->''"Innocence is chrysalis, a phase designed to end. Only when we are free from it do we know ourselves."''
-->-- '''Eleanor Lamb''', ''VideoGame/BioShock2''

When a character (primarily in dramas) is asked to go beyond their job and help with "a cause", the character sometimes refuses, and afterwards the other person asks, "What's happened to you?" or "Since when did you stop caring?" the answer sometimes comes down to the character saying, "[[GrowingUpSucks I grew up]]," implying that the character "grew" from a WideEyedIdealist to an [[TheCynic embittered cynic]]. It's also often used by the AntiHero or StrawNihilist to mock the idealistic methods and beliefs of the IdealHero and his ilk; such [[DumbIsGood naive]] and [[ChildrenAreInnocent childish]] wishful thinking has no place in the grown-up, paranoid, [[SlidingScaleOfIdealismVersusCynicism cynical]] world that the Anti Hero lives in. Alternatively, a RetiredBadass might have genuinely gotten too old or set in retirement to do what's being asked of them.

Considering that many shows and media that are on the idealistic end of the SlidingScaleOfIdealismVersusCynicism or are just plain LighterAndSofter with simplistic plots are primarily targeted towards children, while cynical media with more controversial plots are often targeted to adults or attract controversy from MoralGuardians, there can often be a tendency, especially among more cynical people, to associate idealism with childish or simplistic thinking, something to outgrow, rather than an actual, legitimate, motivating[[note]] Although it's generally conceded that people need at last some form of idealism (or, more cynically, some self-deception that can pass for it) to have any motivation at all, even if the ideal in question is just the pursuit of some more money. Someone completely lacking in any ideals would live an extremely short life of total apathy, ending in starvation.[[/note]] philosophy that adults can also make use of. This conditioned bias is a major reason for why many people believe TrueArtIsAngsty.

It should be noted that a secondary reason is the association in working class culture between adulthood and the abandonment of lofty goals. The general idea is that you get a job and stop daydreaming, and eventually come to peace with the idea that you probably won't be famous or single-handedly reshape the world, and is as much a survival mechanism as it is crab-bucket reflex.

Sometimes the result of the character crossing the DespairEventHorizon. The SourSupporter often expresses it, especially in the face of LeastIsFirst. May be accompanied by a warning that HopeIsScary. Subtrope of JadeColoredGlasses. See also SillyRabbitRomanceIsForKids. Could also overlap with ObstructiveBureaucrat, and NobleBigotWithABadge.

Expect this phrase to be uttered in CrapsackWorld settings ''and'' RealLife. Especially by the more Machiavellian {{Realpolitik}}ers when they lecture idealists about the deceptive dog-eat-dog world of international relations. Also hordes of edgy teenagers, but the pro-idealism side of things has plenty of those as well.

Contrast GoodIsOldFashioned, where idealism is regarded as only for the children's grandparents. The intent is much the same: To imply that the good/idealistic person is unfamiliar with the here and now. The character may say that what they are dealing with is AboveGoodAndEvil, and the idealistic character should not drag in such childish morality.

It's not all one-way, however; the idealist [[ShutUpHannibal may fire a few shots back in return]]. The cynic may be dismissed as a 'sell-out' who gave up on doing the right thing for their own selfish gain [[StrawVulcan under the false pretense of logic and realism]]. For instance certain characters just aren't willing to jeopardize their careers, and livelihoods just to change the status quo (this could be TruthInTelevision depending on how romantic one is and who you happen to be looking at). Or maybe he'll even be called a 'coward' and a weakling who gave up the good fight because he found it too hard and instead resigns oneself in {{wangst}}ing about bad things. For those kinds of call-outs, see SillyRabbitCynicismIsForLosers. Of course, a true cynic ''would'' also be cynical about their cynicism.

Compare and contrast KnightInSourArmor, who still hold ideals, just not as idealists. A converted holder of Silly Rabbit Idealism Is For Kids views may turn into a KnightInSourArmour, keeping to the appearance of cynicism while reluctantly pursuing idealistic goals. Also contrast SillyRabbitCynicismIsForLosers, for when excessive cynicism and pessimism turns out to be just as blinding as too much idealism or optimism.

A direct antithesis of GoodIsNotDumb. These characters could also fit under the StoppedCaring trope.

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[[folder: Anime & Manga]]
* Partially due to his HeroicBSOD in Season 3, Judai in ''Anime/YuGiOhGX'' developed a StopHavingFunGuys mentality towards Duel Monsters during his journey into adulthood between Seasons 3 and 4, effectively losing the optimism that he had for two and a half seasons.
** Oddly enough, before that he was big on 'It's a game, have fun!' Pretty big turn around.
** [[spoiler: In the final episode Judai duels Yugi and regains his passion for dueling.]]
*** [[spoiler: Technically, he was supposed to have regained it during the pair duel that season, but then the writers said "screw it" and had him re-learn that exact same lesson for the finale.]]
* ''Manga/GreatTeacherOnizuka'': Often a particularly jaded character (such like Urumi, Miyabi, Ms. Daimon...) will go in a rant about the rotting of the society, AdultsAreUseless or abusive/perverted creeps, kids are delinquents, you can trust nobody or they shall abuse you or take advantage of you. However they sooner or later are confronted with [[SillyRabbitCynicismIsForLosers the opposite trope]] and being told they are just blind cynics and that mindset is one of the roots of those troubles.
* ''Anime/MazingerZ'': In a story arc of the GosakuOta manga alternate continuity [[TheDragon Baron Ashura]] manages kidnapping [[TheHero Kouji Kabuto]] and tries to talking Kouji in joining him. When Kouji refuses, Ashura goes in a WhatIsEvil rant, stating "justice" and "peace" are only meaningless, empty words invented by people because they are too coward and weak to accept the truth (MightMakesRight according him) and protect themselves, and then he taunts Kouji telling the only thing his idealism has got him are troubles and humilliations.
* Subverted in ''Manga/RurouniKenshin''. When the villains try to BreakTheCutie Kaoru by saying that martial arts are for killing, the titular protagonist agrees.. but also says that he prefers the idealism over the truth.
* Used in ''SayonaraZetsubouSensei'' the first time Itoshiki Nozomu teaches the class.
** To expand on it, Nozomu tells his class to write down their "Despairs for the future", essentially the students writing down their "Hopes for the future", what they are aiming at becoming, which Nozomu shoots down by saying "It's hopeless", and then giving them a BreakingLecture on their unrealistic goals... And then [[ThePollyanna Fuura Kafuka]] shoots HIM down simply by stating that no matter how unrealistic your goal is, as long as you do your best to achieve it "the possibility exists" that you'll succeed. [[note]] Trivial note: It's later revealed that Kafuka's "Hopes/Despairs for the future" was to become "God, A Time Traveler, A Pororocoian". [[MindScrew And that she was already dead when the story took place.]][[/note]]
* In ''Manga/FullmetalAlchemist'' both Miles and another Briggs soldier mention this, as when they were Ed's age they thought they could get through life [[TechnicalPacifist without killing anyone either]].
* The TokenMiniMoe in ''HeatGuyJ'' gets in [[ContemplateOurNavels an argument]] with a DefectiveDetective, when he tells her that money isn't everything. In her world, where she and [[HardDrinkingPartyGirl her mother]] barely have what they need to survive, money ''is'' everything, and she has become jaded. She tells him that believing in ideals like "money can't bring happiness" is all a fantasy.
* ''Anime/{{Monster}}'': Johan seems to be trying to teach this to Tenma, and toward the end says "The only thing humans are equal in... is death."
* This trope is inverted in ''Manga/BlackLagoon'' when [[CoolOldGuy Takenaka]], a [[TerroristsWithoutACause Terrorist Without A Cause]], attempts to interrogate [[TheHero Rock]] into giving up some info by convincing him that they're NotSoDifferent. Rock refuses, and asks Takenaka why he keeps fighting for a cause he's already lost. Takenaka explains that he's long since lost any ideals about being able to do anything constructive with his actions, but "keeps preaching" because it's the only thing he finds meaning in doing.
** One can argue that then entire series is about this trope when it comes to Rock's character. He's had to face this trope many times.
* Used in ''TigerAndBunny'' to highlight the duality between Kotetsu and his partner Barnaby. Barnaby, a PunchClockHero who views superheroics as "just another job", finds Kotetsu's still-intact idealism and aspirations towards being TheCape to be childish and naive. The twist is that Kotetsu is at least ten years older than Barnaby, and seems to be holding on to the virtues of "the good old days" in an era where superheroes have become marketing mascots.
** As the series progresses and he starts to rub off on Barnaby, the focus of the trope shifts from the two of them to Kotetsu and [[NinetiesAntiHero Lunatic]], a VigilanteMan whose sense of justice involves [[KillItWithFire burning criminals alive]].
*** In his case, it turns out his mindset is based on [[spoiler: the knowledge of what the Stern Bild idea of 'justice' actually entails. For much of the series the [=HeroTV=] heroes are ignorant of the the massive corruption and violence that lies behind the glitzy theatrics, giving another reason (if one were needed) why the others don't see where Lunatic's coming from. [[SequelHook Hopefully]] time will tell what the reactions of them and [=NEXTs=] in general will be to Maverick's setup being uncovered.]]
* In ''OnePiece'', when the Sun Pirates helps a young human girl (whom they had grown to cherish) return to her village, Arlong is quick to ruin their mood by stating that Koala will grow up to hate fishmen like any other human. It is unknown whether he was right about Koala[[note]]He wasn't to the point she's a Revolutionary and substitute teacher of the Fishman style of martial arts[[/note]], but he was at least right about the people of Koala's hometown, who repaid Fisher Tiger's kindness in returning the ex-slave child by reporting him to the Marines, who mortally wounded him, purely out of FantasticRacism.
** It's a trait of many villains in the series that they'll spout a line like this. Donquixote Doflamingo especially does it a lot, though it's subverted by the BigBad Blackbeard, who actually believes in dreams and idealism in his own, twisted way.
*** Which makes sense considering he has the Will of D.
* In ''Anime/PuellaMagiMadokaMagica'', Homura Akemi beautifully sums it up:
-->''"With kindness comes naïveté. Courage becomes foolhardiness. And dedication has no reward. If you can't accept any of that, you are not fit to be a MagicalGirl."''
** [[spoiler:And then it got [[DefiedTrope defied]] in the end:]]
--->[[spoiler:''"If someone says it's wrong to hope, [[SillyRabbitCynicismIsForLosers I will tell them that they're wrong every time.]] [[HopeSpringsEternal I could tell them that countless times."]]'']]
** [[spoiler: The fandom is still debating whether or not this is a cop out or a valid point.]]
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* In DCComics, {{Superman}} once battled the Elite (a pastiche of ComicBook/TheAuthority), a pack of super-[[AntiHero anti-heroes]] who routinely killed. It was the Elite's point-of-view that Superman's boy-scout kid-gloves morality was a weakness, and that defeating evil required being just as bad. During their final face-off, Superman appeared to be going all-out, slaughtering his way through the Elite on live TV. But it was a fake-out -- he was merely knocking them out in creative ways, trying to illustrate how terrifying superpowered killers can be. Manchester Black, the leader of the Elite, maintained that Superman's idealism was nothing but a facade until his dying day. (When Black realized that Superman ''honestly and sincerely believed and lived up to his ideals'', it was more than Black could take and committed suicide.)
** In fact, the very idea of idealism apparently screwed Black up so much that he eventually ''came back'' and tried to destroy the entire world to ultimately prove his point, in a large-scale prequel to the Joker's attempted demonstrations in ''The Dark Knight''. Except with more HumansAreBastards (and so are {{you|Bastard}}) thrown in. In the DC Universe, enough cynicism apparently leads to evil on an epic scale.
** In another example, Clark Kent once came across a police officer he was acquainted with both as Kent and Superman attempting to beat a confession out of Pete Ross, who was suspected of being a supervillain at the time. When Kent confronted her about it, the police officer dismissively told him to 'grow up'. Unfortunately for her, then ''Superman'' confronted her -- and snatched her badge from her with his superspeed, crushed it in his fist, and bluntly told her that she was a disgrace who didn't deserve to wear it. Not entirely surprisingly, having the Man of Steel deliver a WhatTheHellHero speech to her was enough to prompt something of a moral crisis for her.
** Overall lesson from all this -- telling Superman that cynicism and maturity are the same thing is ''a very bad idea''.
** In ''SupermanAtEarthsEnd'', Ben Boxer claims that Superman's ideals, such as [[ThouShaltNotKill not killing for any reason,]] have no place whatsoever in a [[CrapsackWorld devastated hellhole ruled by]] [[YouClonedHitler twin clones of Adolf Hitler.]]
--> "Foolish old man . . . your refusal to kill got you nowhere in 1999 - - Where do you think it will get you now, in a world ruled by death?!"
* In one of Marvel Comic's ''{{Thunderbolts}}'' mini-series, Baron Zemo accidentally goes back in time and encounters many of his ancestors via time-jumps, one of whom is in young love with a lady that history says he's not destined to marry. Zemo tells them to their faces that they can dream because they are young, and that the harshness of reality will eventually make them adults.
** Of course he was right all along. He knew he would marry another after all.
* [[http://www.indyplanet.com/store/product_info.php?cPath=33&products_id=3429 Gemini Storm's]] Elizabeth Rose is very negative, to the point of berating her male companion when he yells at her for killing one of the monsters trying to kill them both.
* Speedball's evolution into Penance. This trope plus a dump truck full of {{Wangst}}. He had amnesia at the time. He knew that he used to be a hero and that he'd done something bad, he just didn't know who or what.
* The Comedian's speech at the "Crime Busters" meeting in ''ComicBook/{{Watchmen}}''.
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[[folder:FanFiction]]
* [[Literature/HarryPotter Harry]] is far more cynical than the more idealist [[Franchise/StarWars Anakin]] in ''[[https://www.fanfiction.net/s/8501689/1/The-Havoc-side-of-the-Force The Havoc Side of the Force]]''. Unlike most examples however, he teaches Anakin to be more cynical because he honestly doesn't want the kid to learn the hard way like Harry did.
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[[folder:Films -- Animated]]
* ''WesternAnimation/{{Megamind}}'': There is this discussion:
-->'''Roxanne''': Please don't do this! I know there's still good in you, Hal.
-->'''Hal''': You're so naive, Roxie. You see the good in everybody, even when it's not there. You're living in a fantasy. There is no Easter Bunny, there is no Tooth Fairy, and [[EskimosArentReal there is no Queen of England]]. This is the real world, and you need to ''wake up''!
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[[folder:Films -- Live-Action]]
* ''Film/TheBraveOne'': Jackie, the ex-wife of Detective Mercer from this film. Detective Mercer asks Jackie for help and she replies, "''I can't help. Besides, I don't do 'pro bono.''" When Mercer asks why, she responds, "''I grew up.''"
* ''Film/TheDarkKnight'': This film is essentially a battle of ideologies between Franchise/{{Batman}} and SelfDemonstrating/TheJoker, with the Joker trying to prove to Batman that deep down, [[HumansAreBastards everyone is just as evil as he is.]]
* ''Film/{{Dragonheart}}'': The hero starts off as this, a cold hearted mercenary who was soured by trying to instruct a king in the old code, the code of honour of the kingdom, who grew up heartless anyway. He later becomes something of a KnightInSourArmour.
* In ''Film/TheEliteSquad'', Neto is insulted as naive by Fabio when the former is incredulous about the precinct commander's getting paid off by the drug dealers. He quickly learns to turn the cops' bribe-taking against them. Matias doesn't.
* ''Extreme Justice'': In this Lou Diamond Phillips film, a lot of the PowersThatBe appear to be this way when dealing with KnightTemplar cops. Mostly due to the fact they think the ends justify the means, and the lower level powers that be are largely useless due to being in fear of losing their jobs and pensions. And Lou Diamond Phillips' character is mostly seen as naive by his co-workers because he's trying to expose the corruption that people seem to passively aggressively support.
* ''Film/HarryPotterAndTheGobletOfFire'': In a DeletedScene from the fourth film, Moody [[spoiler:(actually Crouch Jr.)]] tells Harry after the Second Task that "if you want to play the hero, I can find you plenty of playmates among the first years."
* ''Film/NewJackCity'':
** The charismatic drug lord Nino Brown gave such a speech to the old military veteran, after the veteran tries to reason with Nino that he's destroying his own community and hurting his own people selling drugs. Nino's response:
-->'''Nino Brown''': Look at you... in a few years they'll be marking your grave. Me? I'll be right here. What can you offer them? Another "I have a dream" speech? Some of that same shit you ripping off to me? Look where we at. Not a pot to piss in, nor a window to throw it out of. You's the fool, old man.
** Nino Brown continued to joke about the war veteran later that night. [[spoiler:But the old man would get the [[ChekhovsGunman last laugh.]]]]
* ''Film/{{Predator}}'': [[Creator/ArnoldSchwarzenegger Dutch]] finds his special forces team has been duped by CIA agent Dillon:
-->'''Dutch:''' What happened to you, Dillon? You used to be someone I could trust.\\
'''Dillon:''' I woke up. Why don't you? You're an asset. An expendable asset. And I used you to get the job done.
* ''Film/{{Revolution 1985}}'': Mr. [=McConnahay=] more or less tells Daisy this.
* ''Film/{{Se7en}}'': This is Somerset's attitude towards Mills. Somerset's years as a cop have left him disillusioned, jaded, and borderline misanthropic. He scoffs at the younger man's more optimistic outlook on life, at one point even chastising him by saying "You can't be this naive!" [[spoiler: When Mills finally succumbs to the darkness by killing John Doe, however, Somerset is clearly saddened to be proven right.]]
* ''{{Shooter}}'':
** This Mark Wahlberg film turns into this trope towards the end of the film as the protagonist tries to bring down a corrupt senator, a colonel, and a group of PrivateMilitaryContractors. [[spoiler:The film even includes the "This is the "[[RealLife real world]]" type of speech from the [[LawfulNeutral Attorney General]] towards Bob Lee Swagger.]] Of course, his ExactWords are:
-->[[spoiler:''"For the record, I don't like how this turned out any more than you do. But this is the world we live in. [[CouldSayItBut And justice does not always prevail. It's not the wild west where you can clean up the streets with a gun. Even though sometimes it's exactly what is needed...]] Bob Lee Swagger, ''you're free to go.''"'']]
** So Swagger [[spoiler:''goes'' straight to the senator's cabin and [[WhyDontYouJustShootHim shoots all of them.]]]]
* ''Franchise/StarWars'':
** Has this occur later on; [[TheCynic Han]] gets Luke to his destination (as per their deal), goes on a massive detour to save a princess ''and'' adds the Empire to the list of people who want him dead, only to be met with criticism from [[WideEyedIdealist the naive teenager who owes him]] for wanting to leave after earning his reward. Averted when the SlidingScaleOfIdealismVsCynicism tipples ever so slightly towards idealism when ThePowerOfFriendship means that the [[TheGoodGuysAlwaysWin good guys win]].
** Lampshaded in [[WesternAnimation/FamilyGuy Blue Harvest:]]
--->'''Luke''': So, you got your reward and you're leaving? Is that it?\\
'''Han''': Well, when you say it that way, I sound like a douche. But yeah, that's what I'm doing.
* ''Film/TheThinRedLine'': In this Terrence Malick film, Pvt. Witt is constantly taunted by his superiors for being an idealistic dreamer.
* ''Film/TrainingDay'': The entire movie is about this trope.
* ''Film/{{Watchmen}}'': In this film, as well as the comic, [[spoiler:Ozymandias]] tells Nite Owl to grow up and adapt, as the new world has no place for [[TheCape silly old-fashioned heroics]].
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[[folder:Literature]]
* In ''WorldWarZ'', this is the viewpoint of many {{Jerk Ass}}es in such interviews as the one with former White House chief of staff Grover Carlson. Asked about the response of the White House to reports of the walking dead, Carlson claims it was above and beyond, and brags that Phalanx, a supposed anti-zombie drug, was pushed through the Food and Drug Administration. When the Narrator points out that Phalanx didn't work, Carlson explodes and launches into a tirade that what mattered was that a panic had been avoided, ultimately telling the interviewer to "grow up":
-->''"Can you imagine the damage it would have done to the administration's political capital? We're talking about an election year, and a damn hard, uphill fight. ... Oh, c'mon. Can you ever 'solve' poverty? Can you ever 'solve' crime? Can you ever 'solve' disease, unemployment, war, or any other societal herpes? Hell no. All you can ever hope for is to make them manageable enough to allow people to get on with their lives. That's not cynicism, that's maturity."''
** Given that this guy was personally responsible for a number of the dumbass decisions that led the world to ruin, he should feel lucky that his punishment is simply collecting manure for a biodiesel plant. Of course, ''his'' viewpoint is that his decisions kept society going long enough for the [[ShootTheDog Redekker Plan]] to be enacted, therefore making him one of the world's unsung saviors. The reader is [[ShrugOfGod left hanging as to this.]]
* Theo Bell has this exchange with [[spoiler:his old friend Angus]] in a ''TabletopGame/VampireTheMasquerade'' spinoff novel, [[spoiler:not long after finding out Angus was the one who'd been repeatedly trying to kill him]].
* The Decembrist uprising of 1825 is described in such terms for all of Russian high society in ''TheDeathOfTheVazirMukhtar''; while "the people of the [eighteen] twenties" are generally idealistic if superfluous, impractical and hypocritical, the people who replace them at the forefront of high society after the failure of the Decembrist uprising are more pragmatic, materialistic and outwardly conformist (notably, both sides can be pretty cynical or the opposite regardless of this divide, just in different ways). And then there is the main character, Aleksandr Griboyedov, who is stuck awkwardly between the two groups and is very cynical and contemptuous towards both.
* ''Literature/{{Animorphs}}.'' Jake's brother Tom (who is actually controlled by an alien Yeerk slug) sums the trope up when talking about morality in war:
-->''"Honor and courage aren't what matters, not in real war. What matters is whether you win. After you win, then you start talking about honor and courage. When you're in battle, you do what you have to do. Honor and courage and all that? Those are the words you say after you've killed all your enemies."''
** It's telling that by this point in this story, Jake's inner monologue is along the same lines.
*** [[spoiler: This is also what he tells himself when he sends his cousin Rachael on a suicide mission to kill Tom.]]
** Within the Animorphs themselves, Marco tells Cassie this a lot.
** In the BadFuture where Yeerks have conquered Andalites and humans, Cassie has become a KnightTemplar terrorist happily dynamiting skyscrapers full of people. She tells Jake that now she finally understands war.
* In James Stoddard's ''The High House'', Murmur rebukes Duskin for wanting to join in the defense of the house; his father would have, but that was idealism of youth, which he never outgrew.
* ''ASongOfIceAndFire'' seems to run on this trope. It's particularly the focus of Sansa's character development, as she turns from an idealistic, romantic girl into a reserved, suspicious, cynical and untrusting woman.
* ''Literature/TheFirstLaw'' series has this in spades.
* In Creator/GeneStrattonPorter's ''Michael O'Halloran'', when Douglas rejects an offical position, he gets this.
-->''"It is painful to a man of experience to see you young fellows of such great promise come up and 'kick' yourself half to death 'against the pricks' of established business, parties, and customs, but half of you do it. In the end all of you come limping in, poor, disheartened, defeated, and then swing to the other extreme, by being so willing for a change you'll take almost anything, and so the dirty jobs naturally fall to you."''
* ''Literature/TrappedOnDraconica'': [[spoiler: Kazebar]] gives a BreakingSpeech at the end about how idealism is foolish and everything is about power.
* Painfully {{Deconstructed}} in the fifth book of the ''Literature/WingsOfFire'' series, as it delves within the mind of Sunny, local WideEyedIdealist and TheCutie. It shows how Sunny's friends adopting this mindset, constantly dismissing Sunny's ideas on the basis of their idealistic nature, and treating her like a young child has left her with a very raw inferiority streak and a strong desire for acceptance. The fact that Sunny believes in the importance of action and is actually willing to make an effort to make the world a better place, and why this is important to her, is a huge part of her CharacterDevelopment. [[spoiler: She does become slightly more realistic, but as TheAntiNihilist and one who constantly strives for the better of the world.]]
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[[folder: Live Action TV]]
* When Sasha Monroe from ''ThirdWatch'' points out Tyrone Davis Jr's shady police tactics and how it contributes to innocent black men going to jail, he put his hand up to her face and says "Don't preach to me."
** Interestingly enough, Ty refused to believe his father was corrupt, yet he's going down [[GenerationXerox the same slippery slope]].
* A creepy scene in ''{{Angel}}'''s "Blind Date". Recurring baddie Lindsey Macdonald, a flunky for the rapacious law firm Wolfram & Hart, starts to have doubts about his job. He gets lectured at by Holland, an older attorney, who reminisces about harboring the same ennui that Lindsey is currently feeling. It's a very jovial yet deeply unsettling speech.
-->'''Lindsay''': Sometimes you...question things, but--\\
'''Holland''': ''(interrupting)'' Yeah, I did a lot of crazy things when [[UsedToBeASweetKid I was your age]]. Searching and all. Took me a while to realize how the world was put together and where I belonged in it. And actually the world isn't that complicated: It's designed for those who know how to use it.
* Tess Mercer from ''{{Smallville}}'' gives Oliver Queen the whole "I grew up" line.
** Although this can be described as SillyRabbitRomanceIsForKids.
** A bit of both; she also uses it as an explanation of how she went from [[GranolaGirl an environmentally crusading marine biologist]] to [[CorruptCorporateExecutive the head of Luthorcorp]].
* Amy Pond in the new series of ''Series/DoctorWho'' met the Doctor when she was a kid and wanted to travel with him but circumstances delayed him until she'd grown up, where she justifies her (not entirely unjustified) skepticism of him and his claims with this trope. Being the Doctor, however, he has the perfect comeback:
-->'''Amy''': I grew up.\\
'''The Doctor''': Don't worry. I'll soon fix that.
* Ned in ''PushingDaisies'' gives "I grew up" as the answer to why he no longer likes Halloween. He's lying, though.
* Miss Parker from ''ThePretender'', complete with the obligatory "What happened to you?" "I grew up" conversation in the first episode.
** [[WideEyedIdealist Jared]] spends a reasonable amount of time throughout the series trying to [[SillyRabbitCynicismIsForLosers revert her, however.]]
* ''Series/LawAndOrder'' loves to rub the viewers' face into the political version of this trope. Then there's [[BaseBreaker Abbie Carmichael]] who is this trope personified.
* Series/{{House}} is a firm believer of this, his personal mantra being "[[ArcWords Everybody lies]]".
* When [[Series/StarTrekEnterprise Captain Archer]] returned to Earth after the events of [[StoryArc Season]] [[MyGodWhatHaveIDone 3]], where he carried a team of SpaceMarines, resorted to [[SpacePirates piracy]], [[WarIsHell killed unarmed aliens manning a listening post]], lost several crew members, and [[ArsonMurderAndJaywalking went back in time]], he has taken this attitude. The other members of Earth's Starfleet, who are bursting with Roddenberrian enthusiasm for space travel, are deeply concerned as he talks about the importance of better arming ships and warfighting over exploring. They are convinced he's simply cynical, but he can't help but think that being more cynical may have saved some of his crew. It ''does'' reminds Starfleet that there are civilizations out there who wants nothing more than to [[spoiler: blow Earth up]].
* In ''Series/GameOfThrones'', this is basically the plot arc of [[spoiler:Sansa Stark]] in the first two seasons.
* Sir Humphrey has managed to reduce this to a simple aphorism in ''YesMinister'':
--> ''"A cynic is a what an idealist calls a realist."''
* In ''Series/{{Merlin}}'', when the title character refuses to save Mordred's life because he's destined to kill Arthur, Gaius asks what happened to the young boy who first arrived in his chambers. Merlin replies, "He grew up. [[IDidWhatIHadToDo And learnt the meaning of duty]]."
* The ''Series/{{Scrubs}}'' episode "My Brother, Where Art Thou" is about this. After 3 of years of working at the hospital and due to Dr. Cox's influence, JD, who was originally introduced as a WideEyedIdealist, has become a lot more cynical. His brother Dan, who has come to visit, is shocked by this and doesn't like the change. He tells Dr. Cox that he knows JD will never look up to him, but that he does to Dr. Cox, so he should work at being a better {{mentor}}. Surprisingly, Dr. Cox accepts his point and resolves to take the role more seriously.
* Peter Petrelli on ''Series/{{Heroes}}'' has been on the receiving end of this from practically everyone he meets, including his own family. It doesn't stop him from continuing doing whatever he thinks is the right thing.
* In ''Series/{{Castle}}'', Detective Kate Beckett has been jaded, cynical and bitter ever since her mother was murdered when Kate was a teenager and the murder was never solved. Her CharacterDevelopment -- helped along by her increased tolerance of, friendship with and feelings for immature and optimistic ManChild Richard Castle -- has largely been centred around reawakening her optimism and hope for the future; as evidence, simply compare [[WhenSheSmiles how much she smiles]] in any given episode of season one as opposed to any given episode of season five.
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[[folder:Music]]
* Music example, slightly inverted: In his song "My Back Pages", BobDylan describes his angry-young-man cynicism of a few years earlier, and its gradual evolution into pragmatism, with the memorable (and confusing) chorus "I was so much older then / I'm younger than that now."
* Similarly, BillyJoel in "Angry Young Man":
-->I believe I've passed the age\\
Of consciousness and righteous rage\\
I found that just surviving\\
Was a noble fight...
* Happened with pseudo-anarchist folk/punk band Levellers. Their early albums were all 'times are tough but if we work together we can get past Thatcher and have a time of peace and joy and happiness'. Now, twenty or so years later their songs seem to mostly be about how the world sucks and we're all screwed.
* GreenDay has at least two songs directly dealing with or referencing this, ''Emenius Sleepus'' and ''The Grouch''. The former is about a friend who underwent the process, the latter, the narrator.
* The Jam in "Burning Sky", though that was meant to be from the viewpoint of a character who'd embraced the capitalist system.
* Both played straight and subverted with Avril Lavigne. Her first album, made when she was just a teenager, was a poppy, punky teen fest, and ''Sk8er Boi'' became a hit song among preteens. Two years later and she abandoned the "immaturity" for wagnst and cynicism. Three years after that, and she's a teenager again! But now, she's put out a soft rock/acoustic album, making this a ZigZaggedTrope.
* In I Fight Dragon's 'No One Likes Superman Anymore':
-->Cuz no one wants to know the man who stands for things we outgrow\\
He’s too noble and too blind\\
We’re all older now and we don’t need someone to care about\\
The innocence we left behind…
* {{Supertramp}}'s "Dreamer".
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* From ''{{RENT}}'': "What happened to Benny? What happened to his heart, and the ideals he once pursued?"
* Jean Anouilh's version of ''Theatre/{{Antigone}}'' is a rare example of this being taken seriously as opposed to being scoffed at or framed as rationalization. The play is concerned with Antigone's willingness to die as a punishment for trying to ensure that one of her brothers gets a proper burial, which itself is a manifestation of her ideological opposition to Creon, the pragmatic ruler that's replaced her father. Her willingness to die for her principles is framed more as a symptom of youth. She can't appreciate how destructive and foolish dying for her cause might be and so winds up ruining the lives of everyone she loves and not accomplishing anything other than ideological purity. Anouilh regards her youthful lack of perspective as her hamartia.
* In ''Vanities'', Kathy learns the hard way, after losing her boyfriend and her nervous breakdown, that her idea of "an organized life" doesn't work well in adulthood. Then the cast as a whole finds out that their friendship "isn't what it used to be".
* ''CyranoDeBergerac'': At Act II Scene VII, De Guiche offers us a more sophisticated examples than most, when he counsels Cyrano to study Literature/DonQuixote’s chapter of the windmills... [[ForeShadowing implying that Cyrano too will be betrayed by his own idealism]].
* ''ManOfLaMancha'': This is the attitude of the Duke, and of Dr. Carrasco; the character he plays in the ShowWithinAShow.
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* In ''LiveALive'', the former hero Hash has this attitude; he despises people in general for forgetting him after he saved the day, and considers idealistic heroes [[spoiler:like Oersted]] to be stupid. He recants his position [[RedemptionEqualsDeath at the end]], though, and tells [[spoiler:Oersted]] to keep fighting so long as any one person believes in him. [[spoiler:But when the world curbstomps Oersted's idealism too, [[OmnicidalManiac Oersted decides to get revenge.]].]]
* In ''VideoGame/DeusEx'', two semi-major supporting characters are idealistic teenage members of LaResistance helping you battle the AncientConspiracy. By ''VideoGame/DeusExInvisibleWar'', long after their first plans have failed, they have grown up and become the cold-blooded, manipulative dictators of Earth ''and'' the ''new'' leaders of the AncientConspiracy, claiming that they [[IDidWhatIHadToDo did what they had to do]] to preserve human society.
** Also worth noting is that Nicolette and Chad were really only fighting against Majestic-12, NOT TheIlluminati as a whole, so they didn't go on to join the same group they were originally fighting (and their expressed goals didn't change as much as their methods did). If you speak to Nicolette enough in the original game, it becomes obvious that she's not entirely innocent even then (and that she sees her alliance with Chad and Silhouette through very cynical eyes - considering their value as a tool of the Illuminati just like her mother did). Chad, however, may have started out more idealistic, and does give a "I can't believe I was that naive" speech in the second game.
* ''VisualNovel/FateStayNight'''s Archer is a very literal example. He is, literally, [[spoiler:the grown-up version of the WideEyedIdealist main character who followed his ideals and became a hero, gone extremely cynical over the fact that his path towards being a hero is littered with the corpses of those who had to die to keep that ideal.]]
* VideoGame/FinalFantasyVI: when the heroes deliver their lines on what life is, and how love is so important to each of their lives, Kefka responds with "This is pathetic! You all sound like lines from a self-help booklet!" In fact, all his speeches near this scene convey the same message.
* From ''[[JakAndDaxter Jak X]]'':
-->'''Jak''': [[ThePowerOfFriendship I've found out who]] [[TrueCompanions my real friends are]].\\
'''G.T. Blitz''': [[EvilCannotComprehendGood Oh please, the BS meter is really pegging now!]]
* In ''VideoGame/DevilSurvivor'', [[KnightInSourArmor Keisuke]] winds up playing reluctant mentor to [[GenkiGirl Midori]]; she refuses to listen to his warnings partly because he feels this way. Over time, he grows more desperate to convince her ''and'' more cynical, until [[spoiler: he [[FreakOut snaps]] and goes KnightTemplar. This doesn't help convince her that he's ''right'', mind you.]]
* Completely inverted in ''VideoGame/FinalFantasyVIII''. Squall starts off believing that his own cynical, antisocial viewpoints are the correct ones, but as the game progresses and Rinoa and the friends he makes help him both emotionally mature and deal with his mental trauma, he becomes more idealistic.
* [[http://www.zeldauniverse.net/articles/zelda-wii-needs-an-anti-hero/ This article]] claims that, since ''VideoGame/TheLegendOfZeldaTwilightPrincess'' went with a realistic art style, Nintendo ought to have made Link more "realistic", namely, by turning him into an antihero. The author's argument hinges in large part on his assertion that people were "[[FanDumb very disappointed]]" with ''Twilight Princess'' because the realistic art style supposedly ought to have been paired with a non-idealistic hero. The article became HilariousInHindsight because, a mere three days later, ''VideoGame/TheLegendOfZeldaSkywardSword'' was revealed with an art style that was decidedly less realistic than the one in ''Twilight Princess'', with a Link who is just as much of a normal hero as both the one in ''Twilight Princess'' and every other Link.
* In ''LANoire'', veteran Vice Detective [[NobleBigotWithABadge Roy Earle]] says this to [[ByTheBookCop Cole Phelps]] when they discuss the crack down (or lack thereof) on illegal narcotics in the city.
--> '''Roy''': Drugs are prohibited. Doesn't mean people don't want to take them. Limiting supply doesn't mean that we have limited demand.\\
'''Cole''': I understand that. I know that the average Joe needs to unwind a little, let his hair down at the end of the week. But morphine? Heroin?\\
'''Roy''': It's important to demonize hop, Phelps. Looks good in the papers. But when all's said and done, it's just another chemical like booze. A lot of people in high places think we are doing the city a favor by keeping the dope rolling into Central Avenue. Donelly certainly believes we need to keep them anesthetized.\\
'''Cole''': Better jobs and opportunities would go a lot further.\\
'''Roy''': Will you listen to yourself?
* Subverted in ''BackyardSports'' with pretty much every character in there. They may have grown up, but, fortunately they're just as happy as they were when they were younger kids (maybe even more.)
* This exchange in ''VideoGame/DragonAgeOrigins''.
-->'''Protagonist''': What could the teyrn hope to gain by betraying the king?\\
'''Alistair''': The throne? He's the queen's father. Still, I can't see how he'll get away with murder.\\
'''Flemeth''': You speak as if he would be the first king to gain his throne that way. Grow up, boy.
* In ''VideoGame/GodOfWar III'', Kratos has such an exchange with [[WideEyedIdealist Pandora]], telling her hope is for fools. She responds with a plea that hope gives people strength. [[spoiler:Eventually, she proves to be right as Kratos is actually empowered by hope from Pandora's Box.]]
* This little exchange in ''VideoGame/DissidiaFinalFantasy'' between [[VideoGame/FinalFantasyVII Cloud]] and [[VideoGame/FinalFantasyIV Cecil]] in regards to [[VideoGame/FinalFantasyII Firion's]] dream of an ideal world.
-->'''Cecil''': Did Firion give you his answer?\\
'''Cloud''': Yeah. He says he has a dream...and that he'll keep fighting to make it come true.\\
'''Cecil''': Sounds like Firion, sure enough.\\
'''Cloud''': He told you?\\
'''Cecil''': Yes, although he was embarrassed at first. He said he wants to create a world where flowers grow in perpetual peace.\\
'''Cloud''': Sounds so...childlike.\\
'''Cecil''': Honest men have honest dreams.
* Keeper, the boss of the Imperial Agent class in StarWarsTheOldRepublic takes this attitude to Agents who make too many Light Side choices. Not so much that he disapproves in principle, but that he fears that idealism will cause the agent to burn-out.
* Cyrus tells the hero/ine of ''VideoGame/PokemonDiamondAndPearl'' that things like friendship, compassion, and love are just illusions people use to block out [[NietzscheWannabe the horrible reality of their suffering]]. He then comments on the hero/ine [[StealthInsult drawing strength from their compassion]].
* In ''VideoGame/StarcraftII'' this comes up in the cinematic A Better Tomorrow, after the heroes have broken open a prison. [[TheHeart Matt Horner]] claims that the victory was breaking out all the political prisoners. They are fighting to expose Mengsk as a war criminal, build [[TitleDrop a better tomorrow]], and not act of vengeance. [[KnightInSourArmor Tosh]] calls this naive saying that tyranny is only ever succeed by tyranny, and all you can do is fight against the current enemy. Raynor comments that the better future will come, but those fighting out of hate (like him and Tosh) will have no place in it.
* Cody Travers from ''VideoGame/FinalFight'' and later the ''VideoGame/StreetFighter'' series. While it is not actually seen in the games, multiple games tell the story of his downfall, which occur after the ending of the original Final Fight. Cody and his friends go out to save his girlfriend from the ''BigBad'' in Final Fight. On the way, [[BeatEmUp he beats up]] a corrupt cop named Edi, who later arrests the hero for assault in battery. Next, his girlfriend dumps him, and [[PutOnABus leaves the country to study abroad]]. Afterwards, he is let out of jail and tries to get revenge by fighting criminals outside. He gets arrested again, and [[DespairEventHorizon becomes addicted to fighting within prison]]. He then eventually breaks out, and joins the Street Fighting cast in their tournament(s). He usually fights alongside his [[TheLancer best friend Guy]] (who also comes from the final fight series), who is always telling Cody that he is a good person. Cody, however, usually claims that he will never be the hero again, and often states that all he has left is fighting (which he often exclaims is pointless).
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* ''Webcomic/GirlGenius'': [[http://www.girlgeniusonline.com/comic.php?date=20101122 Remember when we had that youthful zeal?]]
* In ''{{Sinfest}}'', [[http://www.sinfest.net/archive_page.php?comicID=1576 Silly fundie, God is for kids!]]
* In ''Webcomic/TheOrderOfTheStick'', [[http://www.giantitp.com/comics/oots0761.html Elan thinks his father is invoking this on him, and says he's often heard it but it hasn't stopped him.]]
-->'''Tarquin''': ''However, isn't this just a little. . . premature?''\\
'''Elan''': ''I've been called that lots of times, but it doesn't stop me from doing what is right. And the word is "immature," Dad. Immature.''
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[[folder:WebOriginal]]
* ''WebVideo/AtopTheFourthWall'' frequently [[DamnedByAFoolsPraise spoofs this attitude]] with the character of [[TotallyRadical 90s Kid]], a [[NoIndoorVoice loud]], [[{{Keet}} obnoxious]] teenage slacker who prefers [[TheDarkAgeOfComicbooks blood, guns, and grittiness]] to actual plot or characterization, considering hope and joy to be "kid's stuff".
* In ''Literature/AngelOfDeath'' good liches are widely considered to be sources of annoyance by others, to the point that Kaburlduth feels the need to protest Bavandersloth's accusation that he is a "do-gooder."
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[[folder:Western Animation]]
* In RobotChicken, TheLorax is taught by "that marketing whore" the Moolah that profit is more important than trying to impart an educational message. Literature/TheCatInTheHat, [[HortonHearsAWho Horton]] and the Sneetches all express similar sentiments.
-->'''The Sneetches''': We tried to teach tolerance and where did that get us? So fuck it, [[StoppedCaring we'd rather make mountains of lettuce!]]
* Grandad from ''TheBoondocks'' shows heavy shades of this.
** Likewise Huey suffers a heavy case of cynicism towards society while Riley is too ignorant to care. In the comic strip, he had Cesar, who was similar to Huey but lacked his extremely jaded ideas. And [=MacGruder=] to make the comic even more cynical has Cesar moving away to deliver the final coup de grace.
* When part of the Justice League is turned into children in the ''JusticeLeagueUnlimited'' episode "Kid Stuff", most of them enjoy it. Green Lantern's having fun conjuring up things, Wonder Woman's having a girly crush on Batman, and Superman's being a bit goofy. Only Batman remains focused and serious, barely changed, and he's the one who eventually wins. When they return to normal, Wonder Woman comments that it was kind of fun being a kid again. Batman responds "I haven't been a kid since I was eight years old".
** That's an unfortunate bit of TruthInTelevision. People who lost a parent to death when they were children often describe it, as adults, as "My childhood ended then." This reaction seems to be most pronounced when the child was between about 7 and 12 when the parent dies.
** An earlier variation shows up in ''WesternAnimation/JusticeLeague'' when Lobo invites himself to replace Superman (who was presumed dead). The team wants no part of him, since he clearly regards superheroics as simply an excuse to bust heads:
--->'''J'onn J'onzz:''' The Justice League is about more than physical power. It's about ideals, caring, helping....\\
'''Lobo:''' Buy me a ticket to Pukesville.
* Resident EmoTeen Zuko from ''WesternAnimation/AvatarTheLastAirbender'' believes that Aang's ideas about peace, pacifism and forgiveness are childish. While [[RousseauWasRight he's proven wrong]] in the case of [[spoiler: Katara's need to avenge her mother]], and admits as much, the question of killing BigBad Ozai is more complicated; [[spoiler: Aang's ultimate non-lethal victory is only made possible by a discovery that some viewers consider a DeusExMachina, before which even Aang's idealistic friends and his previous incarnations argued that killing Ozai would be a NecessaryEvil.]]
** The sequel comics also show that the world doesn't miraculously fix itself overnight after a hundred years of war, and that even with a ReasonableAuthorityFigure on both sides of an issue, there is still room for trouble and moral complexity.
* ''WesternAnimation/BeastMachines'' had [[spoiler: Silverbolt]] from the previous series return half way through. Much to Blackaraknia's dismay, however, he had turned rather sour after being [[spoiler: reprogrammed temporarily by Megatron]] and at first outright sneered at anyone who brought up his [[WideEyedIdealist past point of view]]
-->[[spoiler: '''Silverbolt:''']] "I was a fool then. I believed in things."
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[[folder:Real Life]]
* In American politics, supporters of third-party candidates aren't congratulated for participating in the democratic system and standing up for what they believe in. Instead, supporters of third party candidates like Bob Barr, RalphNader, Cynthia [=McKinney=], Jill Stein and Gary Johnson along with idealistic candidates on both the mainstream parties like Dennis Kucinich and UsefulNotes/RonPaul, are often demonized by moderates on their side of the aisle and belittled by the media, with the justification that "compromise is better than idealism."
** In return, the idealists would fire back that it is simply because the system is "too corrupt" to let anyone who is an honest person, an idealist or anyone that is not a SleazyPolitician to take office.
** This being a classic real-world example of why the gap between idealism and cynicism is actually a grey area in which a lot depends on the outcome. A third-party movement that ''succeeds'' can be an improvement on either party, at least in potential, from the POV of the third-party voters. But if not enough people join in the net result is often to bring about victory for precisely the party that the third-party voters would consider the worse option. Republicans still seethe about conservatives who voted for Perot and effectively elected Clinton, and Democrats often say that the green in 'green party' stands for Get Republicans Elected Every November. Hence, third parties these days tend to be in favor of things like approval voting.
*** The mathematics work out this way because American elections work on the basis of a simple plurality. So if 3% of the voters vote for whom they perceive to be the best party while 48% vote for the second-best and 49% vote for the worst (again, labels are as perceived by the 3% and maybe part of the 48%), well, NiceJobBreakingItHero.
*** The trick here is that altering the election system would require the co-operation of the party or parties in charge, and it's always in their best interest to keep third-parties as shutout as possible.
* The very fact that the SlidingScaleOfIdealismVsCynicism on this wiki was once called the Sliding Scale of Idealism Vs '''''Realism''''' illustrates this trope well.
** Similarly, it's not uncommon on the wiki to read that deconstructions tend to be DarkerAndEdgier because they take existing tropes and genres and play them "true to life" and as realistically as possible, implying that ''life itself'' is inherently dark and edgy.
* In International Relations theory, the two biggest (though by no means only) schools of thought are usually referred to as Liberalism, which believes that [[TheAlliance countries can]] [[WeAREStrugglingTogether work together]] and that [[GoodFeelsGood co-operation either is or should be a priority for countries in almost all circumstances and is mutually beneficial for all concerned]]; and Realism, which is a [[TheCynic rather more cynical take on things]] [[{{Realpolitik}} that suggests all countries are/should be]] [[ItsAllAboutMe out for themselves at all times]], are mutually hostile, and often are [[PretextForWar barely restrained from outright conflict]] at all times. Although realists were the ones who chose the label, so the choice was probably made with this trope in mind to suggest maturity and to downplay the 'silly' or 'naive' idealism of others.
** And in the middle, we have the Rationalist school, which accepts some elements of both theories.
* A political cartoon in 2008 accused John [=McCain=] of pandering to the right wing in his Republican Presidential nomination campaign with his much less moderate views than he had promoted in his 2000 campaign. When asked what happened to the "Straight-Talk Express" [=McCain=] of 2000, the cartoon version of him replied, "He lost."
* More than one Green Party has been torn between those who want policies that completely minimise our carbon footprint and those who want a chance at actually getting power to implement the lightest of said policies. Usually, the extremists have to break off and form a pressure group.
* There's a saying in American politics: "A conservative at the age of twenty has no heart; a liberal at the age of forty has no brain." This was derived from a 19th century remark by a French politician: "A monarchist at the age of 20 has no heart; a republican [small r, as in "believes in a republic"] at the age of 40 has no brain". Of course, these paint conservatism and monarchism as the more mature choices.
* A popular modern Russian saying goes "A pessimist is a well-informed optimist".
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