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[[caption-width-right:350:The phrase 'picking up women'\\
has an interesting etymology.]]

->''"And though they may be sobbin' for a while\\
We gonna make them sobbin' women smile!"''
-->-- ''Film/SevenBridesForSevenBrothers''

Are you and your buddies looking for female companionship, but are denied the chance to interact with women in a normal manner because of your location, your occupation, or the fact that you all have NoSocialSkills?

Well, no matter. The problem's easy enough to fix. Just get your buddies together, form a raiding party, swoop down upon the nearest village and carry away all of its prettiest women. Of course, you can expect the pretty women to ''not'' be so keen on the idea, at least at ''first''. Expect to see a lot of passive-aggressive behavior coming from their general direction... as well as the odd rock or [[FryingPanOfDoom frying pan]]... and you may want to wear a [[GroinAttack groin protector]] when you're walking around in their approximate vicinity... at least for awhile...

Don't worry, though. They'll eventually come around and become willing mates for you all. You can speed up this process if you act sheepish and apologetic around them. Let them think you're just as sorry about the situation as ''they'' are ''angry.'' Do nice things for them. Smile when they jam their heels into your foot, or dump freezing cold water down your pants or slam your fingers into windowsills. And know that one day, if you can endure this abuse long enough, they'll [[SlapSlapKiss grow tired of beating on you and start to find you strangely attractive.]]

Hopefully this will happen ''before'' the girls' fathers, brothers or friends find out where you live and turn you and your buddies into tomato paste. If you've behaved yourself and acted properly towards the women, you may get lucky and find yourself wed to your new sweethearts in a ShotgunWedding. If not, then... it's best ''not to think about'' what will happen to you...

The extreme end of this idea of this includes AndNowYouMustMarryMe. See also StockholmSyndrome, ImTakingHerHomeWithMe, and CaptiveDate. Obviously, DontTryThisAtHome.



[[folder:Anime and Manga]]
* Kagome in ''Manga/InuYasha'' gets to experience this from quite a few demons lusting for her. The most notable example is Kouga when he first meets her.
* This is a common explanation for Russia's affectionate abuse of the Baltics, particularly Lithuania, in ''Manga/AxisPowersHetalia''.
* Arima of ''Manga/KareKano'' has a dark side that once imagined tying his girlfriend Yukino in chains.
* [[{{Yandere}} Yuno]] of ''Manga/FutureDiary'' believes this. [[spoiler: Yukiteru, on the other hand, does not]].
* The whole plot of two ''Manga/RanmaOneHalf'' [[TheMovie theatrical features]] features a foreign (and formidable) prince kidnapping Akane to make her his bride. The second goes whole hog and Prince Toma's entourage kidnaps ''all'' the other girls in the cast for the same purpose. The antagonist in the third PC-Engine video game, ''Toraware no Hanayome'', turns the tables and kidnaps female Ranma instead.
* In ''Manga/TokyoMewMew'', Kisshu kisses Ichigo the second he sees her. Later on, he attempts to kidnap her and escalates from there.
* ''Anime/YuGiOh'' had an instance of this. A fake psychic kidnapped [[AttemptedRape and potentially tried to rape]] Anzu Mazaki. Don't worry, though. Yami saves her.
* ''LightNovel/AiNoKusabi'' has Iason kidnapping Riki so they can be together.
* Played with in ''Manga/{{Sekirei}}''. The bond between a Sekirei and their Ashikabi is normally the result of [[RedStringOfFate destiny]] bringing them together, but it is entirely possible to create a [[AMagicContractComesWithAKiss bond]] by force. Two of the major villains built armies this way, capturing and winging Sekirei against their will -- one {{Mook|s}} describes the process as "taming" them. Once the bond is formed they seem to develop a strong loyalty and affection for their Ashikabi, whether the bond was consensual or not. Interestingly, the two villains have completely different relationships with their harems -- Higa's Sekirei are treated as disposable servants, while Mikogami's are PrettyFreeloaders that treat him affectionately. [[spoiler: In the finale, Higa loses the majority of his Sekirei while ''all'' of Mikogami's Sekirei choose him as their Ashikabi again]].
* ''Manga/AirGear'' has a fairly benevolent example when Yayoi kidnaps her {{Love Interest|s}} Agito. It's all rather pleasant due to the fact that despite her feelings for him, she doesn't have any actual romantic designs on him and the "abduction" is largely an attempt to force Agito to stop [[TrainingFromHell running himself ragged.]] Given [[AxCrazy he's]] [[OOcIsSeriousBusiness fairly calm]] about the whole deal, it's implied he agrees.
* In ''Manga/AnatoliaStory'', Yuri's small stature makes it unfortunately easy for lustful men to pick her up and run off with her. Ramses in particular makes multiple attempts to forcibly take her to Egypt to be his bride.
* Subverted in ''Manga/TokyoGhoul'' with [[StalkerWithACrush Torso]]. He is utterly obsessed with Mutsuki, to a terrifying degree. His diary from the 4th volume reveals that he believes they share a mysterious connection, and this "spark" of desire will be his salvation. They just need to have a long, private talk... then Mutsuki will understand their destined bond, and return his love. He then proceeds to kidnap Mutsuki, cut off his arms and legs, and declare they will be getting married. He even dressed Mutsuki in a white dress and put a wedding ring on his cut off hand. [[spoiler: Over the next month, Mutsuki plays along with him and even begins to feel some sympathy after learning about his FreudianExcuse... but ends up snapping and killing Torso in a blind rage]].

[[folder:Comic Books]]
* In ''Comicbook/ElfQuest'', Cutter originally abducts Leetah under the influence of the [[MindlinkMates elf mating urge]] called Recognition. Fortunately, cooler heads prevail, he lets her go, apologizes and agrees to fight the urge, trying to undo the bad first impression by courting her in a civilized fashion. [[spoiler:They get things straightened out and end up HappilyMarried, which is less creepy than usual because Cutter wasn't in his right mind at the time of the abduction.]]
* The infamous issue #200 of ''Comicbook/TheAvengers'', where Comicbook/MsMarvel learns she was kidnapped, brainwashed, and raped...and we're supposed to see this as a good thing. A year later her creator Creator/ChrisClaremont fought back in ''Avengers Annual #10'', where it turns out she'd stayed out of contact with the Avengers due to their betraying her by letting her go off with her rapist, not realizing she was still brainwashed when she said she wanted to. She proceeds to epically chew them out and refuse to return to the team, opting to join the X-Men instead.
* In ''ComicBook/AdventureTimeTheFlipSide'', the plot is driven by Princess Portrait's desire to be kidnapped by Monkey Wizard, who is indifferent to her.

[[folder:Comic Strips]]
* A GettingCrapPastTheRadar RunningGag in the newspaper comic version of ''Literature/TheMoomins'' (which isn't outright child-inappropriate, but has more ParentalBonus than the novels) has Moomin's girlfriend the Snork Maiden blatantly having this as a sexual fantasy, and getting frustrated with his failure to pick up her hints that she'd like to roleplay it with him.

[[folder:Fairy Tales]]
* In ''Literature/TsarevitchIvanTheFireBirdAndTheGrayWolf'', the Wolf carries off Helena the Beautiful, but dries her tears when she sees the handsome Ivan, and soon they love each other. Given that he had kidnapped her because another king had demanded her -- it's a good thing they have the wolf on their side.
-->''Helen the Beautiful had been greatly frightened, but dried her tears quickly when she saw the handsome youth.''
** In ''[[http://www.surlalunefairytales.com/firebird/stories/direach.html MacIain Direach]]'', [=MacIain=] Direach must kidnap the princess to break a spell, so he lures her on shipboard and sails off before she realizes, but she reacts quickly.
-->''I am," said [=MacIain=] Direach, "going with thee to Eirinn, to give thee as a wife to the King of Eirinn, so that I may get from him his Yellow (Bay) Filly, to give her to the Big Women of Dhiurradh, that I may get from them their White Glave of Light, to give it to the Great Giant of the Five Heads, and Five Humps, and Five Throttles, that I may get from him his Blue Falcon, to take her home to my muime, that I may be free from my crosses, and from my spells, and from the bad diseases of the year."\\
And the King of France's daughter said, "I had rather be as a wife to thyself."''
** In ''[[http://www.surlalunefairytales.com/firebird/stories/birdgrip.html The Bird Grip]]'', the princess's feelings are not touched on until his brothers kill the prince who abducted her, but then she weeps bitterly.
** In ''[[http://www.surlalunefairytales.com/firebird/stories/goldbird.html The Golden Bird]]'', the princess tricks the prince into letting her rouse the castle. The king, however, sets him an EngagementChallenge, and when he succeeds, gives him the princess. Later, when his brothers kill him, she weeps all the time.
** In ''[[http://www.surlalunefairytales.com/firebird/stories/greekprincess.html The Greek Princess and the Young Gardener]]'', the princess again manages to rouse the castle, but when the youth gets an EngagementChallenge, she hopes he succeeds in it.
* In ''Literature/TheFireBirdTheHorseOfPowerAndThePrincessVasilissa'', the princess dislikes the tsar she has been abducted for because he is old, but falls in love with the archer who abducted her.

[[folder:Fan Fic]]
* In ''Manga/{{Bleach}}'', the [[TheDragon Ulquiorra]] [[TheHeartless Schiffer]]/[[TheChick Orihime]] [[TheHeart Inoue]] pairing is based around this trope.
* Averted in the Batman fanfic ''FanFic/BruceHasAProblem'' when Roxy abducts Dr. Resch and Dr. Resch makes it clear that he has no romantic interest in her.
* In the Literature/LordOfTheFlies fanfic ''FanFic/TwelveGirlsThirteenBoysAndSavages'', the twelve older boys do this to the twelve girls that have washed up on the island. Averted with most of the girls, since they have no interest in the boys, but subverted with Carly who shows attraction to the boys, but eventually played straight when Katie actually falls for Jack.
* This is how the relationship between [[TheSmartGuy Clover the Clever]] and [[LadykillerInLove Commander Hurricane]] really got started in ''FanFic/ABriefHistoryOfEquestria''; Hurricane had been flirting with Clover for some time without much success, but one night snuck into her room and carried her off for a romantic evening around the fledgling Equestria [[spoiler: arranged by Clover's boss Princess Platinum, who picked up on their interest right away]]. Afterwards, Clover was [[HappilyMarried much more receptive]] to Hurricane's flirting.

[[folder:Films -- Animated]]
* [[PlayingWithATrope Played With]] in ''WesternAnimation/StrangeMagic''. Dawn falls in love with [[EvilOverLord The Bog King]] who has her kidnapped as a hostage, but this is due to the effects of a {{love potion}}. [[spoiler: Her sister who breaks in to rescue her does fall in love with him, so its more of a case of Abduction of Family Members is love.]]

[[folder:Films -- Live-Action]]
* The page quote comes from the song "Sobbin' Women", from ''Film/SevenBridesForSevenBrothers''. The movie features a brood of socially awkward men who kidnap some townswomen they took a shining to during a town dance. They drew the inspiration for their act from a book which detailed the history of the Sabine women (see Mythology and Religion, below). Of course, the brothers, being ignorant hicks, misinterpreted the word ''Sabine'' as "Sobbin'"'. They also made a few other ignorant presumptions about how things would turn out. Fortunately for them, the girls they kidnapped did eventually fall in love with them (''after'' putting them all through the wringer for what they did...)
* In ''Film/RedEye'', Jackson Ripener holds Lisa "hostage" on their flight to get her to assist him in an assassination plot. It's implied that he developed feelings for her in the eight weeks he had to watch her prior to this and even ambiguously tells her that when they get out of this, he may have to "steal" her. Of course, she's not cool with any of this at any point in the film.
* In ''Film/TwentyEightDaysLater'', the few surviving soldiers seem to at least understand that 'borrowing' the last two uninfected women in England and keeping them against their will as breeding stock and female company is quite possibly immoral. They just don't care any more. They seem to think treating them with a thin veneer of decency will eventually make them warm to the concept, but it's just about enough to get them all [[KarmicDeath slaughtered horribly]] anyway.
* Spoofed in ''Film/{{Borat}}''; see RealLife below.
* The plot of ''Tie me up! Tie me down!'' (or ''Átame!'' in Spanish) revolves around a former psychiatric inmate trying to make a woman love him by abducting her and tying her to her bed. [[spoiler:And he succeeds, too. Well, [[BittersweetEnding sort of.]]]]
* ''Film/JewelRobbery'': In order for the Robber to get Baroness Teri alone and away from her husband, he kidnaps her under the false pretenses of being arrested by a detective.
* The plot of the Soviet comedy ''Film/KidnappingCaucasianStyle'' involves a young anthropology student named Shurik going to Caucasus to learn local customs. He ends up falling for a Caucasian girl named Nina. Unfortunately, a local political leader named Saakhov has also taken a liking to the girl. He makes a deal with Nina's uncle, who sells her for some sheep and a fridge. The uncle hires a trio of thugs to abduct the girl while on a hiking trip. When that fails, he convinces Shurik that Nina knows all about it and just wants to re-enact the traditional local custom of bride kidnapping. Shurik helps the trio perform the kidnapping, only to realize that he was tricked. He tries to free her. Meanwhile, Nina finds out about her uncle's deal and threatens to go on a hunger strike if they don't let her go.
* Used in ''Film/{{Stardust}}'' when Tristan accidentally is teleported by Babylon candle to Yvaine instead of to his mother and realizes that Yvaine is the fallen star:
-->'''Tristan:''' Oh, I, may I just say in advance that I'm sorry.
-->'''Yvaine:''' Sorry for what?
-->'''Tristan:''' For this. ''[Tristan takes out the enchanted chain and ties it around Yvaine's wrist]'' Now, if I'm not mistaken this means you have to come with me. You're going to be a birthday gift for Victoria, my true love.
-->'''Yvaine:''' ''[sarcastically]'' But of course! Nothing says "romance" like the gift of a kidnapped injured woman! I'm not going anywhere with you!
* In ''Film/TheWildWorldOfBatwoman'', one of Batwoman's nameless go-go dancing sidekick Batgirls ([[MakesJustAsMuchSenseInContext it's an odd movie]]) is abducted by two henchmen to hold hostage, but rescued by Batwoman. Later on when a mad scientist's Happy Pills makes all the good guys dance uncontrollably ([[MakesJustAsMuchSenseInContext ahem]]), one of the henchmen, Tiger, takes to opportunity to snatch her again, having apparently developed a little crush on her. He treats her nicely, though, and eventually pulls a HeelFaceTurn for her, so they wind up HappilyEverAfter.
* In ''Film/{{Oyayubihime}}'', Saiko goes out of her way to treat Yuichi with love and affection after shrinking him in the hopes that he'll reciprocate her feelings towards him.
* A milder, comedic example forms the plot of ''Film/{{Overboard}}''.
* In ''Film/MarketaLazarova'', where [[spoiler:Mikolas]] takes [[spoiler:Marketa]] to be his concubine/slave. She eventually falls in love and marries him.
* Arguably the case with Frank and Sarah in ''Film/{{Red}}''. He does it to try to protect her, but still...

* Referenced to in ''Literature/TheAdventuresOfTomSawyer'' when Tom tells Huck that as robbers, all they have to do to win women is to take away their belongings but not harm them and talk nicely and politely to them until they won't let go of them even when given the chance.
* John Fowles' ''Literature/TheCollector'' is a deconstruction. The novel is the classically creepy tale of a young man who first stalks the girl of his dreams, then abducts her and keeps her in his basement. The rest of the book relates the dream-girl's increasingly desperate ploys to escape.
* ''Literature/TheCourtshipOfPrincessLeia'' has Han abduct Leia. [[spoiler: (Unlike most examples of this trope, it eventually worked; she married him.)]]
* Edward's breaking of Bella's truck so she cannot escape him in ''Literature/{{Twilight}}'' is portrayed as an act of love. Come to that, Bella and Edward's entire relationship is based on Edward doing manipulative, controlling, or just plain creepy things with Bella (and the narrator) deciding that [[StalkingIsLove this is somehow endearing and romantic]]. YMMV on how creepy this is, because Edward ''probably'' means well and would probably be doing a lot better at this [[ThereAreNoTherapists if someone would bother to get him some counselling.]]
* In the Namornese empire for Literature/CircleOfMagic, they have a tradition of kidnapping women before marriage, which Sandry is horrified to learn. Generally, the "kidnapping" used to be a mutual agreement between a young couple trying to bypass a family's disapproval, or a way to 'spice up' marriage vows. It has now turned into something quite ugly. A lot of men are sure their new wives will come around eventually. As one could expect, though, many do ''not''. And when [[spoiler:Shan and Fin]] attempt this on Sandry... well, it ends badly.
* Part of Darko Kerim's backstory in the original ''Literature/JamesBond'' novel ''Literature/FromRussiaWithLove''. Specifically, his treatment of a captured woman falls just short of rape (not that he has any objection to that) and is about two steps away from "[[Literature/TheSilenceOfTheLambs It rubs the lotion on its skin.]]" But hey, by the time someone called him on it, she had gone from wanting to kill him to not wanting to leave, so he's cool.
%%* Most, if not all of, the ''Literature/{{Gor}}'' novels.
* Attempted by a couple antagonists in ''Literature/{{Ivanhoe}},'' with a garbled reference to the Tribe of Benjamin. It doesn't work for them.
* In ''London'', Orlando Barnikel kidnaps the girlfriend of a playwright whose inept and racist work made him a laughingstock, and she winds up bearing her captor's children. Unusual in that he'd originally invoked this trope as payback against his detractor, and while neither actually fell in love with the other, he came to care enough to leave her a fortune in his will.
* ''Literature/ASongOfIceAndFire''
** Many cultures practice this, including the wildlings, the Ironborn, and probably the Dothraki as well. Bride capture is ingrained in wildling society; a wildling woman won't even respect a potential mate unless he kidnaps her, [[AccidentalMarriage something Jon Snow finds out by accident only after he performs what he thought was standard captive-taking and the wildlings considered a binding proposal]]. The differences in marital traditions north and south of the Wall become particularly evident when Stannis' southron knights become convinced that they can simply wed the wildling Princess Val and expect her to settle down as a respectable courtly wife, no matter how many times they're told she would never have an ounce of respect for someone who didn't best her first.
** It is disputed by characters and fans alike what exactly the relationship was between Lyanna Stark and Rhaegar Targaryen [[PosthumousCharacter before they both died]]. It is unclear whether they were in love and eloped, whether he kidnapped her and then they fell in love, or whether he kidnapped and raped her. Robert Baratheon firmly believes the latter (which is unsurprising since Lyanna is his [[TheLostLenore lost love]]), but virtually everyone else, including Lyanna's brother, think this is very unlikely, given Rhaegar's reputation for being a good man.
* Used in ''Literature/WatershipDown'', of all things, when the buck rabbits of Hazel's new warren conspire to get does from other warrens. Subverted in that Hazel's looking for volunteers and the does of Efrafra are more than happy to emigrate, and also in that, unlike other uses of this trope, actual ''lust'' is not a motive: with no estrus females around, the bucks all preoccupy themselves with thoughts of food instead of sex, so it's up to forward-thinking Hazel to realize their warren needs breeders if it's to outlive its all-male founders.
* The third book in the ''Literature/WindOnFire'' series, ''Firesong'', features the young women of the group being kidnapped by nomadic warriors. Fortunately, due to a mixture of mind-reading and very lucky coincidence, they manage to escape and seal the warriors in their crater home perpetually. Little given away, as it is very, very good.
* In the third Colossus book (Colossus and the Crab) the super-computer that rules the world starts running people through experiments to understand people (i.e. takes a guy up on his word that he would "die for his people's independence"). Colossus then kidnaps the wife of the main character (and designer of the US half of Colossus) and hands her over to an unwashed peasant who slaps her down if she asserts herself and rapes her when she doesn't cooperate. [[spoiler: Eventually she begins to warm to him because he's just a big old (raping) baby who doesn't know any better. When he's killed for refusing to give her up when the "experiment" is over, she's devastated and, when put back in contact with her husband, sneers at him because he's obviously a weakling who couldn't take her from her more elemental captor.]]
%%* The entire plot of ''Literature/TheSheik.''
* In the world of ''Literature/ABrothersPrice'', men are very rare and valuable. Years ago the [[HeroicBastard Whistler women]] abducted the fifteen-year-old prince Alannon. He was not happy about this, but because that entire branch of his family was soon executed for treason for their part in the [[CivilWar War of the False Eldest]], he decided to be philosophical about it. His grandchildren describe their grandmothers as [[LimaSyndrome being run ragged]] trying to make him happy, from building a bathhouse despite not knowing what they were doing to teaching their sons to be [[SpiritedYoungLady Spirited Young Gentlemen]] rather than [[ProperLady Proper Gentlemen]]. The practice of "husband raids" ''has'' been made socially unacceptable since that time; there are laws against it, and every member of a family which contains men is aware of the possibility and willing to fight furiously to prevent it. However, these laws were enacted not out of empathy for the men who would be kidnapped, but for the sake of cohesion within the country. It's hard to trust your neighbors if they kidnapped your brother before you could sell him.
* In ''Literature/ThePhantomOfTheOpera'', Erik (the Phantom) becomes jealous when he sees the growing attraction between Raoul and Christine, so he kidnaps Christine and tries to force her to marry him by threatening to kill Raoul if she doesn't. To save Raoul's life, Christine agrees to marry Erik and gives him a kiss. Erik, who has never been kissed before (even his own mother wouldn't kiss him because of his deformed face), is so overcome with emotion that he [[IWantMyBelovedToBeHappy lets Christine go and tells her to marry Raoul]]. All he asks in return is that when he dies she will come back and bury him.
* In ''Literature/{{Edenborn}}'', [[spoiler:Deuce]] tries this on [[spoiler:Penny.]] Lucky for him, she's really into it.
* In ''Stara Baśń'' by Józef Ignacy Kraszewski, Doman tries to carry Dziwa away during Kupala Night, after his marriage offer is refused. Unfortunately for him, she actually puts up a fight and ends up wounding him badly with his own sword. [[spoiler: He tries again, at the very end, and this time actually succeeds.]]
* The linchpin of the goblins and the elves in the Literature/HollowKingdomTrilogy. The kings of both must marry outside their species in order to carry their magic forward (humans for elves, any sentient species for goblins).
** The goblin kings have certainly ''tried'' to make this work: it's explained that the goal of every king is to produce a son stronger than him, but the feelings of ''both'' parents must be in accord. The more a king's wife cares for her new subjects, the better a son she will have. The goblins also steal elf women in order to shore up magic, as goblin women tend to be sterile.
** The elf kings, before they died out, started to care less and less about this. Once they'd stolen a bride, they would give them a drink to induce amnesia in them, so there wouldn't be any pesky yearning for human family or comforts. [[spoiler:This backfired on them massively with the wife of Aganir Melim-bar. Once she got pregnant, he would have no more to do with her, and she took revenge by switching her baby, Ash, with an ordinary elf baby. Only the elf king is cross-fertile with human women, so the false king produced no heir before getting killed by something the real elf king would have shrugged off. Centuries passed before Ash's magicless descendant married a human woman and produced a new elf king.]]
* ''Literature/PercyJacksonAndTheOlympians'': In Percy's retelling of the stories of the Gods, he has Hades actually going to Zeus for advice on how to court Persephone. Hades has the idea to talk to Demeter and ask permission or declare his feelings to Persephone, but Zeus goes for one of his favored methods, "I suggest kidnapping." And the rest is history.
* ''Literature/HeartOfSteel'' plays with this, in that Julia is captured incidentally while scuba diving with her boyfriend off the coast of Shark Reef Isle, but once the Island's master, Alistair Mechanus, sees her (injured but cleaned up), he falls instantly in love and doesn't want to let her go.
* In the ''Literature/TravisShorts'' episode, "Jealousy", Kasey captures Travis once he finds out he has a girlfriend in an attempt to force him to fall in love with him.
* ''Literature/TheThinkingMachine'': In "The Mystery of a Studio", a MadArtist abducts the woman who was his muse when he learns she does not return his love.

[[folder: Live-Action TV ]]
%%* ''Series/IntoTheWest'' plays with this.
* ''Series/{{The 100}}'' has Lincoln abducting Octavia. And Octavia falling for him because he only caught her to heal her and because he is totally into her.
* Grilka to Quark in ''Series/StarTrekDeepSpaceNine'', with Grilka as the abductor. To explain, Quark killed Grilka's husband in self-defense (actually, the drunk Klingon fell on his own knife). Since her House would lose its position without a male to lead it, Grilka forces Quark to marry her. Her goal is to convince Gowron to grant the House special dispensation to allow a female to rule it and be on the Council. Eventually, Gowron does so, and Quark asks for a divorce. Apparently, the latter involves Grilka spitting out a few Klingon curses, punching him in the face, and physically spitting on him. There is a later episode, where Grilka returns to the station, and Quark tries to start a romance with her by asking Worf to teach him how to woo a Klingon female.
* ''Series/CriminalMinds'' has an episode called "Bloodline" which dealt with a family that fancied themselves modern day gypsies kidnapping girls to get a bride for their adolescent son. It was revealed that the mother was similarly kidnapped as a child.
* ''Series/FrontierCircus'': In a rare male example, Ben and Tony are kidnapped by a clan patriarch who drags them away to marry two of his daughters in "The Clan [=MacDuff=]". It is implied that this is not the first time he has done this.
* ''Series/GeneralHospital'''s Emily and Zander got started when he kidnapped her after being falsely accused of killing a cop. While on the run, they bonded, probably simultaneously developing StockholmSyndrome and LimaSyndrome and began dating once he was cleared of charges.

* Depending on your interpretation, it's disturbingly likely that the StalkerWithACrush from Music/{{Evanescence}}'s song ''Snow White Queen'' [[ParanoiaFuel would attempt this with his "beloved" given the opportunity]].

[[folder:Mythology and Religion]]
* The reference to the Sabine women (and the [[TruthInTelevision ancient accepted practice of bride-kidnapping]] among conquering civilizations) makes this OlderThanFeudalism. In the Roman story, Romulus realized that the band of settlers on the hills of Rome was awful short on women, so he took it upon himself to invite the nearby Sabine people to a big festival (according to most myths, a footrace). At his signal, each Roman picked a Sabine woman and ran off with her. In general, they turned out to be OK with it eventually. By the time the war with the Sabines (and the other nations who had been defeated by this point) had reached the Capitoline, the warring fathers were now grandfathers. The fighting finally ended in the marsh between the Capitoline and Palatine Hills, where the daughters rushed out with children and begged for them to stop.
** This is usually referred to as "the rape of the Sabine women", but the original meaning of "rape" was just "to seize or carry off" (from Latin ''rapere'') and doesn't necessarily mean anything other than that (though it often did imply sexual violence, which is how the word acquired its current meaning). Livy, who wrote Rome's history under Augustus, claimed that the Roman men won the Sabine women's hearts with blandishments and puppy dog eyes before laying a hand on them.
* In the [[Literature/TheBible Biblical Old Testament]], Judges 21:10-24, men from the tribe of Benjamin find themselves with no women to marry, so they abduct women from Shiloh to be their wives. When the fathers and brothers of the kidnapped women come to retrieve the women, the Israelites ask for permission to keep them, "...for we didn't find enough wives for them [the Benjaminites] when we destroyed Jabesh-gilead." No word though on whether the captive women ever warmed up to their captors at all.
** Earlier, the Bible had Shechem kidnap, rape, and decide to marry Dinah, the daughter of Jacob. Her brothers agreed to the marriage if Shechem and all his countrymen agreed to be circumcised. Three days after the countrymen comply, her brothers turn out [[KillEmAll not to like this trope very much]].
* Various versions of the Amazon myth invert this, with the isolated community of [[ActionGirl female warriors]] ensuring that they maintain a [[LadyLand sizeable population]] and do not run out of [[AmazonBrigade soldiers]] by kidnapping males from the outside world. Not all of those kidnapped [[OutWithABang survive the experience]]. Creator/{{Herodotus}} records that the Amazons eventually met their match in a band of Scythians, removing the need for this custom.
* This trope is prevalent in Myth/ClassicalMythology:
** When Hades fell in love with Persephone, he kidnapped her and took her to his underground kingdom. Persephone’s own feelings on the whole matter and whether or not she was later tricked into eating the pomegranate seeds vary between different versions of the myth. However, the fact remains that these two ended up as one of the most stable marriages in Greek mythology.
** Before Persephone, there was Leuce. Hades fell in love with her and abducted her like he later did with his second wife. When Leuce died, she was transformed by Hades into the first white poplar tree.
** Zeus carried away several of his lovers. He turned into a bull to kidnap Europa and into an eagle to take away Ganymedes.
** The god of the north wind, Boreas, kidnapped Orithyia, daughter of King Erekhtheus of Athens, after she rejected his advances out of fear.
** Zephyrus abducted the nymph Chloris to become his wife. Later, he also helped Eros carry Psyche away to his palace.
** Apollo saw the nymph Cyrene wrestling with a lion that had attacked her father's sheep. [[AmazonChaser Impressed by her strength, he fell in love with her]] and kidnapped her to Libia. There he founded a city in her name and made her its queen. Together they had two sons - Aristaeus and Idmon.
** Theseus did it twice. He carried away one of the Amazons - Antiope or Hippolyte. Some versions of this story claim that the woman in question fell in love with him and came willingly. Either way, the other Amazons saw this as a kidnapping and attacked Athens to get their sister back. Much later in his life, Theseus abducted Helen of Troy when she was just a little girl and left her with his mother, hoping to marry her when she came of age. She was rescued by her brothers while Theseus and his friend Pirithous were away, [[TooDumbToLive trying to kidnap Persephone from Hades]].
** Hippothoe, daughter of Mestor, was abducted by Poseidon, who took her to the Echinades Islands. She later gave birth to his son, Taphius.
** Eos was cursed by Aphrodite with unsatisfiable sexual desire for sleeping with Ares, Aphrodite's favourite lover. Because of this, she carried away many handsome young men to be her lovers, including Tithonus, Cephalus and Orion. Like other gods in the Greek pantheon, she [[DoubleStandardRapeDivineOnMortal didn't particularly care that the objects of her affection may have been unwilling or already married.]]
** Asopides, the daughters of river-god Asopus, were frequent targets of this trope: Aegina, Thebe and Plataea were kidnapped by Zeus; Corcyra, Salamis and Euboea were abducted by Poseidon; Sinope and Thespia were carried away by Apollo; and Tanagra was kidnapped by Hermes. Asopus actually tried to prevent the abduction of Aegina, but was shot with one of Zeus’ thunderbolts.
* Old legends about {{selkies|AndWereseals}} sometimes featured this. A selkie, in mythology, is a seal that can remove its seal skin revealing itself to be a beautiful woman underneath. In the old legends, men would find a selkie woman sunbathing without her skin. By stealing the skin and hiding it, they can get the selkie woman to marry them, have kids, and live happily for years. However, if the woman finds the skin, she'll take it and go off into the sea, never to return again.
** This myth is surprisingly prevalent among cultures. Swan-women and celestial maidens could also be wooed by stealing their magical garments, and would likewise flee if they recovered them.
** And in a gender-inverted version, there is one story of a clever girl tricking a [[HellishHorse kelpie]] out of the bridle that gave him his shapeshifting powers and ''putting him to work as a draft horse for ten years'', at the end of which the kelpie marries her and is baptized as a Christian, turning him human forever.
* This shows up in both the ''Literature/{{Ramayana}}'' and ''Literature/{{Mahabharata}}'' and has both the unwanted and wanted varieties. The only way elopement was accepted was if the potential groom kidnapped the bride-to-be and was able to get back to his kingdom with her without her other suitors catching up to them and killing him. This leads to situations in which the young women write to the men that they love something akin to "I'll be leaving the temple at this time without bodyguards, come kidnap me then". Unfortunately, there are also many situations in which they get kidnapped and made to marry someone they didn't particularly care for either. Interestingly, what is painted in the worst light is not kidnapping someone who doesn't like you, it's kidnapping them and then trying to return them without marrying them. This happens to Bhishma in the ''Mahabharata'', where he kidnaps three girls for his brother to marry. His brother marries one of them, but the other two are left DefiledForever because Bhishma won't do the honorable thing and marry them (he's a CelibateHero who's taken a vow).

[[folder:Professional Wrestling]]
* In the fall of 1999, Wrestling/TripleH was antagonizing Wrestling/VinceMcMahon and his family. One way he did that was by secretly marrying his daughter Wrestling/{{Stephanie|McMahon}}. At Wrestling/ArmageddonWrestling that year, Triple H faced Vince in a match with the stipulation that he would annul the marriage if he lost. Stephanie cost Vince the match, beginning the [=McMahon=]-Helmsley regime. [[LifeImitatesArt They later got married in]] RealLife.

[[folder:Tabletop Games]]
* The Neathar, a culture of Neolithic NobleSavage tribesfolk in TabletopGame/{{Mystara}}'s Hollow World, routinely abduct brides from neighboring Neathar tribes.

* ''Theatre/ThePiratesOfPenzance'' operetta (as well as the modernized adaptation''The Pirate Movie'', based on it) features a band of matrimonially minded pirates who try to woo/capture the daughters of a Major-General. (It's a good thing the number of pirates and the number of daughters matched up and that, in the movie, the ugly daughter was willing to be matched with the ugly pirate.)
* In ''Theatre/TheTamingOfTheShrew'', Petruchio kidnaps Kate after their wedding ceremony. It's really more for show than anything else, since she was going to go with him anyway, but she still doesn't enjoy it.
* ''Theatre/TheDesertSong'': Margot is kidnapped by the Red Shadow.
* Creator/{{USLES}} villains often believe this, or try to exploit it. Abanazar in ''Aladdin'' in particular; he keeps Princess Amira in chains to try to force her to marry him. Leonardo in ''Beauty and the Beast'' also seems to like this trope, as he handcuffs Belle to his kitchen sink. Naturally, these villains are proved wrong.

[[folder:Video Games]]
* Platonic example - Big Boss's mass kidnapping of soldiers in ''VideoGame/MetalGearSolidPortableOps'' and ''VideoGame/MetalGearSolidPeaceWalker''. They start out as his enemies, but after being knocked out, captured and intimidated into joining him, they become legendarily loyal and willing to die for him. In the latter game, 'hostility' (resistance to joining Big Boss) is [[BrainWashed labelled in the menu as a 'Sickness']], although some soldiers will retain profile quotes about how they don't quite trust Big Boss yet.
* In the ''Franchise/SuperMarioBros'' games, Bowser's reasons for kidnapping Peach usually boil down to him having a crush on her.
* ''VideoGame/BahamutLagoon'': Palpaleos kidnaps Princess Yoyo, and then they fall in love.
* ''VideoGame/GrandTheftAutoV'': Trevor kidnaps a 50-something housewife from GTA's most psychotic mob boss yet. Trevor is indeed GTA's most psychotic ''protagonist'' yet. And then they hit it off anyway. Explanation:
-->'''Michael:''' Yeah, thirty years of marriage to the world's craziest mob boss would make ANYONE insane!
* Inverted in ''VideoGame/FinalFantasyIX'' with Zidane kidnapping Garnet, only for him to start to like her. Garnet/Dagger, meanwhile, doesn't like him back until [[RescueRomance he personally help her with her problems.]]
** Also played with in the sense that Garnet specifically ''requests Zidane to kidnap her'' in order to get her away from her [[GodSaveUsFromTheQueen megalomaniac mother]]. Granted, the plan was already set in motion to kidnap her anyway, but her willingly going along with it makes things less coercive.
* ''VideoGame/HeartNoKuniNoAlice'': Peter certainly seems to think this trope is true.

[[folder:Visual Novels]]
* ''VisualNovel/War13thDay'': In one ending, Chase carries off Ambrosia with him onto a ship and sets sail.
* In a hidden plotline in ''VisualNovel/UnderTheMoon'', the heroine, Ashe, gets carried off by an allegedly [[EmotionlessGirl emotionless boy]] who is trying to prevent her from falling in love. It's a vague sort of StockholmSyndrome; Ashe is not exactly his captive but he is the only person she has to interact with. One thing leads to another, Ashe [[DefrostingIceQueen defrosts the ice prince]], ''and'' discovers that he's [[CasualKink a bit kinky]].

* In ''Webcomic/RasputinBarxotka'', this happens on several occasions:
** Marlborina resents the fact that Camello was unable to kidnap her before marrying Lucky.
** When Camello offered himself for alien abduction and far more nefarious activities to the Zetas.

[[folder:Web Original]]
* In ''Roleplay/BehindTheVeil'', Jon got kidnapped by June, then Jon falls in love with June. Note that Jon is a werewolf.
* In an inversion, WebVideo/TheNostalgiaChick kept trying to kidnap WebVideo/ToddInTheShadows and engineer a romance between them, even tying him down and forcing him to watch ''Film/SleeplessInSeattle'' with her. It never stuck, though, as his brain is apparently literally filled with thoughts of [[Creator/AllisonPregler Obscurus Lupa.]]
* Deconstructed when Hyper Fangirl kidnapped WebVideo/TheNostalgiaCritic and held him as a CaptiveDate for two weeks. Even after she had a VillainousBreakdown and disappeared for a few months, it fucked him up and invoked StockholmSyndrome while also considering it to be her MoralEventHorizon.

[[folder:Western Animation]]
* In ''WesternAnimation/AdventureTime'', this is pretty much the Ice King's modus operandi.
* [[GenkiGirl Yo]] from ''WesternAnimation/FanboyAndChumChum'' is ''obsessed'' with the latter protagonist. In the first season, there were 3 episodes in which her attempts to kidnap Chum Chum were a major plot point. [[note]]''Brain Drain'', ''The Incredible Shrinking Fanboy'' and ''Trading Day''.[[/note]] [[FriendVersusLover She sees Fanboy as the greatest hurdle between her and Chum Chum]] and most of her plans start with distracting him. So far, the creepiest example of getting rid of Fanboy was [[WhoEvenNeedsABrain stealing his brain]] and ''hiding it in her backpack''. As for abducting Chum Chum, she once trapped him in a giant virtual pet case. In later episodes, he is noticeably less friendly and more frightened of her.
* On ''WesternAnimation/JimmyTwoShoes'', Heloise has chained Jimmy up, [[HarmlessFreezing freezed him solid]], and swept him away with a HumongousMecha, all to keep him close to her. And she's still [[ShipTease the most likely candidate]] for his heart.
* In ''WesternAnimation/GravityFalls'', the gang run past the trope image when in a museum.

[[folder:Real Life]]
* In the early nineteenth-century, long after RealLife abduction was growing "less fashionable" in the American backcountry, it was common for a ritualized abduction to happen at weddings. This custom was descended from the Scottish [[GrimUpNorth border country]]. Similar customs are known in various parts of the world.
* This was a popular way for nomads of the Eurasian steppe to get a wife. This was especially the case since in order to get a wife, you generally had to work for her family for a year, so the poor and unconnected couldn't do so. This was the case of the Mongols, as UsefulNotes/GenghisKhan's mother was taken this way by his father. However, he outlawed it once he became Great Khan as he recognized the damage it did to the tribal society he was trying to unite. It should also be noted that his wife Borte had been kidnapped by a rival tribe and the fact that she came back pregnant and [[MamasBabyPapasMaybe the paternity of the son she bore was in doubt]] had long term consequences for the empire. In Sparta, this actually became ritualized; after formalizing an engagement, men would break into their brides' houses and "kidnap" them from their (willing) families as part of the wedding ceremony.
* [[http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bride_kidnapping Still a tradition in many parts of the world today]], including the above-mentioned Eurasian steppe, though today it tends to be practiced with the consent of the bride to be.
* Some sources claim the original female population of Iceland was mostly kidnapped from Ireland and/or Scotland. While it is known from genetic research that 60-70% of the female ancestors of Icelanders were Gaelic, it is unclear whether they were mostly abducted or willing brides from the Norse-Gael settlements in Scotland and Ireland. According to contemporary - and indignant - clerical chroniclers Vikings were considered seriously hot by Christian women who appreciated their habits of bathing regularly and combing their hair.
* TruthInTelevision. The word "Best" in Best Man refers to his skill with a sword, as the original reason a groom needed one was to help protect the bride from being kidnapped, or possibly be stolen ''back'' by her family or escape on her own.
* In modern military weddings where the groom wears his sword (traditionally on the left side), he will stand on the left so that the sword doesn't ''literally ''come between them.
* This is, in fact, the origin of the "honeymoon" -- in the days when marriages were often less-than-consensual and the bride's extended family might well try to take her back (regardless of the bride's feelings in the matter either way), it made sense for the newly-married groom to carry his bride off to some remote place and wait until people at least stopped caring enough to seek revenge or until she got pregnant (this was back in the day when being a single mother was very taboo).
* The marriage ceremony of the Himba people in Namibia and Angola includes a ritualized version of this where the husband and his family "kidnap" the bride and take her home with them.
* In the Amazon Basin people originally lived in small tribes that were basically family groups. Because everyone was related in some way the men's only real option was to raid one of the other tribes that they were always at war with. This was important for them not only because women carried on the family line, but they were the only ones who knew how to make the sacred cheecha beer.
* Marjorie, Countess of Carrick, was so infatuated with Robert de Brus, 6th Lord of Annandale (who had visited to inform her of the death of her first husband, Adam of Kilconquhar, in the Eighth Crusade) that she held him captive in her castle until he agreed to marry her. Their son became the famed Scottish King Robert the Bruce.
* ''[[https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wife-carrying Eukonkanto]]'': the Finnish sport of "wife-carrying", in which a man has to physically carry a female team-mate (not necessarily a wife) over an obstacle course, is believed to be an echo of older times. In which a man either had to abduct a bride by force from other people who would seek to pursue, or else to get her out of the way of unmarried men seeking to abduct. [[note]]These days, the champion received the coveted prize of his "wife"'s weight in beer[[/note]]
* This was essentially the core of ritual abduction, a practice of ancient Greece and Crete, which citizens felt was justified by the myth of Zeus abducting Ganymede. Since the myth is [[HoYay homosexual]], this was the traditional custom among pederasts who would, with the help of their target's friends, snatch the younger male away and shower him with gifts and attention. It was never to keep him away altogether, as he was always returned safe and sound by the end of the ritual, but that always took two months and the only one who really had a choice in this situation was the older guy who attempted to buy his love.