->''"It's trite but true that a lot of young women look for a man who reminds them of their dad. Your dad fights monsters. I fight monsters. [[RescueRomance Your dad rescued your mom from a dragon. I rescued you from Arctis Tor.]] Seeing the pattern here?"''
-->-- '''Harry Dresden''' to Molly Carpenter, ''[[Literature/TheDresdenFiles Proven Guilty]]''

Freudian Psychology has a theory that children who have a close relationship with their parents tend to look for those properties in a mate.

It happens that the first example of the male gender that a baby girl encounters is her father, and that forms her impression of maleness in general, up to and including the mate she connects with and, if she's anywhere near the Christian religion, her impression of God as "our Father in Heaven." If she has a negative father, she'll often grab up negative boyfriends as well, so it takes a certain amount of awareness to be able to break out of that tendency.

If her father were absent and an older brother (or another male father figure) is present and actively involved in her life, she bonds with him the same way, and look for men much like him.

Straight women look to their fathers as a template about what to expect and desire in a man. Sometimes if they have a really bad relationship with their father, they can go the exact other way and choose a husband opposite to their father. Either way, their father remains a very important influence in the choice of a spouse.

The same goes for straight men using their mother as a guide when choosing a wife. Lesbians and gay men are likewise influenced by their same-sex parents, and people who grew up without knowing their parents at all will likely find themselves subconsciously looking for other templates.

Some people find this {{squick}}y, but it's just as common in Real Life as in Fiction. See also FatherIWantToMarryMyBrother, DatingWhatDaddyHates.

SisterTrope to LikeFatherLikeSon.

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!!Examples:

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[[folder:Anime & Manga]]
* In ''Manga/CardcaptorSakura'', Sakura has a crush on Yukito who looks like her father. She even {{lampshade}}s it.
* In ''OuranHighSchoolHostClub'' it's {{lampshaded}} how Tamaki Suou and Haruhi's dad are very alike.
* ''Anime/NeonGenesisEvangelion'': Misato Katsuragi. Ryoji Kaji. Explicitly spelled out by Misato at one point.
* ''Manga/FullmetalAlchemist'': Katherine Armstrong tells Havoc that she wants a man more like her brother Alex. Played for laughs because her brother is huge, musclebound, and can generate pink sparkles when he gets [[LargeHam hammy.]] Havoc's reaction is priceless.
* Yuuna from ''MahouSenseiNegima'' is another example that got its own manga chapter.
* Setsuna from ''{{Gundam 00}}'' is an inverted example. While it's not really romantic love, he's drawn to Princess Marina Ismail in part because of her close resemblance to his mother. Made somewhat disturbing by the fact that as a BrainwashedAndCrazy ChildSoldier, Setsuna ''[[SelfMadeOrphan killed]]'' his mother and father.
* Gohan from ''Anime/DragonBallZ'' marries Videl, the strongest young woman on the planet. His mother was the strongest woman in the world when she was 18. They were both {{Tsundere}}s and the daughters of rich martial artists, too.
* ''Manga/KatekyoHitmanReborn'': Tsuna develops a huge crush on Kyoko, whom he [[SatelliteLoveInterest hardly interacts with or knows much about]]. One thing is very noticeable about her, however, she looks ''exactly'' like his mother. Even their ''personalities'' are very much alike.
* Shikamaru Nara in ''Manga/{{Naruto}}''. His mother Yoshino is [[{{Tsundere}} obstinate and rough but also has a sweet side]], similarly to the other two prominent ladies in his life: Temari, his final opponent in the Chunin Exam and most frequent ally outside the Konoha 12 since, and Ino Yamanaka, his [[GenerationXerox Ino-Shika-Cho]] teammate. He and Temari [[SheIsNotMyGirlfriend deny any relationship]] despite being seen together so much, and Ino's romantic inclination once leaned toward [[BaseBreaker Sasuke]] in Part 1, but her feelings are unclear now. Most shippers say one of these two "troublesome" women will and/or should become his one. Ironically, another girl named Shiho has shown a major romantic interest in Shikamaru and is the total opposite of his mother, Temari, or Ino, as her brief screentime suggests that she's a FanGirl of his.
** Kushina states she wants Naruto to do this, though Naruto conveniently never makes any references to it himself later. In chapter 631, [[spoiler:Minato]] is shown thinking that Sakura reminds him of Kushina, after she hits Naruto for telling [[spoiler:Minato]] that Sakura is "more or less" his girlfriend, implying that Naruto did indeed fulfill his mother's wish.
** On the other hand, Hinata has a huge crush on Naruto, who is pretty much her father's opposite in every way.
* In ''Franchise/SailorMoon'', it's pointed out that while Usagi's father initially doesn't like Mamoru very much the two of them are strikingly similar.
* Minor example in ''MiraiNikki'' - Yukiteru's first crush looks very similar to his mother.
* Nagi of ''Manga/HayateTheCombatButler'' has a crush on Hayate, who apparently looks very much like her mother ''and'' father. How much he looks like her mother is actually commented on by another character.
* In ''Manga/KotouraSan'', Haruka's grandfather takes care of her granddaughter after the latter suffered ParentalAbandonment, so he took the place of "parent." He is strikingly similar to Manabe, Haruka's boyfriend, for being honest guys--perversion included.
* ''Anime/PuellaMagiMadokaMagica'' - According to ancillary material, Madoka's idea of an ideal husband is someone cool like her ''mother''. In [[VideoGame/PuellaMagiMadokaMagicaPortable the PSP game,]] Madoka's mom mentions that Homura reminds her of herself at that age.
* A convoluted example occurs in ''TsubasaReservoirChronicle''. Syaoran [[spoiler:Jr.]]'s mother is [[spoiler:his girlfriend's clone, reincarnated ''backwards in time'' to get married to Syaoran Jr.'s clone, who becomes Syaoran Sr., meaning technically he and his dad are the same person and his mom is an {{Expy}} of his girlfriend rather than the other way around.]] [[MindScrew It's complicated, OK?]]
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[[folder: Comic Books]]
* In ''ComicBook/GothamCitySirens'', ComicBook/HarleyQuinn's father turns out to be an incorrigible con artist constantly in and out of prison. His modus operandi is making women feel young and appreciated before taking them for everything they have, and he's smiling in almost every panel. Parallels to SelfDemonstrating/TheJoker are quite obvious.
** He even ''looks'' a little like Joker (specifically the Creator/JackNicholson [[Film/{{Batman}} portrayal]]).
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[[folder:Film]]
* In ''Film/BackToTheFuture'', Marty [=McFly=] marries Jennifer Parker who is quiet, soft-spoken, and easygoing just like his father George McFly.
** WordOfGod used this explanation as to why Marty's mother Lorraine and his ''paternal'' great-great-grandmother Maggie [=McFly=] are both played by Lea Thompson, saying that all [=McFly=] men are genetically predisposed to be attracted to women who look like Lea Thompson.
* ''Film/LiveFreeOrDieHard'' had this at the end.
* Pushed to the extreme in the French movie ''Itineraire d'un enfant gate'': Not only does the daughter want someone like her dad and ends up having a son from a man her father's age, then marrying a guy trained by her dad to act like him, but it's implied that it's also the case of the son.
* ''Franchise/StarWars'' - This trope ''may'' (read ''may'') be one of the MANY reasons Anakin Skywalker was such a disappointing character. Everybody was expecting Padme to fall in love with a LoveableRogue / JerkWithAHeartOfGold the way her daughter Leia fell for Han Solo. What we got was...well...
** On the other hand, the person that perpetrated the whole rebellion was Bail Organa, the man who actually raised Leia, so maybe that's how she gained her taste for "bad" boys.
** On the third, [[{{Metaphorgotten}} horrifying mutant hand]], [[NotSoDifferent Anakin was a gifted pilot who tended to get in trouble due to his brash, short-sighted decisions, relying on his skill to try getting himself out of situations]] his [[TooDumbToLive lack of sense]] [[NotSoDifferent had gotten himself into]].
* In ''AnOfficerAndAGentleman'', Paula confesses to Zack that she loves him because he reminds her of her father, a Navy aviator.
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[[folder:Literature]]
* ''Literature/{{Animorphs}}'': Tobias's mother Loren is a feisty, fearless, often reckless and smartmouthed blonde who falls for a guy outside her species.... hmm, I wonder who that sounds like.
* Several characters from ''Literature/HarryPotter'':
** Harry's main love interest [[spoiler:and later, wife]] Ginny is very similar, in appearance and personality, to his mother, whom he barely remembers.
** Ron's relationship with Hermione is very similar to the relationship between Mr. and Mrs. Weasley. Lampshaded multiple times, when the narration (which is from Harry's perspective) describes Hermione as acting very much like Mrs. Weasley.
** Fleur Delacour, who marries Ron's brother Bill, is also sometimes described as acting like Mrs. Weasley in the last two books.
* In the novel ''Vamped'', the girl's love interest and her adoptive father are getting a drink together. There's an awkward moment when they both look at their reflections and realize how similar they look...
* Explicitly outlined in RaptorRed; her father defined what Raptor Red looked for in a mate. Since she's, well, a Utahraptor, the text even brings up imprinting.
* In the Literature/TortallUniverse, the Yamani princess who has been engaged to Prince Roald was told that men whose mothers are strong and warlike want wives who [[NeutralFemale aren't]]. Roald's friends think [[AmazonChaser this is stupid]]. They're right.
* In ''Literature/TheDresdenFiles'', Molly Carpenter has a crush on Harry, which he attributes to this. People unfamiliar with the story of how Michael and Charity got together might not see the connection. Harry is a snarky SquishyWizard while Michael is a pious and buff swordsman. They do not look alike or act alike. The trope comes into play because both of them rescued a woman from terrible danger and almost certain death. [[spoiler:Michael rescued Charity from a dragon, Harry protected Molly from execution by the White Council. Molly wants a man that has the same virtues as her father, other more superficial similiarities are apparently superfluous.]] They are also both warriors who are willing to lay down their lives to protect their loved ones, the innocent, and the different codes of ethics they subscribe to. Michael and Harry are pretty darn similar. \\
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It's also interesting that Molly was dating a guy who superficially ''looks'' like Harry. In ''Ghost Story'' it's still going on and is full scale love and devotion.
* Two of the protagonists of Creator/StephenKing's ''Literature/{{IT}}'', upon growing up, marry people like their parents. Eddie Kaspbrak, the kid with asthma and a [[MyBelovedSmother Beloved Smother]], upon growing up, would marry Myra, a woman who is very much like her. Beverly Marsh, the only girl of the Loser's Club and whose father was abusive as hell, would marry Tom Rogan, a man just as abusive as her father.
* In Creator/JamesHSchmitz's ''Literature/TheWitchesOfKarres'', young heroine Goth announces that she is going to marry the (adult) hero when she grows up. It is noted by several characters that said hero very much resembles her father. ([[spoiler:They're distant cousins.]])
* Ayla from ''Literature/ClanOfTheCaveBear'' prefers the look of Neandertals to the look of humans, having been raised by the former.
* At the end of ''Jacob Have I Loved,'' by Creator/KatherinePaterson, the narrator starts to fall in love with a coal miner, who is several years older than her, when she realizes that he's the kind of man who would "sing to the oysters," a quirk of her fisherman father.

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[[folder:Live-Action TV]]
* It's spelled out explicitly in ''Series/{{Heroes}}'' season 2, with Claire and her creepy stalker guy.
** Particularly interesting example in that West is considered by Sandra to be personality-wise like Claire's adoptive father Noah, but his more obvious likeness (i.e. they can both fly) is to her biological father Nathan.
* D.J. on ''{{Roseanne}}'' briefly had a bossy girlfriend eerily reminiscent of his mother. It forced Roseanne to wonder if the way she treated Dan was having a negative effect on him (though of course, [[StatusQuoIsGod not much comes from it]]).
** In another episode Roseanne [[InvokedTrope invokes]] this trope, yelling at Dan because she doesn't like her daughter Becky's boyfriend. When Dan asks why that's his fault, she responds that "girls always marry their fathers." This is portrayed as irrational, though it seems Dan and Roseanne's early romance was at least somewhat similar (Dan is described as having once been rather cool, in a rock band, etc.)
** And much later, Mark (Becky's eventual husband) and Dan bond over the fact that they ARE so similar, with several characters commenting on how similar they are. (David, Darleen's eventual husband, does NOT follow this rule, being meek, book-smart and artistic.)
* ''Series/ThirtyRock'' had an episode where Liz's much-younger boyfriend's mother turned out to be the spitting image of Liz, even ''wearing the same outfit''. Creeped out, Liz ended their relationship.
* ''{{Friends}}'' parodied this, where Rachel's father is visiting at the same time as her mother, and as the two hate each other, Rachel has to sleep them in separate rooms. When Ross tries to get Rachel's father's glasses, drink and cigarettes, Rachel's mother notices, and advises Rachel see a psychiatrist as "you've chosen a boyfriend who is exactly like your father."
-->'''Chandler:''' Rachel, what is the deal with you and doctors, anyway? Is, like, your father a doctor?\\
'''Rachel:''' Yeah, why?
* An episode of ''Series/{{Scrubs}}'' in which Carla realizes she's exactly like "Mama Turk" and has a mini HeroicBSOD as a result.
** Justified by Turk, who actually admits this is WHY he likes Carla (who immediately get's up before he makes sure to explain), with him saying that their similarities ("smart, independent, always looking out for you) are actually rather attractive traits in a person, regardless of being shared with a parent.
** Lady is able to overlook the Janitor's many, ''many'' eccentricities because she's attracted to his cleanliness. ([[NoodleIncident "You also look like my father, but that's a whole other set of issues."]])
* Reversed in ''MyFamily'', where Susan sets her son Michael up with a girlfriend that is exactly like her and no-one notices until the father Ben points this out, at which point Michael is completely disgusted with himself.
* ''Series/{{House}}'': Pointed out by House as the reason why Chase is attracted to a doctor he was responsible for hiring as part of House's diagnostics team, demonstrating this with a side-by-side comparison with a photo projection which shows an uncanny physical resemblance between the two women.
* Kate's two potential love interests on ''Series/{{Lost}}'' each remind her of one of her fathers. Jack represents the stand-up guy she thought was her father. Sawyer represents the rogue "stepfather" who turned out to be her biological father (whom she also killed).
* Series/{{Castle}}'s mom and first wife are both [[HeroesWantRedheads redheads]], and his first wife is a lot like his mom. Beckett also warns him that because of how much she adores him, his daughter is likely to end up dating someone like him. Castle is [[SelfDeprecation less than thrilled with the idea]].
* In ''TheDrewCareyShow'', Drew entered into a MayDecemberRomance with a woman who reminded everyone ''else'' of Drew's mother while Drew himself was oblivious. Drew was thoroughly [[{{Squick}} squicked]] soon after it was pointed out to him.
* ''PressGang'': Spike's mom is a copy of Linda, spike's girlfriend, down to her being played by the same actress in a flashback.
* ''{{Frasier}}'' dates a woman who is the spitting image of his mother - Niles and Martin see it, but Frasier can't or won't. An old home movie eventually tips him off.
** It gets better. Frasier is a Freudian psychiatrist.
* In ''Series/HowIMetYourMother'' Barney intentionally invokes this in order to seduce women. He even tries picking a girl up by just walking up to her and saying, "Daddy's home."
** An episode is dedicated to this trope when Barney's brother express a dislike of his girlfriend Nora because she, in his opinion, reminds him too much of their mother. The episode later showed that Marshall and Lily remind each other of one another fathers.
* In one episode of ''GilmoreGirls'' Lorelai notes that Rory's current boyfriend Dean, vaguely resembles Rory's father, Chris, and wonders if this means something (Chris is basically an absentee dad at this point). Sookie suggests this might just mean that Rory inherited Lorelai's tastes.
** Ironically Dean is almost nothing like Chris, but similar to Luke, Rory's ''surrogate'' father and Lorelai's eventual fiancee.
** Rory's next boyfriend Jess is actually Luke's ''nephew'' and like Dean, shares similarities with him. So Rory ended up with a miniature of her surrogate father/mother's partner, and Lorelai with an older version of her ''daughter's'' boyfriend. The writers must love this trope.
** Ultimately its boyfriend number 3, Logan, who bears a resemblance to Chris. Made even funnier when Chris instantly takes a liking to him and tells Rory he approves. Lorelai takes a bit longer to warm up.
* Discussed in ''Series/SexAndTheCity''. Carrie wonders if her father walking out on them when she was 5 is the reason she has such problems with men, until Miranda assures her that she has the same problems and her dad was home every day at 7.
** That sounds like the writers [[DefiedTrope defying]] the [[NeverHeardThatOneBefore inevitable comments]] that the girls must have "daddy issues."
* Charlie on ''TwoAndAHalfMen'' in one episode dates a real estate agent who dresses, acts, and belittles everyone exactly like his mother. She even has two sons who act exactly like the titular two brothers as kids.
** Also in ''TwoAndAHalfMen'', the father of Charlie's semi-stalker, Rose, is [[CastingGag played by Martin Sheen]].
* On ''ParksAndRecreation'', Ron has two bitchy ex-wives, both of whom are named Tammy:
-->'''Ron''': Yes, my mother's name is Tammy. What's your point?
* Referenced in ''Series/TheBigBangTheory''. After psychoanalysing Penny, Leonard's mother tells him that if he wants to have sex with Penny he should use the same kind of cologne her father wears.
** That said Penny is nothing like Leonard's borderline abusive ice cold Freudian psychologist mother.
** Similarly, Howard thinks it's hot when his fiancee yells at him and sounds ''exactly'' like his mother. (But then, Howard's relationship with his mother is rather abnormal.)
* In ''The Class'', Holly Ellenbogen's husband and father are both extremely CampStraight.
* In the revived ''Series/DoctorWho'', we meet Rose's father, an amateur inventor and entrepreneur, who underneath his irresponsible façade is actually a heroic man.
* ''Series/{{Californication}}'': Becca has some serious father issues. Her season 5 boyfriend Tyler is basically a younger version of her father Hank Moody, which is acknowledged InUniverse. Hank is an acclaimed writer but has troubles dealing with life in general. Becca's boyfriend Tyler has a brilliant literary mind, but unfortunately he is also a jerk who cheats on her and lies to her. Becca follows [[LikeFatherLikeSon her mother Karen's pattern of constant forgiving him]].
* In ''Series/FromDuskTillDawn'' Scott accuses Katie of this: the [[PreachersKid preacher’s daughter]] dating a guy who texts her Bible quotes as a way of flirting.
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[[folder:Music]]
* Music/TheLonelyIsland: Played for laughs in ''Motherlovers'': Since they both forgot to get a gift for their mothers on Mother's Day, they come up with the brilliant plan to both have sex with their best friends mother. Since they are like brothers to each other. [[IncestIsRelative And they obviously couldn't do it themselves]].
* The {{Chromeo}} song "Momma's Boy" is about a man who likes a woman because she looks like his mother. The woman also likes him because he looks like her father.
* Music/ThePolice song ''Mother'' from 1983's ''Synchronicity''.
* ''I Want A Girl'' by Will Dillon and Harry Tilzer from 1911, mentioned in Western Animation below for ''WesternAnimation/DuckTales''.
** "I want a girl, just like the girl, that married dear old Dad"
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[[folder:Newspaper Comics]]
* In the comic strip ''ComicStrip/ForBetterOrForWorse,'' April once claimed that Elizabeth's boyfriend (and eventual husband), Anthony, was exactly like their dad.
** John himself compares Anthony to John.
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[[folder:Religion and Mythology]]
* In Literature/TheBible, Isaac has a PerfectlyArrangedMarriage with Rebecca shortly after Sarah's death; he gives her Sarah's old tent and she comforts him from his grieving. One Jewish tradition holds that certain miracles had occurred during Sarah's lifetime and only resumed after Rebecca showed up.
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[[folder:Theater]]
* ''ThePhantomOfTheOpera'': Part of Christine's attraction to The Phantom is that he reminds her of her father.
* ''{{Company}}'': When Larry is explaining why he loves Joanne despite her snarkiness and abrasive behaviour, he mentions that his mother was a "very difficult woman", suggesting that this trope is in play.
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[[folder:Video Games]]
* In the ''VideoGame/StarFox'' comic by Benimaru Itoh, Fara Phoenix puts on Fox's mother Vixy's dress and suddenly bears an uncanny resemblance to Vixy.
* ''Franchise/MassEffect'' - Ashley is a fourth-generation MilitaryBrat (father, grandfather, great-grandmother) whose shown romantic interests are all fellow space marines. If she and Male-Shep are together in the third game, she mentions how much her dad would have liked him.
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[[folder:Webcomics]]
* Used during the infamous Melna/Stonewater storyline of ''Webcomic/DominicDeegan'' strip, where Melna realizes that she's fallen for a man who raped her when she was a teenager to try and save her life (long story) because he reminds her of her dead father.
* Meta example: Kelly Turnbull, of ''Webcomic/ManlyGuysDoingManlyThings'' fame.
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[[folder:Web Originals]]
* WebVideo/TheNostalgiaChick's "Top 10 Hottest Animated Guys," which were chosen by the fanbase, mostly consisted of various types of "[[AllGirlsWantBadBoys bad boys]]." The Chick concludes that all her viewers are just like her in that they're the children of alcoholics [[ICanChangeMyBeloved looking for someone to change]].
** {{Inverted}} in her "{{Disney Princess}}es" review, where she suggests that the number of [[BumblingDad bumbling, emasculated fathers]] indicates the princesses were looking for manlier replacements in their husbands.
* ''{{Nullmetal Alchemist}}'':
--> '''Al:''' "She's (Psiren) amazing isn't she?"
--> '''Ed:''' "Well yeah. Of the women who've seen my naughty bits she ranks up there."
--> '''Al:''' "But she's special."
--> '''Ed:''' "Uh huh."
--> '''Al:''' "You don't understand. She awakens a fire within me!"
--> '''Ed:''' "Lovely."
--> '''Al:''' "I haven't been this enraptured by a woman since... (flashback to his mother smiling at him) Since..."
--> '''Ed:''' "Since... since... (beat) Wait a sec! You're attracted to her because she reminds you of mum!"
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[[folder:Western Animation]]
* Discussed in ''WesternAnimation/HomeMovies''. Brendan starts putting on weight, so Coach [=McGuirk=] tells him to go for the girls whose fathers were fat during their "impressionable years." [=McGuirk=] later on goes on a disastrous date with the school nurse, and one of the first questions he asked was if her father was fat. In another episode, he drunkenly tells his date "Y'know, I think it was Charles Darwin who said that men want to marry their mothers. So maybe that's why I like you, cause you remind me of my mother. Which is funny, because I hate my mother..."
* In one episode of ''WesternAnimation/AmericanDad'', Hayley dates her father's CIA body double. The same episode implies that her insane anger issues stem from feeling like Stan never accepts her.
* DiscussedTrope in ''WesternAnimation/{{Futurama}}'', after Mom slaps her sons around and plots world domination. "Someday I want to marry a girl like her."
* In an episode of ''WesternAnimation/DuckTales'', the Beagle Boys sing a song about how they want a girl "Just like the girl that married dear old Dad!"
* In an episode of ''WesternAnimation/TheSimpsons'', Principal Skinner muses, "I always thought I'd marry a girl like Mom... and didn't really want to."
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[[folder:Real Life]]
* A lot of baby birds will upon hatching imprint on one of the first things they see. As adults, sometimes they go for their own kind, sometimes... they don't.
** The (nonfiction) book "When Elephants Weep" details the case of Tex, a whooping crane who was hand-raised and, when mature, rejected male cranes for "Caucasian men of average height with dark hair." Whooping cranes are so endangered that it was thought vital to get her into "breeding condition," at which point she could be successfully artificially inseminated. So the director of the International Crane Foundation, who met the necessary criteria, spent many weeks courting her. It worked, making this a case of InterspeciesRomance with emphasis on "romance" in the non-euphemistic sense of the word.
--->"My duties involved endless hours of 'just being there', several minutes of dancing early in the morning and again in the evening, long walks in quest of earthworms, nest building, and defending our territory against humans."
** On a related note, putting whooping crane eggs [[SwitchedAtBirth into the nests of related sandhill cranes]] and letting the sandhills raise them results in whooping cranes who are attracted to sandhills. The resulting hybrids are not viable, though.
* This is very much TruthInTelevision, as psychologists have discovered. The idea is that when you are a child you grow up in a safe, loving environment that sets a template for the future. You look for people similar to your parents because they remind you of the safety you had as a child. [[FridgeBrilliance Perfectly logical]], and only minimally {{squick}}y.
** Well, think about it in an evolutionary sense - your very existence is proof that your parents are a successful template to follow!
** Mixed with FridgeHorror when you realize that this often applies to people who were raised by AbusiveParents. Contrary to common depictions of AbusiveParents who are not nice, many abusive parents have a nice side. Their children will love them for their nice qualities, but most likely won't be able to filter the abusive aspects out of their template of a perfect mate. So these people are made vulnerable to DomesticAbuse later on in life.
*** The other aspect is that abusers will often tell their victims, [[ObliviouslyEvil and may even believe themselves,]] that the abuse is for their own good. Warp a child's thinking that violent beatings are normal discipline needed for kids to grow up right, and the result will often be someone who goes on to be an abuser or marry an abuser.
*** Less than 1/5 of people abused as children abuse their kids. However, ending up with someone who would abuse your kids as a romantic partner is depressingly common for people abused as children.
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