->'''Dominic Greene:''' My friends call me Dominic.\\
'''James Bond:''' I'm sure they do.
-->-- ''Film/QuantumOfSolace''

When a character wants to make things a little less formal, perhaps to show how amicable and gracious he is, or just because he's laid back and being friendly, he might decide to [[DontCallMeSir drop the formalities]] and invite others to use his first name, or even a nickname.

A common {{subversion}} is for the other character to then pointedly abstain from using the more casual name, or for the first character to specify that while his ''friends'' call him that, [[MyFriendsAndZoidberg the character]] they are ''talking to'' [[TheyCallMeMrTibbs shouldn't.]]

A subtrope of DontCallMeSir. When subverted, often overlaps with TheyCallMeMrTibbs. Compare FirstNameBasis.

!!Examples

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[[folder: Anime and Manga ]]
* In the ''Manga/FistOfTheNorthStar'' movie ''Legends of the Dark King'', Raoh has been steadily building his empire while publicly calling himself Ken-Oh, the "King of Fists". When one of his closest friends and lieutenants addresses him by this title, he asks to be simply addressed as Raoh since they are in private and don't need to keep up the facade for the underlings.
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[[folder: Comic Books ]]
* In the comics continuation of ''{{WesternAnimation/Gargoyles}}'', an English gargoyle called Staghart insists that his friends call him "Amp", which his best friend is quick to remind him is simply not true. Lexington is the only one who does. Perhaps they're meant to be more than just friends?
* In ''ComicBook/StrangersInParadise'', Katchoo insisted that David call her Katina once after a fierce argument. "Only my friends call me 'Katchoo'!"
* ComicBook/{{Gambit}} plays with this a little in ''ComicBook/UncannyXMen''.
-->To my friends, [[FunetikAksent de name's]] Remy [=LeBeau=]. To my enemies, it's Gambit! You can go on ahead an' forget dat first name right about now.
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[[folder: Film -- Animated ]]
* From ''[[Disney/{{Aladdin}} The Return of Jafar]]'':
-->'''Aladdin''': My friends call me Al. You can call me Aladdin.
* From Disney's ''Disney/{{Hercules}}'':
-->'''Megara:''' Megara. My friends call me Meg. At least, they would if I had any friends.
* From ''Disney/FunAndFancyFree''
-->'''Jiminy Cricket:''' The name's Cricket. J. Cricket You could call me Jiminy.
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[[folder: Film -- Live-Action ]]
* ''Film/MuppetTreasureIsland'':
** Early on, when recruiting Jim:
---> '''Jim:''' But we're just cabin boys, Mr. Silver.\\
'''Long John:''' ''Long John'', to his friends.
** Which gets an IronicEcho near the end:
---> '''Long John:''' I could never kill you, lad. You're honest and brave and true. You didn't learn any of that from me.\\
'''Jim:''' I learned it from my friends, ''Mr. Silver.''
* ''Film/TheAmericanPresident'' combines this with EverybodyCallsHimBarkeep and DontCallMeSir to produce a DefiedTrope. Even President Shepherd's lifelong friend (and Chief of Staff) A.J. refuses to address him as anything ''except'' "Mr. President" and "Sir", as an ongoing theme of the movie is the question of where Andrew Shepherd ends and the President of the United States begins.
* Played with in ''Film/BlazingSaddles''.
--> '''Sheriff Bart:''' What's your name?\\
'''The Waco Kid:''' Well, my name is Jim, but most people call me... Jim.
* From ''Film/DieHard:''
-->'''Hans Gruber:''' Touching, Cowboy, touching. Or should I call you, Mr. [=McClane=]? Mr. Officer John [=McClane=] of the New York Police Department?\\
'''John [=McClane=]:''' Sister Teresa called me Mr. [=McClane=] in the third grade. My friends call me John, and you're neither, shithead.
* ''Film/FerrisBuellersDayOff'':
-->'''Criminal Kid''': You didn't tell me your name.\\
'''Jeannie''': It's Jean, but a lot of guys call me Shauna.\\
'''Criminal Kid''': Okay, Jean.
* ''Film/TheKingsSpeech'' Is zig-zagged over the entire film. Lionel keeps insisting on first names to create a relaxed atmosphere where the Prince keeps trying to keep things formal. Later, at the end does Lionel give a formal address.
* ''Film/QuantumOfSolace'' included the quote above. [[PoliteVillainsRudeHeroes Greene trying to act gracious, while Bond is being pretty blunt]] with the fact that he doesn't like him.
* Invoked and promptly averted in ''Film/RaisingArizona''.
-->'''Lenny:''' Leonard Smalls. My friends call me Lenny... but I ain't got no friends.
* Inverted in ''Film/RealGenius''. However, [[Creator/ValKilmer Chris]], Hathaway's star pupil, does have these privileges, much to Kent's chagrin.
-->'''Kent:''' Hello, Jerry!\\
'''Dr. Hathaway:''' I told you before, Kent: you don't get to use my first name.
* ''Film/RoboCop3'' has another variation His ''friends'' call him Murphy, but the OCP executive can call him [=RoboCop=].
* From ''Film/{{Zardoz}}'', when [[Creator/SeanConnery Zed]] sees that Arthur Frayn aka Zardoz is NotQuiteDead:
-->'''Frayn:''' My Brutal friends call me Zardoz.\\
''[Frayn stabs Zed with a collapsible knife]''
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[[folder: Literature ]]
* ''Literature/{{Discworld}}'' in general has fun with this. In particular:
** Commander Vimes of the Ankh-Morpork City Watch has several tiers of these, thanks to his [[TryToFitThatOnABusinessCard ever-growing list of titles]]. The rare few whom he really, really likes get to call him simply Mister Vimes. It's been mentioned a few times that it's pronounced like the one in "what do you think you're doing mister?"
*** There's also the unique case of Vimes' oldest friend, Sergeant Colon, who's literally the ''only'' person other than his wife who's allowed to address him as [[FirstNameBasis 'Sam']], something he only does when he's very worried.
** Also, the [[BewareTheQuietOnes deceptively quiet]] former accountant Mr. Pessimal, who [[spoiler:got "Mister Vimes" privileges in record time for defending the commander against a ''Troll'']].
---> '''Vimes''': This is [[ObstructiveBureaucrat Mr. A.E. Pessimal]], plain A.E. if he ever makes friends.
** This is carefully negotiated territory among witches, who make their trade in psychological manipulation and break out the good manners only when things get [[PassiveAggressiveKombat really nasty]]. The list of people who call [[TheDreaded Granny]] [[GoodIsNotNice Weatherwax]] ''Esme'' is very, very short. Outside the Ramtops she's almost universally ''Mistress'' Weatherwax, and Tiffany Aching causes a sensation when she casually asks after "Granny."
* From the ''Literature/DoctorWhoNewAdventures'' novels, the Doctor's latest companion meets the Master for the first time (in [[spoiler:''[[Recap/DoctorWhoNewAdventuresFirstFrontier First Frontier]]'']]): "Summerfield. Bernice Summerfield. My friends call me Benny, but you can call me Professor Summerfield."
* ''Literature/TheDresdenFiles'':
** The trope is subverted pretty often. Harry constantly corrects people (most often, Nicodemus Archleone and John Marcone) trying to call him by his first name, insisting that they would never be his friends. He also [[InvokedTrope does it himself]] all the time to grind people's gears, continuing to use first names after being explicitly told not to. Though referring to the Archangel Uriel as just "Uri" earns him a sharp rebuke, since (as Harry quickly recalls) "El" is Hebrew for "of God", something very important to an angel -- not to mention [[FallenAngel what happened to]] the [[Main/{{Satan}} guy]] who ''willingly'' dropped the "El" from his own name.
** In ''Literature/DeadBeat'', Harry and Warden Ramirez are riding [[spoiler:around a necromantic hurricane on the back of a re-animated t-rex]], and Harry refers to him as Ramirez.
--->'''Ramirez:''' Everyone else who lets me ride [[spoiler:on their dinosaur]] calls me Carlos.
* In a ''Fabulous Five'' novel, Jana tries to befriend a homeless girl, who responds by saying, "Call me 'Liz'. Only my friends call me 'Lizzie'."
* ''Franchise/StarWarsLegends'':
** In ''The Fight for Truth'', part of ''Literature/JediApprentice'', the heroes visit a world where everyone has only one name, but women prefix theirs with O- while men prefix theirs with V-. People who are friends or otherwise working closely together can give each other permission to drop the prefix. This shows in the narration, too. When V-Davi tells Obi-Wan and Siri that they can call him Davi, both dialogue and narration refer to him as Davi.
* ''Literature/TalesOfTheBranionRealm'': In ''The Painter Knight'', Her Most Regal and Sacred Majesty Kassandra the Sixth ([[AChildShallLeadThem aged five]]) allows favorites to call her "Kasey". Or [[FireballEyeballs "Sparky"]]. Her father Marsellus prefers "Leary" when he's [[KingIncognito out drinking]].
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[[folder: Live Action TV ]]
* From the ''Series/CriminalMinds'' episode, "Riding the Lightning":
--> ''[JJ enters the room where Hotch is speaking with convicted serial killer Jacob]''\\
'''Jacob:''' Oooh! Who are you?\\
'''JJ:''' My friends call me JJ...\\
'''Jacob:''' Well... hello, JJ!\\
'''JJ:''' You're not my friend. You can call me Jennifer.
* ''Series/TheDukesOfHazzard'': Boss Hogg uses his Speed Trap to stop any famous singers passing through. The fine is six months in jail or one song at the Boar's Nest. Tammy Wynette gets stopped, and [[http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3z-EU5Sx8-k sings for her freedom.]] After the song the Dukes go up to her and congratulate her, each calling her Miss Wynette, to which she replies, "You can call me Tammy." Then Boss Hogg steps up.
-->'''Boss Hogg''': That fine performance of yours squares the fine on this speeding ticket, ''Tammy''.\\
'''Tammy''': [[TheyCallMeMrTibbs You can call me Miss Wynette.]]
* PlayedForLaughs in ''Series/TheFreshPrinceOfBelAir'' where Phil throws a party and one of the high class guests obliviously asks that both Will and Phil call him what his friends call him: "Whitey". [[IThoughtItMeant Because of his white hair.]] Naturally, they awkwardly refuse.
* ''Series/IClaudius'': Castor, the nickname by which Drusus Julius Caesar is commonly known, invokes this with Sejanus.
--> '''Sejanus:''' Ah, Castor, how nice to see you.\\
'''Castor:''' I'm Castor to my friends, Sejanus.
* In an early episode of ''Series/LawAndOrder'', a jailhouse lawyer who had a vendetta against DA Ben Stone for getting him convicted for murder was able to overturn his own conviction, but Stone later proved that he forced a witness to lie on the stand and then killed that witness to keep him from telling anyone. At the end of the episode, the killer contemptuously addressed him as "Ben", prompting Stone to deliver a blistering ShutUpHannibal:
-->'''Stone:''' In polite society, Sir, you don't call people by their first name unless they ask you to. I didn't do that. You're not a friend, and you're certainly not a colleague.
* On ''Series/OneLifeToLive'', a sleazy loan shark tries to chat with the wife of a man in debt to him. He tells her, "Call me Jimmy. All my friends call me Jimmy." She responds by very coldly and pointedly calling him "Mr. Glover" and telling him to leave her and her husband alone.
* In ''Series/SaturdayNightLive''[='=]s "Hogwart's Academy" sketch in Creator/LindsayLohan's episode, when Snape briefly gets [[DistractedByTheSexy distracted by]] [[ShesAllGrownUp Hermione's breasts]], he tells her to call him Severus. Then he snaps out of it and says to call him Professor Snape.
* Oddly played in ''Series/StargateSG1''. Upon meeting for the first time in the show (Daniel talking to a severely injured and possibly unconscious Cam in the hospital before that probably doesn't count), Daniel and Cam invite each other to use their first names. For the rest of the show and through the two direct-to-DVD movies, they call each other '''exclusively''' "Jackson" and "(Colonel) Mitchell".
** Daniel also, at first, refers to him as "New Guy" (being a civilian, he's not technically under Mitchell's command; plus, Daniel has vastly more experience in the area).
* Want to know how to identify a bad guy in ''Series/{{Supernatural}}''? See if they refer to Sam as Sammy. Only Dean is allowed to call him Sammy.
* On ''{{Series/Tatort}}'', the team switching from "Sie" (polite, distant) to "Du" (informal, close) is usually treated as a huge deal and sometimes it takes them several episodes to get there
* On ''Series/TheWestWing'', very few people call President Josiah Bartlet "Jed" (other than his wife). When they do, it usually overlaps with YouCalledMeXItMustBeSerious.
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[[folder: Music ]]
* Singer Music/EricBogle traditionally introduces himself in song at the start of a concert. One of the introduction songs goes:
-->My name is Eric, some folk call me Eck,\\
Call me Ricky and I'll break your neck,\\
If you're feeling formal, Mr. Bogle will do,\\
But to my friends it's Eric, and I hope that means you.
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[[folder: Video Games ]]
* From ''VideoGame/DeadlyPremonition'':
-->'''York:''' FBI Special Agent Francis York Morgan. Please, just call me York. That's what everyone calls me.
* Averted in the introductory level of ''VideoGame/HitmanBloodMoney'', when the guard at the amusement park gate asks for 47's name.
--> '''47''': Names are for friends, so I don't need one.
* In ''VideoGame/{{Hakuouki}}'', Chizuru politely calls all of the Shinsengumi captains by their family names and with appropriate honorifics, but Toudou Heisuke almost immediately encourages her to [[FirstNameBasis call him by his given name]] since they're nearly the same age.
* From ''VideoGame/KingdomHeartsBirthBySleep'' Ventus is constantly saying:
-->'''Ventus:''' Call me Ven!
* Velvet Velour, [[VampiresOwnNightClubs strip club owner]] and exotic dancer in ''VideoGame/VampireTheMasqueradeBloodlines'', goes by Velvet to most people and by V.V. to the ones she really likes. To the ones who rub her the wrong way, she's ''[[TheyCallMeMisterTibbs Miss]]'' Velour, and will frostily correct anyone who presumes too much.
* In ''VideoGame/NancyDrew: The White Wolf of Icicle Creek'', Guadalupe mentions that her friends call her Lupe. She does not mean this as an invitation to do so.
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[[folder: Visual Novels]]
* In one of the earliest scenes of ''VisualNovel/SevenKingdomsThePrincessProblem'', Princess Anaele all but demands that the player character call her "Ana." The player is then automatically prompted to offer a nickname by which Ana can call her in return.
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[[folder: Web Original ]]
* Sylvester of ''Literature/{{Twig}}'' is just called "Sy" by his friends, and addressed by his full name otherwise. He gives a doctor permission to call him "Sy" after he saves Jamie's life.
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[[folder: Western Animation ]]
* From a conversation in ''WesternAnimation/TheAvengersEarthsMightiestHeroes'' between Tony Stark and Captain America:
-->'''Captain America:''' And please, call me Steve.
* Parodied in ''{{WesternAnimation/Futurama}}'', where Bender tries to get closer to Calculon by disguising his name as Boiler. When Calculon congratulates him on working, he replies, "Call me Bender."
* From ''WesternAnimation/PhineasAndFerbTheMovieAcrossThe2ndDimension'':
-->'''[[IneffectualSympatheticVillain Dr. Doofenshmirtz]]:''' I'm Dr. Heinz Doofenshmirtz, but my friends call me... ''(trails off, sighs)'' [[MadeMyselfSad I just got in such a funk]].
* ''[[Creator/RankinBassProductions Rudolph's Shiny New Year]]'':
-->I'm 1776, but my friends call me Sev. Will you be my friend?
* ''WesternAnimation/TheSimpsons'', when Homer and Flanders first meet:
-->'''Ned Flanders:''' The handle says Flanders, but my friends call me Ned!\\
'''Homer Simpson:''' ''[bored]'' Hi, Flanders.
* ''WesternAnimation/SouthPark'', in the episode Damien.
-->'''Pip''': My name is Philip, but the kids call me Pip because they hate me.\\
'''Damien''': Then I shall call you Pip.\\
'''Pip''': Right-o.
* ''WesternAnimation/StarWarsRebels'': In [[Recap/StarWarsRebelsS2E15TheHonorableOnes "The Honorable Ones"]], after [[EnemyMine having to work together to survive]] on an icy moon, Garazeb Orrelios lets Agent Kallus call him "Zeb".
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[[folder:Real Life]]
* A temporary inversion was overheard on a WWII submarine: "Attention, this is the Captain. The Admiral will arrive for inspection in five minutes. Please don't call me Jack while he's around."
* During the French presidential elections in 1988, a public debate opposed socialist President (and candidate to his own succession) François Mitterand and his right-wing Prime Minister Jacques Chirac. Early in the debate, Chirac started by: "Here, you are not President, and I am not Prime Minister. We are two equal candidates. You will allow that I call you Mr. Mitterrand". Mitterrand replied: "You are absolutely right, Mr. Prime Minister".
* This can be a headache when translating works. English (at least in its 21[[superscript:st]]-century form) lacks a distinguishing mark which Spanish, French, German, and Latin all have, as did older forms of English (it still shows up in the King James Bible) -- namely the distinction between "formal you" and "informal you". While in general "formal you" goes with the last name and "informal you" goes with the first name/nicknames, there are situations in some languages where "informal you" and the last name are combined or the other way round. German dubs of American movies are infamous for combining "Sie" ("formal you") with the first name despite no good reason being given for that in the original dialog. On some series, most notably ''Series/{{Tatort}}'', transitioning from "formal you" + Last Name to "informal you" + First Name is SeriousBusiness and sometimes even involves [[FireForgedFriendship going through hell together]], sometimes it just involves a drink. And some teams still stay on "formal you" basis after years of working together (which in Germany at least is TruthInTelevision).
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