Created By: MsCC93 on August 29, 2013 Last Edited By: MsCC93 on September 4, 2013
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Pushover Parents

Parents who are afraid to discipline their children because of fear, disappointment, or any other reason.

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Parents are supposed to the the authorities for their children, but these parents may not be good at it. They usually mean well, but when it comes to disciplining their children, they are too afraid or refuse to for any reason.

If this goes on, the kid usually turns into a Spoiled Brat/Bratty Half-Pint with bad social skills.

Obviously, Truth in Television.

If they do, infact, disipline their child, then this will lead to Was Too Hard on Him.

Can be related to Stupid Good if parents love their children too much because of it. Contrast Abusive Parents where parents aren't pushovers, but for the wrong reasons.

Compare to Extreme Doormat.

Examples

Fanfic

  • A Judge Dee fanfic uses this: a young boy with many facial tics, whose father seems completely indifferent, never beating or praising him, while his mother alternates between love and hate. It turns out the man was sterile, so his wife slept with another man to conceive (which, in eight-century China, was a horrifying crime, both the adultery and the fact that the husband did nothing against it). Ever since, the father doesn't punish the boy for fear of going too far, the mother is constantly reminded that she failed as a wife, and as a result the poor boy is growing up very confused.

Film

  • In Girls Just Want to Have Fun, millionaire Bennett Sands basically lets his daughter Natalie do what she wants (until the end), making her a Rich Bitch.
  • Regina George's mom in Mean Girls has shades of this, as shown in a scene when Regina tells her mother to stop talking, and she stops.

Literature

Live Action TV

  • Shown many times in Maury with violent teenage girls, with parents (usually only moms) who are terrified of their daughters, and are afraid of disciplining them.

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Western Animation

  • In one episode of The Adventures of Jimmy Neutron: Boy Genius, there was rich father who didn't want to discipline his snobby son, Eustace Strytch, for his behavior because he was too ashamed. At the end, after Hugh gives him tips, he finally disciplines Eustace by punishing him for a month.
  • Implied with Sarah and Ed's parents in Ed, Edd 'n' Eddy.
  • Vicky's parents in The Fairly Oddparents are downright terrified of Vicky, and they are afraid of disciplining her.
  • A Johnny Bravo episode has him baby sit a kid with magic powers. The parents are afraid of the kid big time, so they let him do what he wants.
  • An implied zig-zagged example of The Powerpuff Girls is with Daddy Morebucks, Princess Morebucks' father. It's shown that he rarely disciplines his daughter when she throws temper tantrums, and gives her money to get her silenced. The ending of an episode when Princess becomes the mayor also implies that he gives her proper discipline when necessary.
  • Charlotte and Drew Pickles towards Angelica sometimes in Rugrats.
  • In the The Simpsons episode, "The Itchy and Scratchy Movie", during a parent-teacher conference, Marge explains to Mrs. Krabappel that she and Homer have a hard time disciplining Bart whenever he does something wrong and are encouraged by her to start being firm about it. Following her advice, they get better at disciplining him, such as when they send him to bed without dinner for breaking Grandpa's teeth, and preventing him from seeing The Itchy and Scratchy Movie when he doesn't watch Maggie and she drives Homer's car.
    • In a Flashback on The Simpsons it's shown that Ned Flanders' parents were beatnicks who didn't believe in punishing their son for his unruly behavior, but on the other hand didn't want the behavior to continue.
      Dr. Foster: Would you please tell your son to stop [tearing my office apart]?
      Ned's Dad: We can't do it, man! That's discipline! That's like tellin' Gene Krupa not to go "boom boom bam bam bam, boom boom bam bam bam, boom boom boom bam ba ba ba ba, da boo boo tss!" We don't believe in rules, like, we gave them up when we started livin' like freaky beatniks!
      Dr. Foster: You don't believe in rules, yet you want to control Ned's anger.
      Ned's Mom: Yeah. You gotta help us, Doc. We've tried nothin' and we're all out of ideas.
  • Liane Cartman from South Park admits that she doesn't give Eric any discipline because she is insecure about not having any friends.
Community Feedback Replies: 24
  • August 29, 2013
    MsCC93
    Liane Cartman from South Park admits that she doesn't give Eric any discipline because she is insecure about not having any friends.
  • August 29, 2013
    MsCC93
    Charlotte and Drew Pickles towards Angelica sometimes in Rugrats. (made a mistake)
  • August 29, 2013
    FlyingDuckManGenesis
    ^ Drew, Charlotte, and Angelica are from Rugrats, not The Fairly Oddparents. (Taken care of now)

    Also, here's an example I have:

    • In the The Simpsons episode, "The Itchy and Scratchy Movie", during a parent-teacher conference, Marge explains to Mrs. Krabappel that she and Homer have a hard time disciplining Bart whenever he does something wrong and are encouraged by her to start being firm about it. Following her advice, they get better at disciplining him, such as when they send him to bed without dinner for breaking Grandpa's teeth, and preventing him from seeing The Itchy and Scratchy Movie when he doesn't watch Maggie and she drives Homer's car.
  • August 29, 2013
    MsCC93
    Vicky's parents in The Fairly Oddparents are downright terrified of Vicky, and they are afraid of disciplining her.
  • August 29, 2013
    MsCC93
    In one episode of The Adventures Of Jimmy Neutron Boy Genius, there was rich father who didn't want to discipline his snobby son, Eustace Strytch, for his behavior because he was too ashamed. At the end, after Hugh gives him tips, he finally disciplines Eustace by punishing him for a month.
  • August 29, 2013
    313Bluestreak
    Can be related to Stupid Good if parents love their children too much because of it. Contrast Abusive Parents where parents aren't pushovers, but for the wrong reasons.
  • August 29, 2013
    MsCC93
    Shown many times in Maury with violent teenage girls, with parents (usually only moms) who are terrified of their daughters, and are afraid of disciplining them.
  • August 29, 2013
    MsCC93
    Regina George's mom in Mean Girls has shades of this, as shown in a scene when Regina tells her mother to stop talking, and she stops.
  • August 29, 2013
    Antigone3
    Plenty of examples at Not Always Right ... but I suspect we'll want to be careful about real life examples. (The stories at NAR should be OK, since the families aren't identified. Mentioning Maury without mentioning names should also be OK. But naming names is flame bait.)
  • August 29, 2013
    MsCC93
    Implied with Sarah and Ed's parents in Ed Edd N Eddy.
  • August 29, 2013
    randomsurfer
    • In a Flashback on The Simpsons it's shown that Ned Flanders' parents were beatnicks who didn't believe in punishing their son for his unruly behavior, but on the other hand didn't want the behavior to continue.
      Dr. Foster: Would you please tell your son to stop [tearing my office apart]?
      Ned's Dad: We can't do it, man! That's discipline! That's like tellin' Gene Krupa not to go "boom boom bam bam bam, boom boom bam bam bam, boom boom boom bam ba ba ba ba, da boo boo tss!" We don't believe in rules, like, we gave them up when we started livin' like freaky beatniks!
      Dr. Foster: You don't believe in rules, yet you want to control Ned's anger.
      Ned's Mom: Yeah. You gotta help us, Doc. We've tried nothin' and we're all out of ideas.
  • August 30, 2013
    MsCC93
    BUMP
  • August 30, 2013
    313Bluestreak
    If they do infact disipline their child, then this will lead to Was Too Hard On Him.
  • August 30, 2013
    Duncan
    In Its A Good Life (and the Twilight Zone episodes) the parents are pushovers because the kid has dangerous psychic powers.
  • August 30, 2013
    MsCC93
    So does anyone think this trope is a good idea?
  • August 30, 2013
    Chabal2
    A Judge Dee fanfic uses this: a young boy with many facial tics, whose father seems completely indifferent, never beating or praising him, while his mother alternates between love and hate. It turns out the man was sterile, so his wife slept with another man to conceive (which, in eight-century China, was a horrifying crime, both the adultery and the fact that the husband did nothing against it). Ever since, the father doesn't punish the boy for fear of going too far, the mother is constantly reminded that she failed as a wife, and as a result the poor boy is growing up very confused.
  • August 30, 2013
    DracMonster
    Permissive Parenting is the "official" term and has alliteration as a bonus.
  • August 30, 2013
    MsCC93
    ^ Good point...we can launch this with that name.
  • August 31, 2013
    MsCC93
    BUMP
  • August 31, 2013
    DragonQuestZ
  • September 1, 2013
    MsCC93
    .
  • September 4, 2013
    MsCC93
    Bump bump.

    Should we launch this trope or is it not ready yet?
  • September 4, 2013
    stormeye
    A Johnny Bravo episode has him baby sit a kid with magic powers. The parents are afraid of the kid big time, so they let him do what he wants.
  • September 4, 2013
    MsCC93
    An implied zig-zagged example of The Powerpuff Girls is with Daddy Morebucks, Princess Morebucks' father. It's shown that he rarely disciplines his daughter when she throws temper tantrums, and gives her money to get her silenced. The ending of an episode when Princess becomes the mayor also implies that he gives her proper discipline when necessary.
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