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->''"There's something I want to tell you\\
There's something I think that you should know\\
It's not that I shouldn't really love you\\
Let's take it slow"''
-->--'''JanetJackson''', "Let's Wait Awhile"

->''Life's too short to make a mistake\\
Let's think of each other and hesitate\\
Young and impatient we may be\\
There's no need to act foolishly\\
If we part our hearts won't forget it\\
Years from now we'll surely regret it''
-->-- '''Chairmen of the Board''', "Give Me Just a Little More Time"

A SisterTrope to CelibateHero, where the character (more often male than female) declares that they've no intention of having sex just for the sake of sex. Either they're waiting for "The One", or they think they've found them, but the timing isn't right (and if it's TheirFirstTime, they want it to be special).

A common thing in many religions, which declare that sex is sacred and must be saved for the wedding night. In fact, pre-marital sex used to be a taboo topic, but nowadays it seems to be an unquestionable standard.

If the character who wants to wait is male, it's usually to show him as a romantic or old-fashioned (often both), probably due to the belief that usually AManIsNotAVirgin. If female, there's about the same chance it'll be because AllWomenArePrudes.

A frequent variant is an engaged couple deciding not to have sex again until after the wedding to make their wedding night "special". (Even though, y'know, they could have made it even more special by not having sex at all until the wedding...)[[labelnote:*]]Although sexual compatibility could be a reason.[[/labelnote]]

Compare GoodPeopleHaveGoodSex. Contrast NatureAbhorsAVirgin, EverybodyHasLotsOfSex.

Occasionally paired with InsatiableNewlyweds to show that the couple weren't waiting out of prudishness.



[[folder: Anime & Manga ]]

* In ''Manga/GirlFriends'', due to both sides mistakenly assuming that their still virgin partner already had sex with somebody else, [[spoiler:[[LipstickLesbian Mari and Akko]]]] had a very awkward first attempt that ended with this.


[[folder: Comics ]]

* Franchise/{{Batman}}'s [[ComicBook/RobinSeries Timothy Drake]], [[LegacyCharacter the third Robin]]. He's one of the few persons in the Bat-Family (and the {{DCU}} superhero community) who hasn't done it. The dude's had at least 5 girlfriends, and has been propositioned for sex ''thrice.'' Gotta love that guy.
* In ''NewWarriors'': Firestar, Nova and Namorita break Justice out of the convoy taking him to prison[[note]]He'd been convicted of manslaughter in the death of his father[[/note]]. After Vance [[SelfRestraint convinces them to let him face the music]], Nova, Namorita and the guards look the other way while he and Firestar "have a private goodbye." Angelica wants to, but Vance convinces her that their first time should be more special than a quick rut in the woods.
* [[ScottPilgrim Scott Pilgrim and Ramona Flowers]] do this in volume 1. After their first "date", Scott ends up at Ramona's apartment with the (literal) [[GirlOfMyDreams girl of his dreams]] half-naked, on top of him, in bed. Ramona abruptly changes her mind about sex, and they still sleep in the same bed. Scott professes to be fine with this. It's unclear whether he's telling the truth or is just willing to let her set the pace and take what he can get in the meantime; when he's with a woman he really likes, he has a tendency (especially this early in his CharacterDevelopment) to be pretty whipped.
* In ''NineChickweedLane'', Edda and Amos attempt the "abstinence until marriage" route. We find out about this after they apparently immediately broke that vow and Edda comically tries to convince Amos that [[AllJustADream he dreamed it.]] (Amos knew and played along, because he thought it was sweet she was thinking of his honour.)
* In ''Comicbook/UltimateSpiderMan Annual #3'', Peter Parker and Mary Jane discuss whether they're ready to take their relationship to the next level. In the end MJ decides she's not, and Peter tells her that while he wants to sleep with her, he's more than willing to wait until she's ready.

[[folder: Film ]]

* ''Film/TheFortyYearOldVirgin'': The protagonist and his love interest decide to wait until they've had a certain number of dates before they...do it.
* Brought up in the film adaptation of ''Film/LikeWaterForChocolate'' by Pedro to his new bride Rosaura. However, the marriage is not of love but simply to delay an uncomfortable marriage obligation (Pedro married Rosaura to be close to her sister Tita, his true love). Pedro throws in one successful excuse to why they should wait but eventually the deed is done (to produce a son).
* In ''Film/JumpingTheBroom'', after having a one night stand with a man who already had a girlfriend, Sabrina decides that the next time she has sex, she will be married. She eventually meets and gets engaged to Jason, and they decide they will abide by that rule.


[[folder: Literature ]]

* AnitaBlake didn't put out until the [[spoiler:sixth]] book in the series, due to a bastard ex-fiancee.
* The "engaged" version also happens in ''OddThomas''. [[spoiler:Tragically, before they can actually consummate their love, the girl dies.]]


[[folder: Live Action TV ]]

* There never seems to be any question that Cory and Topanga in ''BoyMeetsWorld'' are going to wait until they are married, although Cory [[AManIsAlwaysEager has a harder time waiting]] than Topanga does. At one point during the engagement, she shows him her butt as a compromise to placate him.
* The "engaged couple agreeing to wait until their wedding day before they do it again" happened on ''Series/{{Scrubs}}'' with Turk and Carla.
** In the case of ''Scrubs'', it lasted less than an entire episode, by the time Turk comes around to the idea as being romantic, Carla has had such a rough day that she needs some loving affection and changes her mind. Turk is happy to oblige. In season 1, Carla mentions to Elliot that she usually waits a month to sleep with new boyfriends. As she puts it, she likes to make them wait until they think they are ''never'' going to get in her pants, and then jump them like an animal (which usually takes about a month).
* ''{{Friends}}'' had the same situation with Monica and Chandler. Seeing as these are the two who declared they were the best the other had ever had, the decision didn't last long. Within a week, they staged a pretend fight to "break off" the engagement so they could sleep together again.
** A variation also occurred on ''HowIMetYourMother.'' Marshall and Lily decided not to sleep together, in the literal sense, for a few days before they got married but they couldn't stand to be away from each other.
* Appears no less than three times in ''GossipGirl''s first season. An ongoing plot in the first seven episodes is Blair wanting to lose her virginity to Nate, who keeps putting it off. Dan also takes this stance with Serena for a few episodes. And Chuck Bass, of all people, tells Blair in the season finale that they should wait a while and "do it right this time".
* ''Series/ArrestedDevelopment'':
-->Ann: And then that first time, after waiting and waiting, itís gonna be so awesome! Because itís not just going to be my love and George Michaelís, but Godís love, as well. God, itís gonna be incredible!
* On Series/FridayNightLights, the first time Julie and Matt attempt sex, they realize they're doing it just because they each think the other is "The One." They're ''correct'' about that, but decide there's no rush to have sex and that they'll wait until it feels right.
* [[SubvertedTrope Subverted]] in ''Series/HowIMetYourMother'', where in a flashback, Marshall and Lily decide to wait to have sex... and then do it ten minutes later.
** Victoria and Ted planned to wait a month, but got too impatient after the first two weeks.
* In ''GreysAnatomy'' Erica and Callie agree to wait before having sex because they both think they aren't ready to have sex with another woman. A few dates later, they consummate their relationship.
* Provides lots of humor in ''Girlfriends'' when GoodBadGirl Lynn starts dating a celibate man. He initially refuses to date her due to her...reputation, but she convinces him that she can wait. She's...not very good at it.
* Blanche dated one man like this on ''TheGoldenGirls'' - she was so confused by the idea she misinterpreted it as him not finding her attractive.
** Inverted in one episode with Sophia. Despite both of them being in their eighties, she decides to jump into bed with a man quite quickly.


[[folder: Music ]]

* The TropeNamer is Janet Jackson's song "Let's Wait A While".
* Jermaine Stewart's "We Don't Have To Take Our Clothes Off." The lyrics can be summed up as thus: "Don't move so fast and try to get to the sex right away, it's insulting and unclassy - let's just have fun and enjoy ourselves before we go any further." Interestingly, the POV character who wants to wait is male.
* AvrilLavigne's "Don't Tell Me."
* Music/LadyAntebellum's ''Just a Kiss'' goes, "So baby I'm alright, oh, let's do this right, with just a kiss goodnight."


[[folder: Webcomics ]]

* Nick and Ki from ''Webcomic/GeneralProtectionFault'': Nick wanted to wait until he and Ki were married because he's an old-fashioned romantic. Ki thought his explanation was the [[CrowningMomentOfHeartwarming sweetest thing ever]].
* [[DominicDeegan Dominic and Luna.]] Dominic learns that Luna's first time was an (intentionally engineered) utter disaster, so she has some serious hang-ups about intimacy on top her own self-esteem issues. It works out in the end, though (Three words: [[CrowningMomentOfHeartwarming "Worth. The. Wait.]])
* Tipper and Charles from ''Webcomic/NamirDeiter'', much to the annoyance of their roommate Gabby, who wished they'd stop crawling the walls and start crawling each other.
* [[Webcomic/{{Walkyverse}} Joyce and Walky]], due to Joyce's near-psychotic aversion to "pre-marital hanky-panky."
** Eventually, facing the imminent EndOfTheWorld battle and having already gotten engaged, they [[PreClimaxClimax go for it]] and (being mildly super powered individuals) cause some [[DestructoNookie serious structural damage]] to their hotel room in the process.
* In ''Webcomic/PennyAndAggie'', Marshall repeatedly says this to Karen, because "we're kids." (The real reason, as the comic later reveals, is that he thinks having sex too soon will make him like his hedonistic mother, whom he resents.) However, Karen's self-esteem is so tied up in Marshall "wanting" her that she deliberately walks in on him in the shower and, when he still refuses to make love, gives him a hand-job [[RapeIsLove without asking]]. After several months, [[spoiler: Marshall decides he's ready and they consummate their relationship...but break up soon after for unrelated reasons]].
** A FanArt strip parodies this Marshall/Karen trope by portraying them in the future as newlyweds. As Marshall carries her over the threshold, the blushing Karen raises the question again, but he says, "Don't be silly. We're still just kids."
* ''Webcomic/TheInexplicableAdventuresOfBob'' obliquely addresses this [[http://bobadventures.comicgenesis.com/d/20110730.html here.]]
* In ''Webcomic/MenageA3'', Gary said this a couple of times when his then-girlfriend Yuki attempted intimacy. How much of his motives were being a gentleman and how much was due to concern over the [[GroinAttack violent]] [[HollywoodPsych psychotic breaks]] male genitals caused her is up in the air.
* Taken UpToEleven in [[http://www.somethingpositive.net/sp09232013.shtml this]] ''Webcomic/SomethingPositive'' strip during a marital preparedness course.
-->''"Oh, we got married seven years ago, but Gary really want to wait until it's special."''


[[folder: Video Games ]]

* In ''BaldursGate II: Shadow Of Amn'', this is the proper choice when romancing Aerie, near the end of the quest. If you accept her invitation and do the deed, in the morning after she will break up with you because she wasn't really as ready as she thought, and you took advantage of her emotions. If you tell her to wait, she'll later be happy you did the right thing. Besides, you have other opportunities in the expansion.
** Viconia's romance takes a different approach. You can bed her fairly early on (and will break off the relationship if you don't accept), but later on considers it just a tedious duty ("Let's just get it over with"). You can respond by just having sex as usual... or offer to just cuddle, since she's clearly not in the mood for anything else. Viconia is very suprised at this un-drow-like option, but says afterwards that it wasn't bad.
* In ''VideoGame/DragonAgeOrigins'', the romance option with Alistair plays out like this. [[spoiler: You ''can'' convince him to go to bed instead of waiting for him to feel ready and approach you, but the love scene doesn't play and he seems unhappy about it.]]
* Kate, the true love interest of ''Videogame/GrandTheftAutoIV'', no matter how many times Niko dates her, she will not sleep with him.
* In ''VideoGame/MassEffect2'', a romanced Garrus asks to wait until [[PreClimaxClimax just before you start the Suicide Mission]].
-->'''Garrus:''' You know me. I always like to savor the last shot before popping the heat sink ({{Beat}}) [[ThatCameOutWrong Wait, that metaphor]] [[CrowningMomentOfFunny went somewhere horrible.]]
* Another {{Bioware}} example is in ''StarWarsTheOldRepublic'': during the [[BadassBookworm Jedi Consular's]] romance path with Nadia, [[spoiler:he turns her down the first time she propositions him for sex, telling her that she's acting out of fear, grief, and desperation, not love. Her pleading with him to acquiesce and eventual admittance that she does fear losing him at any moment just cements this as the right decision in his mind. And it is--Nadia later thanks him for it, apologizes for her behavior, and agrees to take things slowly, so they can truly appreciate what they have instead of rushing it.]]


[[folder: Other ]]

* One blogger on Israblog once told his friend that he cared enough about his girlfriend when they first started dating that he decided to take things very slow with her. That just made her [[MistakenForGay think he was gay]].


[[folder: Western Animation ]]

* Parodied in ''WesternAnimation/CloneHigh''. Everyone expects to "go up a base, sex-wise" on Prom Night, which for Gandhi would mean going from ADateWithRosiePalms to dry-humping a girl through their clothes, a prospect that excites him to the point that he becomes fixated on it. After some false starts, he finally gets together with a willing partner in Marie Curie, only to stop abruptly and say that they're so young, maybe they should wait. She replies that "I guess the driest love of all is abstinence."