Created By: Eddy1215 on August 10, 2012 Last Edited By: Eddy1215 on July 23, 2013
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Rejected Apology

An apology is offered to somebody, only for that person to disregard and ignore it.

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"I said it's too late to apologize."

Bob did something terrible to Alice. He feels guilty, so he gives her a sincere apology. However, Alice won't have it. She doesn't care about the apology. Whether Bob's actions were that bad or Alice is just a plain Jerkass, she refuses to forgive him.

This results from someone holding a grudge that they refuse to let go of. Unfortunately, this can make out someone who has a rightful reason to be angry into a cruel person if the apologizing party is sincere for their actions.

The opposite of Redemption Rejection where the one who did wrong is offered a chance to be forgiven, but he turns it down. A super trope of Reformed, but Rejected. An extreme version of this trope is Heel–Face Door-Slam if rejecting an apology also involves killing the offender. Contrast Easily Forgiven where it's a character forgiving those who don't apologize for their actions. If the character does accept their apology, but is still upset of their actions, then it's Forgiven, but Not Forgotten.

Examples:

Anime and Manga
  • Dub Text in Digimon Tamers final episode. When the program that was used to defeat the D-Reaper forces the digimon to return to the digital world, Henry's dad, who knew it would happen, asks him if he can forgive him, and Henry sadly shakes his head. (In the original, the head shake meant "don't worry about it").

Comic Book
  • Variation in Legacy. Darth Wyyrlok says that he isn't going to apologize for trying to murder Darth Krayt. Krayt replied that he wouldn't accept any apologize either. A duel to death ensues.

Film
  • Perhaps one of the most heartbreaking example was in Kung Fu Panda, where during the climatic battle between Shifu and Tai Lung, Shifu apologizes to Tai Lung for allowing him to go down his path of darkness, only for Tai Lung to reject it and demand the dragon scroll.
  • In The Incredibles, Mr. Incredible apologizes to Syndrome for the slight that put him on the path to supervillainy. Syndrome answers "See? Now you respect me. Because I'm a threat," and continues monologuing. Mr. Incredible realizes that Syndrome can't be reasoned with, and starts throwing stuff at him.
  • From Lilo & Stitch:
    Lilo: I'm sorry I bit you... and pulled your hair... and punched you in the face.
  • In Pitch Perfect, Beca, the protagonist goes all the way up to her love interest to apologize for being a Jerk Ass earlier. The love interest curiously, doesn't accept or even appears to want one, instead pointing out her flaws in driving people away.
  • In the 2007 film Bridge to Terabithia, Jess Aarons tried to apologize with his younger sister, Mary Belle for pushing her because he was angry by the death of Leslie Burke and told her he misses her talking to him, only for Mary Belle to ignore his apology by turning away from him.
Duck Soup.
Trentino: I'm sorry we lost our tempers.I'm willing to forget if you are.
Firefly: Forget? You ask me to forget... Why, my ancestors would rise from their graves... and I'd only have to bury them again... A Firefly never forgets.
Trentino: I am willing to apologize... I'm willing to do anything to prevent this war.
Firefly: Nothing doing!! I've taken a lease on the battlefield. I'd lose my deposit, besides, I've already ordered the ammunition.
Vera: Oh, Your Excellency, isn't there something I can do?
Firefly: Yes, but I'll talk to you about that when we're alone.
Mrs. Teasdale: Oh, won't you reconsider.
Firefly: Well, maybe I am a little headstrong... But, you know, it's awfully hard to forget what he called me.
Trentino: What I called you... Why, what did I call you?
Firefly: I don't remember.
Trentino: (With a little chuckle) Oh -- you mean... worm?
Firefly: No, that wasn't it...
Trenitno: Was it -- swine?
Firefly: No... it was a seven letter word.
Trentino: (Thinking, then with a broad smile) Oh yes! -- UPSTART!
Firefly: That's it...
Takes gloves from Trentino's breast pocket and socks him across the face, and puts them in his own breast pocket. Trentino becomes apoplectic
Trentino: Why - er - Mrs. Teasdale - this is an outrage! This man is impossible... My course is clear... this means war!

Live-Action TV
  • In one episode of The Big Bang Theory, Sheldon accidentally ruins Howard's chances to work on a space laser. Feeling guilty, Sheldon apologizes, only to find out that Howard isn't so willing to forgive.
  • After Frasier convinces Roz to ask someone out which ends in disaster, he asks before an ambitious broadcast for her forgiveness. Roz sarcastically complies, especially, as she adds, under the thought he will out there on air humiliating himself in front of thousands.
    Frasier: So when are you really going to forgive me?
    Roz: When I get married!
    • Also happens when Frasier is caught looking in Daphne's room, realizing she is strongly protective of her privacy, which ends with him having to bribe her with a car so she doesn't quit. After he inadvertently meddles in her belongings in a later episode, it seems the process will repeat, until a furious Daphne accidentally reveals she was snooping through Frasier's own belongings in a rant. After being called out on this, a flustered Daphne decides she'll let it go this time.
  • Used on M*A*S*H as an Establishing Character Moment for Charles.
    Potter: Up here, it's strictly meatball surgery. Patch them up and get them out.
    Charles: Rather primitive, isn't it?
    Potter: We've got a 98% survival rate, cowboy.
    Charles: Charles. No offense intended, Colonel.
    BJ: Offense accepted, Major.
    Potter: Let's not get off on the wrong foot.
    Radar:(enters) Doctor Berman is going into heart failure. He can hardly breathe.
    Hawkeye:to Charles Ventricular aneurysm.
    Charles: Why the panic?
    Hawkeye: Can you do anything about it?
    Charles: I've done at least a dozen.
    Hawkeye: Successfully?
    Charles: Offense accepted.
  • In the Babylon 5 episode "Comes the Inquisitor", Vir ends up on an elevator with G'Kar, and tries to apologize for the Orbital Bombardment on the Narn homeworld by the Centauri, which occured the previous episode.
    Vir: "I'm sorry. I wish... there was something that I could do. I tried telling them, but they wouldn't listen. They never listen... I'm sorry."
    G'Kar (pulls out a knife and cuts his own hand, and as drops of blood drip to the floor, says): "Dead... dead, dead, dead, dead, dead, dead, dead, dead, dead... How do you apologize to them?"
    Vir: "I can't."
    G'Kar: "Then I cannot forgive."
    • In the episode "Ship of Tears", when Delenn finally brings G'Kar into the Conspiracy of Light and discloses that she knew all along about the Shadows and their aid to races like the Centauri--but explained to him that consequences and casualties would have been much worse than what befell his homeworld had they took action and shown their hand against them too early--G'Kar did understand but was still angry that millions on his homeworld were sacrificed. Delenn asks if he'll ever find it in his heart to forgive her, and tearfully he replies:
    "Perhaps, but not today."
  • In Fringe, Walter's halting attempt at apologizing to Astrid for injecting her and knocking her out is met by her completely ignoring him.
  • In the Friends episode "The One With The Baby Shower", Monica forgets to invite Rachel's mother to Rachel's baby shower, and spends the whole episode desperately trying to have her apology accepted.
  • In Star Trek: Deep Space Nine, Odo tries making a verbal apology to Kira after he breaks with the Female Changeling, under whose influence he abandoned their resistance, leading to Rom's arrest, impending execution, and looming disaster for the Alpha Quadrant. Not surprisingly, she tells him that are "way, way past sorry." (He does earn her forgiveness for helping them fight off the Dominion and a long conversation some episodes later.)

Music
  • One Republic's song "Apologize" is based ENTIRELY on this trope.

Professional Wrestling

Religion
  • The Bible: Samuel rebukes King Saul for disobeying God's commands in destroying every single Amalekite and only spared the king and their sheep and cattle. Saul sincerely repents to the LORD, but Samuel tells him that God won't accept it and He has rejected him as king of Israel.

Western Animation
  • In an episode of South Park Cartman infects Kyle with AIDS for laughing at him, leaving the latter obviously enraged. The principal finds out about this and demands Cartman give an apology (which he does half heartedly), while Kyle should also apologize for tattling on Cartman. Cartman seems sincerely appalled that Kyle is still livid.
    Cartman: I apologized, Kyle!!!
  • The plot of an episode of Hey Arnold!, after Arnold accidentally blabs a secret of one of his friends (he wears bunny pajamas). Despite Arnold bending over backwards to make it up to him, he still refuses to forgive him afterwards (he never SAID he would if he did) and forces him to humiliate himself in public in the same bunny pjamas as the only chance of redemption. He feels remorseful about making him do this afterwards and begs for forgiveness, reversing the roles.
  • One episode of American Dad! has Stan taking his family to his half brother Rusty's place, only to discover he's fabulously wealthy. Becoming jealous, Stan and his family attempt to take Rusty's place, only for them to be forcibly sent off with a threat that he'll kill Stan if he ever sets foot on his land again. The helicopter they're in then crashes and they're stranded in the desert. After going through hell and realizing that family is more important than material posessions, Stan attempts to make amends with Rusty who found them in desert, only for his half brother to attempt to carry out his threat of killing Stan for still being on his land (he owned alot apparently).
  • Wasp forgive Bumblebot. But Waspinator NEVER forgive!
  • In a rare hero-to-villain case, Danny tried to apologize to Vlad for pranks he pulled on him after Vlad began making life miserable for him and his friends. Unfortunately, Vlad wouldn't have it, made a big speech that Danny deserves what he's getting, and sics the Guys In White on him.
  • In the Family Guy episode "Movin' Out (Brian's Song)", Brian wants to apologize to Jillian when Stewie revealed that he was paying half of the rent of the apartment, which prompts Brian to admit that he never wanted to move in with Jillian at all. She still rejects his apology and remains broken-hearted.
Community Feedback Replies: 26
  • August 16, 2012
    Psi001
    • In an episode of South Park Cartman infects Kyle with AI Ds for laughing at him, leaving the latter obviously enraged. The principal finds out about this and demands Cartman give an apology (which he does half heartedly), while Kyle should also apologize for tattling on Cartman. Cartman seems sincerely appalled that Kyle is still livid.
      Cartman: I apologized, Kyle!!!
    • The plot of an episode of Hey Arnold, after Arnold accidentally blabs a secret of one of his friends (he wears bunny pyjamas). Despite Arnold bending over backwards to make it up to him, he still refuses to forgive him afterwards (he never SAID he would if he did) and forces him to humiliate himself in public in the same bunny pyjamas as the only chance of redemption. He feels remorseful about making him do this afterwards and begs for forgiveness, reversing the roles.
    • After Frasier convinces Roz to ask someone out which ends in disaster, he asks before an ambitious broadcast for her forgiveness. Roz sarcastically complies, especially, as she adds, under the thought he will out there on air humiliating himself in front of thousands.
      Frasier: So when are you really going to forgive me?
      Roz: When I get married!
      • Also happens when Frasier is caught looking in Daphne's room, realising she is strongly protective of her privacy, which ends with him having to bribe her with a car so she doesn't quit. After he inadvertantly meddles in her belongings in a later episode, it seems the process is will repeat, until a furious Daphne accidentally reveals she was snooping through Frasier's own belongings in a rant. After being called out on this, a flustered Daphne decides she'll let it go this time.
  • August 16, 2012
    Koveras
    @OP: I have just started a very similar YKTTW a few hours before you... Are they distinct enough or should they be merged?
  • August 19, 2012
    captainsandwich
  • August 19, 2012
    Psi001
    ^ Said trope seems a more extreme example when an outright villainous character attempts a Heel Face Turn but is rejected by the heroes. This is a more mundane example, where a character is just trying to apologize for a petty act. May count as a super trope for the above though.
  • September 5, 2012
    JMQwilleran
    Often comes up on children's shows involving a Forgiveness plot. Pretty much any of the examples listed under the first bullet point in the Western Animation section of that entry also have this.
  • September 8, 2012
    randomsurfer
    Used on MASH as an Establishing Character Moment for Charles.
    Potter: Up here, it's strictly meatball surgery. Patch them up and get them out.
    Charles: Rather primitive, isn't it?
    Potter: We've got a 98% survival rate, cowboy.
    Charles: Charles. No offense intended, Colonel.
    BJ: Offense accepted, Major.
    Potter: Let's not get off on the wrong foot.
    Radar (enters): Doctor Berman is going into heart failure. He can hardly breathe.
    Hawkeye: to Charles Ventricular aneurysm.
    Charles Why the panic?
    Hawkeye: Can you do anything about it?
    Charles: I've done at least a dozen.
    Hawkeye: Successfully?
    Charles: Offense accepted.
  • April 22, 2013
    Kiereth
    Dub Text in Digimon Tamers; in the finale, Henry's dad asks him if he can forgive him for everything that happened, and Henry sadly shakes his head. (In the original, the head shake meant "don't worry about it").
  • April 22, 2013
    WeAreAllKosh
    Live-Action TV

    In the Babylon 5 episode "Comes the Inquisitor", Vir ends up on an elevator with G'Kar, and tries to apologize for the Orbital Bombardment of the Narn homeworld by the Centauri, which occured the previous episode.
    Vir: "I'm sorry. I wish... there was something that I could do. I tried telling them, but they wouldn't listen. They never listen... I'm sorry."
    G'Kar (pulls out a knife and cuts his own hand, and as drops of blood drip to the floor, says): "Dead, dead, dead, dead, dead, dead, dead, dead, dead, dead... How do you apologize to them?"
    Vir: "I can't."
    G'Kar: "Then I cannot forgive."

  • April 24, 2013
    IsaacSapphire
    In Fringe, Walter's halting attempt at apologizing to Astrid for injecting her and knocking her out is met by her completely ignoring him.
  • April 24, 2013
    Eddy1215
    Uh, could you be a little specific as to what Fringe is?
  • April 25, 2013
    IsaacSapphire
    Fringe Sorry, I don't completely have a handle on markup yet.
  • April 26, 2013
    MetaFour
    • In The Incredibles, Mr. Incredible apologizes to Syndrome for the slight that put him on the path to supervillainy. Syndrome answers "See? Now you respect me. Because I'm a threat," and continues monologuing. Mr. Incredible realizes that Syndrome can't be reasoned with, and starts throwing stuff at him.
  • April 26, 2013
    HappyMan
    • Variation in Legacy. Darth Wyyrlok says that he isn't going to apologize for trying to murder Darth Krayt. Krayt replied that he wouldn't accept any apologize either. A duel to death ensues.
  • May 3, 2013
    CaveCat
  • May 9, 2013
    Raconteur
    • In [1] Beca, the protagonist goes all the way up to her love interest to apologize for being a Jerk Ass earlier. The love interest curiously, doesn't accept or even appears to want one, instead pointing out her flaws in driving people away.
  • May 9, 2013
    Raconteur
    • One Republic's song "Apologize" is based ENTIRELY on this trope.

    The lyrics make it a very easy candidate for the page quote, "I said it's too late to apologize."

  • May 10, 2013
    313Bluestreak
    Professional Wrestling

  • May 11, 2013
    DaibhidC
    In the Friends episode "The One With The Baby Shower", Monica forgets to invite Rachel's mother to Rachel's baby shower, and spends the whole episode desperately trying to have her apology accepted.
  • May 16, 2013
    WeAreAllKosh
    Also from Babylon 5 (include below current example):

    • In the episode "Ship of Tears", when Delenn finally brings G'Kar into the Conspiracy of Light and discloses that she knew all along about the Shadows and their aid to races like the Centauri--but explained to him that consequences and casualties would have been much worse than what befell his homeworld had they took action and shown their hand against them too early--G'Kar did understand but was still angry that millions on his homeworld were sacrificed. Delenn asks if he'll ever find it in his heart to forgive her, and tearfully he replies:
    "Perhaps, but not today."
  • June 8, 2013
    Jess
    Oh, and don't forget the 2007 film Bridge To Terabithia where Jess Aarons tried to apologize with his younger sister, Mary Belle for pushing her because he was angry by the death of Leslie Burke and told her he misses her talking to him, only for Mary Belle to ignore his apology by turning away from him.
  • June 8, 2013
    313Bluestreak
    • In the Family Guy episode "Movin' Out (Brian's Song)", Brian wants to apologize to Jillian when Stewie revealed that he was paying half of the rent of the apartment, which prompts Brian to admit that he never wanted to move in with Jillian at all. She still rejects her apology and remains broken-hearted.
  • June 8, 2013
    eowynjedi
    • In Star Trek Deep Space Nine, Odo tries making a verbal apology to Kira after he breaks with the Female Changeling, under whose influence he abandoned their resistance, leading to Rom's arrest, impending execution, and looming disaster for the Alpha Quadrant. Not surprisingly, she tells him that are "way, way past sorry." (He does earn her forgiveness for helping them fight off the Dominion and a long conversation some episodes later.)
  • June 8, 2013
    313Bluestreak
    Contrast Easily Forgiven where it's a character forgiving those who don't apologize for their actions. If the character does accept their apology, but is still upset of their actions, then it's Forgiven But Not Forgotten.
  • June 26, 2013
    313Bluestreak
    Religion
    • The Bible: Samuel rebukes King Saul for disobeying God's commands in destroying every single Amalekite and only spared the king and their sheep and cattle. Saul sincerely repents to the LORD, but Samuel tells him that God won't accept it and He has rejected him as king of Israel.
  • June 27, 2013
    randomsurfer
    Duck Soup.
    Trentino: I'm sorry we lost our tempers.I'm willing to forget if you are.
    Firefly: Forget? You ask me to forget... Why, my ancestors would rise from their graves... and I'd only have to bury them again... A Firefly never forgets.
    Trentino: I am willing to apologize... I'm willing to do anything to prevent this war.
    Firefly: Nothing doing!! I've taken a lease on the battlefield. I'd lose my deposit, besides, I've already ordered the ammunition.
    Vera: Oh, Your Excellency, isn't there something I can do?
    Firefly: Yes, but I'll talk to you about that when we're alone.
    Mrs. Teasdale: Oh, won't you reconsider.
    Firefly: Well, maybe I am a little headstrong... But, you know, it's awfully hard to forget what he called me.
    Trentino: What I called you... Why, what did I call you?
    Firefly: I don't remember.
    Trentino: (With a little chuckle) Oh -- you mean... worm?
    Firefly: No, that wasn't it...
    Trenitno: Was it -- swine?
    Firefly: No... it was a seven letter word.
    Trentino: (Thinking, then with a broad smile) Oh yes! -- UPSTART!
    Firefly: That's it...
    Takes gloves from Trentino's breast pocket and socks him across the face, and puts them in his own breast pocket. Trentino becomes apoplectic
    Trentino:Why - er - Mrs. Teasdale - this is an outrage! This man is impossible... My course is clear... this means war!
  • July 23, 2013
    313Bluestreak
    An extreme version of this trope is Heel Face Door Slam if rejecting an apology also involves killing the offender.
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