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->''I'll have what she's having.''

[[DeadpanSnarker Harry Burns]] and [[WideEyedIdealist Sally Albright]] first meet when they share a drive from college in Chicago to NewYorkCity. He's seeing her friend Amanda and comes on to her; she turns him down but says they can be friends. He points out that the guy friend will always be attracted to the female friend and want to sleep with her, thus they decide not to be friends. They revisit the question five years later when they are both taken and run into each other in an airport, once again resolving that no, they cannot.

Five years later, both of them re-meet after having been dumped by their other halves, and become friends. They resolve to [[JustFriends just be friends]]... for most of the movie they ''succeed'' in this. Their relationship has little sexual tension, and is punctuated by extended conversations where they discuss love, friendship, scatalogical humor and ''Film/{{Casablanca}}''. The {{Aesop}} seems to be that people really [[ThePowerOfFriendship need friendships]]- the nonsexual comfort zone Harry and Sally establish with each other is what allows them to move on from their failed relationships. To each other, in case you haven't [[ForegoneConclusion figured that out yet]].

In terms of the RomanticComedy genre, this movie's main contribution was its popularization of ContemplateOurNavels as a form of CharacterDevelopment and emotional connection -- Harry and Sally are defined almost entirely by their interactions with each other. What external factors do exist they usually discuss with each other directly and personally.

Viewers familiar with the modern RomCom may be caught off-guard, as this movie lacks the HighConcept and HotterAndSexier tropes the genre is famous for. There's almost no sex or even provocative clothing. There's vastly more scenes of people in bed, alone, wearing pyjamas and talking on the phone than getting their sex on. The "R" rating was likely due to the famed restaurant scene and couple of swearwords.

Billy Crystal and director Creator/RobReiner recently appeared in a [[RealTrailerFakeMovie spoof trailer]] on [=FunnyOrDie=].com for ''[[http://www.funnyordie.com/videos/0247468f28/when-harry-met-sally-2-with-billy-crystal-helen-mirren When Harry Met Sally 2]]'', where ExecutiveMeddling has turned a continuation of the original film into a shameless cashing in on the vampire craze.

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!!I'd like some Trope on the side:
* SeventiesHair: Sally is sporting Farrah hair in college.
* AlliterativeName: Harry's ex, Helen Hillson.
** ValuesDissonance: Harry mentions that she's keeping her maiden name (presumably for business purposes) during his engagement. This is clearly meant as foreshadowing since Helen's not that into Harry and will ditch him at the first opportunity. In a post-feminist world, taking your husband's last name isn't really a qualifier.
* AnalogyBackfire: Harry articulating why enough time has passed that he can ignore having sex with Sally that one time. Also a hint that he's sliding back into his old, insufferable self.
-->'''Harry''': You know how a year to a person is like seven years to a dog?
-->'''Sally''' [{{beat}}] Is one of us supposed to be a '''dog''' in this scenario?
* ArmorPiercingSlap: Sally cracks her hand on Harry's face at Jess and Marie's wedding. Ooph.
* ArcWords: "Men and women can never be friends."
* BackhandedApology: A famous one delivered by Harry at the end.
* BackhandedCompliment: Lampshaded by Sally when Harry compliments her on being less "uptight" than she used to be.
-->'''Harry:''' Alright, you're ''still'' as tough as nails.
* BadDate: Harry and Sally spend a good deal of time talking about these. Mostly played for comedy, but can get dramatic, too.
* BadNewsInAGoodWay: Helen, true to her profession, suggests a 'trial separation' from Harry. They can still date each other. ("Like ''this'' is supposed to cushion the blow.")
* BeardOfSorrow: Harry has had a few weeks' growth by the time of his divorce.
* BigApplesauce
* BlindDate
* BreakUpMakeUpScenario
* BriarPatching: Harry is the undisputed master.
* CaliforniaDoubling: They drive off the University of Chicago campus on the south side to New York.... via a picturesque segment of Lake Shore Drive headed toward the south side [Did they have to visit a friend at Northwestern, Depaul or Loyola first?]
* {{Catchphrase}}: You're right. You're right. I know you're right."
* ChekhovsGun: Harry roping Sally into singing a show tune duet. He apparently bought the karaoke machine, because he uses it to serenade Sally in apology later.
* ChekhovsLecture: Harry's hypothesis on why men and women can't be platonic.
* ChildHater: Harry getting into a spat with a kid at the ballfield.
-->'''Kid:''' (Big jerk.)\\
'''Harry:''' (Little creep.)
* ComicallyMissingThePoint: Sally loudly fakes an orgasm in the middle of a restaurant, and a patron thinks something Sally ate was just that good.
* DangerTakesABackSeat: PlayedForLaughs on the plane, when Sally fails to escape Harry's recognition.
* DeadpanSnarker: Harry more than Sally, but Sally has her moments
* DuckSeasonRabbitSeason: Arguments with Harry usually devolve into this.
* EveryoneCanSeeIt: Most notably mentioned in the post-sex phone call scene.
* EyeTake: During a montage, there is a quick scene of a Chinese restaurant. Sally gesticulates wildly as she's describing her order, and the waiter shares one of these with Harry.
* FateDrivesUsTogether: "Someone is staring at you in Personal Growth."
** Not just the title couple, but one of the old couples.
** Couple #4 is an inversion; they were born in the same building, worked in the same office, and never met once (until a fateful elevator ride in another city).
* FauxDocumentary: The interviews with elderly married couples that are sprinkled throughout the movie. The stories were based on real-life couples, but portrayed by actors.
* FinishingEachOthersSentences: Couple #3 engage in this.
* FollowTheLeader: ''When Harry Met Sally'' shares more than a few similarities with ''Film/AnnieHall'' and ''Manhattan''.
* {{Foreshadowing}}: Helen opting to keep her surname. (It should be noted that plenty of happily-married women keep their surname, but it's definitely meant to be ominous here.)
** Also, Harry's confession that his dates always end with him desperate to pull his clothes on and flee out the door.
* FreakOut: Harry has a meltdown after bumping into his ex and her new boyfriend at The Sharper Image. Sally seems to be showing more maturity than he -- that is, until she hears about Joe's engagement.
* TheFreelanceShameSquad: "It just so happens that I have had '''plenty of good sex!'''" [cricket chirp]
* FunnyAnsweringMachine: In reverse. Harry fills up Sally's machine with profuse apologies.
--> *beep* "Hi, it's me! It is the holiday season and I thought I'd just remind you that this is the season for charity and forgiveness. And although it's not widely known, it is also [[AintTooProudToBeg the season of groveling]]. So if you felt like calling me back, I'd be more than happy to do the traditional Christmas grovel."
** And in the next scene:
-->"The fact that you're not answering leads me to believe you're either [[ForInconveniencePressOne (a) not at home, (b) home but don't want to talk to me]], or [[BreadEggsMilkSquick (c) home, desperately want to talk to me, but trapped under something heavy]]. If it's either (a) or (c), please call me back."
* GallowsHumor: Harry peruses the obituary section when hunting for apartments.
-->"Mr Kline died yesterday, leaving behind a wife, two children, and [[TheTriple a spacious three bedroom apartment with a wood burning fireplace]]."
** Later, he [[DudeNotFunny makes the mistake]] of cracking wise about Ethiopian food in front of his date. "We order two empty plates, and then we can leave."
* GilliganCut: "If she wants to call me, she'll call me. I'm ''through'' making a schmuck out of myself!" [cut to Harry singing karaoke to Sally over the phone]
* GirlOfTheWeek: The other people Harry and Sally briefly date (Julian; "Aunt" Emily in particular)
* HelloAttorney: Helen.
* HypocriticalHumor: Sally can't recall the name of her room-mate in college. A scene later, she shames Harry for forgetting her name, too.
-->'''Harry:''' Riiiight, I remember her, Amanda Rice--\\
'''Sally:''' Reese.\\
'''Harry:''' --Amanda Reese, that's what I said. ''(changes subject)''
** Jess and Marie promising not to ditch their dates... and then diving head-first into the nearest cab.
** Jess and Marie being woken up by a pair of desperate phone calls.
--->'''Jess:''' ''(to Marie)'' No one '''I''' know would call at this hour.\\
''(Harry calls, Jess picks up)''\\
'''Jess:''' [[IRejectYourReality NO ONE I KNOW WOULD CALL AT THIS HOUR!]]
* IDontWantToRuinOurFriendship: Ironically, it proves Harry's point that sex ruins friendships. Not that Harry feels very victorious about it.
* TheImmodestOrgasm: Sally fakes one in the middle of a crowded deli to prove a point to Harry.
** Some consider this [[AllThereIsToKnowAboutTheCryingGame all there is to know about When Harry Met Sally]].
* IncrediblyLameFun: Battery-operated [[AdventurerOutfit pith helmet]]! [[AndADietCoke With fan.]]
-->'''Sally:''' [wearing hat] ''Why'' is this necessary in life?\\
'''Harry:''' [[SlicesDicesAndMakesJulienneFries Also makes great fries.]]
** Grieving over his ex, Harry finds himself watching reruns of ''LeaveItToBeaver'' on Telemundo. By his own admission, he's not a well man.
--->"Buenos dias Señor Cleaver. ¿Donde esta Wallace y Theodore?"
* InelegantBlubbering: Sally hearing the news of her ex's engagement.
* InsistentTerminology: The official title of the film is ''When Harry Met Sally...'', including the ellipses.
* {{Joisey}}: During his doomed date with Marie, Harry reveals his birthplace: [[Franchise/{{Halloween}} Haddonfield]].
* KavorkaMan: Harry must be a walking petri dish of venereal disease by this point. (Sally lampshades)
** Husband #3 cannot keep track of his past conquests when relating his story. [[DeadpanSnarker His wife does, though]].
* LostLoveMontage: Harry flashes back to his times with Sally on New Year's Eve. The montage is ''so'' powerful, it drives him to sprint across the city to reunite with her.
* LoveEpiphany / RaceForYourLove: Harry's running through the streets on New Year's Eve.
* MarsAndVenusGenderContrast: Played with, but mostly played straight.
* TheMatchmaker: Jess and Marie.
** MatchmakerCrush: Harry and Sally set each other up with their best same-gender friends. [[BetaCouple Marie and Jess]] hit it off with ''each other'' instead.
* MayDecemberRomance: Harry's rebound girlfriend. Lampshaded, characteristically, by Harry himself.
* MeaningfulName: Sally [[ThePollyanna Albright]], Harry ''Burns.''
* ModestyBedsheet: Sally and Harry sport the classic "L"-shaped bedsheet.
* MostWritersAreWriters: After Harry reveals that his wife's been cheating, Jess all but breaks the fourth wall. "I'm a writer, I know dialogue, and that was ''particularly'' harsh!"
* NietzscheWannabe: Harry, especially as a young man.
* NotStayingForBreakfast: Harry's MO.
-->'''Sally:''' You know, I'm so glad I never got involved with you. I just would have ended up being some woman you had to get up out of bed and leave at 3:00 in the morning and go [[IHaveToGoIronMyDog clean your andirons]]...
* OppositesAttract: Sally is perpetually perky, Harry is death-obsessed.
* OralFixation: Harry and his grape seeds. [*ptooey*]
* TheQuietOne: "I'm Ben Small, [[IAmXSonOfY of the Coney Island Smalls]]."
* PrecisionFStrike: It's truly startling when Sally drops an F-bomb.
* RealLifeWritesThePlot: The movie was based on Director Rob Reiner's own dating experiences and frustrations (he was recovering from a divorce just as Harry was), and, as he was single at the time, originally Harry would not get with Sally at the end. The decision of the happier ending where they get together apparently was a result of Reiner meeting and eventually marrying a woman during the film's production.
** And Sally's habit of ordering belongs to Creator/NoraEphron.
* RealMenHateAffection: Harry confiding about his divorce in the least-intimate setting possible: a football game. The [[EmpathicEnvironment crowd roars each time]] Harry shares a new revelation.
* RecurringRiff: [[http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/It_Had_to_Be_You_%28song%29 "It Had To Be You"]] pops up all over the place -- it's practically [[{{Leitmotif}} the theme song]] for Harry and Sally's relationship.
* RuleOfSymbolism: After the falling-out with Harry, we see Sally stumbling around town with a Christmas tree she can't manage. It's tough to go it alone.
* SecondLove
* SeinfeldianConversation: Arguing over whether Ingrid Bergman should have stayed with Bogart in ''Film/{{Casablanca}}''.
** At the very end, Harry questions the message of "Auld Lang Syne".
--->"Does that mean we that should ''forget'' old acquaintances or does it mean that if we ''should happen'' to forget them, we should remember them? -- which is impossible because we ''already forgot them''!"
* SeriousBusiness: Jess gets very competitive when playing Charades.
* SexChangesEverything
* SingleWomanSeeksGoodMan
* SlapSlapKiss: ..And back to Slap, again.
* SoundtrackDissonance: Harry mistakenly sings a song from ''{{Theatre/Oklahoma}}'' in a department store, summoning his ex-wife and her boyfriend over. "Surry With a Fringe on Top" continues to blare over the awkward silence.
* SplitScreenPhoneCall: Over the closing credits of ''Casablanca''. "[[ItsTheBestWhateverEver Best last line of a movie ever]]!"
** Later used to even better effect with a ''four-way'' split screen call when Harry and Sally simultaneously call Jess and Marie.
* StatusCellPhone: Harry has a fake plastic car phone, just so he can fake talking on it, to look rich and important when someone else is talking on theirs.
* StepfordSmiler: Throughout the film, Sally claims to be totally over her commitment-phobic boyfriend. That is, until he promptly proposes to somebody else. Cue [[InelegantBlubbering explosion]].
* StunnedSilence: After their first meal together, Harry stares at Sally like she's from Mars.
* ThereAreTwoKindsOfPeopleInTheWorld: High-maintenance women, and low maintenance women.
-->'''Sally:''' ...And Ingrid Bergman is ''low'' maintenance?\\
'''Harry:''' An L.M. Definitely
* ThousandYardStare: Post-coital Harry in Sally's bed. Harry looks like he's just seen 'Nam.
* ToiletSeatDivorce: The wagon wheel coffee table. From '''Hell'''.
** Inverted, with Harry transferring his own pent-up rage toward his ex on Jess and Marie.
** Not one to take chances, though, Jess [[AvertedTrope bins the table]].
** Sally's boyfriend in college broke up with her because she wore panties embroidered with the days of the week. And "Sunday" was missing. [[CrazyJealousGuy J'accuse!]]
* TongueTwister: But I would be proud to partake in your pecan pie.
* UnsatisfiableCustomer: Sally is the Berlin Wall of gourmets. Everything needs to be separate.
-->'''Harry:''' "On the side" is a very big thing with you.
* WeddingDay: Marie and Jess's, where Harry and Sally have a post-sex fight.
* WhyCantIHateYou: Sally's response to Harry's LoveConfession at the end.
* YourApprovalFillsMeWithShame: Harry's a bit too quick in agreeing with Sally that it was a mistake to have sex with her.
* YourCheatingHeart: Marie has a long-term affair with the married Arthur. Sally continually reminds her that Arthur is never going to leave his wife; Marie always agrees, but a few scenes later, she's discussing him yet again...
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