at one point, she locks herself in a glass cabinet. The scene is done in mime with him trying to lure her out sweetly and then demanding her to come out, and her refusing, followed by her indicating that it's because of his odor. Pepe finally gets the picture and then sadly aims a gun at his head before walking out of sight. A gunshot is heard and a horrified Penelope rushes outside only to land in Pepe's arms. "I missed, fortunately for you."
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