A character who is unusually aggressive and domineering in their relationships and particularly romantic/sexual advances, yet relinquishes all control the moment it comes to actually having sex with their loved one.

This behavior is commonly displayed by Type A {{Tsundere}}s. Parallels can be drawn between this and a FauxActionGirl. Indeed, due to a common DoubleStandard (and because MostWritersAreMale), women in fiction end up on the receiving end of this trope much more often than men (cf. MenActWomenAre).

An extreme variation, dipping deep into CharacterDerailment, is often found in fanworks (especially {{H|entai}}-{{Doujinshi}}) starring a canonically [[{{Dominatrix}} dominant and assertive female character]], who remains dominant and assertive right up to the point where the [[EscapistCharacter faceless male reader stand-in]] takes off her clothes.

Note that TropesAreNotBad when used appropriately, and even this one can present an interesting dichotomy in a character to explore for drama and CharacterDevelopment. It only becomes off-putting when perpetrated in fanworks upon characters who you'd reasonably expect to [[BastardGirlfriend behave in bed the same way they do in canon]].

For the male/male case, this is a [[BoysLoveTypes standard]] (although somewhat less common) type of {{Uke}} in BoysLoveGenre works. They're similarly likely to be {{Tsundere}}. Because this is a same-sex variation, the DoubleStandard does not apply, so this trope is generally used in-character. More uncommonly, but still very much present, you will find ''inversions'' of this trope, with an aggressive (or even violent) {{Seme}} who becomes compliant, gentle and subservient to the {{Uke}}s wishes while in-bed - playing with the balance of physical and emotional control in the relationship. The exceptions for in-character usage of this trope are again fanworks where canon characters are used for WishFulfillment[[note]]Or just someone not writing characters well[[/note]].

Compare CasualKink, PropertyOfLove, SafeSaneAndConsensual, SafeWord and AllWomenAreDomsAllMenAreSubs.
----
!! Canon examples

[[foldercontrol]]

[[folder: Anime And Manga ]]

* Mio from ''LightNovel/{{MM}}'' is a very dominant girl for the entire anime series, but in the first two [[{{Omake}} DVD Extras]] they have her getting dominated by a cat and another girl respectively. The extras were supposed to be FanService, but they felt like FetishRetardant to those that were hoping for more Mio femdom. Eventually one extra focusing on her sadist side showed up, but only one.
* Kyouko Oomiya in ''FutariEcchi'', in her relationship with Matsuzaki, at least in the early phases. On one hand he was TheCasanova and she a 30-year-old virgin when they started dating but, on the other hand, she is imposingly bossy and he is actually insecure about himself.
* Mafuyu from {{hentai}} {{OVA}}s ''Kanojo x Kanojo x Kanojo'' is a quite interesting example. The first episode has her being a really domineering EmotionlessGirl. The second episode has her dominant too, BUT the guy ends turning the tables on her for no real reason (As he never does that to other girls, and he seemed fine with her dominance on episode 1). That's where the series originally ended, but then they announced a third episode, and on it Mafuyu was hit by massive {{Chickification}} and became just as cheerfully emotional and non-dominant as the other girls, unfortunate as [[EnsembleDarkhorse her dominance and quietness made her popular]].
* Hana in ''Seikon No Qwaser'' is a lesbian version. At first we see she's a quite rough girl with others, but soon she gets dominated by [[FilleFatale Katja]] and clearly ''loves'' it. Then come the second season and she ''subverts'' this by showing she can be dominant with other girls, so she probably likes being both sub and dom depending of her partner.
* ''NanaToKaoru'': Nana is an angry tsundere until she gets [[{{BDSM}} all tied up]].
* Yuno from ''MiraiNikki'' is very direct and aggressive towards Yukiteru, until she finally "becomes one" with him. Then she becomes super-shy and even bottoms! Notably, she goes back to being her usual aggressive self right after they're done.
* Inverted by Fuyuka in ''Manga/HaruNatsuAkiFuyu'', who is a ShrinkingViolet in day-to-day life but unexpectedly [[BewareTheQuietOnes dominates the heck out of Natsuki when they finally do it]].

[[/folder]]

[[folder: Comic Books ]]

* In ''TheDarkKnightStrikesAgain'' and ''ComicBook/AllStarBatmanAndRobinTheBoyWonder'', this describes the relationship between {{Superman}} and WonderWoman. Wonder Woman is a StrawFeminist who shows nothing except contempt for men and the world that they dominate. At the same time, however, she maintains a SlapSlapKiss relationship with Superman, whom she admires for being the only man on the planet who could [[BestHerToBedHer throw her to the ground and MAKE her his]].
* ''{{Character/Deadpool}}'' has aspects of this. Very little of what he says is serious and much of what he says is outrageous, but with [[UnusualEuphemism y'know, snuggling]] or rather anything vaguely intimate--particularly the rare honest conversation--his dialogue is less amusing and his body language becomes submissive.

[[/folder]]

[[folder: Film ]]

* A RareMaleExample: In the original ''AmericanPie'' movie, the guy pursued the band girl (eventually giving up on the sex wager), but she ended up dominant during their sex scene.

[[/folder]]

[[folder: Literature ]]

* Thandi Palane from the ''Literature/HonorHarrington'' series is described as very sexually submissive, as a respite from her domineering public 'strong' facade. The fact that she's a genetically engineered HeavyWorlder SuperSoldier who can break most men in half and once crushed a man's skull in with her bare fist has made it hard to find men who aren't afraid of her.
** At one point she asks newfound boyfriend Victor Cachat, "Did it ever occur to you that a lady weight-lifter might get tired of it?"
** Victor's morning-after musings also include the line, "Dominating her had been like a mortal dominating a goddess, a feat possible only because the goddess herself willed it."
** Note that Cachat himself, while repeatedly described in the books as a ''[[OneManArmy Death incarnate]]'' at certain circumstances, is actually a [[PlayingWithATrope pretty scrawny]] and [[WeakButSkilled physically non-imposing guy]]. And a bit of a prude to boot.
* Mitza Lizalor in one of the later {{Foundation}} novels. She's a high-ranking member of the government on a SexIsEvilAndIAmHorny PlanetOfHats and is socially dominant with her people and in conversation with the protagonist. She also quite likes sex but is disappointed with the guilt that men on her planet feel about it, so the protagonist uses his supernatural intuition to dominate her in bed.
* [[spoiler:[[DefrostingIceQueen Sidonie]]]] takes on this role in some of the later ''KushielsDart'' novels.

[[/folder]]

[[folder: Television ]]

* Mickey Milkovich in "Series/{{Shameless}}" (US) is an aggressive, violent character who frequently comes to blows with others, and is typically the dominant partner in sexual encounters outside his relationship with Ian Gallagher. However, in his relationship with Ian, Mickey is notably submissive and has even performed oral sex on command.

[[/folder]]

[[folder: Video Games ]]

* In ''VideoGame/MetalGearSolid3'', EVA pursues Snake extremely aggressively from almost the moment she's introduced, and he spends much of the game either trying to [[CelibateHero shove her off him]] or [[LieBackAndThinkOfEngland joylessly enduring her kisses and gropes]]. While she is the one who initiates the eventual sex and takes the lead in the foreplay, there's a point, a little while before the sex actually commences, where Snake suddenly grabs her, pushes her onto her back and powerfully dominates her. Perhaps justified, because their relationship was so physically one-sided up until then that Snake had to show ''extreme'' enthusiasm to establish that their sex scene wasn't just EVA raping him after having broken his spirit with a week-long course of continuous sexual harassment.
* ''VideoGame/{{Mass Effect|1}}'':
** Female Shepard and Liara have this type of relationship, with Shepard being the aggressive, dominant soldier who instigates (or at least tries to) most if not all her romances ([[SingleWomanSeeksGoodMan Kaiden,]] [[AdventurerArchaeologist Liara,]] [[AnOfficerAndAGentleman Jacob,]] [[{{Adorkable}} Garrus,]] [[HitmanWithAheart Thane,]] [[ExtremeOmnisexual Kelly,]] [[IncompatibleOrientation Samara,]] [[ShipTease Tali,]] [[SubordinateExcuse Joker,]] [[IfItsYouItsOkay Vega]]) while Liara begins as the ShrinkingViolet who squees big if Shepard takes a romantic interest in her. However as she grows in confidence the role changes to her being a ViolentlyProtectiveGirlfriend to the galaxy's ultimate BadAss and as her father points out Liara throws Shepard on the bed and peels her out of her uniform.
** Male Shepards get Ashley, an ActionGirl who tries to seduce him with poetry, and Jack, a psychotic sexually aggressive BastardGirlfriend. Both relinquish control during a romance. Tali on the other hand is the inverse, a ShrinkingViolet who pounces Shepard during their romance scene.

[[/folder]]

[[folder: Visual Novels ]]

* Akiha Tohno in ''VisualNovel/{{Tsukihime}}'' makes very obvious passes on Shiki (and creeps him out repeatedly) throughout her route, but when it comes to the sex scene, he takes complete control.
* A similar dynamic occurs with Rin Tohsaka in ''VisualNovel/FateStayNight'': throughout the route she's an assertive {{Tsundere}} and TheTease, but in her sex scene she becomes uncharacteristically shy. Once it's over, however, she goes back to her original state, chewing Shirou out for having been too aggressive in bed! It's worth noting that, both in another route's [[spoiler: three-way scene with Saber]] and the scene in the sequel FateHollowAtaraxia, she acts more like she normally does. This implies that it has more to do with [[TheirFirstTime her inexperience]] and anxiety over being the focus of Shirou's attention than CharacterDerailment.

[[/folder]]

[[folder: Web Original]]

* WebVideo/TheNostalgiaCritic manages to be both a HotBlooded brat who shoots things for catharsis and a sexually submissive ExtremeDoormat who is [[DesperatelyCravesAffection desperate for affection]]. As you might have already guessed, this leads to him getting [[RapeAsBackstory taken advantage]] [[DateRape of over]] and [[InnocentFanserviceBoy over again]].





[[/folder]]

----
!! Fanwork examples
%% This section is sorted by the original medium of the work the fanfiction is based off. Please try to add only the most popular and/or egregious cases of characters getting this treatment in fanfiction.

[[foldercontrol]]

[[folder:Anime and Manga]]

* If there's a doujinshi focused on a girl with a dominant personality in canon, not only will she not be dominant, but she'll likely be getting raped or [[{{Netorare}} NTR]]'d. [[BreadEggsBreadedEggs Or both]].
** Sometimes there's even a nasty DoubleSubversion where the girl starts dominant for a few pages to half the doujinshi, then the guy rapes her or something like that. If it's an attempt to pander to both femdom and non-femdom fans, it fails, as the former will be angry at the cop-out and the latter have lots more material that caters fully to them.
** The only notable aversion seems to be ''HoukagoPlay'' doujins, which often keeps the girlfriend assertive at least[[note]][[AlwaysABiggerFish Unless her club president is involved]][[/note]]. Considering there's no anime and it's unlikely you know about the manga unless you're into feet and dominant girls, it's kind of justified.
** Inverted by the ocassional doujinshi where a ShrinkingViolet or other non-dominant girl becomes a total domme. Note this is much, much rarer than seeing this played straight.
* Light Yagami in ''[[WebVideo/DeathNoteTheAbridgedSeriesKpts4tv Death Note: The Abridged Series (Kpts4tv)]]'' is a pretty good example of how he's perceived in fanon. Like in canon he's a SerialKiller who wants to be [[AGodAmI God]] so he is very domineering of the people around him, however when it comes to relationships he almost never comes out on top. This is especially apparent in his [[VillainousCrush pursuit of L]] who he attempts to seduce in FemmeFatale fashion.
* Light Yagami again in the CrackFic ''FanFic/ACharmedLife'', {{Lampshaded}} when Ryuk declares him to be "a natural bottom."
[[/folder]]

[[folder: Various Media ]]

* Extremely common in {{Yaoi}} fanworks, whenever male characters who are aggressive/dominant in canon get {{wimpifi|cation}}ed for the [[YaoiFangirl writer's pleasure]].

[[/folder]]

[[folder: Video Games ]]

* Many fanworks featuring VideoGame/{{Bayonetta}} fall into this trope. Entertainingly, this was the major complaint the creator had about Rule 34 - not that it existed, but that Bayonetta tended to be in the submissive role, and the fandom actually reacted by making her the dominant one more frequently.

[[/folder]]
----