->''"[[TropeNamer Looking for love, in all the wrong places]] / Looking for love, in too many faces..."''
-->-- '''Johnny Lee''', "Looking For Love"

The character indulges in an endless series of one-night stands and impulsive sexual encounters. Consciously or unconsciously they use such promiscuous behavior as a substitute for a lack of parental love and affection (either actual or perceived).

LookingForLoveInAllTheWrongPlaces differs from TheCasanova in that the Casanova is a predator indulging his desires and sating himself with his conquests, while Looking For Love is desperately searching for someone who respects and cares for them. This does not mean that Looking For Love is necessarily clingy or "wimpy"; they can appear to be as aggressive and self-centered as TheCasanova, and the two can easily overlap.

A variation on this trope is the unlucky variation of SingleWomanSeeksGoodMan; the character ([[AlwaysFemale nearly always a woman]]) who is permanently on the lookout for Mr. (or, more rarely, Ms.) Right. Whilst she might settle for Mr. Right Now if things are particularly bleak on that front, she'll go into every relationship convinced that "this is The One!" -- however, unfortunately for her every relationship she engages in will result in [[HilarityEnsues hilarity ensuing]] as every single man she dates either turns out to be a RomanticFalseLead, [[MinorFlawMajorBreakup has some small imperfection]] or otherwise turns out to be a [[BastardBoyfriend complete jerk]], thus leaving her right back where she started. It's often a complete waste of time anyway, since a bit of close self-examination would probably reveal -- [[ObliviousToLove much to her shock]] -- that she's in love with TheHero anyway.

See also CasanovaWannabe -- the two character types complement each other. Compare LadykillerInLove.

[[IThoughtItMeant Not to be confused with]] MakingLoveInAllTheWrongPlaces or the second ''VideoGame/LeisureSuitLarry'' game. Though if the character likes to have public sex, it may overlap.

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!!Examples:

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[[folder:Anime and Manga]]
* Nana "Hachiko" Komatsu from ''{{Nana}}'' epitomizes this trope: she has the worst possible taste in men, falls in love at the drop of a hat, and throws away the one good relationship she gets into (with Nobu) to stay with SmugSnake Takumi,[[spoiler: who is also the father of her baby.]]
* GeniusBruiser Hanamichi Sakuragi from ''SlamDunk'' has fallen for 50 girls in his three years of junior high, and ''all'' of them have rejected him. Similarly, his friend and the team's FragileSpeedster Ryouta Miyagi has been hopelessly in love with his best friend, the {{Tsundere}} Ayako, but she's not receptive to his open affections. Curiously, the time they met Miyagi attempted to beat the shit out of Sakuragi after mistaking him for Ayako's date.
* David Kruegel (a.k.a. Tekkaman Sommer) of ''Anime/TekkamanBlade II'' is hopelessly in love with his boss, Aki Kisaragi, who has been devoted to Tekkaman Blade since day one of the original series. He disguises/denies this by surrounding himself with the Space Knights' {{Wrench Wench}}es and BridgeBunnies, then taking all his evenings to the nearby bar and having frequent one night stands. Then he [[HoYay meets]] Dead End, who is [[UnsettlingGenderReveal really, really feminine]].
* In ''AnatoliaStory'', [[HandsomeLech Prince Kail]] has had ''many'' relationships with women, however none have been long-lasting. He has vowed to only take one legal wife, and since he's all but assured to be the next king, he wants to make sure that wife has the [[NiceGirl goodness]], [[TheSmartGirl intelligence]], and [[PluckyGirl inner strength]] to handle holding the second-most powerful position in the kingdom. [[spoiler:At one point, Princess Guzel tells Yuri that Kail never actually fell asleep with any of the women he slept with, herself included, implicitly because he wasn't able to let down his guard enough]]; therefore, the fact that [[spoiler: Kail is willing to sleep with Yuri in ''both'' senses (as in, have sex with her and stay the night) is a HUGE sign that [[LadykillerInLove she has the qualities he's been looking for]].]]
* ''Manga/TheWallflower'': Main character Sunako's aunt. Most every time one of her relationships is the main plot, it won't end up working out. She managed to find and marry a good man, her 'darling', in her backstory, but unfortunately he passed away. It's noted she was lucky to find him, given she has no judgment when it comes to men.
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[[folder:Films -- Animation]]
* ''Anime/HowlsMovingCastle'': While the Miyazaki adaptation doesn't play up Howl's TheCasanova tendencies quite as much as in the book, it's more heavily implied that [[spoiler:his inability to take things like romance seriously is because he removed his heart as a child, and it was thus never able to grow and mature.]]
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[[folder:Films -- Live-Action]]
* Joseph Gordon-Levitt's character from FiveHundredDaysOfSummer.
* DianeKeaton's character in LookingForMrGoodbar, which is BasedOnATrueStory.
* After being dumped by his girlfriend of seven years, Peter from ''ForgettingSarahMarshall'' has a series of meaningless one night stands in an effort to get over his ex.
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[[folder:Literature]]
* Diana Gabaldon's ''Literature/{{Outlander}}'': Lord John. [[TheWoobie The author just won't leave this man alone.]]
** Lord John gets his own series, and ''still'' he doesn't find a lasting relationship.
* Johnny Truant in ''Literature/HouseOfLeaves''. He idolizes one woman--a ''stripper'', to boot--but never works up the nerve to talk to her.
* Howl of Diana Wynne Jones' ''Literature/HowlsMovingCastle'', who thinks he's in love but loses interest as soon as the girl begins to reciprocate. It's implied that he cannot genuinely love anyone due to [[spoiler:having given up his heart in a DealWithTheDevil.]] Despite this, he remains a sympathetic character. [[spoiler:And gets better.]]
* Jimmy of ''Literature/OryxAndCrake'' clearly thinks of himself as this. As we find out in the companion novel ''TheYearOfTheFlood'', his lovers see him as more TheCasanova.
* Seth Hammerstaal, the male protagonist of ''Literature/{{Overenskommelser}}'' by Simona Ahrnstedt, is a reconstructed example. He's believed to be a [[TheCasanova casanova]], but really, he's looking for "the right one". And after he meets Beatrice, the story's female protagonist, he starts losing his interest in any other woman.
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[[folder:Live-Action TV]]
* Arguably Angela Montenegro from ''Series/{{Bones}}'', at least according to Sweets' interpretation.
* Mark Corrigan from ''Series/PeepShow'', whose never-ending search for "the one" drives a lot of the show's events.
* Martin Tupper of ''Series/DreamOn'', who went through woman after woman in a effort to replace his true love, his ex-wife, Lilith. (It should be noted that many fans of the show found Martin and Lilith's [[LastMinuteHookup final season reconciliation]] to be the show's SharkJump moment.)
* Jay from ''Series/HermansHead'' eventually admits that his CasanovaWannabe behavior is really motivated by a need to find someone who loves him.
* ''Series/{{Friends}}'': Chandler and Monica. Chandler tries humiliating hook ups that never fufill him, or committing to women who cheat on him. Monica dates her [[{{MayDecemberRomance}} parents best friend]], a millionaire and several jerks. They finally realize the love of their life is living across the hall and end up HappilyMarried. Jeez, it wasn't like they had to look far.
* Ted from ''Series/HowIMetYourMother''. Especially for the viewer, who already knows where he'll find his true love.
** Robin herself points this out to Ted. He chased her when he knew she was the wrong woman for Ted (didn't want kids, apprehensive of marriage, etc) and continued to harbor feelings for her even after their amicable breakup. He pursued Stella who was still in love with the father of her child. He went after Zoey who was married at the time and actively trying to destroy his career. His poor judgement gets called on several times by other characters.
** Also [[TheCasanova Barney.]]
* Used in an episode of ''LawAndOrderSVU'' with a woman who quite literally had a sex addiction. However, this was not due to lack of affection but due to indirect sexual abuse by her father. It is presented as tragic rather than sexy or humorous.
* With ''TheLWord'''s Shane, it seems to be a toss-up between this and a benign lesbian TheCasanova, considering her 1000+ sexual conquests, propensity for one night stands, almost supernatural talent at seduction (e.g. while working at a wedding, managing to have sex with the mother and both sisters of the bride), compulsive cheating, and trail of broken hearts. The thing is, though, she's portrayed as an extremely caring person who gets laid so easily in part because of her empathy, and has genuinely fallen in love a few times, only to inevitably sabotage those relationships with her impulsiveness and pathological commitment issues. Her [[DisappearedDad long-lost deadbeat dad]] gives her behavior a FreudianExcuse as well as a hint of InTheBlood when she finally meets him and learns that he's a huge womanizer too.
* Charlotte in ''SexAndTheCity'' is all about this. While not really desperate, she has a string of bad boyfriends (and one husband), all because she's obsessed with settling down with a rich, handsome, tall man. She also has a weak spot for artists (she's an art dealer). [[spoiler: She settles for her bald and plump, but more or less nice and ''really'' good in bed divorce lawyer.]]
* ''Series/StarTrekVoyager'': Harry Kim has so far fallen for a Borg, a dead crewmember, a hologram, and was once the crewmate of a race saboteur.
* The ''Series/StarTrekDeepSpaceNine'' episode "Looking for Par'Mach in All The Wrong Places" references this. Ironically, this is the episode in which OfficialCouple Dax and Worf get together.
** And that one had a very strange LoveDodecahedron in it, with Worf lusting after the Klingon chick but eventually helping Quark woo her and Dax helping Worf help Quark and calling him out on not looking for someone more attainable (her).
*** Not to mention Kira and O'Brian feeling intimate whilst he was caring for her (Don't ask).
* The early seasons of ''Series/TheWestWing'' portray Donna as something like this.
* Deb in ''Series/{{Dexter}}'' has this syndrome, seasoned lightly with FatalAttractor and the CartwrightCurse.
* In ''TheFollowing'', series BigBad Joe Carrol falls under this in the first season when he honestly thinks he can convince his perfectly sane and normal wife Claire Matthews to reconcile their marriage after he is exposed as a SerialKiller, starts a murderous cult, plants cultist Emma Hill (herself an example as she ''also'' is attracted to Joe) as babysitter for their son Joey, has Emma ''kidnap'' Joey, and goes so far as to have another cultist murder women with Claire's ''name'' to get to her. Needless to say, he's delusional, and by the end they are trying to kill each other.
** Season 2 has a particularly twisted example. According to her adopted son Luke, Lily Gray - a wealthy psychopath who fostered a large number of children she raised to be killers- spent years looking for a soul mate amongst the homicidal maniacs of the world, one being a SerialKiller who abducted prostitutes and [[HuntingTheMostDangerousGame hunted them for sport]], the most recent being Joe Carroll himself, whom she saw as an "artist" and lured out of hiding (via orchestrating a killing spree in his honour) in order to be his lover and patron. Since Joe is a ControlFreak, [[EvilIsNotAToy he did not take this well]], and the two end up ''despising'' each other. [[/folder]]

[[folder:Music]]
* The trope comes from the classic early 80's country hit "Lookin' for Love" by Johnny Lee.
-->I was lookin' for love
-->In all the wrong places
-->Lookin' for love in too many faces
-->Searchin' their eyes, lookin' for traces
-->Of what I'm dreamin' of
-->Hopin' to find a friend and a lover
-->I'll bless the day I discover
-->Another heart lookin' for love
* The Survivor song "The Search Is Over" is about this trope. At the end, the guy realizes that the perfect girl for him has been there [[VictoriousChildhoodFriend all along]]
* "Save the Best for Last", performed by Vanessa Williams, tells a similar story from the viewpoint of the one who's always been there for the searcher.
-->How could you give your love to someone else\\
And share your dreams with me?\\
Sometimes the very thing we're looking for\\
Is the one thing we can't see.
* P.O.D.'s "Youth of the Nation" mentions a twelve-year-old girl named Suzie who falls into the wrong crowd:
-->She finds love in all the wrong places\\
The same situations, just different faces
* Music/BobSeger's "The Fire Inside":
-->Now the hour is late and he thinks you're asleep\\
You listen to him dress and you listen to him leave\\
Like you knew he would\\
You hear his car pull away in the street\\
Then you move to the door and you lock it when\\
He's gone for good\\
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Then you walk to the window and stare at the moon\\
Riding high and lonesome through a starlit sky\\
And it comes to you how it all slips away\\
Youth and beauty are gone one day\\
No matter what you dream or feel or say\\
It ends in dust and disarray...

* Mentioned by name in the MindlessSelfIndulgence song "I Hate Jimmy Page" but not actually a theme of the song.
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[[folder:Videogames]]
* The second installment in the ''VideoGame/LeisureSuitLarry'' series is subtitled "Goes Looking for Love (in Several Wrong Places)" and involves Larry searching for a fulfilling relationship. This also applies to the first game: At the start he's just looking to lose his virginity, but later on he starts looking for actual commitment and, in his desperate search, even gets married. Though, of course, he only stays married for about ten minutes.
* ''VideoGame/NeverwinterNights2: Mask of the Betrayer'': Gannayev is revealed to be pretty much this, once you get to know him. To start with, he's a hagspawn (even if an abnormally handsome one at that), a race that basically consists of the offspring of evil hags seducing human men and later eating them, so no good rep there. He also grew up with the impression that his hag mother deliberately abandoned him in the wilds as a baby. Facing hatred and prejudice from human communities, Gann has a go strolling through the land seducing young farmgirl virgins (sometimes ''in their dreams'', no less). It takes meeting the player character, who acts in an understanding way, and meeting his mother and learning that she had in fact ''loved'' both him ''and his father'' and had been forced to abandon him to make Gann finally open himself to genuine love.
* Zelos Wilder of ''VideoGame/TalesOfSymphonia'' does this, although it's also part of a general ObfuscatingStupidity persona.
* This happens to Muffy in the Wonderful Life ''HarvestMoon'' games. All of her boyfriends break her heart. For example, one of them was married and cheating on his wife with her (Muffy didn't know). She's always saying how men won't date her because she is [[OldMaid "too old"]].
* Betty Meyer in ''VideoGame/LastWindow'' can be a bit of a flirt and asserts she can wrap men around her finger. She eventually [[spoiler:starts going out with [[TheRival Rex]]]], leading Kyle to confront her and her to eventually admit [[spoiler:she knows she's being used but is so lonely she doesn't care.]]
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[[folder:Webcomics]]
* Tybalt of ''BoyMeetsBoy'' has elements of this: He sleeps around even though he's waiting for The One, but as he explains, it's so he won't get lonely while he waits.
* In ''Webcomic/{{Homestuck}}'', Marquise Spinneret Mindfang would often take hostages from the ships she plundered. At night, she would solicit the hostages when it was too dark to tell their [[AlienBlood blood color]], hoping to find a matesprit among them.
** She eventually resorted to looking into the future to find her destined matesprit. She soon regretted it (and stopped looking into the future) since [[spoiler:her destined partner was also the troll who was destined to ''kill'' her.]]
** Then there's Eridan. After being rejected by Feferi, he turns to another potential love interest. And then another. And then, with increasing desperation, another...and then another...and then ''another''...
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[[folder:Web Originals]]
* ''SurvivalOfTheFittest'': Rosa Fiametta. She managed to wise up a bit, but that just made future searches for Mr/Miss Right even worse.
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