->''"Every woman in here gets offered dick at ''least'' three times a week. 'Can l get that for you? How 'bout some dick?' 'Could l help you with that? Could l help you to some dick?' 'Do you need some dick?' Nobody offers '''us''' shit! We got to fend for ourselves."''\\
--'''Creator/ChrisRock''' on the [[UsefulNotes/BillClinton Monica Lewinsky]] scandal


The logical extremity of AManIsNotAVirgin, and the masculine equivalent of the TheUnfairSex. This trope features a man caught in a sexually compromising situation. If he is unmarried, not seeing anyone, or involved with a partner who, at the moment, is either unwilling or unable to grant him sexual satisfaction, he can provide the following excuse:

->"As a man, I have physical urges which I must satisfy. It is unreasonable to expect me to go without sexual relations for an extended period of time."

The "extended period" can be anything from a few years to a few days. Bonus points to anyone who compares celibacy of any duration to taking vows at a monastery. Interestingly, this trope persists even if other characters in the main cast can display the ability to keep their pants zipped. Apparently some have higher libidos than others. Naturally, they never just schedule ADateWithRosiePalms. All in all, it's usually just a really bad excuse. [[InternalizedCategorism But some men truly believe that they can't handle themselves better than that and as a result they can't]].

Note that uses of this trope almost always focus on the physical gratification of sex. Our philandering boy just wants the physical sensation and release; other relationship issues that might lead to cheating (such as a lack of intimacy; the emotional distance created in a relationship where sex existed but is now gone; the idea that a man might actually ''want'' the emotional connection of making love, and so on) are rarely considered. Obviously a DoubleStandard at work, although a sexually neglected man, like a sexually neglected woman, will often find himself on the "good" side of the GoodAdulteryBadAdultery divide.

Very much NewerThanTheyThink. In ancient times (Rome, Greece, etc.) being lecherous was considered a [[ValuesDissonance distinctively female]] characteristic; AllWomenAreLustful in those settings. For a man to be described as a slave to his urges was a major insult to his masculinity.

Women who want to take advantage of this trope[[note]]Not that kind of "advantage", sicko.[[/note]] can either attempt a LysistrataGambit or say "IHaveBoobsYouMustObey". See also AllMenArePerverts, EverybodyHasLotsOfSex, SexIsGood. Contrast SeductionProofMarriage, when a character refuses another's advances on grounds of a committed relationship.

Has ''many'' UnfortunateImplications: AllMenArePerverts; AManIsAlwaysEager; AManIsNotAVirgin; a woman is [[EntitledToHaveYou required to provide a man with sex]] because she [[PropertyOfLove is his]]; if a woman is cheated on or raped, [[UsefulNotes/VictimBlaming it's her fault]].

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[[folder:Anime & Manga]]
* The ''MoonlightLady'' OVA invokes this trope in a particular way; in final preparations for the Expecting Moon Ceremony, Koichi must engage in constant sex with [[{{Meido}} Tomomi and Sayaka]] and several other random women. Suzuna, on the other hand, is left alone to have ADateWithRosiePalms.
* This is Akira's reason for being so sexually aggressive toward his girlfriend in ''AiOreLoveMe''.

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[[folder:Comic Books]]
* A male character in ''ShadeTheChangingMan'' claims if he doesn't have lots of sex his jaw will go out of whack.
* [[LeagueOfExtraordinaryGentlemen Orlando]], after spending several months of his adolescence on a ship with a gang of [[AnythingThatmoves horny Bronze Age sailors]], discovered, once they made landfall in the jungle, that he has turned back into a female. His, uh, her immediate response was to [[http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pheidippides make like Pheidippides]], though she does mention that, had she run into such a woman back when she was a he, she probably would have raped herself, too.
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[[folder:Film]]
* Averted in ''Literature/{{Twilight}}''. Bella is throwing herself at Edward, but he's afraid of hurting her (because he's a vampire and all) so he refuses.
* Rhett Butler in ''GoneWithTheWind'' visits brothels while married but is never considered a bad husband because his wife doesn't have sex with him so it's her fault. However when there is the slightest hint his wife might have had a moment with another man she is treated as a terrible person.
* In ''TheWomen'' one of the main characters mother tells her that her father had a mistress but she stayed with him anyway and seems to blame the other woman more referring to her as a whore
* The boys of Series/BlueCollarComedy fame make note of this from time to time:
** Ron White stated this, though he went on to admit after-the-fact feelings of deep guilt and owned up to his infidelity, so might mix in just a smidge of TheUnfairSex.
--->'''Ron White''': "My wife hadn't let me ''touch'' her in three months. You can't just keep a dog under the porch for three months without petting it occasionally. If you deny me sex for three months, I'll go sleep with someone else. I know, I've seen me do it."
** Bill Engvall has stated, "Sorry, I'm just a guy!" in his act as an excuse for all sorts of situations.
*** Surprisingly few of these involve sex-he uses it as an excuse for everything from insensitive remarks to crowning achievements in stupidity (90% of his "I'm just a guy" jokes fit under this), but from Bill, sex usually gets more than just a clever catchphrase.
* ''Film/{{Scream 1996}}'' attracted some negative attention from feminist groups for its apparent position that if a boy's girlfriend won't put out after a certain time he's perfectly justified in seeking satisfaction elsewhere. As well, throughout the entire series Billy's father is never criticized for his affair with Sydney's mother; everyone, including Sydney herself, act like it was all her mother's fault.
* Although the character of Eddie in ''Something To Talk About'' is blamed for his cheating he says it is partly his wife's fault for not being interested in sex anymore and she eventually agrees with him
* In ''Mirror Images 2'' a man seduced by the woman he believes is his employers wife - its actually her twin posing as her to frame her for adultery - blames the woman calling her a slut and everyone seems to agree with him despite the fact he was a "consenting" adult who participated enthusiastically in the sex In this case she's less of a slut than a [[BedTrick rapist by deception]].
** There was a similar soft porn film where the con artist girlfriend of the main character seduces his business partner to rip him off as well and the business partners blames her saying she seduced him and he gets a free pass from his partner and wife.
* Averted in ''Franchise/{{Dragnet}}'' (the 1987 movie version.) Friday is depicted as incredibly uptight and when a woman hits on him, he turns her down.
--> '''Pep Streebeck''': Are you crazy? Silvia Wiss wanted you!
--> '''Friday''': Now let me tell you something, Streebeck. There are two things that clearly differentiate the human species from animals. One, we use cutlery. Two, we're capable of controlling our sexual urges. Now, you might be an exception, but don't drag me down into your private Hell.
--> '''Pep Streebeck''': You've got a lot of repressed feelings, don't you, Friday? Must be what keeps your hair up.
* Edward Ashburnham in ''The Good Soldier''. Even his own ''wife'' buys into this trope.
* Mentioned in ''CitySlickers'' and not played for laughs, even though it's a comedy. The girl Phil was having sex with shows up at Mitch's birthday party after a [[LawOfInverseFertility missed period]] and reveals the affair to everyone there, including Phil's wife. They have a very bitter shouting match that ends with the following exchange:
-->'''Arlene:''' You're crazy!
-->'''Phil:''' Yeah, not having sex for ''twelve years'' will do that to you!
* The ringleader of the gang rape in the original ''I Spit On Your Grave'' uses this excuse. The victim doesn't buy it. [[spoiler:She lures him back to her house, castrates him, and locks in him the bathroom to bleed to death.]]
* In the Mexican film ''Film/ElCrimenDelPadreAmaro'' (The Crime of Father Amaro), the eponymous priest says this when his affair with the teenager, Amelia, is discovered by the Father Benito:
-->'''Father Benito:''' You are a Catholic Priest!
-->'''Father Amaro:''' And I'm a man too.
** This is also brought up in an earlier scene, in which Amaro and other priests discuss the idea of abolishing the Catholic Priesthood's vow of celibacy, as they ponder that it may be unrealistic to expect for a man to stay celibate for the rest of his life, only for the idea to be dismissed by the Father Benito as nonsense.
* ''Film/InAWorld...'': Moe's clumsy attempt to seduce an attractive neighbor is PlayedForLaughs. It's unclear how far he would've been willing to go if she'd been at all interested.
* While being tortured, one of the victims in the RapeAndRevenge film ''Bad Reputation'' claims, "You were lying there, just... available like that. Any man would have done it! You don't understand! Women aren't the same!"
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[[folder:Literature]]
* OlderThanRadio: ''Literature/SenseAndSensibility'' has Willoughby trying to explain his appalling behavior to Colonel Brandon's ward with this excuse. It doesn't work.
* In ''GoneWithTheWind'', at one point Rhett points out to Scarlett after she tries the LysistrataGambit that he'll just go to the brothel if she won't do her wifely duties.
* In the magical land of ''Literature/{{Xanth}}'', this trope is heightened to a ridiculous extreme, but then again, most things there are. Humanoid males there (and sometimes creatures of other body types too) literally cannot look away from attractive exposed flesh or movement of a humanoid female, become weak and even paralyzed the more turned on they get, and freak out in mind and body if they expose their undergarments (but not when they're naked, unless they're REALLY hot). Occasionally, this trope is gender flipped as it can apply to females as well, but only if they're REALLY turned on or REALLY grossed out by a male.
** One example where this is made pretty explicit is a scene in ''Crewel Lye'' in which a male character and a female one switch bodies. The former woman is overcome by hormones and can't resist planting a kiss on her old body. She concludes that men just can't help their pigish instincts, and gains new respect for the male character when she realizes how restrained he has been.
* IncarnationsOfImmortality: when a pair of female characters are turned male, they are barely restrained from ''raping the first woman they see''. They come to the conclusion that all the men they've ever known had almost superhuman levels of self-control for keeping that urge in check. This is par for the course in a lot of Piers Anthony's work - that a man's default mental setting is "RAPE" and only the most noble can resist those urges for reasons other than "fear of getting caught."
* In ''Literature/CrimeAndPunishment'', there's a bit of this in Svidrigailov's justification. He's now free and unmarried [[spoiler:because he may have poisoned his wife]], and those 18-year-old (and 15-year-old, and 13-year-old) girls are just so cute-- he can't help himself.
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[[folder:Live-Action TV]]
* In ''Series/BigLove'', at one point Sarah discovers a flirtatious message from an ex-girlfriend on her boyfriend Scott's phone. She jokingly says it sounds like they hooked up, which he confirms. When she gets upset, he uses this as an excuse (Sarah and Scott are not sexually active at this point). Their entire relationship was never treated as healthy - it was treated as Sarah running away from home in a socially acceptable fashion just to get away from the walking traumatizer that was Bill Henrickson.
* TheFreshPrinceOfBelAir: Will has sex with the mother of the woman he is dating she gets all the blame from his family. Will's defense to his girlfriend is that her mom has a hot body and to his uncle he puts his actions down to being young and making mistakes.
* DesperateHousewives:
** Brie, Lynette, Gabrielle, and Edie have a conversation where they all agree that when a man cheats on his wife the other woman is to blame, calling the woman a "man-eating scum-sucking ho-bag" and a "homewrecker" and saying "if these tramps weren't laying out the buffet they wouldn't be chowing down."
** When Julie and Austin's relationship gets serious, Julie is slightly aprehensive about losing her virginity to him and Austin is apparently understanding and promises to wait. When Julie discusses this with Danielle, she immediately claims that guys in these circumstances are invariably lying and that they're getting sex elsewhere. Julie eventually does sleep with Austin and it's revealed slightly later that he ''had'' been sleeping with someone else behind Julie's back: Danielle.
* Frank Gallagher in ''{{Shameless}}'' tries to blame the other woman for his infidelity.
* In ''Footballers Wives'' several characters use the "men can't help it" argument. Tanya Turner blames her husband's mistress saying that men only cheat because of the sexual availability of football groupies like her. The character Ian Walmsley also tries to excuse himself for having a threesome despite having a wife and children by saying the women were all over him.
* In the ''Series/{{Farscape}}'' episode "Out of their mind", Crichton is stuck in Aeryn's body and cannot resist the urge to experiment a bit. Of course, he gets caught.
--> '''Aeryn (in Rygel's body)''': You are mentally damaged.
--> '''Crichton (in Aeryn's body)''': No, I'm a guy. A guy... guys dream about this sort of thing.
** Inverted at the end of the episode, when it is strongly suggested that Aeryn also took some liberties when ''she'' was stuck in ''Crichton'''s body.
--->'''Aeryn''': You were in my shoes... and I was in your pants. * walks away, smirking*
--->'''Crichton''': *grins and darts after her*
** He also uses this as an excuse as part of his pleading with her when they were afflicted and Chiana, her libido cranked up to about 302, tried to jump his bones only for Aeryn to walk in.
** He uses this exact phrase when she discovers he's on drugs to forget her.
* In one episode of ''NewsRadio'', Lisa discovers issues of Penthouse Magazine in Dave's desk (who was simply keeping them hidden until he can figure out who left them on his desk). When she frets over why Dave would keep such things around, Beth tells her that a man can get sick if they don't look at porn frequently enough. That's what her boyfriend told her. In the end, they turned out to belong to Beth, who was doing research for a Penthouse letter she was writing that "Starts out about golf, but then it ''meanders''..."
* ''{{Scrubs}}'': According to Turk, responding to J.D's irrational hookup, if a man hasn't had sex in a certain amount of time, he's not accountable for who he sleeps with.
* ''HannahMontana'': {{Inverted}} with this explanation as to why Hannah did not want to bring her overprotective bodyguard with her on dates:
-->'''Hannah''': I'm a girl. I have needs.
* ''{{Glee}}'': Puck is kind of a jerk, but at least honest and up-front about it
-->'''Puck''': I'm sorry. I tried to resist Santana. I did. But I'm young. And girls have this power over me. But hey, it's all good.
-->'''Quinn''': It's definitely NOT all good. I thought you wanted to be with me.
-->'''Puck''': I do. Like A LOT! But you haven't given it up to me since the night I knocked you up and, baby, I'm a dude. I have needs.
-->'''Quinn''': You expect to raise a baby with me and text dirty messages to every other girl at this school if I don't give it up to you everyday?
-->'''Puck''': No! Just the hot girls. Look, I'm gonna be a good dad, but I'm not gonna stop being me to do it.
* In HomeAndAway the character Noah is forgiven very quickly by his brother for having sex with his girlfriend and another character comments that it "would have been really hard to say no". The girlfriend even says it was her fault not his.
* In {{Eastenders}} the character of 'Aunt Sal' goes back to her cheating husband after only a few days because she decides that she is partly to blame for not "making more of an effort".
* ''GossipGirl'': Chuck Bass uses this as his excuse when he beds everything with a pulse to keep himself from feeling the hurt of Blair leaving him.
* ''{{Coupling}}'' In the episode, "The Girl With Two Breasts", Jeff is asked out by his hot coworker, Wilma, and since, he's not the best at speaking, he wears a wire so the other members of the group can listen in and give him advice. Wilma propositions him for sex which Jeff is resistant to, since he's dating his boss, Julia. However, Wilma says she's also seeing someone and is just looking for some fun on the side, asking, "How can you say no to a night of unconditional sex?". Susan is furious when she hears this and demands that Steve tell Jeff the reason he can say no, but Steve is unable to think up a reason, eventually blurting out, "[[CrowningMomentOfFunny Jeff, don't. It might be a trick]].", leaving Susan quite angry with him.
* ''JerrySpringer'' and ''{{Maury}}'' are the same in this regard. Watch any given episode and you'll see cheating men offering this as their defense.
* MadMen plays with this trope. Men are blamed for not resisting their urges, and women are blamed for luring men to fall prey to their urges, but the show itself demonstrates that everyone has these desires and people are complex and flawed.
* Discussed in {{Misfits}}, where Nathan claims that "The siren call of a blow job renders all men powerless."
* An episode of TheMentalist plays this with a twist. The wife of a professional athlete says she's well aware that her husband has cheated on her in the past, and she claims her grudge is against the women he cheats with since he, as a man, doesn't "know any better." This not only paints their relationship in a disturbing light but makes her look more suspicious in the murder investigation, since she suspects the victim was sleeping with her husband.
* In ''TheTudors'', Queen Anne Boleyn refuses to have sex with her husband, the king, when she is pregnant. He immediately has sex with another woman. When Anne complains to her father, her father explains that it is natural for a man, and ''expected'' for a king.
* The detectives of ''LawAndOrderSpecialVictimsUnit'' generally act as if this is a universal truth that's written in stone and handed down by God itself. More than one of their "early-in-the-episode red herring suspects" are only suspects because they said something along the lines of "Yes, believe it or not I actually turned down a chance to have sex when such a chance became available to me", and the detectives react with a "Pshh... right... sure you did, you lying bastard."
* ''{{Series/Seinfeld}}'' has the infamous "The Contest" episode, where the main characters have a contest to see who can refrain from [[ADateWithRosiePalms self-gratification]] the longest. When Elaine wants in on the bet, she has to take double stakes because, as Jerry puts it, it's easier for women to refrain, whereas with men, "it's part of our lifestyle." [[spoiler: Possibly averted when Elaine comes in third place, beaten by Jerry and George. She does beat Kramer, but that's not saying much.]]
--> Jerry: "It's like shaving…"
--> Elaine: "Well, I shave my legs."
--> Kramer: "Not ''every day''!"
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[[folder:Music]]
* In RebaMcEntire's "Whoever's in New England," the lonely wife accepts that her husband is cheating on her extensively. As she says, "[he'll] always have a place to run back to." The implication from the song and the video is that, while she's certainly not ''happy'' about his cheating, it's just something a man will do.
* "I'm Still a Guy" by BradPaisley has it right there in the title but turns out to be a DownplayedExample. Instead of just about sex, it's about being uncivilized.
* Devo's "Triumph of the Will" uncovers the [[AllMenAreRapists implications]] of this trope:
-->When the well cries out for water,
-->It is a need that must be filled.
-->It is beyond the laws of nature.
-->It takes a triumph of the will!
* Music/{{Voltaire}}'s "It's Normal For A Man" is all about this trope.
* ''{{Psychostick}}'' explains it right in the title of their song ''"Because Boobs"''.
--> ''"And some chicks too!"''
* Joe Jackson's song "Biology", which features the lyrics:
-->Your biology lesson starts here\\
and first of all we should make it clear\\
That the species known as males have these little white things with little white tails\\
Which multiply and start to shout,\\
"It's getting crowded down here! Let us out!"\\
Once relieved, they start again\\
It's not a process controlled by the brain...
** Gender flipped when the narrator's girlfriend confesses to cheating on him and gives the same justification.
* In {{Sublime}}'s "Wrong Way", this is the narrator's excuse for spending the night with a ''14-year-old'' prostitute.
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[[folder:Theatre]]
* Phoebus from the ''Theatre/NotreDameDeParis'' musical names precisely this as the reason he's "torn apart".
* In ''Love's Labor Lost'', the king of Navarre decides to study with three scholars for three years, and makes them swear an oath that they'll stay away from women during the interim, not even go near them or speak to them. He also forbids women from coming near the palace where they're staying. Biron, one of the scholars, points out that they're breaking the oath by letting a Princess visit there, since she has no place else to stay, and must come "on mere necessity":
--> Necessity will make us all forsworn
--> Three thousand times within this three years' space;
--> For every man with his affects is born,
--> Not by might master'd but by special grace:
--> If I break faith, this word shall speak for me;
--> I am forsworn on 'mere necessity.'
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[[folder:Video Games]]
* While not exactly an ''explicit'' situation, one cutscene from ''{{Persona 3}}'' where Junpei comments about offering as-yet-unseen new teammate Fuuka Yamagishi "private lessons" invokes this trope after Yukari displays disgust at the notion:
--> '''Junpei''': I'm a ''guy''. What'd you expect?
* Invoked but consistently averted in VisualNovel/{{Clannad}}. While Tomoya is often called out on his apparently obvious lecherous thoughts, given the opportunity he always acts in a gentlemanly manner. He's given rather clear opportunities several times in Tomoyo's route, one with Ryou in Kyou's route and either Kyou or Tomoyo when locked in the storage locker. He doesn't even sleep with Nagisa for several months after getting ''married'' despite his apparently perverted nature.
* ''VideoGame/TheElderScrollsIVOblivion'' This comes up in the quest, "The Siren's Deception". The player has to track down a gang of female thieves who use this trope and lure men out to remote locations, promising them sex, and then rob them. Additionally, part of the quest requires you to get information from Gogan, their latest victim, who's married. He uses this as his excuse.
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[[folder:Webcomics]]
* Deconstructed in the webcomic ''Webcomic/ElGoonishShive''. Having believed for years that her father had an affair because men couldn't control their urges, due largely to her [[DoesNotLikeMen misandric]] mother, Susan took the opportunity to [[GenderBender swap genders]] for one evening to test the theory out. Initially, this trope was played straight and Susan was suddenly full of perverted thoughts immediately after transformation (as forewarned by Tedd). However, after being male for several hours, she concluded there was hardly any difference and could no longer blame her father's actions on his gender.
* ''LeastICouldDo'': Rayne says what unmanly losers his friends are for being able to help it. The story itself may or may not agree with him.
* ''Webcomic/MenageA3'':
** The male characters generally don't bother much with this excuse on screen; lead character Gary is just too passive and confused to make coherent excuses for his occasional, largely accidental, philandering, and supporting character Matt just knows that he's a bastard.
** The female characters are just as openly controlled by their hormones, but [[http://www.ma3comic.com/strips-ma3/that_was_tight Zii points out to Yuki that Gary may tend this way,]] which may be why Yuki isn't too surprised to find a couple of naked women in Gary's wardrobe later that evening.
* [[AnthropomorphicPersonification Uncle Sam]] gives this excuse to Lady Liberty in ''Webcomic/{{Sinfest}}'' after getting caught with porn of exploited third-world nations. Nobody buys it.
* ''Webcomic/SluggyFreelance'': This trope is implied in [[http://sluggy.com/comics/archives/daily/20100127 this strip]]. Torg tells Sasha to stop changing her clothes in front of him. She tells him to just look away until she's finished. Torg considers this utterly unreasonable.
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[[folder:Web Originals]]
* Prevalent in Elven culture in the ''Literature/TalesOfMU'' universe, due to [[OurElvesAreBetter increased sexual potency]]. Among the more disciplined underground variety, it seems more common among the "[[{{Transsexual}} halfkind]]" as they are not expected to show responsibility or constraint.
* Discussed in [[http://pervocracy.blogspot.de/2012/08/the-myth-of-boner-werewolf.html The Myth of the Boner Werewolf]]
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[[folder:Real Life]]
* Some wives of rock stars eg. Donna D'Errico have gotten little sympathy from fans when the husbands cheats because rock stars get so many opportunities that you should expect they will cheat (like most women don't get plenty of opportunities to cheat).
* Brothel madam Xaviera Hollander writes in her memoir ''The Happy Hooker'' that the wives of her married clients are often the ones to blame and that a wife who doesn't like sex anymore should allow her husband to see a prostitute.
* The Daily Record columnist Just Joan says that women who have gone off sex have only themselves to blame if their men stray.
* [[http://www.villagevoice.com/2010-06-01/news/is-this-woman-too-hot-to-work-in-a-bank/ Debrahlee Lorenzana]] was supposedly fired from Citibank for dressing sexily. Problem is, she's in more-or-less normal business attire, and she even tried not wearing makeup or straightening her hair-she's just ''that hot''. [[http://blogs.villagevoice.com/runninscared/archives/2010/06/the_sexy_banker.php A related article]] jokingly included ''Series/DoctorWho'''s Eleventh Doctor.
* Sheik Taj Din al-Hilali and his infamous [[http://www.theaustralian.com.au/news/nation/muslim-leader-blames-women-for-sex-attacks/story-e6frg6nf-1111112419114 "cat and uncovered meat"]] parable wherein he blamed cases of sexual assualt solely on women themselves because of their immodest dressing habits and alluring behavior. Intentionally or not, he basically implied that men shouldn't be expected to exercise any kind of restraint whatsoever.
* The whole idea behind women being required to wear more clothes than men as practised in almost all countries, regardless of religion.
* Pat Robertson [[http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gnGkfZrXLsw tried to defend General Petraeus]] with this argument.
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