->'''Spagna''' ''(cutting Pelswick's food)'': There! All done!
->'''Pelswick''': Thanks for doing that, but it's my ''legs'' that don't work, not my teeth.
-->-- ''WesternAnimation/{{Pelswick}}'', "Hear No Evil, P.C. No Evil"

When some people meet a person with a disability, they automatically assume that the individual is totally incapable of looking after themselves, and treat them as such. Most egregiously, some people even assume that having one disability equals having ''every'' disability! These people are the ones who insist on SHOUTING AT THE BLIND, assuming they can't hear, either. These patronizing attitudes often create resentment on the part of people with disabilities.

In fiction, they have little problem telling the offender exactly that.

Learning this is not true is often the point of a VerySpecialEpisode. Contrast this trope to the HandicappedBadass, who everyone can instantly tell is not to be messed with.
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[[folder:Anime & Manga]]
* Subverted and somewhat [[{{Deconstruction}} Deconstructed]] in GuiltyCrown. [[{{Tsundere}} Ayase]] is wheelchair-bound, but she is still the most skilled Endlave pilot in the show. Getting helped because of her disability is her biggest BerserkButton, even if it would be far more convenient for the situation. Defrosting at the hands of [[ChickMagnet Shu]] eventually gets her over this.
* Sometimes it seems as though Nunnaly from ''Anime/CodeGeass'' feels this way. She ''is'' the one with the disability (she can't walk or open her eyes), and prefers for the entire first season to have Lelouch take care of her, even though they're ''both'' teenagers (she gets better about this and finally starts acting on her own in season 2). In Episode 21 of R2, Lelouch says that Nunnally kept smiling because, disabled as she was, it was the only way she knew how to show her gratitude to him.
** Very decisively zig-zagged in the final episodes. On one hand, Nunnally ruthlessly, though regretfully, used WMDs against her brother's forces. On the other hand, everything about her in the final episode -- from her confrontation with Lelouch to her outfit in the final scene -- suggests helplessness and even objectification.
* In the ''Anime/KidouTenshiAngelicLayer'' anime, this is why [[spoiler:Shuuko Suzuhara]] left her child [[spoiler:Misaki]] under the care of others, since she didn't want people to look down on Misaki for having "a useless mother", which is unfortunately TruthInTelevision as far as attitudes towards the disabled go in Japan. Elsewhere too of course; it's far from being an exclusively "Japanese" attitude, as discussed in the RealLife section of this page.
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[[folder:Comedy]]
* Ventriloquist JeffDunham in ''Arguing with Myself''. In one of the bits he talks about doing a show and having a signer there for a group of deaf people. HilarityEnsues. Politically incorrect, but hilarious.
* The intro to Creator/RickyGervais ''Politics'' Stand-Up show includes him talking extremely patronizingly to a guy in a wheelchair. When the guy protests that just because he's in a wheelchair doesn't mean he's mentally disabled, Gervais turns to the camera and says "so he's ''leg mental'', but he's not ''head mental''..."
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[[folder:Comic Strips]]
* Cartoonist and artist John Callahan has a lot to say about this subject. One book title is ''Don't Worry He Won't Get Far on Foot'' and another is ''Will the Real John Callahan Please Stand Up''.
* Cutter John of BloomCounty played with this trope from his wheelchair, which was sometimes a hindrance (forgetting the parking brakes on a hill, refusing to be helped up when he's knocked backwards) but was also often used as the "Starchair Enterpoop" by the nerdier meadow-dwellers who never thought of Cutter as anything other than their awesome Captain. He has a harder time convincing people he's not a ShellShockedVeteran from Vietnam.
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[[folder:FanWorks]]
* In ''FanFic/TwilightPrettyCure'', Kyoya lashes out at Riko, his best friend, because he misinterpreted one of her comments as referring to this. But when her mother explains she has Autism, which makes her unable to figure out when she's using the wrong words or the wrong tone of voice when saying something that can be construed as offensive by others, he regrets his actions and apologizes. However, one of his ex-friends, Daizo, is utterly convinced that one disability = ALL disabilities to the point where he outright abandons Kyoya because he, as he defines it, "became a cripple" and wants to completely disassociate himself from him. Fukiko, another one of Kyoya's old friends, used to agree with him, but after some nudges from Riko, she throws this belief away and tries to reconcile with him.
* In the ''Series/BuffyTheVampireSlayer'' fanfic "Assumptions and the Word All," it is discovered that when Willow activated all of the potential Slayers in the world, one of the potentials so-activated in a 31 year old lawyer whose Cerebral Palsy keeps her wheelchair bound with very little fine control over her body. She is hired by the Reformed Watcher's Council as a researcher and legal counsel, and is given as much combat training as she can physically handle, which admittedly isn't much. But when she overhears one of the younger Slayers talking about how an injured colleague is now a "useless cripple", the lawyer shows the girl why there exists such a thing as a HandicappedBadass in the first place with a punch that knocks the younger girl across the room.
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[[folder:Films -- Live-Action]]
* Subverted horribly in the film, ''Film/{{Blindness}}''. The men of ward 3 prove not to be harmless, and end up being harmful instead. Their self-appointed leader has [[spoiler:a gun and ends up hoarding the food from the other wards. At first, they demand valuables from everyone else in exchange for food. Unfortunately, when they have all of the valuables they then demand the women service them for food.]]
* In ''Film/MrHollandsOpus'', Mr. Holland is quite aware of this trope and wary of it. When his wife suggests that their deaf son be sent to a special school, he's against the idea, claiming they'll "treat him like he's retarded."
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[[folder:Folklore]]
* An urban legend tells a tale of a guy who has one of his car's tires deflated while in front of a lunatic asylum. While he changes the tire he puts the bolts on the rim, just as a car goes through, scattering them. The man is unable to find the bolts he needs, so one of the lunatic patients tells him to use one bolt from each other wheel. He does and is surprised that the lunatic had that good idea. The lunatic's response? "I'm crazy, not stupid."
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[[folder:Literature]]
* Most adults treat Agnes Thatcher, who is deaf, this way in ''Is That You, Miss Blue?'' and some girls even set her up with a blind guy at a dance. She especially resents people writing notes to her since she's an expert lipreader, and will write "What?" in reply.
* In ''Literature/TheBabySittersClub'' spin-off series ''Little Sister,'' Karen's class gets a new girl named Addie who has cerebral palsy and so uses a wheelchair. Karen takes it upon herself to help Addie -- which means she does everything ''for'' her, despite both Addie and Ms. Colman telling her that Addie is perfectly capable to doing things for herself (such as sharpening her pencils). [[TheScrappy She doesn't listen, and both the readers and Addie get seriously ticked off.]]
* Elizabeth Bathory's feelings of self-loathing in ''Literature/CountAndCountess'' are a result of this mindset. (She suffers from severe epilepsy throughout the novel.) She later subverts it however, making her more of a HandicappedBadass.
* In the ''Literature/CodexAlera'' series, Tavi [[spoiler:initially]] cannot [[ElementalPowers furycraft]], an ability everyone else in the world possesses. Even though he is extremely intelligent and otherwise normal, he was treated as disabled and almost helpless when growing up, because of this lack.
* In the novel ''Doctors'', psychiatric intern Barney is shocked to realize that the man he's been talking to is one of the ''patients'', rather than a fellow doctor, because the man has proven himself to be so intelligent. The same man continues to impress him throughout his time spent on the ward, with his impeccable knowledge of Shakespeare.
* In the SweetValleyHigh novel "That Fatal Night", football star Ken Matthews is blinded in a car accident. Despite initially trying to take care of himself, he comes to believe this trope, to the point where his would-be girlfriend is waiting on him hand and foot and feeling guilty for not being at his beck and call. She finally blows up at him over his ingratitude, at which point he finally realizes that he ISN'T incapable of taking care of himself.
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[[folder:Live-Action TV]]
* On ''Series/DegrassiHigh'', Maya's friends neglect to invite her to a movie because the public buses don't have lifts and the theater they're going to doesn't have a wheelchair ramp. She finds out and tells them off for not even asking, when she has a van and knows many place that can accommodate her.
* Clark went blind in one episode of ''Series/{{Smallville}}'', his parents thought that stepping out of his eyeline would be far enough away for him not to hear them talking about him.
* On ''Series/OneLifeToLive'', upon meeting his ex-wife's ALS-stricken father, Andrew proceeds to talk to him very loudly. After a while, the man tells him (his throat muscles are paralyzed, but he communicates with a computer) that he can hear him just fine.
* Subverted (in grotesque fashion, of course) by ''Series/{{Hannibal}}''. Peter Bernadone, who spends his days caring for rescue animals, was kicked in the head by a horse and is mentally disabled as a result. He's abused and framed by his social worker, a psychopath and serial killer, who killed a friend of Peter's. When the FBI comes calling, said social worker decides to punish Peter by releasing all his animals and murdering Peter's horse with a hammer. When Will turns up at the barn, however, he finds that Peter doesn't need rescuing... since he's already overpowered his social worker and [[ATasteOfTheirOwnMedicine sewn him inside the corpse of the horse so he'll have an idea of how his victims suffered.]] Even Hannibal's taken aback at that one.
* ''Series/RedDwarf'': This trope is basically the plot of "Nanarchy"; Lister lost an arm at the end of the previous episode, and Kryten treats him like he's totally helpless. Such as trying to feed him, despite Lister still having one perfectly good arm.
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[[folder:Video Games]]
* Illidan in ''VideoGame/{{Warcraft III}}'' lampshades this trope if the player clicks him enough times to get him to utter the "annoyed" replies: "I'm blind, not deaf!"
* Joker in ''Franchise/MassEffect'' says he got this treatment in flight school when he was younger due to his brittle-bone disease and difficulty walking without leg braces or crutches.
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[[folder:Visual Novels]]
* Cheerfully {{averted|Trope}} (possibly even defied) in ''VisualNovel/KatawaShoujo'': Rin has no arms, but is very agile with her feet; Emi has no legs, but runs track using prosthesis; Shizune is deaf-mute, but serves as an effective and ruthless StudentCouncilPresident (with a TranslatorBuddy). Indeed most of their real problems are only partially informed by their disabilities, for example Shizune is extremely extroverted and eager to interfere in other peoples lives because her inability to speak makes her isolated and easy to ignore, but also [[spoiler:due to the influence of her over combative father.]]\\\
On the other hand, Hisao tends to [[InternalizedCategorism internalise]] this at times, and realising that this trope isn't true for [[ShrinkingViolet Hanako]] is one of the main goals of her arc -- after she suffered a panic attack in class, he started thinking of her as someone helpless he needed to protect, instead of an equal romantic partner like Hanako wanted. In the [[MultipleEndings good route]], Hisao [[spoiler:figures out that while Hanako might need more help in different areas to him, they both need someone to help and support them, and that Hanako can do that for him just as well as he can do it for her.]] In the bad routes, he either [[spoiler:fails to realise this but still earns Hanako's friendship]], or [[spoiler:pisses her off so bad in his attempts to coddle her that she blows up at him, demanding that he leaves. Ouch.]]
* Played With in ''VisualNovel/LittleBusters'' when it comes to Riki's narcolepsy. On the one hand, none of the other characters ever treat him different for it, his friends have known him long enough that when he needs help they give it without having to think about it, and he says early on that he never thanks his friends for taking care of him when he falls asleep because they're all just used to it. He mentions that narcolepsy makes him feel uneasy, but he just doesn't really think about it very often. However, late in Rin's route there's a time when he really needs to earn money, but ends up falling asleep while picking fruit, the only option available to him. The woman he was working for feels terribly sorry for him once he wakes up and offers him money anyway, but that just makes him feel even worse, and he ends up crying as he walks home, thinking that a person with his disability would never be able to do anything but office work and that he's truly helpless right now... but at the time he was going through a ''hell'' of a lot of stress, and had many reasons for feeling weak that had nothing to do with his disability, so it's uncertain how much of that was stuff he truly believed and how much was just the depression getting to him. All in all, a pretty damn nuanced and respectful depiction of disability that doesn't try to oversimplify things. And given that Riki has a very complicated arc relating to him realising his strength that only rarely brings up his disability, he's ''definitely'' not portrayed as uniformly helpless.
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[[folder:Web Comics]]
* In ''Webcomic/SomethingPositive'' [[http://www.somethingpositive.net/sp12012004.shtml Dahlia challenged Monette]] to sit in her wheelchair for one trip (while she can use a wheelchair as a walker). Later Monette remembers Dahlia's dad used to work at a helicopter factory.
-->'''Monette:''' ... I don't know how Dahlia sat in that chair for ten years without killling someone.\\
'''Dahlia's mom:''' She did it with patience, friends and a father who helped her calculate [[RammingAlwaysWorks the proper ramming speed]] in an electric wheelchair to correct other people's assumptions.\\
'''Monette:''' No chair-mounted gun turret? And I thought [[EverythingIsBigInTexas he was a real Texan]].
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[[folder:WebOriginal]]
* At the SuperheroSchool Whateley Academy in the WhateleyUniverse, Greta is a genius inventor who is on a training team and likes to mix it up on the front lines. She's in a wheelchair, and she has real trouble getting her teammates to respect that she doesn't need to be protected constantly. In "Ayla and the Birthday Brawl" we see that some other people have spotted that this is now one of her team's big weaknesses.
* [[http://notalwayslearning.com/needs-to-be-brailled-out-of-that-class/32116 This]] story from ''[[Website/NotAlwaysRight Not Always Learning]]'' has a teacher ask a blind kid to say something in sign language (which he doesn't know) on the first day of school and proclaim him too immature to attend school when he refuses.
** Also, from the main Not Always Right site: [[http://notalwaysright.com/disabling-the-able-disabled/28389 This]] woman thinks that people in wheelchairs are totally incapable of doing anything on their own.
* Robert "Arrowstar" Schelley, a supehero from the ''GlobalGuardiansPBEMUniverse'', was paralyzed from mid-chest down in a car accident. He can breathe on his own, and has some rough control over his arms, but otherwise he's non-mobile. That is, until he's strapped into his PoweredArmor, which is effectively just a human-shaped, exo-skeletal, heavily armed and indestructible wheelchair. When he's out of his wheelchair, unfortunately, several of his teammates treat him like his injuries were to his brain and not to his spine.
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[[folder:Western Animation]]
* In the ''{{WesternAnimation/Arthur}}'' episode "Prunella Sees the Light", Prunella invites her blind friend Marina over for a [[Franchise/HarryPotter Henry Skreever]] sleepover. However, she worries that Marina may not see the decoration in her room or may get injured because she is blind. Marina doesn't like the special treatment Prunella is giving her, and Prunella learns to treat Marina just like any other friend, although we also see the tricks and methods that Marina uses in her own house, but here they are ''her'' methods and ''her'' choices.
* An episode of ''WesternAnimation/CliffordTheBigRedDog'' has a three-legged dog. Clifford and T-Bone assume the dog needs a lot of help and Cleo believes the dog has, as she put it, "some kind of leg-losing disease" and if they came into contact with him, they too would get it. At the end of the episode, the dog calls them all out on this, explaining that while he appreciates their help, he can do things himself and assuring Cleo he is not at all ill as she thinks.
* This is also why Toph's parents in ''WesternAnimation/AvatarTheLastAirbender'' kept her so sheltered that even her ''existence'' was a secret. This is a particularly interesting example because the exact opposite was true; she's ''one of the [[CuteBruiser most]] [[PintSizedPowerhouse powerful]] [[GlacierWaif characters]] in the series''. And even after finding this out, her parents put her on an even ''harder'' lockdown than before.
* This was the villain's explicitly stated intention in one episode of ''WesternAnimation/JackieChanAdventures'', when he kidnapped Uncle and cast a spell that rendered [[MonkeyMoralityPose Jackie mute, Jade deaf and Tohru blind]] so they couldn't rescue him. Needless to say, they did anyway, [[AnAesop and a lesson was learned by all.]]
* Happens in an episode of ''WesternAnimation/RocketPower''. Reggie is in a snowboarding competition with another girl she recently befriended who happens to have a metal prosthetic leg. Reggie lets her win... and gets a WhatTheHellHero from her dad and everyone else. The remainder of the episode is Reggie trying to figure out [[MustMakeAmends how to make it up to her new friend]].
* ''TheWildThornberrys'' had an episode where Eliza meets a disabled girl in a wheelchair. Eliza begins to pity her and tries to keep her from doing things that may seem too dangerous for her. The girl calls her out on this and Eliza soon realizes that she was being too overprotective and that if she ever did need help, she wouldn't be afraid to ask.
* John Callahan's ''WesternAnimation/{{Pelswick}}'' deals with this topic regularly, as nearly every adult on the show seems to believe this. The protagonist, while paraplegic, is ''far'' from helpless and generally lives a normal teenage boy's life [[AdultsAreUseless when the adults don't interfere]].
* In the WesternAnimation/AdventuresOfTheGummiBears episode "What You See is Me", after Tummi accidentally injures Grammi's leg offscreen, he starts to become too overbearing in helping her. It's only after meeting a blind woman who can perfectly handle herself does he learn that being disabled doesn't automatically mean that you're helpless.
-->'''Tummi:''' ''(Tries to stir her tea)'' Here, let me.
-->'''Grammi:''' Oh, Tummi, I can do that.
-->'''Tummi:''' But look, your an involent, incapable, helpless...
-->'''Grammi:''' I don't stir tea with my foot you know.
-->'''Tummi:''' Good thing too.
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[[folder:Real Life]]
* People with low vision who can walk without aid sometimes get this. When someone is made aware of the low vision, they will immediately go for that person's arm, as if they're incapable of standing on their own, and attempt to guide them along.
* Deaf actress Marlee Matlin once experienced the "one disability = all disabilities" part of this trope when she was on an overnight flight. The flight attendant was passing out menus for dinner, and Matlin began signing what she wanted to her interpreter. The flight attendant saw her, immediately snatched the menu away, went back to her station, and returned, proudly handing Matlin [[CrowningMomentOfFunny a menu in braille.]] Matlin [[FacePalm facepalmed.]]
* A common problem for those who are [[TheMentallyDisturbed mentally ill]] in RealLife. Mental and neurological illness can be disabling, sometimes to the point where those who suffer from it cannot work or cannot drive a vehicle, but these "disabilities," while they need support and help -- which is why people so disabled often seek financial assistance or learn to use public transportation, for example - does not make someone insane, much less violent, somehow not a capable, reasonable adult in other situations, or similar. Unfortunately, too many people assume that if, for example, someone is so depressed that they cannot work, or an epileptic unable of driving, that somehow makes them dangerous, violent, and intellectually deficient, rather than someone who ''is'' capable of unassisted daily living, relatively normal human social interaction, and so on.
* The stereotype of developmental, intellectual, and learning disabilities all gets piled into assuming ''anyone'' with those disabilities is incapable of independent adult functioning and must be treated as a small child or someone at the severest extreme of those disabilities. Almost all ''learning disabled'' people are perfectly capable of independent living as adults, though they may need assistive devices or help with, say, reading or mathematics - dyslexia and dyscalculia, for example, have no impact on intelligence itself, especially if recognized and properly compensated for. Even direct intellectual disability itself doesn't ''necessarily'' mean that someone is "stupid" or legally incompetent - it is quite possible for someone with borderline intellectual disability to be "slow but normal," in that there's really not that much difference from an IQ of 75 (that would be at the low end of "normal" but people with this IQ have gotten high school educations, have, in the absence of other disabilities been employable, etc) and one of 70 (which is considered the starting point for intellectual disability)
* The "invisible" disabilities lend themselves to a cruel irony regarding this: if someone tries to cover up invisible disability to those with no need to know, or if it is one that is only noticeable in aspects most people would not see at first glance (for example, anything from cancer to depression to HIV/AIDS could fall under this), the disabled person gets accused of either faking or lying because they're not helpless and stereotypical, or of being "too private" or similar. Unfortunately, if the person reveals that they have cancer/depression/fibromyalgia/HIV/whatever, they then get hit with ''both'' this and with speculation and stigma in regard to mental health or HIV or such.
* There is no hard rule for helping a person with a wheelchair or a scooter with a door, as they are just as different with their feelings as everyone else. Some are quite adept with opening doors on their own and prefer to do so, some ask for help. A generally safe rule is to offer to help and if they say no, then let them do it themselves.
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