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So you're playing a game [[DeusSexMachina that]] [[DatingSim for whatever]] [[ThePowerOfLove reason]] [[LevelUpAtIntimacy5 rewards you for pursuing a romantic partner.]] All well and good: increasing RelationshipValues that have beneficial effects, some [[LevelUpAtIntimacy5 game-mechanical in nature]], [[OptionalSexualEncounter others less so]], has a long and time-honored place in games about relationships.

But what happens if you get these bonuses for [[TheCasanova seducing everyone who's even mildly interested in you,]] rather than developing a single intense relationship?

In these games, the ultimate path to power involves rolling every relationship up into a massive LoveDodecahedron, [[VideoGame/KatamariDamacy Katamari]] style, effectively turning the player character into a HaremSeeker.

Remember that this isn't limited to romantic relationships. If getting your friends to trust you results in gameplay benefits, that's this trope as well.

This is basically gameplay-motivated {{Polyamory}}. Often a GameBreaker. See also YouLoseAtZeroTrust.

Not to be confused with FriendsWithBenefits.



[[folder: Dating Sim ]]

* In ''VideoGame/SentimentalGraffiti'': The more girls you meet and the more relationships you cultivate results in more memories being unlocked, which in turn increases your stamina, allowing you to do more things. (However, you are only allowed to have one date at any given time, and can only confess your feelings to one girl at the end of the game.)


[[folder: Role Playing Game ]]

* In ''VideoGame/ThousandArms'', your RelationshipValues with each girl determines what spells and abilities can be given to your weapons. You need those spells to survive the later stages of the example. For example, if you don't get a more powerful Heal spell, later enemies will hurt you faster than you can heal.
** The actual value of the MoreFriendsMoreBenefits in this game is dubious though, because you need Master Points to be able to go on dates and imbue weapons with spells, and by the time you do all the level grinding necessary to give even one character every spell, they've essentially ceased to be useful.
* ''[[Franchise/ShinMegamiTenseiPersona Persona]]'':
** ''VideoGame/{{Persona 3}}'': Nearly every female Social Link winds up becoming of a romantic nature, and since maxing out each Social Link allows you to create the best Persona of that Link's Arcana... yeah. The game ''does'' punish you if you try to, erm, "level up" two girls at the same time (they get jealous), but once you hit max Rank and create an "unbreakable bond" you are free to resume building your harem.
** One of the improvements ''VideoGame/{{Persona 4}}'' made on this system was to add the ''option'' whether or not to pursue a romantic relationship with any of the available girls, complete with a warning if you were about to move beyond friendship -- especially if you already had a girlfriend. (You could still end up two-timing if you wished, though if you attempt such a thing [[spoiler:you suffer absolutely no negative consequences... if you're playing the original and not the ''Golden'' remake. Otherwise...]])
** The female MC of ''Persona 3 Portable'' defaults to JustFriends with various potential {{Love Interest}}s, but can move into romance via a GuideDangIt set of choices.
** As expected, ''VideoGame/{{Persona 5}}'' gives you the option to romance up to ''nine'' women at once, and because of the effects of the calendar mechanic, some of those romances ''will'' be initiated simultaneously. Doing so is consequence-free for nearly all of the game, right up until [[spoiler: the day after Valentine's Day, and you're inevitably caught by all of them at once, which...[[{{Understatement}} doesn't end well]]]]. It should be noted that, as with its predecessor, most players ''don't'' choose to go the harem route.
* Similarly, the {{RPG}} / DatingSim ''Brave Soul'' gives each party member [[LevelUpAtIntimacy5 Level Ups]] as you pursue them romantically. Once you have sex with one, though, no more dates (and thus level-ups at Intimacy 5) can be pursued with any other girl... Thus rewarding the pursuit of all of them before finally choosing your girl.
* The newer ''VideoGame/FireEmblem'' games [[LevelUpAtIntimacy5 give you bonuses for developing relationships]], and while a character can only have one ''A''-rank relationship, if you surround them with their A, and the rest Bs, they become an unstoppable weapon of destruction. It's effective to the point that people have created charts detailing how to arrange and [[{{Shipping}} ship]] your army in order to get optimal stats. [[StopHavingFunGuys Many of the relationships make little-to-no sense]], [[GameplayAndStorySegregation in-character]].
** In [[VideoGame/FireEmblemTheBindingBlade the]] [[VideoGame/FireEmblemTheBlazingBlade GBA]] [[VideoGame/FireEmblemTheSacredStones games]], Supports are predetermined and not all end in actual relationships, just friendships or deeper backstory.
** In all games before ''[[VideoGame/FireEmblemRadiantDawn Radiant Dawn]]'' to use the support system, you're limited to a total of five support conversations. You can only have one A and one B, or two B's and a C, etc. In ''Radiant Dawn'', you're only allowed 1 support per character and it can be with any other character. (However, you can delete and change said support if you wish.)
** ''[[VideoGame/FireEmblemAwakening Awakening]]'' removes all limits on how many supports you can have, even A-level supports. ''[[RankInflation S]]''-level supports, on the other hand... you only get one of those. [[spoiler:And it can result in babies.]] This new system is retained for ''[[VideoGame/FireEmblemFates Fates]]''.
* ''VideoGame/ExaPico'':
** ''VideoGame/ArTonelicoMelodyOfElemia'' isn't a heavy offender on this -- for starters, because it only has two normal love interests and a secret one -- but there's points in the game where you're forced to use the girl ''besides'' the one you're focusing on romantically, and if you haven't at least gone through the motions with the other girl, the game suddenly gets harder and more tedious.
** ''VideoGame/ArTonelicoIIMelodyOfMetafalica'' is a bit better about this. While the first allows you to go through the entire cosmopshere of each girl complete with the concluding levels that are basically marriage ceremonies, the second only allows you to progress past the halfway mark with one girl, and choosing to do this irreversibly locks you in to her ending.
** ''VideoGame/ArTonelicoQogaKnellOfArCiel'' reverses it, though. While you can't complete everyone's Comsosphere, you can go most of the way (and complete one if you turn down her confession). It does, however, fit more strongly than the first game in other ways: the girls can turn into ''other'' girls this time, and how deep you've Dived determines [[BestKnownForTheFanservice how much they'll strip for you in battle]]. (ItMakesSenseInContext.)
* If you want your entire team to survive ''VideoGame/MassEffect2'''s suicide mission, you're advised to obtain their loyalty by doing each party member's personal {{sidequest}}. However, you can only ''date'' one of them. Note also that they receive an extra ability once they are loyal, so it has more direct benefits.
** Well, date one of them plus Kelly, who will then feed your fish for you.
* ''VideoGame/FallenLondon'' has quite a bit of this, particularly if you focus on your Persuasive skills. In some cases it's actually harder to ''avoid or get out'' of a relationship than to start one, sometimes requiring... [[VideoGameCrueltyPotential creative measures]] to express non-interest.
* In the RPG-DatingSim hybrid ''VideoGame/SakuraWars'' series, each character's combat stats are dependent on her relationship with the player character. Been neglecting one of the girls? Hope you weren't banking on her being any help to you in the next boss battle.
* While most of the relationships aren't romantic, gathering Brotherbonds in the ''VideoGame/MegamanStarForce'' series increases your link power, which allows you to have more stat/ability bonuses. The effort needed in order to get a Brotherbond decreases as the series goes on. In the first game, getting one is a story event, which first occurs roughly a third of the way through the game, while in the third you get them from virtually every NPC who gives you a sidequest.
* In ''VideoGame/StarWarsTheOldRepublic'' you have companion Affection which you gain by saying things your companions like and giving them expensive gifts. The benefit is a significant time reduction in how long companion missions take, more chance of a critical result, and a slight improvement in their combat effectiveness.
* Nonromantic example: in the original ''VideoGame/NeverwinterNights'' game, talking to your henchman or -woman every few levels will get them to increasingly open up about themselves, and solving a little sidequest for them (usually by simply handing them a PlotCoupon you've found) pays off in the form of a magic item they'll give you. What makes it an example of this trope is that with enough gold you can hire on ''all'' of them (all but one conveniently hang out in the same inn originally), then leave all but the one you really want at the moment behind and simply revisit them every so often to get the exact same subplot advancement benefits from each as though every single one had been adventuring with you all the time.
* ''VideoGame/RakenzarnTales'' is planned to have 15 different dating prospects, each providing their own stat boosts, items or even new moves for dating them. However, dating both Yuffie and Dark Magician Girl leads to them having a minor squabble in Chapter 8, suggesting that there will be consequences for trying to hook up with that many girls.
* A minor example in ''VideoGame/{{Lunarosse}}'', as there are only two relationships to build. This is a more plausible example in that only one of the relationships is romantic in nature while the other is platonic ([[IncompatibleOrientation much to the other person's frustration]]).
* ''VideoGame/Fallout4'' gives you a permanent and unique Perk if you manage to impress a companion enough for them to idolize you, some of them quite powerful - damage reduction when you're outnumbered by foes, a better chance of landing a headshot, and so on - so it's worth it to build up your relationship with as many companions as possible. Which can result in a very strange playthrough, since these characters have very different, if not outright contradictory, ways of earning their approval. You don't ''have'' to enter a full-blown romance with every companion to get their perks, and indeed some are unromanceable, but since {{Polyamory}} is apparently an accepted part of life in the wasteland, the only downside comes if you're brazen enough to flirt with someone in front of another paramour, costing you approval points with them. Of course, four companions are tied to specific factions in the game, most of which hate each other, so it's almost impossible to get ''every'' possible companion perk.
* In ''VideoGame/SidMeiersPirates'', every port city in the Caribbean has a Governor's daughter whom the player character can court for a series of quest rewards. Although he can only marry one, he can still have AGirlInEveryPort and get those quest benefits (in an [[IThoughtItMeant entirely literal sense]]) from each and every one.


[[folder: Simulation Game ]]

* In ''VideoGame/TheSims 2'', if you choose the romance aspiration for your sim, one of their goals will be to "woohoo" with twenty different sims, which gives you points. It's even possible through very careful planning to juggle that many relationships ''at the same time''. Heaven help you if you get caught cheating, though.
** ''The Sims 3'' makes it even harder: the entire town exists, rather than separately loaded lots, and to make matters worse, if you get the ''Late Night'' ExpansionPack, ''rumors will spread''. They don't even have to be true!
** A non-romantic example is the necessity to befriend people to get job promotions, a mechanic that has existed in all three games. However, it varies between jobs (the Slacker career introduced in Night Life almost entirely revolves around making friends instead of building skills), and while in the first two games you could befriend anyone and it would count, in the third it's changed so that you need to build your relationship with your boss and/or co-workers specifically.
** In ''VideoGame/TheSimsMedieval'' there's an achievement for [[WhatsUpKingDude making 25 friends with the Monarch]], as well as quest objectives that go better, or only work at all, when your Sim's relationship with the other one is good.
* The original ''VideoGame/HarvestMoon'' and ''VideoGame/HarvestMoon64'' rewarded you in the final evaluation if you had all five of your potential brides at Red Heart level (and the original gave you a "Ladies Man" ending if you didn't marry any of them.) In fact, in [=HM64=], you had to have a certain level of friendship with the other brides to get them to marry their alternate suitors. (And in Karen's case, keep her from leaving town). Later games eliminated this by locking down affection points once you got married. Friendship was a separate score and still counted.
* Done with a non-romantic variation in ''VideoGame/GalaxyAngel''. While it is better for you to build and maintain good rapport with all the Angels under your command, you can only ever specifically romance one member throughout the game and its sequels. That being said, it is still not a good idea to make others lose their trust at you, because this directly translates into poorer performance during the Real-Time Tactics segment[[labelnote:*]]Of course, this is moot if you modify the game to skip such segments, automatically making the game assume you "win" each time[[/labelnote]].


[[folder: Stealth Based Game ]]

* In order to get HundredPerCentCompletion of ''VideoGame/MetalGearSolidPeaceWalker'', it's necessary to complete the date with both Paz and Kaz, and certain Extra Ops won't unlock until you do; they also both yield various useful items, some of which can only be obtained by achieving maximum affinity with them. Ironically, the prize for successfully seducing Paz (the girl) is Big Boss's fanservice outfit, but the prize for successfully seducing Kaz (the man) is a bikini for the female characters. Since Big Boss dating a man causes mass {{Squick}} with [[FanDumb certain fanboys]], it's not uncommon to hear the instructions for obtaining the Patriot blueprints euphemistically described as 'knock out and pat down the lone soldier in Extra Ops 68'. Dating them doesn't impact on the plot or change the relationship between Snake and the character at all, but since the dates are only unlocked by completing the main story, this isn't unusual.


[[folder: Tabletop Games ]]

* The only stats you have in ''TabletopGame/BlissStage'' ''are'' RelationshipValues - if you can get high-Intimacy, high-Trust relationships in most of LaResistance, you're unstoppable in your EmpathicWeapon HumongousMecha.
** Likewise in ''VisualNovel/BlissStageLoveIsYourWeapon''. If you manage to get the stable triangular relationship - [[spoiler:the one where Josh, Anna and Meredith are all partners -]] you have TWO pilots, each with TWO weapons at [[InfinityPlusOneSword maximum power]]!
* In ''TabletopGame/MaidRPG'' most player characters can benefit from both seducing and being seduced (this doesn't have to mean anything sexual in context); in general, affection keeps you going. In the less competitive games where players aren't trying to manipulate each other, the rulebook explicitly states the rules limiting seduction attempts and mandating some form of resistance (and encouraging things to go very awkwardly ''wrong'') are an attempt to prevent - well, this.


[[folder: Turn Based Strategy ]]

* In ''VideoGame/RecordOfAgarestWar'' it is possible, [[GuideDangIt through judicious use of a guide]], to have all 3 love interests at intimacy 5 at the end of each generation. You can still only marry one, but having all of them at level 5 lets you choose any bride.
* ''VideoGame/SengokuRance'' is essentially MoreFriendsMoreBenefits on steroids. And for good reason, too befriending (for males)/romancing (for females) the LoadsAndLoadsOfCharacters nets you most everything for a particular character: personal powerup, squad powerup, H-scenes (girls only, naturally) and backstory. Some characters start as TheLoad and can be turned into {{Game Breaker}}s.
* [[SuperMode HDD]] and [[LimitBreak SP Moves]] in ''VideoGame/HyperdevotionNoireGoddessBlackHeart'' use a gauge that can only be filled by your [[YuriGenre all-female army trading power-up kisses.]] The quickest way to fill it is to have 2 or 3 characters kiss the active one at once. In addition, the [[OneHundredPercentCompletion platinum trophy]] requires you to max all the characters' RelationshipValues with all the other characters.


[[folder: Wide Open Sandbox ]]

* In ''VideoGame/GrandTheftAutoSanAndreas'', CJ's girlfriends each have their own bonuses for dating them. There is a cop who lets CJ keep his money and weapons after getting arrested, a nurse who does the same if he becomes incapacitated (even if the incident doesn't happen in the ladies' jurisdictions), a mechanic who fixes and paint his cars for free (but only if you go to her garage in San Fierro), and a few others with minor bonuses. At some point you can even drive your girlfriends' cars, despite the fact that they're never returned in one piece (if at all.) Dating one of the girls is necessary to complete the game; the rest are optional.
** Niko Bellic can do the same thing in ''VideoGame/GrandTheftAutoIV'', though his girlfriend perks are substantially less useful. He can also maintain limited relationships with male friends that are substantially more profitable, but no more in depth than drinking or darts. TruthInTelevision.


!!Non-video game examples:

[[folder: Anime and Manga ]]

* ''Manga/MahouSenseiNegima'', wherein the protagonist kissing/forming a ''pactio'' with as many girls as possible is highly incentivised, though not so much for his sake as theirs: it allows them to borrow his magic energy for self-defense, communicate with him telepathically, and grants them a unique magic item related to their abilities.
** In fact, several of them (especially Chisame) have noted that no matter how pure his motives in this are, he's going to be causing a lot of heartbreak later.
** In a strange subversion, by the time of the fight with the BigBad in the magical world, several of the girls have effectively used Negi to get the cool toys & powers without having hardly any romantic feelings for him. It's just one kiss, after all.
** Played straight in later chapters, when Negi obtains the ability to use the magical items of all the girls he has formed a pactio with.
** It's also implied at later on that, the stronger the feelings between the two people are, the stronger the artifact will be. Though it hasn't at all been on purpose, Negi has been building up his army ''[[ChickMagnet very well]]''.
* The first chapter of ''Manga/TwelveBeast'' (by the author of ''Manga/DailyLifeWithMonsterGirl'') has its hero leading an army of assorted CuteMonsterGirls as if it were a strategy game, using their traits to best effect.


[[folder: Real Life ]]

* Both the Career Ladder and Casual Life playstyles play this trope very straight indeed regarding platonic relationships; the former encourages players to max out the size of their social circle as early as possible in order to secure the best jobs and promotions (with a good starting set of Blood Relatives [[{{Nepotism}} being especially helpful]]), while the latter involves establishing a smaller set of [[RelationshipValues better-maintained relationships]] in order to establish a healthy trickle of Happiness, offsetting this path's less generous Money haul.
* Largely averted with {{Romance Sidequest}}s. You may get a few more chances to unlock an OptionalSexualEncounter, but the VideogameCrueltyPunishment for any of the partners finding out about the others can be so extreme as to make it not worth it. There's also a clever scaling system whereby it's easier to keep relationships going the better-maintained they are, making multiple casual encounters collectively less profitable than a single involved one (though [[HaremSeeker some players]] insist that with a maxed-out Charisma stat it's possible to keep multiple relationships at [[LevelUpAtIntimacyFive Intimacy 5]] simultaneously, most consider this strategy "[[YourCheatingHeart cheating]]"). [[{{Polyamory}} Many of the above disadvantages can be mitigated if you're honest and up-front about what you're doing]], but there's still a stigma attached to that strategy in the mainstream, and you can't get multiple marriage bonuses on most servers.