Created By: Xandriel on July 22, 2011 Last Edited By: Xandriel on October 24, 2011
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Insecure Love Interest

A character feels unworthy of their Love Interest\'s affection.

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A form of Heroic Self-Deprecation where a character thinks they're not good enough for their Love Interest. They may think this while they're actually in a relationship with said person (in which case they may break it off before things get worse), or they may avoid pursuing them in the first place.

Done well, it can provide conflict, as well as maybe Character Development. Done badly, it just comes across as Wangst, especially if the character has no reason to feel like this.

Related to I Just Want My Beloved to Be Happy. Also compare I Can't Believe a Guy Like You Would Notice Me. If this causes a breakup, they may say It's Not You, It's Me.

Examples

Animeand Manga

Comic Books
  • Tommy Monoghan of the Hitman comic book ends his relationship with Tiegel once and for all by pretty much telling her outright that he's a scumbag, and if they stay together he'd just keep letting her down and screwing up. He's saying it because it's true, but he's ALSO saying it because he's about to take on a pretty good sized chunk of the CIA and doesn't want her around for it. Whether or not a reader thinks he would have said/done it if not for the whole CIA thing varies.

Literature
  • This is a constant problem for Georgina Kincaid. She thinks she's not good enough for Seth and is going to end up hurting him, because she's hurt people in the past. That and she's a succubus, whereas he's a reserved and virtuous man.
  • In New Moon of the Twilight series, Edward leaves Bella because of this, resulting in much Wangst from both of them.
  • This is Lupin's reason for not getting together with Tonks (and the reason she's been so depressed throughout) in the 6th Harry Potter book. He comes around at the end and they're a couple in the 7th.

Live-Action TV
  • Nip/Tuck has Christian break up with Natasha because he thinks she deserves better than a Casanova like him.
  • In Season 3 of Buffy the Vampire Slayer, this is Angel's reasoning for ending his relationship with Buffy.

Music
  • Basically the premise to the Tal Bachman song "She's so High."
    What could a guy like me ever really offer?
    She's perfect as she can be, why should I even bother?
  • The song Amanda has the line "Fate should have made you a gentleman's wife".
  • Found in the Anna Nalick song "Sort of Delilah."
    Once you were a tower, and given the power, how did I become the wrecking ball?
    Didn't wanna hurt you, didn't deserve you, I'm usually the victim after all.

Web Original
  • Parodied with the psychotic Ask That Guy with the Glasses. Even though the Love Martyr narrator tells him how amazing he is constantly, he'd rather be abused and told he's worthless.

Video Games
  • Nice Guy Jacob in Mass Effect 2 feels this way towards both Miranda and Female!Shepard (if you romance him).
Community Feedback Replies: 14
  • July 22, 2011
    Monessi
    Tommy Monoghan of the Hitman comic book ends his relationship with Tiegel once and for all by pretty much telling her outright that he's a scumbag, and if they stay together he'd just keep letting her down and screwing up. He's saying it because it's true, but he's ALSO saying it because he's about to take on a pretty good sized chunk of the CIA and doesn't want her around for it. Whether or not a reader thinks he would have said/done it if not for the whole CIA thing varies.
  • July 22, 2011
    Acebrock
    Also related to I Cant Believe A Guy Like You Would Notice Me (Which, by the way, is an absurdly long title)
  • July 22, 2011
    Tyoria
    Basically the premise to the Tal Bachman song "She's so High."
    What could a guy like me ever really offer?
    She's perfect as she can be, why should I even bother?
  • July 22, 2011
    CharacterInWhite
    Isn't this Angel's reasoning for (sorta permanently) ending his relationship with Buffy in season 3?

    (not sure about when this occurred, been a while since I saw the show)
  • July 23, 2011
    Koveras
    • Nice Guy Jacob in Mass Effect 2 feels this way towards both Miranda and Female!Shepard (if you romance him).
  • July 23, 2011
    Bisected8
    • This is Lupin's reason for not getting together with Tonks (and the reason she's been so depressed throughout) in the 6th Harry Potter book. He comes around at the end and they're a couple in the 7th.
  • July 23, 2011
    randomsurfer
    Also related: Its Not You Its Me.
  • July 23, 2011
    FastEddie
    Get a name for this that does not sound like dialog, please.
  • September 24, 2011
    Koveras
  • September 24, 2011
    emeriin
    Parodied with the psychotic Ask That Guy With The Glasses. Even though the Love Martyr narrator tells him how amazing he is constantly, he'd rather be abused and told he's worthless.

    (Hoping it's an example.)
  • September 24, 2011
    Amaryllis
    Found in the Anna Nalick song "Sort of Delilah."
    Once you were a tower, and given the power, how did I become the wrecking ball?
    Didn't wanna hurt you, didn't deserve you, I'm usually the victim after all.
  • October 23, 2011
    Oreochan
    Bump
  • October 23, 2011
    isk2837
    Harry/Hermione fanfics often have Hermione as the Insecure Love Interest.
  • October 24, 2011
    Koveras
    I think this one is good enough for launch.
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