A character's family mistreats them, to restore their FamilyHonor.

This is not about personal honor, that accrued by an individual by their own actions or accomplishments. It's held by the entire family, and determines their social standing and how they are regarded and treated by other members of the society. Someone who tarnishes or besmirches the family's honor must be punished by the family, lest they lose even more honor for letting them off the hook.

The trope covers a wide spectrum of punishments, from relatively short-term humiliation all the way to "honor killings" where the victim's family murders them.

While this trope is often directed against female characters, and sometimes others who aided or participated in the dishonorable behavior, it ''does'' go both ways. The chief differences are what is regarded as dishonorable behavior; for male characters, cowardice, dishonesty, and adultery are the most common reasons, while for females, the list is much longer, including disobedience or rebellion, any sort of sexual 'misbehavior', and being raped.

While it's fairly typical of societies like pre-19th/20th century Europe and tribe- and clan-based cultures, works which treat it as acceptable, or even expected, tend to create ValuesDissonance for the audience.

Related to MurderInTheFamily, FamilyHonor

Contrast
* RapeAndRevenge, where a rape victim (and/or their family) visit retribution on the rapist, rather than on the victim.
* RoaringRampageOfRevenge, where the retribution is extended to anyone who had any sort of connection to the dishonorable action, however tenuous.

Often occurs along with
* AppealToForce
* AppealToTradition
* The refusal to go through with an ArrangedMarriage (eg. a ChildMarriageVeto, or someone who'd rather MarryForLove instead)
* BlueAndOrangeMorality: killing, disowning, injuring, etc. "wayward" or "unruly" family members is seen as being for the greater good of the family vis a vis their public image.
* BuryYourGays, if the dishonor is homosexuality.
* ConsummationCounterfeit, which is usually performed in an attempt to ''prevent'' this
* CultureJustifiesAnything
* DefiledForever, when the dishonor is that the family member was raped.
* DirtyCoward, if the family honor is closely tied to military service or behavior in battle. In this case the victim is virtually always male, and the punishment is more likely to be psychological, financial, or social, rather than physical.
* DisproportionateRetribution
* FeudingFamilies, if an outsider (spouse, lover, accomplice) is included in the retribution and ''their family'' responds in kind.
* IfICantHaveYou, if the dishonor is that the victim has turned down a marriage proposal, or is seeking a divorce, or breaks off an engagement
* IHaveNoSon, if the punishment is being cast out of the family altogether.
* LockedAwayInAMonastery, if the punishment is lifelong enforced withdrawal from society.
* MadWomanInTheAttic, if the dishonor is a family member being mentally ill, disabled, etc.
* MaliciousSlander: If the dishonor (and reaction to it) is based on rumors, not facts, or when it's exploited to get rid of a "troublesome" family member.
* MenActWomenAre: In societies where this is common, the honor of women and children is held as a reflection of the men in their lives. A woman or child's honor can only decrease, while a man's honor can either increase or decrease depending on his actions. (Where girls and women are concerned, a big part of this boils down to their virginity before marriage and chastity during and after it.) Killing or banishing a "wayward" woman or child in a setting like this [[BlueAndOrangeMorality may be seen as]] a way for a man to restore his honor and SetRightWhatOnceWentWrong.
* MyGirlIsNotASlut, if the dishonor is that a girl or woman has engaged in illicit sex, or is rumored to have done so.
* NeverLiveItDown: Family honor (and [[SinsOfOurFathers shame]]) [[AssociationFallacy is carried through generations]], and nearby communities ''talk'', increasing motivation to keep everyone in line (and thus prevent shame), or remove shame as quickly as possible, through any means possible. (Even if that means injuring/killing/disowning/locking away one's own family members.)
* NeverSuicide, if alleging that the victim committed suicide is used to cover up her murder.
* ParentalMarriageVeto, if the child defies the parents and marries anyway.
* PeriodPiece, when the work is set in an era or location that relied heavily on the concept of FamilyHonor
* PropertyOfLove, if the dishonor is that a man's wife has cheated on him, or his daughter has had illicit sex, and therefore he's seen as less of a man because he can't control her.
* RapePortrayedAsRedemption, if the punishment is rape
* SlutShaming, if the dishonor was the girl or woman having any kind of sexual relations, willing or not, or even just being ''rumored'' to have done so.
* ShotgunWedding, if the punishment is to be forced into marriage to one's paramour ([[FridgeHorror or rapist]]), or if a wedding is held to ''prevent'' being killed
* StuffedIntoTheFridge, if the dishonored woman is killed, either by someone else, or is forced (by custom, or by that someone else) to commit suicide.
* SymbolicMutilation or a MarkOfShame may be used as a punishment.
* ValuesDissonance
* VictimBlaming: Happens quite a lot in cases like this, with those who were sexually victimized being blamed for it.
* YouCantGoHomeAgain, if the punishment is being banished or ostracized, or if someone is trying to escape punishment from their family.
* YourCheatingHeart; in this case, it's usually the wronged spouse who exacts retribution and the victim is as likely to be the male as the female. The lover may also be included.
* YourMom, if the dishonor is the suggestion that a man's [[ParentalSexualitySquick mother]] is, in fact, a sexual being and/or engaged in illicit sex.


Happens ''far'' too often in RealLife. Let Wiki/TheOtherWiki [[http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Honor_killing provide Real Life facts]], and '''[[RuleOfCautiousEditingJudgment leave it at that]]'''.
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* ''Manga/RanmaOneHalf'': Ranma Saotome's mother, Nodoka, is introduced to the series fanatically obsessed with a contract that Genma made before he took Ranma away at the age of roughly 5 or 6, which declares that Ranma must become a "man among men" or else he and his father will have to commit {{seppuku}}. This would be abusive enough, especially when one takes into account the fact Ranma was far too young to legally understand what he was "signing" and the fact the contract is written up as (paraphrasing, and being generous) "I will become manly or commit seppuku". But Nodoka is so obsessed with it that she carries a sharp-bladed sword wherever she goes, just in case she encounters Ranma and must immediately put him to death. This, and the times she either almost forces Ranma to go through with it (pre-joining the cast) or threatens Ranma & Genma into going along with her wishes by mentioning it (afterwards), is played for laughs.

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* In ''FanFic/FirstTrySeries'', pre-massacre Uchiha would have Uchiha who married outside of Konoha, had illegitimate children killed so the Sharingan would not spread outside of Konoha or out of Uchiha supervision. Itachi outright says this is the reason why there is no other Uchiha (to his knowledge) left besides him and Sasuke. This is the [[spoiler:elder]] Tobi's motive for kidnapping [[spoiler:Sasuke's]] children, because the Uchiha killed his family because he married a woman from a different village.
* In ''Fanfic/ThePrayerWarriors'', Jerry has his wife Mary executed by being thrown off a tower, stoned to death and beheaded upon merely hearing that Literature/{{Percy Jackson|and the Olympians}} impregnated her. [[UnexplainedRecovery Inexplicably, Mary survives]] and is forgiven by Jerry.

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* The movie ''Literature/NotWithoutMyDaughter'' (as well as the book it's based on) tells the story of a failed marriage and a custody battle as entirely a matter of Honor-Related Abuse. The characters start out as an American family, although the husband is of Iranian descent. They are happy with each other until they visit Iran, and the husband's relatives there can start putting much more pressure on him than they could long-distance. In his new-found role as protector of the family honor, he starts battering his wife and brainwashing his daughter. While the wife and daughter are victims of the husband-turned-monster, he is also clearly portrayed as a victim of his own (even by Iranian standards) ultra-conservative family. Since the daughter has been given Iranian citizenship (without the mother's consent), the mother can't even try to take her back to America without risking the death penalty. Eventually, they manage to flee the country and return home to the USA.
* In ''Film/TheStoningOfSorayaM'', this is the excuse for the titular stoning; The husband wants to spend more time with his mistress and avoid the cost of a divorce, so he first sends his wife to do household chores for a male widow and then accuses her of adultery. They eventually bully the widower to falsely testify against her [[spoiler:and force Soraya's father and children to participate in the stoning]].
* In the German film ''When We Leave'', a young woman leaves her abusive husband in Turkey to return to her family in Germany. Although basically sympathetic to the abuse she has endured, they are ashamed of her for leaving her husband and supposedly bringing shame onto her family -- their friends shun them and her younger sister's fiance nearly ends their relationship until the father offers the other family a large sum of money. When the young woman flees the family apartment after realizing that they are planning to kidnap her son and send him back to his father, they shun her outright and her brother begins stalking and harassing her, culminating in him trying to stab her (after her younger brother can't bring himself to shoot her) [[spoiler:and accidentally killing her son, who she was holding in her arms at the time. Ironically, despite having no remorse about trying to kill his own sister, he is horrified at having killed his nephew]].
* In the movie ''Crossing Over'', a Middle Eastern man murders his sister and her lover, incensed at her refusal to end her affair with a man who is not only married, but Mexican.
* ''Film/WhenDarknessFalls'': Leyla's family does that to her sister Nina, when they think that she had sexual contact with several men. Her father punches her and almost the whole family tries to force her to suicide. This ends in [[spoiler:the family killing Nina by staging her suicide on a high speed street in Germany]].

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* Virginius and Virginia in Livy, ''The Romance Of The Rose'' and ''Literature/TheCanterburyTales''. In Livy, at least, there is a strong implication that Virginius and Virginia herself regarded this as a MercyKilling saving her from a FateWorseThanDeath.
* The Swedish book ''Mordet på Fadime'' (The murder of Fadime) revolves around this, especially the case that made "honor killings" a well known concept in Sweden.
* In Creator/GabrielGarciaMarquez's novel ''Literature/ChronicleOfADeathForetold,'' Angela Vicario's husband turns her away and her mother beats her when they realize that [[DefiledForever she isn't a virgin.]] The "Death" mentioned in the title is that of Angela's alleged lover, whom her family murders in order to restore their lost honor.
* ''Literature/FlowersInTheAttic'', the book and film. A widow with children tries to restore connections with her wealthy family, but she was estranged due to BrotherSisterIncest. After she takes enough punishment to satisfy their demands for penance, she abandons her imprisoned children to their continued abuse.
* The ''[[Literature/TheRiftwarCycle Empire]]'' trilogy: At least one character "honor kills" his entire family prior to such an act. Many deaths are arranged so that rivals can "gain in honor." The majority of people who have the misfortune of being slaves are treated as poorly as possible so that their "debts" may be paid and they can go honorably to death and to their next life. In fact, '''much''' of the trilogy is just made of this trope.
* Victarion Greyjoy in ''Literature/ASongOfIceAndFire'' is haunted by the memory of killing his wife according to this trope after his brother Euron slept with her. Despite personally blaming Euron for what happened (and suspecting that he actually raped her), the honour code of [[NoWomansLand Ironborn culture]] demanded that she die at her husband's hand. The event sparked a lifelong CainAndAbel relationship and led to Euron being banished.
* In ''Literature/ToKillAMockingbird'', after catching his daughter trying to seduce their African-American neighbor Tom Robinson, Bob Ewell beats the shit out of her and forces her to testify that Tom Robinson raped her.
* ''Literature/MatteoFalcone'' by Prosper Mérimée: a child [[TheStoolPigeon tells the location of an escaped prisoner]] after the man made him swear that he would not tell. The prisoner was captured and the child was praised by everybody (including the kid's uncle, the police commissioner) for such a heroic action... everybody except the kid's father, that is, who took the fact that the kid broke his promise as an act besmirching the family honor (he explicitly calls the act "treason"), and so takes the kid deep into the woods and blows his head off with a shotgun.


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* In ''Series/BuffyTheVampireSlayer'', Tara's family is like this. They abuse her emotionally [[spoiler:and lie to her to make her [[InternalizedCategorism hate herself]], fooling her to believe that she is less than human]]. When she breaks free to make a life of her own, they start threatening to move on to physical abuse, and would most likely have made good on their threats if it wasn't for almost the entire cast closing ranks around her and telling them that they would have to [[GoThroughMe go through them]] to get to her. [[MyFriendsAndZoidberg Except Spike.]] [[spoiler:Spike ''does'' help, in his own unique fashion: [[WouldHitAGirl he hits Tara in the face]]. Since it triggers his MoralityChip, thus proving she's entirely human, it does help her... by hurting her. And him.]]
* Basically the whole plot of the ''Series/LawAndOrderSpecialVictimsUnit'' season two episode "Honor." A woman is brutally killed, and it turns out it was related to her family's disapproval of her boyfriend. Her mother finally steps up and admits what she saw and...well, you try getting those final images out of your head. Her corpse is found in the bedroom of her home, her husband having slashed her throat and fled back to Afghanistan before the police could catch him, with his characterization of the episode making it clear that he won't lose a moment of sleep over having murdered his supposed love and his own child.
** In a later episode, ADA Casey Novak is brutally attacked by the brother of a young Muslim woman who was raped, blaming ''Casey'' for why everyone now knows that his sister isn't a virgin anymore and therefore unsuitable for marriage, and feeling that by attacking Casey, he has restored his family's reputation.
* In the Series/CSIMiami episode ''Dishonor'', a father attempts this via burning his daughter alive after she falls in love and changes her mind about an ArrangedMarriage, only to end up being burned alive himself when his wife finds out.
* Subverted in ''Series/{{Farscape}}'': up until the episode "Mental As Anything," D'Argo's DarkAndTroubledPast involved his wife, Lo'Laan, being murdered by her brother, Macton -- apparently for [[FantasticRacism marrying a non-Sebacean.]] However, when D'Argo finally catches up with Macton, it turns out that the "honour-killing" was accidental: the two of them had been arguing, and Lo'Laan had drawn a knife on Macton -- [[DamnYouMuscleMemory only for him to instinctively deflect it back on her.]] Macton's ''real'' crime was making it look as though D'Argo had done it in a fit of [[UnstoppableRage Hyper Rage]].
** While the killing wasn't premeditated, the argument was still mostly about Macton's FantasticRacism against his brother-in-law.
* A storyline on the SoapOpera ''Series/PortCharles'' had a young Middle Eastern woman being terrorized by her brother. She had fled her country after being raped and her family responded by sending her brother to kill her in order to restore family honor. This being a SoapOpera, a well-meaning friend quickly [[CitizenshipMarriage married her]] to keep her from being deported back to her country as well as to pacify her family. Unfortunately, it didn't work -- the brother continued stalking her and discovered that the marriage was fake (the man already had a girlfriend) and eventually did attempt to kill her, though he was unsuccessful.
* Subverted in ''Series/TheCloser'' two-parter "Living Proof". A scuffle between two Albanian men in a mall ends with the older one dead, the younger one claiming he only killed in self-defense (reasonable enough, as the older man had pulled out the knife in the first place). He claimed that the old man was his father, who had disowned him for marrying a Christian. Then the dead man's daughters turn up dead, and the son suggests that his father had snapped and gone on a belated honor-killing spree against his family (the daughters for being raped by Serbian forces during the Albanian genocide, the son for failing to protect them and surviving by hiding). [[spoiler:In fact, the "son" was one of the murdering Serbian soldiers, pulling a DeadPersonImpersonation using the name of one of his victims to escape trial for war crimes. Unfortunately for him, his stolen identity's father met him by chance, and the man tried to kill the entire Albanian family so they couldn't out him as a war criminal.]]
* Sometimes referenced on ''Radio/GoodnessGraciousMe''. One example was a mock advertisement for the fire-proof "Asbestos Sari", designed to prevent the wearer meeting an untimely death in a "kitchen accident" (this is sometimes used as a euphemism for women being killed over dowry disputes, sometimes by being ''burned alive''.)
* Frank's subplot in one episode of ''Series/BlueBloods'' concerned a Turkish violinist on a US tour seeking political asylum due to her having dated an American during the tour: she believed she would be in danger of an honor killing if she returned home. [[spoiler:The State Department vetoes it for political reasons, so Frank works his contacts and gets the New York Philharmonic to hire her, and State agrees to get her a work visa.]]
* In ''Series/NewAmsterdam'', the episode "Honor" has an Indian rape victim being killed by her family because she was no longer a virgin. The flashbacks to the immortal's past also revealed that the protagonist had previously held the same notion that a woman who loses her virginity is DefiledForever until he discovers that she had in fact been raped.
* One episode of the historical miniseries ''[[https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Kennedys_(miniseries) The Kennedys]]'' depicts Rosemary Kennedy's {{lobotomy}}, which her father arranged because she was a "problem child." The ''really'' disturbing part is that [[https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rosemary_Kennedy#Lobotomy this actually happened]].
* In an episode of ''Series/SilentWitness'', a Vietnamese woman was subjected to this after her arranged marriage fell through because the groom discovered she wasn't a virgin.
* The TV movie ''Murdered By My Father'', in which the titular event happens when a young girl gets a boyfriend and tries to reject the arranged marriage her father had planned for her. The father is also subjected to this trope, since the groom's family have him beaten up when they find out.

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* ChildBallad 65, "Lady Maisry" is a Border ballad about a young Scottish girl who falls in love with an Englishman and becomes pregnant by him after refusing to marry any of the Scottish lords her family approved of. In response, her family has her burned alive.
* ChildBallad 233, "Andrew Lammie", also called "Mill O'Tifty" is a Scottish ballad about a young woman named Annie, who is the daughter of the miller at Tifty. She falls in love with the titular Lammie, who is a trumpeter for the Lord of Fyvie. Lord Fyvie finds Annie attractive, and tells her parents he wants to marry her, and they agree. When Annie says that she's in love with Andrew Lammie, her brother and father kill her.

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* In ''TabletopGame/WerewolfTheApocalypse'', some Garou tribes carry out honor violence on kinfolk who mate with unapproved partners.
** As the royal leaders of the Garou Nation, the Silver Fangs are obsessed with maintaining the "purity" of their bloodlines. According to the revised Silver Fang tribebook, the Silver Fangs historically killed or sterilized kinfolk who mated with partners outside of the tribe.
** According to ''Kinfolk'', some hardline Wendigo septs murder kinfolk who marry outside of the tribe.

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* The protagonist of ''Theatre/TitusAndronicus''. After his daughter Lavinia gets raped, he restores his honor by murdering the rapists -- and her! Sure, she was depicted as a severe case of DefiledForever, but if the murder had been done in a gentler way, it could have been considered a MercyKilling to put her out of her misery, considering what else the rapists did to her -- but the way he did it (at least in the movie version, and that one stays true to the original manuscript) was definitely a part of his own personal revenge.
* ''Theatre/TheDesertSong'' has a variant. The MightyWhitey hero is left to die in the desert and loses his leadership of his band of outlaws due to refusing to fight an opponent.

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* Melusine (an anthropomorphic dolphin) in ''Webcomic/{{Concession}}'' was murdered by her brother-in-law for getting impregnated by a land-dweller. Said land-dweller reacted rather badly, willfully causing a disaster that destroyed her community's entire seaside city, while she came back as an insane, vengeful ghost (who, in retrospect, may have influenced the former).

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[[folder: Western Animation ]]

* Rare male example: Prince Zuko from ''WesternAnimation/AvatarTheLastAirbender'' experienced a ''ton'' of this from his father, Fire Lord Ozai. After Zuko spoke out against a plan to [[WeHaveReserves use new military recruits as cannon fodder]], Ozai torched his face and banished him on a WildGooseChase to hunt down the Avatar (who hadn't been seen in a century). After the Avatar showed up and Zuko ''still'' didn't capture him, Ozai sent his daughter Azula to capture her brother. Eventually, [[spoiler:Zuko was welcomed back after supposedly killing the Avatar, but then did a HeelFaceTurn and spectacularly [[CallingTheOldManOut called his father out]] -- to which Ozai responded by [[OffingTheOffspring trying to electrocute him]]. During the GrandFinale, Ozai is away fighting Aang, so Azula takes up the mantle of Honor-Related Abuse and tries to electrocute him ''again'' -- and she would have succeeded if Katara hadn't stepped in to save him.]]

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