[[caption-width-right:350:[[Music/BonJovi Shot through the heart, and you're to blame!]]]]

->''"Love hurts, love scars,\\
love wounds and marrs any heart\\
not tough or strong enough\\
to take a lot of pain, take a lot of pain..."''
-->-- "[[http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Love_Hurts Love Hurts]]'', written by '''Boudleaux Bryant''' and recorded by Music/TheEverlyBrothers, [[CoveredUp Nazareth]], Music/{{Cher}}, [[http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Love_Hurts#List_of_covers etc.]] (possible {{Trope Namer|s}})
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Forget life-threatening superheroism, acting TooDumbToLive, and TemptingFate. The dumbest, most insane and dangerous thing any hero can do in any media is... falling in love. Dare to love someone else and you set up yourself and your beloved for a plethora of emotional griefs. Love in RealLife is responsible for vast quantities of anguished poetry and tragic literature; factor in all the crazy stuff that happens on TV, and drama and disaster are practically guaranteed.

About to commit permanently? Look for an AnyoneCanDie to put a permanent end to the WillTheyOrWontThey issue. Forget to [[NeverGotToSayGoodbye say goodbye to your beloved that one time]]? It'll haunt you for the rest of your life. And let's not forget that becoming emotionally attached to one person leaves you open to the stress caused by the [[IHaveYourWife villain abducting your beloved]] or [[StuffedIntoTheFridge them even being killed off senselessly]] just to shape you into the AntiHero out for Revenge, or at the very least a HeartbrokenBadAss. Your love is hurt but alive? DontYouDarePityMe -- they will shove you away. Or perhaps you'd be their SecondLove -- if only they and you didn't think SillyRabbitRomanceIsForKids. Love will make your heart go soft and pitter-pattering into the path to be crushed by the cruel forces of fate against StarCrossedLovers. Small wonder that [[ItsNotYouItsMyEnemies so many try to protect their loved ones by dumping them]].

If you've got more than one love interest, you've got a [[GreenEyedMonster headache-inducing]] LoveTriangle or even LoveDodecahedron on your hands. Tread these waters ''very'' carefully, lest you be on the receiving end of a {{Yandere}}'s poisonous affections or a {{Tsundere}}'s MegatonPunch. Pick one lover and you can look forward to either a ThunderingHerd of [[ClingyJealousGirl jilted rivals]] or the [[ObliviousToLove silent shattering]] of [[AllLoveIsUnrequited many other hearts]]. All in the name of comedy, you say? Comedy never became as twisted as it does when dealing with lovers [[LoveMakesYouCrazy crazy]] enough to beat down your door, commit trespassing, [[TheGlomp glomp]] you, and refuse to let go. And [[ColdTurkeysAreEverywhere remembering the love interest anywhere you go]] makes it worse. Could also result in the character being NotGoodWithRejection.

And heaven forbid if your love turns out to be [[AllLoveIsUnrequited one-]][[AllTakeAndNoGive sided]]. You'll become a [[CrazyJealousGuy crazy]] LoveHungry [[StalkerWithACrush psycho stalker]] if you don't choose [[IWantMyBelovedToBeHappy to nobly sacrifice your love]]. Sometimes you'll even go all the way [[LoveMakesYouEvil into a full-fledged villain]] with a grudge against humanity because humanity was not kind enough to let you have that one person. Sometimes it's even [[CreatorBreakdown your own creator]] who decides that you can't get them because [[SourGrapesTropes he couldn't get her in real life]]!

Such a fragile illusion... Isn't it?

In the right/wrong genre, [[DeathBySex even when you win, you lose.]] Little wonder why many a [[TheCynic pessimist]] believes that LoveMakesYouDumb, and many a hero has chosen to be a GenreSavvy CelibateHero.

Compare DestructiveRomance, HopeIsScary, TheFirstCutIsTheDeepest. A consequence when LoveRedeems goes with RedemptionEqualsDeath.

However, if you ''do'' [[TrueLovesKiss manage to get it right]], love can be the [[ThePowerOfLove purest and most powerful thing in the world]]. Another way to resolve this is through CleaningUpRomanticLooseEnds.

Contrast HappilyMarried. Unrelated to LoverTugOfWar, even though that may also hurt.
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[[folder:Fairy Tales]]
* The original version of ''Literature/TheLittleMermaid:'' The mermaid loves the prince and gives up her voice and family to be with him, but he ends up marrying someone else and she turns into sea foam. But a tacked-on [[AnAesop Aesop]]-fuelled ending gives her an immortal (i.e. human) [[OurSoulsAreDifferent soul]] anyway. Reputedly fueled by CreatorBreakdown. Technically, in the Creator/HansChristianAndersen version, she doesn't get a soul - yet. She get's turned into an air spirit that, after a preset amount of time, will get an immortal soul. As an extra twist, whenever she passes through a house with a well behaved child, she gets a few years knocked off her sentence. Ill behaved children add years. That's right, kids. If you don't eat your vegetables... you're preventing mermaids from going to heaven.

* Pick an {{Opera}}, ''any'' opera. ''Theatre/{{Aida}}'' by Giuseppe Verdi is a good example. Aida, an Ethiopian [[RagsToRiches princess in hiding]], falls in love with and is loved by Radames, the general of the Egyptian army. Her mistress, the Pharaoh's daughter is her canny rival. After Radames saves her father, the king of Ethiopia, from certain death after being captured in battle, he brow beats her into fulfilling her "duty" as an Ethiopian to get Radames to reveal the Egyptian's troops' positions, sentencing him to death and dooming them to live apart. It's a "HappilyEverAfter" ending though; Aida sneaks into the tomb where Radames has been buried alive so they can slowly die together. So yes, the DeusAngstMachina is as integral a part of Opera as humor is to Comedy.[[/folder]]

[[folder:Visual Novels]]
* ''VisualNovel/FateStayNight'':
** The ending of the Fate route exhibits this to a certain extent. [[spoiler:Saber dies]], and although [[spoiler:Shirou manages to get over the loss remarkably well, he says that he will always remember that he loved her]].
** The Heaven's Feel [[TearJerker Normal End]], however, takes this trope UpToEleven. [[spoiler:[[HeroicSacrifice Shirou dies]] in order to protect Sakura, and she moves into his house and spends the rest of her life mourning him and waiting for him to return to her (he never does...).]]
* Love, be it platonic, familiar, or romantic, in the ''Franchise/WhenTheyCry'' franchise tends to end in tragedy.

[[folder:Real Life]]
* Linguistic examples:
** In Swedish, Norwegian and Danish the word "gift" (pronounced "yift" in Swedish/Norwegian, but with a hard g just like the English word "gift" in Danish) means both "married" and "poison", one wonders if this was made so on purpose...
** In Japanese, "Ai" means love but it can also mean "grief/sorrow" when written differently.
** The Japanese got it from Chinese, where the exact same thing happens: save for the tones, the words for the two concepts are homophones.
** In Russian, "брак" ("brak") means, among other things, both "marriage" and "spoilage/defect."
** In English:
*** Apparently, "to wed" (Or some form of marriage word) comes from the same roots as "gamble".
*** The word "passion" itself ultimately descends from the Greek ''pathos'', "suffering" (i.e. ''Film/ThePassionOfTheChrist'').
** In Spanish, "Cazar" is "to hunt" and "Casar" is "to wed." In Latin America and some parts of Spain, the pronunciation is identical. The word "esposa", which means wife, also means handcuff. Same goes for the plural "esposas".
** In Portuguese, "Caçar" is "to hunt" and "Casar" is "to wed."[[note]]'ç' and 's' are usually pronounced the same in Portuguese, although in this case the 's' is pronounced with a 'z' sound and the 'ç' with a 's' sound[[/note]], so it's as above.
** In Danish:
*** The words for heart (hjerte) and for pain (smerte) rhymes, which is sometimes used as a proverb.
*** Again with "lidenskab" meaning "passion" and "lide" meaning "to suffer", though unlike German, the connection is for some reason rarely made, possibly because the word "lidenskab" is barely being used among most people in everyday life. In an inversion, "(at kunne) lide" can also mean "to like".
** In German the word "Leidenschaft" which means "passion" belongs to the root word "leid" which means "suffering".
* As if we need to say it: TruthInTelevision.