Created By: TippyToeZombie on October 1, 2012
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Same Sex Cheating

Character is in a heterosexual relationship and is cheating with someone of the same gender

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  • October 1, 2012
    Waterlily
    Brokeback Mountain is an obvious example. Jack and Ennis cheat on their wives with each other. It's implied that Jack became involved with another married man later.

    An episode of Cold Case had a police officer cheat on his wife with his partner.
  • October 2, 2012
    nitrokitty
  • October 2, 2012
    NimmerStill
    Unless there's something special about this as opposed to regular cheating, I call Chairs.
  • October 2, 2012
    norsicnumber2nd
    ^ Yeh, needs to be part of the story though, as you pointed out, there is a trope for cheating, so why not invoke extra meaning to bi cheating?

    Now, would Willow in Buffy count, cos that's really complicated.
  • October 2, 2012
    NimmerStill
    I'm not personally sure why Your Cheating Heart didn't get called Chairs too; it's not like there's a "relationship" trope. An index perhaps, but not a trope.
  • October 2, 2012
    NimmerStill
    I don't think Willow ever cheated on a man with a woman or vice versa. She cheated on Oz with Xander, but she was broken up with Oz when she did whatever she was doing with Tara. And when Oz came back she never did anything with him.
  • October 2, 2012
    norsicnumber2nd
    Your Cheating Heart is when it contributes to some far-too-common plot, right? Yeh, just shove this in to the description, or at best you could give it qualification as a Sub Trope.
  • October 2, 2012
    NimmerStill
    Yes, I'll buy Your Cheating Heart as a plot point, but like I said, I'd like to see this one as a *separate* plot point if it's going to be a trope, even a Sub Trope.
  • October 2, 2012
    norsicnumber2nd
    Yeh, best just to bung it into Your Cheating Heart until someone can justify "But then it becomes a great dramatic irony plot where suddenly the guy breaks up with his girlfriend but his friends don't know about his boyfriend (though the viewers do) and try to set him up with a load of girls, which leads to all his mates going out with them instead and then adding one to their friendship group but the last one they set him up with is actually lesbian and encourages him to come out and he does just that in the season finale", that's all we can do.
  • October 2, 2012
    NimmerStill
    ^Or perhaps a thing where he person is either extra upset or extra cool with the opposite-orientation cheating, like a guy who thinks Girl On Girl Is Hot and so ends up being ok with his girlfriend cheating with a girl (even though she didn't tell him or get his ok beforehand, thus still making it cheating), or the opposite attitude seen in Hot Shots where Cary Elwes's character says to his girlfriend "It's not another woman is it? Because I just couldn't compete with that."

    If that's what it is it should probably be named specifically for its emotional effect on the cheatee.

    Also, if this *is* a trope, should it also include cheating on a homosexual relationship with an opposite-sex partner? Probably not as common in the media, but still.
  • October 2, 2012
    norsicnumber2nd
    So, to make this a trope, the only examples should be where there is an extra plot point (of any sort) because the person being cheated with is of the same sex as the cheater, but not the person being cheated on.
  • October 2, 2012
    NimmerStill
    ^Agreed.
  • October 2, 2012
    norsicnumber2nd
    I don't think I've ever seen that. The Buffy thing is the only one where it could almost apply (though it doesn't, Oz just thought that).
  • October 2, 2012
    NimmerStill
    I see what you meant by complicated. Oz knows that he and Willow aren't together, so anything Willow does wouldn't be cheating really, but still gets upset because he still loves her and is jealous. It's not, however, clear in that example that he is especially upset because it's same-sex.
  • October 2, 2012
    HeartOfAnAstronaut
    • This is the First Episode Spoiler at the start of R Kelly's Trapped In The Closet series. The narrator leaves a night club with a woman who is not his girlfriend, and the next day he is forced to hide in the wardrobe when her partner gets home. He is found out and there's a huge fight, until the woman's partner reveals that he is cheating on her... with a man called Rufus.
    • On South Park Butters discovers that his father is up to this in a particularly dark episode where everything is Played For Laughs. His mother is so shocked when she finds out that she tries to kill Butters and herself.

    Would this trope also cover people who cheat on a same-sex partner with a member of the opposite sex?

    I think that there are definitely cases where this fulfils a different narrative job than just cheating. e.g.

    • It's often used as a shocking twist or a "double" twist, i.e. not only is this character cheating, we had no idea that they were gay all along! Especially in a work with No Bisexuals.
    • Sometimes the cheater comes from a particularly conservative or restrained background and they can't handle their own homosexuality in a healthy way.
    • Can be used to make the cheater seem sympathetic. Why have they felt the need to cover up who they really are and pretend to be heterosexual? Why has it taken them this long to figure it out?
    • What happens next is different to cheating with the partner expected of you. If the cheater makes it clear they are not interested in the opposite sex, ever, then they can't stay with their original partners (I can't remember if Carol cheated on Ross in Friends but once she figures out hat she's a lesbian she can't stay married to him). On the other hand, if the cheating occurs in a particularly conservative community then do they have to cover it up? Will the innocent partner become The Beard?
    • Might be used to show how hedonistic or debauched the cheater is, if they go after Anything That Moves.

    I guess it depends whether it's played seriously or for laughs. In South Park it's a totally different effect to say, Brokeback Mountain.
  • October 2, 2012
    norsicnumber2nd
    The Trapped In The Closet thing fits.

    In South Park is his mum mad shocked because her husband cheated or because he cheated with a man? To actually fit and support trope, it would have to be the latter.

    And I know all that, but 'People Cheat On Their Heterosexual Partner Homo/Bi-sexually' is sounding a little like People Sit On Chairs.
  • January 28, 2013
    randomsurfer
    In an episode of NYPD Blue a missing child is missing in part because its father (who is married to its mother) abandoned it at a city park playground while he went to a nearby public restroom for some anonymous gay sex, which he has been doing once a week or so. The father doesn't think it is his fault though, because before he left he made a gesture at another dad in the area which he meant as "look after my kid while I'm away for a few minutes." But the other dad never agreed to do that.
  • January 28, 2013
    justanotherrandomlurker
    Wasn't there some kind of lowbrow comedy movie within the last few years or so where a woman does this to her husband with another woman, then they end up divorcing, but they get into a bitter custody battle over... a dog?
  • January 29, 2013
    randomsurfer
    In an episode of...IDK, some Law Procedural I saw several years ago, possibly Justice...a politician's wife is 'caught' cheating on him with a male staffer when said staffer is found dead in their bed. But it turns out that the husband was cheating on his wife with the male staffer instead and she took the fall for him for the sake of his political career.
  • January 29, 2013
    Chabal2
    One Hellboy story has a family haunted by a metallic man, and Hellboy is sent to investigate. The parents are always fighting, with the kid staying quietly ot of the way. Hellboy catches the mother having sex with the metal man and chases him off. The father is slightly flustered, and it degenerates into an argument. The next day, the man appears again, this time having sex with the father. It later turns out the kid had Psychic Powers, and was projecting a solid image of one of his action figures.
  • January 29, 2013
    Catbert
    I'm discarding this because several months have gone by and no one has rewritten this into a workable trope.

Three days must pass before this YKTTW is Launchworthy or Discardable

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