->"''But what I really like is spending time just driving with you. You're cute when you blush, but don't get the wrong idea about what I mean by that.''"
-->-- '''Emily''', ''Webcomic/{{Misfile}}''

Alice is in love with Bob. It's very obvious. The writers make no effort to hide the fact. However, we aren't sure how Bob feels about Alice. Every once in a while, he'll do something incredibly romantic, and then turn it into a JustFriends or something similar. He may flirt with her often, but make it seem like it's playful and doesn't mean anything. Often he'll ask her out on a date, and after she accepts reveal it's a group affair, even though the conversation beforehand hinted it might be intimate one on one time.

The idea is that Bob spends the entire time straddling the line between showing genuine romantic interest and [[ObliviousToLove being indifferent]], which is incredibly aggravating for Alice and just gives her more and more doubts because Bob won't give any signals one way or the other. Is he unaware? [[ManipulativeBastard Does he just like playing with her?]] Does he consider her to be [[LikeBrotherAndSister like a sister]]? Is he gay? She just can't tell. Every single statement he makes can be interpreted both ways, so when he gets done, Alice is left asking "Well, how am I supposed to interpret that?"

Alice can count her blessings, though. Nine times out of ten, when it's actually revealed how he feels, it will turn out that he did like her all along. Maybe he had the same doubts she did. Maybe he never thought of her that way, but once he did, realized it was true. Or sometimes he was sending mixed messages because he was genuinely confused. Either way, they'll usually end up together, [[UnwantedHarem unless he's the main character and she has a lot of competition]].

The UnluckyEverydude will often act this way toward the members of his UnwantedHarem, especially if he's aiming to MarryThemAll. In a GirlsLove series it is customary that at least one pairing is like this.

Compare/Contrast {{Tsundere}}, whose "mixed messages" are on the far side of the emotional spectrum rather than hovering in the middle. May require Alice asking "DidYouThinkICantFeel" if Bob drags it out. Compare IDidntMeanToTurnYouOn. See also IgnoredEnamoredUnderling, whose boss may be doing this on purpose.

For [[PoorCommunicationKills obvious reasons]], she won't just ask him.

[[SelfDemonstratingArticle Doesn't work in real life. It]] ''[[SelfDemonstratingArticle may]]'' [[SelfDemonstratingArticle work…]]


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* Kyoko from ''Manga/MaisonIkkoku'', and pretty much every other member of a [[BelligerentSexualTension main couple]] in Creator/RumikoTakahashi's works. Except [[ClingyJealousGirl Lum]], of course.
** It gets worse in Takahashi's ''Manga/RanmaOneHalf'' series where this trope is beaten into the ground by every single member of the main teen cast towards each other in virtually every single combination possible. And a few of the adult cast too.
* Saiki appears to be this way from Teruhashi's perspective in ''Manga/TheDisastrousLifeOfSaikiK''. From the audiences point of view Saiki is clearly uninterested in Teruhashi. He knows from reading her mind with his PsychicPowers that she loves him, but since she hasn't told him Saiki can't reject her without outing himself as a psycic. The only plan Saiki can think of to get her to leave him alone is to act as undesirable as possible. This might work, but whenever he tries this something comes up that makes him look interested in her, and his previous behaviour in some way excusable making him an enigma to her which just makes her more attracted to him.
* To a lesser extent Gourry towards Lina in ''LightNovel/{{Slayers}}''. Romance isn't played up all that much, but in the few times Gourry seems like he might be interested in Lina, something always happens to make us unsure again (it was usually some kind of spell or misunderstanding).
** In the anime, the problem is usually that, while Gourry seems to be kind of affectionate, it's never clear whether or not he's intelligent enough to understand what volunteering to be Lina's "Protector for Life" implies.
* In ''Manga/AxisPowersHetalia'', England is implied to be in love with America, but it isn't clear if America is simply oblivious and just being his usual tactless self towards him, is aware of England's feelings but only likes to lead him on before shooting him down, or does like England back but has the same [[{{Tsundere}} personality problems]] as he.
** One set of translated notes suggests that America is tactless on purpose, so it must be one of the latter two.
*** Though given one time when he seemed to [[DudeNotFunny actually manage to hurt England's feelings (by saying that the reason he looks forward to his own birthday is because he remembers how pathetic England's face looked when he was beaten)]], [[IWasJustJoking he claims he was joking]].
** Probably Italy, as shown in Buon San Valentino. He doesn't realize that in Germany, red roses mean a confession. therefore, Germany is rather confused as to whether Italy was just showing a friendly gesture, or if he was, in fact, confessing to be in love with Germany. This is still up for debate.
* In ''Anime/OvermanKingGainer'', [[TheHero Gainer Sanga]] makes no secret of his crush on his schoolmate Sara Kodama, but for pretty much half the series, it is not known if Sara feels the same towards him. Even when it does become clear that Sara reciprocates (she did get pretty jealous when Gainer was going to meet Cynthia…), she seems not to know what to do about it, and ends up sending her friend contradictory signs. [[spoiler:In the end, though, it all ends well with Gainer and Sara heavily implied to have hooked up.]]
* In ''Manga/SasamekiKoto'', Ushio gives poor Sumika major headaches with this kind of behavior, although she tends to be more on the cute rather than the aloof side.
%%* This starts happening in ''Manga/SkipBeat''.
* In ''Manga/AoiHana'', Akira is more and more behaving this way toward Fumi, but in this case it's more an indication of Akira's confusion about [[spoiler:having Fumi, a girl, confess to her]].
* Kunimasa from ''Manga/LovePistols'' his first interactions with Noririn range from rape to help and want to marry him, not surprisingly, Noririn spends a good portion of his CharacterArc wondering what exactly is their relationship and what are Kunimasa's feelings for him. Most of this seem to be fixed after their summer trip and Kunimasa's brother falls for Noririn, making Kunimasa realize that Noririn is completely capable and up to going for someone better to him and leave the relationship. Most recently on the manga, Kunimasa proposes that they get married once Noririn graduates and states clearly his feelings of love.
* Kyousuke of ''LightNovel/{{Oreimo}}'' light novels toward his [[UnluckyChildhoodFriend childhood friend]] Manami, who has a crush on him. He calls her plain and unremarkable, yet says that this is his favorite thing about her since the familiarity is comforting. He keeps saying how much he appreciates her, and enjoys his study sessions with her. He also tells her that every time he's with her it's like his soul is healed of his troubles. One time he offered to take her some place special, she accepts and they have a NotADate at the park. There she hints at him to kiss her, and he [[ObliviousToLove misses the cue]] to her disappointment. He even wants to go to the same university as her to make their comfortable relationship last as long as possible. Yet, in all those instances, he always mentions (to himself and others) that he's definitely not in love with her.
** His friend Kouhei even calls him out on this in one episode of the anime. Kyousuke describes his non-romantic interest in her as living with an old grandmother who then suddenly became a teenager again. Yet Kouhei asks if Kyousuke would get jealous if another guy pursued her, and he says he wouldn't approve of that. Kouhei sums it up as "Kyousuke won't pursue Manami romantically, but at the same time won't allow another guy to pursue her." Kyousuke answers "yes" to that with a straight face, which only further confuses his friend.
* In ''Manga/SoraNoManimani'' Mihoshi loves Saku… but it's unclear if she loves him as a childhood friend or something else.
* Holo is this to Lawrence in ''LightNovel/SpiceAndWolf''. The main problem is that Holo is a ''massive'' [[TheTease Tease]] who engages in ungodly amounts of flirting (and is intimately comfortable with Lawrence physically) even though she knows their journey has to end and thinks a long-term relationship would only end in heartbreak. Furthermore, she intermittently a) coaches Lawrence about relationships and to act in a manner that she considers romantic, and b) manipulates him with those same behaviors to make fun of him and get things she wants. Throughout all this, she still has enough moments of honesty that they grow just about as close as possible without actually becoming a "couple". It's a weird example of the trope, as she's not really being coy about the fact that she likes him, she just likes messing with his head until he has no idea how to react. And as the series progresses, he figures out how to get the better of her and starts treating her the exact same way.
* Miroku in ''Manga/{{Inuyasha}}''. One moment he's doing sweet things for Sango, or [[HandsomeLech groping her]] or telling her how she owns his heart, and the next he's trying to bed every single pretty girl that cross his path. He continues this sort of behavior right up through the episode "Miroku's Most Dangerous Confession," at the end of which he quite seriously tells Sango that he thinks of her as a comrade in arms rather than as a woman… and then asks her to marry him and have his children.
* The entire first arc of ''Anime/ItazuraNaKiss'' has the male lead Naoki being first [[IceKing extremely cold]], then [[PetTheDog unexpectedly gentle]], and switch again to being cold and even [[KickTheDog rude]], much to the poor Kotoko's confusion. [[spoiler: It takes a huge GreenEyedEpiphany to finally show his true feelings.]]
* Tomoe from ''Manga/KamisamaKiss'' is a regular condescending asshole to Nanami most of the time. However, he does occasionally show a sweet and caring side to her, [[GreenEyedEpiphany should another man so much as look at her he flips his lid]]. But every time Nanami asks if he likes her or loves her, Tomoe is quick to deny it or invent some excuse for his actions.
* Hayate from ''Manga/HayateTheCombatButler''; the only person in the world who can make a kidnapping ploy sound like an AnguishedDeclarationOfLove.
* Ryo from ''Manga/{{FAKE}}'' is a master of the mixed message. Ryo says that he doesn't want his partner Dee making passes or advancements at him and scolds him for doing so. Even encouraging his adopted son to be a MomentKiller if things heat up with Dee. Yet, he lets Dee kiss him quite a bit and other times ''voluntarily'' kissing Dee himself. All the while telling Dee he's not interested in him like that…
* ''Manga/MakenKi'': Haruko's been in love with Takeru [[ChildhoodFriends since they were kids]], but will vehemently deny it if anyone asks. She repeatedly asserts that they're [[JustFriends only friends]], yet she'll beat him senseless [[GreenEyedMonster whenever she catches him with another girl.]] It's no wonder he doesn't know how she really feels.
* Kyoko from ''Manga/SangatsuNoLion'' is a rather extreme example, though unlike {{Tsundere}}s, it's not played as cute, nor is this played purely for the romantic angles. She often jumps between signs of intense dislike toward Rei, such as verbally belittling and goading Rei into failure in shogi, and showing signs of at least concern for the more general aspects of his well-being, such as recommending that he visit his adoptive father more often and checking his face for past scars.
* [[{{Tsundere}} Ritsu]] [[LoveIsAWeakness Onodera]] from ''Manga/SekaiIchiHatsukoi''. What better way to prove you hate your ex and don't want his advancements than constantly letting him kiss you after denying any feelings for him ''and even sleeping'' with him ''repeatedly''?
* ''LightNovel/HaiyoreNyarkoSan'' has a character-specific version like the ''Spice and Wolf'' example above; Nyarko is a ManicPixieDreamGirl and GenkiGirl who repeatedly tells Mahiro that she loves him… but also clings to him like a barnacle and plays around with him and his friends (like claiming she's already pregnant with their first child). In episode 7 of the first TV series, Mahiro outright tells Nyarko that because of her zany, playful nature and tendency to tell tall tales, he has a hard time believing her when she talks about love. Nyarko (who's been on better behavior this episode) explains that it's hard to say it when she's not being silly, but that she's being completely honest and will say it as many times as she needs to; then she turns around, looks Mahiro in the eyes, smiles sweetly, and simply says "I love you."
* ''Franchise/KagerouProject'': Haruka Kokonose. Because of his [[NiceGuy naturally kind and sincere personality]], Takane finds it hard to tell if there are deeper feelings attached when he compliments and does nice things for her. [[spoiler:There are]]. Of course, her [[{{Tsundere}} personality quirks]] don't make things any easier.
* Claude of ''Manga/BlackButler'' to Alois. He alternates between acting affectionate suggesting a twisted love for Alois, and acting cold and indifferent to him, even [[spoiler: killing him]].

* In the ''[[Literature/TheHungerGames Hunger Games]]'' fanfiction ''Fanfic/SomeSemblanceOfMeaning'', [[ShrinkingViolet Vale]] views [[JerkWithAHeartOfGold Obsidian]] as one of these. On one hand, [[IrrationalHatred she hates him]] and thinks he is a huge jerk, but on the other, she can't seem to understand why he does certain things, such as [[spoiler: sparing her life when he finds her and her district partner asleep one night in the arena]]. [[EveryoneCanSeeIt It's pretty obvious to everyone else, though.]]
* Byakuya in the {{Manga/Bleach}} fanfic ''[[https://www.fanfiction.net/s/8222340/1/Chasing-the-Moon Chasing the Moon]]'' does this, pretty much driving Yuzu to the point of a DidYouThinkICantFeel speech. It doesn't help that they're both dancing on opposite sides of the SubordinateExcuse, being the captain and vice-captain of their Division respectively.

* Oscar in ''WesternAnimation/SharkTale'' does this with Angie.
* Padme in ''Film/AttackOfTheClones'' tells Anakin their romance is wrong… while she's wearing a leather, backless dress that shows lots of cleavage and makes her look like a dominatrix.
** ''WesternAnimation/RobotChicken'' [[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5DFOE0td1Yw parodies this scene]] pretty mercilessly, turning Padme into TheTease.
* In ''Film/TheDarkKnightSaga,'' Rachel does this to Bruce, which may contribute to her [[TheScrappy Scrappiness]]. In [[Film/BatmanBegins the first movie]] she kisses him, then tells him she can't be with him unless he gives up Batman, then holds his hand as they walk through the rubble of his mansion. By [[Film/TheDarkKnight the second movie]], she's dating Harvey Dent, but Bruce seems to think Harvey is just a placeholder until she can be with him. [[spoiler:He's wrong, he doesn't find that out until the third movie.]]
* In ''Film/FiveHundredDaysOfSummer'', it seems that every time Summer tells Tom she's not interested in something more serious, she would immediately throw a curveball in the form of hand-holding, kissing or sex. Just before they break up, she impulsively kisses him in the street. The worst has to be after a huge fight where Summer tells Tom they are JustFriends and he storms off, she goes over to his place in the morning, has sex with him and implies she was wrong and wants to stay in the relationship.
* ''Film/TheHungerGames'': Katniss Everdeen, to both Peeta and Gale. Peeta eventually calls her on it.

* In Creator/LinneaSinclair's ''Games of Command'', Kel-Paten is hopelessly in love with his subordinate officer Tasha Sebastian, who's ObliviousToLove. She jokingly tells him "I think I love you," when he completes a tricky bit of navigation. Later when she needs Kel-Paten distracted, Tasha leans in close to him and speaks softly, and agrees that walking through a fairground with him sounds like a ''wonderful'' idea. She's surprised how effective her very mild flirtation turns out to be.
* Simon and Derek both to a certain extent in Kelley Armstrong's ''Literature/DarkestPowers''. Simon constantly flirts with Chloe, but in such a friendly way that she’s sure he’s completely unaware that it could be taken romantically and is just treating her as he would a little sister, and Derek goes out of his way to protect her and try to help her learn more about her powers, though has a fairly hot temper and admits that he’s been trying to push her away because he thinks he doesn’t deserve her. He’s pretty quick to give in when she kisses him though. He and Simon are both usually the ones to initiate any physical contact with her as well.
* Ariana Ortega from ''Literature/TheDresdenFiles''. It's outright stated that she married her current husband specifically so she could spend eternity screwing with his mind.
* ''Literature/TheHungerGames'': Katniss Everdeen towards both Gale and Peeta. Peeta eventually calls her on it. Her motives are less ambiguous in the books than in the films, since the books take place from her POV. Katniss did not want to bring children into the CrapsackWorld she lived in, and so she didn't want to let herself fall for either Gale or Peeta.
* ''Literature/SenseAndSensibility'': Elinor Dashwood meets Edward Ferrars at the beginning of the novel, and they seem to hit it off, or at least Elinor's mother and sister think so. Elinor admits she likes him, but she says it's nothing serious because Edward never said he loved her and he never proposed to her. The reason for his mixed signals gets revealed soon, and it's not Edward's jerky relatives who think Elinor is not rich enough or genteel enough. Actually, [[spoiler:Edward is involved in a dead-end relationship with Lucy Steele. He doesn't love her any more, but considers his engagement binding.]]

* ''Series/BuffyTheVampireSlayer'':
** Season 5/6/7, Buffy and Spike both do this. There's a continual cycle of Buffy deciding they're over, and then going back to Spike. He finally states
--->''I've memorized this tune, love. I think I've got the sheet music for it.''
** Played with in Season 7, when, after kissing Angel, she returns home to see him.
--->'''Spike:''' Well, you're not staying here. You can't buy me off with shiny beads and sweet talk. You got Angel breath. I'm not gonna just let you whack me back and forth like a rubber ball. I've got my pride, you know!
--->'''Buffy:''' I understand. (turns to go)
--->'''Spike:''' Clearly you don't, 'cause the whole "having my pride" thing was just a smokescreen.
** Buffy tells Satsu that she can't be with her, but sleeps with her; twice. Poor Satsu was more than a little confused.
* In ''Series/DoctorWho'':
** The Doctor with Rose. He's kissed her twice, left her stranded on a space cruiser a few thousand years in her future while running off to save a French courtesan, and more.
** He's even ''worse'' about the mixed messages with Martha, and actually reveals after she left that he knew all along about her fancying him.
** Amy points out the Doctor's habit of sending mixed signals in a DVD-only scene set after "Flesh and Stone".
--> '''Amy''': ''Oh, come on!'' You turn up in the middle of the night, get me out of my bed in my nightie--which you then don't let me change out of for ''ages''--and take me for a spin in your time machine? No, no, you're right, ''no'' mixed signals there. ''That'' is just a ''signal''. Like a great big BatSignal in the sky--"Get your coat, love, the Doctor is in!"
** Amy to Rory. She once wanted to pretend they were brother and sister on what could be called the night before their wedding.
** The Doctor finally gets a taste of his own medicine from [[spoiler: River]] in the episode "Let's Kill Hitler", where she alternates between attempts to seduce him, assassinate him or a bit of both.
* Clark Kent in ''Series/{{Smallville}}'' and Lana, mutually send each other mixed signals.
-->'''Ian:''' And Lana said you send off so many mixed signals you could scramble a radar.
* A variation from a multi-part episode of ''Series/{{Farscape}}'' had Aeryn and John, after enforced snuggling in a cramped cockpit, start to make out… but then she breaks away and stalks off, saying:
-->'''Aeryn:''' I will not be a slave to your hormones.
-->'''John:''' ''My'' hormones? I was lips; ''you'' were tongue!
* Vala Mal Doran did this constantly to Daniel Jackson in ''Series/StargateSG1'', shifting between flirting and unprovoked teasing, though it was less about her figuring out her feelings and more about just messing with him. Unfortunately, the result is that Daniel took her teasing seriously and found her annoying most of the time. When he finally ''does'' learn her true feelings, he is genuinely surprised and reciprocates. [[StatusQuoIsGod Kinda…]]
%% * Ziva and Tony in ''Series/{{NCIS}}''. Too much {{subtext}} to be completely sure about ''anything''.
%% * The case with Harm and Mac in ''Series/{{JAG}}''.
* One of Carrie's boyfriends in ''Series/SexAndTheCity'' "teases her like a friend" and "kisses her like a boyfriend", but they aren't sleeping together, so she's not sure where she stands with him.
* ''Series/{{Frasier}}'':
** In on episode, a female coworker of the titular character asks him out to dinner on Valentine's Day, ostensibly to discuss work. Because the woman had to be reminded that it was Valentine's Day and is generally flirty in everyday conversation, Frasier has no idea whether he is on a romantic date or just having dinner with a colleague. The episode ends with [[spoiler:Frasier climbing into bed with her without any clue as to her intentions.]] What happens next is never resolved.
** Another episode has Frasier and Niles (who is separated from his wife at the time) meet two woman they immediately hit it off with. They decide on an impulse to spend a weekend in a cabin together. However, they were moving so fast they didn't take the time to find out what the ladies' intentions are. And their attempts to subtly figure out if there's anything romantic going on fail miserably. In this case, it does get resolved, when the women retreat to separate bedrooms and ask "Are you coming?"
* Robin of ''Series/HowIMetYourMother''. There is nothing but sparks flying between her and Ted in the first two episodes, but she is adamant that she can't handle anything serious. They try being JustFriends but it doesn't fool anyone, but when Ted meets Victoria [[GreenEyedEpiphany she realizes she wants him now that he is taken]]. They later date for a solid year before breaking up and she continues to have a complicated relationship with Ted, which gets even weirder when she and Barney get together.
* ''Series/ICarly'': Carly is like this with Freddie. The most obvious example is when Carly is trying to combine 2 lip gloss flavors into one. Freddie asks if it's working, and she seductively replies "You wanna find out?" Freddie practically faints, closes his eyes and is expecting a kiss. She then smashes his face with her hand after rubbing the lip gloss on it.
* ''Series/TheOfficeUS'' in the early seasons Pam acted this way sometimes. It's always clear that she enjoys being with Jim more than Roy and sometimes she slips briefly into more romantic behavior. When Pam left Roy, Jim had started dating someone else and got to do a little of this. However, Pam did make amends by confessing her feelings to Jim in front of everyone at an office retreat.
%% ** When trying to court Erin, Andy did his best to be clear yet inevitably landed in this trope.
* Josh on ''Series/TheWestWing''. It's ultimately [[WillTheyOrWontThey most important with Donna]], but he also inflicts it on Mandy, Amy and Joey. Consistently led to a SorkinRelationshipMoment.
* Mac from ''Series/GreenWing'' does this to Caroline, knowing that she is besotted with him. Eventually she confronts him about his behaviour, telling him "You can be very cruel sometimes".
* ''Series/MyNameIsEarl'' had a girl of the week named Wendy who behaved this way with any guy she liked (the guy who was on Earl's list, then Earl himself) because she was too shy to openly admit her feelings. She would always do the goodnight cheek kiss and make a mix CD playlist that were either "IntercourseWithYou" and "JustFriends".
* Naomi from ''Series/{{Skins}}'', particularly in Katie And Emily's episode. Seriously, there can't be many characters who can deliver the lines "You look nice -- from the neck down!" and "I think I'm going away for the summer. Spain, Cyprus perhaps. By myself. Spend some time by myself, you know? Do some thinking. By… myself." -- and even fewer who can do them ''consecutively''.
* ''Series/GossipGirl'':
** Serena in season four. She can't seem to make up her mind if she loves Dan or Nate or both or neither and changes her mind every ten minutes or so. Leaving the guys confused, to say the least.
** Blair. She tells Chuck he's her great love, then she acts like she hates him. She asks him to raise her child by another man and tells him he's all she's ever wanted, then she ignores him completely after he nearly dies in a car accident. She tells him she loves him more and more every day, then she marries another man only moments later. She tells him to wait for her while she gets out of her marriage, then she makes out with his stepbrother in his bedroom. And the list goes on.
%% ** Chuck can be pretty good at this too when it comes to Blair.
%% ** ''And'' that list doesn't include how Blair was with ''Dan'' towards the end of the show.
* ''Series/TheBigBangTheory'' has the first season mostly about [[{{Nerd}} Leonard]] trying to work up the nerve to ask [[GirlNextDoor Penny]] out. For the most part she treated Leonard and the other guys as good friends, hanging out with them and getting involved with their activities at times. Yet she showed signs of liking Leonard a little bit more than she let on, being both subtle (signs of interest when Leonard had a brief fling with a co-worker, which he tried and failed to analyze) and overt (she kissed him on several occasions, once when drunk and another as a sort of birthday present). Even when his feelings were made clear the majority of their relationship, either in a [[RelationshipUpgrade Romantic Upgrade]] or JustFriends, rested on what her feelings were at the time. Leonard otherwise has always been fairly clear about where his feelings were. In the sixth season they were in a stable relationship that was going well, in fact Penny had managed to say [[TheILoveYouStigma "I Love You"]] to Leonard and they were finally quite happy together. But Penny was terrified of where they were going in the relationship and they had a blow-up on Valentines Day in large part because of her own commitment phobia.
%% * Santana to Brittany in ''Series/{{Glee}}''. Until she realizes she's gay.
* Simon of ''Series/{{Firefly}}'' towards Kaylee. The audience has him figured pretty early, but Kaylee has some pretty solid doubts even up 'til the climax of the [[Film/{{Serenity}} Big Damn Movie]]. It's usually just his habit of accidentally insulting her or Serenity, but in Jaynestown he actually says that he wouldn't. He ''meant'' that he wouldn't take advantage of a drunk crewmate, but it didn't quite come out that way. Closer to "wouldn't touch her with a ten-foot-pole" with (as Cleolinda put it) [[LikeBrotherAndSister "icky like a sister"]] overtones.
%% * In ''Series/NoahAndSaskia'', one of the major sources of drama is that Noah is this. Even when he's ''not'' being impersonated by well meaning relatives and friends.
%% * Winnie Cooper from ''Series/TheWonderYears'' is this to Kevin.
* In ''Series/TheMightyBoosh'', Howard and Vince are this to each other. [[spoiler: First, Vince kisses Howard, then Howard confesses his love, then Vince tries to backtrack but then seems more open to love when they fall off a roof and Howard sees the birthday present Vince got him. Then a girl walks in and Howard instantly falls for her, upsetting Vince. Howard turns Vince down, Vince replies he'll never love again... Then jumps on a bouncy castle with a random girl who walked in the door. Then both girls are gone the next episode and they're back to drowning in UST.]] And all of this happened in ONE EPISODE, listing all the other instances would probably require its own folder.
* Daenerys toward Jorah in ''Series/GameOfThrones'', though it's important to note that Dany is ''not'' doing it on purpose. It's pretty clear to the audience that Jorah is in love with her and that Dany considers him something of a father-figure, but given all that they've been through together, Jorah cuts a pretty sympathetic figure when it comes to trying to figure out the subtext. In one episode he spots the team PrettyBoy exiting Dany's quarters half-dressed, only for Dany to declare that she's sending him away and indicating that Jorah's position as her NumberTwo is assured.
* Karma toward Amy on ''Series/FakingIt''. Karma suggested the pair milk being lesbians for the popularity, and in the meantime Amy developed feelings for her. However, every public display of affection from Karma to Amy was simply to milk the popularity, and all of her suggestions were to further Karma's ultimate goal of hooking up with Liam (even the threesome; Karma assumed that Amy would bail so Karma and Liam would have some alone time.) When Amy finally confesses her feelings to Karma, [[spoiler:Karma does not reciprocate in that way, and in fact tells her she slept with Liam. Amy does not take it well. As in, gets really drunk and has revenge sex not take it well. With Liam, who rejected Karma after Shane revealed to him that she was lying about being a lesbian.]]
* ''Series/AgentsOfSHIELD'' has a doozy drawn out across two seasons and counting: it's pretty obvious from the beginning that Simmons is in love with Fitz -- they're BirdsOfAFeather and EveryoneCanSeeIt. Heck, she ''smothers'' him in kisses when he finally gets the nerve to tell her how he feels about her. Except that she never thought of him that way, and it was such a shock that she had to go away for a while to clear her head. But she still really does care about him, but just as a friend. [[BlatantLies Probably. How would she know, since she's never thought about it?]] Though she doesn't like seeing him happy with someone else, even though it's [[AmbiguouslyBi probably]] platonic. Not that it matters, because he kept secrets from her and she hates him now. But when she gets scared she still desperately wants him to hold her hand, and when it looks like they're going to be separated for another indefinite period she signs her note to him "Love, Jemma x". As if poor Fitz didn't have a hard enough time keeping his sense of reality in check…
* ''Series/JudgingAmy'': David [=McLaren=] towards Amy. They refer to it as the "come here/go away thing". They really like each other, but they go one step forward, one step back, and again and again. It is mostly fuelled by his unresolved issues -- his wife was murdered a while ago and who had murdered had not been found out.
* ''Series/ParksAndRecreation'': Chris Traeger. Anne initially didn't even realize he'd broke up with her due to his incredibly positive attitude. Later, he accidentally leads her to believe he's interested in getting back together.

* In ''Manhwa/CielTheLastAutumnStory'', Lariatte is in love with Yvienne, who says things like how she'd let the man she was dating die to save Lariatte first if given the choice.

* Princeton from ''Theatre/AvenueQ'' toward Kate Monster. In the song "Mix Tape" he makes her one, which she uses to try to interpret how he feels about her. The songs send an ambiguous message with a few songs with the word "friend" in the title, many love songs and a couple that imply he thinks she's fat. Finally, after she decides that the tape is a romantic gesture, he reveals that he's making one for the rest of the apartment. He invites her out with a bunch of his friends that night, and she asks "Like a date?" He says "Sure," as if the idea had never occurred to him.
* Hamlet to Ophelia. Just how much depends on the interpretation (if Hamlet is not actually insane, then his behavior towards her is much more this trope). Early in the play, Ophelia tells Polonius how Hamlet has lately "made many tenders of his affection" to her. Act II, scene i has Ophelia describing how the disheveled Hamlet comes to her for comfort (just after speaking with the Ghost, though she doesn't know that). In Act III, Scene i, he tells her "I did love you once" and then immediately tells her that he never loved her. In many productions, this scene is made into more of a MindScrew by having Hamlet passionately kiss Ophelia at some point, usually just before he begins verbally abusing her, which he famously finishes off by telling her she'd be better off as a nun (or a whore, depending on how you want to take the word [[GetTheeToANunnery "nunnery"]]).
* ''Theatre/CyranoDeBergerac'': In Act I Scene VI, Roxane sends her Duenna to make a date with Cyrano. Both Cyrano and his best friend Le Bret think it is a romantic date. In Act II Scene X, Cyrano believes that Roxane is confessing her love for him, but [[GuileHero Roxane is]] [[strike: manipulating]] asking him to protect Christian.

* Lan/Netto Hikari in regards to his canon love interest in ''VideoGame/MegaManBattleNetwork''. He's generally a [[AllLovingHero nice guy]] to everyone, but goes out of his way to make her feel better several times and they even go on a couple of dates in both the show and game canons. However, it always ''seems'' as though he's totally oblivious to her affections, though one does have to wonder… especially when in the game series' ending, they [[spoiler:[[OfficialCouple end up together with a son]].]] This doesn't seem to apply to the manga however, which contains a lot more… [[HoYay other interesting notes…]] Lan also seems to know Mayl has a crush on him in the manga, at least according to the first volume (he says that they shouldn't be seen walking home together because people "might get ideas" in a very teasing manner).
* In ''VisualNovel/TokimekiMemorialGirlsSide 2,'' Akagi Kazuyuki's entire route is complicated by poor communication between himself and the heroine; it hits this trope when he invites her out (claiming he "just happened" to have tickets to a concert and the friend he was going to go with couldn't make it) and subsequently completely fails to clarify whether or not it's an actual date. Matters are further complicated when he manages to bungle his attempt to explain himself to the point that the heroine concludes that he wasn't interested in her at all and begins avoiding him when he tries to talk to her. He doesn't manage to sort things out properly until nearly the end of the game.
* In ''VideoGame/RadiantHistoria'', Raynie is this toward Stocke. She initially says she admires her [[FireForgedFriends friendship with Captain Rosch]] and asks if she could be such a friend with him.
* In ''VideoGame/TheElderScrollsVSkyrim'', Serana acts this way towards the Dragonborn. While showing great affection and caring for the protagonist throughout the questline of the Dawnguard DLC, even playfully flirting when choosing certain dialogue options, she refuses to start any kind of romantic relationship and will reject the Dragonborn should they propose the idea of marriage to her.

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* ''VisualNovel/LittleBusters'': Kyousuke to Riki in an optional scene where Riki chooses to stay with the guys rather than go on a sleepover with the girls and ends up being asked jokingly by Masato whether he has a crush on Kyousuke. If he chooses to lie and deny it, he then asks Kyousuke who he likes, and he responds, "Right now, Riki is my number one," failing to clarify what he means by that. When Riki berates himself for interpreting the situation in an "indecent" way, Kyousuke asks [[ThatCameOutWrong "Wanna do it with me?"]], but is only referring to playing tabletop baseball. If Riki chooses to admit it, he asks Kyousuke how he'd feel if he said he liked him, and Kyousuke says that it would make him happy since he always thought Riki was cute. But Riki asks, "And Rin?" and Kyousuke agrees that she's cute, too, making Riki depressed to think Kyousuke only sees him as [[BigBrotherInstinct a cute little brother to take care of]].
* The ''Shall We Date?'' games are romance games, so this trope is inevitable, but Emperor Kuze in ''Heian Love'' takes it to a whole new level. He sends the player character an anonymous love poem... which he later tells her he sent as a joke, not because he's in love with her... and then gets his feelings hurt when she doesn't want him to stay and talk to her. Later he makes a practice of showing up at her rooms to talk all night, but tells her she has no sexual appeal at all. Needless to say, all of this leaves the poor girl quite confused for a while.
* Kyohei in ''VisualNovel/ScandalInTheSpotlight'' tends to behave in unexpectedly romantic ways toward the protagonist, then play it off casually as "role-playing" intended to help inspire her to write sexy lyrics for his band's new song. As a result, she constantly reminds herself that he doesn't think of her as more than a lyricist and has herself so thoroughly conditioned not to get her hopes up that even when he calls her "the woman I love" right in front of her, she can't quite believe it.

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* In ''Webcomic/QuestionableContent'', Faye would do this to Marten a lot, at first.
-->'''Marten:''' Congratulations, that is the most infuriatingly open-to-interpretation statement I have ever heard.
-->'''Faye:''' I have attained [[http://questionablecontent.net/view.php?comic=79 girlvana]].
* There was a two-girl variation that was happening in ''Webcomic/{{Misfile}}''. Ash very obviously likes Emily, but Emily can't seem to make up her mind. Complicating the issue is the fact that Emily is (supposedly) straight, and Ash [[GenderBender used to be a guy]]. Later on, however, Emily gave in and tried to kiss Ash... but Ash reluctantly walked away; s/he doesn't want to be "too happy", afraid of giving up on getting back his/her old life.
** Ash has a problem with this when it comes to male friends. Ash tends to do things that make boys mistakenly believe he's interested in them, when Ash's intention was only to be friendly. Examples include suggesting going to a movie (just the two of them), and treating another to lunch as a "thank you". This is mostly due to the fact that Ash staunchly refuses to see himself as a girl, so he doesn't seem to consider how his actions appear when coming from a girl.
* One arc of ''Webcomic/WapsiSquare'' had Shelly playing this role towards Heather. Heather eventually called her out on it. Unlike most examples of this trope, they did not end up together.
* Adrian on ''Webcomic/AlwaysRainingHere'' basically takes Carter on an emotional rollercoaster. First, he is annoyed by Carter's advances and turns him down time after time, [[spoiler: to them make out with him while drunk in a party]], them becomes closer while clearly not wanting to be all that close to him, reaches new heights when they [[spoiler: have sex on Adrian's house]] after which he becomes distant and cold. On the end of volume one, though [[spoiler: Adrian apologizes, saying he was going through a lot, and decides to date Carter.]]
* ''Webcomic/BittersweetCandyBowl's'' Lucy is terrible about this. [[spoiler: Unfortunately, by the time she decides to admit that she actually likes Mike, its too late. Worse, she treats Paulo the same way and ends up unable to date him either.]]
* Moloch von Zinzer of ''Webcomic/GirlGenius'' displays his mastery of this trope in [[http://www.girlgeniusonline.com/comic.php?date=20120730 this strip]], when he nearly reduces Snaug to tears by telling her that he feels the same way about her as his other love interest, Wilhelm, in a decidedly flippant manner.
* ''Webcomic/{{Homestuck}}'': Jake apparently used to say some rather questionable things to [[StraightGay Dirk]] before he realised he was in love with him. Rose is even worse, though -- apparently she insisted for months that [[spoiler:she and Kanaya]] [[NotADate weren't actually dating]] and only admitted the truth [[InVinoVeritas while drunk]].
** There’s also a more complicated example with Karkat and Terezi. Trolls in Homestuck have multiple types of romantic relationship; one of them is based on love, and another is based on hate. Karkat at one point has an epiphany where he realizes his relationship with Terezi is so screwed up because, by flirting with her and then insulting her, he’s been sending mixed signals about which type of relationship he actually wants to have with her.
* Jeremy of ''Webcomic/SplitScreen''. His attempts to play ObliviousToLove with Jan came out this way to her. It only got worse after she actually confessed her feelings (but lied about it being past tense).

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* Not being one to enjoy having feelings, WebVideo/TheNostalgiaChick will either care for or abuse the people closest to her, it just all depends on her mood at that specific time. Those people in question get understandably confused.
* Parodied mercilessly in ''WebVideo/YuGiOhTheAbridgedSeries'':
** Episode 1 of Season 0.
-->'''Yugi:''' "Thanks for standing up for me, Tea.
-->'''Tea:''' "That's okay, Yugi. You know I think you're ''really'' cute.
-->'''Yugi:''' "Hey, you wanna go out some time?"
-->'''Tea:'''' "I meant as a ''friend'', Yugi.
-->'''Yugi:''' "…oh, um, okay… sorry."
-->'''Tea:''' "But I do love you."
-->'''Yugi:''' "''Really?!''"
-->'''Tea:''' "''As a friend,'' Yugi!''
-->'''Yugi:''' "Oh. ...Alright."
-->'''Tea:''' "Let's have sex later, okay?"
-->'''Yugi:''' "…huh?"
-->'''Tea:''' "''AS FRIENDS, Yugi!'' Geez, such a pervert."
** Half the dialogues between Florence and Marik smack of this. Florence is a bit of a {{Tsundere}} and Marik is in the [[TransparentCloset Transparent]] [[ArmoredClosetGay Armored Closet]]. They both [[AwLookTheyReallyDoLoveEachOther clearly care for one another]], but they're never in the right place to become an OfficialCouple.
* ''WebVideo/UltraFastPony'': Fancypants. He's already married and just wants to be friends with Rarity, but he loads all of his conversations with [[InnocentInnuendo completely accidental innuendo]] because he's a naive dork.
-->'''Rarity:''' Well, it wasn't easy, I'll tell you that!\\
'''Fancypants:''' Oh, yes, I see. It's not the only thing between the two of us that feels quite hard.\\
'''Rarity:''' Oh, ''really?''\\
'''Fancypants:''' Yes, this whole "being friends" thing is much more difficult than I thought.\\
'''Rarity:''' Oh, that's what you meant.
* In ''Literature/{{Twig}}'', [[TheSocialExpert Sylvester]] is very open about his respect for [[KnifeNut Mary]], calling her the one person he'd least like to fight, but he's always careful to avoid admitting he loves her as anything more than a friend. When a frustrated Mary corners him with a knife to his throat and informs him that she likes him, he admits that he knows, but he (correctly) suspects that she also likes Gordon, and thinks that the two of them deserve to be happy in [[DoomedProtagonist the time they have left.]]

* [[WesternAnimation/PhineasAndFerb Phineas]] is this to Isabella, oh so very much. It's clear that she has a massive crush on him, but his feelings towards her are a bit more ambiguous. They spend a lot of time together, and she seems to be one of his closest friends in particular, as they're often paired together in group activities. Aside from his stepbrother Ferb, Isabella is the one Phineas is most likely to team up or hang around with in their friend group. [[spoiler: It's revealed that he was completely unaware of her crush on him until told directly by one of their friends many years later, right before college. He later admits that he had started developing romantic feelings toward her during high school, while he was ''still unaware'' that she had a crush on him too.]]
* Patti Mayonnaise from ''WesternAnimation/{{Doug}}''. Doug likes her, but we are never sure if she likes him back or sees him as a friend. She does do a few really sweet things for him, though. [[spoiler:It's revealed later in the series that she's not sure either.]]
* ''WesternAnimation/AvatarTheLastAirbender'':
** Katara - even when she gets to know how Aang feels, nothing whatsoever happens for a few episodes and then she tells him she's confused. She does other things to confuse the issue, like when she suggested kissing as a way to get out of the cave of two lovers, and mixing playing his TeamMom with, for example, using the HandsOnApproach. Ah, adolescence and the emotional befuddlement it causes.
** Zuko is prone to this at times. Prime example? Shouting SheIsNotMyGirlfriend ''while on a date.'' To be fair, she asked him out, and Iroh accepted for him. So it's entirely possible that he just doesn't really want to be there/have a girlfriend/have an Earth Kingdom girlfriend, but warms up to her later on in the date.
* ''WesternAnimation/TheLegendOfKorra'':
** Avatar Korra gives Mako a ShutUpKiss the night after she went on a date with Bolin. Fortunately, the writers restrain the strife she causes between the two brothers with her mixed signals to one episode; the same cannot be said of how Mako refuses to come clean with his girlfriend Asami after making no attempt to hide his obvious feelings for Korra. ''Kids…''
** In the end, it doesn't really matter though; Mako ends up with [[spoiler:''neither'' of them. Korra and Asami end up with ''each other''.]]
* It's painfully obvious [[UnluckyChildhoodFriend Sam likes Danny]] in ''WesternAnimation/DannyPhantom'', but it's not as straightforward with the latter who either romantically crushes on her or just [[SheIsNotMyGirlfriend treats her as a friend]]. To be fair, he's [[IdiotBall pretty clueless]]. [[spoiler:He eventually develops feelings for her by Season Three]].
* Abe on ''WesternAnimation/CloneHigh'' makes this an art form, unfortunately for poor Joan. He does it so much that once she gets used to it, he ''then'' reveals his feelings.
* Jimmy and Cindy of ''WesternAnimation/TheAdventuresOfJimmyNeutronBoyGenius'' to each other. Especially Jimmy, due to the whole "girls are icky" phase. They generally had a SlapSlapKiss thing going on because Cindy would be the smartest kid in school if Jimmy wasn't a super-genius. Once when stranded together on an island and away from other people they got along phenominally, but of course they eventually had to go back to civilization. They got together in the end though.
* ''WesternAnimation/HeyArnold''
** Helga is an archetypical {{tsundere}}, she constantly bullied him for being the voice of reason, while secretly ''adoring'' him for being the NiceGuy. On several occasions she tried to get closer to him, only to back away if [[ObliviousToLove Arnold]] ever started to catch on. She confessed her feelings in TheMovie and the ([[DevelopmentHell not made]] until [[SavedFromDevelopmentHell 2017]]) GrandFinale movie had Arnold finally admit to her (and himself?) that he liked her all along.
** Lila developed a crush on Arnold in season 3 after Helga wrote "Arnold Loves Lila" on a wall (it was originally her own name, but she panicked and changed it after she heard people coming) but Arnold had no interest in her until after he let her down, only [[UnrequitedLoveSwitcheroo for Lila to decide that she no longer likes him]]. Arnold then spends the next two seasons trying to woo Lila, and she does seemingly lead him on at times, only for her to later remind him that she doesn't ''like him'' like him.
* Cheetara from ''WesternAnimation/ThunderCats2011'' is kind to Lion-O, vaguely flirtatious towards him, and kisses him on the cheek at least once. The Kittens (and many viewers) ship them, and while Lion-O and Tygra are competing for her attention, both think Lion-O has the upper hand. But they are wrong.
* ''WesternAnimation/StevenUniverse'': [[HeelFaceTurn Switching sides]] has not done a favor to Peridot's sanity. Trying to get a consistent understanding of Peridot's mindset is a [[BlueAndOrangeMorality messy, confusing, affair]] as she expects everyone to know what she wants when even she doesn't know that. She is a contrarian, lost on an alien world with a shattered mindset of right and wrong. She isn't even satisfied when others do ''exactly'' what she tells them to do.
-->'''Peridot''': Are you ready to drill down into the planet, to depths never before reached by your species, to stop the Cluster and save your world?
-->'''Steven''': I don't know!
-->'''Peridot''': Don't say that! Say "We'll do this together and it's gonna be great!"
-->'''Steven''': We're gonna do this together and it's gonna be great!
-->'''Peridot''': LIAR!
* WesternAnimation/{{Kaeloo}} is this to Mr. Cat. It's painfully obvious that he has a massive crush on her, but it isn't quite clear whether she just sees him as a friend or likes him back.
* Marge is this to pretty much everyone in ''WesternAnimation/TheSimpsons'' she presents herself as an overworked and under appreciated housewife and mother despite repeatedly showing that she [[IncrediblyLameFun gets thrills out of monotonous activities such as household chores]]. She also becomes incredibly neurotic whenever she gets a chance to relax as seen in [[Recap/TheSimpsonsS17E20RegardingMargie Regarding Marge]].
** This is especially seen with Homer while she is repeatedly shown to be tired of his antics yet when he becomes normal and thoughtful in [[Recap/TheSimpsonsS13E9JawsWiredShut Jaws Wired Shut]], she finds it painfully dull and goes into a dangerous situation in a desperate attempt for excitement. She has also repeatedly told Homer he didn’t have to do something such as going to Patty new girlfriends soft opening then get mad when he doesn’t do it. She has also repeatedly uses PassiveAggressiveKombat to tell Bart he will be a FutureLoser.


* These are the tactics the "Seduction Community" recommends to men that want to be more successful with women, the logic goes as this: If you are a man and you are open about your feelings, the woman will take you for granted and lose interest in you, on the other hand, if you "play" by sending mixed signals (like flirting once and then PlayingHardToGet) the woman will be constantly wondering about your true feelings and intentions (ergo: thinking about you, and being intrigued) which will "open" her to be more receptive to you. It's known as the "Cat String Theory"; named after a cat's tendency to chase after string that's difficult to get, but lose interest the moment they've got it for sure.
* ''The Rules'' suggests women adopt these obnoxious behaviors too. This will [[SarcasmMode surely]] end well..
** [[http://xkcd.com/800/ Then again...]]