->''"Rogue and Iceman totally want to make out but they can't! This, by the way, is the central conflict of Rogue's character that played out over the course of '''''thirty actual years'''''. Except that in the comics, there was a truly awful Cajun accent involved, ''chere.''"''
-->-- '''Chris Sims''' and '''Matt Wilson''' [[http://comicsalliance.com/comicsalliance-reviews-x2-x-men-united-2003-part-one/ on]] ''Film/X2XMenUnited''

A situation that occurs when one or both potential partners in a relationship refuses to get involved with the other or take the relationship to the next level for personal reasons, often seemingly intractable ones. For example, Bob is in love with Alice, but unfortunately, he is also a widower, and is concerned about honoring the memory of his dead wife Carol. Therefore, while neither has rejected the other, their relationship isn't going anywhere.

Unlike ShipSinking, this can be reversed, but several different outcomes tend to happen:

* The characters overcome their problems and fall in love. In the above case, Bob may decide that Carol would [[IWantMyBelovedToBeHappy want him to be happy]], and fall in love with Alice.
* The relationship never comes to be as a result of the problems, and then:
** The problems prove too great and [[ShipSinking sink the ship]] for the person who has them. Bob decides that it would not be right to go out with Alice too soon after Carol's death. Or:
** The problems drive away the unburdened partner or the one that has gotten over his or her problems. Alice realizes that she cannot help Bob deal with his issues and goes out with David instead, even while Bob claims he is willing to get together with her.
* The problem is resolved, but the ship does not go forward for unrelated reasons, often the result of one of the two characters dying. Bob tells Alice he's in love with her, but Alice does not feel the same, for reasons unrelated to either's personal situations.
* Nothing happens. This is often the case in ongoing works where this trope is present, or ones where the author concludes without revisiting the romance.

Compare CannotSpitItOut, in which one of the people in the relationship merely cannot work up the nerve to confess to the other; in many {{Anchored Ship}}s, the other partner is aware to some degree of how the person with the problems feels. See TheFirstCutIsTheDeepest, ItsNotYouItsMyEnemies and IDontWantToRuinOurFriendship for some of the reasons why this happens. ShipSinking is the permanent variation of this.

''As this often discusses the final outcome for couples, there will be spoilers.''


[[folder:{{Anime}} and {{Manga}}]]
* A mix of this and MaybeEverAfter for [[spoiler: Mustang and Hawkeye]] from ''Manga/FullmetalAlchemist''. It's been revealed that the reason they aren't married is [[spoiler: the anti-fraternization rules in the military]]. [[SubordinateExcuse That]] doesn't stop them [[LivingEmotionalCrutch emotionally]] though, and having the rules change after Roy becomes Fuhrer is perfectly possible.
** [[spoiler: Ling and Lan Fan]]. While the exact nature of their relationship was [[ShipTease heavily hinted]] to be more than platonic, there is little progression in it by the time the story ends.
* The default mode of would-be relationships in ''Manga/{{Naruto}}'', especially considering that several participants have unresolved personal issues and all of them [[spoiler:are involved in the middle of a war that will decide the fate of the ninja world]]. They don't [[RomanceArc move forward along the usual lines]]; they're not in any sort of [[WillTheyOrWontThey believable deadlock where each party is unsure of the other's feelings]]; they're not [[LetsJustBeFriends put off the table]]; they're clearly not [[AbortedArc completely forgotten about]], either, if the ShipTease is any indication. They're just... there.
** Averted as of the epilogue for most of the ships.
* ''Manga/InuYasha'':
** Inuyasha still has unresolved feelings towards his undead former girlfriend Kikyo, also feeling guilty and believing he must die with her as atonement, and Kagome (who is Kikyo's reincarnation) leaves him after seeing the two talking but then she remembers the party needs her and returns. They come to an understanding of the feelings they have for each other but their relationship stays basically the same. Near the end of the series, after [[DeathOfTheHypotenuse Kikyo dies]] (this time for good), [=InuYasha=] is able to move on and finally realizes he can allow himself to love Kagome. They still don't progress much until the very end.
** Sango and Miroku, since he can't get past his perverted nature and the knowledge that his Wind Tunnel will eventually kill him. While they are technically engaged, their relationship barely changes.
* Hayate of ''Manga/HayateTheCombatButler'' is unwilling to start a relationship because the massive debt his parents dumped on him makes him feel he can't fulfil the duties of a boyfriend. (His first girlfriend really screwed up his way of thinking.) The girl who confessed to him is just happy to understand his reasoning and the series throws plenty of other blocks into the LoveDodecahedron.
* Ken and Jun in ''Anime/ScienceNinjaTeamGatchaman''. Jun clearly has feelings for Ken, and he often appears to have some for her despite his utter cluelessness when it comes to romance in general, but because of their duties and the importance of the Science Ninja Team's unity above all else the status of their relationship remains undecided until [[spoiler:the end of the third series]]. ''Anime/BattleOfThePlanets'' averted this entirely with [[ShipTease Mark and Princess]], though.
* ''Manga/TheWallflower'': Kyouhei/Sunako are ''supposed'' to be the OfficialCouple, but because advancing the relationship would require both to suddenly resolve their crippling issues with dating, thus ending the series, the relationship progression is forever stuck in "Denial". The number of times Kyouhei has said "I don't care" or Sunako's been distracted by the creepy, just to string the reader along, is approaching OncePerEpisode.
* ''Manga/SkipBeat'': Kyoko and Ren had a lot of ShipTease, and Ren's manager [[ShipperOnDeck always takes the chance to imply their relationship]]. However, both have an aversion to "love", so until they get over their problems, serious romantic relationship is impossible. [[spoiler:Despite this, Kyoko has admitted to having feelings for Ren and it seems that she will get over her problems soon.]]
* ''Manga/AhMyGoddess'': [[NiceGuy Keiichi]]/[[MagicalGirlfriend Belldandy]] is an interesting case. Between the {{manga}}'s "Lord of Terror" and "Mystery Child" arcs, both Keii and Bell had their reasons for not pushing their relationship beyond its [[CrowningMomentOfHeartwarming sweet, innocent, and gentle]] early stages, even though both seemed to want to. [[JumpingTheShark Unfortunately, later in the series]], the two were {{Flanderized}} to exaggerate Keiichi's CannotSpitItOut tendencies, and Belldandy's naïvete, throwing away what could have been an interesting case of UnresolvedSexualTension.
** In the TV series, Keii/Bell originally began as one of these, then a resolution occurred in Episode 19... and '''again''' in Episode 24. The second season, sadly, went back to the later manga's format, [[SeriesContinuityError making it look like Keii and Bell never "pulled in anchor" in the first place]].
** The finale of the manga justified the state of their relationship by revealing [[spoiler:[[MayflyDecemberRomance relationships between goddesses and mortals]] are strictly forbidden. The Ultimate Force, which acts to preserve Keiichi's wish of being with Belldandy, prevented their separation by ''suppressing Keiichi's sex drive'' to the point that even platonic gestures were difficult. As a result their relationship stalled at a level that fulfilled Keiichi's wish without breaking divine mandate]].
* ''Manga/GunslingerGirl''. Triela is assigned to guard Mimi, a girl her age who notices her crush on her adult [[TheHandler handler]] Victor Hilshire and [[ShipperOnDeck encourages Triela to let him know how she feels]]. [[WiseBeyondHerYears Being well aware]] that Hilshire isn't interested in having an affair with a fourteen-year-old cyborg killing machine whose feelings of love are likely a [[MoreThanMindControl side-effect of her conditioned loyalty]], Triela never follows her advice.
* Rito and Lala are in a state of this in ''Manga/ToLoveRuDarkness''. Lala has long ago confessed her love to Rito, and Rito has recently done the same. However, Rito's feelings for his first love Haruna haven't changed, and Rito can't bring himself to go forward with Lala until his feelings for Haruna are resolved. On the other hand, Lala is all for Rito and Haruna getting together, because she believes that ''MarryThemAll'' is the best solution and that that way they can all live together happily.
* ''Anime/MobileSuitGundamWing'' is a rather...complicated example. [[RebelliousPrincess Relena]] admits (in her {{Image Song}}s) that she's in love with [[HitmanWithAHeart Heero]], but CannotSpitItOut because she doesn't want to risk ruining the relationship they already have and is okay being JustFriends as long as he's nearby. Heero's feelings are less clear but there are strong signs that he feels the same way, especially in the ExpandedUniverse works penned by the show's writers, one of which has an implied off-screen kiss. The sequel novel ''Frozen Teardrop'' [[spoiler:ends with the two of them getting married]].
** Out of universe, the director said the show was NoHuggingNoKissing because he thought romance was less important than other elements of the plot, and because he can't write romance. However, he did also say that he could see Heero and Relena getting together somewhere down the line when things have calmed down a bit.
* Jellal and Erza from ''Manga/FairyTail''. Though they've finally both confessed to one another that they like each other, Jellal feels undeserving of Erza, and is pretending he has a fiancee as an excuse not to act on his feelings. Erza knows he's lying, but is sensitive to his issues and has decided not to call him out on it.
* Mai and Joey/Jounouchi from ''Anime/YuGiOh'' have their relationship fall into this pattern in the anime. They both obviously care about each other, but Mai has a bit of a "complex" over having been rescued by Jounouchi and Yugi multiple times, to the point of pulling a brief FaceHeelTurn to gain power and prove she doesn't need to rely on someone else to save her (and then has to be saved anyway). Jou doesn't help at all, as his SheIsNotMyGirlfriend tendencies in a few episodes only served to push Mai away.
* Jin and Misaki in ''LightNovel/ThePetGirlOfSakurasou'' an example that ends in a successful resolution. Jin feels an inferiority complex over [[TheAce Misaki]], so he played a [[TheCasanova Casanova]] front, despite faithful of their ChildhoodFriendRomance. [[spoiler:The issue was resolved in volume 5 of the light novel.]]
* Alibaba and Morgiana from ''Manga/MagiLabyrinthOfMagic''. Alibaba has a LoveRevelationEpiphany after one of his friends tells him Morgiana likes him, but Morgiana doesn't fully understand her own feelings for Alibaba, nor the concept of romance in general, so she doesn't feel ready to be his girlfriend. They agree to wait until Morgiana comes to learn enough about romantic love from Alibaba for them to become a couple. [[spoiler:Then things are further complicated when Alibaba faces being forced into an ArrangedMarriage. He could keep Morgiana as a concubine, but that would go against his principles.]]
* This is the case of Ginta from ''Manga/{{MAR}}'', in the anime anyway. He might be chaste, but he's not completely clueless to the girl's affections for him. (He'd have to be legendarily thick not to notice eventually). He tends to push the matter aside so he can focus on... you know, saving the world. Once that's done however, he makes the choice to resolve things with Dorothy by not choosing her and instead returning to Earth with his father to be with Koyuki/Snow.

* ComicBook/{{Storm}} and Forge of the ComicBook/XMen. He nurtures her back to health after (accidentally) depowering her. They fall in love. Both the ''"accident"'' and the Adversary undermine her trust in him. Some stabbing happens. When things are finally looking good, Mystique arrives (a broken bird, just like Storm was when Forge first met her). Forge asks Storm to marry him: she has to think about it. Forge asks Jean if she thinks her friend would leave the X-Men and just settle down with him: Jean (the ''telepath'') is suspiciously evasive on the subject. Storm flies in the skies over the Xavier mansion, she is filled with joy and, after making up her mind, goes back to Forge to give him her answer. Confusingly, Forge has a backpack: he's leaving with Mystique that same night. He doesn't let her speak, and tells her they both know she's married to the X-Men and she'd never leave them for him. Storm falls on her knees, crying.
--> '''Storm''': I… I was going… to say… yes.
* [[ComicBook/{{Nightwing}} Dick Grayson]] and [[ComicBook/{{Batgirl 2011}} Barbara Gordon]] in ''ComicBook/{{New 52}}''. Despite internally expressing their feelings for one another in their individual books, they have yet to get together in the new continuity due to them each dealing with their own personal issues. The ship appears to be anchored for a while now, given that Barbara currently believes that [[ComicBook/{{Grayson}} Dick]] is [[FakingTheDead dead]].

* ''Film/BatmanBegins'': Bruce is in love with Rachel, but his career as Batman precludes their getting into a relationship. In ''Film/TheDarkKnight'', Rachel gets into a relationship with Harvey Dent, and then [[spoiler:Rachel gets blown up by the Joker and dies. She leaves behind a note stating that she was choosing to marry Dent, which Bruce never finds out about until the sequel (and even then he refuses to believe it).]]
* [[{{Film/Casablanca}} Rick and Ilsa famously]] [[IWantMyBelovedToBeHappy don't get back together]].
* ''Film/CrouchingTigerHiddenDragon'' Li Mu Bai is in love with Shu Lien, but because he [[spoiler:failed to protect her fiance and his best friend]], he cannot bring himself to tell her. [[spoiler:He dies after confessing his love to her.]]
* ''{{Jeffrey}}'': The title character, though very attracted to Steve, is unwilling to have a relationship with him because of his fears about AIDS (Steve is HIV positive). In the end he decides love is worth the risk.
* ''Film/SpiderManTrilogy'': At the end of the first film and for most of the second film, Peter loves Mary Jane, but is unable to get closer to her for fear that if his SecretIdentity were to be compromised, [[ItsNotYouItsMyEnemies she would be targeted by his enemies]]. Toward the end of the second film, she finds out his identity and says she is willing to take that risk with him at the very end.
* ''Film/TeamAmericaWorldPolice'' Lisa is in love with Gary, but was in a relationship with Carson before he died, and is worried about getting hurt by getting into another. Gary, however, convinces her to not worry about controlling her feelings, and the two soon have sex together. Well, to be more accurate, he gets her to sleep with him by declaring, "[[BlatantLies I will never die.]]"
* ''Film/TheLoveOfSiam''. Tong and Mew never really got into the relationship/dating phase despite both characters love each other.

* ''Literature/TheAeneid'' is perhaps the earliest appearance of this trope. Aeneas and Queen Dido are in love with each other, but he has to fulfill his destiny and found Rome, whereas Dido is still grieving her dead husband and is dealing with a severe emotional deficit. Dido overcomes her issues, but Aeneas does not. In the context of the origin myth, this is the source of the Punic conflicts that Rome and Carthage engaged in, and serves to eulogize the Carthaginians as being {{Worthy Opponent}}s.
* ''Literature/TheDresdenFiles'', Harry and Murphy have been this for the last several books. In the early books they were headed in a romantic direction, but in ''Proven Guilty'' morphed into PlatonicLifePartners when Murphy shied away from the idea--she said she could handle something more casual, without totally deep (and thus emotionally dangerous) commitment, but is right when she says Harry "doesn't do casual". Neither one has given up their feelings for the other, and Harry has admitted in his narrative that he wishes there weren't so many things in the way (especially since his other attempted forays into romance have ended quite disastrously). It looks like the ship is going to stay anchored for the foreseeable future, though, because of all the impediments. Harry's half-brother has told him repeatedly they're both complete idiots, so far to no avail.
** In ''Changes'' [[spoiler:the stresses of their respective lives finally makes them willing to have a romantic rendezvous, except, 20 minutes before their planned meeting, Harry gets shot dead.]]
** Also, in a short story written by Creator/JimButcher, with Murphy as the protagonist, set 40 minutes after the events of ''Changes'', shows she has definite interest in him.
** As of ''Literature/SkinGame'' [[spoiler:they have share a big damnn kiss with a high probability of them continuing their relation.]]
* ''Literature/The39Clues'' has [[ShrinkingViolet Amy Cahill]] and Ian Kabra. Ian [[IWasOnlyPretendingToLikeYou pretended to like]] Amy so he and his sister could run off with a clue, but [[UnrequitedLoveSwitcheroo as she began to think that she was getting over him, he actually developed feelings for her]]. Even if he wanted to tell her how he felt, it is unlikely that [[MyBelovedSmother his mother Isabel]] would let them be together. At the end of the series the SequelSeries offers a chance for things to change.
* In ''Literature/HarryPotterAndTheHalfBloodPrince'', Harry and Ginny finally get together partway through the book, only for Harry to break up with her at the end because he doesn't want her to get hurt while he goes on his wild Horcrux chase. Ginny is actually very understanding, and by the epilogue of the following book they are married with three children.
* ''Literature/TheWheelOfTime'' has several relationships that dally in this territory, but most notably the relationship between Nynaeve Al'Meara and al'Lan Mandragoran starts out this way.
* ''Literature/LightAndDarkTheAwakeningOfTheMageKnight'': At first Sabrina refused to consider a relationship with Danny because she didn't want him to distract her from the Chalice of Light tournament. [[spoiler: After she discovers he's the Mageknight, she considers herself a distraction to him.]]
* ''Literature/ThePendragonAdventure'': Loor and Bobby. [[spoiler: They both have feelings for each other, but Loor won't consider a relationship until after their mission is over. In the end, the ResetButton end ensures they never met in the first place.]]
* The ''Literature/{{Fallocaust}}'' series has a couple of these.
** Sanguine and Jack are very much in love, but Sanguine left Jack to become Silas' sengil/bodyguard. They also split up so Sanguine could [[ThrowTheDogABone date Valen before he died.]]
** [[spoiler:Reno and Silas spend the entirety of ''The Suicide King'' falling for each other, only for Silas to finally be [[BeCarefulWhatYouWishFor get his beloved Sky back.]]


[[folder:Live Action TV]]
* Series/AustinAndAlly has the title characters anchor their ship via IDontWantToRuinOurFriendship.
* ''Series/{{Battlestar Galactica|2003}}'':
** Lee Adama and Kara Thrace fit this trope fairly well. As Kara was once engaged to Lee's dead brother and she and Lee nearly had a drunken hookup while Zak was still alive, they subsequently felt that hooking up later was disrespectful to his memory. They did hook up briefly but personal issues (like the fact that they were both currently married to other people and Kara didn't believe in divorce) prevented it from sticking.
** Later Admiral Adama and President Roslin start having feelings towards each over but with both having key positions in the fleet (and the politically repercussions of such a union) they decide not to act on it. [[spoiler: Well until things go to completely to hell and they decide to put themselves first for a change.]]
* ''Series/{{Bones}}'': Booth and Brennan. He [[spoiler: confessed his love for her in the 100th episode]] and for a while it wasn't too clear where things were going. Eventually season 7 had [[spoiler: Brennan and Booth living together and having a baby together]].
* ''Series/{{Castle}}'': Castle and Beckett. [[spoiler: Beckett states that she's free to give it a shot once her mother's murder is resolved, but not before. As of the finale of season 4, they are together. And at the end of the season 5 finale, he asked her to marry him]]
* ''{{Series/Chuck}}'': Chuck and Sarah, due to the complexities of spy life. [[spoiler:It gets resolved midway through season 3.]]
* Danny and Lindsay on ''Series/{{CSINY}}''. At first, she pushed him away because of her emotional problems with having survived an incident that took the lives of her friends. Then, he pushed her away while he grieved for a young boy who'd been shot and killed while out with Danny.
* ''Series/DarkAngel'': Season one at least. Max and Logan don't get together and strongly deny it despite both of them hallucinating the same dream of them dancing... Until [[spoiler:The finale, in which, a dying Max hallucinates the two finally getting it on, before flashing back to reality and admitting her love to Logan before dying... Don't worry though. Zack commits suicide to give her his heart.]]
* In ''Series/DoctorWho'', the Fourth Doctor and Sarah Jane are {{Revision}}ed as this in the revival series. In the original series, they had a lot of {{UST}} and tended to be read as [[ImpliedLoveInterest Implied Love Interests]] but in "School Reunion" the Tenth Doctor explains to her that he'd been well aware they'd fallen in love, but [[CelibateHero broke off the companionship due to his desire not to get involved with her]]. Their older selves both still love each other, but neither is the person the other had fallen in love with any more (literally, in the case of the Doctor), making it extremely bittersweet.
** After acting like a couple in all but name for several episodes, a number of misunderstandings and the Eleventh Doctor's centuries-long stay on Trenzalore (during which he saw generations of humans live and die) led him to break off his relationship with Clara. After his regeneration into the older-looking Twelfth Doctor, he further attempts to anchor the ship by claiming that he had been mistaken in thinking of himself as her boyfriend. Clara tries to be mature about it, denies any interest she might have had, and asks out a co-worker whom she eventually becomes involved with. But throughout Series 8, it becomes quite apparent (and was confirmed by actors and writers) that despite their occasional fallouts, mutual attraction is still very much there, resulting in a ship-lifting anchor in "Mummy on the Orient Express" and creating a somewhat unusual LoveTriangle scenario. In Series 9 (by which time Clara's boyfriend in Series 8 is [[spoiler: deceased]]) it is clear, if never ''explicit'', that the ship between the Twelfth Doctor and Clara is no longer anchored, with both lead actors and the producer speaking openly in promotional interviews about the two being "crazy for each other" (Peter Capaldi's words) and Clara being "totally in love" with the Doctor (Jenna Coleman's words). Due to TheILoveYouStigma long held by this show, they express this through looks and other subtleties. Ultimately, the Series 9 finale "Hell Bent" ''forces'' the ship to be anchored, perhaps permanently. [[spoiler: Clara '''died''' two episodes prior, but the driven-mad Doctor '''risks all of time and space''' to bring her back. Realizing the relationship is now dangerous, they not only part but the Doctor loses his memories of her -- he reconstructs the adventures they had together, but the things that made him love her (her appearance, personality, etc.) are gone]]. But there's always hope for a miracle...
* ''Series/DowntonAbbey'': Bates and Anna, due to Bates' having previously been married. [[spoiler:Bates' wife Vera causes them problems for ages, starting out by turning up in the kitchen at Downton in episode 1 and threatening to sell the story of Lady Mary and Pamuk to the newspapers unless Bates returns home with her. Much angst and tragedy ensues; Bates and Anna think they have finally succeeded in buying her off, but Vera appears to win in the end by committing suicide and framing Bates for her "murder."]]
* Niles and Daphne were like this for five solid seasons in ''Series/{{Frasier}}'': Niles was helplessly in love with Daphne, but he was married and refused to cheat on his wife, and wouldn't divorce her since he loved her too (though ''why'' he loved her, no one will ever know). So he never mentioned his love, and though Daphne had mad chemistry with him, [[ObliviousToLove she remained oblivious to his feelings]], never even considering him due to his marriage. They finally de-anchored when Niles' marriage fell apart for unrelated reasons, but went through a long period of WillTheyOrWontThey, CannotSpitItOut, UnrequitedLove, PoorCommunicationKills, RomanticFalseLead, and UnrequitedLoveSwitcheroo before [[TheyDo they finally hooked up.]]
* ''Series/GossipGirl'': Chuck and Blair almost constantly, especially in the second season. First, because of Chuck's fear that him and Blair needed the thrill of the chase and would be boring as a couple. Later on, because he didn't believe he could make her happy. Eventually, he realizes he can't keep running from his feelings.
** It also happened once with Blair anchoring the ship, after the disastrous brunch in ''Gone with the Will''.
** Dan and Serena ended their romantic relationship for good when they discover that they share a half-brother together and it would be far too weird and awkward for them to continue their romantic relationship.
** In the end both the aforementioned ships were refloated despite the immense difficulty for all the characters involved.
* ''Series/HowIMetYourMother'':
** Ted and Robin which had been going on for most of the seasons. Then, Ted decided to [[IWantMyBelovedToBeHappy let go of his feelings with Robin]] when she's about to marry Barney and eventually met the Mother. [[spoiler:However, the series finale swerves around with Robin and Barney divorced after three years of marriage and the Mother dead six years prior to Ted telling the story to his kids, which turned out to be more of asking their permission to date Robin again. The kids approved and the show ends with Robin looking out of her apartment window and saw Ted holding a blue French horn. It should be noted that Ted is just asking for another date with Robin and that some of their issues which resulted to their break-up hadn't been resolved so it's still a MaybeEverAfter for them]]. Needless to say, the ending caused one of the biggest BrokenBase in TV history.
** The alternate ending has [[spoiler:the Mother not dead but Robin and Barney are still divorced. Newly added dialogue revealed that there might be a chance for Robin and Barney to get back together though it remains unclear if they're ever going to rekindle their relationship]].
* ''Series/ICarly'':
** Carly and Freddie get together in "iSaved Your Life", but break it off at the end of the episode because Freddie can't be sure of Carly's true feelings for him, as they may be a result of hero worship.
** Sam and Freddie break up after a 5 episode arc in "iLove You". It's not a total sinking, they could come back to it later.
** Carly and Freddie end up sharing a last minute kiss to pull up their anchor, Sam & Freddie stay sunk.
* Liv and Major in ''Series/{{iZombie}}''. They were engaged until the boat party. After becoming a zombie, Liv breaks up with Major, much to everyone's shock (they were the perfect couple), since she's (rightly) afraid of passing her "condition" on to him. They try to have an awkward friendship, but Liv finds out that, after 5 months, Major is moving on with another girl (worse, she sees them playing a zombie-killing game). When she finds out that Major is kicking out his roommate, she suspects that a girl he's sort-of seeing plans to move in. She sends her boss and friend Ravi to room with Major to try to prevent that, although Ravi reveals that Major correctly figured out her plan and went along with it, as this means that she's not over him. Then she meets Lowell, a British musician who is also a zombie. Lowell seems to like Liv, in large part because she's the only other zombie he knows and can speak freely to. After finding out that Liv is still not over Major, Lowell is content to just be friends until such time as she's ready to move on.
* ''Series/{{JAG}}'': This was the case with Harm and Mac for almost nine seasons until it was resolved in the very last episode, "Fair Winds and Following Seas"; due to the fact the they are both career-oriented military officers working at the same place. Plus multiple other vague excuses were made throughout the series.
* ''Series/{{Kings}}'': Michelle is in love with David but can't be with him because she made a vow to devote her life to God after recovering from a near-deadly illness. Eventually she decides that God didn't save her life for her to be miserable.
* ''Series/{{Lost}}'': A variation with [[spoiler:Sawyer/Kate]] in the final season. [[spoiler: They both make it off the island and their respective love interests both die, making it entirely possible that they eventually get together. However, the sideways world makes it very clear that Juliet and Jack are their respective [[OfficialCouple soulmates]]]].
* ''Series/TheMentalist'': It is strongly implied that this is the situation with Jane and Lisbon. They clearly care about each other, and considering the fact that the last man Lisbon loved was another co-worker, it's unlikely to be the rules keeping them apart; but Jane is still very much married, though his wife has been dead at least three years, and he seems incapable of moving on until he has had his revenge.
** [[spoiler:Of course, long after he's had his revenge, he finally admits that he loves her.]]
* ''Series/TheNanny'': The reason why Max and Fran don't get together at first is that he has loads of emotional baggage (including a dead wife). Later Max proposes to her at the end of the fifth season, and they get married, staying so for the final season.
* ''Series/{{Scrubs}}'': Happened to JD and Elliot every time they almost got together. The end of Season 3 and beginning of Season 4 seemed to sink the ship permanently, but towards the end of Season 6 [[spoiler: it suddenly resurfaced and became an anchored ship, accompanied by the retcon that JD and Elliot's problems were due to a mutual fear of commitment. By the eighth season they get together.]]
* ''{{Series/Smallville}}''[='s=] Clark and Lana got so bad that, by the end, the actress quit and the audience was in outright revolt.
-->'''[[http://www.supermanhomepage.com/tv/tv.php?topic=reviews/smallville5-ep16 Neal Bailey]]''' So IT'S OVER. FOREVER. AND EVER AND EVER. Clark and Lana will NEVER EVER EVER be together again. It's over this time. Really! ...If it's true, I openly concede that this was [[AndThereWasMuchRejoicing the best episode of the series ever]], because it saved the series. But you and I both know it's not, so it holds no drama, no hope, no character, nothing.
* ''Series/StargateSG1'' Jack and Sam, since fraternization regs are still in practice.
** It's implied after "Threads" that they went ahead anyway, rules be damned, and are simply keeping it low-profile. Deleted scenes from ''Series/StargateAtlantis'' really hammer it home. (Besides, WordOfGod says they got together the nanosecond Jack retired.)
* ''Series/StarTrekTheNextGeneration'': Picard and Crusher have the shadow of Crusher's dead husband Jack, who was also one of Picard's close friends. At some point in the GrandFinale's alternate future they got married, but eventually divorced and went their separate ways again.
** The ExpandedUniverse novels eventually saw them get together and [[BabiesEverAfter have a child]].
* ''Series/StarTrekVoyager'': Happened more than one episode for Janeway and Chakotay, though given that the question kept coming up, [[RelationshipWritingFumble you'd be forgiven for expecting they'd hook up eventually]].
* Jack and Sue in ''Series/SueThomasFBEye'', since it would involve one of them quitting their job at the FBI.
* ''Series/TheVampireDiaries'': Stefan and Elena have gone through this throughout most of the series. This is mostly due to Stefan being a vampire and Elena being a human, leading two completely different lifestyles with different backgrounds. One reason is Elena finding out Stefan is a vampire. A second reason is Stefan enduring blood issues and having issues with his blood addiction and keeping it a secret from Elena. A third reason is Stefan's brother, Damon, who is also in love with Elena, causing issues and tension between Stefan and Elena and their relationship. A fourth reason was Stefan sacrificing himself (turning off his humanity and becoming a blood addicted Ripper) to Klaus in order to save his brother Damon from a fatal werewolf bite by getting the cure (which turned out to be Klaus' blood). A fifth reason is Elena recently turning into a vampire. However, despite all of these issues, Stefan and Elena have managed to overcome all of these obstacles and come together still more in love then ever before and stronger as a couple.
** Not so much by midway though season four, after Elena becomes a vampire and she starts to fall in love with Damon much to the delight of the large and vocal Damon/Elena fanbase.
** Caroline and [[spoiler: Tyler]] become one in season three, because of [[spoiler:Tyler getting sired by Klaus. They break up but still have feelings for each other, and Tyler gets PutOnABus to try to break Klaus' mind control.]]
* ''Series/VeronicaMars'' has this with Veronica and Duncan in season 1 [[spoiler: ((eventually they get back together and then break up for good)]] and later with Logan and Veronica, which ends with no definite resolution, mostly due to the show's [[NoEnding cancellation]].
* ''Series/{{Victoria}}'', despite being a biography of real-life individuals, established a "will they, won't they" semi-romance between Queen Victoria and her prime minister, Lord Melbourne (based, it must be said, on evidence that the two did carry a torch for each other). RealLifeWritesThePlot, however, and just as in real life Victoria is destined to marry Prince Albert, forcing the Victoria/Lord M ship to be anchored permanently (but not sunk as the series and its accompanying novel - as well as historical accounts - indicate that Lord M, at least never stopped being in love with Victoria).
* In ''Series/TheXFiles'', Mulder and Scully were this for the first six seasons, along with being mutual [[LivingEmotionalCrutch living emotional crutches]]. Though neither outright said anything, [[EveryoneCanSeeIt everyone could see it]] -- which resulted in them being used against one another by the various bad guys -- and the [[UnresolvedSexualTension UST]] was sometimes so palpable it was painful.
* Happens to Zoey and Chase in ''Series/{{Zoey 101}}'', after Chase can finally spit it out but [[spoiler: ends up stuck in London for the semester.]] As they don't see a long-distance relationship working, they decide to let it be for now. [[spoiler: It all ends well eventually]].

* PlayedForLaughs in Music/TheMagneticFields' song "The One You Really Love":
-->I gaze into your eyes of blue
-->But their beauty is not for me
-->You're dreaming of someone who's gone
-->You're dreaming of the one you really love
-->You're dreaming of...the corpse you really love!

[[folder:Video Games]]
* In ''VideoGame/TalesOfLegendia'', Shirley is in love with Senel, but he was engaged to her sister, Stella, who died, and won't move on from her death.
* It's hinted in ''VideoGame/MetalGearRisingRevengeance'' that this is Otacon's problem in general. He's a ChickMagnet, but considering that most of the women he loves [[VideoGame/MetalGearSolid tend]] [[VideoGame/MetalGearSolid2SonsOfLiberty to]] [[VideoGame/MetalGearSolid4GunsOfThePatriots die]], he has reservations about starting relationships.
* Touched on in ''VideoGame/MassEffect1'' between Female Shepard and Kaidan. If their romance progresses to a certain extent, at one point she'll tell him, "You're not wrong. But there are regs," highlighting the fact that the ''Normandy'' is an Alliance military ship and she's his commanding officer. Since he ''is'' a romance option, this gets chucked very quickly once that situation no longer applies.

[[folder:Web Comics]]
* ''Webcomic/BittersweetCandyBowl'': One way to see Mike and Lucy ever getting together.
* ''Webcomic/GeneralProtectionFault'': Fooker admits to Sharon that he loves her, but while they are in a relationship, he's hesitant to get married, having seen many bad marriages like that of his parents. Sharon accepts this, and decides to let him decide when or if he's ready to marry (Then again, she did catch the bouquet at [[spoiler:Nick and Ki's]] wedding).
* ''Webcomic/{{Housepets}}'': Peanut and Grape. Peanut has strong feelings for Grape, and she insists that they are more than JustFriends, but also admits that she is not romantically attracted to dogs.
* ''Webcomic/TheOrderOfTheStick'' Therkla is in love with Elan, but he is still faithful to Haley. [[spoiler:As she is fatally poisoned and dying in his arms, she refuses to come back to life after he is unwilling to be with her]].
* ''Webcomic/QuestionableContent'' gives us Marten and Faye. The {{UST}} drives much of the first five hundred strips, but Faye's [[FreudianExcuse issues]] stop this from going anywhere. About strip 500, Faye [[WhamEpisode tells Marten why she isn't ready for a relationship]], and [[IWantMyBelovedToBeHappy not to spend his life waiting for her]].
* ''Webcomic/SluggyFreelance'' Torg is in love with Zoe, but Oasis loves him and is willing to [[MurderTheHypotenuse kill any potential romantic rivals]], preventing him from getting closer to Zoe until he finds a way of dealing with Oasis. [[spoiler:Oasis attacks Zoe, causing her to figure out both that Torg loves her and that she loves Torg, only to be killed mere seconds later by Oasis, oddly enough for reasons that had nothing to with hypotenuse removal.]]
** But wait, with the newest chapters [[spoiler:It turns out Zoe wasn't killed after all but kept alive by nanomachines that rebuilt her without memories until Riff restores them by copying her memories the night prior to her 'death' by Oasis via time travel.]] Now they've gone back to the [[StatusQuoIsGod status quo]] with him in love with her and her [[UnConfession remaining oblivious.]]
* Elliot and Susan from ''Webcomic/ElGoonishShive'' have both explicitly stated that they have feelings for the other, but refuse to act on them for a variety of reasons. Elliot doesn't feel comfortable hooking up with Susan so soon after breaking up with her best friend, and he [[IDontWantToRuinOurFriendship values her friendship, and doesn't want to mess that up.]] Susan, meanwhile, has a number of mental and emotional issues that keep her from being able to have a real relationship, and she doesn't want to make Elliot wait while she resolves those issues. Combine that with the fact that Elliot has started dating someone else, and this ship is unlikely to go anywhere in the foreseeable future.

[[folder:Western Animation]]
* ''WesternAnimation/AvatarTheLastAirbender''
** During "[[Recap/AvatarTheLastAirbenderTheEmberIslandPlayers The Ember Island Players]]," the final episode before the finale, Aang and Katara are forced to assess their relationship. When Aang expresses his desire to "be together" with Katara, she claims to be confused about her feelings and does not wish to be involved with Aang if she's unsure. This may be one of the most briefly anchored ships out here, because at the end of "Sozin's Comet," less then five episodes apart from "Ember Island Players," Katara is finally willing to [[RelationshipUpgrade enter the relationship and be with Aang.]]
** Also, Jinko, one of the few anchored ships that remain so, is mostly due to Jin's being a one-time character. Zuko and Jin go out once in book two, and after the [[{{Adorkable}} initial awkwardness]], Zuko seems to actually enjoy their date. There is speculation that Zuko truly cared about Jin, going so far as to use firebending to light lanterns so she wouldn't be disappointed, and even returning her kiss. It can be inferred that this is also why he left so abruptly. Jin is never mentioned in the show again, and the finale strongly implies that Zuko eventually marries Mai.
** And Zuko/Mai had been completely open for a long time as well. It was entirely unclear if their childhood crush would develop to anything when they first met again after years and when things seemed to get resolved after The Beach, everything was out in the open again up to and during the volcano prison. Only when she attacks Azula to save him does she commit to accepting his decision to join the Avatar. But then she vanishes again until the finale.
* ''WesternAnimation/PhineasAndFerb,'' [[TheQuietOne Ferb]] has a crush on [[MadScientistsBeautifulDaughter Vanessa]], which is slightly problematic since she's sixteen and he's "[[VagueAge less than fifteen]]" according to [[WordOfGod the creators]]; some evidence would make him as young as nine. Some fans like to think they could get together when they're both adults, or just use some AppliedPhlebotinum to equalize their ages.
** WordOfGod said that he'd like to see them get together when they're older and the age difference wouldn't matter.
** In the penultimate episode, Act Your Age, where we see the characters as young adults (ten years after the main series takes place), we see that Vanessa has been in a relationship with Ferb for a while now, so the ship sailed.