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->''"It's funny. [[LampshadeHanging Every crook I meet wants to tell me how much I'm just like them]]."''
-->-- '''Edward Elric''' to '''Psiren''', ''Anime/FullmetalAlchemist''

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''We're not so different, you and I. In another time, another place, I might have called you friend!''

Two characters who seem radically different turn out to have more in common than they would like to believe.

As a good thing, the frequent resolution of an EnemyMine or LockedInAFreezer plot: two enemies learn that there is [[SympatheticPOV more that unites them]] than divides them. The punch line to about 50% of plots in an OddCouple or OddFriendship series.

As a bad thing, the realization that our hero is really just a hair's breadth away from villainy. In these cases, it's almost always the ''villain'' who is the first to notice: our hero has him cornered and even seems to ''[[EvilTastesGood relish]]'' the prospect of finally ridding himself of his nemesis, and the villain deftly points out, "We're not so different after all." The hero realizes [[IfYouKillHimYouWillBeJustLikeHim how close he is to crossing the line, and spares the villain]] (though every once in a great while, he'll decide that it's worth crossing the line, off the villain anyway, and then have several episodes of moral anguish over the darkness in his soul: see ShootTheDog). Especially common when the villain is the hero's EvilCounterpart.

Also a bad thing when the bad guy points it out after the hero has bested him through questionable tactics. Often followed by the hero's hysterical protests along the lines of, "I'm not like you! I'll never be like you!" Occasionally followed by the hero's observation that they are different, because of some other aspect that the opponent overlooked or intentionally ignored. However, the hero sometimes has some snappier comeback, like "You noticed?" or "That's why I can beat you," and worries about the differences later - or a comment that the dog that protects the flock is a very close relative of the wolf that ravages it. Then again, a simple "{{shut up|Hannibal}}" can work wonders. Another common rebuttal might be for the hero to acknowledge that they share some similarities, but are sufficiently different where it ''counts''; not all similarities are equal.

When the villain who believes this also believes that the hero denies it because he is a SlaveToPR, he often sets up WhatYouAreInTheDark to get the hero to act like it. The failure rate for this approach is...high.

Please note when heroes use this to confront a WellIntentionedExtremist or a KnightTemplar as [[WhatTheHellHero to call them out.]] Being compared to their enemy will often trigger their BerserkButton.

Sometimes goes hand-in-hand with a DoubleAesop, YouCouldHaveUsedYourPowersForGood / Evil, WeCanRuleTogether, or HeWhoFightsMonsters. Can also be phrased, "You would have made a good thief / [[ProfessionalKiller assassin]] / [[Franchise/StarTrek Klingon]] / [[StarWars Mandalorian]] / [[Series/DoctorWho Dalek]] / [[Series/BabylonFive Minbari]] / [[DrPediaAndMrTrope Troper / Wikipedian]]."

If the audience notices this yet no one else does than that meant that the story either has a DesignatedHero or DesignatedVillain.

Compare YourApprovalFillsMeWithShame, where the villain outright compliments the hero on his DirtyBusiness.

Compare and contrast SympathyForTheDevil and SympathyForTheHero. Sometimes, the difference is only that the heroes are ALighterShadeOfGrey. HitlerAteSugar is when this trope becomes a logical fallacy based on the idea that sharing ''any'' similarity with someone 'evil', no matter how minor, makes the sharer just as evil. This trope also happens to be a staple of many a BreakThemByTalking. Can also come with much FoeYay.

Contrast CommonalityConnection.

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* NotSoDifferent/TabletopGames
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* NotSoDifferent/{{Toys}}
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* NotSoDifferent/VisualNovels
* NotSoDifferent/WebComics
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