->''"You're a great actress, Satine. Hurt him. Hurt him to save him."''
-->-- '''Harold Zidler''', ''Film/MoulinRouge''

So, you've got someone you deeply care about, and who cares just as much about you. However, you know the two of you cannot stay together: being near you, or just the fact that he loves you is putting him at risk. You tried telling him, "ItsNotYouItsMyEnemies", but it didn't work--he knows he'll be in danger, and he's okay with that.

But you're not. So, you lie to him. You pretend to be mean, callous, and completely disrespectful of his feelings. You say you never loved him. [[PleaseDumpMe You do everything you can to make him hate you]], because you know that's the only way he'll stay away from you and, in turn, from danger: you have to [[TitleDrop break his heart to save him]].

The human version of ShooTheDog, quite possibly the most extreme manifestation of IWantMyBelovedToBeHappy; this is when a character does ostensibly hurtful things to their beloved because they know it's the only way to protect them from some sort of even greater harm. CruelToBeKind is the supertrope. See also BreakUpToMakeUp. Can lead to a character regretting taking an action that they now believe WasTooHardOnHim. Note that when this trope is done poorly, it will often collide with the IdiotBall if there's an obvious solution to the problem that does ''not'' require such a drastic step or your deprivation of key information is actually going to put that person in greater danger than being honest would have. In particular, it's likely to backfire spectacularly when the pain of the breakup just drives the other person to do exactly the thing you needed them ''not'' to do (and especially if you skipped the "ItsNotYouItsMyEnemies" step).

Unsurprisingly, while it usually works temporarily, in many cases, [[SecondActBreakup it doesn't hold up]] [[YoYoPlotPoint for very long]].

Compare InspirationalInsult. A sub-trope of JerkassFacade.


[[folder:Anime and Manga]]
* ''LightNovel/AiNoKusabi''. [[spoiler:Guy has just "saved" Riki by kidnapping him back from Iason whom had been keeping Riki as a SexSlave. He now wants Riki to confess his true feelings about him. Instead Riki tells Guy they can't ever be together again because of Iason's Pet Ring on him to deter Guy away since Iason had threatened to {{Brainwash}} Guy beforehand. Guy completely misunderstands and makes matters even worse]].
* In ''Anime/CastleInTheSky'', Sheeta makes a deal with Muska to let Pazu go free. It involves telling Pazu to return to his home town and forget about her, which he reluctantly does. Fortunately the SkyPirate Ma Dola points out to Pazu that [[YouHaveOutlivedYourUsefulness Muska will undoubtably dispose of Sheeta once he finds Laputa]] so Pazu joins with her gang to get her back.
* ''Anime/CodeGeass'': [[spoiler:Lelouch does this a couple of times to Kallen in R2. In the first instance, he pretends that he was merely using Kallen as a pawn to drive her away, when in reality he was trying to save her from being killed by the rebelling Black Knights. He betrays his intentions with a soft, barely audible, "Live on, Kallen." In the second instance, when Kallen confronts the newly-crowned Emperor Lelouch about his parting sentence and kisses him, he feigns a lack of emotion to again drive her away and make sure that when he dies as part of his planned Zero Requiem, Kallen will not die with him]].
** [[spoiler:Ironically, she caught on as she saw the Requiem in action, but by that point there was nothing she could do except watch and let it unfold.]]
** C. C. abandoned Mao with this in mind when she felt he was becoming too obsessed with her. It ended up backfiring big time, when Mao went insane due to his [[PowerIncontinence Geass incontinence]].
** Lelouch also does it to [[spoiler:Nunnally when she asks if everything he did was for her.]] Though granted [[spoiler:she was also with Cornelia and Schneizel so it's not like he could have answered it truthfully anyway.]]
* Miaka tries doing this to Tamahome in ''FushigiYuugi'' because, as she found out, as the [[VirginPower priestess of Suzaku]] she cannot be involved with her bodyguard. Later on, Tamahome in turns tries this on Miaka [[spoiler:when he finds out that she will never be allowed to stay in the book, even if she wishes it to Suzaku]].
* In ''Manga/{{Gintama}}'', Hijikata knows that his life choices involve a lot of danger and will probably kill him. So he rejects Mitsuba (Okita's sister) to spare her that grief and give her the opportunity to find happiness with someone else.
* ''Manga/HaouAiren'': Once Kurumi's StockholmSyndrome sets in, Hakuron tries this technique on her a lot because he realizes that his enemies will do horrible things to her if he appears to care for her. He even goes so far as to make her be Fuuron's mistress instead of his own. It doesn't work very well.
* In a [[ExaggeratedTrope particularly extreme example]], Chikane's [[spoiler:rape]] of Himeko in ''Manga/KannazukiNoMiko''.
* ''Anime/{{Kiznaiver}}'': This trope is invoked twice in separated occasions, by Nico and Tenga. Both of them believe that the best way to deal with the fact that you have an UnrequitedLove for someone is to properly declare your feelings and then, be properly dumped, no matter how painful that is. It'll hurt, but it'll also help both to move on from that.
* One that ends disastrously in ''LightNovel/TheLunacyOfDukeVenomania'': Gumina pretends to be disgusted with her friend Cherubim because [[spoiler:her betrothed, Cherubim's brother, thinks they're in love (which they are) and was planning to kill him]]. Cherubim thinks that it's genuine hatred, and in response [[spoiler:slaughters his entire family, makes a DealWithTheDevil to charm every woman he wants in order to get her back, becomes the titular Duke and goes slowly insane with lust before being murdered by the lover of one of his victims.]]
* A particularly weird example happens in a filler arc of ''Manga/{{Narutaru}}''. A boy who's in a coma but can still use his Dragon uses it to impersonate a friend and tell his young aunt that neither of them ever really liked her. His reasoning is that it'll help her overcome her incestuous crush on him and find new friends as well as soften the blow when he fakes his death to go into the sea with his Dragon and become one of the Virgins.
* This is what [[spoiler:Sakura]] from ''Manga/{{Naruto}}'' truly meant when she [[spoiler:gave the infamous false LoveConfession to Naruto, hoping that he wouldn't keep hurting himself for her and Sasuke]]. It really didn't work how she wanted it to.
** Years later, Hinata reluctantly decides to do this to Naruto in ''Anime/TheLastNarutoTheMovie'' [[spoiler: by rejecting his LoveConfession and accepting BigBad Toneri's marriage proposal so she could have a chance at saving her sister and the whole world.]] This time it works, albeit with a few bumps, and she almost immediately apologized to Naruto for it when he come to save her.
* In the shoujo manga ''The One'', the male lead [[spoiler:seems to attempt to rape the female lead, who's explicitly told him that she has a crush on him, in order to protect her from being followed and perhaps harmed, either physically or in terms of her career as a model being ruined, by the minions of a very powerful person who is out to get his brother and him, by misleading the stalkers into thinking that he has no feelings at all for the female lead. Yes, it's convoluted]].
* Ace attempts to do this for Luffy in ''Manga/OnePiece'' as Luffy plunges headfirst into the battle at Marineford and is attacked on all sides by the [[PsychoForHire Shichibukai]] and [[AuthorityEqualsAsskicking Marine officers]] in an attempt to [[spoiler:[[RescueArc rescue Ace from his execution]]]]. Ace shouts for Luffy to go away, stating that they have their own crews and Luffy is under no obligation to rescue him. He even states that it would be "humiliating" to be saved by a "weakling" like Luffy, all the while silently begging for Luffy not to involve himself in Ace's mistake. [[IdiotHero Luffy]] of course just ignores this and [[CrowningMomentOfHeartwarming shouts that he's Ace's little brother and promises to save Ace even if it killed him.]] Awww.
** There are earlier instances of this before that, such as when Nami had returned to Arlong Park, trying to act coldly to the then forming Straw Hats in order to keep them from Arlong's wrath. (Going as far as pretending to stab Usopp in front of Arlong). It doesn't work of course and in fact, against all odds, they end up ''beating'' Arlong and his crew.
** In Chopper's flashback, his father figure Hiriluk does this to spare Chopper from seeing him slowly die from an incurable disease. Chopper later follows Hiruluk and learns the truth, but his attempt to save him only hastens his death.
** And later in the series during Robin's flashback, [[spoiler:her mother Olvia]] tries to do this to spare her from the World Government, but she can't deny Robin's pleas to her and breaks down. In that same arc, Robin does this herself to the Straw Hats to protect them from the World Government. They respond by ''declaring war on the World Government'', showing that they didn't care about what she had done, and that they were willing to do anything to get her back, because they loved her.
* ''Manga/OniisamaE'': While Kaoru isn't a jerk to begin with, [[spoiler:she does this to Takehiko after she shows him her scars from her mastectomy as a result of [[IllGirl breast cancer]] because she [[DontYouDarePityMe doesn't want him to suffer for her illness]]. They make it up years later and they eventually got married (in the manga, she dies from her illness a few years later and in the anime, they had a child)]].
* In ''Anime/SailorMoon R'', when Mamoru starts to have horrifying images about the future where Usagi is in grave danger if they stay together, so he decides to break up with her to protect her. Usagi doesn't take it so well at first since Mamoru refuses to give her at least an explanation as to why they shouldn't stay together, and Mamoru can barely keep up the facade of not liking her since he can still assist her and the other Senshi in fights against Droids. Not shockingly considering the themes of this show, it doesn't stick when Usagi eventually figures it all out and Mamoru finally can't keep up the charade anymore. The real kicker? The visions were actually being sent by his future self, who set up the scenario to ensure the two had a love that was strong enough to withstand the trials ahead.
** A much lighter version is done in [[Manga/SailorMoon the manga]], when Mamoru gets sick. While he isn't cruel, he still rebuffs her attempts to comfort him and bring him food and medicine, repeatedly driving her away and causing her to feel hurt and lonely. The real reason he keeps doing it is because he knows that there's something unnatural about his disease, and he's afraid that she'll catch it if she goes near him. It turns out that he's right on both counts. The disease is basically caused by an evil power and Usagi does eventually catch it, but doesn't care because she'd rather stay close to him.
* In ''Manga/TheWorldGodOnlyKnows'', Keima was forced to resort to this [[spoiler: during his date with Chihiro, when he realizes that she does not contain one of the Jupiter Sisters. The fact that he was not used to [[TheGenericGuy generic character types]] like her, and that he needs to protect his previous "capture targets" from a looming threat, made him push through with this trope in the worst possible way.]]

[[folder:Comic Books]]
* This was common in Silver Age Franchise/{{Superman}} and Franchise/{{Batman}} comics, usually to explain plot twists that would otherwise make the characters out to be total jerks.
** In "The Batman Plays a Lone Hand", Bruce tells Dick that he's becoming too much of a bother and he cannot remain ComicBook/{{Robin}} any longer. At the story's conclusion, he confesses that it was all a trick to protect him. A gangster named The Thumb warned Bats to keep his nose out of his business or his gang would shoot Robin on sight. To keep his [[KidSidekick young sidekick]] safe and catch the crooks, he momentarily tried to put him out of action.
* The [[http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mall_Rats_(Gold_Digger) Mall Rats]] in the ''ComicBook/GoldDigger'' miniseries ''Throne of Shadows''. Lydia [=McKracken=] sends away her friends Moisha Rich and Romeo Ellis by insulting them. She knows that as Gothwrain's heir she's the target of every criminal overlord on the planet, and that her friends are as doomed as she is if they stay with her.
* When [[TheNewTeenTitans Raven]] turned down Beast Boy, he asked if she was doing this. She denied it. He... [[SarcasmMode took it well]].
* An odd variation from John Byrne's run on the ''ComicBook/FantasticFour''; when [[BarrierWarrior Sue Richards]] was being mind-controlled by Psycho-Man into becoming the murderous Malice, Reed was able to free her from Psycho-Man's control by berating her (and even slapping her across the face) in order to make her hate him, however briefly.
* In ''ComicBook/FiftyTwo'' [[WesternAnimation/BatmanTheAnimatedSeries Renee]] [[ComicBook/GothamCentral Montoya]] has gone to an ex-girlfriend, Katherine "Kate" Kane, for information on an abandoned property that her family might own. When Kate reveals that her family ''does'' own the property, and gives Renee the name of its last occupant, she demands to know what this is about and why Renee needs this information, explaining that Renee at least owes her an explanation. Renee, however, explains that this situation has nothing to do with her and she does not owe Kate ''anything''. Kate is visibly crushed, but Renee's narration reveals that, if ComicBook/TheQuestion's theories are correct and Intergang is behind everything, it is not just themselves who are in trouble, but all their friends and loved ones as well. Renee does not want to drag Kate into this. However, unknown to Renee, [[ComicBook/{{Batwoman}} Kate has her interests in the game]].
* In the ''ComicBook/NinjaHighSchool: Shidoshi'' series, Tetsuo goes against his grandfather in hopes of becoming the clan leader and getting out of an arranged marriage so he can marry his true sweetheart, Nanashi. However his grandfather is too strong and, realizing that he'll kill Nanashi if he continues to defy him, Tetsuo puts on a jerkass performance in order to drive Nanashi away and keep her safe.
* In ''ComicBook/{{Runaways}}'', Chase tells Gertrude that sometimes it's necessary to lie to someone a person loves, in order to protect them. She keeps this in mind later, when Chase is in danger of being sacrificed by [[spoiler:the past self of Geoffrey Wilder]]. She pretends to hate Chase for [[spoiler:kissing Nico]], and tells [[spoiler:Wilder]] exactly how much of a scumbag she thinks Chase is. [[spoiler:When she's dying from a knife wound, she is able to tell Chase that she still loved him and lied about him being a bad person]].
* In ''Comicbook/ActionComics'' #317, Comicbook/{{Supergirl}} thinks her friend Lena's boyfriend is an enemy spy so she sets out to break them up and save Lena from a future heartbreak, even if she ruins their friendship.

[[folder:Fan Works]]
* In Volume IV of ''Fanfic/ThePrivateDiaryOfElizabethQuatermain'', Elizabeth is blackmailed into marrying the villain, [[VillainWithGoodPublicity Ben Everett]]. If she didn't go through with it and put on the happy bride act, he would have her surrogate brother Tom killed and have [[spoiler:Skinner, who loves her but CannotSpitItOut,]] framed for it. Unfortunately for the villain, the rest of Elizabeth's TrueCompanions figure out what's up.
* In ''FanFic/FeverDreams'' Light ''attempts'' to do this with Misa (not because he cares for her, but because Rem is making him protect her) and then Misa says something incriminating and now Light has to [[WeNeedADistraction create a distraction]] for the investigators. HilarityEnsues:
-->'''Light:''' Misa, [[SlashFic I admit I've been having sex with Ryuzaki]], but it's only because he's so much better looking than you.
-->'''Misa:''' What!
-->'''Light:''' Well, to begin with you're too skinny. You should put on some weight. Also, you shouldn't dye your hair. And I hate the gothic lolita style. You should wear regular clothing, like Ryuzaki does. There's nothing wrong with a t-shirt and jeans.
-->'''Misa:''' But he's a guy! That's disgusting. And he looks horrible. I don't think he even brushes his hair... It can't be. Why would you do this? Light, how do I stop you from seeing him? Is he blackmailing you?
-->'''Light:''' Misa, I'm not breaking up with you. I can't resist Ryuzaki because I have very exact sexual requirements that he meets, but there is no need for us to stop dating because of this.
-->'''Misa:''' You'll leave him?
-->'''Light:''' No, Misa. I told you I can't resist him. The real reason I couldn't leave headquarters is because he always wants to have sex and I give in every time. We're almost constantly doing it. It started before I ever met you. We had sex while we were going to college together. That first night I met you, when you came to my home, and I kissed you, I was thinking about fucking him while we kissed.
-->'''Misa:''' Light! Light!
-->'''Light:''' But we don't need to break up, Misa. Let me talk to him. We've had threesomes before, so maybe he'd be willing to let you join in, if I phrased it just right. However, you definitely have to gain some weight first. You don't turn me on at all the way you are now.
-->'''Misa:''' Threesomes! Threesomes!
-->'''Rem:''' Light, you're tormenting her!
-->'''Light:''' Yes, Misa. Matsuda has joined us quite a number of times, and a few other people as well on rare occasions. In fact, I think this would work best if you seduced Matsuda, and then I introduced the idea to Ryuzaki. Yes, why don't you gain a little weight, and seduce Matsuda, and then after that I'm sure Ryuzaki won't object to you joining us. We'll all become a nice stable foursome. You want me to be happy, don't you, Misa? This will make me very happy, and you'll be able to have sex with me that way.
-->'''Rem:''' Light Yagami, you're giving Ryuk more time, aren't you? This is... necessary.
-->'''Light:''' Misa, don't worry. Soon everything will be good. Just seduce Matsuda for me, okay? And, one more thing I just thought of. I've never been in anything bigger than a foursome. I'd really like it if you could seduce one of the girls from your modeling agency and bring her along too. Any of them would work. They're all more attractive than you are.
* In ''Franchise/MassEffect'''s ''[[Fanfic/WeightlessMassEffect Weightless]]'', Shepard decided to push Garrus away because she thought if she let him love her, she would lose him to death. Her fear of ruining his life, combining with Nihlus and Kaidan's death beforehand also cemented this decision of hers.
* In the ''VideoGame/{{Touhou}}'' Doujin ''[[http://danbooru.donmai.us/pool/show/405 Alice and Yuuka at Marisa's grave]]'' it's implied that the reason why Yuuka tells Alice that [[spoiler:she [[MurderTheHypotenuse killed Marisa out of jealousy]], and subsequently [[NearRapeExperience almost rapes her]]]] was that she wanted to [[spoiler:snap Alice out of her depression]], even at the cost of being hated and remembered as a monster by Alice for the rest of her life. Whether this is true or not (or even if she [[spoiler:actually killed Marisa out of jealousy and not by accident]]) is left ambiguous.
* ''FanFic/RWBYReckoning'' has a unique variant: [[BoisterousBruiser Yang]] is blackmailed into doing this to [[AuthorAvatar Darrel]] by [[TheBully Cardin]], otherwise, he goes after Ruby and Darrel. It's clear she doesn't want to do it, but she doesn't want Ruby and Darrel hurt either. Thankfully, Cardin gets his just desserts.
* Notably averted in the ''{{WesternAnimation/Beetlejuice}}'' story ''[[https://www.fanfiction.net/s/4811432/1/Worth-of-a-Soul Worth of a Soul]]'' when [[Main/PrinceCharming Prince Vince]] tells [[Main/JerkWithaHeartofGold Beetlejuice]] that he should break up with Lydia since he's always getting her into trouble, not to mention almost getting her killed as an indirect consequence of his actions during a recent altercation. To put it simply, she's just too good for him, and if he really loves her he should let her go and allow her to move on to [[Main/AscendtoaHigherPlaneofExistence bigger]] and [[Main/HappilyEverAfter better]] things. Beetlejuice responds that he ''knows'' she's too good for him, and that's why he'll never stop pursuing her.
-->"Look, I don't know the way you read it in those sappy romance books, kid... But someone's too good for you, and loves your ass anyway? You ''don't'' fucking let them go."
* In another ''WesternAnimation/{{Beetlejuice}}'' story, ''FanFic/{{Cinderjuice}}'', BJ tries this in order to get Lydia to go back home because [[spoiler:she has what the villains are after, and [[BroughtDownToNormal he can't protect her]].]]
* In ''Webcomic/{{Guardian}}'', a ''VideoGame/FinalFantasyX'' fancomic, Lulu joins Zuke's pilgrimage even though (in this story) summoners are not allowed to journey together, which means leaving Yuna behind. Lulu knows it will upset her, but she'd rather leave and possibly die than have Yuna die on a pilgrimage of her own.
* Cause of several of the disasters in ''But You Alone'', a [[Literature/HarryPotter Hermione/Snape story]], in which Severus repeatedly (and at one point, violently) tries to convince Hermione that he doesn't care about her, in order to protect her relationship with Harry (and her life). [[spoiler:They eventually reconcile, only to die together. The entire situation really was doomed from the start.]]

[[folder:Film - Animated]]
* Johnny does this in ''WesternAnimation/HotelTransylvania'' to Mavey, at the behest of [[OverProtectiveDad her father]].
* In ''Disney/WreckItRalph'', King Candy convinces Ralph that allowing Vanellope to participate in the ''Sugar Rush'' races can put the game out of commission--and since Vanellope cannot leave the game, it will kill her. Ralph proceeds to [[spoiler:destroy Vanellope's kart to prevent her from ever racing again, despite it being her dream for her entire existence. King Candy was ultimately shown to be a liar, though: not only had he reprogrammed the game to make himself the star player when she in fact was the original ruler, but having a glitch-teleport in a kart racer game makes her the most popular character in it.]]
* ''WesternAnimation/ShrekTheThird'': Shrek tells Artie that he was only ''pretending'' to like a loser like him, so he'll stomp off in a huff rather than [[spoiler:be killed by Charming as one of the ogre's allies, who point this out as he leaves]].
* Silver claims he was trying to do this to save Jim in ''Disney/TreasurePlanet'' when his crew start questioning his loyalty.
* In ''Disney/{{Frozen}}'', Elsa keeps as much physical and emotional distance from her little sister Anna as possible. She does this to avoid harming Anna with her ice powers, like she did accidentally when they were little. [[spoiler:Unfortunately, Anna doesn't know this because her memories had to be altered to survive the initial curse. When Elsa runs away, Anna goes after her anyway, believing that Elsa won't hurt her. Three guesses as to what happens when Anna finally catches up to her]].

[[folder:Film - Live-Action]]
* The TropeNamer is ''Film/MoulinRouge'', when Zidler tells Satine she has to drive Christian away so that the Duke won't kill him out of jealousy.
* In ''Film/TheAdjustmentBureau'' David Norris does this to Elise. [[spoiler: After hearing from Thompson that if he stays with her, she won't become a world famous dancer, he leaves her without explanation in the hospital]].
* In ''Literature/DangerousLiaisons'', The Vicomte does this to Madame De'Tourvel, but not to protect her--he did it at the order of the Marquise.
* In the FilmOfTheBook ''Day Of The Dolphin'', Dr. Terrell has taught several dolphins to speak English, and has come to love them as if they were his own children. At the end of the movie the evil government representatives are coming to take them away. He has to tell the dolphins that he doesn't love them any more to get them to leave him, so they can be safe. A real TearJerker moment.
* Seen in ''Film/HarryAndTheHendersons'' when John Lithgow not only says mean things to their Sasquatch friend, but also punches him.
* Will Ferrell's character does this to his love interest in ''Film/LandOfTheLost''.
* In ''Theatre/AManForAllSeasons'', Thomas More is in serious trouble with the King, and his friend the Duke of Norfolk is feeling the heat. More can't convince Norfolk to break off their friendship, so instead, he attacks him verbally until Norfolk actually lashes out. It pains More terribly to do this, but it works: his friend stays away from him after that and is spared the King's wrath.
* Hartigan does this indirectly to Nancy at the end of ''[[ComicBook/SinCity That Yellow Bastard]]''--he doesn't break her heart upfront, but lies to her and kills himself afterward. If he had stayed with her, Senator Roark would have most likely attacked Nancy to get revenge on him.
* Harry Osborn forces Mary Jane to break up with Peter to save him in ''Film/SpiderMan3''.
* In ''Film/TheAmazingSpiderMan'', [[spoiler:Gwen Stacy's father makes Peter promise to break it off with Gwen as his LastRequest. Peter does so, but Gwen quickly figures out that her father put him up to this. Peter later hints that he might not be able to keep the promise]].
* There was an interesting variation in ''Film/EverAfter''. Danielle attempts to explain her true identity to Henry, but he doesn't really give her the chance. Later, his mother explains that "Nicole" is engaged to a Belgian, which is what Danielle's stepmother has told her, and he thinks that what she was really trying to tell him was goodbye.
* In ''Film/TheDarkKnightRises'' Alfred reveals Rachel's true choice in ''Film/TheDarkKnight'' [[spoiler:before her death]] in an effort to force Bruce to move on with his life without Batman. Alfred acknowledges this will likely earn him Bruce's hatred but that doesn't matter to him as there's a chance it could save his life.
* In the theatrical cut of ''Film/TheButterflyEffect,'' [[spoiler:Evan finally decides that the best course of action is to go back to where he and Kayleigh first meet and be mean to her, so she never befriends him, moves away with her mother and avoids the sexual abuse by her father which ultimately leads to her suicide]].
* At the end of ''Film/{{Candy}}'', Dan gives up on Candy because he knows that if they stay together, he's going to drag her back into addiction.
* ''Film/StellaDallas'': Stella decided that Laurel should live with Stephen and Helen, because they are fancy society folks--and because, for some reason, Stella is unable to do basic things like stop dressing like a hooker. But she knows that Laurel will never leave her mother. So she pretends that she doesn't care about Laurel and tells Laurel that she's tired of being a mother and is going to marry Ed and have good times. Stella breaks down crying after a distraught Laurel leaves for good.
* ''Film/{{Robocop 2}}''. Worried over a lawsuit from his distraught 'widow', OCP lawyers convince Alex Murphy to cut all ties with his family, pointing out he could never be a proper husband and father to them.
-->'''Ellen Murphy:''' [sees Robocop without his helmet] Alex, is it really you?
-->'''[=RoboCop:=]''' [gets up and walks to her, [[SeparatedByTheWall mesh metal fence separating them]]]
-->'''Ellen Murphy:''' [crying] Don't you remember me? Whatever they've done to you... whatever has happened, we can work it out... start again...
-->'''[=RoboCop:=]''' [leans forward] Touch me.
-->'''Ellen Murphy:''' [she touches his lip, downhearted] It's cold.
-->'''[=RoboCop:=]''' They made this to honor him.
-->'''Ellen Murphy:''' [crying] No...
-->'''[=RoboCop:=]''' Your husband is dead. [walking away] I don't know you.
* In ''Film/{{Keith}}'', [[spoiler:Keith does this after Natalie learns that he's dying, knowing that she's fallen hard for him. He dishes out his most scathing insults, claiming that he planned everything that happened between them as a final act of spite. The trope is subverted, however, as Natalie sees right through his ploy, refuses to let him have the last word, and insists on making him admit what he really feels. He finally confesses that he's fallen for her too, and that he couldn't admit it because he had already resigned himself to his imminent death]].
* Baloo from ''Film/TheJungleBook2016'' is convinced by Bagheera to persuade Mowgli to go back to the man-village or else Shere Khan will kill him. So he walks up to Mowgli and tells him to scram, saying that they were never friends and Baloo doesn't want him around. When Mowgli storms off, Baloo looks and feels very guilty of what he had to do.
-->'''Baloo''': Well, I did it. And that's about the hardest thing I ever had to do.
-->'''Bagheera''': ''[solemnly]'' I know.
* In the [[UsefulNotes/ThePreCodeEra pre-code]] film, ''Film/MidnightMary'', Mary wants to save Tom from being implicated with her crimes, so she lies to him, saying that she was taking him for a ride and how he's a sucker for falling for her line.

* ''Literature/APrayerForOwenMeany'': Anticipating his death, Owen does this to Hester towards the end of his life. Unfortunately, after his death, Hester life spirals into wild abandon.
* Creator/RobinHobb has a variation in her ''[[Literature/RealmOfTheElderlings Farseer]]'' trilogy: it's not an active lie, but the protagonist decides not to reveal the fact that he is still alive.
* Vanyel does it to Stefan in the ''[[Literature/HeraldsOfValdemar Last Herald Mage]]'' series by Mercedes Lackey, believing (rightfully) that Stefan will be targeted by Vanyel's powerful Mage enemies. It doesn't work.
* Richard and Kahlan from ''Literature/TheSwordOfTruth'' series when Kahlan tells him she doesn't love him in order to save his life by forcing him to leave with a priestess of the light, Verna. Later on, Richard breaks out of his depression when he does the same thing to his pet Gratch and realizes Kahlan was doing the whole thing for Richard's sake.
* Edward attempts this in ''[[Literature/{{Twilight}} New Moon]]'', because he feels that he's put Bella in too much danger. Bella responds by having a HeroicBSOD ''[[{{Narm}} for four months]]''.
** Bella also does this to her father to some extent, shouting at him and basically [[TheReasonYouSuckSpeech calling him a loser in every way]]. She does it so she can justify her flight from the "evil" vampires and in order to protect him. To twist the knife further, she uses the same words her mother used when she left him.
* Done by Ella to Charmont in ''Literature/EllaEnchanted'' so that Hattie and Mum Olga won't be able to take advantage of the marriage. Of course, once she breaks the curse she un-breaks his heart by proposing to him instead.
* This trope shows up a number of times throughout J.R.Ward's ''Literature/BlackDaggerBrotherhood'' series. Example: [[spoiler:Rehvenge revealing his life as a coldblooded drug-dealer/pimp to his LoveInterest Ehlena in order to drive her away so she wouldn't find out he's half ''[[TheSociopath sympath]]'' and, worse still, marked for torture and certain death. Thankfully, she saw through the act eventually and helped to [[EarnYourHappyEnding save him]]]].
** Another example occurs in ''Lover Enshrined'', wherein [[spoiler:Qhuinn]] is basically marked for death after [[spoiler:cutting open his cousin, Lash's, throat]] so [[spoiler:he]] plans to go underground. On the way [[spoiler:he's]] caught by [[spoiler:his best friend Blay, who says he'll never abandon Qhuinn. Qhuinn resorts to outing his buddy and confronting Blay about [[LongingLook watching him]], making it sound as though he's disgusted by his friend]]. A TearJerker moment, to say the least. [[spoiler:Like Rehv's ploy, this is thankfully seen through and at least partially resolved after awhile, leaving the two on friendly terms again, albeit NothingIsTheSameAnymore thanks to newfound [[UnresolvedSexualTension UST]]]].
* In ''Franchise/{{Mistborn}}'', [[NonActionGuy Elend]] does this with [[ActionGirl Vin]], and then [[spoiler:promptly saves him from an assassination team]].
* ''Literature/SweetValleyHigh'': Steven's girlfriend Tricia begins acting distant towards him. He concludes that she's seeing someone else and confronts her with this. When she doesn't deny it, he dumps her. Little did he know that she was dying of leukemia and, of course, was pushing him away so as to spare him the pain of watching her suffer.
* In the ''Literature/WildCards'' books, Tom Tudbury, The Great and Powerful Turtle's SecretIdentity, had a girlfriend that he loved a lot. But she had a dormant form of the wild card virus, meaning that any children they had would get ''at best'' a one-in-ten shot at survival (since he, unbeknownst to her, had the virus). He knew that she really wanted kids, so he manufactured a big fight that led to them breaking up but remaining friends so that she could find happiness with someone else (even though it was ''killing'' him to do so).
* Toyed with in ''The Truth-teller's Tale''. In order to save Roelyn, both the twins say things they know will stay her father's hand, but break their friend's heart. Eleda, who cannot lie, says Roelyn will marry, not the man she loves, but the Prince. Adele, the secret keeper, reveals that she saw the love interest secretly wed the previous day. It works, and Roelyn's father frees his daughter...[[spoiler: Only to reveal that Roelyn was the one wed to the love interest, and that the love interest was keeping his identity as prince a secret]]
* In ''Literature/DanceOfDeath'', D'Agosta, under [[Literature/AgentPendergast Pendergast]]'s advice, ends his blossoming relationship with Laura Hayward when he begins investigating Pendergast's brother Diogenes, in order to protect her from becoming a potential target. The kicker to that? [[spoiler:As it turns out, she personally isn't in any danger, as Diogenes is framing his brother for murder and is tricking her into arresting him, meaning he needs her alive]].
* A young adult series called ''Haunting With Louisa'' featured a modern girl named Dee who moves into an old inn with her after her mother died and discovered the inn was haunted by the ghost of a girl named Louisa who had died in the 1880s. Dee soon considers Louisa her best friend and does all she can to help her reunite with the spirits of her family. Louisa also thinks of Dee as a friend, but is worried that it isn't healthy for Dee to spend all her time hanging out with a dead girl. Eventually, Louisa tells Dee that as a ghost, she wants to enjoy her special powers rather than be friends with a [[{{Muggle}} worthless mortal]] and disappears, hoping that this will force Dee to make some mortal friends and move on with her life. [[spoiler:The plan seriously backfires when Dee decides that Louisa's disappearance means something horrible has happened to her, and Dee nearly gets herself killed trying to find her]].
%% * [[spoiler:Lena]] tries to do this for [[spoiler:Ethan]] in ''[[Literature/TheCasterChronicles Beautiful Darkness]]''.
* In the ''Literature/MalazanBookOfTheFallen'' Apsalar tries this to keep Cutter from following her further down the road of becoming a murderer for hire and possibly getting himself killed in the process. So she just up and leaves, prompting him to go on a journey seeking for her that proves to be much more dangerous.
* Alix does this twice in the first two books of the Samuel Carver series, first in ''Literature/TheAccidentMan'' and then in ''Literature/TheSurvivor''. She genuinely loves Carver, but keeps winding up in situations where she needs to pretend otherwise to save his life, and she's too good of an actress.
* In Robert Jordan's ''Literature/WheelOfTime'' series, the protagonist Rand al'Thor tries to pull a platonic version of this with his friends Mat, Perrin, and Loial, to get them to leave so they will be safe should the Red Ajah or the Dark One come hunting him (or he just plain goes crazy from channeling the tainted male half of the One Power). It doesn't work (and in fact his ex-girlfiend Egwene [[WhatTheHellHero completely calls him on it]]), but the end result is Mat resenting him and wanting nothing to do with him for at least half the series, a bad development when Rand really ends up needing him later.
* ''Literature/TheRiddleMasterTrilogy'': [[spoiler:Deth to Morgon, multiple times. Unusually for this trope, it's actually relatively effective.]]

[[folder:Live-Action TV]]
* ''Series/ArrestedDevelopment'': Parodied in an episode with GOB driving away George Michael for similar reasons, and again in Rita's first appearance, where Michael utterly misinterprets her statement "I'll make you blue."
* ''Series/{{Angel}}'': in the episode "Double or Nothing", Gunn is doomed to a [[YouCantFightFate fate]] that will destroy his relationship with Fred, so he dumps her as cruelly as he can. She quickly runs crying to Angel--not because of what he said, but because she knew what he's doing and realizes that he's in real trouble. Fred later makes him apologize for handling the problem that way.
* ''Series/BuffyTheVampireSlayer'': Angel does this, though, interestingly enough, he is more concerned about the long-term implications of [[MayflyDecemberRomance their relationship]], rather than the [[LegionsOfHell immediate danger]] they face [[BattleCouple on a daily basis]].
** Likewise, Giles in Season 6 (in a platonic love version of this trope) leaves Buffy to force her to become independent.
* ''Series/BeingHumanUK'': In the third series finale, Mitchell insults George and tells him their friendship was simply emotional manipulation to try and convince George to [[spoiler:kill him]]. George figures out what he's doing and tells him as much.
** Later, Tom tries to do it to Allie, telling her that he actually hates her and thinks that she's annoying. Given that he all but breaks down crying while saying this, no one is fooled. Allie still leaves though, because she knows that he's trying to save her from being made a worse person by his influence.
* In ''Series/BoyMeetsWorld'' Eric flat-out tells a young orphan named Tommy, that he'd been acting as BigBrotherMentor for, he won't adopt him in order to get Tommy to go with the family in California that had adopted him. [[spoiler: In the sequel series, ''Series/GirlMeetsWorld'', T.J. Murphy, a political activist who helps Eric run against a corrupt senator and founder of a website called ''Thorn in Your Side'', turned out to be Tommy and said that it was the best thing Eric did and the family that took him in was a good one.]]
* In the [[Recap/BreakingBadS5E14Ozymandias third-to-last episode]] of ''Series/BreakingBad'', '''the''' WhamEpisode of the series, [[spoiler:Walt does this with Skyler, pretending in his phone call to be a psychotic abuser who terrorized her into complicity with his crimes, so she would not get ostracized by the remaining family, and that the police and DEA would (hopefully) not treat her as harshly. He's playing it up hard, crying as he delivers the more evil lines, and you can see when she realizes what he's doing]].
* ''Series/{{Castle}}'': In the Season 8 opener, Beckett becomes very secretive towards Castle, and eventually leaves him, not really saying why (it's because she has a super powerful enemy that could kill both of them, and she needs to take them down alone). Naturally, Castle being Castle, this just makes him redouble his efforts to "save his marriage".
* ''Series/ChinesePaladin'': Ling'er, motivated by a mix of TheWomanWearingTheQueenlyMask and LeavingYouToFindMyself, does this to [[DoggedNiceGuy Xiaoyao]]. He eventually gets the point and agrees to let her go.
* ''Series/ColdCase'': Seen in the episode "Sandhogs". The victim of the week was an avid union activist, but this had made him very unpopular. When his opponents began to make threats against his girlfriend, he abruptly told her he was going to reconcile with his wife and that their racial difference (he was white, she was black) would have doomed the relationship anyway. The woman spent DECADES believing that he had never loved her and was using her, taking comfort only in the existence of the son conceived during the affair until the detectives told her the real reason he had pushed her away.
* ''Series/{{Chuck}}'': A non-romantic ([[HoYay unless you prefer it that way]]) version happens in the back story. Bryce Larkin, the title character's best friend during his university days, apparently betrayed Chuck and got him expelled from Stanford after framing him for cheating. Only later does he learn that Bryce did it so that he would not get recruited by the CIA (which was looking for exceptionally-talented students in the university) and have his innocence shattered. He may or may not have done so at Chuck's father's request, who wanted to avoid his son being used by the organization that ruined their family.
* ''Series/DoctorWho'':
** [[TheChessmaster The Seventh Doctor]] does this with Ace in "The Curse of Fenric". He specifically needs to break her faith in him in order to save the world, so he convinces her that her life means nothing to him and he only traveled with her as part of a bigger plan.
** The Fourth Doctor does this to Sarah in "The Ark in Space", when she is stuck in a pipe and panicking. He pretends to give her a TheReasonYouSuckSpeech, in order to make her angry enough to push her way out of the pipe.
--->'''The Doctor:''' "Oh, Doctor." Is that all you can say for yourself? Stupid, foolish girl. We should never have relied on you. I knew you'd let us down. That's the trouble with girls like you. You think you're tough, but when you're really up against it, you've no guts at all. Hundreds of lives at stake and you lie there, blubbing.
--->'''Sarah:''' You wait till I get out! I can manage. I don't need your help, thank you!
--->'''The Doctor:''' Yes you do, yes you do. ''[Sarah is fully out]'' Splendid. You've done marvelously, Sarah. I'm very proud of you. I really am very proud of you.
--->'''Sarah:''' Conned again. You're a brute!
--->'''The Doctor:''' Oh, don't be ungrateful. I was only encouraging you. Come on.
** The Ninth has a ShooTheDog moment with Rose, faking an "eureka" moment so he can get her into the TARDIS and send her home while he stays to face a Dalek army, fully expecting to die.
** The Eleventh Doctor does it to [[spoiler:Amy Pond]], for almost exactly the same reasons as Seven to Ace.
--->"I can't save you from this. There's nothing I can do to stop it...I've stolen your childhood and now I've led you by the hand to your death. But the worst thing is, I knew. I knew this would happen; this is what always happens. Forget your faith in me. I took you with me because I was vain. Because I wanted to be adored---I'm not a hero. I really am just a mad man in a box. And it's time we saw each other as we really are."
** Amy tried doing this to Rory immediately prior to "Asylum Of the Daleks", booting him out of their home, moving forward with divorce proceedings, and generally acting caustic and unfeeling toward him in the mistaken belief that he would be happier without her. She knew he wanted to be a father and, due to injuries sustained during the events of "A Good Man Goes To War", she could no longer have children.
--->"I didn't kick you out, [[IJustWantMyBelovedToBeHappy I gave you up]]."
** The Eleventh Doctor does this to Clara Oswald in "The Time of the Doctor", repeating the same gambit the Ninth Doctor did with Rose - tricking her into entering the TARDIS and sending her home and out of harm's way. She is heartbroken as a result, but fortunately an ally of the Doctor's is able to reunite them.
** The Twelfth Doctor's plan to [[spoiler: erase Clara's memory of himself]] in "Hell Bent" is a misguided example. He knows it'll break her heart but he plans to do it whether she wants it or not. Fortunately, she is able to talk sense into him. Sadly, [[spoiler: her heart still ends up breaking when the Doctor loses his memories of her instead]].
* ''Series/{{Everwood}}'': Colin attempts this with Amy in .
* ''Series/{{Farscape}}'': (a staged version) Crichton blows Aeryn off and then asks Pilot to check the comm system, which will take them offline for a minute or so. He then explains that Scorpius is eavesdropping using the comms, and if they rekindle their relationship, Scorpius will use both Aeryn and the baby she's carrying as leverage. Aeryn dismisses him as paranoid until Scorpius is heard asking about the comms. They then continue what sounds like a breakup and end it by kissing. [[spoiler:Unfortunately, the Scarrens kidnap Aeryn two episodes later, forcing Crichton to offer Scorpius wormhole tech in return for his assistance in rescuing her, making the whole thing completely pointless]].
* ''Series/GameOfThrones''. Tyrion does this with his mistress Shae, to drive her off before his [[ThePatriarch father Lord Tywin]] has her hanged. It seriously backfires [[spoiler:when a bitter Shae turns up as the SurpriseWitness at Tyrion's trial, perjuring herself to get Tyrion convicted. To cap off this HumiliationConga, Tryion later finds Shae in his father's bed and is forced to kill her when she attacks him.]]
* ''Series/GeneralHospital'': Emily tells boyfriend Zander that she's engaged to someone else to spare him the pain of watching her suffer from cancer--but she ends up falling in love with the other guy anyway.
* ''Series/GuidingLight'': Similarly, wanting to protect boyfriend Jesse from the mobsters who are after her, Michelle tells him she's going to marry someone else. It backfires--by the time she admits the truth to him, he's moved on, and so has she.
* ''Series/HouseOfCardsUS'': In 2x12, Posner makes Lisa go away to eliminate any threats towards her from a constantly opinion shifting Stamper.
* ''Series/TheLastManOnEarth'': Phil's brother gives him a TheReasonYouSuck speech while apparently dying of the apocalyptic virus so that Phil won't stick around to watch him die. It doesn't work, so he makes it his "dying wish" for Phil to leave.
* ''Series/{{Lost}}'': Pierre Chang does this to his wife, because pretending to [[FaceHeelTurn turn into a total asshole]] to drive her away from the island is the only way to persuade her to leave in time before everyone's lives become endangered by [[spoiler:The Incident]].
* ''Series/{{Merlin}}'': (in a way) In 2x09, Freya tries to leave Camelot without telling Merlin so that he won´t leave the good life he has there, and to prevent him from finding out she´s a Bastet.
* ''Series/{{NCIS}}'': [=DiNozzo=] wooed Jeanne Benoit as part of a black ops plan to get at her arms-dealer father. After his cover was blown and Jeanne confronted him, he claimed that the relationship was entirely fake...even though he had really fallen in love with her.
* ''Series/OnceUponATime'': [[spoiler:Snow White]] has to do this to [[spoiler:Prince Charming]] so he will continue with the ArrangedMarriage to prevent [[spoiler:his father from killing him]].
** [[spoiler:Grumpy also does this to his fairy girlfriend Nova so that she can have a better future.]]
* ''Series/OneLifeToLive'': Sloan abruptly tells Vicky that he's going to marry his childhood sweetheart Beverley, when in truth, he's just learned that his Hodgkin's lymphoma is terminal. It doesn't work of course--Vicky's just as devastated by his inexplicably dumping her and refuses to let the matter rest until he finally admits the truth.
* ''Series/{{Roswell}}'': Liz does this to Max twice. Once in "Destiny" after hearing that being with Tess was his destiny and again in the "End of the World" after being asked to by time-traveling future Max.
* ''Series/{{Sherlock}}'': In "The Reichenbach Fall", [[spoiler:Sherlock tells John that his entire life was a lie, that he made up Moriarty to look clever, that he researched John before their meeting to impress him, before faking his suicide so that John, Mrs Hudson and Lestrade won't get shot by snipers. John doesn't believe a word of it, of course]].
** Sherlock's earlier attempt to do this was, sadly, a lot more successful. John receives a phone-call telling him that Mrs. Hudson has been shot. Sherlock refuses to go with him to see her and acts as if he doesn't care about her when previous events have clearly shown otherwise. Throughout the episode, people have been slowly turning against Sherlock, all except John, who has been fighting in his corner all the way until this moment, which causes him to snap and call Sherlock a "machine" before abandoning him as well. It turns out [[spoiler:Mrs Hudson was fine all along and the whole thing was a ruse set up by Sherlock to get John to leave him so he could face Moriarty alone]].
* ''Series/{{Smallville}}'': In Season 5, Clark does this to Lana.
* ''Series/ThirtyRock'': Parodied, when Jack does this to Frank to prevent him from becoming a lawyer (and subsequently killed by the Mafia). Notable for being a direct reference to ''Film/HarryAndTheHendersons''.
* ''Series/TwilightZone'': In the original episode "The Trouble With Templeton", the title character's obsession with his dead wife propels him back to a speakeasy in the 1920's when they were first in love. However, her shrewish, callous treatment of him there forces him to flee back to his present time. [[spoiler:After he's gone back, his wife drops the act and breaks down in tears; it was all to make him let go of his obsession with her memory and continue to live his life. He figures it out, too, when he finds her acting script in his hand, back in the present day]].
* ''Series/TheVampireDiaries'': Stefan occasionally does this to Elena throughout the series. Stefan breaks up with Elena or turns his back on her in order to protect Elena. This is especially evident in season three when Stefan leaves Mystic Falls with Klaus and becomes a Ripper in order to protect Elena and the rest of the town. Elena also did this with Stefan in season two by breaking up with Stefan in order to protect Stefan and her family and friends from Katherine Pierce.
* ''Series/{{Wonderfalls}}'': Jaye basically treats Eric like crap and breaks up with him because the animals told her to and she thinks there will be grave consequences if she doesn't.
* ''Series/PennyDreadful'': Ethan does this to Vanessa at the end of season two, believing that his lycanthropy and murderous past has doomed him, and wanting to spare Vanessa the agony of [[spoiler: seeing him hanged]]. Of course, he doesn't actually tell her any of this, [[spoiler: and instead of being hanged, he is extradited back to America]], leaving Vanessa believing that he abandoned her.

* "Hate Me", by Blue October, is from the viewpoint of an alcoholic/drug addict singing to his mother.
-->An ounce of peace is all I want for you, will you never call again?
-->So I'll drive so fucking far away that I never cross your mind.
-->And do whatever it takes in your heart to leave me behind.
-->Hate me today. Hate me tomorrow.
-->Hate me so you can finally see what's good for you.
* "Wherever I Lay My Hat (That's My Home)" by Marvin Gaye (later covered by Paul Young) plays with this trope; the song is about a guy essentially telling a girl that he's a philandering jerk and that the best thing she can do is just walk away from him and forget all about him. However, where Gaye's version is more upbeat in tempo and style, as if the guy's tone is casually along the lines of "hey, baby, that's just the way I roll", Young's version is a lot more melancholy, as if the guy has actually fallen deeply in love with the girl but is trying to push her away because he ultimately knows he's no good for her.
* "The Hardest Thing" is a 98 Degrees song about a guy who has to break up with a girl because he's already made a commitment to another girl.

* In ''Theatre/LaBoheme'' by Puccini, Rodolfo leaves a distraught Mimì, ostensibly because she flirts with other men and he is jealous, but the true reason is that Mimì is suffering from [[VictorianNovelDisease lung disease]] and Rodolfo is too poor to afford medication or even firewood, so he sets her free, hoping that she will fall into more capable hands.

[[folder:Video Games]]
* Viconia tries this in ''VideoGame/BaldursGateII'' several times, at least once citing her enemies as an excuse. The other times it seems to just be her {{Tsundere}} tendencies.
* A meek variation can happen in ''[[VideoGame/NeverwinterNights2 Neverwinter Nights 2: Mask of the Betrayer]]''. [[spoiler:If you romanced Gann, were unable to completely get rid of the curse and chose to remain in the City of Justice for all eternity as a vessel for the Spirit Eater, Gann chooses to stay with you. You can try to convince him not to by lying that you don't want him there, but when he realizes you're trying to deceive him for his own good he only becomes even more determined to stay with you]].
* Done rather well in the end of ''VideoGame/MetalGearSolid4''. [[spoiler:Rose told Raiden that their child had died before birth and pretended to have married Roy Campbell, so the Patriots could not use her and the child as leverage against him. Being somewhat unstable before, he didn't take it well at all, but he's very quick to forgive her when she explains her motives and he meets his son for the first time.]]
** Done again in [[spoiler:''Ground Zeroes'', where Paz acts cold and distant and then repeatedly insults Chico while he is being forced to torture her, so as to make Skull Face think that she hates Chico and he is therefore of no use in trying to make her talk. She only reveals the truth to Chico in a recording she left him while he slept, telling him that she meant none of it and was actually really happy that he had come to rescue her; that he has given her hope of survival and that she is grateful to him. [[TearJerker One day before her death.]]]]
* Morrigan of ''VideoGame/DragonAgeOrigins'' tries to drive away a Warden who completes her romance path, partly out of fear of such [[LoveIsAWeakness unfamiliar feelings]] and partly because a real relationship complicates her own plans. At one point she flat out begs him to say he doesn't love her.
* In between ''VideoGame/DragonAgeII'' and ''VideoGame/DragonAgeInquisition'', [[spoiler:Hawke did this to his/her love interest, despite going on the run together. S/he knew that said love interest would give their life to protect him/her (noting Fenris in particular), something s/he wasn't going to give them the chance to do. If Hawke is in a relationship with Anders, there is the additional concern that the BigBad has already taken over Anders's mind once before, and they need to prevent that from happening again. If Hawke survives, the separation is temporary.]]
* You have the choice to do this to your personal ghoul, Heather, in ''VideoGame/VampireTheMasqueradeBloodlines''. She is [[SingleTargetSexuality head-over-heels for you]] after you use your blood to save her life, and anytime after she moves in with you, you have the opportunity to either keep her around for money and blood, or kick her out. She'll tearfully cry and beg to stay if you go for the latter option, but it's the only way to free her from a life of servitude. [[spoiler:If you keep her until the end, she is eventually killed by the Sabbat.]]
* In ''[[VideoGame/SonicRushSeries Sonic Rush Adventure]]'' Blaze does this to Marine so that she won't get hurt by the pirates, even if she had to call her a nuisance, she is later shown regretting saying that to her, but Marine won't take no for an answer.

[[folder:Visual Novels]]
* In ''VisualNovel/War13thDay'', Ambrosia does a variation of this. Night blackmails her into giving herself to him everyday in exchange for keeping Arsenik out of jail. While Ambrosia doesn't have to split up with Arsenik, she feels like it's a form of cheating and tells him that they shouldn't see each other anymore.
* In ''VisualNovel/MysticMessenger'' Seven does this to the player in his route, fearing that his job as a secret agent hacker would only put her in danger, or he'd have to dissapear one day and hurt her. The protagonist manages to convince him otherwise.

* In ''Webcomic/{{Fans}}'', when the rare terminal disease that she had lived with for much of her life was progressing to its final stage, Rikk's wife Alisin "[[AllGaysArePromiscuous seduced]]" (ahem) Meighan and bragged about it to Rikk, hoping that he wouldn't waste any time mourning her. This plan went wrong on every level: Rikk was devastated ''and'' realized what she was doing, [[spoiler:and then Alisin was cured just in the nick of time]].
-->'''Rikk:''' Sorry, Ally. I ''still'' love you. You can't stop me.
* In ''Webcomic/{{Shortpacked}},'' Mike finally gives into Amber's request for a marriage proposal by [[spoiler:arranging for her mom to sleep with their recovering sex addict friend]], then edit a tape of it into a proposal. He was hoping that she would finally realize what a JerkAss he is and leave him. Didn't work.
* In ''Webcomic/CollegeRoomiesFromHell'', Margaret spent several years pulling this maneuver on Dave. [[ItsNotYouItsMyEnemies It's not him, it's her enemy]]...who happens to be [[{{Satan}} THE Enemy]]. But unlike Ally in ''Fans!'', she did it ''perfectly'', convincing not just Dave but most of the readership that she didn't love him--to the point that when Roger figured out her real motives and told Dave, the forum was less inclined to believe him than to be mad at him for getting Dave's hopes up again. Unfortunately, Margaret's efforts to spare Dave included pushing him into Blue's arms...so when the truth came out, it was too late.
* In ''Webcomic/{{MYth}}: A Promise'' we discover that [[spoiler:Hades willingly made Zeus hate him forever and destroyed the bond he had with his precious little brother to make him stronger and avoid that Zeus offered him the crown everybody knew it belonged to Zeus]].

[[folder:Web Original]]
* Averted in ''Literature/{{Twig}}'', where when Sylvester learns that his romantic relationship with Lillian is holding back her career and presenting an easy way for enemies to hurt them both, he goes to her and explains the situation, and together they come up with a plan on how to present their break-up to the outside world to best benefit Lillian. They're both still heartbroken, of course, but there's no deception involved.

[[folder:Western Animation]]
* In ''[[WesternAnimation/TheIncredibleHulk The Animated Hulk]]'''s "Innocent Blood", Bruce was dying from poison and his only chance to survive was to become angry enough to hulk out. Because fighting with Doctor Samson and Ghost Rider wasn't enough, Rick and Betty, the two closest people in Hulk's life, were forced to yell at him that they hate him, that he destroyed their lives, and that he should have never been born. [[GoneHorriblyRight It worked.]] And hurt Hulk, [[TearJerker hard]]. Ghost Rider even invokes the trope by name.
--> '''Ghost Rider''': Break his heart in order to save him. I don't know if I would be able to do such a thing.
* In ''WesternAnimation/{{Gargoyles}}'', Macbeth does this to Gruoch, who has [[ArrangedMarriage been betrothed]] to somebody else:
-->'''Macbeth:''' Frankly, you're not worth the effort.
** They get married later anyway, after Macbeth finds [[YouKilledMyFather another and more justifiable reason]] to MurderTheHypotenuse.
* You could consider Robin's assault on the other Titans in ''WesternAnimation/TeenTitans'' this. Considering Slade had a way to kill them all with a push of a button, his only viable response was to do as Slade asked for their sake...including not holding back against them when he commits crimes for Slade.
* In ''WesternAnimation/DannyPhantom'', Sam does this to Danny after he is brainwashed by Ember into being so in love with her he can't think of doing anything else, including save them. She kisses [[JerkJock Dash]] (something she found disgusting) in front of Danny to finally snap him out of it. Luckily, he could take out his rage on Ember.
* Brock Samson does this to the titular ''[[WesternAnimation/TheVentureBrothers Venture Brothers]]'' to get them out of harms way [[spoiler:after he's been marked for death by the OSI:]]
--> '''Brock:''' I ''don't'' love you boys! It was a job! Nothing more! And now that it's over you'll only get in my way!
** [[spoiler:Subverted in that Hank reveals that he [[GenreSavvy wasn't fooled in the slightest]], noting: "The ''Lassie'' trick? Was I born yesterday?"]]
* As ''WesternAnimation/StevenUniverse'' continues in its CerebusSyndrome, [[KidHero Steven]] becomes convinced that his best friend/LoveInterest, [[BadassBookworm Connie]], and other human loved ones would be better off without him. He tries to break off their friendship through a text, but when she distraughtly challenges him to say that he doesn't want to be friends to her face...well, [[http://vignette3.wikia.nocookie.net/steven-universe/images/b/ba/Full_Disclosure_%2837%29.PNG/revision/latest?cb=20150316214015 let's just say that Steven has a bad poker face.]]
* As a Trollhunter, Kanjigar the Courageous from ''WesternAnimation/{{Trollhunters}}'' was deliberately distant with his son Draal as a means to keep him safe. Kanjigar is quick to berate Jim for instead keeping people close to him and putting them in danger, particularly his son Draal, who lost his arm protecting Jim. Over the course of the second half of the first Season, Kanjigar warms to the idea of a Trollhunter having companions to enough of a degree where he apologizes to Draal for pushing him away in the Season finale.