[[caption-width-right:350:[[Music/BonJovi Shot through the heart, and you're to blame!]]]]

->''"Love hurts, love scars,\\
love wounds and marrs any heart\\
not tough or strong enough\\
to take a lot of pain, take a lot of pain..."''
-->-- "[[http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Love_Hurts Love Hurts]]'', written by '''Boudleaux Bryant''' and recorded by Music/TheEverlyBrothers, [[CoveredUp Nazareth]], Music/{{Cher}}, [[http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Love_Hurts#List_of_covers etc.]] (possible {{Trope Namer|s}})
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Forget life-threatening superheroism, acting TooDumbToLive, and TemptingFate. The dumbest, most insane and dangerous thing any hero can do in any media is... falling in love. Dare to love someone else and you set up yourself and your beloved for a plethora of emotional griefs. Love in RealLife is responsible for vast quantities of anguished poetry and tragic literature; factor in all the crazy stuff that happens on TV, and drama and disaster are practically guaranteed.

About to commit permanently? Look for an AnyoneCanDie to put a permanent end to the WillTheyOrWontThey issue. Forget to [[NeverGotToSayGoodbye say goodbye to your beloved that one time]]? It'll haunt you for the rest of your life. And let's not forget that becoming emotionally attached to one person leaves you open to the stress caused by the [[IHaveYourWife villain abducting your beloved]] or [[StuffedIntoTheFridge them even being killed off senselessly]] just to shape you into the AntiHero out for Revenge, or at the very least a HeartbrokenBadAss. Your love is hurt but alive? DontYouDarePityMe -- they will shove you away. Or perhaps you'd be their SecondLove -- if only they and you didn't think SillyRabbitRomanceIsForKids. Love will make your heart go soft and pitter-pattering into the path to be crushed by the cruel forces of fate against StarCrossedLovers. Small wonder that [[ItsNotYouItsMyEnemies so many try to protect their loved ones by dumping them]].

If you've got more than one love interest, you've got a [[GreenEyedMonster headache-inducing]] LoveTriangle or even LoveDodecahedron on your hands. Tread these waters ''very'' carefully, lest you be on the receiving end of a {{Yandere}}'s poisonous affections or a {{Tsundere}}'s MegatonPunch. Pick one lover and you can look forward to either a ThunderingHerd of [[ClingyJealousGirl jilted rivals]] or the [[ObliviousToLove silent shattering]] of [[AllLoveIsUnrequited many other hearts]]. All in the name of comedy, you say? Comedy never became as twisted as it does when dealing with lovers [[LoveMakesYouCrazy crazy]] enough to beat down your door, commit trespassing, [[TheGlomp glomp]] you, and refuse to let go. And [[ColdTurkeysAreEverywhere remembering the love interest anywhere you go]] makes it worse. Could also result in the character being NotGoodWithRejection.

And heaven forbid if your love turns out to be [[AllLoveIsUnrequited one-]][[AllTakeAndNoGive sided]]. You'll become a [[CrazyJealousGuy crazy]] LoveHungry [[StalkerWithACrush psycho stalker]] if you don't choose [[IWantMyBelovedToBeHappy to nobly sacrifice your love]]. Sometimes you'll even go all the way [[LoveMakesYouEvil into a full-fledged villain]] with a grudge against humanity because humanity was not kind enough to let you have that one person. Sometimes it's even [[CreatorBreakdown your own creator]] who decides that you can't get them because [[SourGrapesTropes he couldn't get her in real life]]!

Such a fragile illusion... Isn't it?

In the right/wrong genre, [[DeathBySex even when you win, you lose.]] Little wonder why many a [[TheCynic pessimist]] believes that LoveMakesYouDumb, and many a hero has chosen to be a CelibateHero.

Compare DestructiveRomance, HopeIsScary, TheFirstCutIsTheDeepest. A consequence when LoveRedeems goes with RedemptionEqualsDeath.

However, if you ''do'' [[TrueLovesKiss manage to get it right]], love can be the [[ThePowerOfLove purest and most powerful thing in the world]]. Another way to resolve this is through CleaningUpRomanticLooseEnds.

Contrast HappilyMarried. Unrelated to LoverTugOfWar, even though that may also hurt.
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[[folder:Fairy Tales]]
* The original version of ''Literature/TheLittleMermaid:'' The mermaid loves the prince and gives up her voice and family to be with him, but he ends up marrying someone else and she turns into sea foam. But a tacked-on [[AnAesop Aesop]]-fuelled ending gives her an immortal (i.e. human) [[OurSoulsAreDifferent soul]] anyway. Reputedly fueled by CreatorBreakdown. Technically, in the Creator/HansChristianAndersen version, she doesn't get a soul - yet. She get's turned into an air spirit that, after a preset amount of time, will get an immortal soul. As an extra twist, whenever she passes through a house with a well behaved child, she gets a few years knocked off her sentence. Ill behaved children add years. That's right, kids. If you don't eat your vegetables... you're preventing mermaids from going to heaven.

* Pick an {{Opera}}, ''any'' opera. ''Theatre/{{Aida}}'' by Giuseppe Verdi is a good example. Aida, an Ethiopian [[RagsToRiches princess in hiding]], falls in love with and is loved by Radames, the general of the Egyptian army. Her mistress, the Pharaoh's daughter is her canny rival. After Radames saves her father, the king of Ethiopia, from certain death after being captured in battle, he brow beats her into fulfilling her "duty" as an Ethiopian to get Radames to reveal the Egyptian's troops' positions, sentencing him to death and dooming them to live apart. It's a "HappilyEverAfter" ending though; Aida sneaks into the tomb where Radames has been buried alive so they can slowly die together. So yes, the DeusAngstMachina is as integral a part of Opera as humor is to Comedy.[[/folder]]

[[folder:Visual Novels]]
* ''VisualNovel/FateStayNight'':
** The ending of the Fate route exhibits this to a certain extent. [[spoiler:Saber dies]], and although [[spoiler:Shirou manages to get over the loss remarkably well, he says that he will always remember that he loved her]] [[EarnYourHappyEnding Luckily for them]], [[spoiler:they do [[TogetherInDeath reunite in Avalon]]]].
** The Heaven's Feel [[TearJerker Normal End]], however, takes this trope UpToEleven. [[spoiler:[[HeroicSacrifice Shirou dies]] in order to protect Sakura, and she moves into his house and spends the rest of her life mourning him and waiting for him to return to her (he never does...).]]
* Love, be it platonic, familiar, or romantic, in the ''Franchise/WhenTheyCry'' franchise tends to end in tragedy.
* In ''VisualNovel/DanganRonpa'', generally speaking, if characters seem to care about someone else, ''it won't end well.''
** In the first game, Makoto and Sayaka get some cute ShipTease in the first chapter that is then horribly Subverted because [[spoiler: Sayaka intended to frame Makoto for killing Leon so she could graduated the killing game, but Leon overpowers her and kills him instead. Makoto then finds her corpse in his shower the next morning. It's also implied Leon had a crush on Sayaka, only for her to pick him to attempt to murder and then he's brutally executed because he killed her before she could.]]
** Toko is madly in love with [[{{Jerkass}} Byakuya]], who generally treats Toko with nothing but disdain and even uses her feelings for him to manipulate her more than once. Toko's backstory also had her writing a love letter to a crush at school, only for him to publish the letter and show it to everyone, who laughed at her and Toko was bullied even more harshly than before.
** Whether you interpret it as platonic or romantic, Aoi has a complete breakdown when [[spoiler: Sakura dies]] and she barely recovers after the trial, even ranting at the class that they didn't even see her as a human. Ishimaru also goes something like this when he becomes close friends with Mondo and then [[spoiler: Mondo kills Chihiro and is executed]] and he loses the only friend he's ever had.
** The sequel ''VisualNovel/SuperDanganRonpa2'' also has Fuyuhiko and Peko, who keep their previous association a secret from the other students. When Monokuma reveals that [[spoiler: Mahiru helped cover for the girl who killed Fuyuhiko's sister]], Fuyuhiko is furious and just when he is about to kill her [[spoiler: Peko steps in and does it herself. During the trial, Peko gets the class to vote for her as the culprit, then says she is merely a tool of Fuyuhiko's who has no will of her own, making him the real killer, hoping to spare him from the game. Fuyuhiko then faces a doozy of a MortonsFork - either he can agree and take credit for the murder and walk out of the killing game, confirming to Peko he never cared for her, or he can deny he only thought of Peko as an object, stay trapped in the game and live with the fact both his sister and Mahiru are dead. Either way, Peko dies. He chooses the latter and tries to save Peko from being executed, but fails and loses an eye for his trouble.]] To further twist the knife, [[TheFakeCutie Hiyoko]] [[JerkassHasAPoint tells him it's his fault both of them are dead]] and [[ItsAllMyFault Fuyuhiko fully agrees with her.]]
*** Akane and Nekomaru get some ShipTease, which adds for some tragedy when Nekomaru ends up TakingTheBullet for Akane, destroying his body and forcing Monokuma to rebuild him as a robot. [[spoiler: Then Akane has a full-on breakdown when Nekomaru dies for real.]]
*** A lesser example than the above, but [[NervousWreck Kazuichi]] becomes enamoured with Sonia and unintentionally creeps her out with his StalkerWithACrush tendencies and as the game goes on, Sonia (who is generally polite to her fellow students) treats Kazuichi like dirt and even [[KickTheDog tells him during the fourth trial it's a pity he isn't the killer]], basically implying she wants him dead ''to his face''. Sonia also gets a crush on Gundham over the course of the game and when it's revealed [[spoiler: he killed Nekomaru]], she actually begs Monokuma to spare him.
** A big example in the second game comes in the form of Hajime and Chiaki. They have a lot of ShipTease in later chapters, and they actually get intimate in one Free Time Event when Hajime catches a falling Chiaki. Come Chapter 5, and not only [[spoiler: is Chiaki the case's killer (through a completely unfair technicality, no less), but is also revealed to be the traitor sent to spy on the group by the Future Foundation]]. Suffice it to say, after [[spoiler: her execution]], poor Hajime breaks entirely, being unable to even get out of bed for the entire next day.
** In ''VisualNovel/NewDanganRonpaV3'', we have Shuichi and Kaede, who form a SavvyGuyEnergeticGirl duo and become very close over the course of the first chapter when they wake up in a classroom together and comfort each other during tense moments. Later on, [[spoiler: Kaede is the culprit of Chapter One, after setting a trap to try and kill the Mastermind and killing Rantaro instead. She is executed in front of Shuichi [[TheLostLenore and he mourns her for the rest of the game.]]]]
*** Also from the same game, Tenko clearly has feelings for Himiko, who doesn't reciprocate. Tenko attempts to bond with Himiko throughout the game and becomes very concerned when Himiko starts preferring the company of [[TheFundamentalist Angie]] and becomes detached from reality as a result. Just as they appear to be mending their friendship [[spoiler: Tenko is killed in a trap originally intended for ''Himiko'', and Tenko's parting words to Himiko kickstart her CharacterDevelopment that carries her through the game.]]
*** Kiibo and Miu are a MasculineGirlFeminineBoy who get along very well, as Miu is the Ultimate Mechanic and Kiibo is the Ultimate Robot. They are frequently seen together from the end of the second trial onwards, Miu frequently repairing and upgrading Kiibo and being one of the only students who [[ButtMonkey treats him with any respect.]] [[spoiler: Kiibo is devastated when Miu becomes Chapter Four's victim, lamenting he is UnableToCry for her death and vows to continue on to the end of the Killing Game in her memory.]]
*** This is even an InvokedTrope - Maki starts out the game as cold, rude and aloof from her classmates, only for her to gradually warm up to them thanks to Kaito and Shuichi reaching out to her. By the end of the fourth trial it's clear she has feelings for him and she is ''not happy'' when he's taken hostage. Unfortunately, her attempts to rescue Kaito make everything worse and then it's revealed [[spoiler: Kaito was secretly dying and he killed Kokichi in an agreement between the two of them to try and end the killing game and save Maki from being executed]]. [[AnguishedDeclarationOfLove Maki admits she's fallen for Kaito and tearfully begs him not to leave her.]] [[spoiler: Which is revealed by Tsumugi in the final chapter to be all a part of Maki's "storyline", and they made her fall in love with Kaito to boost ratings ''and'' gave Kaito the terminal illness that killed him because it would make his character "more interesting."]] Maki does ''not'' take it well.

[[folder:Real Life]]
* Linguistic examples:
** In Swedish, Norwegian and Danish the word "gift" (pronounced "yift" in Swedish/Norwegian, but with a hard g just like the English word "gift" in Danish) means both "married" and "poison", one wonders if this was made so on purpose...
** In Japanese, "Ai" means love but it can also mean "grief/sorrow" when written differently.
** The Japanese got it from Chinese, where the exact same thing happens: save for the tones, the words for the two concepts are homophones.
** In Russian, "брак" ("brak") means, among other things, both "marriage" and "spoilage/defect."
** In English:
*** Apparently, "to wed" (Or some form of marriage word) comes from the same roots as "gamble".
*** The word "passion" itself ultimately descends from the Greek ''pathos'', "suffering" (i.e. ''Film/ThePassionOfTheChrist'').
** In Spanish, "Cazar" is "to hunt" and "Casar" is "to wed." In Latin America and some parts of Spain, the pronunciation is identical. The word "esposa", which means wife, also means handcuff. Same goes for the plural "esposas".
** In Portuguese, "Caçar" is "to hunt" and "Casar" is "to wed."[[note]]'ç' and 's' are usually pronounced the same in Portuguese, although in this case the 's' is pronounced with a 'z' sound and the 'ç' with a 's' sound[[/note]], so it's as above.
** In Danish:
*** The words for heart (hjerte) and for pain (smerte) rhymes, which is sometimes used as a proverb.
*** Again with "lidenskab" meaning "passion" and "lide" meaning "to suffer", though unlike German, the connection is for some reason rarely made, possibly because the word "lidenskab" is barely being used among most people in everyday life. In an inversion, "(at kunne) lide" can also mean "to like".
** In German the word "Leidenschaft" which means "passion" belongs to the root word "leid" which means "suffering".
* As if we need to say it: TruthInTelevision.