''Sometimes absence makes the heart fonder than its object deserves. . . .''

Jane is delighted to meet someone again. Perhaps it's Jill, her Best Friend Forever in school; perhaps it's Jack, whom she was engaged to, and whom [[IWillWaitForYou she has waited for]].

Within minutes of their meeting, she realizes this is a big mistake. One or both of them have changed too much, or she realizes things she had never seen before, or it becomes apparent that [[WantingIsBetterThanHaving the reality does not live up to the fantasy]]. In an inversion of ObliviousToLove, Jane may realize that she has long fallen out of love, and quite often, that she was ObliviousToLove in a third character.

Tends to be treated far more sympathetically than AbsenceMakesTheHeartGoYonder. Inverse of NewOldFlame.

Compare GrowingUpSucks if the two met as children.

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* An episode of ''RumicTheater'' has a man being invited to a school reunion by a girl he remembers having a crush on, and who might just have reciprocated, but he was transferred out before he could learn the truth. His current married life is...disappointing, and he fantasizes about having a fling while simultaneously realizing how unlikely that would be.
** At the reunion he meets the woman who reveals that she ''did'' have a crush on him, and is conveniently recently divorced...and is now grossly overweight, not one bit pretty and a sloppy drunk. He decides to bail out early. [[spoiler: On his way to the train, the man meets the actual girl he was thinking of (both women have the same given name) who is just as pretty and likeable as he remembers...and is happily married with several children who made her late for the reunion. He returns home somewhat heartened and determined to make his own marriage work.]]
* ''Anime/{{Patlabor}}'': In the New Files series, it's revealed that Takeo Kumagami once had a relationship with [[spoiler: [[AffablyEvil Richard Wong.]]]] This naturally leads to a confrontation between the exes, just before he makes his escape. [[spoiler: Wong]] [[{{Troll}} trolls]] her by pretending to give himself up, because of his feelings for her. She falls for it, he [[BridalCarry scoops up her up]], [[CrowningMomentOfFunny then dumps her... in a laundry basket]] and runs off. Needless to say, Kumigami considers them [[ShipSinking DONE.]]
* A chapter of ''Manga/HighSchoolGirls'' has Takahashi going to her grade school reunion only to find that her old crush has grown fat, ugly and arrogant.
* One chapter of ''Manga/SayonaraZetsubouSensei'' shows two women who'd fought over a guy in high school. He turns out to have become a hugely overweight slob and they reconcile.
* ''[[Anime/QueensBlade Queen's Blade]]'': Echidna and Irma [[MayflyDecemberRomance once had a relationship]], during the time [[TeacherStudentRomance Echidna was Irma's mentor.]] But, for reasons unknown, Echidna abandoned her without a word of explanation, or even a goodbye. When she showed up again, years later, thinking she could pick up where she left off, Irma let her know - [[WomanScorned in no uncertain terms]] - that ''that ship'' had sailed.

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* In Creator/PGWodehouse's ''A Damsel In Distress'', Maud meets her beloved Geoffrey -- who's turned fat and obsessed with food, and her heart is breaking at the thought she has pledged herself to him, when he gets a break of promise suit served on him. She goes off to find the man who helped her meet him and propose marriage.
* In DorothyLSayers's ''[[LordPeterWimsey Gaudy Night]]'', Harriet Vane goes to Gaudy Night to meet an old school friend. Within minutes, they are making painfully polite inquires about the other's life, and Harriet is thinking it's terrible, and she should never have come.
* In LMMontgomery's ''Literature/ATangledWeb'', used twice.
** Jocelyn left her husband on her wedding night because she had fallen in LoveAtFirstSight with the best man. When he returns and is not the stuff of romantic dreams, she reconciles with her husband.
** When Noel has jilted Gay to take up with Nan, and Nan has jilted him in turn, he comes back to Gay. She realizes how false he is, and laughs.
* Eva Ibbotson's ''Dial-a-Ghost'' has the son of the ghost family portrayed with a long term crush on a Cynthia Harbottle. When she turns up as a ghost in the final chapter, she is old, plump and selfish.
* In Creator/EdgarRiceBurroughs's ''[[JohnCarterOfMars Fighting Man of Mars]]'', Tan Hadron has this twice: the first time, he convinces himself that the woman is just dispirited from her captivity, but the second time, he realizes the truth and repulses her.
* In JackCampbell's ''TheLostFleet'' series, an old love of Captain Desjani is one of the prisoners they rescue. Desjani soon realizes that he changed in the prison camp, and he starts to have an affair with a subordinate, for which he was transfered.
** In ''Dreadnaught'', [[spoiler:Rione]] has more than a touch of this with her husband, long a prisoner of war.
* In MichaelFlynn's ''[[Literature/SpiralArm The January Dancer]]'', Hugh finds that {{Fire Forged Friends}}hip faded over time, and one such friend resents his return.
* In Creator/PGWodehouse's ''Jill The Reckless'', Jill had deliberately thrown herself into work, far from Derek, to recover from him, and just before the meeting, noted that it had worked. Nevertheless, meeting him again reinforced that.
* In Creator/RobertAHeinlein's ''IfThisGoesOn --'', John's DearJohnLetter inspires brief agony before Maggie asks him to remember the girl, and he realizes that she had not impressed herself on his memory.
* In Nick Hornby's ''Literature/HighFidelity'' the main character has never really got over Charlie, the girl that broke up with him at university. When he meets up with her again years later, it takes a few hours for him to come to the conclusion that "Charlie's awful".
* In Creator/KatherinePaterson's ''Of Nightingales That Weep'', at the end of the novel, Takiko's ugliness from hard work in the outside instantly repel a man who had been attracted to her beauty.

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* ''Series/HowIMetYourMother'': After years of searching, Ted found the "Slutty Pumpkin," a girl he fell in love with at a party but he never saw again. Both Ted and the girl found the relationship awkward, but neither wanted to break it off because they thought the other person was into the relationship.
* ''{{Friends}}'': Monica's situation, when she runs into her [[{{FirstLove}} Richard]] after a painful break up several years before. Her boyfriend [[{{SecondLove}} Chandler]], freaks out, thinking she's still crazy about Richard, but Monica's first reaction is that she feels nothing for Richard anymore and there are NoSparks.(Of course convincing [[{{InsecureLoveInterest}} Chandler]] of this, is a whole other mission.)
* ''{{Shameless}}'' (US version): Fiona starts flirting with the guy she had a crush on in high school, but once the have a very awkward sexual encounter Fiona doesn't feel the same anymore.
* This happens for Scully in ''Series/TheXFiles'' in episode "[[AllLowercaseLetters all things]]". In medical school, she had an affair with a professor. Once she found out he was married, she was horrified and left her medical career to join the FBI. Ten years later, she runs into this professor, who is in the hospital for a heart condition. She is understandably perplexed as to why he's in Washington D.C., and he explains that his wife is now dead and he's come to invite her to run away with him. However, Scully is now ten years older, wiser, and has a life of her own now. It's an episode that is a major reality check for Scully about where her life has gone and what it could have been. In the end, she [[spoiler: turns down the offer and realizes she ''likes'' the way her life has turned out. This also marks the start of Mulder and Scully's sexual relationship. Probably.]]

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* Music/GarthBrooks:
** "Every Time That It Rains" tells of a romantic encounter between the narrator and a waitress. They try to go for a second date but it's just not the same and they decide to be just friends.
** In "Unanswered Prayers," he meets his high-school crush years later, after he's married, and realizes that he's glad he didn't end up with her.

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* In TheMusical of ''Literature/ATreeGrowsInBrooklyn'', Cissy is disappointed when she meets up again with her first husband.

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* In ''BlueYonder'', [[http://www.blueyondercomic.net/comics/1610977/blue-yonder-chapter-2-page-28/ meeting another superhero again means discovering it's been reprogrammed, and likes it.]]
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