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->''"If no one touches me -- no one can hurt me. All I have to do is never care."''
-->-- '''Vanyel Ashkevron''', ''[[Literature/HeraldsOfValdemar Magic's Pawn]]''

This is when characters decide that it is indeed better never to have loved than to have [[LoveHurts loved and lost]]. They believe that if they don't feel or care, they can't be hurt. This decision is often initiated by either themselves or someone close to them crossing the DespairEventHorizon, but they choose to take the final step and how to express their despair.

This frequently results in/from them feeling that HopeIsScary, as it threatens their indifference/safety and risks them feeling upset again, requiring them to either give up their defenses or go through the harrowing experience of re-erecting them.

Ice and stone imagery are often included and the character may sing an OdeToApathy.

Characters who choose indifference most often end up as a BrokenBird; SourOutsideSadInside; EmotionlessGirl or IceQueen; they will sometimes be cold or act like jerks on purpose to hide their emotions from both themselves and others while secretly [[DesperatelyCravesAffection Desperately Craving Affection]]. Where they are a significant character, expect a DefrostingIceQueen or BreakTheHaughty plot, teaching them ThePowerOfFriendship or [[ThePowerOfLove love]].

Compare HeroicBSOD and HeroicSafeMode which are more temporary, and DespairEventHorizon, where the character is not actively choosing and maintaining their state. Compare TheStoic who shows little to no emotion for various reasons. Compare/contrast StrawNihilist when their view goes beyond simply their own defence. When a character is worried about physical rather than emotional safety, may overlap with BystanderSyndrome.

See also EmotionSuppression where emotions are removed (often artificially) for a specific reason; either short-term or permanently. See NeverBeHurtAgain for when a character's driving motivation is to never lose the things they care about. See ConditionedToAcceptHorror for when a character simply gets used to the horrible things in their world. See LoveIsAWeakness for when a character considers an emotional connection to be a dangerous vulnerability.

On a different note, see TheFireflyEffect or AudienceAlienatingEnding for when this attitude trips viewers investing in a franchise. Likewise, see TooBleakStoppedCaring for when a story gets too dark for the audience to feel invested in it, and OpeningACanOfClones for when viewers stop feeling tension or investment because they can no longer be certain that a given plot development will have lasting effects on the story's universe.
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[[folder:Anime & Manga]]
* WordOfGod has it that this is why Near from ''Manga/DeathNote'' shut himself off from the world.
* ''Manga/DontToyWithMeMissNagatoro'': Senpai's method to deal with bullying his entire life was, in his own words: "Avoid their gaze, close my heart, and let it pass. So I can't even remember the faces of those people I hated at all". Nagatoro challenges it by virtue of being the ''one'' person he can't ignore.
* Tsukishima Kei of ''Manga/{{Haikyuu}}'' is basically this trope. The reason for his detachment and indifferent attitude towards volleyball is that after a rather traumatic incident with his brother, he came to the conclusion that the more he cares about something, the more he will suffer if he doesn't succeed. He constantly tells himself (and others) that Karasuno is just a club and that anything that happens doesn't really affect him. [[spoiler:[[CharacterDevelopment That all changes]] when he manages to score a point against Shiratorizawa in the third season by blocking [[TheAce Ushijima]]'s spike.]]
* In ''Manga/KaguyaSamaLoveIsWar'', Kaguya's harsh upbringing and natural talents skewed her ability to relate to other people. She unintentionally hurt the feelings of several classmates who she tried to hold to the same standards she was expected to meet, leading to her only friend revealing she was only Kaguya's friend due to her family's orders. Kaguya then chose to isolate herself, as she was both safe from being hurt by others and safe from hurting them.
* In ''Anime/MobileSuitGundamAGE'', [[spoiler:[[BigBad Lord Ezelcant]] claims that this is the way the entire nation of Vagan feels; it's too painful to love others and have relationships when there's a very good chance that either you or those you care about will die young due to an incurable disease]].
* ''Anime/NeonGenesisEvangelion'':
** Shinji Ikari tries to have this attitude due to [[ParentalAbandonment his mother's death and his father abandoning him]], but he isn't very successful at not caring or not getting attached. Having no expectations doesn't protect him from disappointment, and he [[DesperatelyCravesAffection sorely desires]] the human contact he tries to avoid.
** [[spoiler:Gendo]] is revealed to have chosen this route in ''End of Evangelion'' due to his [[NoSocialSkills inability to relate to other people]]. In particular, he feared hurting [[spoiler:Shinji after Yui's death]] and being hurt in turn, so he chose to avoid him for both their sakes. [[spoiler:[[SelfFulfillingProphecy Ironically, it was his abandonment of Shinji that ended up giving the boy one of his deepest emotional scars]]... although considering the job he did of raising [[EmotionlessGirl Shinji's half-sister]], in the very loosest sense of the word, you can't help but wonder if he did kind of have a point.]]
* In ''Manga/OnePiece'', this is the reason for Nico Robin's mannerisms, according to WordOfGod. She used to refer to her crewmates only by nickname or their title rather than their names because she didn't want to get attached to them after being used and betrayed by everyone else she associated with. [[HopeIsScary She even freaked out]] when another character referred to them as her friends. [[spoiler:[[CharacterDevelopment She grew out of it]] when the Straw Hats proved she could trust them by demanding that she allow them to rescue her from the world government's capture.]]
* ''Anime/PuellaMagiMadokaMagica'': This is a large part of Homura's character. [[spoiler:By the time the story begins, she's gone from being a shy girl cursed with [[WhatKindOfLamePowerIsHeartAnyway non-offensive magic]] determined to [[EverybodyLives save all her friends]] from a powerful (but [[EliteMook still killable]]) EldritchAbomination to a BrokenAce (with [[HeartIsAnAwesomePower awesome powers]]) out to [[AlwaysSaveTheGirl just save her very best friend]] from a [[CosmicHorrorStory much bigger problem than anyone knew existed]]. She still cares about that ''one'' friend, but can no longer afford to worry about anyone else.]]
* ''Anime/RevolutionaryGirlUtena'': MAJOR spoiler warning! [[spoiler: Anthy Himemiya is an Exaggerated take on this trope, with her passive, EmotionlessGirl ExtremeDoormat persona being the best defense she can muster against the long, ''long'' list of events that left her a BrokenBird. More insidiously, the BigBad Akio [[ManipulativeBastard deliberately invokes this trope]] to ''keep'' her passive by being her primary tormentor... which is sadly TruthInTelevision regarding DomesticAbuse.]]
* ''[[Anime/YuGiOhFirstAnimeSeries Yu-Gi-Oh! Season 0]]'': In the movie, Shougo is terrible at card games so when he obtains the rare Red-Eyes Dragon he prefers to just brag about it because he's scared he will lose even if he does use it in a duel.
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[[folder:Comic Books]]
* Mary Jane Watson from ''ComicBook/SpiderMan'' often acts as if she doesn't have a care in the world beyond dancing and partying. We later learn that it's largely an act to hide the pain brought on by her [[AbusiveParents abusive father]]. A large part of her CharacterDevelopment is learning that she doesn't have to wear the facade and overcoming the CommitmentIssues associated with it.
* In a heartbreaking scene in ''ComicBook/TheWalkingDead'', Maggie announces to her boyfriend Glenn, "I don't think I'm going to love you anymore" because everyone she cares about in the ZombieApocalypse dies, with a perfectly blank face as though she were announcing that she'd rather not have chicken for dinner. Fortunately, it doesn't last long before she reconsiders.
* ''ComicBook/WonderWoman1942'': After her husband's murder and daughter's abduction by the Nazis Paula decides she can only afford to be indifferent at most to the rest of humanity, her heart can't take any more heartbreak and she's decided that she's willing to damn everyone else to save her daughter Gerta so she cannot care about the many innocents whose lives she's going to ruin by allying herself with the Nazis to keep them from killing Gerta. By the end, she's even come to enjoy some of the sadistic torture she inflicts.
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[[folder:Fan Works]]
* ''Fanfic/{{Brainbent}}'': This is Dave's outlook on life; after being heavily abused by his brother, then shunted into St. Lobaf after Bro was arrested on charges completely unrelated to said abuse, he's convinced that the only way to ensure that he'll NeverBeHurtAgain is by staying safely detached from everything and every''one''.
* ''Fanfic/CatchYourBreath'': Kei is forced to spend a full year being sent on one dangerous mission after another, having next to no contact with any of her friends throughout the whole ordeal. When Minato abruptly admits to her that [[spoiler:all of those missions were ''intentionally'' scheduled that way in order to prevent her from having any downtime between them]], she has a full-on emotional breakdown before shutting said emotions down ''HARD''.
* In ''Fanfic/ConsequencesOfUnoriginality'', the world of Equestria was turned into a hellhole where ponies suffered horrible ordeals so that they could be saved by the Gary Stu hero... forcing Emeris to become ConditionedToAcceptHorror and avoid letting himself get ''attached'' to any of the residents. While he still wants to protect them as much as possible, getting emotionally invested in anyone will only cause him greater pain.
* ''Fanfic/{{Drakonophobia}}'': Petra starts out this way, being a [[TheChosenOne Dragonborn]] whose tramatic experiences at Helgen and the Western Watchtower left her [[WhyDidItHaveToBeSnakes terrified of dragons]]. So she tries to avoid any kind of attachments that could only hurt her further. Alas, she finds that she can't escape them that easily...
* ''Fanfic/{{Eroninja}}'': The Daimyo of the Minor Countries take this attitude towards any issues they have with the Major Countries: as long as they're not impacted ''personally'', they don't care and can't ''afford'' to care. As a result of this prevailing attitude, Toki seriously struggles to get an alliance between them off the ground.
* ''Fanfic/ToForgetIsUnforgivable'': ''Learning Curves'' reveals that Fushiguro forces himself to think of his divine dogs as "just Shikigami" and avoid getting attached because he knows he could lose them at any moment.
* ''Fanfic/FriendlyPrettyCure'': Douleur encourages [[spoiler:Madoka]] to embrace this, trying to help his victim feel as safe and secure as possible without actually doing anything to address the problems overwhelming them.
* ''Fanfic/FrogInAWell'': After finding herself TrappedInAnotherWorld alongside Yuuji and Megumi, Nobara attempts to avoid getting attached to anyone there, knowing that would only hurt everyone involved once they find a way back to their own reality. This leads to her arguing with Megumi over how her friend wants to help out Class 1-A as much as possible, insisting that's not their responsibility.
* ''Fanfic/HatingTheHandLifeHasDealtUs'': {{Implied|Trope}} with Shen Jiu when he tells Nie Huaisang that he simply doesn't ''care'' about the world. Over time, he winds up warming up to those around him, culminating in a full {{Subver|tedTrope}}sion in Chapter 44, the aptly named ''I Don't Understand, What is This Thing Called Happiness?''
* ''Fanfic/TheLionsDen'': Izuru Kamukura is TheFriendNobodyLikes, as all the other members of Ultimate Despair blame him for [[spoiler:Nanami's death]]. According to him, he displays his own despair through extreme apathy.
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[[folder:Film -- Animated]]
* In ''WesternAnimation/BarbieInAChristmasCarol'', this became Catherine's[[note]]The Bob Cratchit character.[[/note]] attitude in [[MeaningfulName "Eden Starling"]]'s[[note]]Look at her initials...[[/note]] BadFuture after she (Catherine) [[spoiler:tried to [[SavingTheOrphanage save the orphanage]] after being fired on Christmas Day]].
-->'''Bad Future Catherine:''' Caring hurt, so I stopped.
* ''WesternAnimation/Frozen2013'': After an incident in her childhood when she accidentally hit her little sister in the head with her ice powers, Elsa detaches herself from her relatives and locks herself in her room, convinced that she should "conceal, don't feel" and is better off alone.
* ''WesternAnimation/{{Hercules}}'': Meg refuses to admit that she may have feelings for Hercules because her previous boyfriend left her when she [[DealWithTheDevil gave her soul to Hades]] [[UngratefulBastard to save his life]].
-->'''Meg:''' Sometimes, it's better to be alone. Nobody can hurt you.
* ''WesternAnimation/{{Zootopia}}'': After a traumatizing event in his childhood, Nick Wilde believes feigning this attitude is better than letting anyone see they "get to him" ever again.
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[[folder:Film -- Live-Action]]
* Rita Vrataski has this attitude in ''Film/EdgeOfTomorrow'' because she was once in control of a GroundhogDayLoop and had to watch someone she cared about (possibly a lover) die over 300 times. She's now a part of the main character's GroundhogDayLoop and distances herself from him to spare him from the same fate.
* Will in ''Film/GoodWillHunting'' is an orphan whose adoptive father used to beat him. He learned to push people away when they get too close because he is afraid the relationship won't work out and they will hurt him. Thus, he falls in love with Skylar and then suddenly breaks up with her because of this. In the end, the psychiatrist, Sean, manages to get through to Will and make him understand that he has an attachment disorder. After fully realizing what he's been subconsciously doing, Will [[CatharticCrying finally allows himself to cry like a child]] in Sean's arms and decides to abandon said behavior.
* Loki in the ''Franchise/MarvelCinematicUniverse''. After the events of ''Film/{{Thor}}'', he desperately tries but fails not to care. He disowns Frigga as his mother in ''Film/ThorTheDarkWorld'', but the words don't come easy, and he becomes a mess after her death. He repeatedly states that Odin is not his father, but is hurt when the latter says that Loki's birthright was to die, DumbStruck when Odin reclaims him as his son in ''Film/ThorRagnarok'' and ready to cry when Odin dies. He shouts that Thor is not his brother, tries to kill him, and then is angry that Thor doesn't visit him in his cell; says that they should part ways but is upset when Thor agrees; [[spoiler:prompts Thanos to torture Thor]] in ''Film/AvengersInfinityWar'' and then can't bear it.
* Kylo Ren in ''Franchise/StarWars''. After a lifetime of feeling abandoned and unwanted by his parents, and thinking his uncle wanted him dead, he has decided to sever all emotional ties and join the dark side. He is cold towards most people and attempts to murder his own parents. It's not exactly working out. Killing his father made his pain ''worse'', he can't bring himself to kill [[EvenBadMenLoveTheirMamas his mother]] and he spends a lot of time in ''Film/TheLastJedi'' reaching out to and confiding in [[TheHero Rey]]. Later, he's almost begging her to join him. At the end of that film, he's completely alone, with both Rey and his mother having given up on him, with no one to blame but himself.
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[[folder:Literature]]
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* The attraction of indifference on both personal and societal levels is an ongoing theme in many of Creator/IsobelleCarmody's books. The protagonists are usually characters who insist on facing the problems and trying to do something about them.
** From ''Literature/TheLegendsongSaga'', [[spoiler:Dark Ember]] is the most obvious, dealing with the knowledge of her dying by pre-emptively withdrawing from life.
** The Stormlord in ''The Winter Door'' is an extreme example, creating a machine and a whole world that drains people of any form of wanting or desire.
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* Nahri in ''Literature/TheDaevabadTrilogy''. As a child, she was often rejected for her uncanny power to sense illness and became a con artist, with the only person she trusted being the doctor who taught her medicine. As a part of the DecadentCourt in Daevabad, Nahri begins to feel that caring about anyone or anything will only result in their destruction before her eyes, and this fear is ''continually'' reinforced, so she tries very hard not to get attached.
* In ''Literature/DateALive'', Mukuro sealed her emotions away completely with her angel (read: weapon) so she could never be hurt again. The result is a scary, amoral spirit who just wants to be left alone and is indifferent to the fate of those around her until Shido unlocks her feelings with Natsumi's angel (transformed to look and work like Mukuro's).
* The virtuous pagans in ''Literature/TheDivineComedy'' live in the First Circle of Hell, where their only punishment is that they live without hope (of Heaven) or fear (of Hell). Even though they sigh and despair for missing Paradise, their fate is infinitely preferable to the eight torture chambers below them.
* Suspected by Shinra to be Izaya's reason for loving all humans in ''Literature/{{Durarara}}''.
* Sousuke of ''Literature/FullMetalPanic'' has developed a severe case of this from his life as a ChildSoldier, never entertaining the idea of where he might be five years in the future because he can't even expect to survive to the end of the day. It's the first thing to go once he starts shedding his "[[DefrostingIceQueen mental permafrost]]", which isn't great for him because he quickly discovers that LoveHurts and HopeIsScary as all hell.
* ''Literature/HeraldsOfValdemar'':
** In ''[[Literature/LastHeraldMageTrilogy Magic's Pawn]]'', Vanyel decides to cut himself off from all emotion as a way of dealing with his emotionally abusive father and his exile to a strange city. This starts to be reflected in RecurringDreams in which he is slowly turning to ice until he eventually opens up to [[ClosetKey Tylendel.]]
** The short story "Medic", based on her FilkSong of the same name, focuses on a combat medic who constantly transfers to new posts to avoid getting familiar enough with anyone to be hurt when they die.
** A general theme is that monarchs, commanders, and others who might have to send soldiers to war have to assume some emotional distance as part of TheChainsOfCommanding. The kings and queens of Valdemar can unburden themselves on a particularly wise Herald, but others have to just cope as best they can.
* The main character of ''Literature/TheMentalState'' lets out a RoaringRampageOfRevenge on the people who raped his girlfriend, but, in doing so, he makes her terrified of him. To cope with becoming a monster in her eyes, he switches off all but the most useful emotions, becoming a sociopath in the process.
* In the ''Literature/MordantsNeed'' books, Terisa Morgan's "fading" is a variation of this which she is able to invoke.
%%* Peter Deveraux in ''Literature/TheNovemberMan''.
* In ''Literature/SailorNothing'', the main character feels like this during a HeroicBSOD.
* ''Literature/TheStormlightArchive'':
** ''Literature/TheWayOfKings2010'': Kaladin tries this to fight his ChronicHeroSyndrome because everyone he tries to help [[DoomMagnet ends up dead]].
** Also in ''Literature/WordsOfRadiance'' Lift mentions that at one point she tried to stop caring, presumably for this reason, but quit because "it wasn't even like being alive".
* ''Literature/TheTalesOfBeedleTheBard'': The warlock in "The Hairy Heart" decides that [[LoveIsAWeakness love is a useless emotion that makes you stupid and weak]], and so cut out his heart and kept it safe, completely immune to the local ladies' attempts to woo him. However, his self-image takes a nosedive after overhearing two servants think of him as lonely and miserable as opposed to wise and aloof.
* ''Literature/{{Uprooted}}'': The [[WizardsLiveLonger centuries-old witch]] Alosha warns Agnieszka that it's best not to care too closely about other people, since they're bound to outlive them all -- and as a great-great-grandmother 67 times over, she has extensive experience in this.
* ''Literature/TheWheelOfTime'': Rand Al'Thor's struggles with TheChainsOfCommanding and the stress of being TheChosenOne lead him to try to {{invoke|dTrope}} this, believing he has to be dispassionate and "hard" to be strong. It only accelerates his SanitySlippage. Ultimately, in his DarkestHour, he [[spoiler:{{defie|dTrope}}s the trope, realizing that [[ThePowerOfLove love is itself a source of strength]]]].
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[[folder:Live-Action TV]]
* Lexa from ''Series/The100'' lost someone close to her once, and decided the only way to get over the pain was to suppress her ability to love, [[LoveIsAWeakness believing it to be a weakness]].
* ''Series/DoctorWho'': At the start of "[[Recap/DoctorWho2012CSTheSnowmen The Snowmen]]", the Doctor is suffering from this. With the Ponds, he has lost one too many companions and he is no longer willing to commit himself to help Earth and humans.
* ''Series/{{Fi}}'': Özge resolves to become apathetic at the start of the second season, having hit rock bottom after the events of season one. Fortunately, it doesn't stick.
* Caitlin Snow in ''Series/TheFlash2014'' believes that indifference is the correct way to go and protect herself after Ronnie's (her ex-fiance and current husband) death, as evidenced by "My once-promising career in bioengineering is over, my boss in a wheelchair for life, the explosion that put you in a coma also killed my fiancé. So this blank expression kind of feels like the way to go. " This trope is {{subverted|Trope}} once Ronnie is revealed to be alive after all and is separated from Martin Stein, regaining the ability to control his own body.
* In ''Series/{{House}}'', this is Dr. Gregory House's MO; he says he only cares about solving medical puzzles and doesn't care about the patients themselves. He [[JerkWithAHeartOfGold almost always ends up caring about the patients]].
* Eliot in ''Series/TheMagicians2016'' runs into this a couple times, most notably when [[spoiler:Quentin suggests they try being together in the main timeline]]. He later admits that [[spoiler:he rejected him not because he didn't want to be with Q, but because he was afraid]].
* In ''Series/{{Sherlock}}'', Sherlock believes this. John doesn't.
-->'''Sherlock:''' Alone is what I have. Alone protects me.\\
'''John:''' No. Friends protect people.
* ''Series/{{Yellowjackets}}'': [[Recap/YellowjacketsS2E7Burial Burial]] Shauna confesses to Lottie that she has always kept her daughter Callie at arm's length because after her experience with [[spoiler:suffering a TragicStilbirth ''as a teenager'' while stranded for months in the wilderness]] she was always afraid Callie would disappear or never be real.
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[[folder:Music]]
* Music/KellyClarkson's song "Breaking Your Own Heart" gives an outside perspective on the problem:
-->''"Too many tears, too many falls\\
It's easier here behind these walls\\
But you don't have to walk in the shadows\\
Life is so hard.\\
You're breaking your own heart\\
Taking it too far down the lonely road."''
* Music/NineInchNails' concept album ''Music/TheDownwardSpiral'' has ArcWords "nothing can stop me now", which appear in the songs "Piggy", "Ruiner", and "Big Man with a Gun". Some iterations allude to the protagonist's unwillingness to counter his own self-destructive impulses; others, however, embody this trope. [[spoiler:Ultimately subverted in "Hurt", in which the protagonist goes out of his way to reconnect with his emotions, though in no less self-destructive a manner.]]
* The first half of "Gotta knock a little harder" by [[Music/YokoKanno the Seatbelts]] is about this. The second half is the same person desperate to break out of that shell and needing help to do so.
-->''"Happiness is just a word to me\\
And it might've meant a thing or two\\
If I had known the difference.\\
Emptiness, a lonely parody\\
And my life, another smokin' gun\\
A sign of my indifference.\\\
Always keepin' safe inside\\
Where no one ever had a chance\\
To penetrate a break in.\\
Let me tell you some have tried\\
But I would slam the door so tight\\
That they could never get in."''
* Music/TheOhHellos' song "Hello My Old Heart" is about this trope.
-->''"Hello my old heart, how have you been?\\
How is it, being locked away?\\
But don't you worry, in there you're safe\\
And it's true, you'll never beat, [[LoveHurts but you'll never break]]."''
* "I am a Rock" by Music/SimonAndGarfunkel explains why the narrator chose indifference. [[AlternateCharacterInterpretation Or tried to, anyway]]; something in the tone of voice implies they're NotSoStoic as they pretend to be...
-->''"And a rock feels no pain;\\
And an island never cries."''
* In Music/BillyJoel's "An Innocent Man", the singer addresses someone like this in the hope of getting them to learn to love again.
* In Music/PinkFloyd's ''Music/TheWall'', after all the crap his life has thrown at him, which includes a [[DisappearedDad dead father]], an [[MyBelovedSmother overprotective mother]], [[SadistTeacher cruel teachers]], and a rather difficult divorce from his wife, Pink comes to this conclusion when completing his personal wall, closing out the first half of the album. Unfortunately, Pink soon realizes during the first song of the second half, "Hey You," that building the wall to shut out the world around him was a big mistake, as the ensuing isolation wastes no time in [[GoMadFromTheIsolation driving him insane]].
-->''"I don't need no arms around me,\\
and I don't need no drugs to calm me!\\
I have seen the writing on the wall,\\
Don't think I need anything at all\\
No! Don't think I need anything at all!\\
All in all, it was all just bricks in the wall!\\
All in all, you were all just bricks in the wall!"''
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[[folder:Podcasts]]
* Taako from ''Podcast/TheAdventureZone'' falls into this a couple of times.
** During "The Stolen Century", he and [[spoiler:Barry]] talk about [[spoiler:the relics and the damage they caused]]. Taako admits he finds it hard to care about this [[spoiler:new world]] and delivers a harsh, angry rant when [[spoiler:Barry]] pushes him on it.
--->'''Taako:''' Everyone I've ever met, aside from the six of you, were just ''dust''. Just talking dust. Okay? So I started worrying a lot more about me because what was the ''fucking'' point.
** After [[spoiler:regaining his memories of Lup and her disappearance]], Taako initially tries to [[spoiler:kill Lucretia]]. When the others talk him down, he just gives up and walks away, and when asked to explain why [[spoiler:Lucretia]]'s plan to [[spoiler:create a shield around the Prime Material Plane to protect it from the Hunger]] wouldn't work, he just quietly says he doesn't care anymore, and that she can do whatever she wants. His reply to Magnus's RousingSpeech is equally heartrending.
--->'''Taako:''' ''[flatly]'' I appreciate what you're trying to do. And I'm on board for whatever the plan is. But understand this; I have nothing, and I don't give a shit. The world is ending, and [[PunctuatedForEmphasis I. Don't. Care]].
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[[folder:Radio]]
* ''Radio/OurMissBrooks'': In the episode ''Trying to Forget Mr. Boynton'', Miss Brooks [[ExactlyWhatItSaysOnTheTin tries to be indifferent and forget about love interest Mr. Boynton]]. [[spoiler:It backfires spectacularly, as [[ColdTurkeysAreEverywhere Miss Brooks sees Mr. Boynton's face on every new person she meets]]. Fortunately, the episode turns out to be AllJustADream.]]
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[[folder:Theatre]]
* Invoked in ''Theatre/JasperInDeadland''. Lethe-brand water makes the citizens of Deadland forget their lives, which makes it much easier to be carefree on account of the fact that nobody has any bad memories, nor can they remember anything worth caring about.
* The song "I'm Not Afraid of Anything" from ''Theatre/SongsForANewWorld'' is about this trope. The singer tells of how she lacks the fears her family and friends have, but by the end, we realize that the reason for her "fearlessness" is that she refuses to get truly close to anyone.
* Fiyero from ''Theatre/{{Wicked}}'' uses a much more upbeat version of this trope, complete with a whole musical number ("Dancing Through Life") cultivating his image as a BrainlessBeauty ("...Life is painless, for the brainless..."), although a later conversation calls him out on it:
-->'''Fiyero:''' Hey! I happen to be genuinely self-assured and deeply shallow.\\
'''Elphaba:''' No, you aren't, or you wouldn't be so unhappy.
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[[folder:Video Games]]
* In ''VideoGame/DisgaeaHourOfDarkness'', Demon Prince Laharl wakes up from a two-year sleep (more like a coma) to find out that his father is dead and that he is now inheritor to the throne of Overlord. Angel Trainee Flonne tries to console him about his father's death, but he brushes it off like nothing, which horrifies her. Later, we learn that [[spoiler:Laharl ignores his emotions -- especially empathy and love -- because of the pain of losing his mother when he was young]]. Laharl actually cares a lot more than he lets on, but acts indifferent both because he hates the pain, and because [[TheChainsOfCommanding he can't look weak as the Overlord]].
* ''Franchise/FinalFantasy'':
** Shadow implies that this is his philosophy in ''VideoGame/FinalFantasyVI'' when he warns Terra that some people kill their own emotions. [[spoiler:Probably because of his guilt over being unable to give his old friend and partner a MercyKill.]]
** This is also Squall's viewpoint throughout most of ''Videogame/FinalFantasyVIII''. After [[spoiler:growing up in an orphanage, and then watching everyone he cared about slowly go away one by one]], he decided that if people were going to die or otherwise leave him alone, it was better to be alone in the first place to avoid the pain of losing them. He intentionally pushes everyone away to avoid developing bonds with them that would hurt to sever. [[spoiler:It takes [[SavvyGuyEnergeticGirl Rinoa]] to break him out of it.]]
* Xane, from ''VideoGame/FireEmblemShadowDragonAndTheBladeOfLight'', is a StepfordSmiler [[OurDragonsAreDifferent Manakete]] who professes to hate humans, at least to the few people he trusts enough to tell he's not human and does his best to avoid forming any sort of connection with them. It's heavily implied in his conversations with Kris that he doesn't really hate humans but is instead closing himself off from them to avoid the pain of having to [[MayflyDecemberFriendship outlive another friend]].
* Kazuaki Nanaki in ''VisualNovel/HatofulBoyfriend'' lost someone years ago, and still felt strongly about them. But as the years went by love soured into a kind of resentment, and he resolved "I think it's better to love everyone around you just enough that you won't regret losing them."
* ''VisualNovel/KatawaShoujo'': Ever since [[spoiler:the death of her father, Emi Ibarazaki]] is deathly afraid of forming close bonds with others. She starts to overcome this trope in the good ending of her route as she learns the value of others' help and companionship.
* ''VideoGame/MegaManStarForce'': In the first game, several characters assume Geo denies wanting to attend school as he's still in shock over the loss of his father. Geo reveals to Mega that he does not want to form bonds with anyone as he fears something would happen that will make him experience the same pain he felt when he lost his dad. After [[spoiler:Pat, who reluctantly but willingly, betrayed Geo in an attempt gain the Andromeda Key]], it sends him into a HeroicBSOD.
* Becca from ''VisualNovel/{{Melody}}'' responded to the pain of her breakup with her former best friend-turned-boyfriend that she shunned social interactions with anyone outside her family.
* Chidori of ''VideoGame/Persona3'' has a shortened lifespan due to her artificial Persona, and copes by having nothing to live for. Until Junpei shows up and breaks through her shell. Now that she has something to care about, she's now afraid to die.
* In ''VideoGame/StarTrekOnline'', this is [[spoiler:Slamek]]'s attitude towards life. He's been a slave for so long, he [[spoiler:betrays the Reman Resistance to Hakeev and the Tal Shiar so that he can continue to live that life rather than join the fight for freedom]].
-->'''[[spoiler:Slamek]]:''' Why would you care about me? No one cares about me. I don't even care anymore. Go away.
* [[spoiler:[[BigBad Flowey the Flower]]]] from ''VideoGame/{{Undertale}}'' seems to feel this way, if his dialogue after sparing him in the [[BittersweetEnding Neutral Ending]] is any clue.
-->'''[[spoiler:Flowey]]:''' Hurts, doesn't it? If you had just gone through without caring about anyone, you wouldn't have to feel bad now.
* ''VideoGame/VampireTheMasqueradeBloodlines'': {{Implied|Trope}} with Trip the pawnbroker, who works the night shift in a vampire-infested city and has a working relationship with multiple human [[TheRenfield ghouls]]. His gripes about the worsening state of Los Angeles have hints that he's at least somewhat aware of the {{Masquerade}} but chooses to remain an {{Apathetic Citizen|s}}.
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* Lucinda Potter, the first mate of the villain crew in ''Webcomic/{{Archipelago}}'', has made a DealWithTheDevil to never feel anything again [[spoiler:after a certain man seduced her, promised to come back to her, but never did, which broke her heart]].
* This is why Arianna of ''Webcomic/{{Castoff}}'' plays up her NoSocialSkills. Having lost ''everyone'' she held dear, she's just tired of caring and generally angry at the world.
* ''Webcomic/DumbingOfAge'': This trope is how Joe [[https://www.dumbingofage.com/2017/comic/book-7/04-the-do-list/shallow/ tries to explain himself to Joyce]] after his 'do' list gets leaked.
* ''Webcomic/ILoveYoo'': Rand presumably cares more about his children than he lets on, however, he pretends to be apathetic towards them as a way to prevent Yui from harming them.
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* ''WebVideo/DreamSMP'': In Week 5 of his 'lessons' with Slime (in the fourth "Las Nevadas" stream), Quackity preaches to "[c]reate no emotional attachments to anything [because] everything gets destroyed". Considering one of the examples he uses to illustrate this was him and El Rapids being "abandoned", it carries strong indication that he feels this way as a result of his TraumaCongaLine prior to [[DespairEventHorizon this arc]]... [[spoiler:though granted, he's a massive {{hypocrite}} in saying he lacks emotional attachment, and [[DefrostingIceQueen he gets better eventually]].]]
* ''WebVideo/PiratesSMP'': Following the Whirlpool investigation of Day 36, in which [[spoiler:the mysterious Corruption is released and everyone watches Aimsey die in front of them]], Acho decides to get absolutely wasted, and what star says about the incident epitomizes this. Star gradually does begin to recover from this state later in the series, and has a [[DarkAndTroubledPast perfectly understandable reason]] for holding and reinforcing such an attitude as of and after the Whirlpool incident.
-->'''Acho:''' And everything is okay and fixed and will be good forever, and… we never lost anyone, because first, we would have to care about people to lose them, so let's just… play it safe.
* In ''WebVideo/SwordArtOnlineAbridged'', Kirito comes to this conclusion in Episode 3, after losing his first real friend and after an item rumored to be able to bring people back from the dead turns out to be [[AndYourRewardIsClothes "a goddamn hat"]]. Much of his CharacterDevelopment over later episodes comes from this sentiment interacting with the ChronicHeroSyndrome he developed from the same loss.
-->'''Kirito:''' But I do suppose I should thank you. You made me realize that by being nice and letting people in... they'll just die. ''[{{beat}}]'' But still, thank you for showing me that there is a part of me that can feel like this. Because now that I know where to find it, [[NeverBeHurtAgain I've killed it forever]]. So thank you. Thank you for freeing me.
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* ''Franchise/CareBears'':
** This is one of the many things that the Care Bears are trying to prevent by encouraging others to share their feelings.
** This is the theme of ''WesternAnimation/CareBearsInTheLandWithoutFeelings''. A young boy named Kevin is so upset about moving and leaving his old neighborhood and best friend behind that he decides it's better not to care about anything or have any friends anymore. He runs away and is found by Professor Coldheart, who promises he can make that happen.
--->''But, wait, here comes the best part!\\
I'll freeze your feelings cold as ice\\
And kill your cares! Ooh, that sounds nice!\\
''[...]''\\
I've heard you've been complaining\\
There's no need to cry or whine\\
I'll refrigerate those feelings\\
Why, I found you just in time!''
* This uncharacteristically dark lyric from [[VileVillainSaccharineShow Starlight Glimmer]]'s VillainSong in the ''WesternAnimation/MyLittlePonyFriendshipIsMagic'' episode "[[Recap/MyLittlePonyFriendshipIsMagicS5E1TheCutieMapPart1 The Cutie Map – Part 1]]", explaining how her {{cult}} effectively enforces numb conformity by [[TallPoppySyndrome removing the pony's talents magically]] and with threats of being locked in a cell to have propaganda blared at them for even the slightest infraction.
-->''In Our Town, in Our Town, we work as a team,\\
You can't have a nightmare if you never dream!''
* ''WesternAnimation/RickAndMorty'': This is the main reason Rick is as heartless as he is. Even if you ignore the countless amount of people and creatures that die whenever he's around, having access to TheMultiverse makes attaching to people borderline impossible, what with the fact that there's trillions of copies of them out there that are, for the most part, identical.
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* In the [[https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attachment_in_adults attachment theory]] as applied to adults, the "I actually desire closeness, but I'm better off alone because I'm afraid to be hurt" stance is the hallmark of the ''fearful-avoidant'' style that may develop as a response to trauma. If it's Trauma with a capital "T", avoidance of relationships and sense of alienation may be a symptom of [[https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Posttraumatic_stress_disorder Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder]] or its [[https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Complex_post-traumatic_stress_disorder Complex form]].
* Rather common in [[ShellShockedVeteran military units seeing active combat]], especially in wars where high casualty rates are expected. Losing TrueCompanions ''hurts'', so the soldiers stop caring about anything -- the NewMeat in particular, as their loss will hurt less if they were just a face rather than a FireForgedFriend.
* People suffering from [[http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Avoidant_personality_disorder Avoidant Personality Disorder]] live by this trope. Although they desperately desire their own set of TrueCompanions, their fear of rejection by others is so great that they decide against trying to form interpersonal relationships in the first place.
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