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[[caption-width-right:350:Elliot (straight) <- Justin (gay) <- Susan (straight) <- Catalina (lesbian)]]

-> ''"'Cause Carol's a lesbian... and I'm not one. And apparently it's not a mix-and-match situation."''
-->-- '''Ross''', ''Series/{{Friends}}''

{{Alice|AndBob}} has a thing for Bob. Maybe they've been [[UnluckyChildhoodFriend friends for a while]] and she's ready for a RelationshipUpgrade, or perhaps they [[RescueRomance just met]] and it's LoveAtFirstSight, but regardless, she's perfectly smitten.

But there's one problem: Bob is gay, and he's already in love with Charlie.

A character has an Incompatible Orientation when they are coveted by [[AllLoveIsUnrequited someone who can]] [[LoveHurts never have them]], because they just don't sway that way. They can be any character who has an incompatible sexual orientation to their admirer, and they will usually already be in a relationship with [[LoveTriangle someone else]]. Note that this can also apply if someone is {{Asexual}} (not interested in a sexual relationship with ''anyone'', male or female).

To meet the requirements of this trope the relationship must be stated [[TragicDream as hopeless or impossible]] ''in-universe'' (by a character or through WordOfGod) ''at some point in time''. This means that Incompatible Orientation doesn't have to be a permanent state of being, and attempts may be made within the plot to [[CureYourGays 'fix']] [[BiTheWay it]].

In a lot of works, especially {{manga}} and {{anime}}, this is often done mostly for amusement purposes, by turning the person in love into a HopelessSuitor or even a ButtMonkey. Lesbians are particularly prone to receive this treatment, although others are not exempt from it.

Can be the result of EvenTheGuysWantHim or EvenTheGirlsWantHer. The admirer may or may not be a FagHag or HopelessSuitor. May overlap with AllLoveIsUnrequited and {{Gayngst}}. The reason why SorryImGay is supposed to work. May be resolved if the admired decides IfItsYouItsOkay. Of course, some characters can simply resort to JumpingTheGenderBarrier.

Compare to SettledForGay, where they may have incompatible orientations, but they decided they probably wouldn't find a suitable suitor anyways. Compare also LastHetRomance, where the incompatibility causes a character to discover they're gay and break off the relationship. See also AllTheGoodMenAreGay. If a character informs someone about an Incompatible Orientation, it's either SorryImGay or DudeShesALesbian.

TruthInTelevision.

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[[folder:Anime & Manga]]
* Almost aggravatingly so in ''HanaKimi'' with Nakao and his blatant crush on the womanizing Minami Nanba, whom Nakao still believes he has a chance with.
* In ''SasamekiKoto'' Masaki Akemiya has an adorable, albeit unfortunate, crush on his [[GirlsLove girl-loving classmate]] Sumika Murasame.
* Kuroko from ''Manga/ACertainScientificRailgun'' has a major crush on her ''[[OneeSama onee-sama]]'' Mikoto, who in turn has a huge crush on Touma, the main character of ''LightNovel/ACertainMagicalIndex'', a guy. There is hope for her though, since she's made it clear that she lusts after [[SingleTargetSexuality anyone who looks like Mikoto]], and Mikoto has 10,000 clones. At least ''one'' has to be a lesbian who would be interested in Kuroko.
* In ''EndOfEvangelion'', [[BridgeBunnies Maya]] is revealed to be a lesbian with an unrequited crush on her "sempai", Ritsuko, who is very much into manly men. This also caused [[TheCasanova Kaji]]'s earlier attempts to flirt with her to fail.
* In ''TaishouYakyuuMusume'', Tomoe has a thing for Koume, who in turn seems to be rather content with her [[ArrangedMarriage arranged fiancé]].
* ''LightNovel/{{Kampfer}}'': This is the primary romantic woe of Senou Natsuru: His crush, Sakura Kaede, turns out to be a [[SchoolgirlLesbians lesbian]]. This became [[HilarityEnsues more complicated]] when she falls for his [[{{AttractiveBentGender}} female self]].
* Falco Lombardi and Katt Monroe in the canonical ''VideoGame/StarFox'' manga ''FarewellBelovedFalco''. The Incompatible Orientation is that Falco has never wanted a girlfriend, nor will he ''ever'' want one. It becomes blatantly clear that Falco has never felt swayed or had any sort of MaleGaze for any female character. Though whether this makes him [[StraightGay gay]] or [[{{Asexuality}} asexual]] is never made clear from only this context. The [[HoYay other contexts]], however...
** [[http://www.vgcats.com/comics/?strip_id=221 It's all there in the dialogue.]]
* Masato from ''MangaNoTsukurikata'' is in love with his childhood friend Morishita, who in turn is in love with his sister.
* Kudo from ''DokiDokiSchoolHours'' has a major crush on Suetake, who in turn is totally oblivious regarding his feelings. Of course, this could also be due to the fact hat [[TheDitz Suetake is a complete dolt]].
** Likewise, Kitagawa definitely has a thing for her teacher Mika, who doesn't appear to swing that way at all.
* Toyed around with endlessly in ''MariaHolic''. The [[CovertPervert main character]] goes to an all-female school to meet girls, and basically falls in love with every girl she meets. However it seems like really no one she has met is a lesbian.
* ''Anime/SaberMarionetteJ'' makes a running gag of the attraction the [[CampGay flamingly gay]] rich boy Hanigata has for the poor, industrious (and fundamentally straight) Otaru.
* ''Manga/GirlsBravo'' has the PsychoLesbian Kosame and eventually Hijiri falling in love with and attempting to [[BlackComedyRape molest]] the very straight Kirie.
* In ''Manga/{{Working}}'', Jun is having a hard time with his feelings for his colleague Yachiyo, who in turn is in love with Kyouko, her female boss at the family restaurant they work at.
** Questionable - although Yachiyo is utterly devoted to Kyouko and would almost certainly be willing. There is no direct evidence that they have ever been lovers or that either have ever had lesbian sex with anyone.
* In ''Manga/KatekyoHitmanReborn'' [[CampGay Lussuria]] has a creepy love for Ryohei [[CatchPhrase to the EXTREME]] even though he is straight (and one of the few to be obviously married in the future).
* Jessie from ''BattleAthletes'' is completely straight. That doesn't stop her from attracting a one-episode female StalkerWithACrush.
* Kou from ''Manga/AoiHana'' has it tough, since Kyouko, the girl he is ''engaged'' to, is lesbian--at least judging by her crush on Yasuko.
* ''MahouTsukaiTai'' takes the cake for having multiple cases in the same LoveDodecahedron. Aburatsubo, the bishonen gay vice-president is crushing on Takeo, the straight club president (who lusts for CuteWitch Sae, who is too shy to express her feelings for Takeo). Meanwhile Nanaka (another CuteWitch and club member) has a crush on Aburatsubo, which he can't return either. They have a heartwarming moment when she confesses and he turns her down... but admits that he knows fully well how she feels, unable to have the one you love.
* ''VampireGame'': [[spoiler:Laphiji is in love with Seiliez, his {{Not Blood Sibling|s}}. Unfortunately for him Seiliez is shown to be straight considering his crush on Ishtar. However this can also be subverted for it is hinted later on that Laphiji and Seiliez ''do'' begin a sexual relationship... albeit one that is likely to not last long.]]
* Happens twice in ''KarakuridoujiUltimo''. Akitsu has a crush on Rune, who has a crush on his best friend Yamato, who has a crush on a girl named Sayama. We should point out that Rune does not [[DepravedHomosexual take it]] [[{{Yandere}} very well.]] [[AttemptedRape At]] [[AxCrazy all.]]
* Sara from ''TenshiNiNarumon'' [[spoiler: develops a big crush on Mikael in the second season but it never goes anywhere because first, Mikael has only eyes for anything related to angels and second, he's already in love with his male teacher, Raphael - even if he has problems admitting the fact to himself]]
** Similarly, Natsumi [[spoiler: has some questionable feelings towards her deceased older brother Fuyuki over whom she obsesses throughout the whole series, but again, it never goes anywhere because first, Fuyuki is well, dead and he turned into an angel Raphael and second he's in love with his male student, Mikael]]
* In ''Manga/HayateTheCombatButler'', Luca confesses to Hayate that if he were a guy, she'd have fallen for him. She thinks he's a girl because she's only met him while he was crossdressed, so she doesn't know that Hayate is actually a guy, and that she actually did confess to him because of it.
** Even before the confession he didn't want to let her know he's actually a guy.
** Both Miki and Ayumu have expressed romantic interest in Hinagiku as well, and decided to take a backseat to things, since Hinagiku is smitten with male Hayate. Ayumu has expressed interest in Hayate as well, allowing her to possibly supercede the limits of this trope without changing any orientations.
* ''LightNovel/{{Bakemonogatari}}'': Suruga is in love with Hitagi who is straight and dating Koyomi.
* Makoto from ''WanderingSon'' has fallen for several boys (and men), however right now the object of his affections is his (ignorant and immature) straight friend.
* This is the official WordOfGod response to questions about the relationship between [[FanPreferredCouple Konata and Kagami]] in ''Manga/LuckyStar''. One of the girls is in love with the other, who is straight. [[WildMassGuessing They didn't say which one is which, though.]]
* Possibly the case in ''LightNovel/KyoKaraMaoh''. [[CrazyJealousGuy Wolfram]] is head-over-heels for [[HaveIMentionedIAmHeterosexualToday Yuuri]]. Yuuri wishes people would stop [[MistakenForGay assuming he feels the same]]. [[AlternateCharacterInterpretation Alternatively]], the rest of the world could be right, and Yuuri could be living in a TransparentCloset.
* In ''ShinshiDoumeiCross'', student council president Shizumasa [[spoiler: aka Takanari]] has so many women chasing after him that he has Maguri, another male member of the Student Council, pretend to be his lover. The problem with this arrangement? Maguri actually does have feelings for him, and has to sit by and watch while he chases the main heroine instead.
* CampGay ArmsDealer Fred Luo is in love with straight HandsomeLech Gene Starwind from ''OutlawStar'', but neither of them seems to {{Gayngst}} about it. Gene uses Fred's crush to score better deals on parts and weapons, and Fred uses Gene's desperation for said parts as a bargaining chip in his less...legitimate business endeavors.
** Lampshaded when Fred tells Gene that, in exchange for supplies, he 'owes him a favor'. Gene doesn't miss a beat before responding "I'm not going to sleep with you Fred."
* [[spoiler:Furui]] of ''Manga/PoorPoorLips'', despite his initial dislike towards her, ends up having a crush on Ren. This causes him no small amount of angst since one of the causes for his initial dislike is his discomfort around the fact that Ren is an out of the closet lesbian.
* Ladies' man Sanji of ''OnePiece'' is wanted by the entire population of the gay island Kamabakka Kingdom.
* ''{{Sekirei}}'' has it's own way with this trope. [[spoiler: Homura]] has an unstable gender, but mentally identifies himself as male. At the start of the story he was physically male, and had been trying to find an Ashikabi who was female. However, as time went on his body began reacting to main character Minato, who is a heterosexual male. As a result, [[spoiler: Homura]] began tuning into a woman. It's not clear if the transformation was complete by the time he was finally "winged", but the character now has breasts as well as more feminine features, and is pretty annoyed and uncomfortable with the whole situation. Poor, guy/girl.
* ''LightNovel/HaiyoreNyarkoSan''
** An example of Incompatible EVERYTHING with Cuuko (Cthuguha). She's got a lesbian crush on Nyarko, who is both straight and head-over-heels in love with Mahiro Yasaka. On top of that, Nyarlathotepians and Cthuguhans are mortal enemies, so their very natures are in conflict, and the idea of two even being ''friends'' is unheard of; Nyarko tells Mahiro that Cuuko's family would be utterly shamed if news of the crush got out. Of course, Cuuko's also kinda inconsistent on this; one arc has [[FreakyFridayFlip Mahiro and Nyarko swap bodies]], and Cuuko immediately puts the moves on Mahiro-in-Nyarko, saying [[IfItsYouItsOkay "Just Nyarko's body is fine."]]
*** On top of that, Cuuko eventually develops feelings for Mahiro and starts advocating the [[OneTrueThreesome threesome]] solution; while Mahiro's straight, he still rejects the idea because Cuuko's proposal includes "[[MisterSeahorse I bear Nyarko's child, the Boy bears mine]]".
** Of course, part of the story's whole hook is this. Mahiro is attracted to Nyarko as a person, but is put off by the knowledge that she's Nyarlathotep, the malign god of chaos and madness from the CthulhuMythos. The fact that she could shatter his sanity just by [[VoluntaryShapeshifting changing forms]], and that she might be lying about being in love with him [[{{Troll}} just to screw with him]], are deal-breakers in Mahiro's eyes, but [[CharacterDevelopment over time]] he grows to accept her honesty and his true feelings for her.
** Hasta is also in love with Mahiro, and he's both a HumanoidAbomination (Hastur) and [[GayOption a guy]]. Ironically, in general terms Mahiro gets along with him the best out of the alien trio because he acts more like a [[BigBrotherInstinct needy little brother]] and less like a ClingyJealousGirl.
* [[MadLove Misa]] [[{{Yandere}} Amane]] of ''DeathNote'' is in love with VillainProtagonist [[LightIsNotGood Light]] [[SerialKillerKiller Yagami]] despite the fact that WordOfGod reveals he's "[[{{Asexual}} incapable of]] [[AmbiguouslyGay loving women]]."
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[[folder: Comic Books]]
* Franchise/{{Batman}} villain ComicBook/TwoFace has spent the better part of the last decade [[ComicBook/BatmanNoMansLand obsessed with]] [[ComicBook/GothamCentral Renee Montoya]] despite her lesbianism. In fact, it was one of his attempts to [[DespairEventHorizon woo her]] that ended up outing her in the first place.
* Renee Montoya, by that time the new Question, was involved in another example, this time on the other side. Both in ''Comicbook/BirdsOfPrey'' and in the Question back-up feature in ''Comicbook/DetectiveComics'', Question teamed up repeatedly with Huntress, and it became quite clear that she was interested in Huntress (Helena Bertinelli) romantically. The storyline never had time to develop very far before DC's "New 52" reboot, but Huntress had always been portrayed as straight, and was not even aware that Question was gay, at one point asking if she and the previous Question, Vic Sage, had been lovers.
* LipstickLesbian Karolina spent much of the first two volumes of ''ComicBook/{{Runaways}}'' pining for her best friend, Nico, who was a little shocked when K finally tried to kiss her. After beginning a relationship with shapeshifting Skrull Xavin, who [[DiscountLesbians takes on the form of a human girl]], Karolina loses romantic interest in Nico. Then again, this hasn't stopped them having ShipTease moments since.
* [[ComicBook/AlphaFlight Northstar]] once had a crush on [[ComicBook/{{X-Men}} Iceman]]. It didn't take him long to realize it would never happen, since in his own words "He's straight. End of story." (It was only introduced to squash fan speculation that Iceman might be gay.)
* Subverted in ''Comicbook/{{Exiles}}'': Morph had a crush on teammate Sunfire without realizing she was a lesbian. When she made TheReveal, he accepted it wholeheartedly and continued to act as a brother figure to her, even supporting her relationship with Spider-Woman. (Well, accepted it wholeheartedly after giving the "[[ShapeshiftersDoItForAChange Hey, I'm a shapeshifter, I can do lesbian]]" line a shot...)
* In ''ComicBook/BuffyTheVampireSlayer'' Season 8 comics female Slayer Satsu falls in love with Buffy and they have sex at least twice. But Kennedy, another lesbian Slayer, dissuades Satsu from pursuing a relationship with her. Why? Because she claims that ultimately, Buffy is straight.
* When [[ComicBook/{{Blackhawk}} Lady Blackhawk]] joined the ComicBook/BirdsOfPrey, she began nursing a crush on Creote, the [[ManlyGay muscular, deadly, Russian ex-special forces soldier]] who is the partner of Savant, the not-quite-irredeemable villain that Oracle is trying to rehabilitate into a good guy. Everybody knows that Creote is in love with Savant, [[ObliviousToLove except for Savant himself]], but nobody quite gets around to letting Zinda in on this. When she finds out she is somewhat surprised.
* Tom Pearce never stood a chnce with the object of his crush in ''ComicBook/{{Camelot 3000}}''. Of course, it was further complicated by the GenderBender nature of reincarnation.
* At one point in ''Franchise/{{Superman}}'' comics, Dan Turpin of the Metropolis Special Crimes Unit had a crush on his boss, Maggie Sawyer, even going as far as to propose to her. She explained the situation to him ([[HideYourLesbians off-panel]]).
* Comicbook/AvengersArena has Cullen Bloodstone in love with his straight best friend Aiden/Anachronism, but Aiden was too pre-occupied with [[TheVamp vampy]] Atlantean Nara.
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[[folder: Fan Fiction]]
* In the ''Series/BuffyTheVampireSlayer'' fic ''Compelled'', there was a subplot where Connor had a crush on Kennedy, who is both lesbian and taken. It mostly served to give him some CharacterDevelopment.
* In ''{{Respawn Of The Dead}}'', [[spoiler:the RED Spy]] is in love with the RED [[spoiler:Engineer]], who is both straight, and has a family back home. Needless to say [[spoiler:the Engineer rejects him (not helped along by the many atrocious acts that Spy commits over the course of the story), and the Spy [[DrivenToSuicide ends up killing himself]]]].
* In the KatawaShoujo fanfic ''FanFic/FromShizunesPerspective'', which was written prior to the game's release, Shizune is bisexual and Misha is heterosexual, resulting in Misha rejecting Shizune's confession. [[spoiler:This becomes HarsherInHindsight when you consider their backstory in the final game]].
* In ''Fanfic/FalloutEquestria'' Lilpip grows up with a crush on Velvet Remedy, who is straight. They later become best friends and Velvet goes so far as to become something of a motherly figure to her. Notable in that it's Lilpip's feelings for Velvet that compel her to leave the Stable when Velvet runs away. So this trope actually sets off the plot! (Not that kind, {{get your mind out of the gutter}}!)
* ''Fanfic/TheConversionBureauNotAlone'' has Andrew (a male human) and Ice Breaker (a male pony). Andrew admits that he's developed a crush on Ice Breaker (well aware of the incredible likelihood of this trope being in force). It is, and they remain JustFriends.
* ''WebVideo/DragonBallAbridged'''s Dende, who comes from an race with NoBiologicalSex, finds himself smitten by Bulma's breasts. Later, [[spoiler:we find he has something of a crush on Gohan, as the two had been friends for a while. After a few months of living together, he confesses his love, to Gohan's confusion.]] Poor guy...
* In, surprisingly, a ''Literature/LordOfTheRings'' background-era fanfiction, OC Andrahar is in love with his master/best friend, Imrahil. Imrahil is very straight, however, and if this wasn’t already made clear by his [[TheCasanova conspicuous tendency to frequent brothels]], he offers to sleep with Andrahar “to see if he is a man for men". [[TheLoinsSleepTonight The results are definitive, and disappointing for Andrahar]]. Later fics by the same author imply that Andrahar never falls out of love with Imrahil, but [[HeterosexualLifePartners they remain lifelong best friends]] in spite of it.
* In ''FanFic/YouGotHaruhiRolled'', Kyouko has a MAJOR lesbian crush on Sasaki, who will have none of it. The only person Sasaki feels attraction towards is [[{{Narcissist}} herself]]. Kyouko is completely oblivious to this.
* In FanFic/ThisNearlyWasMine, Frederic Horshoepin has a massive crush on his bandmate Octavia. Unfortunately for him, this universe has the [=VinylTavia=] ship in full play, so he's stuck watching the [[ElegantClassicalMusician love of his life]] making out with the DJ mare.
* Blog/ReadingRainbowverse has Big Mac's crush on Twilight, who admits she doesn't see stallions that way.
* The ''{{Thor}}'' fanfic [[http://www.fanfiction.net/s/8464517/1/5-People-Who-Thought-Loki-Was-Gay-and-One 5 People Who Thought Loki Was Gay and One Who Knew Better]] has [[spoiler: Thor and Jane]]'s relationship end this way, as [[spoiler: Thor]] finally comes to terms with his sexuality, something he has struggled with for the entire story (which spans centuries).
* In [[FanFic/RainboomsAndRoyalty The Dashverse]], Cloud Kicker eventually confesses to Twilight that she actually ''is'' in love with Rainbow Dash. Unfortunately for her, Dash is not only straight, but completely oblivious to her feelings, as she just assumes its part of Cloud Kicker's [[TheTease usual personality]].
* Some fans of the Picard/Q pairing from Star Trek have pointed out the implausibility of a stout heterosexual man like Captain Picard -- who has had several female love interests in the show -- changing his preferences by pursuing a relationship with Q's male form. As an EnergyBeing Q has no natural mortal form, and could just as easily have been a female as a male, and Q points this out to Picard in the show's canon. So as a way around this incompatibility some fanfic writers have used the premise of Q changing into a female form to pursue a relationship with Picard, citing how an energy being wouldn't really have an attachment to any particular mortal form and that none of it matters so long as he can pursue his love interest.
* In ''VideoGame/FireEmblemAwakening'' fanfic ''FanFic/{{Pretender}}'' Robin is love with Chrom, but unfortunately who is straight and gets married to Sumia early in the story.
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[[folder: Film]]
* Gus Van Sant's 1991 film "Film/MyOwnPrivateIdaho" provides a great example of this trope. Mike Waters (played by River Phoenix) is in love with his straight best friend, Scott Favor (played by Keanu Reeves). [[spoiler: It doesn't end well.]]
* Cher falls in love with Christian in ''Film/{{Clueless}}'' right off the bat. But it ends up okay - [[PetHomosexual he becomes her favorite shopping buddy]].
* The Creator/KevinSmith film ''Film/ChasingAmy'' is primarily about a straight man trying to win the affections of a lesbian woman he fell in love with. And for the record, her name isn't Amy. The title regards a story within the story.
** To make matters more complicated the woman in question is technically bisexual but ''identifies'' lesbian, and this confuses everybody.
** Not to mention the possibility that the straight guy's best friend may be feeling some secret HoYay for him as well....thus leading to the disastrous suggestion Holden makes at the end of the movie.
* In ''Threesome'': Alex is in love with Eddy, but he's gay and in love with Stuart - who is straight and [[TriangRelations in love with Alex]].
* ''TheObjectOfMyAffection'' is all about this trope; a woman falls for the gay man who becomes her roommate after her husband leaves her.
* In ''RockNRolla'', One Two discovers that his close friend Handsome Bob is gay, and secretly has feelings for him. [[{{HilarityEnsues}} Hilarity ensues]].
* In ''ButImACheerleader'', the plot not only starts with this trope but revolves around this trope. Starting off, Megan is a gay (known to everyone but her) cheerleader who's currently dating a member of the football team. After her friends and family confront her about the "problem" with her sexuality, she's sent to a camp to [[CureYourGays fix]] her. Both gay males and females (and one straight person) are forced to be [[HaveIMentionedImStraightToday straight]] and even partnered up in groups of 2 to be a final step towards their [[SarcasmMode straight-ness]]
* In ''Film/{{Election}}'', this is why Lisa stops being friends with Tammy. She was straight (and only "[[BiTheWay experimenting]]"), while Tammy was a lesbian who thought that the two of them were [[SchoolgirlLesbians in love]].
* At the end of ''TheChildrensHour'' it's revealed that Martha was in love with Karen, her straight best friend who was going to get married, the entire time they've known each other.
* Occurs in the film ''The Upside Of Anger'', when the youngest daughter Lavender tries to seduce a classmate and he rebuffs her by declaring he's gay.
--->'''Lavender:''' Have you ever had gay sex? What about sex with a woman? Just have sex with me and if you don't like it, then you can be gay.
--->'''Gorden:''' That's really nice of you. (leaves the room)
* In ''RadioDays'', Bea is [[SingleWomanSeeksGoodMan desperate to get married]] and goes on a string of dates looking for love. When she tells her date Fred that she has a crush on him, he comes out to her. [[TheForties Being the 1940s]], it takes Bea a few minutes to fully understand what he means.
* Literature/BridgetJones in the film version of the sequel feared her boyfriend Mark was cheating on her with his [[SexySecretary assistant]] [[BrainyBrunette Rebecca]] [[ShesGotLegs Gillies]] until it turned out that Rebecca was sharing her colleague's [[EveryoneLovesBlondes affections for Bridget]].
* Prudence in ''[[Film/AcrossTheUniverse Across The Universe]]'' falls for both the cheerleader chick and Sadie during the course of the film. Both are straight, ''and'' seeing someone else. The unrequited nature of her love for Sadie causes her to suffer a HeroicBSOD until her friends sing to her about how beautiful she is and help (literally) coax her out of the closet.
* Sort of the premise of a few necrophilia-themed films, like ''Kissed'' and ''Film/{{Nekromantik}} 2''. The former even ends with the man who is in love with the main character killing himself so he can truly be with her.
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[[folder: Literature]]
* In ''Literature/{{Gone}}'', Dekka has a crush on Brianna, who is straight.
* In ''Literature/DoctrineOfLabyrinths'', especially at the beginning of the second book, Felix (gay man) is attracted to Mildmay (straight man). IncompatibleOrientation isn't even the biggest problem here; the biggest problem is that they're ''[[IncestIsRelative brothers]]''. Less squickily, a girl they meet on a journey develops a crush on Felix and decides it's true love; he has to explain to her that no, he's not interested.
* The ''Inda'' series by Sherwood Smith combines this with AllLoveIsUnrequited. Hadand (straight woman) is in love with Evred (gay man), who's in love with Inda (straight man). To make things more complicated, Evred and Hadand are in a ''highly'' political ArrangedMarriage (they're king and queen; he's an UnexpectedSuccessor and she was betrothed to the previous heir), Inda and Hadand are siblings, and Inda is Evred's military second-in-command.
* ''Literature/TheRulesOfAttraction'' features a [[BiTheWay bisexual]] college student in love with another guy, but this guy's straight and in love with the former's (female) best friend.
* In ''Literature/MasterAndCommander'', Mr. Marshall, a known "paederast," is hopelessly attracted to Captain Aubrey.
* Lord John's hopelessly unrequited love for Jamie in the ''Literature/{{Outlander}}'' series.
* In ''Literature/ThePrincessSeries'' near the end of the first book Snow White is placed back in her magic coma and can only be awaken by a TrueLovesKiss. Talia (Sleeping Beauty) kisses and awakes her openly showing her love for Snow White for the first time. Snow is a major flirt who is blind to Talia's true feelings. Talia seems to realize it wouldn't work out so tells Snow that she just used a spell to wake Snow.
* In ''Literature/{{Kiss}}'' by JacquelineWilson, shy Sylvie believes she is in love with her best friend Carl, and is convinced they will one day get married. However, Carl discovers he's actually gay, and Sylvie not only has to deal with the aftermath (including his being bullied and [[spoiler:attempting suicide]]) but also come to accept that he can never love her as more than a friend.
** In the ''[[Literature/TheGirlsSeries Girls]]'' series, Ellie has a very strong crush on an older guy she meets in town, and pretends to her friends that he is her boyfriend Dan (causing her embarrassment when they meet the real Dan, who is awkward and nerdy.) It turns out that the older guy is gay, but he and Ellie become good friends later on.
* ''Luna'' by Julie Anne Peters includes a subplot about a straight girl being love with another straight girl ... because the girl she likes was born with a male body and hasn't told her friend she's transsexual yet. The friend with a crush thinks 'he' is gay - "But gay people get married, right? They have kids. He could change." There is some tension after TheReveal, but they stay friends.
* In ''[[Literature/StarShardsChronicles Thief of Souls]]'', [[spoiler:Drew]] (who is gay) has a crush on [[spoiler:Michael]] (who is straight).
* In ''Literature/ASongOfIceAndFire'', Sansa sports a crush on the gallant and handsome Ser Loras, Knight of the Flowers and [[WordOfGod confirmed]] lover of [[spoiler: the late King]] Renly.
** Likewise, Brienne is in love with Renly.
** Arianne Martell also attempted to seduce Renly when the Baratheons visited Sunspear, but Renly seemed mostly amused by her attempts.
** Jon Connington was in love with Rhaegar Targaryen, who was straight.
* Comes into play in RobinHobb's ''[[Literature/RealmOfTheElderlings Farseer]]'' and particularly ''Tawny Man'' trilogies between hero Fitz, who is quite straight, and his best friend the Fool, who is quite in love with Fitz. The Fool is quite open about his feelings, though he denies that there's anything sexual implicit in love; the situation serves, however, as a major source of discomfort for Fitz once rumors start flying about their relationship. ''Possible'' subversion in that the Fool ''might'' be a [[spoiler:WholesomeCrossdresser, but probably not]].
* In the ''HeraldsOfValdemar'' series, Melenna feels this way about Vanyel in the ''Last Herald-Mage'' trilogy.
* In the Alex Delaware novel ''Self Defense'', one of Alex's patients, Lucy, tells him that she's falling for Alex's FriendOnTheForce Milo. This puts Alex in a very awkward position, since he can't violate Milo's privacy by telling Lucy that Milo is gay, and can't violate Lucy's by telling Milo about the crush.
* In ''Literature/SputnikSweetheart'', K (the narrator, straight man) is in love with Sumire his best friend. She in turn meets and falls in love with Miu, another woman.
* Not as romantic, but in Creator/BenElton's ''Dead Famous'', the somewhat perverted Sgt Hooper asks StraightGay policewoman Trish out after she's spent a while [[spoiler:[[ItMakesSenseInContext naked and wearing a variety of wigs to trick the murderer]]]]. Her response? "Sorry, sarge. I'm gay."
* ''Literature/TheMortalInstruments'': [[spoiler: Alec and Jace.]]
* ''Literature/TheHeroesOfOlympus'': In ''The House of Hades'', it's revealed that [[spoiler:Nico di Angelo]] has/had a crush on Percy Jackson. Percy, who [[spoiler:fell into the depths of Tartarus]] to be with Annabeth.
* In TheRedVixenAdventures this is Ali's whole problem while working for the Red Vixen and later Salli. Fortunately the latter decides IfItsYouItsOkay.
* At the end ''Quarterdeck'' after [[http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prince_Edward,_Duke_of_Kent_and_Strathearn Prince Edward]]'s banquet, Renzi reveals to {{Literature/Kydd}} that he fell in love with a woman "of the Sapphic persuasion" offscreen. As expected, this "romance" [[Main/ForegoneConclusion didn't last very long]].
* In ''Literature/OfLoveAndShadows'', [[CampGay Mario]] becomes infatuated with Francisco Leal, who is straight. When the latter conveys his disinterest, it doesn't prevent the two from forming a close friendship.

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[[folder: Live Action TV]]
* Season 4 of ''Series/{{Heroes}}'' has [[spoiler: Claire's roomate Gretchen reveal herself as a bisexual who has a crush on her.]] This appears to be a case of incompatible Orientation as [[spoiler: Claire]] is thought to be completely straight at this point. This however is subverted in the episode "Pass/Fail" when [[spoiler: Claire officially declares she also has feelings for Gretchen.]]
* [[spoiler:Rae and [[StraightGay Archie]]]] in ''Series/MyMadFatDiary''.
* A George Carlin HBO special had "[[http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UNZ6VdW_ZtI Love and Regards]]," which begins with Rebecca asking the narrator to "give Klaus her love," and ends with:
-->'What if Klaus doesn't want Rebecca's love? What if Klaus wants to give ''Wilhelm'' his love? If he asks do you say, "'''BULL-shit''', Klaus! You give your own love to Wilhelm! I'm off to find... Rebecca!"'
* In ''{{Glee}}'', Kurt has a crush on Finn. In one episode, Rachel points out that she will always have more of a chance with Finn than he does because of the simple fact that she is a girl.
** Mercedes also had a crush on Kurt. [[SarcasmMode For reasons unfathomable,]] [[CampGay he turns her down.]]
** Kurt also starts making out with and dating Brittany in one episode because he feared that his father saw the heterosexual Finn as a better son. His dad is understandably confused.
** Depressingly, this also happens between [[spoiler:Sam and Kurt. Kurt was only vaguely interested in him and more just determined to make him admit he dyes his hair. (Which he does.) This pairing seems to be 10% canon, 90% indignant fandom who are mad that [[LyingCreator Ryan Murphy]] [[TheyJustDidntCare changed his mind at the last minute]] (again) about Sam being Kurt's love interest.]]
** Also, Blaine and Rachel, if only for one episode. After a drunk kiss with Rachel, Blaine (who has until then believed himself to be gay) decides that maybe he's actually bisexual. They go on a date, but when they kiss again while sober, Blaine realises that he was wrong about being bisexual. Subverted, as Rachel didn't seem to actually be in love with Blaine. It seems that the fact that he can sing and is a good kisser is enough for her to decide to date him, and she's positively ''thrilled'' when he tells her that he's gay after all:
-->'''Rachel:''' That was amazing! I am speechless! I just had a relationship with a guy that turned out to be gay; that is song writing gold!
** Also, in one episode, after Kurt gives Rachel a pep-talk, she says that she wishes he was her boyfriend. It's mostly joking though, since they are both taken.
*** Blaine also gets two of the girls from Dalton's sister school charmed by his performance of Animal and try to give him their phone numbers, asking him to call them. His response? "Sweet, but not your team."
** Santana ultimately turns out to be this for Puck. He takes it well, though; by the time she's on the road to coming out, he's moved on, and in the episode where the club helps Santana dealing with her outing, he says that he knows that he "was just a phase" and is fine with it.
** As if "Sadie Hawkins", Tina believes Blaine (gay) is her soulmate despite him turning her down for obvious reasons. Blaine has a massive crush on Sam (straight) but won't act on it because he doesn't want to be a "predatory gay" and because he's "proud that a gay guy can be friend with a straight guy."
* Several examples in ''{{Skins}}'':
** In the second season, Maxxie, who is gay, is stalked by a girl whom everyone calls Sketch. She sabotages her way into the school musical just so that she can kiss him, convinced she can make him love her. She also follows him home, sneaks into his house, masturbates on his bed and then ''hides under it'' while he is sleeping. Now you know how she got that name. The strangest thing about Sketch is that she is aware that Maxxie's gay and somehow thinks that by dressing in masculine clothes and binding her breasts, she'll break through the IncompatibleOrientation barrier. When she decides to go after his best mate Anwar (who is straight) instead, she stops binding and starts wearing more frills and make-up.
** Naomi tries to tell Emily this in the third season, but it's eventually revealed that she was just ArmouredClosetGay and has always loved Emily and [[SingleTargetSexuality only Emily]].
--->'''Naomi:''' Me, not muff-muncher. Me, cock-cruncher.
** J.J and Emily. Emily offered to take his virginity the same day that she came out of the closet.
--->'''Emily:''' This is a one-time only charity event, you understand?
--->'''J.J.:''' Got you. Because you are gay.
--->'''Emily:''' Yes, I'm gay. Get on with it.
*** This understanding didn't stop him from hoping for the possibility of a relationship when she asked him to the Love Ball, but it turned out that he was her [[TheBeard beard,]] and she left him when Naomi showed up.
** Cook and Naomi. She tried to jump him when she was still [[{{Gayngst}} in denial about her sexuality]], but stopped after about forty seconds of mad snogging, since she realized that she didn't want to do it. In the fourth season they share a big heart-to-heart, and Naomi ends up giving him a ''very'' platonic kiss, giving us:
--->'''Cook:''' [beat] for f--ks sake, I’m never gonna get to bone you, am I?
--->'''Naomi:''' [Very matter of factly] No, I love someone.
** When new character Alex is introduced in the sixth season, Liv gets a crush on him, only for him to reveal that he's gay when she admits her feelings.
** The American remake has a very strange version of this with lesbian Tea and straight Tony. Tea sleeps with Tony as a joke, but he gets feelings for her. Yet, for some reason, she ''keeps'' sleeping with him, out of either a power trip or because she's confusing their platonic chemistry with sexual chemistry, depending on which interview you read. It ended up as a RelationshipWritingFumble since Tony and Tea were more believable together than Tea with her actual girlfriend and love interest, Betty. And yet, the show kept insisting that she was a complete, 100% lesbian with no interest in Tony.
* In a ''WillAndGrace'' episode, Grace encounters a FagHag who is in love with her gay best friend. Having been down this road, Grace tells her that she has absolutely no shot with him whatsoever. She denies it at first before confessing why they can't be together despite their perfect compatibility.
** For that matter, virtually the entire premise for the series ("I wanted to raise the kids to be Jewish; you wanted to sleep with men").
* ''MySoCalledLife'': After her disastrous crush on Brian, Delia has that glorious dance scene with Rickie. By the last episode, the only one oblivious to her newfound crush is Rickie. When he tries to reciprocate, she tells him she knows he's gay (in that awkward, teenage way--"You're gay, right?")
* In ''Series/AlloAllo'', the very campy Gruber is hopelessly infatuated with the very straight Rene, who is frequently discomforted by the fact that Gruber "fancies" him. (Ironically, Gorden Kaye, the actor who played Rene, is in real life a very content and "out" gay man.) The series finale showed that Gruber [[spoiler:had married Helga after the war and had many children with her]], perhaps making this a further case of IncompatibleOrientation from her side.
* Played for comedy in an episode of ''Series/TheCatherineTateShow'' where a lesbian nurse falls in love with (the very man-eating) Bernie.
* In a second season episode of the television comedy ''{{Frasier}}'', "The Matchmaker", Frasier introduces Daphne to his new boss, Tom Duran (not realizing that Tom is, in fact, gay). Daphne finds herself immediately smitten to Duran, only to be crushed anew when she learns that he could never share her attraction.
** In a sub-plot, [[spoiler:Tom finds himself attracted to the heterosexual Frasier. At one point he even confesses to Frasier that he had no idea the man was straight]].
* In ''WaterlooRoad'', Phil and Roz find that they're compatible personality wise, and form a relationship which runs smoothly until [[spoiler:Roz falls in love with her female teacher.]] At the climax of this plot point, Phil and Roz [[spoiler:agree that since Roz is now a lesbian, they probably wouldn't go well together after all.]]
* In ''TheGeorgeLopezShow'', this is subverted in the episode "What George Doesn't Noah". Carmen brings home what seems to be the ideal boyfriend, Noah, after dating bad boy Zack. George and Benny spy on Noah and find him with another ''man'' in a movie theater. Turns out, Carmen was [[spoiler: using Noah as a cover so that she could date Zack secretly.]]
* In ''Series/LipService'', Ed has a hopelessly unrequited crush on his lesbian friend Tess.
* Following Creator/JKRowling's [[WordOfGay outing]] of [[Literature/HarryPotter Dumbledore]], ''Series/SaturdayNightLive'' did a sketch portraying [=McGonagall=] having this sort of relationship with the gay Dumbledore:
-->'''Dumbledore''': Oh Minerva, [[StylisticSuck if only you had a penis and balls]]!
* ''Series/BuffyTheVampireSlayer'':
** One episode features a high school guy whose magic jacket [[LoveIsInTheAir makes any girl fall in love with him]] if they see him wearing it. Willow, a lesbian, is one of the many girls who fall under its spell. HilarityEnsues.
-->'''Buffy:''' Willow, you're a gay woman! And he...isn't!
-->'''Willow:''' This isn't about his physical presence! It's about his heart.
-->'''Anya:''' His physical presence has a ''penis!''
-->'''Willow:''' I can work around it!
** Willow's case overall in the series tends to fall under NoBisexuals: now that we've established her as lesbian, we just ''couldn't'' have her be interested in a man, despite her previous physical relationships with Oz and Xander.
** In the same episode Willow attempts to get around this trope by [[spoiler: using a spell to change the man into a woman.]] Fortunately [[spoiler: for him Xander and Spike stop her from completing the spell.]]
** Buffy is this with Satsu. Even though Buffy is flattered, and sleeps with her (twice!), she is quite adamant that she is not a lesbian and they can't be together.
* The last episode of ''BritanniaHigh'', has this funny moment between Ronnie and [[StraightGay Jez]]:
-->''*Ronnie pushes Jez against the lockers and kisses him*''
-->'''Jez:''' Ronnie! ... I'm gay!
-->'''Ronnie:''' Awww, so!?
-->''*Grabs Jez and smooches him again*''
* [[Series/SaturdayNightLive Seth and Stefon]] on "Weekend Update." Well, so far.
* Fiona from ''Series/{{Degrassi}}'' has come out of the closet, in the process revealing she had a thing for her best friend Holly J. However, after Holly J finds out, she tries to set Fiona up with another girl at a school dance. This doesn't amuse Fiona, but the two later reconcile, remaining best friends.
** In another episode, Fiona's locker is near the hockey team's lockers, and Dallas hits on her. She then says that she and her girlfriend Imogen are lesbians, but he doesn't believe her, since they don't kiss.
* In ''TheNanny'' episode "The Playwright", Maggie is in love with Gracie's ballet teacher, who helped her with her make-up and does great Liza Minelli impressions. Fran is just suspicious until Maggie says something about him getting along well with his "roommate" Chuck.
* The short-lived John Ritter show ''Hooperman'' featured a RunningGag involving a gay cop named Rick and a fellow officer named Mo who repeatedly hit on him despite him having no interest in women.
* ''Series/{{Sherlock}}'': There's a lot of this as the titular character is basically asexual and aromantic, making him incompatible with everyone. (Heterosexual) Molly Hooper's unrequited crush pales in comparison to the hideously confusing love triangle between Sherlock, John, and Irene. Sherlock is [[CelibateHero asexual]], John [[HaveIMentionedIAmHeterosexualToday constantly reminds everyone that he is heterosexual]], and Irene is a lesbian. Yet Irene becomes sexually fascinated with Sherlock and [[ShipperOnDeck observes that John is in romantic love with Sherlock whether he realizes it or not]] (with a physical dimension - John knocks Sherlock around to fake an alibi but can't bring himself to hit Sherlock's nose or teeth to make it convincing). Sherlock has a tongue-tied sexual fixation on Irene, while also feeling romantic love with no apparent physical dimension towards John. In short: the lesbian is in love with a man, the heterosexual man is in love with the same man, and the asexual is in love with both of them.
* ''Series/DoctorWho'': In "Rose," the Ninth Doctor flips through one of Jackie Tyler's gossip mags and exclaims, "Oh, ''that'll'' never work! He's gay and she's an alien!"
* ''Series/{{Friends}}'':
** Rachel reveals that she [[ExperimentedInCollege kissed one of her sorority sisters]], which Phoebe doesn't believe. Rachel takes Phoebe to dinner with the sorority sister, who insists she has no idea what Rachel is talking about. After dinner, the sorority sister reveals that after that kiss, she started feeling differently about Rachel and in fact pictures her face when she makes love to her husband. Rachel obviously does not return the feelings.
** In a later episode, Joey attempts to woo the hot nanny Ross and Rachel hired to look after their infant daughter, only to discover she's a lesbian. Of course, [[GirlOnGirlIsHot he doesn't seem to mind this turn of events]].
-->'''Joey''': It's like my favorite bedtime story come true: 'The Princess, the Stable Boy, and the Lesbian!'
** Ross is divorced from his lesbian ex wife Carol but still retains feelings for her early on the show and even in later seasons he seems to be sure they could have been happy together had it not been for Carol's sexuality.
* The reality show ''Boy Meets Boy'' had a gay male bachelor choose a mate among several guys, but unknown to him, half the guys were straight and planted by the show to see if he'd fall for one. One of the straight guys, however, had a change of heart when he grew to like the bachelor as a person. He eliminated ''himself'' because he wanted him to have a real chance to find love.
* An episode of ''TheThinBlueLine'' concerns Constable Maggie Habib meeting a handsome firefighter and trying everything to get into bed with him. In the end of the episode, it's revealed that he hasn't touched her because his interests were focused on her colleague, Constable Kevin Goody, who's spent the whole series pining after her. In the last scene they all sit at a pub musing about their love triangle woes.
* In ''Series/TrueBlood'', many gay men become attracted to [[ChickMagnet Jason]] [[ReallyGetsAround Stackhouse]], who is straight.
* In ''Series/OnceUponATime'' [[spoiler:Mulan finally gets the guts to tell Aurora she's in love with her...and Aurora beats her to the punch by announcing she's pregnant.]]
* On ''Series/HappyEndings'', Max's old high school girlfriend is visiting and she and Dave hit it off. Max gets very upset by this, which Dave can't understand since Max is gay and obviously won't be getting back together with her. Max, in order to make Dave jealous, grabs Alex (Dave's ex-fiance) and kisses her, but Dave doesn't care because he knows it doesn't mean anything. Then Alex, who enjoyed the kiss, spends the rest of the episode mooning after Max (while Penny tries in vain to get her to see it's hopeless).
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* The Music/{{Tatu}} song ''Malchik Gay'' (or ''Mal'chik Gey'', "Gay Boy" in Russian) is about a girl in love with a gay boy who spurns her.
* ''Amore Si'' by Tanita Tikaram is a heartfelt evocation of unrequited homosexual attraction where the singers' acceptance of the impossibility of a relationship collides with blind love. Going on with a friends-only relationship is tearing the protagonist apart.
* Music/{{Rihanna}}'s "Te Amo".
* White Town's "Your Woman" (later covered by Tyler James), about a straight guy in love with a gay woman, which makes the line "I could never be your woman" kinda obvious.
** A different interpretation has the song be about a gay man in love with a straight man, which is still this trope.
* "She'll Never Be Your Man" by ChrisCornell, which is either about the bitterness and resentment of either a straight man losing his girlfriend to a gay woman, or a gay man losing his boyfriend to a straight woman.
* "Ziggy", from the famous (in France) musical {{Starmania}} (known as Tycoon outside of France), a song later covered by CelineDion, is about a barmaid (who somehow serves as narrator of the musical) who is in love with a very gay fan of David Bowie.
* Music/{{Weezer}}'s ''Pink Triangle''.
-->I'm dumb, she's a lesbian,
-->I thought I had found the one.
** Inspired by something that actually happened to Rivers Cuomo, but ironically in reality it turned out to be a case of MistakenForGay: He wrote the song after harboring a crush on a girl, then noticing a pink triangle patch on her backpack one day (not "on her sleeve" as the lyrics state). However, long after he'd already written the song and fallen out of contact with the girl in question, he learned that she was straight, and was wearing the symbol to show her support of gay rights.
* Music/ReelBigFish's "She Has a Girlfriend Now" is about a guy despairing that his ex now only dates women. He offers to get a sex change to appease her, causing the girl to croon "Oh, that's so sweet!"
* Music/OfMontreal's song [[http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IQSd9q1OSPg "Tim, I Wish You Were Born a Girl"]] is about this.
* At the end of the music video to "Call Me Maybe" by Music/CarlyRaeJepsen, it turns out that the dude she's been obsessing over is gay. This is followed by Carly giving an expression of pure, undiluted "WTF".
** And the guy is interested in the guitarist in Carly's band. It's implied that this too is a case of Incompatible Orientation.
* This is [[WordSaladLyrics one interpretation]] of [[Music/{{REM}} R.E.M.]]'s song "Losing My Religion": that it's about the (male) singer's gay crush on a straight man.
* The Music/PetShopBoys' cover of Oh Romeo's "Try It (I'm in Love with A Married Man)" [[TheCoverChangesTheMeaning changes the perspective]] from that of a woman in an adulterous relationship to a gay man in love with a married straight man.
* "[[http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qqezNt0gYfU Beautifully]]," by Jay Brannan is about a girl very much in love with a boy who can't return her feelings.
* An interpretation of Music/FallOutBoy's "Sugar We're Goin Down" suggests this: the lyrics in the liner notes say "wishing to be the friction in ''his'' jeans" instead of the recorded version's "in ''your'' jeans". The song also includes references to "watching [a couple making love] from the closet" and "sleeping for the wrong team."
* This happens tragically in the TwistEnding to the music video for [[{{KPop}} K.will]]'s song "[[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PdUiCJnRptk Please Don't...]]" Spoiler alert: [[spoiler:Seo In Guk's character is in love with his best friend, ''not'' his best friend's girl]].
* Rapper, Cakes Da Killa turns this UpToEleven with his song, "Fuck Ya Boifriend", where he proudly tells a random girl that he wants to [[ExactlyWhatItSaysOnTheTin fuck her boyfriend]]. [[SarcasmMode Everything's obviously gonna go well for Cakes at the end]].
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[[folder: Newspaper Comics]]
* Joanie Caucus from ''{{Doonesbury}}'' had a crush on Andy Lippincott, who turned out to be gay. [[UnbrokenVigil She was with him]] when he died of AIDS. Earlier in their relationship she thinks he's married, but he reveals that's not the problem.
-->'''Andy''': Joanie, I'm gay.\\
'''Joanie''': There's nothing wrong with that. I'm [[HaveAGayOldTime pretty cheerful myself]] most of the time.\\
'''Andy''': No, I mean...\\
'''Joanie''': Oh my God.
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[[folder:Theatre]]
* ''Theatre/AvenueQ'': [[OddCouple Rod and Nicky]]. Rod is gay and has a crush on Nicky. Nicky isn't and doesn't. [[IdenticalStranger Ricky]], on the other hand...
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[[folder:Video Games]]
* Implied to be the reason Juhani and Dak Vessar had a falling out in ''KnightsOfTheOldRepublic''. They were both Jedi Padawans, but started to have their doubts about the Order. Dak made up his mind to run away, and tried to take Juhani with him, pleading he loved her. Unfortunately, Dak...[[SorryImGay wasn't]] [[ButchLesbian Juhani's]] [[GayOption type]].
** The male player character can try to flirt with Juhani. It doesn't work very well; she's openly disgusted in fact.
* Mordin (from an {{Asexual}} species) and Shepard in VideoGame/MassEffect2. If Shepard keeps going back and talking to Mordin often enough and is not otherwise in a relationship, Mordin will assume that Shepard is expressing "interest" in him, and lets them down gently. Shepard then has the option of saying that their stopping by for conversation so frequently is NotWhatItLooksLike. Or you can [[{{Troll}} run with it]] and sarcastically thank Mordin for letting you down easy. Mordin's response to ''that'' gives a little TooMuchInformation.
-->"[[CrowningMomentOfFunny If wanted to try humans]], [[HoYay would try you]].
** It's possible to have Kaidan run into it with Shepard in the first game if Liara is chosen in the confrontation.
** Male Shepard can run into this in ''VideoGame/MassEffect3'' if they try and hit on Samantha Traynor. Female Shepard can use this to reject Traynor when she tries to seduce her.
* Implied in ''VideoGame/FalloutNewVegas'' between Craig Boone and Manny Vargas. When Boone's wife was killed, Manny could hardly hide the fact that he was glad, leading to Boone ending their friendship. Conversation with Manny (particularly if the player has a certain perk) shows that Manny was always jealous of Carla (though her generally unpleasant demeanor didn't win her any favors), though Boone is apparently unaware of his true feelings.
** Similar to the ''Franchise/MassEffect'' example above, [[LipstickLesbian Veronica]] for a male Courier. Then again, a female Courier doesn't have a shot with her either.
*** Ditto Corporal Betsy.
* In the female protagonist's route in ''{{Persona 3}} Portable,'' the later ranks of Aigis's Social Link have her lamenting that she's not male and, between that and being a robot, is thus not an ideal love interest for the heroine. Exactly ''how'' incompatible she is with the heroine's orientation is to some degree open-ended, but there are no opportunities for the heroine to actively reciprocate her feelings, making it fall more or less into this trope.
* Invoked in the "Wedding Day Massacre" DLC for ''VideoGame/{{Borderlands 2}}'', where Gaige the Mechromancer admits to having a crush on Sir Hammerlock, but no chance of getting him, since he's only interested in men. She does assert she'd be all over him if ever he became straight.
* Appears in ''VideoGame/TheStarshipDamrey'' with [[spoiler: Large (gay) and Nick (straight).]] The main problem is that the [[WhatIsThisThingYouCallLove emotionless computer]] discovered this and started casually spreading word of it amongst the crew, horribly embarrassing poor [[spoiler: Large]], although [[spoiler: Nick, for the most part]] seems to have been sympathetic about it.
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[[folder:Visual Novels]]
* In ''KatawaShoujo'' we have a failed confession between [[spoiler:Misha and Shizune, with the latter being straight.]]
** In Emi's route, [[spoiler:Hisao thinks the track team captain will be a rival for his affections for Emi, but it turns out that she once confessed to him, only to find out that he's gay]].
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[[folder:Webcomics]]
* The straight pop star Stasia in ''WebComic/MarryMe'' is adored by her lesbian fangirl Parker, who doesn't stand a chance. At an inopportune moment during a concert, Parker hands off her 'marry me' sign to Guy, her male, heterosexual best friend. Stasia is still emotionally unstable from her last breakup, and ends up accepting Guy's "proposal".
* In ''Webcomic/SomethingPositive'', [=PeeJee=] nursed a crush on Jhim (gay) for ''years''.
** [=PeeJee=] is established as having this as a near-superpower, up to and including precognition. At one point, one of her ex-boyfriends, a lying scumbag who cheated on her with different women, later comes out as gay after they break up.
** A short, three-strip story has Jhim ask out a somewhat mannish woman who looked like an attractive male from behind. He tells [=PeeJee=] that they got along really well; if only she were a man! ([=PeeJee=], naturally, is annoyed.)
* In ''Webcomic/QueenOfWands,'' bisexual Angela has a thing for her straight best friend Kestrel. It becomes a major point near the end of the comic, nearly ending their friendship.
* ''Webcomic/ElGoonishShive'' has this times five, because {{Gayngst}} is one of the things Shive writes well:
** Justin Tolkiberry (a gay male) has Melissa, a straight girl (and his former best friend) who's in love with him and refuses to accept that he's not interested.
** Melissa thinks that she can "cure" Justin. Currently, she's in a relationship with [[DudeLooksLikeALady Noah]]. He claims that their relationship is a mutually beneficial one "for close comfort and pleasure". It hasn't been stated outright, but the vibes are that Noah is himself gay, or at least bi, and that Melissa sees her relationship with him as some sort of "proof" that Justin can be "cured".
** Susan had a crush on Justin before she learned he was gay. Notably, they're still [[LikeBrotherAndSister very close]], relate to each other very well, and during the GenderBender party (which turned Susan into a bisexual man and Justin into a straight woman) they had a heartfelt moment which almost escalated into something they would have regretted.
** Justin himself is in love with his male friend Elliot Dunkel, who's straight.
** Worse still, when Elliot is in his "[[SecretIdentity mild-mannered]] [[GenderBender girl]]" form [[TheMindIsAPlaythingOfTheBody he finds himself attracted to Justin]]. Making this an Incompatible Orientation situation twice over.
** Nanase's relationship with Eliot turned out to be a case of this. Nanase liked him but wasn't really physically attracted to him. When she learned of Sarah's crush on Elliot, she ended the LoveTriangle in short order by breaking up with Elliot and admitting she had just been going through the motions. Nanase didn't really consider the ramifications of this, until Elliot accidentally created an OppositeSexClone that Nanase found [[ClosetKey disturbingly attractive]].
** Catalina later falls in love with Susan; the latter still wishes to be friends however. Susan even had an ImagineSpot about a date with Catalina, but she's well aware she's straight.
-->'''Susan:''' Could've been nice...
** Susan herself expresses 'strangst' (straight angst) in an early appearance, wishing she were a lesbian because of her and [[StrawFeminist her mother]]'s issues with men. (Susan's mother is saddened that her daughter isn't attracted to women. This is mostly due to a traumatic event in Susan's childhood when she discovered her father was having an affair.)
* Chad Dracul in ''Muertitos'' is lusted after by pretty near every girl in his school, but is himself [[{{Asexuality}} asexual.]]
* Averted in ''Webcomic/ArthurKingOfTimeAndSpace''; although either Tristram or Isolde may be gender flipped depending on the arc, their sexualities will always change to match. Also avoided; in at least one arc, Nimue is a guy, but how this affects her/his relationship with Merlin is never addressed.
** In every arc, though, Galehaute's feelings for Lancelot are unrequited, and indeed unspoken.
* ''Webcomic/OutThere'' has more than one.
** Rod and Araceli. She's [[LipstickLesbian gay]], he's a [[LadyKillerInLove rake]]. They have a history. Ari is in favor of letting history remain history; Rod wants history to repeat itself.
** Araceli and Sherry. Araceli has a secret crush on Sherry, who is straight (at least as far as Ari can tell).
* In ''Webcomic/MenageA3'':
** Gary is smitten with Yuki on their first meeting. Zii informs him (apparently correctly) that Yuki is not actually gay, she just only sleeps with women. Later, in fact, Yuki finds herself returning Gary's feelings, and makes efforts to get over her ... complicated personal issues.
** For a more straightforward case -- Dillon, Gary's former roommate, has a hopeless gay crush on straight Gary.
** Dillon's infatuation with Gary remains somewhat active after he gets his own comic, ''Webcomic/StickyDillyBuns''. Likewise, his roommate Amber continues to display a fondness for him that would pretty clearly turn physical given half a chance -- especially as she knows that Dillon is a master of a special oral sex technique.
* In ''Webcomic/QuestionableContent'':
** Tai often complains that of all the attractive lady friends Marten has, he's dating the only one who is into girls. Of course, that doesn't stop Tai from hitting on all the other girls every chance she gets.
** Marten's parents still care deeply for each other but just couldn't bear to remain married after Marten's dad came out of the closet.
* ''{{Homestuck}}'' has a series of complicated incompatibilities, both intra- and inter-species, that deconstruct and reconstruct this trope.
** Karkat develops a same-sex [[SlapSlapKiss hatecrush]] on John. Not only is John straight, [[EveryoneIsBi an orientation trolls don't even have a word for]], but he's also human and lacks any concept of romantic hate.
** The interspecies romance between [[spoiler:Dave and Terezi]] falls apart not because of the troll partner's bisexuality but because of their ''polyamory''. The monogamous human partner was not prepared for the troll norm of polyfidelity.
** In Universe B-2, Roxy has a crush on Dirk, who is gay. [[spoiler: She knows, or at least suspects, that they're fated to have kids together. Too bad about the "[[CloningBlues ectobiological cloning]]" thing...]] Dirk in turn has a crush on Jake, who is still considering whether to identify as straight or bisexual. Later, Dirk tells Jane with uncharacteristic sincerity that he truly wishes he could reciprocate Roxy's feelings, but his love for her is completely platonic.
* A bizarre inversion in ''OneOverZero'': So there's [[NoFourthWall never been a fourth wall]], and there's very little in the setting except a featureless plain and a bunch of tiny things who chat. Terra would very much like to fall in love with Zadok, but Terra's a lesbian earthworm and Zadok's a male grass golem. She briefly gets a personal fourth wall in order to lose the concept of lesbianism (solely an out-of-universe thing, since none of the characters are human and Terra is the only character with a metabolism), but self-deception is a turn-off for him. The philosopher of the group solves things by successfully arguing that applying the constraints of human biology to people without it is absurd. Love is therefore a function of personalities, and therefore limiting it is a violation of free will and their purpose as characters. Around ''1/0'', we call this a Tuesday.
* ''Webcomic/{{Oglaf}}'', being a (very NSFW) sex comedy comic, has this in spades. Recurring offenders are Ambassador Sandoval's desire for strictly straight Ivan the Apprentice, and the various men (and odd shapeshifter) trying their luck and getting shot down by snarky lesbian mercenary Greir.
* In ''DubiousCompany'', [[ChivalrousPervert Marty]] has a tremendous crush on [[TheChick Elly]]. Both are straight males. Marty has yet to understand the "[[DudeLooksLikeALady male]]" part, despite being repeatedly told by everyone that [[UnsettlingGenderReveal Elly is a man]].
* In ''Webcomic/{{Shortpacked}}'', [[MeaningfulName Leslie Bean]] has a habit of developing crushes on girls who don't swing that way, although once she managed to [[IfItsYouItsOkay be an exception]].
* ''Webcomic/GirlsWithSlingshots'' approaches this situation a few times.
--> '''Angel:''' I'm a lesbian. Our [[UnusualEuphemism first base]] is, "she's not straight".\\
'''Jim:''' Oh, that's my "foul ball". [[DoggedNiceGuy I hit a lot of those.]]
** Heterosexual Jamie and asexual Erin are in love and have a non-sexual romance. Relationship stress ensues when Jamie suffers from sexual frustration, and neither of them wants to have sex with the other.
* Discussed at length in ''Webcomic/MeatyYogurt'' with a subplot about a man who cannot get over his feelings for a lesbian waitress. At one point he speculates that finding every woman he likes is a lesbian makes him sorta a lesbian in a man's body. The object of his affections assures him that being a lesbian never coincides with finding every woman you like is a lesbian. Ever. In the history of the universe.
* In ''Webcomic/TheDragonDoctors'', the existence of [[http://dragondoctors.dhscomix.com/archives/comic/ch-6-page-10 "orientation adapters"]] allows people to defy the trope in-universe when appropriate (e.g. following an involuntary GenderBender inflicted upon one's spouse).
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* A parody short posits that the reason ''SonicTheHedgehog'' makes such fast tracks when Amy's around is because he doesn't have the heart to tell her he and Tails have long since passed the point of goo-goo eyes. Amy is not impressed.
* More than one guy has made passes at Phase in the WhateleyUniverse. Her entire team always makes fun of these humiliating moments, because her team (and her girlfriend) know that she is really a het guy trapped in a mainly-female body.
* ''[[DNAKpts4tv Death Note: The Abridged Series (kpts4tv)]]'': ButchLesbian Rem is in love with Misa, who is in love with [[CampGay Light]], who is in love with L, who is "[[CargoShip snack-sexual]]". Also, after Mikami abandons Takada she considers going out with Light, but then remembers he's gay. [[spoiler: Rem later ends up with Misa by [[GrandTheftMe possessing Mogi]] and JumpingTheGenderBarrier.]]
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* Mr Burns to Smithers in ''TheSimpsons''.
** In another ''[[TheSimpsons Simpsons]]'' episode ''All's Fair in Oven War'', Marge hires a contractor to fix Homer's botched kitchen renovation. Homer overreacts of course, and thinks he will lose Marge to the contractor. When he tells him to go ahead and kiss Marge, the contractor explains that [[SorryImGay he is gay]]. But [[CrazyPrepared he has a contractor that handles that sort of thing.]]
* ''ParaNorman'': [[spoiler:At the end of the movie Courtney decides to stop flirting with Mitch and invites him to a movie. Mitch happily (and completely unaware that she had been flirting with him all the time) mentions that his boyfriend is a ChickFlick nut]].
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* Actress Lea Michelle joked about the fact that her father once told her that of all the men in her life, the only one that was worthy of her was her best friend and (''SpringAwakening'' and ''{{Glee}}'') co-star [[StraightGay Jonathan Groff.]] [[http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z2G0O2Tn0TM It is easy to see his point.]]
* Herman Melville's attraction to Nathaniel Hawthorne.
* [[http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mixed-orientation_marriage Mixed-Orientation Marriages]] of the type where a person who is in the closet about his or her exclusively homosexual identification is married to someone who identifies as heterosexual. Now also called "[[BrokebackMountain brokeback]] marriages" after more recent famous fictional examples.
* A depressing fact of life for many queer teenagers. Since only about 10% of the population identifies as gay or bisexual, there's a strong chance that their crush will have an incompatible orientation, and asking about compatibility may be out of the question if they live in one of the many areas that are hostile to homosexuality. On top of that there's the universal problem of [[AllLoveIsUnrequited mutual attraction]]. Adulthood usually offers more options for meeting people of compatible orientation but doesn't change the basic fact of queer sexualities being a minority.
* It's also a cliche that straight girls involved in theatre or music in high school will inevitably crush on at least one closeted gay guy.
* The dating website [=OkCupid=] installed a feature where gay and bi users can keep their profiles from showing up for straight people; one of the reasons was that a lot of straight male users were ignoring this trope and harassing lesbians on the site.
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