* The example from ''Series/TwentyFour'' is especially gut-wrenching: a man is nearly tortured to death by a (male) terrorist and is in the hospital recovering after it happened. His girlfriend sees him there depressed after what he went through and repeatedly slaps him in an attempt to invoke GetAHoldOfYourselfMan, telling him to stop feeling sorry for himself after he nearly died. This is apparently just what he needed, as he returned to work later that day.
* Played straight in ''Series/TheNewsroom''. Both seasons have instances of women taking out their frustration on men by using physical violence. One example is Sloan Sabbith pushing Neal Sampat against the wall just for making up imaginary insults for her. Neal also gets punched in the stomach later by a woman, for something someone else did to her.
* Played for laughs in an episode of ''Series/AccordingToJim'' when Jim, Andy, and Andy's ex-girlfriend's ex-boyfriend goes to her cabin for a weekend of fishing and relaxing to make Andy forget about her. Jim goes to a nearby bar (to get booze) where, as luck would have it, it's "ladies' night." He mistakes all the women for men and then they make sexual advances on him; when he says he's married, they dismiss it by stating "What did you expect coming here dressed like that on ladies' night?" (Jim is, as always, in jeans and a flannel shirt; apparently in the bar's area this is a very sexually provocative outfit, as even the bartender makes a remark about his "sexy attire on ladies' night.") He proceeds to give the ladies lap dances and is later shown being won in a poker game and having his shirt and belt stuffed with dollar bills.
* ''AmericasFunniestHomeVideos'' regularly plays a video of an angry woman at a wedding party who punches a man repeatedly in the head when he attempts to remove the bride's garter with his teeth. Would AFV think a video of a man punching a women in the head be funny enough to play repeatedly year after year?
* ''Series/{{Cops}}'' tends to highlight domestic abuse cases where the woman is clearly in the wrong but the man is still to blame. One episode had the girlfriend accusing her boyfriend of hitting her. While the boyfriend was bloodied, scratched up, and his shirt was ripped apart, the girlfriend didn't have a mark on her. Even more outrageous was the discovery of drugs in the boyfriend's car ''when we see the girlfriend put the bag in the car on camera behind the cops backs''. Still, it's the boyfriend who's arrested for assault and drug possession, though the girlfriend was clearly the aggressor and had planted evidence deliberately in his car.
* Closely subverted in an episode of ''{{Friends}}'', in which Joey's new girlfriend is constantly hitting him, ''hard'' (though not as a punishment, she's just trying to be playful), and his friends all laugh at him for being terrified of her - until Rachel gets a taste of it and understands their mistake. The episode implies that said new girlfriend is fully aware of this trope and is using it under the excuse of playfulness. When Joey actually protests the hitting, she says "Oh, you're making fun of me! ''Stop making fun of me!''" while smiling and hitting him even harder than before. At the very least she thinks she can get away with hitting people if she smiles while she does it, since she does it to Rachel when Rachel says something she doesn't like much.
* ''TwoAndAHalfMen''
** Alan and Charlie's mother virtually exists to criticize and berate them at every opportunity. But then again, this ''is'' ''TwoAndAHalfMen'', and it has no shortage of {{Double Standard}}s against both sexes, so...
** How Alan's ex-wife Judith treats him. She constantly belittles him, blames him for everything Jake picks up in the house (from Charlie, not from Alan!), and [[FinancialAbuse demands huge amounts of alimony from him--when he decides to treat himself and buy himself a much-needed car, her response is to demand]] ''[[FinancialAbuse more]]'' [[FinancialAbuse alimony from him--and she doesn't even need the money, other episodes revealed she was spending it all on material items and expensive trips to Hawaii.]]
** In one episode, Charlie falls ill, so Rose comes to "take care of him." Cue drugging him for weeks, controlling his every movement, and locking the doors. At one point, Charlie manages to escape out the window. Had the roles been reversed, this would have never been played for comedy.
** You'd think that, but ''Series/HappyEndings'' played it for laughs when Max kept an injured Penny drugged and cut her off from her doctor so he could flirt with her hot physical therapist.
* {{Lampshaded}} in the ''Series/RedDwarf'' special "Can't Smeg, Won't Smeg", when Lister comments about whenever a woman can't come up with a good comeback, they always hit people. Kochanski responds by whacking him with a frying pan.
* ''Tool Academy'' frequently shows the girlfriends slapping and punching their JerkAss boyfriends after their improprieties have been revealed. If the resident therapist ever suggests they not resort to violence, it's never shown.
* In ''JerseyShore'', MTV was pressured into not airing the footage of Snooki being punched in the face by a man in a bar. Yet, clips of the girls fighting each other, [=JWoww=] hitting The Situation, and Sammi punching Ronnie in the face were A-okay.
* The relationship between Sam and Freddie on ''Series/ICarly'' is built on this. It took until ''iKiss'' before Sam finally acted like a decent person towards Freddie, and she revealed his biggest secret to the world ''and'' had to be guilted into apologizing by Carly! That was 33 episodes into the series. Sadly, a large part of the fandom seem to think that not only is it funny or okay for him to be beaten up and abused, but that the only reason she does is because she's secretly in love with him, even though abuse in ''any'' circumstance, including love, is not okay.
** It's usually played straight, such as "iMeet Fred" (Sam beat Freddie with a tennis racquet until it broke in half, and later pushed him out of a treehouse and then jumped down on top of him) or "iSell Penny-Tees" (Sam pushed Freddie onto a couch and spanked him).
** Many iCarly fans have defended Sam's behaviour by citing her terrible home life (which, admittedly, is pretty awful), by claiming that it's "slapstick" and not meant to be taken seriously, and by arguing that Sam is understandably angry because she's in love with Freddie and he only has eyes for her best friend, Carly. It seems highly unlikely that any of these justifications, especially the last one, would be accepted if it was a male character physically abusing a female character.
*** In fact, some fans have insisted that there is nothing wrong with Sam abusing Freddie, because in "iKiss," he actually indicated that he ''likes'' it. First of all, if this had been a girl expressing appreciation for a boy's abusive behaviour, it would be bluntly condemned as sick. Second, these fans usually neglect to mention that ''after'' Freddie said it would be too weird if Sam didn't make his life miserable, he said, ''"But maybe you could pull back just a little bit-"'' and Sam replied, ''"I don't think so."'' So Freddie obviously didn't like Sam's abuse ''that'' much.
** At the beginning of season 5, Sam and Freddie actually became a couple for about four episodes. At one point, it was revealed that Sam was still hitting Freddie. Again, it was not viewed as abusive, and Carly thought it was sweet that Sam had stopped punching Freddie in the face.
*** Some believe the implication is that Freddie [[TooKinkyToTorture likes]] it when Sam hits him, which is itself an UnfortunateImplication. Or that he's been abused so long by Sam that he now suffers from StockholmSyndrome.
** The episode when the kids find Lewbert's ex-girlfriend Marta, a woman who was so miserable to him that he faked his own death and changed his identity just to get away from her. When the kids witness her beating him and forcing attacking him with scissors (to give him a haircut) they at least seem appropriately horrified, admitting she's as much of a "monstress" as Lewbert said she was, but her abuse of Lewbert (especially considering he's an antagonist on the show and a thoroughly unpleasant character any way you look at him) is still largely played for laughs.
** In "iFight Shelby Marx," Carly, Sam, and Shelby all gang up on Nevel, and it is implied that they beat him up. Some viewers have argued that it was justified because Nevel tried to manipulate Shelby into beating up Carly by falsely claiming that Carly had deliberately tried to injure Shelby's grandmother. Justified or not, the fact remains that it would never be considered acceptable for three male protagonists to beat up a female antagonist, no matter what she did.
* Averted in ''TheMentalist'' to become Abuse Is Okay When It Is Anyone On Jane. For example, Lisbon punching Jane in the nose after [[spoiler:he made her believe she was going to die]] is treated as fine, women slapping Jane or throwing things at him after he's done something particularly bad is fine, and most of the men who punch him are excused. In this case it may be more about Jane being an AcceptableTarget than anything related to gender.
** Him being a {{Jerkass}} makes it hard to feel sorry for Jane when he gets hit.
* An aversion happens in the first post-[[McLeaned McLeaning]] episode of ''Series/{{Charmed}}''. Paige, a social worker and newcomer to the craft, is put through a tough moral decision regarding an abused child. After the [[TheFinalTemptation climax of the story]], where she nearly uses her powers to [[ThouShaltNotKill teleport the father's heart from his body]], the man turns to his wife, arms clasped protectively around his son's shoulders, and says, "I'm not gonna let you hurt our son anymore."
** Subverted in another episode "Battle of the Hexes". Billie had been acting like a StrawFeminist, convinced women were the better sex. A spell causes all the girls in her class to start attacking all the boys. When she sees this, she's alarmed and says "this isn't right". But then again when Phoebe and Piper are talking about it later, they are making some light of the situation which they certainly wouldn't be doing if it had been the boys attacking the girls.
* Tyler Perry's ''House of Payne'' spends an episode on domestic abuse featuring a woman being beaten by her husband, a man being repeatedly stomped and electrocuted by his wife and two other women while they tell a 911 operator he's trying to kill them, and Delante being beaten within an inch of his life by two women he's dating. Only one of these is ever treated as domestic abuse or anything short of hilarious. Perry's films have traces of the trope as well.
* Averted in a recent storyline of the Irish soap ''Fair City''. Suzanne Halpin's abuse of her husband Damien swiftly escalates from constant insults to a once per episode NoHoldsBarredBeatdown (this is rendered fairly tragic when one considers that Damien WouldntHitAGirl, even in obvious self-defense, due to his own father's abuse of his mother), and is treated with appropriate outrage and shock by everyone who finds out, including Suzanne's ''own father'', Bela. His reaction is to publicly, tearfully apologize to Damien for what his daughter has put him through. Now, if only the acting quality weren't so horrendous...
* Played straight in the TV miniseries ''Betty Broderick''. The title character spends several YEARS stalking, harassing and terrorizing her {{Jerkass}} ex-husband and his new wife before finally shooting them dead. But Betty's behavior is somehow justified because her husband dumped her for another woman and SHE is the one made out to be the victim/heroine in the ensuing murder trial. The fact that Ms. Broderick was played by Meredith Baxter Birney also makes it HilariousInHindsight--Birney herself probably wouldn't have minded.
* Anytime Lois Lane attacks a main character in ''{{Smallville}}'', it's an example of this trope. One example had her kicking a man [[GroinAttack somewhat painfully]] for removing her from the premises. The thing that makes this even worse is that ''he was a security guard, and she was trespassing''.
* ''TheCosbyShow'' tends to subvert this trope several times.
** In "Elvin Pays for Dinner," Sondra pushes her luck with Elvin by repeatedly insisting that Elvin go out to dinner with two old female friends, over his own protests that he ''not'' go out. Despite this, when Elvin comes home, Sondra gets in a sour mood over her own version of the evening, locks him out of their bedroom, and refuses to talk to him the next day, simply because he failed to understand her real thoughts on the matter. Elvin ends up completely bewildered as to why Sondra is so angry at him, groveling for forgiveness, even though he hasn't really done anything wrong. ''However,'' Sondra was later called out by Clair for [[PoorCommunicationKills not communicating her feelings properly]] and getting upset with Elvin, who was completely innocent.
** Another episode had Elvin directly asking Cliff and Grandpa Russel about what to do when Sondra blames him for something he didn't do. They (rather gleefully) tell him "Take it", with the implication that it's just something women do and it's their job as husbands to just put up with it. However, when Elvin decided to face Sondra, the other guys look in the kitchen to see Sondra and Elvin clearly having made up.
** There have been times when Cliff forgot something about his wedding (which Clair seems to quiz him on regularly) and she "puts him in a headlock." This includes incredibly minor details like what color his tie was or what kind of gown his mother-in-law wore.
* Most soap operas are guilty of this (compare the way betrayed wives are allowed to treat cheating husband with the reverse), especially the Australian ones. ''HomeAndAway'' had local cop Angelo Rosetta, who'd been turned into a Type II or III AntiHero, twice assaulted by a woman simply for trying to solve crimes and arresting suspects. He actually tried to charge one of them with assaulting a police officer, only for his fellow officers to let her go on the grounds they liked her more than him. Rival show ''{{Neighbours}}'' isn't as bad on physical violence - case in point, Philip and Loretta Martin's storyline in 1985 - but does seem determined to have its male characters humiliated by the female ones as often as possible. (A 2011 episode saw Doctor Karl Kennedy, the show's regular [[ButtMonkey figure of fun]] [[StrawmanHasAPoint even when he's right]], forced to dress up as a woman in public and loudly declare women were better than men by his wife and her best friend. Which is a normal day for him.)
* Both averted and played straight on ''Series/RobinHood''. Marian punches Guy in the face (and deliberately puts on a ring beforehand to use as a knuckle-buster) just before she bails on their wedding; this is largely {{justified|Trope}} in that he's already physically tried to prevent her from leaving and threatens her father's safety if she doesn't go through with the ceremony. However, in a later episode she punches Robin in the stomach so hard that he doubles over in pain just because she's frustrated. This is played for laughs.
** As a point of interest, the fact that Guy/Marian was [[FanPreferredCouple immensely popular]] in the fandom means that certain viewers argued that [[MisaimedFandom Marian was completely out of line when she punched Guy]] to facilitate her escape, but that [[RonTheDeathEater Robin]] fully deserved to be physically attacked after he jokingly/affectionately tells Marian: "you look gorgeous from any angle" whilst she's comically dangling from one of the outlaws' traps.
** However, the trope was rather appallingly {{inverted}} in the third season with the arrival of Isabella, Guy's [[LongLostSibling Long Lost Sister]], who was suffering from the psychological effects of a seventeen-year abusive marriage. Guy and Robin are constantly man-handling her (choking her, pushing her, slapping her across the face) in ways that are never treated as that big a deal, but whenever Isabella reciprocates, it's meant to demonstrate how she's SlowlySlippingIntoEvil. Her abusive husband is never seen as anything but a monster, but the fact that Robin responds to Isabella committing a self-defensive kill (to prevent herself getting raped/strangled) by calling her a murderer and ''shoving her off her feet'' is more than a little unsettling.
* The ''Series/SaturdayNightLive'' sketch mocking Tiger Woods' alleged abuse by his wife was performed on the ''exact same episode'' where Rihanna was the musical guest, just to bring that point home, and yet, when an ''Entertainment Weekly'' writer [[http://popwatch.ew.com/2009/12/07/tiger-woods-snl/ brought up this point after the SNL episode aired]], most commenters told her (yes, the writer is ''female'') to shut up and let them enjoy the few funny moments that SNL has left; completely oblivious to this double standard, with very little criticism towards Elin Woods. During the Chris Brown debacle months earlier, they were singing a different tune.
** A much older example dates back to the early eighties. In one sketch, a husband (played by Gary Kroeger) arrives home late from a party to an angry wife (played by Mary Gross) who proceeds to viciously attack him and then leave with their children (but not before the children throw loud raspberries at him). When the husband's friend comes over, he figues out that his wife attacked him and teases him for it. Next, a police officer arrives to check up on things, and the husband tries to report the beating, but the policeman doesn't believe him. After they leave, just to rub things in further, the wife comes back, tries coaxing him into opening the door to let her back in, and when he doesn't trust her, she busts through the door and then continues attacking him. While this may have been seen as hilariously ironic back when this sketch aired, by today's standards it hits a little too close to home for many...
* ''EverybodyLovesRaymond'' plays this trope absolutely straight, with Debra smacking Ray played for humor. Debra seems to delight in beating up her husband Raymond for the most minor mistakes. In one episode, he finally calls her out for acting this way and she responds by shoving him into the bookshelf so hard that books actually fall(it was that time of the month for her, which only adds to the UnfortunateImplications). The most maddening thing is that Debra gets [[DracoInLeatherPants the studio audience crazy with cheers every time she does it,]] (which provides us with even ''more'' UnfortunateImplications) and the worst she gets is other characters making lighthearted jokes about her anger issues and cruelty (Ray calling her a "cranky yell machine" but then being instantly rebuked and cowed back into submission by Debra) and then calling Ray a wuss without any actual sympathy. Debra is never actually made to apologize for the pattern of behavior she displays towards Ray, and often it is ''Ray'' who gets humiliated and/or forced to apologize at the end of each episode.
** Debra's main frustration appears to be living next door to Raymond's parents, but then again, Raymond doesn't much care for that either, so it's not really fair for her to take it out on him. A flashback episode even showed that Ray was very vocally against moving across the street and [[{{CassandraTruth}} warned Debra about how annoying his parents would be]], but Debra decided it was the right choice (and after the flashback ends, Debra chews Ray out for not stopping her; the guy can't win).
* Carrie Heffernan of ''Series/TheKingOfQueens'' shows shades of this sometimes, but is generally much more well-rounded than [[{{EverybodyLovesRaymond}} certain other]] sitcom wives.
** On one occasion, Carrie refers Danny's new landscaping business to her new gynecologist (who is very temperamental), only for Danny to overcharge him. Panicking about losing the gynecologist, she makes Doug pay the extra amount which costs him the new grill he wanted to get. Unfortunately, doing this backfires when the gynecologist has Danny do more work on his yard. When Carrie threatens Danny not to overcharge him again, he panics and runs off, so Carrie forces Doug to finish the work on the gynecologist's yard ''in the middle of the night''. The only restitution Doug gets is that Carrie ends up losing her gynecologist anyway.
** On another occasion the show seems to subvert this but then plays it tragically straight. Where Doug is so traumatized by Carrie's emotional and physical abuse that he ends up talking to a support group for abused men. But the episode ends with Carrie giving a speech to the support group about how Doug's actions justified her behavior.
** The episode ''The Waitress'' definitely comes to mind with this trope. In the episode, Danny has to deal with an incredibly rude waitress who not only does not serve him at the same time as his friend, but ''refuses'' to get his ready chicken wings that remain sitting on the counter. When Danny goes up and gets the chicken wings himself, the restaurant's manager punishes the waitress for not delivering the plate to Danny by sending her home. The waitress then declares she's going to beat Danny up when he leaves and spends the remainder of the episode stalking around the front of the restaurant, waiting for Danny to leave. Not only is this PlayedForLaughs, but nobody calls the cops about this obvious harassment and ''Danny'' is portrayed as being the wrong party. And it's still PlayedForLaughs when the waitress beats him up off-screen!

* ''{{Titus}}'' averts this, with the title character actually showing the after effects of a fight with his ex-girlfriend. [[RealLifeWritesThePlot This was based on an actual relationship Chris Titus had]], and the episode actually showed him going to her funeral to make sure she was really dead, he was so scared of her.
** In the stand-up routine the series was based on, he goes into far more detail about the relationship, including the time when the police showed up at the house and arrested ''him'', despite the fact that not only was he the one who'd called them in the first place, but he'd been making such calls on a regular basis. In fact, in one instance he'd even ''claimed to have been the abuser'' just so they'd get him away from her.
* In one episode of ''FreshPrinceOfBelAir'', Will goes on a date with a pretty girl who at first seems rather sweet. However, at the restaurant, she completely changes, speaking to him in a rude, snide voice, she tells him where they will go to college, what jobs they will both have, ''how many kids they will have and what genders'', she tells him what to eat and what ''not'' to eat (saying that if he orders cottage cheese now he'll have a heart attack at middle age and leave her with the kids), and when he looks at the waitress to place his order, she yells at both him ''and'' the waitress. Later, she chooses his wardrobe and buys him a beeper with the obvious intent of keeping track of him 24/7 (in real life, behavior like this is a ''huge'' indicator of an abusive relationship). When Will tells his aunt and uncle about this, they shrug it off, saying that the dictating what jobs and how many children they'll have is a sign that she has goals, and her getting angry over him looking at another girl, and telling him what he can and can't eat is just proof that she doesn't want to lose him. By the episode's end, she's hanging on his every word, eagerly promising to handwrite his class notes and send out his mail--and with one disapproving look from him, apologizing and quickly saying she'll deliver it ''door to door''. This has major UnfortunateImplications: Will is told, after the girl becomes Carlton's doormat, that when a girl acts abusive like she did, it's his job to "man up", and show her who the man is in the relationship. Overall, the way it's delivered comes off as more "it's your fault if you're abused because you didn't yell at your abuser enough."
* ''Series/MemphisBeat'' has an interesting take on this. The trope is initially played straight and PlayedForLaughs, but eventually subverted. One of the male police officers - a very big man and a sort of CloudCuckooLander - is seen apparently taking quite the verbal batterment from his wife on the phone, then later in the episode comes in with odd bandages. Three other officers - Whitehead, Dwight, and their female boss - ask him what happened, and he says, "My wife stabbed me" as though it were no big deal. Dwight and the boss don't so much as bat their eyes, but old-fashioned, curmedgeonly Whitehead tells him he should stand up to his wife. At the end of the episode, Dwight tells the officer he shouldn't let his wife push him around, and the end of the episode shows him standing beside her in the booking line - presumably she's being booked for assault. It went from ActuallyPrettyFunny to TearJerker pretty quickly.
* In the first episode of ''Vexed'', Kate physically attacks her husband when she (wrongly) thinks he's having an affair, resulting in him spending the whole of the second episode on crutches. It's not played ''entirely'' for laughs - they're seen attending couples counselling and their marriage is acknowledged to be on the rocks - but by the end of the episode it appears that he's prepared to take her back.
* Discovery ID's ''Wicked Women'' plays this trope straight with their advertising, in which a sexy woman lounges at the side of a pool as her dead husband floats behind her with a knife in his back. Ironically, the programming itself does '''not'''. "Deadly Women" and "Wicked Attraction" - the two shows that fill the "Wicked Women" programming block - are filled with terror and the latter doesn't shy away from portraying women as the instigator in episodes where it appears that the woman was the dominant parter in RealLife - although occasionally parents of the bitches show up to protest that it must have been the evil man who forced their sweet little Angel May to gleefully hack up old people. "Deadly Women" has done several episodes about women who were abusive towards the husbands they eventually murdered, and yes they call it abuse. NeverTrustATrailer.
* Hawthorne plays this alarmingly straight. Christina's BrattyTeenageDaughter Camille comes in with a black eye, Christina manages to get that it was her boyfriend Marcus who hit her out of a bunch of whining and silence, and chases Marcus through the ER throwing things at him. Later she finds out Marcus - the ultimate NiceGuy - never touched Camille. She was whaling on him after his friend forwarded a nude pic to him and she mistakenly believed that he was cheating on her, and in the process tripped and hit her face on a defibrillator. (They were in an unmanned ambulance at the time.) Christina's response? "What were you thinking, laying your hands on a man? Do you know what he could have done to you?" So ... a boy hitting a girl is a crime bad enough to justify being chased through his place of work and having objects thrown at his head, but a girl hitting a boy is only bad because he might have to hurt her defending himself. Furthermore, Camille was perfectly content letting her mother believe Marcus hit her until Christina called in a police officer friend of hers. Later Camille tells Marcus that she only went so crazy on him because she loves him.
* In ''Series/{{Glee}}'', Quinn is constantly verbally abusive towards Finn, repeatedly telling him he's stupid, attempting to control his hobbies and activities. She is also willing to let Finn raise and pay for a child that isn't even his (he's in the dark about this fact), pretty massively affecting his life. When he eventually finds out the kid isn't his and dumps her, it's clear that [[{{Deconstruction}} we're supposed to see him in the right and her as a bitch]]. Despite that she and Finn resumed their relationship for some time the next season.
** Terri does quite a bit of the same to Will, and has the audacity to wonder why she needed to [[spoiler: resort to faking a pregnancy to keep Will around.]] When Will finds out and confronts her (in a fairly reasonable way, given the circumstances; he grabs her by the wrist and yells at her), many viewers responded by saying that ''Will'' was the bad guy in that situation.
* ''ThatsMyBush'' inverted this by parodying TheHoneymooners famous line, "One of this days, to the Moon, Alice!" Bush would say, "One of these days, Laura, I'm gonna punch you in the face!". He never hit his wife and in the show itself, it was just supposed to be a joke. It received a lot of complaints from audience members who felt that even joking about such a thing was terrible. The creators of the show [[WesternAnimation/SouthPark (Trey Parker and Matt Stone)]] must've heard said complaints because later episodes change the line to, "I'm gonna punch you in the face! [[CrossesTheLineTwice Then the stomach! Then the face again!"]]
* ''LawAndOrderSpecialVictimsUnit''. Although there are exceptions.
** "Taboo" - [[{{Squick}} a man and his 20-year-old daughter]] were having an affair. Despite their protests that it was consensual (arguable but near impossible to prove) and the DA's assurances that it was [[CrossesTheLineTwice a relatively low-level crime]], Anvilicious Olivia Benson went storming around determined to prosecute the man for incest (ignoring the fact that the adult woman would also have to be prosecuted), attempting to browbeat the girl into admitting that he raped her and had knowledge of the two children of theirs she killed (which he didn't). She even yelled, "SO ELLA [the woman] GETS ATTEMPTED MURDER AND HE GETS OFF?" at one point -- well, yes, Olivia, that is what happens when a woman commits infanticide.
** In a Season 12 episode, Olivia argued that, if a man and woman went upstairs drunk to have sex, it's all the man's fault. Regardless of circumstances. So, if the man and woman go upstairs equally drunk and the man is the same/more affected than the woman, it's the man's fault! If a woman gets slightly drunk and the man is completely hammered to the point of being unable to understand what's going on - it's not woman/male rape, it's the man's fault! It's a particularly egregious examples since in several episodes, when any of her colleagues try to play DoubleStandardRapeFemaleOnMale straight, Olivia has been outraged and done everything possible to avert this trope. Since any series that stays on the air long enough will eventually accumulate episodes where {{Flanderization}} and the IdiotBall drive the plot. Olivia, as the iconic feminist archetype, ends up an example of this trope when it's her turn to run the idiot ball for an episode, and subverts it when she gets to play defense against it.
** A man was raped by several women, and Elliot is reluctant to believe him or go after the offenders. Later on there was an episode with a teenage boy who revealed he had been repeatedly molested as a little boy by his babysitter, and both subvert this trope by reacting with due horror and concern.
* In the 4th episode of ''Series/HowIMetYourMother'' Ted dates a girl who, it transpires, studies Krav Maga. Granted, he acts like a jerk towards her, but the public beating she doles out to him at the episode's end - during which no one in the crowded restaurant attempts to help or intervene - is hardly justified. To make matters worse, when he tells his friends, ''and his children'', what happened, all any of them do is laugh because he 'got beat [sic] up by a girl'. Even worse, in the 21st episode of season 5 Ted reveals that the crowd in the restaurant ''cheered her on''. Furthermore, for anyone who knows a little about Krav Maga, an Israeli martial art. The premise behind it is that, in a real fight, no quarter is given to the enemy. You fight to inflict maximum pain and damage in order to accomplish your goal and ensure your safety. Everything is permitted, including eye-gouching and {{Groin Attack}}s.
** Lily repeatedly hits the boys whenever she thinks they did something stupid or insensitive, and it's always PlayedForLaughs. There was also an episode where Ted dated a coworker of Robin that she didn't like, so she ''PUNCHED HIM IN THE THROAT''!
* ''Series/{{NCIS}}'' S3 Ep14, "Light Sleeper", subverted this. The initial suspect in the murder of a Korean woman is her Marine husband. Their neighbor claimed she frequently heard them screaming at each other, leading her to believe that husband was abusive. However, the husband reveals to Gibbs that she was the abusive one and proves by lifting up his shirt to reveal a large burn mark where she hit him with an iron. [[spoiler:The woman is later revealed to have been a North Korean sleeper agent.]]
** Another example in the Season 6 finale "Aliyah", when an emotionally distraught Ziva, upset that Tony shot her murderous, rogue Mossad boyfriend to death in easily justifiable self defense, pins Tony to the ground and points her loaded pistol at his chest. As often happens in fiction, despite the immense severity of this act, it is brushed aside with nary an afterward mention, and ''Ziva'' is treated as the one who was wronged.
* Amy and Rory in ''Series/DoctorWho''. While he's perfectly happy being the submissive one in the relationship, she's a BrokenBird with abandonment issues and so will take him for granted reasonably often. She's been much better after the cracks have gone, but according to "The God Complex", she's apparently hit him hard enough to knock him to the floor. When he gives in to her on a point of contention after a bit of protest, she'll often ask, "Are you just agreeing with me because you're afraid of me?" and as often as not he'll admit, "yes," and not jokingly, either. Imagine that exchange with the genders reversed; it would be hard to romanticize a relationship in which the woman was so thoroughly dominated by the man.
** ''The End of Time'' has a scene where the Doctor is groped by one of Wilf's female friends to accompanying "silly music".
* Played for dark laughs on ''[[Series/ThirtyRock 30 Rock]]'' when it's revealed Frank had a sexual relationship with his attractive eighth-grade teacher:
-->'''Pete:''' Guys, a teacher preying on a student is wrong... if the teacher is male and the student is female. What happened to Frank is ''awesome''.
** Pete's horrifying relationship with his wife is played for laughs too:
-->'''Liz''': Pete, you and Paula fight a lot, right?
-->'''Pete''': [''Nervous, holding his lip''] No, I-I walked into a door. I'm so clumsy.
* Something else involving a female teacher and male student is discussed in ''Series/TheGeorgeLopezShow''. After the neighborhood discovers a sex offender moved in down the street, they form a mob and go over to beat him up...only to discover that the offender is actually female, and she admits she had sex with her underage student and she's in therapy for it. Everyone except Angie just shrugs and decides to leave her alone because she's a girl and, as George thinks, the boy was ''lucky'' to have gotten to sleep with her. Later {{subverted}} when he thinks Max may have slept with her and realizes that regardless of the genders, abuse is abuse.
* Averted in the ''CriminalMindsSuspectBehavior'' episode "Smother": the town tried to get the unsub's mother arrested because she was still breastfeeding her son at the age of seven, but without signs of further abuse, they weren't able to do anything. Later her son confesses he was abused, and the mother kidnaps another boy to continue the cycle. Everything is taken seriously.
* Averted by ''Series/KamenRiderDouble'' where Saeko's verbal and physical abuse of Kirihiko is shown to be as bad as it is, building her up to be more villainous [[spoiler:and leading to a RedemptionEqualsDeath arc for him.]]
* Averted in ''{{Frasier}}'' regarding Maris's treatment of Niles, but that may have been because the abuse was mostly emotional and psychological rather than physical. It may also be because Maris was [[TheGhost never seen onscreen]], meaning that her actions were described rather than seen, and things that could have been PlayedForLaughs in action suddenly didn't seem so funny when described out loud.
* Subverted on ''Series/{{Degrassi}}'' as Jenna hitting KC with her guitar is treated seriously and the first sign that she's losing it dealing with the pressure of being a [[TeenPregnancy teen mom.]]
** Played straight by a large part of the fandom however with that moment being listed as a Crowning Moment of Awesome.
* Averted in ''Series/TheItCrowd'' when Roy gets kissed on his butt by a masseuse. Although Jen finds it hysterical, no one else finds it a laughing matter and Roy presumably wins a court case against him.
** But played for laughs in the first episode, when Roy is badly beaten up by a female colleague as punishment for his pereceived lack of 'respect'. Jen seems to approve.
* The UPN series ''The Parkers'' (starring Monique years before {{Precious}} and BET's ''The Monique Show''). Despite Professor Oglevee constantly giving [Monique's character] Nicki Parker ''numerous'' signs that he's not interested in her, she still harasses and stalks him on a regular basis, and keeps telling everyone else (especially other women Professor Oglevee may be attracted to) that he's her man. At one point, it went to the extreme of Oglevee getting drugged to lower his inhibitions to sleep with Nicki. All PlayedForLaughs, but if any male on any sitcom behaved similarly for the five years that passed during ''The Parkers'' series run, he'd have been arrested around episode two (in fact, when one of Nicki's ex-boyfriends forcibly tried to marry her if she lost a poker match, he's portrayed as evil). The most infuriating thing though came from the series finale. Despite Nicki ''finally'' moving on and getting married to someone else, Professor Oglevee crashes her wedding to profess his secret love to her all along; convinced, of all people and of all places, by his reflection in a mirror, reminding him of all the good things he'll miss about Nicki (as opposed to the harassment 95% of the time). So ladies, if you got your eye on a man that you think is your soulmate, bug the crap out of him until he loves you back!
* Played straight in the US version of Shameless. After Steve pulls a terribly stupid prank Fiona actually punches him in the face, knocking him down. Because the prank was stupid, it's treated as though he deserved the beating and at no point does she apologize (he in fact must apologize to her for the prank with the physical abuse a non-issue).
* ''MalcolmInTheMiddle''. While Lois isn't shown as being ''physically'' abusive to the boys (at least, most of the time), she certainly has a temper to her and is guilty of FinancialAbuse too. Consider if the genders were reversed, then it'd probably be more of a SoapOpera than a Sitcom. It's also deconstructed since Francis, the eldest son, is shown to hate his mother for what she put him through.
** This is also subverted because Francis was quite a hellion when growing up, causing much of the distrust.
** To be fair, her flashback about Francis' infancy shows she needs to (or thinks she needs to) act like that to keep the family in line for their own good.
** Lois occasionally makes comments about changing or punishing Hal that would most likely be seen as spousal abuse if he was the one saying them. He's also been shown to be afraid of her when she's angry on at least one occasion.
* Averted in ''FatherTed'' with John and Mary. They are both horribly abusive to one another, verbally and physically. Violence from either party towards the other is always played for laughs and Mary gives just as good as She gets.
* ''CoronationStreet'' managed to subvert it as uber bitch Tracy Barlow was constantly manipulating Steve to get money out of him for their daughter and sometimes just for the hell of it. One episode saw Steve get his own back where he insulted Tracy in the pub and compared her to [[BerserkButton his ex-wife]]. This pissed Tracy off and she punched him in the face. Steve immediately phoned the police and Tracy ended up spending the night in jail for assault.
** Very strongly averted with Kirsty Soames's treatment of Tyrone Dobbs. She violently attacked and scarred him -- hitting him, forcing him against walls, slamming his fingers in doors; cut him off from friends, destroyed his sentimental possessions such as photographs, and he stayed with her mostly because he was afraid she would take their daughter Ruby away if he reported her. None of this was played for laughs and Kirsty was portrayed as being a very dangerously violent and unhinged person to the viewer because of it, though most of the other characters had no idea.
** Played with when it came to Dev and Tara. Tara found out Dev had cheated on her when they had broken up briefly and plotted to get revenge. She ended up plastering a nude photo of Dev on a billboard in the street with "Liar" written in an obvious place (in addition to rejecting his proposal in public). While Tara wasn't portrayed as being in the right (Dev's daughter Amber chewed her out for it), the whole thing had a slight comedic tone to it which wouldn't have been the case if Dev had put up a picture of Tara.
* British puppet adult comedy series Mongrels has an episode (first of the second series) that could be argued either way. The episode's song on the matter ("Just A Little Tap On The Nose") says it's okay to abuse males but uses stereotypically male excuses for domestic abuse (playing it down, rationalising) to the point that it becomes rather squick. This is probably deliberate. Also, Destiny is a female dog and doesn't get a happy ending.
* ''Series/{{The Office| US}}''
** In the episode "Test the Store," Andy gets punched by a young girl, and when the office finds out, they ridicule him. Somewhat subverted when the girl's mother forces her to apologize. But, Andy later gets punched by Kelly, and it's again PlayedForLaughs.
** Largely averted with the relationship between Michael and Jan. The women who work for Dunder-Mifflin advise him to break up with her, and eventually he does, although she manages to delay the action by getting breast implants.
* Averted in ''NewGirl''. Schmidt is the only male in his workplace and is often on the receiving end of psychological abuse from his female co-workers which includes dismissing his work, passing him over for promotions, harassing him constantly, insulting his appearance and degrading him and destroying his self-esteem at every opportunity. While it is played for laughs, the women are still shown as being very much in the wrong and characters even point out how fucked up the situation is. Interestingly it can also be seen as a motive behind Schmidt's constant cockiness, his objectification of women and his control freak tendencies, making him a more three dimensional character.
* ''Step by Step'' : Both played straight and averted in the episode in which Mark is being picked on by a bully named "Max," which turns out to be short for Maxine. Frank is disgusted that Mark is "letting" a girl push him around, and he can't believe that Carol isn't embarrassed by her son's behavior. The fact that the girl in question is ''twice Mark's size'' doesn't seem to matter to Frank. Fortunately for Mark, though, the rest of the family doesn't share Frank's sexist views. Despite her antagonistic relationship with her stepsiblings, Al sticks up for Mark, and threatens to beat Max up if she doesn't lay off him. Later, Mark stands up to Max, who immediately backs down. Unaware that Al had intimidated Max into backing off, Mark eagerly tells the family what he did. Frank and Carol figure out what Al did, but they and Al all let Mark believe he did it himself. The entire family, Frank included, are proud of both Mark (for standing up for himself) and Al (for sticking up for Mark).
* Averted on ''Series/StarTrekDeepSpaceNine'', in one episode Kira and Odo are reading over the criminal activity reports and when they get to the assault, ''[[HotBlooded Kira]]'' asks why the husband stays with his wife when she beats him so often. Later that same night they were arrested for "Public Lewdness." [[AManIsAlwaysEager Which brings up another trope to try and justify why he stays.]]
** Discussed in the episode "Tribunal", where the [[KangarooCourt Cardassian court]] asked O'Brien if the reason he committed his crime (the trial ''begins'' with the judge saying the judgement is guilty and the punishment is execution) was because O'Brien's wife abused him. They may be an evil empire, but at least they are an understanding evil empire.
* In MadMen, Joan gets sick of her husband's endless whining about his job after she gave up her career for him, and bashes a vase over his skull. She suffers no consequence from this. [[MaritalRapeLicense Though he definitely had it coming for other reasons]].
* Amazingly averted in ''The Twilight Zone'' in which mentally abusive wives are shown to be just as bad as abusive males. The most prominent is the wife in ''Time Enough At Last'' who won't even let her husband, a voracious reader, read around the house and is shown as clearly being in the wrong. Many wind up meeting a nasty fate at the end.
* An ''InLivingColor'' skit called "The Last Man on Earth", showed an possible harsh reality if that were to really happen. In the skit, the man was treated like a slave and constantly teased, ridiculed, and harassed by the women he encountered. They would even force him to become a male stripper. The moral way out for the women, was that the man in question was a scrawny, nerdy, beta-male - begging to get some - not a strong, manly, alpha-male. In fact, the beginning of the skit showed the last alpha-male dying off.
* In one ''TheBigBangTheory'' episode, Leonard was set up with one of Bernadette's friends for a blind double date. Said friend spent the whole evening demonstrating Krav Maga nut shots on Leonard. No actual physical abuse, but Leonard was the only one who seemed to have a problem with this.
** Also, Penny and Leslie Winkle are allowed to use Leonard for sex, but he's not allowed to do the same to them. PlayedForLaughs.
** See Biggest Complaint: The Big Bang Theory. This, along with TheUnfairSex, is very high on the list.
** Penny punching Howard square in the face after he tries to kiss her. Sure he was being a sleazebag and taking advantage of Penny's kindness but it was still DisproportionateRetribution. Him lying about how he got the injury to his friends while Penny reproachfully tells them "[[LampshadeHanging that's what happens when women don't respect men]]" [[UnfortunateImplications is troublesome]].
* In Outnumbered Pete and Sue are very worried about their neighbours fighting and after a loud enough fight pop round to see if everything is ok. The wife assures them that she is fine. The next day a policeman interviews Pete and Sue about the domestic violence next door, and they say that they made sure the wife was ok. Turns out she is the perpetrator.
-->'''Policeman:''' Yes, he's got a hairline fracture to the skull. Hitting people on the head with a saucepan didn't use to be so serious, now everyone has Le Creuset pans, they cause serious injuries.
* Averted on an episode of ''JonathanCreek''. At first, Lady Theresa puts stinging nettle into her JerkAss husband's sandwich. This is played for laughs. Later she hits him over the head with a trowel and he starts bleeding heavily. This is played seriously ([[spoiler:as well as being a plot-point for the husband faking an injury in order to strength his insurance claim on a missing painting, telling the authorities that it was the work of an intruder]]. Later, a witness to their relationship states that Lady Theresa's behaviour was completely unacceptable, especially as a lot of the abuse was done in front of her young son.
* On {{Scrubs}}, Jordan and Perry Cox's twisted relationship gets a little more creepy when she implies that she cuts him with a knife while he's sleeping. He's then seen with a band-aid on his arm, and later, his face. It seems he either has no idea how it happened or he's in denial about it. However, Jordan also mentioned Perry choking her offscreen, and considering that onscreen they're both equally emotionally abusive and manipulative, and it's played for laughs either way, this isn't the worst example.
* In the pilot episode of ''Series/SavingGrace'', Grace is has sex with a colleague, Ham, who is married, and who feels guilty about his infidelity. The next time she sees him, he has a black eye his wife gave him. When she asks him about it, he says it's "Nothing I didn't deserve." And this is presented as an appropriate response to domestic abuse. Imagine how this would play out if the sexes were reversed.
* [[http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LlFAd4YdQks Viciously deconstructed]] in ''WhatWouldYouDo''. When the man is abusing the woman, people were quick to step in and stop him. When the woman abused the man, it took hours of filming and over 150 people passed by (''including a police officer'') before someone stepped in and called the cops. Several people when asked why they failed to intervene said they assumed that the man must have done something to deserve it, and freely admitted that had the positions been reversed they would have intervened. One woman was actually cheering on the abuser and saw her as a "role model."
* The Investigation Discovery series, ''Deadly Women'' often subverts this, as many of the women featured in the series had either been psychopathic or sociopathic. The ones who pre-meditated the murders didn't get off as light, but it's not subverted when they actually get off relatively light. Sometimes, it's actually played straight ''and'' subverted at the same time.
* Horribly done in an [[http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z2HhTFQMOEU Indian game show]], where the female host curses at a contestant and slaps him (not according to script), and when he slaps back, the ''entire set'' gangs up on him and beats him to the ground. It turns out that the point of this entire segment of the show is actually this trope. The woman was supposed to insult and verbally abuse the two male contestants, and they were supposed to take it without losing their temper, and when she was unable to get a rise out of them, the contest's managers told her to go out and get more aggressive with them. Imagine if the roles had been reversed: a man going out and screaming insults in a woman's face? Detestable. A woman doing it? Fine and dandy. Luckily, the contestant was able to successfully sue the show for assaulting him, as he was nearly hospitalized. What was worse is that the video itself became famous, as people apparently found it ''funny'' that the man "cried like a little baby." Because ''obviously,'' only "babies" find the idea of being beaten black and blue by 20 men to be unpleasant.
* Averted on ''Series/{{Longmire}}'', when a woman comes to the door with a black eye and says her husband did it. The cops express concern, and she waves them off, saying she gave as good as she got. The cops are still uncomfortable. This is actually more accurate than many shows; domestic abuse is often mutual.
* Played in ''Series/WizardsOfWaverlyPlace'': Alex does this ''constantly'' to Justin, both physically and mentally. She's just joking around, but still.
* Season nine of ''GreysAnatomy''. Jo receives a black eye from her boyfriend and it turns out he hit her in self-defense while ''she'' was attacking ''him''. He ended up in the emergency room with severe brain trauma and was in critical condition for a while. He is portrayed as the bad guy (her violence is excused because he grabbed her by the arm and that awoke bad memories for her) and gets a lecture from Alex about how he can press charges against Jo but all anyone will hear and care about is that he hit a girl. Alex outright states that if a girl hits a guy he should just take it, even if she is nearly killing him.
* Played for laughs in the mexican sitcom ''Series/ElChavoDelOcho''. Doña Florinda unfairly blames Don Ramón for everything that happens with her overprotected son Quico and slaps Don Ramón in his face at every episode. At some episodes she goes further and spanks him to the point of inflicting severe injuries. However Don Ramón never ever calls the police or charges her for aggression. Would the genders be inverted and it would be a mexican soap opera.
* In season 1 of ''Series/TeenWolf'', [[KnightTemplar evil]] [[TheHunter werewolf hunter]] Kate Argent first corners and tortures Derek Hale, also making suggestive comments. Then, later in the season, she captures and tortures Derek in a deliberately erotic way. Apparently, she had once seduced him when he was a teenager and continued to enjoy "playing" with him as an adult despite her belief that [[FantasticRacism werewolves are not human]]. He is [[{{Fanservice}} shirtless]] during both times. If their genders were reversed there is ''no way'' that these kinds of scenes would have been allowed on a show targeted at a teenage audience.
** The character herself, though, is fully portrayed as a villain, since she also admits to have seduced him in order to [[KillItWithFire burn him and his family down in their house]]. Between her torture of Derek and this, ''nobody'' bat an eye when she got killed in the season finale.
* In ''Series/KaizokuSentaiGokaiger'', Luka Millfy regularly shouts at and hits her teammate [[ButtMonkey Don]], even though they're shown to have a good relationship when the chips are down. Lampshaded in one episode where when they switch bodies, Luka (in Don's body) is oblivious to the looks she's getting from bystanders as she yells at Don (in her body) and forces him to carry her shopping.
** ''Series/ZyudenSentaiKyoryuger'' shows Souji's love interest (and apparent future wife) Rin hitting and yelling at him when he upsets her or doesn't realize her crush on him. He's shown to find girls "scary" and at one point is visibly alarmed at having a dream (induced by a MonsterOfTheWeek) of going on a date with her. Despite this, her actions are played for laughs and presented as somewhat justified since Souji doesn't acknowledge that he is supposed to fall for her.
* Meta-example. Some fans who didn't ship Blair with Chuck on ''GossipGirl'' claimed he abused her. This based on an incident where Chuck, drunk and having just found out that his father might have killed someone and that Blair is marrying another man, punches a wall out of frustration. The wall in question happened to be made of glass and Blair happened to be three feet away and got a tiny cut on her cheek. This apparently makes Chuck an abuser but Blair (who has pulled Chuck's hair, stomped on his foot and slapped him on several occasions) is not.
* DesperateHousewives does this a number of times, noticably with Susan. In one episode, she breaks into another man's car to spy on someone. When he notices this, she uses the automatic windows to crush his head, and make him apologize for all the women he wronged in his life. A police officer stops her, but Susan gets no punishment for her actions. Later, she attacks Paul, only to be stopped when Beth threatens to shoot her. When confronted about it, she brushes it off as if she did nothing, and again, receives no punishment for her actions.
* Played straight on {{Bones}} where Booth and Brennan go to a bachelorette party to question the male stripper about a murder. Despite showing his badge and identifying himself as FBI, the women believe him to be another stripper and start forcibly undressing him, despite his repeated demands for them to stop, complete with them saying "You obviously want it considering your belt buckle" in regards to his Cocky belt buckle. All the while Brennan stands back with a small smirk at her partner getting assaulted, as if it's perfectly fine.
* [[DiscussedTrope Discussed]] on an episode of ''WithoutATrace''. Both the VictimOfTheWeek and the FBI learn a boy is being abused, and immediately assume it's the father. When one of the agents interrogates the mother, she refers to an old riddle[[labelnote:*]]A man and his son are in a car accident and rushed to the hospital, and the surgeon is called in to operate on the son. But upon seeing the boy, the doctor says, "I can't operate on him, he's my son.". The answer is the surgeon is the boy's mother.[[/labelnote]] and says it's like how people assume that [[AllAbusersAreMale only men abuse their children]] as a lead-in to accusing her of abusing her son.
* The ''{{Maury}}'' show has episodes of female teenagers who are out of control by abusing their mothers (the fathers are never mentioned at all) and their siblings (both genders are victims) while having wild sexual encounters with strangers. Subverted due to the audience showing no sympathy towards the trash talking girls.
* In the "Good Samaritan" episode of ''Series/TheBlacklist'', Keen chases after the Good Samaritan, a serial kidnapper who targets abusive spouses and parents and replicates the injuries that they inflict upon their loved ones. After saving the latest victim, a man who has abused his wife, Keen gives the man a warning that she'll be watching him from now on and if he ever abuses his wife again, she'll finish the Good Samaritan's work. Would that line have been added if Keen had been male, and the abuser had been female?
* On ''Series/TheThinBlueLine'' after Patricia discovers the NotWhatItLooksLike tape mentioned on the main page involving the Mayoress and Inspector Fowler , she goes for the rolling pin, and when he argues against her idea of having kids, she hits him with a fish.
* Initially played straight in the third season of ''Series/{{Wings}}'' when Helen returns after a lengthy period of trying to make it big in NYC, expecting to find Joe ready to resume their relationship. When she finds out that he's moved on and gotten another girlfriend however, she starts going on violently destructive rampages -- including totally destroying Sandpiper's office ''twice'' -- yet it's all played for laughs. Averted a couple of episodes later however, as the other characters hold an intervention when it becomes clear that her rage isn't subsiding, and tell her that her behaviour is way out of line.
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