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-->'''Pam Byrnes:''' What's the matter, sweetie? Can't sleep?
-->'''Greg Focker:''' No, no. I was just going over my answers to the polygraph test your dad just gave me.

''Meet The Parents'' is a 2000 KafkaKomedy that is ExactlyWhatItSaysOnTheTin. It starred Creator/BenStiller as Greg Focker, Terri Polo as Pam Byrnes, and RobertDeNiro as Pam's dad Jack. It led to two sequels: ''Meet The Fockers'' in 2004, and ''Little Fockers'' in 2010.

''Meet The Parents'' -- Male nurse [[UnfortunateNames Gaylord "Greg" Focker]] attempts to propose to his schoolteacher girlfriend Pam Byrnes, but before he can, Pam gets invited to her sister's wedding. Greg agrees to go along, seeing it as an opportunity to impress her family. However, Pam's [[KnightTemplarParent Knight Templar Father]] Jack, an ex-CIA operative, is immediately suspicious of Greg and spends the weekend grilling him on any undesirable elements in his background.

Greg's situation is further complicated by a series of attempts to impress Pam's family backfiring on him, mostly involving [[FawltyTowersPlot little lies that lead to bigger ones]] until he looks like a complete jackass. It escalates to the point where he gets kicked out of the Byrnes' home. Ultimately, Pam manages to convince her father that she loves Greg and despite the bad first impression it was all because he loves her. After another grilling session, Jack's contempt for Greg dissipates... for the most part.

''Meet The Fockers'' -- In a reversal of the first film, Pam and her parents join Greg in meeting his parents, Bernie and Roz (DustinHoffman and BarbraStreisand respectively), before Greg and Pam get married. HilarityEnsues and while Greg is thoroughly embarrassed by his parents' behavior, Jack once again is suspicious of him after learning certain elements of Greg's past and goes to even more extreme lengths to prove what he suspects of Greg. Ultimately, everything works out, as Greg and Pam get married and the Fockers even help to bring back some passion into the Byrnes' marriage.

The first film was a sociopathic-based comedy with a fairly predictable premise, and the second movie is still funny with the premise moving in a bit of a different direction.

''Little Fockers'' - Set a few years after the second film, this movie goes around the planning of the birthday party for the Focker twins, a new heart condition found of Jack, and Greg getting a new job in order to get money for his children's education.

Jack is afraid that Greg plans to leave Pam, so he studies him. Meanwhile, Greg's new job associate (played by Creator/JessicaAlba) seems to be interested in him; and Pam's old boyfriend seems obsessed with her again.

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!!These movies provides examples of:

* TheAce: Kevin.
** BrokenAce: Kevin in the third movie
* AesopAmnesia: In both ''Meet the Fockers'' and ''Little Fockers'', Jack has to learn to trust, let alone like, Greg all over again.
* ActingForTwo: The picture of the minor league baseball player is obviously Creator/BenStiller.
* AmazinglyEmbarrassingParents: The Fockers. Jack Byrnes to a slightly lesser degree.
* AshesToCrashes
* BourgeoisBohemian: The Fockers. They're portrayed as well-meaning and friendly (certainly much moreso than Jack's family) if a little loopy and ''too'' open.
* ButtMonkey: These films are ''all about'' making poor Greg Focker [[spoiler:actually, Gaylord]] as miserable as possible, having ''everything'' that could possibly go wrong, go wrong when he's [[ExactlyWhatItSaysOnTheTin meeting his girlfriend's parents]].
* TheCanKickedHim: In ''Meet The Fockers'', the Bynes' cat Jynx (who knows how to use a toilet) flushes the Fockers' dog, Moses.
* CannotKeepASecret: When Pam reveals to Greg that she's pregnant (and the Fockers figure it out on their own), he's afraid Jack will find out because his parents are so open about everything and refuse to keep secrets. Ironically, [[spoiler:Greg ends up being the one who spills the beans to Jack, under the influence of truth serum]].
* CanonDiscontinuity: In the third movie, Jack says he needs Greg to take over as head of the family, completely omitting to mention his own son, Denny Byrnes, from the first movie. Ironically, Denny's name and picture can be seen on a genealogy chart in the beginning of the movie.
** Its clear Jack sees Denny as a disappointment, which could explain why he doesn't even consider him for the position.
* CatsAreMean: Even Mr. Jinx seems to have it in for Greg.
* CensoredTitle: Some movie reviews called the second movie ''Meet the F***ers'' (which, oddly enough, made the title seem worse than it actually was).
* CharacterOutlivesActor: In ''Little Fockers'' Debbie is getting a divorce offscreen. Nicole [=DeHuff=] died of pneumonia in February of 2005.
* ChekhovsGunman: The "bingo bango bongo" guy in the second film who turns out to be [[spoiler:the county judge]].
* CloserToEarth: Played straight with the Byrneses; Dina is far more sane and rational than Jack. Averted elsewhere, though. Greg, despite being a klutz, is otherwise a fairly level-headed guy and on par with Pam in terms of overall intelligence and sanity. As for Bernie and Roz Focker, they're ''both'' [[CloudCuckoolander pretty loopy]].
* CloudCuckoolander: Greg's parents to a T. Kevin evolves into this by the third film. And Jack, in his own paranoid and overprotective way.
* ConflictBall: And how!
* ControlFreak: Jack Byrnes.
* CringeComedy
* DatingWhatDaddyHates
* DeadPetSketch: With a cat.
* DisasterDominoes: In the first film, the cat gets loose and starts walking around on the roof. When Greg tries to chase him down, one wrong step leads to another, eventually setting Pam's sister's wedding gazebo on fire.
* DoNotCallMePaul: For obvious reasons, Greg Focker does not like using his actual first name: Gaylord.
* EmbarrassingFirstName: Greg's real first name is Gaylord. His parents also call him "Gay". What sort of parents call their son Gaylord Focker? Hippies, of course.
* EmbarrassingMiddleName: Female married name variant - in ''Meet The Parents'', Jack and his wife Dina realize if/when Pam marries Greg, their daughter would be Pamela Martha Focker. Once again, this gets called back in ''Meet The Fockers'':
-->'''Pam Byrnes:''' No! After next month, I am going to be Pamela Martha Focker. I... I know how that sounds but I don't care!
** Also doubles as a [[TheMaidenNameDebate The Maiden Name Debate]]
* EthnicMenialLabor: ''Meet The Fockers'' has Isabel, the Fockers' former housekeeper who runs a catering business. When she was working for the titular family, main character Greg lost his virginity to her. She also has a son, which leads to Jack trying to find out if Greg is the father of said son. [[spoiler: He isn't.]]
* {{Flanderization}}: Jack is a domineering PapaWolf / KnightTemplarParent in the first film and gets even worse in the sequels. Greg/Gaylord, meanwhile, [[CharacterizationMarchesOn gradually becomes marginally more self-sufficient and assertive]] [[OlderandWiser and by the third film, is almost Jack's equal in terms of being a hardass.]]
* {{Foil}}: Kevin, Pam's seemingly perfect ex, is this to Greg. He is everything Greg isn't - namely rich, successful, on good terms with Jack, and a devout born-again Christian.
* FromTheMouthsOfBabes: During ''Meet The Fockers'', Little Jack (Jack's grandson and Pam's nephew) ends up learning the word "asshole" after Greg accidentally mentions the word in front of him.
* GeniusDitz: Andi Garcia, Creator/JessicaAlba's character from ''Little Fockers'' is [[GenkiGirl permanently perky]], peppers her speech with ValleyGirl like expressions and ''would'' come across as just an [[BrainlessBeauty immature party-girl airhead]] if it wasn't for her demontrasting that she is also a highly skilled nurse in a couple of early scenes.
* GettingCrapPastTheRadar: The Focker family name, and the titles ''Meet the Fockers'' and ''Little Fockers'' blatantly play on this trope.
** The trailer for the first movie pronounced it "foke-er;" with the sequels this wasn't really an option.
** Clearly, they're just related to the Fokker aircraft company in Germany.
** You want to know how they got away with the title for the second film? They were told they could keep it if they could find ''one'' real life family with the name "Focker". Since they got their title, well...
* HappilyMarried: Bernie and Roz Focker, to the point that the level-headed Dinah is secretly jealous that they have such a successful sex life at their age.
* HeelRealization: Jack has one near the end of the first two films, yet continues to give Greg hell in the sequels.
* InnocentSwearing: Little Jack repeating the word "asshole".
* {{Irony}}: Even though Jack is one of the best examples of a Knight Templar Parent, his favorite song is the one that exemplifies childlike innocence: "Puff, the Magic Dragon."
* JerkAss: Jack. Pretty much Pam's entire family, in fact, except Dina. Even his cat is a JerkAss.
** The redneck cop in the second movie.
* JerkWithAHeartOfGold: Jack - he clearly loves his daughter and wants only the best for her, but his extreme PapaWolf personality makes it difficult for her to have any successful relationships.
** JerkWithAHeartOfJerk: That said, he does push it with how much he tortures and refuses to reason with Greg and his family. The "Circle Of Trust" and control-freak tendencies make it clear he's pretty difficult to live with.
* KafkaKomedy: All 3 movies revel in being this.
* KarmaHoudini: In the third movie, Andi Garcia [[spoiler:drunkenly forces herself onto Greg while at his house, despite knowing that he's married and he objects.]] She never gets her comeuppance for it; she doesn't even get fired, despite acting unprofessional for the entire movie.
** Jack in the first film never faces any real consequence for bullying Greg. The second film is better about this.
** You could say the two heart attacks in the third film are Jack's karma. He would at least have to learn to keep his composure and temper under control from that point onward, or risk a third, and likely fatal, heart attack.
** Denny, Pam's pothead brother, never gets any comeuppance for framing Greg for smoking marijuana in the first film.
*** Military school?
* KnightTemplarParent: This describes Jack Byrnes to a T.
* {{Large Ham}}s: The Koshers - er, Fockers, oh damn.
* LawfulStupid: The airline employees, particularly the one who makes Greg wait until his row gets called for boarding... ''even though he's the only person waiting to be called''.
* LetHerGrowUpDear: Pam's mom is definitely more supportive of her relationship with Gaylord than Jack ever will be.
* LieDetector: In ''Meet The Parents'', Jack hooks Greg up to one in order to find out about his past. This scene was heavily used to promote the film.
* LivingLieDetector: Jack places his thumbs on Greg's wrists as an impromptu lie detector in their last major scene.
** Which may border on to research failure as using your thumbs to take a person's pulse is not correct; your thumb has its own pulse and thus may give a false reading.
*** Some have speculated that Jack was counting on Greg not knowing that, and getting distracted from hiding other signs that he's lying. Though he'd already learned that Greg aced the [=MCAT=]s.
* LovableSexManiac: Greg's parents.
* LukeIMightBeYourFather: See EthnicMenialLabor above.
* TheMaidenNameDebate: At the end of the first movie, Pam's parents note that taking Greg's name would result in [[UnfortunateNames Pamela Martha Focker]] [[DontExplainTheJoke (sounds like motherf*cker people)]]. In the second movie, Pam confirms that she will indeed take Greg's name, she doesn't care how embarassing it may sound.
* MDEnvy: Inverted; although Greg scored top marks in medical school, he chose to be a male nurse so he could spend more time with patients. Jack and the rest of the Byrnes family (which include several doctors themselves) grill him on why he just didn't become a doctor and even refuse to believe he passed his MCAT with top marks.
* MistakenForCheating: One of the plot points of the third film.
* MistakenForGay: The headmistress of the school in the third film mistakes Greg and Jack for being married.
* MistakenForTerrorist: Happens to Greg when he gets kicked off an airplane in the first movie.
* MoneyDearBoy: De Niro's [[http://www.guardian.co.uk/film/2010/nov/04/robert-de-niro explanation]] for making ''Little Fockers''.
* MoodWhiplash: Towards the end of the third film. Greg tries to present a peace offering to Jack, who looks like he's about ready to accept, until [[spoiler: he punches Greg in the face.]]
* MsFanservice: Jessica Alba shows a lot in ''Little Fockers''.
* MurphysLaw: ''MeetTheParents'' is Murphy's Law: The Movie.
* OlderAndWiser: Greg by the third movie, able to stand up for himself against Jack's usual misunderstandings.
* [[OnlySaneMan Only Sane Woman]]: Dina. Also possibly Pam
* OverlyLongGag - see Punny Name below.
** "Are you prepared to be... the Godfocker?" "The Godfocker." "Yes. The Godfocker." "I'm not sure I like the name 'The Godfocker'".
* OverprotectiveDad
* PapaWolf: Jack to a disturbing degree.
** Bernie Focker when he finds out that Jack drugged Greg with truth serum.
* ParentalMarriageVeto
* PlotSensitiveLatch: Greg's suitcase gets lost in-flight. A suitcase is found matching the description and delivered to him (at the parents of his girlfriend). He attempts to open it but can't and leaves for the day, leaving his prospective father-in-law alone at the house. Being former CIA he opens it easily and finds it full of fetish and bondage gear and sex toys.
* PlotSensitiveSnoopingSkills: From the first film, Jack finds out all kinds of unsavory things about Greg ([[NotWhatItLooksLike that aren't even true]]), but is oblivious to the fact that his own son smokes pot.
* PrecisionFStrike: "Ass...oooole..."
* PunnyName: Mo Focker, an unseen relative. A conversation between Jack and Greg reveals that's not the extent of it, either:
-->'''Greg Focker''': You meet some of the... eh... some of the cousins?\\
'''Jack Byrnes''': I met some, yes. I met some... Dom?\\
'''Greg Focker''': Yeah, Dom Focker, that's my dad's... uh... first cousin. You meet his kids, Randy and Orny?
* PutOnABus: The first scene we see of Bernie Focker is him taking dance classes... in Spain. It seems this will be his only appearance in the film... [[SubvertedTrope until he makes a surprise return home in the second half of the movie.]]
** Originally, Dustin Hoffman could not agree to work on the film due to disagreements with the production studio on the scope of his role... but this changed, thanks to negotiations that included [[MoneyDearBoy a bigger paycheck]].
* RealJokeName: In ''Little Fockers'', we are treated to the female character "Andi Garcia."
--> '''Greg''': [[LampshadeHanging I thought you'd have, you know, a little more stubble.]]
** The censors reportedly told the producers they couldn't use the name of the second movie unless they actually found a family with that name; and they did. In [[CanadaEh Canada]].
* TheReasonYouSuckSpeech: Greg gets thrown off an airplane for giving one to a flight attendant.
* RunningGag: At the end of each film. At the end of the first two Jack views a video of Greg ragging on him via "hidden" camera. At the end of the third film Jack views a Youtube video of Greg talking about Jack at a seminar and basically Reiterating the crazy antics Jack pulled in the films.
* SadistShow: The basis of the humor in the movies is that [[CosmicPlaything the universe seems to hate]] Greg Focker. Also, his new father-in-law is a [[ManipulativeBastard sadist]] who refuses to let Greg ever come out of something looking good, and most of his in-laws are sardonic snobs who ridicule Greg at every opportunity. Even the cat is a bastard.
* SequelHook: In the ''third'' film, no less. [[spoiler:Both Greg and Pam's parents announce at a Christmas gathering that they plan on moving next door.]]
* SecondPlaceIsForLosers: The attitude expressed by Jack and (to a lesser extent) Dina after they see the "Wall of Gaylord" put together by Bernie and Roz.
* ShownTheirWork: The human lie detector was debunked, due to info on the pulse. However another aspect of lie detecting was still in play. When Jack administers the test, he looks at Greg in the eyes. While Greg looks away a few moments, Jack still keeps his eyes focused on Greg's. This is based off of a popular fact that if you look to the left while answering a question, you are lying. The left side of the brain has been known as the creative side while the right side is the thinking side. Looking to the left means you are coming up with some BS story.
* SoundtrackDissonance: In one scene in ''Little Fockers'' Stephen Trask's score turns surprisingly twinkly and airy, as if it's accompanying a fantasy movie rather than Andi giving a male patient an anal insertion.
* SuddenlyEthnicity: Amusingly played with in the third film. Jack has been studying the Byrnes family genealogy and while they seem to be mostly of Irish descent, Bernie and Roz do a little research of their own [[spoiler: and discover that Jack is "one twenty third" Jewish. They proudly present him with a yarmulke for Christmas.]]
* SugaryMalice: The flight attendant near the end of the first film.
* TemptingFate: The second movie begins with Greg catching an extraordinary number of lucky breaks. [[YankTheDogsChain He should've known it was too good to last...]]
* TooMuchInformation: Practically everything Greg's parents say.
* TorosYFlamenco: Spain in the third movie.
* TrailersAlwaysSpoil: The reveal of Jack being ex-CIA would've been funnier if it wasn't stated outright in trailers for the movie.
** They also played up Jack watching Greg doing silly kung fu moves to his hidden camera, which is the film's ''last'' scene.
** There isn't much the theatrical trailer ''doesn't'' give away.
* TruthSerums: Jack injects Greg with one of these in ''Meet The Fockers'' to get him to admit that Greg is the father of the Fockers' old housekeeper's son. It causes Greg to make an ass of himself in front of both families, but [[spoiler:he wasn't actually the father]].
* TwerpSweating: A good part of the premise of ''Meet The Parents'' was RobertDeNiro blurring the line between TwerpSweating and PerpSweating.
* UnFavorite: With Grandkids. Jack picks the bright (and slightly psychotic) Samantha as his favorite to the lonely and somewhat dim Henry. He claims this is because Samantha likely has more of Pam's genes than Greg's, and is therefore "less of a Focker."
* UnfortunateNames: Gaylord Focker.
** Pam's married name: Pamela Martha Focker.
* VertigoEffect: When Jack is swimming after Greg in the ball pit. This is a ShoutOut to ''Film/{{Jaws}}'', which helped make the Vertigo Effect famous.
* VitriolicBestBuds: Jack and Greg seem to have setled into this by the third film. There are even signs by the second one, as it's mentioned that He and Greg went hunting together.
** Also Greg is the only person that he believes needs to know he had a heart attack.
* WackyMarriageProposal: Greg plans one at the start of the movie.
* WatchThePaintJob: Subverted in ''Little Fockers''. As construction is taking place in Greg's back yard, Kevin shows up in a Tesla and parks curbside. As Greg backs a dump truck full of sand out of the driveway, [[spoiler:he doesn't hit the Tesla, but instead empties the sand onto Jack.]]
* WeddingDay: Greg and Pam finally do get married after two entire movies' worth of hijinks trying to thwart them.
* [[WellDoneSonGuy Well Done Son-In-Law Guy]]: Greg.
* WhatHappenedToTheMouse: The fake "Mr. Jinx" cat with the grey tip on its tail. When Jack confronts Greg about it, Greg sets the cat down, and the cat walks off, down the hallway. Its never seen again after that. Not that we even need to know about it after that.
** Andi Garcia in the third film; she disappears from the plot after she and Greg wake up in the dirt pit.
* WhatTheHellHero: In ''Meet the Parents'', Jack is called out on his vindictive overprotectiveness at the same time by Pam and Dina, and a few scenes later Greg also has a chance to put him in his place.
* WhileYouWereInDiapers, Jack was bugging Ho Chi Minh's sock drawer (''Little Fockers'').
* [[WhoNamesTheirKidDude Who Names Their Kid Gaylord]]: Only hippies. Pam's brother has a good laugh when he asks the trope; "Wait a minute! So your name is ''gay focker''? (laughs) Its an unusual name."
* YoureDrinkingBreastMilk: Happens to Greg in ''Meet the Fockers''.
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