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->'''Greg''': Why are we always holding hands?\\
'''Terry''': How else would people know we're gay?\\
'''Greg''': Oh. Yeah, you're right.
-->-- ''WesternAnimation/AmericanDad''%%This quote is referred to as a page quote in the American Dad examples. Edit that part out if you're going to replace or remove this quote.

Have I Mentioned I Am Gay is when we know that a particular character is gay because we are told so, often repeatedly, and not because we actually see them display any sort of romantic feeling or sexual attraction toward characters of the same sex. The character is out of the closet, and may even proudly talk about past relationships, but we, the audience, never see them going on dates with the same gender, let alone actually having sex. You might notice that on United States TV, [[DoubleStandard you'll see girl-on-girl kissing, but never boy-on-boy]] unless it's a huge punchline, because MostWritersAreMale and GirlOnGirlIsHot.

Every once in a while, especially in the later seasons of a show, the writers will become [[GenreSavvy aware of this trope]] and suddenly (well, as sudden as it can be after three or four seasons) do [[VerySpecialEpisode a single episode]] that deals with the character's sexuality.

Often involves [[TokenMinority Token Gays]] and UnfortunateImplications, the main implication being that gays are [[DyingAlone lonely]]. The polar opposite of AmbiguouslyGay, and often the inverse of the TransparentCloset. Sometimes overlaps with StraightGay. See also: WordOfGay (when this comes from an author announcement rather than in-story), GetBackInTheCloset, UrbanLegendLoveLife. If the character does get enough action for their sexuality to be more than an InformedAttribute, but still less than others, that's ButNotTooGay. When involving bisexuals, that is ButNotTooBi.

Contrast HaveIMentionedIAmHeterosexualToday.

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!!Examples:

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[[folder: Comic Books]]
* Bryan Hand from the ''MsTree'' comics.
* Both parodied and subverted in ''ScottPilgrim'' via Scott's roommate Wallace. We initially learn that Wallace is gay not because of his actions, but rather because no-one will shut up about it to the point where it becomes blatantly superfluous. Later we do actually see Wallace in relationships with men, however it's often intentionally exaggerated to draw attention to itself (especially so in TheMovie).
* The only reason anyone knows that Northstar from ''ComicBook/AlphaFlight'' and the ''ComicBook/{{X-Men}}'' is gay is because he can't seem to go five minutes without referencing that fact. Less so that now he actually has a steady boyfriend and in fact married him in a high profile event, but in the days right after he came out, it seemed like he couldn't ''stop'' coming out.
* Wiccan and Hulkling of the YoungAvengers tend to go out of their way to remind people of the fact that they're dating
** Averted in Gillen's run - we actually get to see more of their relationship and what they're like by themselves, so they're not just paying lipservice to it anymore.
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[[folder: Film]]
* ''TheCelluloidCloset'' goes on about this.
* Troy, Eve's male BFF in ''BlastFromThePast''.
-->'''Eve:''' (to Adam, about Troy) "He's gay, by the way."
-->'''Adam:''' (to Troy, thinking Eve means that Troy is happy) "Well, good for you!"
-->'''Troy:''' (confused) "Well, I do try..."
* Jan, from ''HalfBaked''
* Victor Melling from ''MissCongeniality''
* Tomboy in George Romero's ''Film/SurvivalOfTheDead''
* JD from ''Film/SavingSilverman'' mentions he's gay a few times.
* Damian from ''Film/MeanGirls'' being "almost too gay to function" doesn't seem to involve him dating or even being attracted to men. Although to some extent this ''can'' be TruthInTelevision for gay teens in high school (the not-dating part) as there are often few openly gay kids around.
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[[folder: Literature]]
* In ''Literature/TheHouseOfNight'', Damien is kind of like this, until he gets a boyfriend (so there at least is an excuse to mention that he is gay).
* In ''Literature/{{Otherland}}'', Susan van Bleeck's butler, Jeremiah Dako, is openly gay but, due to the circumstances of his employment and later, his involvement with the protagonists' quest, he is never shown having a relationship. He laments this in character, subtly lampshading the trope.
* In ''Literature/{{Cell}}'', one of the characters randomly reveals he is gay for one line. It is never brought up again.
* In the first book of ''Literature/TheEchoCaseFiles'', Tycho drops into conversation that itís not that another character is too young for her, but too male.
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[[folder: Live Action TV]]
* ''WillAndGrace'' spent a while getting Will a boyfriend while securing Grace as his soul mate. A prominent episode in the first season being one where Grace has a boring romance in the typical manner with some guy in Story A, with Story B focusing on Will talking on the phone to some guy that he liked, in an unnecessary, one-episode version of HeWhoMustNotBeSeen.
** Not to mention Jack, most of the time. Sure, he's sometimes seen with a date, but mostly he's seen ''talking'' about being on or going on a date.
* Marc in the early seasons of ''UglyBetty''.
* The whole premise of Steve Agee and Brian Posehn's characters from ''TheSarahSilvermanProgram''.
* Eric Van Der Woodsen from ''GossipGirl'' might also fit this. One episode featured his "outing" in it's A-story, yet to date he never seems to be closer than 8 inches to his "boyfriend". If you were to watch the show muted, you would probably just guess they were just friends.
* Serena Southerlyn from ''Series/LawAndOrder''. Less so than most in that the show doesn't really show ''any'' of the main characters romances.
** George Huang from [[Series/LawAndOrderSpecialVictimsUnit SVU]] as well. He's mentioned twice that he is gay and has never had even a mention of a relationship.
* Jody, Billy Crystal's character in ''{{Soap}}'', verbally informed the audience of his sexual preference pretty much every episode, yet you saw him going out with women far more often than with other guys. This was because the show's producers and ABC's standards and practices department had to walk on eggshells with regards to their treatment of Jody. A few years earlier, NBC had canceled the sitcom ''Snip'' less than a month '''''before''''' its pilot episode's scheduled debut -- it didn't even get the chance to be a OneEpisodeWonder -- because of the public backlash over what would have been the first open gay character on an American TV series.
** Jody at least had an excuse: his family members were deep in denial. A typical exchange would go something like:
-->'''Danny:''' Let's go out and hook up with some girls.
-->'''Jody:''' Danny, I don't want to do that, I'm gay.
-->'''Danny:''' No, 'cause you're my brother, and my brother is ''not gay!'' You're just shy.
* Ashley's friend Griffin in ''TheSecretLifeOfTheAmericanTeenager''. He did eventually end up getting a love interest (Peter), but they've seldom appeared since they hooked up.
* ''QueerAsFolk'', strangely enough. Vic is undoubtedly gay, but is portrayed as almost asexual for a ''long'' time.
** Partly TruthInTelevision, as it can sometimes be much harder for older gay men -- especially ones who are HIV+, as Vic was -- to find the same sort of sexual and romantic opportunities that their younger counterparts have.
* ''BritanniaHigh'' had Jez, in which his father mentions him being gay and Jez confirms it later on. There's also when a guy who likes Jez tells Lola, one of Jez's friends to ask him out for him, in which she does, but Jez thinks she's pointing to an ugly guy stood next to the other guy, who both have similar shirts. HilarityEnsues. However, this is never mentioned again and Jez does not get a boyfriend/kiss/hug/love interest at all. Instead, he gets a kiss ''from a girl''.
* ''{{Glee}}'': The first few episodes spend time reinforcing the fact that Kurt Hummel is gay - his crush on classmate Finn is a plot point during the first season - and yet the boy doesn't get a kiss until season two. After that, he gets boyfriend Blaine and they share varying degrees of physical affection throughout the rest of the series. This is of course TruthInTelevision seeing as they lived in homophobic small town Ohio and the odds of finding love when you're the only out gay kid at your school is pretty slim.
* ''InLivingColor'' had a sketch in which a gay man (played by Jim Carrey) would just randomly go up to people and say "Hi. I'm gay."
* Daffyd from ''Series/LittleBritain''.
** Played with, in that his isolation from other gay people is entirely self-imposed due to his blind spot about being "the only gay in the village", which causes him to reject the (many, many) other gay people in the village as not being gay even when he is set up on a date, or has the opportunity to join a gay social group, or learns that he's not even the only gay person in his own family.
* The MTV series of ''Series/TeenWolf'' features Danny, who so far has had his [[StraightGay not otherwise apparent]] sexuality referenced [[TokenMinority as many times as he has spoken lines]].
** They make good on his sexuality in season two, with an episode taking place at a gay club, and showing Danny lamenting his breakup as his ex dances nearby. And of course, there's a funny bit where Scott, using SuperSenses to try and find a werewolf, sniffs Danny who helpfully pipes up he's wearing Armani.
** Season 3 features a fairly explicit scene with Danny and [[spoiler: Ethan]] in a motel room. There are also two boys making out in the background at Lydia's party in season two, and one of them appears to be Danny at first glance but isn't.
** In Season 4, there's new character Mason, who also fits this role. Even worse, he seems to have [[TokenMinority replaced]] Danny, who made no appearances the whole season.
* In ''Series/{{House}}'', Thirteen's bisexuality is mentioned almost every episode, yet we have only ever seen her with a girl once: [[UnfortunateImplications when she was on a binge of drug use and one night stands upon discovering that she had less time left than she thought due to her Huntington's Disease worsening.]]
** [[UnfortunateImplications In fact, her only long-term relationship on the show is with Foreman, and all the women she's with on the show are one-night stands.]] As of the new season she appears to be in a long-term relationship; on the other hand, she's only on screen for one episode.
* ''{{Warehouse 13}}'' has Steve Jinks, who mentions that he is gay while Claudia is going on about how they can't have an OfficeRomance. He is StraightGay so it would be hard to figure out. He never had any romantic relationships in the season, but neither did any of the straight characters.
** After this revelation, references to Steve's sexuality pop up significantly more often, nearly reaching critical mass in the final season. Examples include Pete mistaking a romantic kiss from [[spoiler:Myka]] as Steve using a transformation artifact to trick him, as well as Steve himself uttering the phrase "okay, no more Mister Nice Gay".
* ''TopChef'' features at least one openly homosexual contestant in almost every season. Many of them make sure everybody knows their orientation as soon as possible. Ash in Season 6 states that he's the only chef "with a boyfriend," and then pauses for a second before elaborating, "a same-sex boyfriend."
* On ''Series/TheTalk'', Sara Gilbert practically ''always'' has to change the subject of whatever the current discussion is about to homosexuality.
* ChannelFour's reality contest ''Four In A Bed'' featuring battling small hotels competing for the accolade of best B&B of the week pits teams of owners against each other. Generally small boarding houses run by husband-and-wife couples are featured. But in any given week, there is ''always'' one very obvious husband-and-husband or wife-and-wife among the teams. Their sexuality is never an issue and is never explicitly mentioned. But this is so obvious to viewers that a subtext of the show is "spot the gay couple".
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[[folder: WebAnimation]]
* Most of the cast of ''Queer Duck'' suffers from this.
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[[folder: Webcomics]]
* Utahraptor from ''Webcomic/DinosaurComics'', but that has more to do with the medium - the visual part of the comic is the same in every strip, so there's no space for, say, a strip. In the words of the author, "He is gay, guys. Only he doesn't talk about it all the time, on account of having interests outside of being gay?"
* ''[[Webcomic/{{Roommates 2009}} Roommates]]'' takes this to amusing lengths. One of the two main characters, [[SuperMarioBros Bowser Koopa, Jr.]], is blatantly openly gay, and makes no secret of it. But most of the people he knows in college (like track teammates [[Franchise/{{Pokemon}} Olly]] and [[Franchise/{{Digimon}} Mondo]]) continually presume that all his flirtations and homoerotic innuendo are GayBravado, [[CassandraTruth never actually believing he's gay]]. This comes in sharp contrast to Junior's boyfriend [[Franchise/{{Digimon}} Giancarlo Rosato]], who is ''[[StraightGay not]]'' [[StraightGay that conspicuously gay]], but ends up noticed by [[HeteronormativeCrusader deeply homophobic]] Olly and Mondo for the "gay" ear piercing on his right ear. As they start to beat Gian up for it, Junior comes to his rescue, announcing that the piercing was a gift from him as [[SorryImGay Gian's boyfriend]]. [[IdiotBall They are genuinely shocked that Junior actually is -- and has always been -- gay]]. [[spoiler:Then Olly and Mondo go home, discuss what happened earlier, and then [[ArmoredClosetGay have sex]]. Twice.]]
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[[folder: Web Original]]
* This LetsPlay/{{Yogscast}} video (a GagDub of a VideoGame/ResidentEvilTheMercenaries3D trailer): http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mY-WH8jBdcw
-->'''Reporter:''' (after the video link with another reporter cuts out due to zombies) OH GOD! We lost the video! I'm still gay, but we don't know where Dave is!
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[[folder: Western Animation]]
* There was a VerySpecialEpisode of ''WesternAnimation/TheSimpsons'' guest starring Creator/JohnWaters that revolved around homosexuality. Though the Waters character was undeniably flamboyant, one awkward conversation with Smithers aside, he never actually shows his sexual preference.
* In the "Honey Pot" episode of ''{{Archer}}'', Sterling Archer attempts to seduce a gay man by posing as a ridiculous stereotype of one: he dyes his hair blond and wears roller skates, skin-tight short shorts, and a shirt that says "Got Dick?"
** Doesn't really fit this trope, as Sterling isn't actually gay. Ray Gillette, conversely, ''does'' fit this trope as his sexuality is frequently mentioned but never really demonstrated.
* Stewie Griffin of ''WesternAnimation/FamilyGuy'' is constantly [[TransparentCloset hinted as]] being gay but it's never amounted to anything, which is a bit suspicious considering the amount of girls he's been with or crushed on.
* Terry and Greg from ''WesternAnimation/AmericanDad'' apply to this; though their relationship has driven the plot several times and they are common characters, the most intimate they get is holding hands and the occasional innuendo. Even [[LampshadeHanging lampshaded]] in "Don't Look a Smith Horse in the Mouth", which supplies the quote at the top of the article.
** Also notably subverted in "A Smith for a Jones", where Greg and Terry are actually shown sleeping in the spooning position wearing only underwear. Granted, it's very brief and [[DoubleStandard nowhere near as intimate as Stan and Francine are shown]], but [[DiscreditedTrope tropes aren't discredited overnight]].
** Oddly, while Greg and Terry have never made out on camera, Terry and ''Stan'' have.
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