->They say, "I'm sorry the house is so messy," forcing you to respond, "No, not at all; it's looking beautiful." Actually, a better response would be, "No, not at all; I enjoy a little squalor."
-->-- Creator/JohnCleese

Let's say you've written something. You know it's good[[note]]because you're such a better writer than ''me'', right?[[/note]] but you still want to attract more feedback and compliments than you'd normally get.[[note]]Although that's still more than '''I've''' ever gotten.[[/note]]
So, [[OurProductSucks you go out of your way to call attention to how bad it is]][[note]]Even though it's ''nowhere'' near as bad as ''this'' entry.[[/note]], tell everyone why they'd never want to see it, and, in extreme cases, {{wangst}} at length about how you're a miserable failure of a writer who deserves to die alone.[[note]]I wonder what that makes ''me'', then?[[/note]]

Then, just sit back and watch the sympathy and back-pats roll in. Of course, [[DismissingACompliment you can disparge the first ones as insincere to really get them rolling.]]

This is a common tactic of the ShrinkingViolet - or, at least, the writers who make her say these things. I suppose they think it's endearing. Subtle {{Attention Whore}}s (wait, what?) also love this trope, as it lets them bask in pity-praise without having to directly toot their own horn.

A SubTrope of SelfDeprecation, and the dishonest, manipulative [[SisterTrope little sister]] of [[HeroicSelfDeprecation the heroic form]].

This is a pretty common TruthInTelevision.

By the way... You don't have to bother editing this page. I know you don't really want to.

Compare ArentYouGoingToRavishMe, this trope's creepy, Freudian [[SisterTrope sister]].
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* In ''Film/MeanGirls'', Regina mentions at the Plastics' lunch table that she needs to lose a few pounds. She then stares expectedly at Gretchen and Karen, who immediately start complimenting how skinny she is.
* In ''BillAndTedsBogusJourney'', the GrimReaper of all people starts fishing for compliments, clearly jealous of the praise B&T are heaping on Station, the Martian genius. At one point Death thoroughly {{Squick}}s the boys by trying to get them to compliment his ass.

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* ''FatherTed'': Mrs Doyle tells Ted his voice is gorgeous, and he plays it down, clearly loving it. When she asks him to sing something else and he obliges with ''Paris In The Spring'', it backfires when she suddenly decides his version was "catastrophic".
* ''InTheLoop'': Karen Clark jokes to Chad "you might be Secretary of State one day, young man!" Chad doesn't realise it's a joke and says "Don't say that if you don't mean it."
* In the ''{{Friends}}'' episode "The One With Joey's New Girlfriend", Chandler confesses to the other friends that he has feelings for Kathy, and caps it off with, "I'm a horrible person." He then looks at the others expectantly, and upon getting no reaction, adds, "No, you're not, Chandler, we still love you, Chandler".
* In the ''Series/{{Community}}'' episode "Abed's Uncontrollable Christmas", the study group are debating why Abed has chosen to give them certain toy characters in his Christmas fantasy dreamworld. Annie, who has been made a clockwork ballerina, suggests that he's just given them random characters, coyly adding that "it's not like I'm ''that'' thin and graceful... right?" Much to her dismay, Britta caustically suggests that she's instead been given that role because she's "fragile and tightly wound."

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* ''Literature/MostlyHarmless'': Arthur Dent's "[[ThinkNothingOfIT It was nothing really]]" doesn't get the reaction he had been expecting from Zaphod Beeblebrox.
* In SquidsWillBeSquids, one of the fables has pigeon doing that. She gets eaten, but really, she had it coming.
* "Mary Jane she set at the head of the table, with Susan alongside of her, and said how bad the biscuits was and how ornery and tough the fried chicken was-and all that kind of rot, the way women always do for the force out compliments..." -- ''HuckleberryFinn''
* ''Literature/TheJoyLuckClub'': A girl brings her oh-so-very American fiance home to meet her oh-so-very Chinese family. She forgot to brief him on the Chinese-mother tactic of bringing out their best dish garnished with lots of self-depreciation. He protests that her dish is delicious...
--> Fiance: "It just needs a little sauce!" [Pours soy sauce all over the dish]
--> Family: [Appalled silence]
* In ''Literature/AChristmasCarol'', Mrs. Cratchit is terribly nervous that her Christmas pudding won't be good enough, but her family tells her it's wonderful.
* The ''Series/DoctorWho'' Literature/EighthDoctorAdventures novel ''Vanishing Point'' features a scene where a [[UglyCute deformed-but-still-attractive]] [[TheIngenue Ingenue]] has a heart-to-heart with Fitz, the Doctor's companion and a ChivalrousPervert. He accuses her of doing this, but she seems to genuinely mean what she's saying about herself:
-->'No one would wish to. I am deformed. I am ugly.'
-->'Are you fishing, here, by any chance?'
-->She laughed at him. 'Fishing?'
-->'For compliments, I mean,' Fitz said. 'Look, Vettul, if it helps, you're not ugly... I mean, you're...' He felt himself growing flustered.

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* Blanche tries this on Stanley in ''AStreetcarNamedDesire''. [[BrutalHonesty It doesn't work]], though he's not outright rude about it, either: "Your looks are okay."

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* In the WebAnimation/{{Jaltoid}} video [[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mJ6jKCWIoYc "I'm Ugly"]], the main character posts a picture of herself on Website/{{Facebook}} along with comments that she's ''so'' ugly in hopes that people will correct her. It works well enough until she decides to deny one person's compliment. Then he concedes to her that she's ugly because she said so herself and he doesn't want to argue, at which point [[DisproportionateRetribution she tries to get him arrested as a "perverted pedophile cyber-bully."]]
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