Created By: MHarrington on December 17, 2016 Last Edited By: MHarrington on March 20, 2017

I Have Become My Father

You, a rebellious youth, vow never to be like your parents, yet you do just that later in life when you have kids. You may or may not realize it.

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You, a rebellious youth, vow never to be like your parents, whom you think are controlling you too much, yet later in life, you start imitating their words when you have children of your own. Then you realize, to your frustration, you do start to imitate your parents' words, often saying the phrase above. Compare/contrast Turn Out Like His Father. Also a slight example of Irony.


Examples:

Film
  • In Jumanji, when Alan notices that Peter, having been turned into a monkey as punishment for trying to cheat at the game, is crying, he chastises him for doing so and says, "You have a problem, you face it like a man," the same words his father had used on him when Alan hides in his father's shoe factory from Billy Jessup and his gang. But when Peter doesn't stop crying, Alan apologizes for being so harsh and remarks, "Twenty-six years in the jungle, and I still became my father."

Western Animation
  • In the My Gym Partner's a Monkey episode "Ain't Too Proud To Egg", the students have to care for eggs. As part of this, Windsor Gorilla tries to put his egg on Ingrid Giraffe's back, the idea being that the egg will cling to its mother's back like a gorilla, but the egg won't stay on. Ingrid suggests putting the egg in her backpack, but Windsor insists that it will not be treated as a marsupial and yells, "Windsor Jr. will cling to your back, and THAT'S FINAL!" He then gives himself a Face Palm and says, "Oh, no, I've become my father."
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  • December 17, 2016
    ThePest179
    I believe that this is already covered with the trope Former Teen Rebel.
  • December 17, 2016
    TropesForever
    And it's got a non-indicative dialogue title.
  • December 18, 2016
    Generality
    I think this is distinct; it's not just about rebellious teens. Many kids dislike their fathers at a certain age, either because the father is very strict or is actually abusive on some level, and fear becoming like them. Even if the father is pretty normal, the kid may disapprove of his mainstream lifestyle and wish for something more interesting, but that doesn't make him a rebel per se and he doesn't necessarily grow out of it as an adult. Many well-rounded adult characters talk about not wanting to be like their fathers, and for some this is a significant conscious motivation for them. For a title I'd suggest Afraid Of Becoming His Father. Turn Out Like His Father is closely related. Here's an example:

  • January 18, 2017
    Koveras
  • December 19, 2016
    henke37
    • Avatar The Last Air Bender: Zuko has some daddy issues in the show, what with the scar and the exile, but in the following comics this particular one really starts to show.
  • January 18, 2017
    Koveras
    I feel like Becoming The Parent would be a better title than the current quote-like working one...

    • Mass Effect: Liara T'Soni's character arc ends up very much like her mother, Matriarch Benezia. Like Benezia, she starts off as a rather naive and idealistic individual, but is swept into the entourage of a larger-than-life SPECTRE agent (Saren in Benezia's case, Shepard in Liara's) who does whatever it takes to win the impending Robot War, and eventually becomes a ruthless and calculating crime lord utterly devoted to her leader's cause. Of course, Liara's case is much milder, since it involves far less Reaper indoctrination, so she ends up better off than her mom.
    • Bio Shock Infinite: In the Burial at Sea DLC, Elizabeth pursues revenge upon Comstock with such ferocity, she fails to notice when she herself becomes very much like him. Since Comstock is just an alternate version of her own father, she is appalled by her apparent adoption of Comstock's ways over Booker's and resolves to sacrifice herself to right some of the wrongs she did — just like Booker did in the original game in order to redeem himself before her.
  • January 15, 2017
    TonyG
    • On Friends, Rachel is tring to teach Joey how to sail, but when she gets exasperated at him she comes to a sudden realization.
      Rachel:' Oh, my God, I've become my father! I was so busy trying not to become my mother that I didn't see it coming!
    • On Gravity Falls, Dipper captures a Gremloblin, who will show you your worst nightmare if you stare into its eyes, by showing it its reflection. The Gremloblin then sees himself looking at a mirror wearing glasses, and realizing "I've become my father."
    • Inverted in the Harry Chapin song "Cat's in the Cradle". A man is too busy to be with his son, who keeps saying "I'm gonna be like you, Dad." At the end, the son is all grown up and too busy to be with his dad, who then realizes that his son has become just like him.
  • January 15, 2017
    YasminPerry
  • January 16, 2017
    Koveras
    ^ Hold your horses, please. The OP may have had a very narrow definition in mind, but this trope is much broader than just Former Teen Rebel. And you in particular are not helping any by passive-aggressive all-blue link "replies".
  • March 19, 2017
    Getta
    On the other hand, some parents may not want to make their son become like them.

    See Evil Parents Want Good Kids

    Btw just "kids not wanting to follow footsteps" sounds tropable enough, and more encompassing than "rebelling kids ending up like their parents"
  • March 19, 2017
    Getta
    On the other hand, some parents may not want to make their son become like them.

    See Evil Parents Want Good Kids

    Btw just "kids not wanting to follow footsteps" sounds tropable enough, and more encompassing than "rebelling kids ending up like their parents"
  • March 20, 2017
    Lullabee
    From The Importance Of Being Earnest, I'm not sure if this is strictly an example but it's definitely a good quote:
    Jack: You don't think there is any chance of Gwendolen becoming like her mother in about a hundred and fifty years, do you, Algy?
    Algernon: All women become like their mothers. That is their tragedy. No man does. That's his.

    In this Deep Dark Fears comic, a woman realizes she's become her mother while complaining about her.
  • March 20, 2017
    partner555
    Isn't this Not So Different, but more specific?
  • March 20, 2017
    Lullabee
    partner555: I think it isn't exactly. Not So Different is really broad, but usually it's something like realizing that you're not so different from a terrible antagonist whose beliefs and methods you once would have considered anathema to everything you hold dear.

    A lot of times when someone in a work of fiction talks about becoming like their parents, their parents are minor characters, and it's about reasonably minor, non-serious habits. Like if your mother was always telling you "don't touch that, you don't know where it's been" and then you catch yourself saying the exact same thing to someone, it's not quite on the level of Not So Different. It's at least a distinct subtrope.
  • March 20, 2017
    ANTMuddle
    Becoming Your Parent clear things up or not?
  • March 20, 2017
    Lullabee
    I think Becoming Your Parent sounds a bit much like My Own Grampa. Just Like Your Parent might be clearer? Turning Into Your Parent, maybe.
  • March 20, 2017
    Skylite
    I see someone already did the gravity falls example, which I missed on a previous scan. Leaving this comment in its place until I come up with the example on the tip of my tongue.
  • March 20, 2017
    Koveras
    Turning Into Your Parent does sound better, but I am also concerned that it sounds a bit like dialogue.
  • March 20, 2017
    Getta
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