Created By: johnnye on May 20, 2011 Last Edited By: johnnye on December 6, 2017

This Is Gonna Hurt Me More Than It Hurts You

A much-parodied Stock Phrase.

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A stock phrase, almost impossible to use nowadays without making fun of it.

Commonly associated with Dont Make Me Take Off My Belt, but by extension may be used mockingly by instigators of Cold-Blooded Torture or the Jack Bauer Interrogation Technique. If they're of a more honest persuasion, they may invert it as "this is going to hurt you a lot more than it hurts me".

The original idea, of course, is that the speaker doesn't want to hurt you... in fact it causes them psychological pain just as bad, if not worse, than your physical pain... but they feel that they have to do it for your own good. In other words, they're the real victim here.

If used straight, it's almost certainly an example of Why Did You Make Me Hit You?... but it's not used straight very much nowadays.
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  • May 20, 2011
    Lois And Clark: When Clark lost his memory about being Superman his father convinced him that he is invulnerable by using a baseball bat. (Perhaps the only time this Phrase really only hurt the person who said it)

    Jonathan Kent: Son, this is going to hurt me more than it hurts you. [hits Clark in the chest with a baseball bat]
  • May 20, 2011
    Commonly mocked as follows: "This is going to hurt you a lot more than it hurts me."
  • May 20, 2011
  • May 20, 2011
    • On the Classic Disney Short "The Practical Pig", a sequel to "Three Little Pigs", Practical has built a lie detector that punishes liars by spanking them via a Robinson Goldberg Contraption. When his brothers are caught in a lie and are punished, Practical says "Remember, this hurts me more than it does you." The lie detector reads it as a lie and starts spanking him.
    • Said by Bugs Bunny in the Merrie Melodies short "Baby Buggy Bunny" as he spanks a minature bank robber who disguised himself as a baby. He most likely meant it, as the robber had various metal weapons concealed on his person.
  • May 20, 2011
    From IMDb and Subzin.

    Surgeon Maj. Reynolds: [To the wounded soldier Hook] This is going to hurt you a lot more than it will me, I'm happy to say.
    • Magic Kid 2
    Okay, this is going to hurt me more than it's going to hurt you.

    Live Action TV
    Adam is feeling no pain but that's about to change. Just remember, this is going to hurt you a lot more than it will hurt me.

    Western Animation
    Destructo Dad: Now, son, this is going to hurt me a lot more than it's going to hurt you! [Zaps Numbuh 2] Well, what do you know? That didn't hurt at all!
  • May 21, 2011
    When Roxy Rocket visits Metropolis in the STAS episode "Knight Time", Superman tells her "This is going to hurt you a lot more than it will me" when she decides to run him through with her rocket. He isn't joking, obviously, but it's not like he would let a criminal of her (small) caliber get hurt on his watch, either.
  • May 24, 2011
    Literal for the late mermaid queen in One Piece. Though very good hearted, she was also very hot blooded and would always hit a person if she thought he deserved it, even though she suffered from a bad case of brittle bones and usually hurt herself in the process.
  • May 24, 2011
  • May 24, 2011
    Scooter007 noted the common inversion - it's worth noting within the description, as it's quite common - in fact, it may even justify its own section in the Examples, as it generally carries a significantly different connotation when used straight.
  • May 26, 2011
    In an outtakes section for the game Star Wars Bounty Hunter, a bounty hunter named Montross says, "This is gonna hurt you a lot more than it hurts me! ... Why, in every game, do we have that line? Come on! Come on!"
  • May 31, 2011
    Parodied in an early episode of Beavis And Butthead.
  • June 14, 2011
    Early on in Runaways, the supervillain parents discover their children have discovered their secret, and there's a scene where Nico's mother attacks her with her magical staff and says something like "Honey, remember, this is going to hurt me more than it hurts you." Ironically, this turns out to be true, as Nico's body absorbs the staff and she gains the use of its powers.
  • June 16, 2011
    Maybe a Dead Unicorn Trope, definately a Dead Horse Trope.
  • June 16, 2011
    In an Our Gang short this was used straight and then played with: a father said it to his son before spanking him, then the son put a book down his pants so it really did hurt the father more than him; and then as The Stinger of the episode the father did something wrong so the son spanked him, using the same book.
  • February 15, 2012
    • Buffy The Vampire Slayer. Xander and Oz are tying Buffy up because she's Not Herself.
      Xander: Buffy, this hurts me more than it hurts you.
      Buffy: [Death Glare] Not yet, but it will.
      Xander: Don't say that. (realizing what she'd just said.) Oh, PLEASE don't say that.
  • February 15, 2012
    With the new "No trope names that sound like lines of dialog" rule:
    • (a) This trope's name will have to be changed before it's launched *and*
    • (b) It will have to be changed from a Stock Phrase into a regular trope

    Or FastEddie's silver hammer will come down upon its head.
  • March 12, 2012
    • In The Culture novel Surface Detail by Ian M Banks an admiral has to blow up a friendly ship to cover for a False Flag Operation, so naturally choses one belonging to an officer he dislikes. Moments before his ship is obliterated, the admiral informs him of this fact saying, "This pleases me much more than it will hurt you."
  • December 19, 2013
    Compare Was Too Hard On Him if the character feels emotionally distraught in doing this to another after inflicting punishment on them.

    Title suggestions: Regretful Chastisement or Reluctant Punishment
  • December 19, 2013
    No New Stock Phrases.

    Motion to discard.
  • August 25, 2017
    In The Zhu Zhus final episode "Zhu Land" Chunk throws a hotdog at the back of Midge the Mighty's head and hits her and she says "OW!!" Chunk then says "believe me, that hurt me more than it hurt you." (Chunk loves to eat). Permutations happen a LOT. Can we un-nuke?
  • December 6, 2017

    Used in Mr Bug Goes To Town, when a little bee uses this phrase to preemptively apologize for stinging a traffic cop so he'll blow his whistle to get the cars to stop and avoid crushing the bee's insect buddies.