Created By: PrimoVictoria on September 8, 2010 Last Edited By: PrimoVictoria on November 25, 2010

Dear John Letter

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I cannot believe we don't have this one and Dear John article is about some show. Seen It a Million Times
Dear John

We would never suspected this day would come. Even since we were separated from each other, our letters were only way we could stay in touch with each other. We were promising each other, that no matter what, despite our Feuding Families, despite you being called to the front, we will one day be together, either Happily Married or Together in Death.

I was sending you letters, calling you „my dearest love”, „honey”, „my little bunny”, and so was you. As you see, this letter is different.

I write to tell you, that everything that was between us is over. We're done.

I cannot stand life in separation anymore. I found someone else. I don't love you anymore. There are plenty of reasons.

Don't grief, neither was you first or the last who got such letter. Tradition of sending soldiers such letters dates back to World War II or even World War One, which would make it Older Than Television.

Good bye, my former love. You will never see me again.


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  • This trope appeared in story written by Polish writer Jarosław Grzędowicz, where Polish who went work to England was completely devastated when his girlfriend send him such letter. Few years later it appeared in novel written by his wife, Maja Kossakowska, but there receiver, American marine, after weeks of tortures and having his legs broken, couldn't care less and even found it quite amusing.

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Community Feedback Replies: 16
  • August 26, 2010
    Don't use This Troper in an example.
  • August 26, 2010
    • At the end of Starcraft: Brood War, after Kerrigan's ascension, Admiral Gerard DuGalle sends a letter to his wife in Earth about everything which happened in the game. The cutscene ends with a Gory Discretion Shot. Gerard has committed suicide.
      "Dearest Helena, - By now the news of our defeat has reached the Earth. - The creatures we were sent here to tame are un-tamable. - and the colonies we were sent to reclaim have proven to be stronger than we anticipated. - Whatever you may hear about what has happened out here, know this; - Alexei did not die gloriously in battle. - I killed him. My pride killed him. - And now my pride has consumed me as well. - You will never see me again Helena. - Tell our children that I love them, - and that their father died in defense of their future. - Au revoir."
  • August 26, 2010
    Surprisingly, the famous country song "Dear John" is about a man receiving a letter from his wife begging him to come home.
  • August 26, 2010
  • August 26, 2010
    I believe part of the term "Dear John" is the implication that the girl has forgotten the name of the man she's writing too.

    • The musical Saturday's Warrior has a particularly annoying tune about this theme. Although I will admit the song works much better when combined with the visual.
  • August 26, 2010
    Sackett: ...what. That's ridiculous. John is just the most common male name in English speaking countries.
  • August 26, 2010
    ^ It does make the concept much funnier, though. ;)

    • This shows up a few times in MASH-- once with Radar (his sweetheart dumps him, so his friends try to set him up with someone else to help him get over it), and once with Frank-- his wife says she's going to divorce him (she's heard about his affair with Margaret).
    • Here's an urban legend about them.
  • August 27, 2010
    Happens a bunch of times on MASH. In addition to the ones Ronka cited, at least a few times a season a GI Of The Week got a Dear John letter. Oh, and Klinger got one too, from his wife - it was the one time he tried to get hardship leave when he wasn't scamming. And once that I recall it was Subverted: a GI in post-op who had been blinded asked Father Mulcahy to read his mail to him and the first one, from his girlfriend, started "Dear John..."
    Mulcahy: Oh, dear.
    GI: No, that's OK. My name is John.
  • August 27, 2010
    • Starship Troopers. While in MI boot camp Johnny Rico gets a literal Dear John video from his girlfriend Carmen Ibanez, who's in training to join the Fleet (space navy).
  • August 27, 2010
    There was a show starring Judd Hirsch in the late 80s called Dear John. The Title Sequence had the main character coming home and discovering from a letter that his wife has left him. The Expository Theme Tune was sung from her point of view. Just discovered this was the Trans Atlantic Equivalent of a show with the same name from England.
  • August 27, 2010
    Gary Larson made a The Far Side cartoon of two male deer in a forest, one holding a letter. "My God! She left me a John Deer letter!"
  • August 27, 2010
    ^ Similar joke on The Simpsons; at a meeting of Caustic Critics, the Farm Supplies Critic (...go with it) mentions his favourite recent quip in a review of a tractor: "It's about time to send John Deere a Dear John!"
  • August 27, 2010
    Whoops never mind.
  • August 27, 2010
    Another example from MASH - an Italian is distraught upon receiving a "Dear Giovanni" letter.
  • November 25, 2010

    @Eponymous Kid That's part of the point. The girl can't remember her so to be ex name, so she calls him John (since it's the most common name).
  • November 25, 2010
    Abby got one from Carter on ER, after their relationship took a series of strange turns for the worse, climaxing in her bipolar brother falling into his grandmother's grave.