* QuietlyPerformingSisterShow: TheKingOfQueens
* RantInducingSlight: In "Wallpaper", Marie drives a car through Ray and Debra's house. Debra is understandably upset, but Ray (still in shock) barely reacts to this, frustrating Debra, who wants him to back her up. After the doorway is repaired and the wallpaper replaced, Ray examines the new wallpaper... and loses it, because the stripes aren't the same thickness as the old ones.
** In "The Sitter", Marie doesn't react well to the news that Ray and Debra have hired a sitter instead of asking her for help. But she chuckles nervously, puts on a fake smile, and says she's happy for them. But then Robert comes in and says he turned down the heat on the stove...
--> '''Marie''': Don't tell me how to cook! I know how to cook! I'm not that old! And who are you to turn down my meat?!
* RashomonStyle: "The Can Opener".
* RealLifeRelative: Not only are Geoffrey and Michael's actors twin brothers in real life, but the actress who plays their sister, Ally, on the show is also their sister in real life.
** Don't forget Bill Parker, the handsome father of Ally's classmate played by David Hunt, Patricia Heaton's real life husband. Also Frank's lodge buddy Albert, played by Ray's real life dad Albert Romano.
** Amy is Phil Rosenthal's real life wife.
* RealLifeWritesThePlot: A rare case where this was done intentionally. Producer Phil Rosenthal has explained in interviews that the vast majority of plots on the show really did happen to himself, Ray Romano, or someone else on the writing staff.
* RealSongThemeTune: Season 7 used The Time's "Jungle Love".
* RealTime: "The Faux Pas". This was even addressed in the audio commentary.
* TheReasonYouSuckSpeech: In "Golf For It", after Ray says that Marie loves him more than Robert:
--> '''Robert''': Well you know what? She can love ya all she wants, because ''I'' love ''her'' more than you do.\\
'''Ray''': What?\\
'''Robert''': Ya heard me. I love ma more.\\
'''Ray''': Are you insane?\\
'''Robert''': Deep down inside, Raymond, you know it's true.\\
'''Ray''': Are you saying I don't love my mother?!\\
'''Robert''': Not as much as I do. You take her for granted. But me? I cherish every ounce of affection that woman gives me, because I have to fight for it like a dirty dog in the street. But you? You don't even have to ''try''. She makes it ''so'' easy for you. You're just a fat kid with his mouth open at the end of a chocolate assembly line. (mimes Ray eating chocolate) ''You disgust me''.
** In "Meant to Be", Debra gives one to Robert:
--> '''Robert''': Could I get some frozen baby peas, Deb?\\
'''Debra''': You know what, Robert? You get your ''own'' damn peas.\\
'''Robert''': What did I do??\\
'''Debra''': What did you do?!\\
'''Robert''': Hey, look, you're the one who told Amy about Stefania in the first place. You should be apologizing to me.\\
'''Debra''': And what ''you'' should've done is tell Amy the truth about everything, or better yet, not be such a ''pig'' in the first place!\\
'''Robert''': That's the worst apology I've ever gotten.\\
'''Debra''': Why would you get involved with someone else when you already have a relationship? What, does juggling three women at a time make you cool? You know, if that's the only way that you can build your self-esteem, then you are pathetic, and you don't deserve to be with ''anyone''.
** In "Somebody Hates Raymond", Jerry Musso (after much goading) reveals how he really feels about Raymond:
--> '''Jerry Musso''': Well there's just something about you. I've read your column, I've heard you speak, I look at you and I go, "I don't get it". I guess you don't have to be smart to have a career in this business! Now if you know me, you know I have pretty high standards, and a very low threshhold for dumb.
** Upon hearing this, Robert (who had been mocking Ray the entire episode) stands up for Ray by telling off Jerry:
--> '''Robert''': Hold it right there, ya little twerp.\\
'''Jerry Musso''': Who are you?\\
'''Robert''': Who am ''I''? I'm someone who can grind you into a fine powder, that's who I am. Now, Ray Barone has more talent in the boil on his neck that won't go away than ''you'' have in your entire body, you oily, two-faced hack. You only ''wish'' you could be Ray Barone, because you'll never come close as a writer, as a father, as a friend, or as a person.
** In "Someone's Cranky", Debra goes off on Robert:
--> '''Debra''': Okay, Robert, listen. Stop feeling so sorry for yourself.\\
'''Robert''': I'm not feeling sorry for myself.\\
'''Debra''': Yes, you are. Spouting off at the family and insulting everybody. You just love playing the victim, don't you? \\
'''Robert''': OK, thank you, Debra. You can go back to being princess fabulosa now.\\
'''Debra''': Hey, you better be nice to me, pal, because I'm the last person in the family that doesn't wanna climb up there and strangle you!\\
'''Robert''': Oh, a height joke. thank you, your majesty. Yeah, it's very refreshing after all the bull-in-the-ass jokes.\\
'''Debra''': I think you ''loved'' that bull. I think you were so happy he found you because he's two-ton excuse for your life! That's right: You were a victim before that bull. You've been a victim your whole life because there's nothing easier than playing the victim, is there, Robert?\\
'''Robert''': ...Why are you picking on me?\\
'''Debra''': See? Again! "My mother doesn't pay enough attention to me." "Raymond has a better life than me." "Wah wah wah!"\\
'''Robert''': I don't say "wah wah wah".\\
'''Debra''': You're sounding like that ''now''!\\
'''Robert''': That's because I just ''said'' "wah wah wah"! Listen, bad stuff happens to me, I don't imagine these things. I'm just reporting the facts.\\
'''Debra''': The fact is, you love to suffer. That's why you were so mad about having to leave your parents' house.\\
'''Robert''': Are you kidding? I couldn't wait to get out of there.\\
'''Debra''': Really? You don't seem so happy here.\\
'''Robert''': I have a milk situation.\\
'''Debra''': You love being at your parents' house because that's the ''holy land'' of self-pity! You weren't unhappy because you only had three more weeks to stay there; you were unhappy because you ''only'' had three more weeks to stay there! (at this point, Robert breaks down and cries loudly)
** In "Blabbermouths", the ''whole family'' gives one to Amy simply because she wasn't open about her feelings about Ray saying that her and Robert's marriage didn't have a chance in hell.
--> '''Debra''': Ray's right; how am I supposed to know I upset you if you don't say anything to me? I'm supposed to be your best friend!\\
'''Robert''': I'm supposed to be her husband! I'm your husband! Don't you know, after all these years, to tell me immediately when Raymond screws up? YOU PAGE ME AT WORK!\\
'''Marie''': I must say, Amy, before you came into the family, we were all just open with each other. We'd say whatever was on our mind. And now... We have to tiptoe around your feelings.\\
'''Ray''': That's not fair, Amy!\\
'''Frank''': Yeah, see what you did, Amy? (Amy cries) Oh jeez, there she goes again.
** In "A Date For Peter", after Ray (seemingly) ruins Peter's chances with Peggy:
--> '''Robert''': It's bad enough you had to ruin ''my'' life, but you had to do the same to my brother-in-law? You are a selfish ''ass'', who walks among regular humans. But now it's time for everyone to see, that [[PunctuatedForEmphasis YOU. ARE. ASSSSSSS.]]
** In "Not So Fast", Ray gives one to Marie and Frank:
--> '''Ray''': I think I know what the problem is. Part of me always thinks why can't mom and dad get along with Debra and me? And Robert and Amy? And I say to myself, maybe it's us, because they're the parents and we're supposed to respect them and, and honor them, like they're Chinese or something. And we don't. We don't always. Maybe it's ''us''. (pause) But ''today'', after forty years, I think I've actually figured something out. (looks at Marie and Frank) It's ''not'' us. It's ''you''. People, from your ''own'' World War II world, have spoken, and ''IT'S YOUUUUUUU!!!!''
** In "Let's Fix Robert", Debra gives one to Robert, albeit slightly less harsh than the one in "Meant to Be":
--> '''Ray''': Don't give up. The right lady is out there somewhere.\\
'''Robert''': Thanks.\\
'''Ray''': I mean it.\\
'''Debra''': [[DeadpanSnarker What a load of crap]]. "The right lady is out there." Well guess what? You're never gonna find her. You know why? Because you don't want to; you're alone because that's what you want.\\
'''Robert''': I believe you're looking for the meeting across the street.\\
'''Debra''': Let me tell you something. You've created an image of this ideal woman, so that when regular women: Regular, wonderful, real women, fall short, you reject them.\\
'''Robert''': No.\\
'''Debra''': YES, yes, and that way you never have to settle down, and everyone can still feel sorry for poor lonely you.\\
'''Robert''': Look, I may not be the greatest catch in the world, but I don't think I should just settle.\\
'''Debra''': I'm not asking you to ''settle'', Robert, but you're not going to be happy if every time you discover a flaw in somebody, you go to somebody else. Because that somebody else is going to have her own flaws. Nobody's perfect.
** Marie gives one to Frank in "Frank's Tribute" when he can't think of anything nice to say about her:
--> '''Marie''': You want to know why people don't love you, Frank? You want to know? Because you offer them nothing. That's right. You have to give love, Frank, to get it, and you have never, ever been willing to do that. You just take and take and take, and you expect everyone to accept your obnoxious horse's ass of a personality, and everybody has to put up with it, because it's ''you''! You know what the sad part is? You are surrounded by family who happen to love you anyway, and you push them away. You push us all away! (pause) You don't have to push anymore.
** In "Debra at the Lodge", Debra gives a short and sweet speech to the old men who ogled her and talked about her body when she wasn't around:
--> '''Debra''': I thought you were gentlemen. I thought you appreciated the work I was doing. And I thought men from ''your'' generation would have a little class. I guess I was wrong. I have to say, I'm very disappointed.
** Frank gives one to Sam in "The Mentor" when Sam is distraught about all the renovations needed for his store:
--> '''Frank''': Oh boo hoo, woe is me. You know what I think? I think you need to get off your pity pot and act like a man. I mean, gimme a break, Nancy! (...) What did I always tell you?\\
'''Sam''': (quietly) Quit crying and suck it up.\\
'''Frank''': WHAT?!\\
'''Sam''': (loudly) Quit crying and suck it up!\\
'''Frank''': That's right, quit crying and suck it up, you whiny baby!
* RedOniBlueOni: Debra is the red oni to Ray's blue, moreso in the later seasons.
* ResetButton: "No Fat" ends with Marie giving up on her "healthy food" diet and chowing down on some Thanksgiving turkey.
* RhetoricalQuestionBlunder: In "Ray's Journal":
--> '''Ray''': Why would you read my private journal?\\
'''Marie''': Because I wanted to know what was in there.
** In "Cousin Gerard":
--> '''Ray''': Why do you gotta be so negative all the time?\\
'''Gerard''': Because I'm not very happy.
** In "Six Feet Under":
--> '''Debra''': Ray, look at me. I am rubbing lotion on my hands. Do you know ''why'' I rub lotion on my hands?\\
'''Ray''': Because it's... hand cream?
* ARiddleWrappedInAMysteryInsideAnEnigma: Robert once described himself as "an enigma wrapped in a mystery." Ray promptly replied that Robert was more of "an idiot wrapped in a moron."
* RightBehindMe: In "Sister-in-Law", Ray tries to get Robert to stay after he insulted Amy:
--> '''Ray''': Come on, don't go, Robert, stay! Come stay and watch the game! Come on! You want to say something bad about my wife, you can! Aw, come on! Say it, say it: "She's a bad cook, and she's mean!" (Debra is standing behind Ray; Ray turns around and acknowledges her) Yeah, hi. One second, one second... (to Robert) And you may ''think'' that, Robert, but you'd be wrong, ''dead'' wrong! Debra is a caring, beautiful, skinny person!
** In "Faux Pas", Amy walks in and sees everybody but Marie, and after finding out that Michael and Jeffrey's friend's dad didn't want to come back in for his keys, says: "What, did your mother come in and make things worse, as usual?" It's revealed that Marie was hidden behind the door. Amy fearfully turns around and Marie gives her a disapproving look as the episode ends.
** A variant occurs in "Thank You Notes": Once Debra starts trying to get Amy on her side in her fight against Marie, Ray runs over to Frank and Marie's house, where Frank is sitting at the table. Ray tells him that Debra and Amy are trying to overthrow Marie, and asks what he should do. Marie suddenly comes from the other room and says, "I'm not sure yet." Ray is startled and asked Frank if he knew she was there the whole time. He replies, "Yes."
* RoadTripEpisode: "Big Shots", from Season Three, has Ray having to let Robert accompany him to meet the 1969 New York Mets, much to Ray's chagrin.
* RousingSpeech: Debra gives one in "Season's Greetings" to pick up everybody's negative feelings.
--> '''Debra''': (after Frank complains that he didn't accomplish any of his resolutions ten years ago) Make a new list, and start on that. You can do it! You're not dead yet, Frank! And Robert, come on! You're smart, successful, handsome, no matter what Ray does or doesn't do. You're not a loser. You're a lieutenant in the New York City Police Department, for God's sake!
--> '''Ray''': What about me?\\
'''Debra''': You're ''FINE'', you're married to me! All of you! Come ''on''!
* RuleOfThree: In "The Bet", Sal the barber responds in similar ways three times:
--> '''Sal''': ''Fifteen years'', you never sprung for a shave!
--> '''Sal''': You have a son?? ''Fifteen years'', you never told me you had a son!
--> '''Sal''': You're Ray Barone's father?? ''Fifteen years'', you never told me your last name!
* RunningGag: The weird pimple on Ray's neck that won't go away.
** Uncle Mel is '''''not gay'''''.
** The awful fruit of the month club gift Ray gave to his parents.
** If Robert enters a room and everyone stops talking to look at him, he often asks, "Is this about me?"
** Debra being offended if someone compares her to Marie.
--> '''Ray''': You're trying to make me feel guilty.\\
'''Debra''': No, I'm not.\\
'''Ray''': You're just like my mother.\\
'''Debra''': Why do you have to insult me? We're ''talking''.
** Another recurring gag with Debra: If she's overly happy, another character will ask if she's been drinking. Seen in "Who's Side Are You On?" and "Debra's Parents", among others.
** Episode-specific example: Stefania's love of hot dogs in "Stefania Arrives".
** Another episode-specific example: Everyone praising the deceased Rose Caputo's pies in "Who's Next?" From the way people only talk about Rose in terms of how good her pies were, you'd think that's all she was good at!
** In "Cruising With Marie", the activities director repeatedly assuming Ray and Marie were newlywed lovers instead of mother and son. (see "NotWhatItLooksLike").
** Marie has frequently called Frank's mother "a horrible woman".
* SassyBlackWoman: Robert's partner on the police force, Judy, fits this trope. This led to the classic episode where Robert starts hanging out with Judy and her friends and ends up trying to act stereotypically "black" to fit in with them. HilarityEnsues.
* SecretDiary: Ray's journal from when he was a teenager.
* SelfDeprecation: Debra attempts this in "No Thanks", as she believes that the reason Marie keeps criticizing her cooking is because of how badly she reacts to it. However, her plan backfires when Marie mistakes Debra's self deprecation for rude sarcasm.
** In "The Canister", Debra wants Marie to come into the kitchen with her so Ray will be able to ditch Marie's canister somewhere in the house without her knowing. After a couple failed attempts to get Marie into the kitchen, Debra blurts out: "Marie, ''I am a terrible cook''. I really need you to look at these potatoes; I didn't know what the hell I was doing!" This finally gets Marie to leave with her.
* SeparatedAtBirthCasting: Fred Stoller as Cousin Gerard. Lampshaded in "Cousin Gerard", when much to his horror, Ray realises that he looks like, sounds like and apparently is just as annoying as Gerard is.
* ShapedLikeItself: In "Homework", Marie asks if Ray ever read ''Tom Sawyer'' as a child. Ray says he did, but when Frank asks him what the book's about, Ray replies, "It's about a boy, named Tom Sawyer. Eat your pie."
* ShipperOnDeck: Marie and Debra were both this for the Robert/Amy ship.
* ShockinglyExpensiveBill: Subverted; The "Where's Lunch?" Vanity Plate for the last episode is a bill reading [[NoChargeForHeroes "No Charge."]] It can be interpreted as ThankingTheViewer.
* ShoutOut: This show wasn't big on parodies, but there have been a couple exceptions:
** "The Sitter" featured Ray standing in the rain, shouting "Lisa!... LIIIIIIISSSSSAAAAA!" to Lisa inside the Parker's house, a reference to AStreetcarNamedDesire.
** In "Halloween Candy", Ray says: [[Film/ItsAWonderfulLife "Every time you buy the things, another angel gets her wings."]]
** In "Civil War", Ray says, [[GoneWithTheWind "Frankly, my dear, I don't give a damn."]] while dressed in a Confederate uniform.
** In "Marie's Vision", Ray asks a Botox-heavy Robert, [[Film/TheWizardOfOz "Need some oil, Tin Man?"]]
** In the show where Debra's sister Jennifer reveals she is following her vocation to become a nun, Frank and Marie begin an argument, realise they are in the presence of holiness, and bite it back, substituting faked hand-holding and saccharine expressions of blissful devotion that fool nobody. Contrast this to the unhappily married couple in ''Series/FatherTed''. John and Mary hate each other with a passion and are forever fighting and swearing - except in front of the local priests, where they make a suspiciously similar pretense of being happily married. The Barones are Italian-American and practicing Catholics - they would fit in very well in an Italian Craggy Island. (''La Falesia Isola''?)
** In ''The Dog''(1997), Ray the sports reporter is interviewing an ice-dancer in the ladies' locker room. His interview becomes more uneasy as she casually undresses in front of him. Compare this to the scene in ''TheDayToday''(1994) where sports reporter AlanPartridge is trying to interview a sportswoman in the ladies' changing room - and is similarly brought to a stuttering halt as she conducts her side of the interview whilst undressing and changing clothes.
* SiblingRivalry: Raymond and Robert. In ''spades''. Mainly fueled by Robert resenting Raymond for being the favorite son, and the fact that, well, everybody loves Raymond, and not him. The title of the show is at least partly a reference to their rivalry, and in the first season credits, Robert is the one who glumly does the TitleDrop as he passes by.
* SickeninglySweethearts: Robert and Amy in "Misery Loves Company"; they're celebrating their ''three month'' anniversary of their marriage and act all lovey-dubby towards each other, eventually prompting Debra to accuse them of laying it on too thick.
* SickEpisode: "Debra's Sick". Also "The Sneeze".
* SilentCredits: While nearly every episode featured upbeat ending music during the "Executive Producer" credits (right before the main credits roll), a few episodes featured silence in this spot, such as "How They Met", "Robert's Divorce", and "Misery Loves Company".
* SitcomArchNemesis: Ray has one in Peggy, the mother of Ally's best friend and leader of her scout troop.
** Marie gets one too (at least in her own paranoid imagination) in the form of Harriet Lichtman. Marie is convinced that Harriet is trying to steal Frank away. Though, it should be noted that when we finally met Harriet on-screen in one episode, she seemed mostly bewildered by Marie's accusations (though admittedly, we only saw a snippet of that conversation, as there was a lot going on with the other characters in that scene).
*** Also the Barones have a rivalry with their slightly wealthier neighbors the Parkers. Ray seems to despise Bill Parker in particular. What makes Ray's rivalry with Parker so funny is that the actor who plays Bill Parker, David Hunt, is married to Patricia Heaton in real life.
* {{Sixth Ranger}}: Amy, as she officially joined the family in the later seasons.
* SlapSlapKiss: The Frank-Marie relationship was this to a tee. They argued with each other a lot...but it is heavily hinted in most episodes that they enjoy the witty banter, and really are deeply in love with each other. Ray and Debra get this way as the show goes on, and Marie states that it's normal for marriage.
* SnowballLie: The premise of "Liars". Eventually Marie unravels Ray and Debra's lie.
--> '''Ray''': It just snowballed from one tiny little lie!\\
'''Marie''': So when you lied ''right to my face'', you consider that a tiny little lie?
* SnowedIn: "Snow Day".
* SomebodyDoesntLoveRaymond: TropeNamer.
* SomethingCompletelyDifferent: "Cruising With Marie", for a couple reasons: Debra isn't in the episode at all, and Ray/Marie's plot is completely separate from Frank/Robert's plot. It's also one of the few episodes to feature a brand new location; that is, the cruise ship.
* SophisticatedAsHell: In "The Kicker":
--> '''Frank''': Luck is the residue of design.\\
'''Ray''': ...What?\\
'''Frank''': Shut up.
* SoreLoser: In "The Author", Ray finds out he lost a book deal, while Robert was promoted at work. While they weren't really competing, Ray is usually the one who comes out on top, so he doesn't take Robert's news well; he barely congratulates Robert, slams his hand on the table, and leaves the room.
* SpeakNowOrForeverHoldYourPeace: Played straight in "Robert's Wedding"; Marie stands up and says, "Excuse me, I need to say something." End of part one. However, it turns out she wasn't against the wedding, but merely wanted to make sure Robert wasn't getting married just for her sake (of course, this doesn't make it any less of a faux pas, as she still interrupted their wedding).
* SpeedSex: In "Sleepover at Peggy's", Peggy says that her husband never paid attention to her, except during sex; for those eight minutes, she was number one. To which Ray replies: "Eight minutes... that's ''bad'', right?"
** In "Angry Sex":
--> '''Ray''': Does the term "angry sex" mean anything to you? (Bernie and Gianni exchange sly "yeah" remarks)\\
'''Bernie''': You mean like when the wife is mad because we wrap it up a little too soon?\\
'''Ray''': No. (Bernie looks disappointed)
* SpoiledBrat: Spencer, the titular character from the "Annoying Kid" episode.
* SpoofAesop: In "Favors", Debra unknowingly threw out an autograph by Muhammed Ali to Ray, and spent the whole episode lying to save her own skin. Finally, she revealed the truth and Ray told her, "You learned something, didn't you?" Debra nodded. You think Ray is going to say something like, "Lying only makes things worse", but instead he says: [[BrickJoke "Don't touch my stuff."]]
* {{Squick}}: Invoked in "Peter on the Couch", Robert mentions how very soon after he got his own place, his parents put a hot tub in his bedroom. Peter thinks that Robert's parents are cool (unlike his), but Robert replies: "Come look at 'em use it. Not so cool."
* StagParty: "The Bachelor Party", where Ray's idea of a good bachelor party is sitting in Robert's apartment playing cards with Gianni. When Debra, Marie, and Amy find out that was his party, they force Ray to throw a better one.
* StealthInsult: Marie is quite good at this and employs it quite a bit on Debra. Though it should be noted that Debra quite frequently uses it too.
** Ray used this technique in "Be Nice" when he was asked by Debra if he liked the sandwich she made for him. He responded that it's great that she tried. Debra caught on right away: "Wait a minute, that's not nice, that's fake nice, that's your mother." After a brief back-and-forth where Debra just wants Ray to be honest with her and say he hates the sandwich and Ray refuses, Ray makes a deal:
--> '''Ray''': I throw this out... and you can call me an idiot.
--> '''Debra''': ({{Beat}}) ...Deal. (Ray hesitantly walks over to the garbage and throws the sandwich in it) Idiot.
* StereoFibbing: Played with in "Liars". Ray and Debra lied to Marie about going to a hotel, and when Marie suspects this, she askes them, "What is the ''name'' of the hotel?" Before either can answer, Marie gets an idea: "Why don't you whisper the name to me, and then we'll see what Debra says." After taking Ray across the room, Ray loudly whispers, "RA-MA-DA."
* StrangeMindsThinkAlike: In "Home From School", both Ray and Ally ask, "Why? Was the teacher yelling?" in response to Michael saying he accidentally called the teacher "mommy".
** In "The Power of No", Robert and Amy both say Ray usually follows Debra around with his tongue hanging out.
* SubvertedRhymeEveryOccasion: In "Ping Pong", Ray never seems to rhyme like Frank does:
--> '''Ray''': (to Frank) Zero serving six, you're fat and you smell.
--> '''Ray''': (to Robert) Zero serving zero, you experimented at camp.
* SugaryMalice: Marie often makes insulting comments to Debra while pretending to give friendly advice.
* SustainedMisunderstanding: In "The Letter", Ray uses a hypothetical scenario and Marie and Frank think he's being literal.
--> '''Ray''': You guys get your mail yet?\\
'''Marie''': No. Why?\\
'''Ray''': Because I was just wondering because we didn't get ours either, you know, and sometimes we might get something of yours, and you might get something of ours.\\
'''Frank''': What do you get of mine?\\
'''Ray''': You know, I don't know, just junk mail.\\
'''Frank''': Like what?\\
'''Ray''': Whatever. uh, flyers and coupons.\\
'''Frank''': Where are they?\\
'''Ray''': I throw them out.\\
'''Frank''': You throw out coupons? That's money!\\
'''Ray''': Look, I'm just, all I'm saying is that you might get some of my mail.\\
'''Frank''': Well, how much were the coupons for?\\
'''Ray''': I don't know!\\
'''Frank''': Jeez-a-loo! Did you get the one for carpet cleaning?\\
'''Ray''': I don't know. Maybe.\\
'''Frank''': That's a $10 coupon! I was looking for that one!\\
'''Ray''': Look, dad, I'll give you $20 if you stop talking about this!\\
'''Frank''': You think I won't take it. I'll take it!\\
'''Ray''': I'll give it to ya!\\
'''Frank''': It would teach you a lesson! Come on!\\
'''Marie''': No! no! you're not taking Ray's money!\\
'''Frank''': I'm gonna take it because how else is he gonna learn? ''He's gotta stop throwing out people's mail!''
* TagLine: In "Lucky Suit":
--> '''Robert''': It's like a new chapter in my life! "Robert Barone: Part II".\\
'''Frank''': "This time, he's fatter."
* TakeOurWordForIt: Stefanie sans clothes in "Stefania Arrives". Robert's expression of what he could've had is priceless.
--> '''Robert''': There ''better'' be a Heaven.
** In the syndicated version of "The Model", the supposedly poor quality modeling photos of Robert (taken by Ray). The pictures are present in a pre-credits epilogue on the [=DVDs=], however.
* TheTalk: In "Talk To Your Daughter", Ray is about to give this to Ally, but it turns out she isn't interested in discussing how babies are created, but why God has put us on earth. This throws Ray completely for a loop ("I studied for the sex talk!").
** In "Driving Frank", Ray says that telling Frank he can't drive the kids anymore is just the beginning, that he and Debra have to be the parents now. Ray adds: "I'll tell you one thing: ''You're'' giving him the sex talk."
* ThanksgivingEpisode: Practically an annual tradition for the show: "Turkey or Fish", "No Fat", "No Thanks", "Fighting In-Laws", "Older Women", "Marie's Vision", "The Bird", "Debra's Parents".
* ThatCameOutWrong: Ray, full stop.
* ThatLiarLies: In "The Disciplinarian", Ray reveals to Marie and Frank that as a teenager, Robert would drink peppermint schnaps and argue with anyone who didn't agree that "Bungle in the Jungle" was the best song ever written. Robert responded: "That's a great song, but ''this'' is ''LIES''!
** In "Jealous Robert", after Ray is accused of always wanting to hear about Gianni's latest erotic escapades:
--> '''Ray''': What are you lying for, liar? Don't drink our coffee and lie.
** In "The Thought That Counts", Robert recommends that Ray get Debra "To Kill a Mockingbird" for Christmas. He does, but Ray never mentions that Robert gave him the idea. After Ray keeps getting positive attention from Debra, Robert finally snaps:
--> '''Robert''': IT WAS MEEEEE!!! You should be happy with me, I told him to get you that book. It was my idea, not Raymond's, me, mine, ''all'' me!\\
'''Ray''': Oh, Robert-\\
'''Robert''': Oh, you never even ''heard'' of "To Kill a Mockingbird"!\\
'''Ray''': Oh ''yes'' I did!\\
'''Robert''': You did ''not''. You never read the book, you never saw the movie. I bet you didn't even know there ''was'' a movie about it! Huh? Who was the star of the movie, Raymond?\\
'''Ray''': Well what does it-\\
'''Robert''': ''GREGORY PECK'', Gregory Peck! He played Atticus Finch, Gregory Peck! "All right, Scout, step aside while I shoot this rabid dog." He won the Oscar in 1962, ya MORON!!!\\
'''Ray''': ...What's ''this'' guy talkin' about?
* TheTheTitle: Several episodes feature this.
* TheyDontMakeThemLikeTheyUsedTo: Frank's attitude towards jazz records. He greatly prefers vinyl over [=CDs=], something which baffles Ray greatly in "Jazz Records".
* TheThingThatWouldNotLeave: Peter, to Robert and Amy in "Peter on the Couch".
--> '''Peter''': I gotta tell ya, that sofa is more comfortable than my own bed.
--> '''Robert''': Mother of ''GOD''.
** Ray was concerned that Robert would become this in "Robert Moves Back" when Robert wants to stay at Ray and Debra's house temporarily (since he and Amy had unknowingly had sex with the blinds open, making them an embarrassment to the building).
* ThroughHisStomach: One of the main reasons why Frank decides to stay with Marie.
* TitleDrop: The title sequences of the first two seasons:
--> '''Ray:''' Now, not every family would {something the family was doing in the background while Ray is explaining the premise} for you, but mine would because--\\
'''Robert:''' [[TheUnfavourite Eeeeeeverybody loves Raymond...]].
-->'''Ray:'''* rolls his eyes and continues sweeping* Yeah, yeah, yeah.
** In the pilot, one of Robert's first words is "Eeeeeeverybody loves Raymond." when he sees an award that Ray won.
** Episode-specific examples: Robert frequently says "meant to be" in the episode of the same name. Ray and Robert "Golf For It" to see who gets Marie when Frank dies. Robert thinks "She's the One"; that is, Angela.
* TitleMontage: Season 7.
* TitleOnlyOpening: Seasons 8 and 9, as well as random episodes from earlier seasons.
* TitlePlease
* ToiletHumour: Frequently occurs with Frank:
** In "Cruising With Marie", it's implied that some bad food gave Frank some diarrhea. Robert got Frank (who had a bad leg) to the bathroom just in time, but just as Robert put Frank back on the couch...
--> '''Frank''': Hey Robert... you're not gonna believe this...\\
'''Robert''': ''Again?'' (Frank nods) All right, come on... (Robert helps Frank back to the bathroom)\\
'''Frank''': Bring the newspaper.
** In "Debra's Parents", Frank remarks that he heard Lois sneaking out of the house, because he was up for his third pee of the night.
** In "Traffic School", Robert says the word "binding", and Marie [[PreemptiveShutUp immediately says]], "Shut up, Frank." Frank is confused, and Marie was sure he was going to do a bathroom joke about "binding".
** In one episode, Debra accuses Ray of parodying children's rhymes with toilet humor:
--> '''Debra''': "Jack and Jill went up the hill... something something poop and pee."
* TongueTied: In "The Shower", Debra had a little too much to drink so she called Ray from the car:
--> '''Debra''': (drunk) Okay, I think I had a little too much to drink because of your mother. And Amy drove her mom back to Pennsylvania, so you gotta come get me. So as soon as you pick up this message, call me on my phell sone-- cell phone. Shut up.
* TooKinkyToTorture: In "The Author":
--> '''Debra''': You know, if you break your promise, I'll know.\\
'''Ray''': (seductively) That's right, and then... you'll have to punish me.\\
'''Debra''': Oh I'll punish you.\\
'''Ray''': (smiling) Yeah?\\
'''Debra''': Seriously; I'll ''hurt'' you. (Debra leaves, and Ray tries to follow her) Work, Ray!
* TooMuchInformation: Ray and Debra react this way when Marie and Frank discuss their sex life.
--> '''Ray''': Don't take this personally, but for the next six months, no eye contact.
** In "Brothers", Robert asks Ray about he and Debra's first time, because he wants to know if his feelings for Debra changed after he had sex. Ray just nervously stares at Robert, refusing to answer. However, after a guilt trip from Robert, who claims he knows nothing significant about his brother, Ray snaps and answers:
--> '''Ray''': You asked about the first time I had sex with Debra. I'll tell ya: I couldn't believe it. I couldn't believe someone like ''her'' would have sex with somebody like ''me''. So you know what I did? I cried. I cried, I was so embarrassed! I couldn't let her see me, so for the whole time, I never looked at her once, okay?! (after a brief pause, Robert gives an incredulous "...Wow." look and turns the TV back on)
* ToughLove: Frank's philosophy. "Ping Pong" revealed that he teased Ray when they played ping-pong to toughen him up, because the real world is tough and you have to be tough right back. It's also revealed in "The Mentor" that a young man he knew at the office, Sammy, responded positively to his "Quit crying and suck it up!" taunts, viewing that as rising to the challenge rather than verbal abuse.
* TurnOutLikeHisFather: In "Bad Moon Rising", Marie slaps Ray twice, claiming that he's turning out just like Frank (that is, not being helpful and understanding during Debra's PMS days).
* TwoMenOneDress: Averted in "Surprise Party"; Lois wants Frank and Robert to share a dragon costume. But Robert declines:
--> '''Robert''': Sorry, Ray, I'm the look-out. You'll have to find someone else to be your dragon's ass.
* UglyGuyHotWife: Ray & Debra virtually ''define'' this trope (and were nearly the TropeNamer) and its endless stream of copycats - including ''TheKingOfQueens'' - use it as part of their schtick, where before sitcoms tended to have parents of at least reasonably equal levels of physical appearance. Ray may not be ''hideous'', but his giant nose and various other aspects are played for laughs. This difference in their attractiveness is played for laughs in the scene where both try to seduce the other in underwear. Debra provokes cat calls and hollers from the audience. Ray's satin boxers provoke laughter.
** Ray brings this up in "P., T. & A.", saying that while Debra is always attractive, no matter what he does, he'll always be "this". In a rare act of kindness, Debra tells Ray that he is in fact, quite handsome.
** Patricia Heaton stated she had an edge on the role in the audition process because she was one of the few actresses who was willing to kiss Ray. And in ''How They Met'', one of the things that attracted Debra to Ray was that he was "a good kisser".
** Interestingly inverted in the episode "Ray's Ring", in which Ray is hit on by another woman shortly after Robert loses his wedding ring. When Debra finds out, she gets angry at Ray, even though he tells her he set the woman straight. Jealous, Debra takes off her wedding ring and goes to the supermarket, which Ray secretly follows her to. When Debra finds out that Ray is watching her, she tries to get other men to flirt with her, but to no avail. Debra angrily confronts Ray and tells him "You're obviously married to an old hag."
-->'''Ray:''' [[CrowningMomentOfFunny ''But I love her!'']]
** Also their friends, the overweight Bernie and the slim attractive Linda, would qualify.
* TheUnfairSex: After the first few seasons, the show began using this trope a lot. Used in-show by Debra as a justification for her vindictiveness. Debra and Marie were often able to "win" arguments they had no business winning (Marie over Debra, since she was the pro), and the men were forced to deal with it.
** Also used on a {{Cross Over}} episode of the {{King of Queens}}, where Ray and Debra guest-starred. At one point in the episode, Debra and Carrie declare that men should be forced to wear an electro-shock collar around their neck to keep them in line (this joint declaration ends up being the event that makes Debra and Carrie become friends: the discovery that they share a mutual condescension towards men).
* TheUnfavorite: This trope could be renamed The Robert.
* UnsympatheticComedyProtagonist: Pretty much everyone in the main cast is this. You have Ray, a whiny, lazy [[MommasBoy momma's boy]] who constantly lies to get out of sticky situations. Debra is a shrieking, long suffering verbally abusive housewife that can never catch a break. Robert is a selfish and often cruel ManChild, with only a FreudianExcuse to back him up. Marie is a [[ManipulativeBastard manipulative bitch]] who uses guilt, food, and her old age to get everyone to do whatever she wants, effectively making her the "Queen" of the Barone family, and could arguably be considered the root of every conflict of the show, because of how she raised her two sons, and how she treats her daughter-in-law. Frank is a loud and rude JerkAss, who constantly belittles everyone in the family, and treats his wife analogous to a slave.
* UnusualEuphemism: In "Stefania Arrives", when Ray and Robert are talking about Stefania:
--> '''Ray''': Did you two do, uh... (has a sly look on his face)\\
'''Robert''': Do ''what'', Raymond?\\
'''Ray''': ...The "huckle buckle"?
** In one episode, Ray describes sex with Debra as "Hava nagila". As in, "have-a a lot of nagila".
** From the episode "Sex Talk:"
--> '''Frank''': Look, pal - if you're having trouble making the whee-wacky-woo-hoo, you did not get that from me!
** In "Peter on the Couch", "friendly" is a euphemism for having sex:
--> '''Robert''': We're never alone anymore! I mean, you and I haven't even been "friendly" since he (Peter) got here!\\
'''Amy''': Robert!\\
'''Robert''': I'm sorry, I just wanna be your friend!
** Later:
--> '''Robert''': No, Amy, you are ''not'' driving all the way to Pennsylvania tonight. You're gonna stay here and be my friend!
* UnwantedGiftPlot: In one episode, Marie gives Ray and Debra a sculpture that she made in a class. The sculpture is unintentionally very suggestive, leading the family to try various means of getting rid of it without telling her why.
** "The Toaster" and "Jazz Records" both feature this as well; pretty much any gift that Ray gives Marie and Frank for Christmas is either sold or stashed in the basement.
--> '''Marie''': Would you like a popcorn popper?
* UpperClassTwit: Debra's parents, Warren and Lois, were the epitome of this trope.
* VacationEpisode: The two-parter "Italy".
** This was one VacationEpisode that actually had further ramifications for the plot, as it introduced the recurring characters of Marco and Stefania.
* {{The Verse}}: {{Everybody Loves Raymond}} is set in the same universe as fellow CBS sitcoms {{The Nanny}} and {{The King of Queens}}. In real life, Ray Romano went to high school with "Nanny" star Fran Drescher and has done standup comedy with "King of Queens" star Kevin James. All three shows are set firmly in the New York metro area, with "Raymond" being set in a Long Island suburb just outside the city, "King of Queens" being set (of course) in the NY City borough of Queens, and "The Nanny" being set largely on Manhattan Island itself (although the action frequently moves to Fran's parents' apartment in Queens).
** The Ray Barone character appeared in an episode of "The Nanny" where it was revealed that he and the fictional Fran Fine both went to Hillcrest High School, just like their actors, Romano and Drescher. Doug Heffernan from "King of Queens" made a few appearances on "Raymond", and the "Raymond" characters had several guest appearances on "King of Queens."
** Interestingly, the final appearance of the Ray Barone character was on the "King of Queens" episode "Raygin Bulls," as this episode aired in the fall season after "Everybody Loves Raymond" had ended. From what we heard Ray saying to (offscreen) Marie over the phone at the beginning of that episode, life apparently hadn't changed much for Ray Barone since the series finale of "Raymond."
** The Ray Barone character was also the only character to appear in all three shows. Ray appeared on an episode of {{The Nanny}}, and several episodes of {{The King of Queens}}, in addition to, of course, being in every episode of "Raymond." The characters from {{The Nanny}} didn't appear in the other two shows, and the Doug Heffernan character from {{The King of Queens}} made a couple of guest appearances on "Raymond". Ray Barone's buddy Gianni also made an appearance on {{The King of Queens}}, as did Frank, Marie, Robert, and Debra.
* VertigoEffect: Seen in the season 4 intro when Ray sees Marie, Frank, and Robert heading towards the house. The camera does this effect on Ray's horrified face.
* VolleyingInsults: Happens in nearly every episode between Frank and Marie.
* WarIsHell: Often, when the characters would complain about something in their lives, Frank would retort "You think that's bad? Try being in Korea during the war! We didn't have [Insert Modern Convenience Here], we had to tough it out!"
* WaxingLyrical: In "Super Bowl", Robert is annoyed that Ray didn't ask him to the Super Bowl:
--> '''Robert''': Hey, why don't you get one of those big "number one" foam fingers and wave it in the air? 'Cause you're number one, Raymond, '''YOU'RE NUMBER ONE!''' But remember this: '''One is the loneliest number that you'll ever do'''.
** In "Meeting the Parents", when Amy has locked herself in a room after she discovers that her parents want to take her away from Robert, Ray comes to the rescue:
--> '''Ray''': You two love each other! And [[Music/TheBeatles all you need is love! Love is all you need! Love, love, love!]] Okay?
* WelcomeTitles: The family was introduced while passing by on a conveyor belt for a while.
* WhatHappenedToTheMouse?: In the episode "Liars", after Ray lies to go to a golf game, Ray catches Debra lying about her doctor's appointment... TWICE! However, she isn't interrogated any further (like, as to where she went, or why she lied about it...) But [[DoubleStandard Ray still got yelled at for her for doing the same thing as her]]. It's not a big deal but still... [[WhatHappenedToTheMouse where did she go?]]
** Debatable. It's unclear as to whether she was lying or if Ray was just being paranoid.
* WhatIsGoingOn: In "The Bird", Debra is understandably confused why the Barones and the [=McDougals=] are at each other's throats when she returns from the kitchen, when both families were just fine a few minutes ago. (the reason: Pat put an injured bird out of its misery and the Barones thought she was a thoughtless animal killer)
** Said nearly verbatim by Frank in "The Mentor" when Marie questions Frank about whether Sammy is an illegitimate son he had with Harriet Lichtman.
* WhenIWasYourAge: Frequently said by Frank. An example:
--> '''Frank''': That's the problem with your generation: Everything has to feel good. Do you think World War II felt good? Do you think Korea felt good? In my day, ''nothing'' felt good!
--> '''Ray''': Why don't you go back to your day and stop ruining ''ours''!
** An example from Marie in "The Angry Family":
--> '''Marie''': This "new psychology", that children are always right, they're being rewarded for every little thing they do with the stickers! I mean, these kids are comin' home full of stickers for doing nothing! "You went to the potty! Here's a sticker!" In my day, you had to ''earn'' a reward, and even ''then'', you didn't get one. And if there was yelling in the house, you earned that, too. There was nothing to be ashamed of.
* WholeEpisodeFlashback: There's a couple episodes that explore the characters' lives before the pilot episode, from the episode where Ray and Debra first meet, to several episodes of them as boyfriend/girlfriend. Interestingly, these were usually reserved for season finales. The flashback episodes are as follows:
** ''Why Are We Here?'': Explains how Ray and Debra moved across the street from Frank and Marie.
** ''The Wedding'' Parts 1 and 2: Ray and Debra's marriage.
** ''How They Met'': Explains how Ray first met Debra (he was a sofa installer).
** ''Robert's Divorce'': Explores Robert's disastrous first marriage to Joanne "Cinnamon" Glotz.
** ''Ally's Birth'': Self-explanatory.
** ''The First Time'': Ray and Debra try to have sex for the first time, but their romantic evening is interrupted by Frank, Marie, Robert, and the priest at their church.
* WhoWillTakeTheKids: The plot to "The Will"; not crazy about Frank and Marie being the legal guardians of the children if Ray and Debra die, they decide to ask Bernie and Linda instead. However, the couple turn them down because they don't want to deal with Frank and Marie.
* WhyWeCantHaveNiceThings: Marie said this in "The Author" when Ray and Robert broke the living room lamp during their scuffle.
* WorstWhateverEver: In "The Disciplinarian", Ray tells Robert, "Worst song ever written: "Bungle in the Jungle"." to piss him off.
* YankTheDogsChain: In "Grandpa Steals", Frank reluctantly agrees to return to the supermarket to apologize to Jimmy, the clerk who caught him sampling. During their conversation, Frank apologizes, and for a second, it looks like Jimmy is going to forgive him, because he says "Yeah, I'm sorry too...", only to insult him some more: "...I'm sorry that jerks like you come into my section and take your dirty hands and put it into the food and take whatever you want. And then when I try to do my ''job'', you rant and rave like some red-faced maniac. You want to do me a favor? ''Go steal from the A&P!''"
** In the last couple minutes of "The Power of No", Debra finally decides to have sex with Ray after 27 days of mutual abstinence. However, just as they're about to go upstairs, Ally, Michael, and Jeffrey scamper downstairs to eat breakfast and get ready for school. Debra reluctantly abandons Ray to tend to the children, leaving Ray without sex yet again.
* YouLookFamiliar: Jon Manfrellotti originally played an unnamed cable repairman in the season 1 episode "The Game"; he would later play recurring character Gianni starting in the second season.
* YouNeedABreathMint: In "Sweet Charity", Ray gets up close to a woman he's supposed to get to take her pills:
--> '''Margaret''': (her eyes are closed) If you're the angel of death, I'm ready!\\
'''Ray''': ...I'm not the angel of death.\\
'''Margaret''': (opens eyes) Then you could use a mint.
* YoungerThanTheyLook: In "Young Girl", Robert dates Erica, a woman who claims to be 22. (making her roughly half his age) However, at the end of the episode it's revealed that she's even younger than that: She's 19. Debra incredulously asks if Erica is even out of high school yet.
** Despite being cast as the elderly Frank, Peter Boyle was only 60 when the show began production.
* YoureNotMyFather: In "The Nice Talk":
--> '''Peter''': (to Pat) If you don't read my ''Zombie Blood Chronicles'', you're not my mother!